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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    Other Brother, I have chrome cookware. I doubt you even know what "The pot calling the kettle black" even means. Like Ron Burgundy kept saying on The Anchorman. "When in Rome..." I am officially done with you. You took part of Petite'e post and reponded to me with it and your grammar was atrocious. None of it had anything to do with me. Stats? I never bring stats to these discussions because stats don't account for circumstances. I explained the whole minority thing to you but you still don't get. If there is more of something, then it is a majority. If there is less of something, then it is a minority. Like Steve Harvey told black women in that one debate (watch the video), black men who ONLY date white women... you wouldn't want THEM anyway. It shows that there is something psychologically wrong (it's what I meant by pathetic individuals). Imagine that, people can have various preferences... and at times are called "shallow" for having them. Merriam-Webster says (and I didn't need IT to tell me this): "Shallow - 3 a : penetrating only the easily or quickly perceived b : lacking in depth of knowledge, thought, or feeling" People are not born with preferences. They are set by learned behaviors and experiences which need to be perceived properly in order to be considered healthy preferences. For instance, a man might not care for big women (imagine that, pfft). Well, you may feel (and pretty much indicated previously) that this is just their preference. But does this man not care for them because magazines and the media do not show them favorably, or because medical science doesn't and the Surgeon General doesn't? As far as the Black American male population goes, a small portion (there are millions of us, you know) is this way about dating white women exclusively. MINORITY! Just because you concocted some wild idea that you work with more black people than I probably know, don't think YOU know everything or anything about us. It just goes to show that you launched an attack at me without knowing where I was coming from. I remember it clearly. I was asking questions. I told you that I wasn't attacking you. You claimed that since I quoted some of your comments (I didn't mention your name), that it was an attack. I can't help the way you feel, but an apology is just that. But you can't seem to let it go and have continued to accuse me of stuff that others have said, or what you feel others are doing here. You're not even reading other people's comments, are you? I posted the definitions of words that have evidently confused you. Wow, you miss a comma and it caused a misinterpretation, and I used a word that you had no clue as to what it meant, and it cause a misunderstanding. But, you call me a child when you're the one who can't seem to let crap that happened last summer go. It's gone on so long that you don't even know WHAT you're responding to WHOM about. This is done. Taking candy from a kid? Grow up. Let this be the last post we have between each other. Unless you plan on answering the questions about how many baby daddies your wife has and how old she was when she lost her virginity (or until you improve your grammar and punctuation), don't post comments to me. The truth is, no one cared about what you were saying in your first post, so to say that a pre-schooler (you spelled it 'prescoller'?) could understand it with a comma missing, is probably why you were the only one who could.

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  2.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    @ PetiteChick, I think Hannes is turned on by women who fight back...as opposed to women who are merely feisty. Some Euro men pay Black women top dollar to beat the living daylights out of them lol Menelik Charles London England

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  3.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    @ ChocPrncess, would you mind if I ask you the following leading questions: 1) what kind of community did you grow up in? was it predominantly Black or white? 2) did you grow up with your father? Was he loving, bullying or passive? 3) do you consider Black women to be as beautiful and/or as feminine as white women? Excuse me for being seemingly over-familiar with you but I’m just trying to work out where you’re coming from. As an educated woman, I’m show you see where I’m coming from. Thanks Menelik Charles London England

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  4.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    ChocPrncess said: @ the lady who thought my comment to Queens was wrong….sorry I disagree. He is an ‘idiot black man’ and I called him one. Show me where I stated all black men were idiots. I did not. And if you made that assumption that is not my responsibility. Some are, most aren’t, he is. He attacked me…I pushed back. So what? ----- Let me suggest "YOU", scroll through all these post and see what your exact wording was. Also, if you read what I actually said, you would see that I said I do understand when women stand up for themselves. I always tell the ladies here to love who they want. I never defended Queens. Why would I? He definitely asks for what he get. I commented on what you said, assumptions were not necessary. And for the record, I could have commented on how foolish I think a black woman makes herself look by making a statement like " no black man has ever touched me, and never will", just like that's something so beneath her. But I didn't

