How Middle-Aged Black Women Can WIN at Interracial Dating Dating at mid-life doesn’t have to completely suck, especially if you are aware of which market you should be shopping and have a grasp of the competition. Being a middle-aged black woman in the int...

Interview: Interracial Marriage as a Baby Boomer Black female baby boomers grew up in a time where race relations in America were tense. Many black women of this generation are very hesitant to date interracially or marry interracially. I intervie...

Do Today's Men REALLY Just Want to Be Women? As a woman in her mid-forties, I have been looking on with increasing horror the societal moves towards blurring gender lines to the point of complete neutrality, or worse; guiding men to lean towards...

Does More IR Marriages In China Mean More AM/BW Matches Stateside? Earlier this month, Al Jeezera reported a rise in interracial marriage between African women and Chinese men. The increase in intermarriage is a byproduct of the Chinese doing more commerce in African...

(Almost) 20 Reasons Some Black Women Should NEVER Date Interracially Are you on the fence about interracial relationships. If you do anything remotely similar, hop back off the fence in the direction you came. Read on...

Black Woman Sued for Mocking White Woman's Interracial Relationship When are we going to realize that other ecosystems do act like everything is a tiff at the backyard barbeque? The New York Daily News recently reported that a black woman making fun of a white woman i...

New 'Bewitched' Reboot Has an Interracial Component and... I HATE It Coming from ‘the girl who swirls,’ and the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Match & Relate, Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed, you would think any media representations of interracial couples...

TLC's Chilli Says Black Women Should Swirl. Why Do We STILL Need Permission? TLC’s Chilli is making the black media headlines because she stepped out of formation to tell black women they need to step out of racial prison and date out. The idea that Chilli made this announce...

What?! Successful, Non-Black Men Don't Like Curly and Kinky Hair?! {Watch the Video} I interviewed several non-black men who are high-achieving and date black women on this issue, and all of them basically said that if they wanted a woman with straight hair...

A Letter of Encouragement to Black Women from Interracially Married Man I received this letter yesterday that so touched me, and I was delighted that he asked me to share this with you. With all the racially-charged rhetoric and fear-mongering, notes like this bring so mu...

The Simple TRUTH: Why You're Not Attracted To More Men {Watch} Do you feel like no guy is quite what you’re looking for? Do you feel no guy you meet is relationship-worthy? This is how to solve it...

Living with Drama {AUDIO} In this episode, AJ and Johnny ask Christopher “Drama” Pfaff about his methods for overcoming social anxiety and how to reset people’s first impressions and how to take advantage of opportunitie...

How Small Standards Transform Your Relationship {VIDEO} Are you happy in a relationship or not? Well, I am not here to get you into one. All I care about is that you are the happiest human being. In this video, I am talking to various women about men. An...

Watch 3 Playful Flirting Secrets Men Can't Resist So, I want to know what flirting means to you. Does it mean seductively glancing over the bar whilst caressing a cocktail glass? Does it mean subtly leaning over so that he smells your perfume? Or d...

Crush Your Fear of Rejection in 3 Minutes {VIDEO} I don’t want you to live in fear. I don’t want you to ever give someone the power to feel less than your worth. Watch this video!

Tips to Keep the Conversation Going {Audio} How do you take a conversation to the next level and create a real connection? In this episode of The Art of Charm podcast, AJ and Johnny explain 8 fundamental steps to develop a relationship beyond j...

The Like Switch {AUDIO} Whether we are trying to strike up a conversation at a networking event, meeting someone at a bar, or just talking to your barista, the art of talking to strangers comes alive every day. Our guest ...

How to Break Out of Your Dating Rut {VIDEO} I want to ask you something, and it’s a little personal. Well, two things actually... #1 Are you single? #2 On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you currently with your dating life? The reason I ask...

How to Finally Stop the Agony of Waiting for His Text {VIDEO} Your phone buzzes. It’s a text from him ;) You can feel your stomach flip over with excitement. Every message he sends is like sweet honey for your brain. “Damn”, you think, “I’m an addict....

Match.com Says 35% of New Marriages Happening Online Online behemoth Match.com recently announced at the annual “Singles in America” study by Match Group the 35% of marriages occur online. This is huge. Just 12 years ago it was 3%. What is more, 60...