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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    QQ MzBrown You left out "her wig ain't right". Just helping you out Mz Brown.

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  2.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @ ChocPrincess There are only 3 or 4 black men that post the harsh remarks on this and other blogs concerning black women and white men. I do understand and don't blame the women who stand up and speak out for their right to be with who they want. But, all black men should not be placed in the same group because of the actions and remarks of 3 or 4. The term "you idiot black men" is just not fair or right.

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  3.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    (Touching your hair) Is this your real hair?

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  4.   ChocPrncess says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Yes...any black woman who does not have a head full of naps is wearing a weave or wig to you idiot black men. Just because your hair is a quarter of an inch long and rivals steel wool does not mean mine is a wig or weave or should be. Why are you obsessed with my hair? Are you a gay hair stylist or something? Are you jealous RuPaul? I call you impotent and flaccid because you are a limp wristed fool pretending to be a man.

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  5.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    LOL Mz Brown I read the comment Choc. I don't know why you reacted that way over a comment. Again, what is with the penis comments. You like words like flaccid and impotent. The only thing I worry about is your weave or wig. Perhaps a flaccid and impotent white man will be with you. Halle Berry's ex man is available.

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  6.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    (Q_Q) back at Queens: You need to stop lol!!

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  7.   ChocPrncess says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    LOL Still...the boy cannot read. One white man made the comment. Did they ever teach you to read or count where you are from? One...is not all...or even some! Yes...do keep making your IMPOTENT comments and LIMP insults. Are you bald as well as being FLACCID? Why soooooo obsessed with me? LOL And so what if I chose to answer a question regarding MY heritage? It is MINE. Please do stop worrying about what I do or why I do it. It is not your concern.

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  8.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Here you go. You are like a mosquito that I can't swat away. I am glad you are trying to punish a white man with your presence. I wrote my qualifications on the other thread. Do not make me pull that god awful wig off. What is your obsession with the "penis". Flaccid??? Listen, you told old to be this desperate. You are angry, lashing out, and blaming all white men. A white man shows you a "little bit of interest". You damn near "told him your life story and heritage". Jesus Christ you need to read my blog. It is a self help guide for black women like you. Good night.

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  9.   ChocPrncess says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Come on Laurelton...do tell us where you got YOUR 'criminal' degree! ROFL Give the world wide web all of YOUR info so you can be harassed. Let's have the name of your University (more likely Junior College), your full name, year of graduation, GPA etc etc. Typical flaccid black man...berating others for not doing what he does not do himself! LOL CLASSIC!

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  10.   ChocPrncess says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @Thom We have traced both sides of my family back to Louisiana as far back as the early 1800's. Some did migrate to other parts of the South in much much later years. So...I am Black with some of everything thrown in! And thank you for the compliment...

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  11.   ChocPrncess says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @Laurelton Yes...I put his name out there...because HE EMAILED ME UNSOLICITED. He lashed out first moron. Can you read? do you comprehend that? Or are you truly as stupid as you make yourself appear to be? I did not contact him in any way...therefore he should be 'put out there'....for contacting me in a rude fashion. You do something rude expect to be called on it. If he is not my type...or he is angry because he does not fit my requirements....THEN WALK ON BY. I do not feel the need to reach out an harass anyone whose requirements I do not fit. What is wrong with you insecure people? It is that simple. But no...you egotistical, imbecilic men think that if a woman does not want YOU or YOUR TYPE then you feel the need to attack. Pathetic.

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  12.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    (QQ at Brownsugar) Tom you are a good dude. They are snooty. They either rambling on about their doctorate degree from an unknown university or an online program.. Then, they lash out if they don't get their way. I am starting to see the aggressive desperation of sellout black women. The poor white men can barely have a conversation with them. They ready to get married and raise a family. They don't care about your goals or aspirations. I always ask white men this question. When was the last time your black wife or black girlfriend asked you about your goals and aspirations? Yet, she can go on about "what she needs and wants". Now, the sellout black women are getting bold. Just putting "names" out there and etc. Just because they were not a white man's type. Their ego and narcissism is really disgusting. A white guy is not "feeling you". They literally cannot control themselves. They lash out like they was married to the man for 10 years! I plan to address this on WHEN TOMORROW COMES FOR SELLOUT BLACK WOMEN. Good day.

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  13.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Comment by Tom4Blaq on 4 May 2010: I find many African American women to be a bit snooty. They behave similiarly to White women ----------- Not a good first line if you are truly searching for a mate.. black or white. LOl!!