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  5.   Member says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    @ Ich The pot is back yelling at the kettle, your black. Any prescooler who could read would have deducted what I said even with a comma missing, that is what your problem is. Your like a baby compared to me, a mere child trying to put his chest out to explore his man hood. I can not help that I can see rigth through you. You have fooled some people here, nut not I, I am not easily fooled, I learned along time ago not to take candy from a kid, but you just keep coming so I have to keep taking it from you. Your an idiot, and it is pretty pathetic. See people of all races have prefrences, I know women who will not date men under 6 feet, that's right imagine that women who will not date short men, I know men who will only date fat women, imagine that men that will date only fat women, I kinow black men who will ony date white women and no they are not the minority fool. Imagine that black men that only date white women. I know black women that will only date white men, imagine that, white men that only date black women, imagine that. White women that only date black men, imagine that, dark skin black men that will only date ligt skin black women imagine that, dark sin black women that will only date dark skin black men, imagine that, I know men that will only date women of the same race imagine that. women who only date men of the same race, imagine that. I know men who only date women with long hair imagine that. Imagine all those pathetic people you idiot.

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  6.   Member says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    I changed my story I didn't change my story. Hey Ich I really ddidn't change my story. What does that mean, that because you can not admit you changed your story you didn't. I do not believe anything I just stated what you stated in the order you stated, which cjanged your story that you claim you didn't schange. However changing your story and claiming not to changinging your story doesn't mean you didn't change your story. You changed your story and thinking that changing your story and saying that you didn't change your story doesn't mean you really didn't change your story. You can claim you didn't change your changed story but you changed the story and can not even remember changing the story. You changed the story so many times that while changing the story you made false statements again. I did not ask for stats, the stats were already posted even back to 1960, I asked why are the stats the way they are based off of your false claim, you still have yet to answer that question you just went back and posted the same exact stats that were already posted by sal except you left out the 1960 stats which for some reason was the decade with the most white men married to black women in the last 40 years. The question was and I will ask it again why is the divorce rate amoungst WM/BW in the same range as all other marriages of interracial and same race, the only interracialo marriages with excessive divorce rates are between BM/WW. WHY? That was the question. NOT WHAT ARE THE STATS. Let me write it again so you can read the question once again why is the divorce rate amoungst WM/BW on par with all other marriages? Why is the BM/WW dicorce rate excessivly high, higher than all other marriages? Do i need to write it again or do you have it now? I now the stats, the stats were posted by Sal? Do you get it now? Can you understand now I am just wondering because you missed it last time, so I again have asked the same question. The problem is it goes against what many people are trying to say here. The facts hurt sometimes maybe just maybe, you understand now! Hope your mothers day was well also. Good Day

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  7.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    Itch: The very first day that I started reading posts on here, I know exactly what I saw from some of the black men. I am not talking about what I have seen any place else or on tv. Like I said before, both sides are guilty. Now if you say you have not seen it, then I guess you haven't.

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  8.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    Queens said: I believe in being “hands on” with your woman. That is the only thing black women understand ---- Yep keep it up and one of these days ya gonna draw back a nub, or worse yet, wake up with nothing to draw back like John Bobbitt.

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  9.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    I like that one too, Bama....but I can only handle contemporary country in small doses.....LOL Peace and have a good night, sis

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  10.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    My favorite empowered woman song is Before he Cheats by Carrie Underwood. LOL

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  11.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    Thanks for the clarification, Petite......and we have something else in common I see (A STRONG APPRECIATION for those ISLAND MEN>>>>>Benecio and Maxwell...LOL). I second the "best theme song for empowered women" nomination there, friendly......India Arie is a genius just for penning that one. Peace and Blessings tatted2death Oh to add to the "famous BW/WM couples" list.....Singer Robin Thicke and Actress Paula Patton.

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  12.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    Yes both of them fine and Italian. I've noticed over the years, Italian men LOVE black women for some reason.

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  13.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    @ Bamababe2k9 Heather Headly's husband's father played on the football team where you went to college. That is cool. So that is were Heather's husband got those good looks from.

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  14.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    Dear Queenie, I thought you meant something mean by that but knowing you, it might be something nasty. LOL GN

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  15.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    Dear Bama I believe in being "hands on" with your woman. That is the only thing black women understand. Good day.

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  16.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    While you SCREAM at your woman, there's a man wishing he could talk softly to her ear... While you HUMILIATE, OFFEND and INSULT her, there's a man flirting with her and reminding her how wonderful she is. While you HURT your woman, there's a man wishing he could make love to her. While you make your women CRY there's a man stealing smiles from her.. Post this if you're against Domestic Violence

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  17.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    little known thing @Petite and Friendly13 Brian Musso's Johnny dad use to play football back in the day for my school the University of Alabama and he is a hottie too. :)Brian played football for Northwestern.

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  18.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ PetiteChick, Heather's husband's name is Brian Musso. Chris Noth married his beautiful 27 year old baby's mama Tara Wilson. She's so lucky. Yes, Tracy Ross does seem to prefer the brothers for certain. She is really soulful. I can feel you on the black puerto rican attraction, those men are so sexy and fine. They also love them some sistas. I dated a puerto rican guy when I was in the military. He was a babydoll. When they love you they really have your back too.

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  19.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    RE: The hair stuff.....I know about that too. Boy, I don't even want to be seen unless my hair is organized and healthy. I really like braids because my natural hair is real wirey. When the wind blows it it stays there and doesn't fall back down and I look really silly. If I have my hair in weave or braided it let's me love my natural hair so that I don't have to put chemicals in it. But when I wear weave or braids I love to glamorize. It is going to be long. I really like to have fun with it. If someone says is that your hair. I say yes because I bought it.lol. I enjoy wigs too but my son tries to be funny and snatch them off in front of everybody. lol. So what I do is make sure I have some cute simple braided style underneath so I don't have to be too embarassed.lol. But if I wear it without the braids or weave I like to have it relaxed so I can keep it in a wrap style that I don't have to use curling irons and sprays which also can damage the hair too. When my hair gets damaged, it just falls out and then...oh boy..... Hey I love that song my India Arie featuring Akon called I am not my hair "....hey I am not my hair, I am not this skin, I am not your expectation...I am a soul that lives within....does the way I wear my hair make me a better person....". Oh that song is deep.

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  20.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Ms.Petite, I know you did not ask me about hair advice, so I hope that you don’t mind my suggestion. I think that you would look nice with the hairstyle that Wanda Sykes has. I think it’s very becoming, and if you have thick hair(I wish that I had thick hair), you probably could pull this hairstyle off. Of course I have no idea as to how, and what you need to do to get that Wanda Sykes look, but it’s worth looking into. It looks so natural, and stress free! The best hair advice that I ever gotten was to give yourself a hot oil treatment at least twice a month. I use Nature’s Therapy hot oil treatment, good stuff and not too expensive. Be careful and don’t make it too hot, I learned the hard way! love godiva -------------------------------------- Godiva, thanks for the info. But if Wanda's hair has any chemicals in it - I won't do it. I can't really tell though. Sometimes it looks like a curly perm or a natural. I don't know. If it's natural then the thing I need to find out is what she's putting in her hair, LOL. Then of course, the texture....that makes a difference too.

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  21.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ Hannes72, I could never be a model because I could never stay away from mcdonalds.....lol.

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  22.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ HANNES 6:53p.m. I love chain posting...... I'll do it just cause you don't like it.

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  23.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ Hannes @ 6:49 You are becoming part of the very problem you speak of. Yepper. Did you realize that?

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  24.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ 6:46 to Hannes Go beg the forum masters to give you a new forum. See if that works. You can't stop people from talking. This is America, Hannes. We have freedom of speech here. Someone did tell you that if you want to get cozy with someone a forum space is not the place to do it. But rather to have discussions about whatever. So you saying, I don't have a right to be here because I don't want a White man? Hmmmm, let me think about that for a minute. I have a right to go where I please. Here reading your silliness or somewhere else reading some one else's silliness. We began to try to move away from it, (the women) and you're back to join in with the rest of mess that up too.

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  25.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @SchweindlChick You tempted me with slavery, coloialism and all that bullshit. You have tried to instigate black woman who like. You have called me a liar a a black women-hater. And you try to turn everything I say in something different that you can use again me. And than this funny sellout-word, you asked me why I dont go toe to toe with the boys who use that term and than you ask me 10x when you did use it. I dont care if you have used it or not, I did not so why do I have to justify for it when you push me in the topic. You can tell 10 times I shall leave you alone, you wanted it that way, now lets do it. BTW, please stop the chain-postings! 6 postings without another members posting in between, are you serious??? I read tons of postings from you, but none if them covered the title of the thread. --------------------------------------------- YOU DON'T SET ANY LAWS HERE, HANNES. you just don't. People can AND WILL CONTINUE TO SAY WHAT THEY WANT WHEN THEY WANT TO. YOU MIGHT NOT LIKE IT, BUT YOU'LL HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT. IN THE MEANTIME WHAT YOU SHOULD BE DOING IS CONCENTRATING ON WHAT YOU ARE DISCUSSING WITH THE PERSON YOU ARE TRYING TO HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH. THERE ARE PEOPLE HAIR TALKING OF HAIR, RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN STARS AS IT RELATES TO INTER RACIAL DATING, WRITING, AND A WHOLE HOST OF OTHER THINGS HANNES. WHAT DO YOU PLAN ON DOING ABOUT IT?