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  14.   Tom4Blaq says:
    Posted: 05 May 10

    Ms. ChocPrncess you are beautiful. What is your lineage? Also you must remember speak of these things when they don't know any better. I agree with you having loyalty to yourself. Love who you want. I do love beautiful women and you remind me of someone I dated years ago in Brazil. Beautiful.

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  15.   ChocPrncess says:
    Posted: 05 May 10

    Amazing. Some of the vitriol here is simply amazing! To the 'men' (and I use the term loosely) who wish to call black women sellouts because they date white men...GET OVER IT. Black men date whom they please....and we should not? I do not owe black men anything. The only loyalty I owe is to myself. I have always been attracted to white men...that is my preference...in fact I have never dated a black boy/man EVER. Not as a teenager...not as an adult...never. It was simply not my preference. Just because I am a brown-skinned woman does not obligate me to brown/black men. It does not give them rights to me. If men are free to date only 'tall women' or 'redbones' or 'phat-booty chicks' or 'no fatties' or whatever their preference...then I am perfectly entitled to mine.

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  16.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 05 May 10

    @ Laurelton 9:34a.m. Laurelton said: They still do it. It can be very subtle at times. See, I am this way about it. White men on the board can damn near disrespect a sellout black woman on the board. They won’t say shit. Everybody knows this already. -------------------------------------- Not one Black woman came to my defense! And I called not one of them a sell out! Oh well...... Back in a week, unless someone responds to my posts. If not, then have a nice mother's day to all the women - and the men too (y'all know who I'm talking about) Bye y'all!!!!

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  17.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 05 May 10

    @ 9:05a.m. I have another series of questions for Hannes: Why have you not gone toe to toe with the Black men on here who call Black women sellouts? Why have you chosen "this" one particular outspoken, loud and opinionated ghetto woman to "phuck with?" *I said that cause I knew you wouldn't like it* See the thing is, while I'm not calling Black women sellouts, I am asking them to look at you and others with a keen eye. Here we have Marlarki, Laurelton, Boots and others who have the similar sentiment I hold (except I don't call Black women sell outs). So in all your wonderful Austrian man-ness (or not), go step to them and belittle them. Go ahead. You would much rather fight with me (a woman) for calling you a liar. if you lie..then you lie! That's all. I'm just say'n. Then the derogatory clip you inserted is offensive. Blackdildo. See, I'm the Black woman who's got YOUR number. There are other Black women here who admire White men, but this is how you show them you like them? THIS IS THE VERY SAME CASE I MADE ABOUT YOU THE FIRST TIME...... Condescending so to speak. I did tell people about you. No body wants to listen. Instead, I got chastized, cussed and belittled for putting you on front street. See I'm a threat to you. Know why? You're the kind of man that does lie to women and you are concerned that my dissension would mess up your game. Well tighten it up. Keep your lies on the DL and no one will be the wiser.

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  18.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 05 May 10

    @Tom4Blaq @ 8:09a.m. Care to tell us what "snooty" is? I don't expect anything from you. I don't have an interest in Caucasian men, so that nonsene about White men not owing us anything is moot for me. Believe it or not, there are many other Black women who feel the same way I do for whatever their reasons. You may not find many here, but they exist. So who cares what you think about Black women? Really? Sounds like to me you have a problem with women period. Your own kind as well as Black women. Do you possess a God-like delusion? Peace

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  19.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 05 May 10