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  26.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Let's go Hannes.....@6:41p.m. You are punking on woman. Yet there are plenty of men who have called women sellout and you've said NOTHING TO THEM. Wonder why that is? Could it be? Oh no, don't tell me.

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  27.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Hannes72: 6:30p.m. Yes, and you've read tens of posts from others that have nothing to do with the subject thread. I PRESUME you're gonna do them too...... Here we go!

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  28.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Hannes: Let's do it then......

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  29.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Friendly Sorry, I could not see the other pics on the left side where they are used to be normaly. As for the toughts while walking the catwalk: You would not believe what nonesens is in your head while running on the catwalk, sometimes I think about if I go to McDonalds after or if I should eat properly. @Ich It is what it is, black men statements wont be anything good in such a topic. Anybody can watch and participate, but how I said, it is what it is. What could a black man add to that question? They are not involved, but black women are. @SchweindlChick You tempted me with slavery, coloialism and all that bullshit. You have tried to instigate black woman who like. You have called me a liar a a black women-hater. And you try to turn everything I say in something different that you can use again me. And than this funny sellout-word, you asked me why I dont go toe to toe with the boys who use that term and than you ask me 10x when you did use it. I dont care if you have used it or not, I did not so why do I have to justify for it when you push me in the topic. You can tell 10 times I shall leave you alone, you wanted it that way, now lets do it. BTW, please stop the chain-postings! 6 postings without another members posting in between, are you serious??? I read tons of postings from you, but none if them covered the title of the thread.

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  30.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Ms.Petite, I know you did not ask me about hair advice, so I hope that you don't mind my suggestion. I think that you would look nice with the hairstyle that Wanda Sykes has. I think it's very becoming, and if you have thick hair(I wish that I had thick hair), you probably could pull this hairstyle off. Of course I have no idea as to how, and what you need to do to get that Wanda Sykes look, but it's worth looking into. It looks so natural, and stress free! The best hair advice that I ever gotten was to give yourself a hot oil treatment at least twice a month. I use Nature's Therapy hot oil treatment, good stuff and not too expensive. Be careful and don't make it too hot, I learned the hard way! love godiva

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  31.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    (Eating pop corn) Choc said this..... "Comment by ChocPrncess on 11 May 2010: @ Tyrant…I have the hair that was given to me by my BLACK parents. And to imply that we ALL have the same type of hair is patently ridiculous…we do NOT. I do not like truly ‘nappy’ hard hair. So what? Where did I state ALL blacks had that type of hair. Hmmmmm…I DIDN’T! I also do not like dreds, cornrows or twists much….but I do like naturals….what is your point?" Uh, Black American women and some Hispanic women tend to share the common trait of "nappy hair or hard hair". However, you want to classify it. That is what makes you unique as black women and Hispanic women. I am not an expert on hair. But I doubt you can say that you "all" do not have the same hair( you all have common similarities hair wise). For the record, the reason I mentioned Hispanic women. Dominican women have the same "hair traits" black women have. I won't call it an issue. Society made black people feel the "afro" is not attractive. I use to see my female cousins get their "head" brushed and hot combed. They were in pain. Oh yea, the perm is very popular. I remember the "iron picks" my pops had. See, they don't even make those "iron picks with the wood handles". Anyway, back to choc. She insists that is her hair. Now, if is your hair. You can be rich literally overnight giving black women tips. You got a doctorate so you should know this. I can't recall such a nice head of hair on a black woman. That is pretty bad but I just keep it real. By the way, the pubic hair comment was sort of a compliment. LOL I thought about it and was like "damn should have kept joke to myself". I amaze myself sometimes with the shit I say. As for me, when I let my hair grow out a little bit. I got that Bill Bellamy hair. I use to tell my ex, my hair grow faster than yours. Good day.