    Now as for the rest of my reading from the day I parted to present @ 7:42a.m. on Cinco De Mayo: **************************************************** Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 28 April 2010: Dear Ich I thought that was odd too. Clearly, a hurt black woman. DEEPLY, hurt by men. I don’t think she is a healthy choice for any relationship with ANY man. WOW ------- PetiteChick asks on 5/5/2010 @ 7:40a.m.? Have you never been hurt before in a relationship? If you say that you haven't I might think you are not telling the truth. Never thought "she was the one" that got away and your heart sank? Rejection is part of life - the human condition. It is to be expected. Let me say this much however, I have been hurt by two men in my life deeply. My husband of 20 years and a gentleman I got involved with after him. Both Black. The "deep" hurt you refer to occurred more than 10 years ago. I no longer carry that baggage. Wounds heal, mine have. PetiteChick's statement to OTHERBROTHER @ 7:35a.m: If you want the answers to your questions, whether they be statistics or not and they are not provided to your liking why not share what you know! Enlighten us. I'd certainly like to see it! You need put up or shut up. As you were.... ----------------- Mr. Laurelton again @ 7:36a.m. Petite was the only one that said “hey they using me like toilet paper and I got a problem with that" ----------------- PetiteChick asks Mr.Laurelton to pull up a post where she said a White man used her. See, because PetiteChick never said such a thing. Petite's concerns lay with White men's approach to her and her feeling of their continued perceived superiority over Black - period. Nowhere on this forum disussion did PetiteChick say a White man hurt her. Black men, yeah...but not a White man! They never got that chance. as you were...... --------------------------------------- MALARKI5 @ 7:42a.m. Thank you for the comment. I am sick and tired of Black women being the butt of jokes, being looked down on and used by any race. In my case, if I am to be rejected it will be from my own kind or someone who is a minority. That's my opinion and I'm sticking to it. Nothing anyone on this forum says to me, about me or behind my back will change that. NOTHING. If Black women tell me they don't want my "concern" and don't need it, that's fine. I'll keep it moving, just like I did before. But know that I am somewhere else, saying something, doing something to stem the tide of the outlook of Black women as a whole. We need to stop back-biting each other over men. Whether they be Black or White. IT IS THE PRIMARY REASON THEY TREAT US THE WAY THEY DO!!!! *THINK* I will not stand by and be attacked for my OPINION, as I have a right to it. When and if I am attacked I will do likewise. Why shouldn't I? What gives anyone here the unmitigated gall to think otherwise? When you attack me do so for something worthy of an attack. Not because of my opinion - which remains! Peace

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  20.   malarki5 says:
    Posted: 05 May 10

    Tom4Blaq said: 1) White men don’t owe you anything. 2) I have good intentions. But you would never know that unless you gave me a chance. Menelik replies: and you will NEVER know whether or not white men owe Black people anything unless you give it a thought! Menelik Charles London England

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  21.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 05 May 10

    Dear Hannes: Comment by Hannes72 on 4 May 2010: @petitechick (I am still wonder what the petite is refering to) You wrote: Slacking ass biyatch so called teacher The phuck outta here Who the phuck you teach? I feel sorry for them It is not enought that you speak in that ghetto-slang, you also write that way??? Your are just upset because every white man on the board would be happy to kiss Friendyl13´s rose but none of the them would even give you the hand. I would consider that if I would be you: http://photos.tradeholding.com/attach/hash25/97561/black_dildo.jpg ------------------------------------ IT'S NOT NECESSARY FOR YOU TO UNDERSTAND WHAT I WROTE. IT WOULD TAKE ME A MONTH OR MORE FOR YOU TO GET IT. STICK TO WHAT YOU KNOW, AND THIS GHETTO-FIED CHICK WILL STICK TO WHAT SHE KNOWS. DEAL? As you were.........

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  22.   Tom4Blaq says:
    Posted: 05 May 10

    I find many African American women to be a bit snooty. They behave similiarly to White women. I am new here and because of my inability to post a picture of myself because of the nature of my work, I flirt with women and get no responses. Testing the waters at this site, but for the short time that I've been here, I don't know what Black women want. Many are gorgeous, however I find other races of women just as beautiful. White men don't owe you anything. We are here for many reasons. Some good and some not so good. As for myself, I have good intentions. But you would never know that unless you gave me a chance.

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  23.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 04 May 10

    @Queenie actually it's the slots LOL thank you and granny gums said to holla at her. She said just because it's snow on the roof doesn't mean there isn't fire in that furance. LMAO Back to the treaches...

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  24.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 04 May 10

    LOL That is true I like older women. But I will be damned if I will stalk them. You seem to miss the point. I hope you will have a good time today playing Bingo.

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  25.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 04 May 10

    @Queenie well according to you, you like old women so that wasn't me you were looking checking out. It was granny gums who said she saw a black man staring at her. LOL

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  26.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 04 May 10

    Dear Bama No offense, if I was a stalker. I wouldn't stalk an "Old woman". I have a reputation to keep. Let me respond to Hannes He said this....... "Your are just upset because every white man on the board would be happy to kiss Friendyl13´s rose but none of the them would even give you the hand." Now don't speak for every white man. WHOA, hold your horses. I don't know many white men that want to be a step daddy to four kids. I know you like Friendly and all. Man, use your brain. You don't want to end up like Other brother taking care of step children and his wife's friends kids. Everybody coming over the house when "they damn please". They hounding him for money that he works his ass off for. Family getting air maxes, designer jeans, and etc. Poor Other brother got on "20 dollar Hush puppies" and some old Khakis his wife bought two years ago. (Pointing to the camera) We won't talk numbers. The tax man taking close to a third of your money. You know your wife taking a "percentage of your money". Then, the kids getting a percentage of your money. Let's count the cars, household expenses, groceries. But you making more money than me. Supposedly, your skinny black wife is. I would be bitter too and call people racist and liars. LOL (Smiling). Me, no kids, no wife, 2 jobs, 2 cars. I am still cashing out! Plus, I ain't even do the book yet. Listen, talk to you later my buddy! These poor white men get all emotional after having sex with black women and they "get blind" to what is going around them. I plan to write the guide to understanding black women and the ones to keep as a "booty call". 1. If your black woman got her cousins, sister, auntie and momma come over the house all the time. You need to put your foot down or kick her to the curb. 2. If your black woman text her male friends more than 3 times a day, Get rid of her ass. 3. If your black woman gets an attitude when you suggest something and then gets arrogant. Kick her to the curb and change your phone number. Misery loves company and she will be calling you. 4. If your black woman is on farmville on Facebook and is absolutely addicted to Facebook in general. You either take the laptop from her or get physical with her. Either way, it gets her attention and most of the time she hates wrestling because she slight obese or lazy. In general, black women hate getting roughed up (In most cases). I plan to write more about it. This is self help guide for white men. I figure white man have experienced 1 of these issues dating black women. Good day.

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  27.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 04 May 10

    @Queenie I didn't realize you knew where I stayed and know whom I was dating? Damn do you like work for the FBI on the side while you are writing those thousands of books you have? You are busy man to know what's going on and me and Tatt's life (hey tatt). Next time you are spying on me, let me know. The only thing I ask of men who try to stalk me is to be cute; I have a reputation to keep :) lol @Brown totally agre with your last statement.

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  28.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 04 May 10

    (Stepping in the door after a long weekend) Oh boy Tatt, lashing out at again. You still claim you are the "victim" right. You never cease to amaze me. As for the comment of sellout black women on this board bashing black men. They still do it. It can be very subtle at times. See, I am this way about it. White men on the board can damn near disrespect a sellout black woman on the board. They won't say shit. Everybody knows this already. Petite was the only one that said "hey they using me like toilet paper and I got a problem with that". I observe what is said on the board. One of the "friendly" women here said " Oh white men are to busy behind the scenes to focus on this part of the board". It was something related to that. First off, if they are 'allegedly" to busy to comment on this board. They must be writing "MANY" black women on this board. That is how "dating sites are". You think the white man is "waiting around" for replies from one nappy headed black girl with four kids that talk about her body everyday. But you see the fantasy world sellout black women create for themselves is literally "reality" for them. They are painfully delusional women. This is not even a generalization. But they will never tell you that the "white men they meet them offline, spank it and never call them back". (In Tatt and Bama case happened several times) That is very unfortunate for the record. The real women know what's up. I often tell people sellout black women are cowardly. They get all "tough" with black men. But the white guy can "give them false hope" of a relationship and they don't say nothing. They just sit there and "take it". My last comment on this. You can't hide desperation from men. We can 'feel it and see it". Your body language and how you speak on the phone. I checked my inbox (I am the fat white guy with my shirt off lol). I can't tell you how pathetic these sellout black women were. One stupid nappy headed black girl said she would meet me at my house. I said it is a two hour drive. She said "no problem". Then, I just went overboard and said bring lingerie, a thong, summer's eve, and a bottle of Hennessey. I said "okay" she gonna think that is crazy. She was like" oh you a white boy that got swag". STUPID BITCH! I quit, sellout black women are a lost cause.

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  29.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 04 May 10

    @petitechick (I am still wonder what the petite is refering to) You wrote: Slacking ass biyatch so called teacher The phuck outta here Who the phuck you teach? I feel sorry for them It is not enought that you speak in that ghetto-slang, you also write that way??? Your are just upset because every white man on the board would be happy to kiss Friendyl13´s rose but none of the them would even give you the hand. I would consider that if I would be you: http://photos.tradeholding.com/attach/hash25/97561/black_dildo.jpg

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  30.   Member says:
    Posted: 04 May 10

    I think color have nothing to do with love nor attraction for instant i have never been with a white man , however i never see color i see individuals... being black white yellow what ever there is something about that individual that you will love respect and cherish ,,, point blank am from the Caribbean and i believe a lot of people foreign people make a big deal out of things too much ... personality in a individual is what counts ..