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  32.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Hey Choco: If you know anything doggone thing about naturals help a sista out. I actually don't know what I want. I've done the braid thing, it took my hair out along the edges (from the pulling). There are some places in another borough in NY that I've been told about that want your mortgage money for consult. Then the upkeep and such. The thing I'm trying to get away from is being tied down to my hair so much. Want do something quick with it and go naturally if possible. If you have any suggestions, let me know. I ain't trying to spend hundreds of dollars for no consult and "do" then have to go every two weeks for maintenance at god knows what cost. I need help!!!!! LOL.

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  33.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ friendly, Traci may be the product of a bi-racial union but the men loving her! She looks just like Diana to me. Yeah, Heather Headley. That one song I like: "He Is." I have that on my playlist in Zune. I love that song. I didn't know she did voice overs though. See that's good cause as soon as you think an artist is off the scene they pop up someplace else. I'm glad cause she's good. She ain't out of work neither, LOL.

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  34.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @friendly, hey girl Yeah, I'm surprised anybody even knows her. I'm glad you've heard of her. I have one of her albums. That sista can blow. Now, I don't recall the hubby's name though. But he Fine girl. Fine, Fine, Fine. Actor Chris Noth from Sex and the City Law and Order CI is got himself a sister too. I just read that somewhere recently too. Ain't he fine? Hmmmmmmm but I want my Black/Rican Maxwell. Girl the way that man sings reminds me of when Teddy P first came out and he had women throwing their panties on stage at him. LOL.

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  35.   boots says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ scholar..regarding your may 8th comment,regarding peace and love etc. GOD also states that one should restore that which was taken or stolen, leviticus:6 1-6 please stop using the bible to support the white man's sin . The fact is white's have murdered, stolen raped,reaped most of the benefits of this land on the backs of blacks and it's not all in the past we still suffer the ramifications to this day,please read www.slaverybyanothername.com.,by Douglas A.Blackmon. Dont ask me to love until you have righted the wrongs , there will always be a divide until you give reparations........... @.....chocprncess........it's quite strange to me that you would apparently want to celebrate your blackness (chocolate skin)by taking the nickname chocprncess yet you say " blk men can do whatever they want to do but just dont try to have a relationship with me" ,that may not be your exact quote.But what mind numbing thought process is that.... since you mentioned your lineage as being from LOUISIANA all the way back to the 1800s ,then surely you have read of the beautiful octoroons of New Orleans, women of color who held themselves exclusively for white men, your comments and mindset reminds me so much of these ladies from the 1800s that I studied about. My advise to all you blk man haters...wear a sign "I HATE BLACK MEN" then we wont approach you at all...then find the white love of your life, flee to the burbs ,leave our community will much haste and if you are of child bearing age ,have many biracial children , then hope for your utopia..however note this ,there is no real love without justice and there can be no real peace without justice

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  36.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ ChocPrncess, would you mind if I ask you the following leading questions: 1) what kind of community did you grow up in? was it predominantly Black or white? 2) did you grow up with your father? Was he loving, bullying or passive? 3) do you consider Black women to be as beautiful and/or as feminine as white women? Excuse me for being seemingly over-familiar with you but I’m just trying to work out where you’re coming from. As an educated woman, I’m show you see where I’m coming from. Thanks Menelik Charles London England

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  37.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Ichibod, Men is Plural, I hear you, and hopefully other's will hear you as well. How many times have you heard me say the exact same thing about Women, and Men as well???? Why do we want and expect to be treated as an individual's but when the opportunity presents itself, the responses to comments are in total contrast to the very thing that we are disgruntled with???? Makes no sense to me! When a person denounces certain behavior's, such as generalizations, and then indulge in the exact behavior that you are so against, should we take them serious, or credible? I don't think so!!!! Have a great Tuesday!! love godiva

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  38.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    ChocP, "Yes…any black woman who does not have a head full of naps is wearing a weave or wig to you idiot black men. Just because your hair is a quarter of an inch long and rivals steel wool does not mean mine is a wig or weave or should be." "But no…you egotistical, imbecilic men..." 'Men' is plural. Just throwing that out there. Quarter of an inch and rivals steel wool? Unless you've seen a photo of Laurelton, I don't see how this comment is validated. What if he has an afro? It was assumed you were generalizing black men seeing as though many black men have a quarter of an inch of hair, mostly less that. You have a responsibility to make yourself clear if you want to be understood. It's the key to communication.

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  39.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    (Touching Choc hair) So, you are clarifying this is your "real hair"? I am just asking the question. It is not wig, you did establish that. I am just wondering if all of that is your real hair? You have a nice day.