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  31.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 04 May 10

    I second that "emotion", MzBrown....LOL....If "god" has forsaken this site, why the hail is he here???...oh yeah, I guess he is our "hell-mate"....pfft...LOL As for Daffy, you know you need to put that "white walking stick" away.....YOU WILL NEVER "SEE ME"....LOL. Especially since you can't seem to get over my "vindictiveness" (when YOU do it, it's called "ASSERTIVENESS" or "FIRE" and your ARROGANCE magically becomes "confidence"......LMAO....what a stereotypical J-O-K-E). I can AND WILL speak on your NEGATIVITY because that is just about all you bring here (90% of the dayum time).....You can at least be counted on for that much. Everyone has "bad days" and can be rubbed the wrong way, but you are constantly on the dayum rag about something that the majority of the(regulars)women here have NEVER engaged in (this "mysterious" BASHING of the Black Man). Then you turn around and preach that this has something to do with "white men USING black women and picking them last". Which one is it REEEAAAAALLY that gets you so worked up???? Speak YOUR "TRUTH"!!! (this should be interesting since both premises are basically trumped up rhetoric). More than likely you will come back with all sorts of nonsense (once again) because the only clear cut case of bashing that goes on here is against YOU....because you are who YOU ARE and do what YOU DO....(not just simply because you are BLACK....do you really need someone to point that out to you???.....I know you are smarter than that...I think....LOL). Of course you never bite your tongue......"diarrhea of the mouth" prevents that action every time.....lol. And and "apologize" to whom and for what???? WE ALL are adults here and any and everyone can defend themselves well enough. Any "offense" taken by anything I have ever posted here was most definitely "answered" with equal "fervor" (or better yet....just ignored....either way it was "handled"...lol). I try and offer olive branches that basically get "smacked" out of my hand and I AM THE ONE THAT NEEDS TO APOLOGIZE?!?!!....of course....I figure it is "all fair" after that and just kick in with my special brand of humor and roll with it. Any "vindictiveness" you see is most likely through those great "shit-tinted" glasses you wear most of the time....so it matters not to me. "SEE" what happens when you "SEE" me......I think you need to put those "blinders" back on (or I need to get out the "invisiblity cloak"....pfft) and focus on your "agenda" here (leave my name out of it, dayummit..lol).....Good luck. Peace and Blessings tatted2death P.S Thanks for the "2 cents", Sarah. These days every little bit helps.....lol....The (self) "love recession" continues in here. I just contributed about 75 cent worth of "tough love" but I doubt it'll do any good...LOL.

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  32.   Scoff/Sarah says:
    Posted: 03 May 10

    Oh my some of these post, sell-out, baggage, Friendly, Yes it is a learning process, and after all of these years, we as Americans, black/white/asian or any other culture have to keep an open mind. As the first time I met Scoff's mother,(a 86 year old Greek lady) in a household where Greek is the only lanuage used. Culture shock no; but very interesting, and bless my Scoff for taking the time to make sure I understood every word. A little pun this little colored girl from Alabama has come a long way from the cotton fields, as My Scoff refers to me a lady of class, and internal beauty not to be found any where. I know he means it. Just stepping from the bleachers to add my 2 cents worth. More so to say Hello and Hugs to all my friends, Love yu'all & many blessings Sarah

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  33.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 03 May 10

    (Listening to Friendly) Now, she is using the sympathy card to "draw" white men. Why should a man "realize" your baggage? Men are not obligated to take on your "problems". That is why black women are failing at a rapid rate. They are too "needy", "angry" or just plain "nutty". I plan to address this on my new album. WHEN TOMORROW COMES FOR SELLOUT BLACK WOMEN. When has relationships turn into a "social service". We don't get into relationships to "help you" or because you "lack basic needs" in your life. See, I will give some white men credit. They will 'run away" as soon as they see the "problems" on the horizon. It is unfortunate white men don't tell the "real story" on black women. They rather bite their tongue. NOT ME! Oh yea, Tatt I see you!

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  34.   Smiley says:
    Posted: 03 May 10

    I am glad that black women are finally opening their hearts and minds to interracial dating!

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  35.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 03 May 10

    Malarki5 said: @ Sista PetiteChick, perhaps the only true sister I’ve encountered on this god forsaken site! ---------- Not being considered "YOUR" sister is for me a compliment. So thanks

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  36.   e-dub says:
    Posted: 03 May 10

    Dear Friendly; It depends, speaking for myself, I didn't think alot a lot about black people in the specific or the abstract. I was more interested in general ideas of fairness and justice then any specific application in terms of race. Then, I started to date a black woman and then marry, it was on the job-training so to speak. The only advantage to this method is that I didn't bring in a lot of preconeived notions. Until, you've experienced prejudice -- odds are you just won't get it. To use an example: I know the black women had kinky hair but util the first time I helped straighten my wife's hair--I didn't really understand the process.

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  37.   dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 03 May 10

    To friendly13 People stare for all sorts of reasons. A man will stare sometimes at an attractive woman and while it is not polite and and we shouldn't we are hard wired that way. The kind of staring that you are alluding to by bigots is because they are ignorant and have been brought up that way. Sometimes it is best just to ignore these types of people but it is understandable for you to be upset but acting and confronting a bigot is not going to change their opinion or how they look at interracial relationships. They are controlled by their upbringing and they are apparently not strong enough to form their own opinions but are tied to the opinions of those who raised them. I wish you well!

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  38.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 03 May 10

    White men.....a question for those of you who "love the black women"...why is it that you love but then you don't realize that with us comes a whole set of baggage and struggles with being black. I am like this, don't tell me not to get upset when people stare and mistreat us when we go out together. I am a black woman and I may address issues when necessary. I hope that there is a white brother who can answer this well. You need to be able to care about what we go thru sometimes.

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  39.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 01 May 10

    @ Sista PetiteChick, perhaps the only true sister I've encountered on this god forsaken site! Take care. Keep cool. Menelik Charles London England

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  40.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 01 May 10

    QQ at Tatt OH boy. When is the "truth" negative? The only spirits women of color "battle" is their own vanity and arrogance. Then, they reach middle age and blame men for their bad decisions in life. Not to say "you do that". But that is the common theme of sellout black women. I have grown rather fond of you Tatt. But we all know you got a vindictive nature. You should be the last to talk about "negativity". I have seen your "public battles" on here. Never heard you apologize or anything. Good day.

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  41.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 01 May 10

    "And the "BEAK" goes on....."....LMAO Daffy I see you still have not reconciled the fact that your "makin shyt up" campaign (when it comes to me, anyhow) is futile. You state my name in your post to try and remain relevant here. Nothing you are saying now is new or "revolutionary". Women of color have been warriors in the battle for their spirits for a long time now. You pretend to have someone's best interest at heart and then act like it is ok to be "mean" about it. What a joke, man. Calling me something we both know I am not is just part of your warped sense of reality.....I am cool with that. But like I said, the use of my name when it come to issues that have NOTHING to do with me is just plain OLD. You are very much welcomed to continue on the negative path (because it suits you soooo well). But I have full knowledge of why you choose that path and like I have said before (since you are fond of "old" things and people....LOL), those not willing to grow will perish, one way or another. You, my "son"(lol) will wither and "die" quicker than any of these "old" ladies you try and insult. Your spirit already reeks of tired rhetoric, so it is inevitable. Your only hope here is to gather sad, bitter "minions" that follow you like the buzzards that they obviously enjoy being. Those that blindly follow and/or have no true joy in their life make the best candidates. Have fun and good luck with all that. But WE BOTH know better than what you pretend to know about me, dude....so JOG ON. Peace and Blessings tatted2death.

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  42.   Member says:
    Posted: 01 May 10

    P.S. Having taken Statistics for Engineers in college, I'll tell you that stats mean nothing, because they can be easily misconstrued to show whatever you want. Hence, they don't mean shi to me.