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  40.   ChocPrncess says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ Tyrant...I have the hair that was given to me by my BLACK parents. And to imply that we ALL have the same type of hair is patently ridiculous...we do NOT. I do not like truly 'nappy' hard hair. So what? Where did I state ALL blacks had that type of hair. Hmmmmm...I DIDN'T! I also do not like dreds, cornrows or twists much....but I do like naturals....what is your point? And why don't you try sniping at Idiot Queens who insists that because my hair is not what HE thinks it should or must be...then it is a wig! You are 'dumber' than possible if that is what you think. @ the lady who thought my comment to Queens was wrong....sorry I disagree. He is an 'idiot black man' and I called him one. Show me where I stated all black men were idiots. I did not. And if you made that assumption that is not my responsibility. Some are, most aren't, he is. He attacked me...I pushed back. So what?

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  41.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @PetiteChick Thank you. I didn’t know about this one at all until you mentioned her: Heather Headly is still married to the man she married in 2003 Brian Musso, with his fine self. He made a good choice. She is a beautiful sister too. He is smiling from ear to ear in a picture with her @ (http://www.netglimse.com/celebs/pages/heather_headley/index.shtml). Yes, she does has some beautiful music. I listened to some of her tunes and had to add them to my online play list. I am going to have to go out and get one of her CD’s. When I did some research about her, I learned that she was also the voice of Nyla on the Lion King animated movie. I have seen it about 100 times. I also learned that this Trinidad and Tobago native moved with her family to my state and not to far from my town. Her dad was a pastor in Fort Wayne, Indiana. I really like Traci Ross also. Thank you for bringing her mother up the infamous Diana Ross who married her music business manager, Robert Ellis Silberstein. Traci is in so many movies. She was one of the stars of the television show “Girlfriends” she also played in “Daddy’s little girls”.

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  42.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ Ichibod Yes, Roxy Roker was a very successful actress. I remember her from “The Jefferson’s”. Roxy was married to Sy Kravitz. I always thought she was such a beautiful black woman too. The thing I really admire about her is that she has those beautiful African features of dark skin and full lips with a beautiful smile. Yes, even though the couple did eventually divorce they had a son who is now a very successful musician as you mentioned Ichibod, Lenny Kravitz and the famous grandchild Zoe Kravitz from Lenny Kravitz’s marriage to Lisa Bonet. (http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0737967/bio) (http://www.imdb.com/name/nm2099543/bio) Slash from the group Gun's and roses is so fine....I have always enjoyed some of guns and roses music, especially the guitar. Hey, Ichibod I pulled a quote from one of his online biographies… “SLASH was born in Hampstead (London), England on July 23, 1965, and he was raised in Stoke-On-Trent, Staffordshire, England. His given name is Saul Hudson. His mother was a Black American, and his father is a white Englishman. Both artistic parents worked in the entertainment field. His mother was a clothing designer for entertainers. She designed some of David Bowie's unforgettable costumes. His father provides art direction for record albums. Two notable clients are Neil Young and Joni Mitchell. On Friday, June 5, 2009, SLASH's mother Ola Hudson died of lung cancer in Los Angeles.” (http://www.snakepit.org/bio.html)

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  43.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ Ich I did forget about Roxy Roker..... she used to stay in George's butt! LOL Hey Bamba, Friendly, MzBrown, catch up with y'all later.

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  44.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Ich: Leave him be. He doesn't get it. He said he wanted to know something about the percentages of BW/WM something (can't remember) and when I provided the statistics he got mad. I on't know what him want! I just want him to leave me alone. He said my story changed. Teeeheeeheee. It stayed the SAME. IT IS THE SAME. I did not add anything to it, nor did I subtract anything from it If he is so sure about this, all he needs to do is pull it up and show me. Like I've said before If I'm wrong, I'll eat humble pie...I'd even kiss his boots.

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  45.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Other @ 6:40 Retraction: I believe a lot of them don't have Black women's best interest at heart. It's novel to them that so many Black women are now all of a sudden deciding to date outside of their race. Easy targets. For a long time Black women stood by Black men. A long time. This is truth many Black women speak of here. So, now they say: Well da hell with this, why shouldn't we? Good. But now you running into the White men (many who don't know how to approach a Black woman or yet alone any woman the proper way). I stand by my statement[s]. My message to the sisters was WATCH THEM, don't let them take advantage of you because we are just beginning to explore. I said it then and I'm saying it again for anyone reading here that needs to know this. Now for those who don't need to know and have had interactions with White men on an ongoing and steady basis - THIS DOESN'T HAVE TO APPLY TO THEM. Because they know the deal. Again, have a good day Other Brother! Hope the wife's mother's day was good.

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  46.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Look OtherBrother @ 6:31a.m. You say I changed my story, so then I changed my story. That's ok with me if you want to think that. So, it's ok with you, run with it. I'm good! So umm, yeah I did date White men and didn't find them to my liking. Came here and here they were in droves (many more than Black men) I admit but didn't like their interaction with me. Taking that back to the time I dated the two I did, to here and now and I believe a lot of them don't like Black women. So... I know that not all Black men are dogs and trifling, which is a sad depiction of a few. I know there are Good Black men out there. I know that there are some decent White men out there. But here's the part everybody keeps missing: Black women are making a mad dash (to some degree to decided to date outside their race). This is ripe for those who would take advantage. Yep. It's the truth. And I'm not blaming that part on skin color. It's just what people do when they find weakness in another. So, like I said a story is story is a story. You read your version but I have mine in my head cause it was my reality. Have a good day OtherBrother!

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  47.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Petite, Other Brother is on the defensive. Yet he somehow doesn't understand how black men should react when we read negative comments about us. Like he is now perhaps?

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  48.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Okay, this Other Brother guy is really a joke. He first got made because I merely posed questions about why he supposes poeple thought his wife was on welfare when they see her with 5 kids, why he figures that the people who say bad things to his wife while he's not around don't say anything to her when he is around, and the other thig had to do with his opinion and attitude about white women. I used the word antithesis (the antithesis of black is white). And word that he didn't know what it meant, so he took offense to it and called it atheist. Antithesis means "exact opposite". He neglected to put a comma in a sentence, which anyone who has left elementary school knows that such nuances can change the meaning of a sentence.He explained himself (rather rudely) and I apologized for not giveing him the benfit of the doubt or whatever. I never came to this site to say anything about white men. I don't know what he's talking about. He says that someone is lying but can't say what a person is lying about. ""Black men who only date white women exclusevly are not a minority in any sense. Black men who bla,e black women as to why they date only white women are also not a minority you ignorant fool." Ignorant fool? Do you even know what minority means? I know how old you are which is why I called you a child. I'm am way older than you. You actually thought I was telling you to go away? Aw, man. Do you know what a strawman is? First of all thinking that telling me I don't anything about white man/black woman relationships is a strawman seeing as though no black man has had anything to say regarding them here. I told you before. A lot of the things you're saying to me sound like you've got me confused with someone else. I've never tried to throw facts arounds for anyone to say I'm a liar. I've never expressed bitterness. What am I to be bitter about? What is all this racist stuff? You have no evidence. I like to debate, simple as that.

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  49.   Member says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Petite No one is debating on weather or not some white men are ignorant or stupid, you came off as though all white are like that. Yes many white men have issues, most of them however are exposed and figured out by the very same black women you are trying to warn. Black women are not stupid, Most know when a white man is not sincere or just wants sex. The fact of the matter is most men of most all races just want sex, if the truth be told. That is nothing new. The real question is who died and made you the spokesman for educating all black women about all white men? White men are the only men that have approached you wrong, I got it! I do not believe it but I got it. fortunatelly most white men will not be judged on your expierence with white men. Other than that i really do not know what else to say, you have changed your storey several times to try to make a point about white men, you are so adamant about having to have your position heard about how white men are the only race of men to mistreat you. I guess my question is what is your point. It is pretty obvious that most other black women on this site have had both positive and negative dealings with white men along with other race of men, they however find themselves attarcted to white men and they are sellouts? I even made the kindest gester i could and informed you that queens was available, and you jumped all over me about it, What do you really want, I mean Queens is an educated Black man who seems to believe in a committed relationship, he says he has two good jobs, makes great money, and he like you doesn't want to date out of his race. I was trying to help and you get angry, What is wrong with queens, I mean he is not white, or at least he says he is not. He seems to be a very eligible black man looking for a black women, he must be good looking to because he os able to take black women from white men. So I am just asking what more can you ask for in a black man. Educated, Good looking, well spoken, hard working, makes good money and yes he is not White. Good Day!

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  50.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Friendly, Don't forget Roxy Roker (Lenny Kravitz)married her lawyer, and Slash's (Guns 'n' Roses/Velvet Revolver) mother was black and his dad was white.

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