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  43.   Member says:
    Posted: 01 May 10

    I need a bad model with designer toes…Tatoos & Gold. I haven't posted on here in a minute because I have a life outside of the net. I love black women, cuz they're so beautiful. I saw this one sister that was so fine; all dark and shiny! Umm ya, how she look so damn fine. When I was 4 years old, my 1at bestfriend was black & his sisters would sing so beautiful. My mom taught me that color did not matter. I have 1/2 Japanese cousins. My mom would take me to my aunt Vickies, an Apache women, while she travelled in Mexico. Fast forward 20 years…my bestfriends are all Mexican & Natives. I really feel more comfortable around them then other whites. I recall like yesterday…when I was on the streets of Calii at 18 these punk ass white fools wouldn't even give me a drink…who came to my rescue? A brotha who walked right up to that same fool & sure enough he gave him the water when he asked for it & he gave it to me right in front of his bitch ass. He said he saw me as a person without color, not as white. I have dated my share of white girls, but they were all the same! It seemed like they can't think for themselves, or they got princess syndrome. I have dated black women exclusively for the past 7 years. I've come a long way since I was 18 & homeless in 1998. I met this girl that summer who changed my life. She told me I was the smartest individual she had ever met. She asked me where I graduated from? I told her I was a highschool dropout. She called me a loser. When I got back to AZ, I reapplied myself & got my GED, because what she said cut me to the core. I'm greatful! Next week I'm graduating with a degree in engineering. It took me longer cuz I came up from the bottom, & not a soul can take that from me. ~J•D~ I came from a small town, there wasn't many black people around in the White Mountains, but I was friends with the few people of color around. I still remember Natasha, this fine ass female in highschool.

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  44.   Member says:
    Posted: 01 May 10

    I asked for no no stats, i alraedy knew the stats, sal posted the stats, i have asked a few questions about lies about white men posted on this site, and no one can factually back those lies up and some people get frustrated because they all of a sudden look stupid. I asked questions about the stats that know one has answered based off statement made. I question some peoples intention on this site. Some are racist and some are simply ignorant.

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  45.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 10

    Tatted2death: I hear you. Basically, I am not going to be defensive regarding matters that are now under the rug. You are a peacemaker and I will allow that spirit to abide.

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  46.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 10

    Hey, all you georgeous white men out there...love you too. Only interested in the ones who love black women. I am not trying to convert anyone. Must be tall too. At least taller than me. I really love blue eyes too. Being a sellout is so rewarding. As far as weight is concerned....well, I have loved a fat blackman I guess it is possible for me to fall in love with a white man with a few extra pounds too. To be honest though I would prefer a hunk. But a strong manly personality plus a very deep sexy voice could override the other. Rarely but possible. Lol.....

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  47.   Bamabelle2k9 says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 10

    I've thought about a blog and I was trying do one on a myspace page but I got bored with it. lol Plus I'm writer, so I write stuff probably all the time but this is a good place to express yourself. I've been into white men all my life so this is nothing new, that's why I think some sistas do need to step back and asked themselves why they want to date outside their race because if it's because "white men treat me better" logic, they will be disappointed. I've been in love before and honestly it was just a regular relationship. I meet his parents, he met mine but because of our different lifestyles, we broke up. White men are just regular guys, some good and some bad. And quite a few of them are into black women for the wrong reasons that's why I told Friendly to be careful. That's why I say listen, because a man of any race who truly is into sistas appreciate and love ALL of us and for them it goes beyond the sexual.

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  48.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 10

    (Rubbing my chin) Bama you should do a blog. The interracial is a compelling subject. I have been writing about it off and on for years now (in my spare time). Yea, people do take some things "seriously". It is an emotional subject for both sides. But if you got both parties in a room like they did with that "panel". People can have a civilized conversation. The internet just lets you say things that is on your mind. Obviously, in the "real world". I am pretty sure black women get a "vibe" that everybody is watching her with that white man. It can be a difficult thing to be ostracized from their community. I think most people would like to have the support " of their community". If they claim they don't care, I would say they are "somewhat" lying. People always ask me would you ever date a white woman and etc. Na, I wouldn't do it. Number 1, I don't need the aggravation, which would ruin the relationship. I like black women and Hispanic more. So, if I wouldn't be committed to a white woman, why even get involved. That is how I analyze it. The same thing with Hispanic women. There are cultural things that is hard to adapt too. In the end, I am comfortable with black women. There is an understanding, even though they are some arguments concerning "power" in the relationship. Bottom line is there is power struggle between professional black men and black women. That is why this whole white man thing is brought up. They claim it is for "love". There is more to that. Sellout black women get great "glee" in rubbing it in. "See, I got me a white man take that". They are very vindictive women.

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  49.   Bamabelle2k9 says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 10

    And modest LOL See you say you are charming away from here and that's why I say now I understand some of the frustrations of some of the brothas on here becuase some of these sistas are VERY mean-spirited towards some black men and some of the brothas can be hurtful too but as I said a lot of it is from a place of hurt so they feel like if I date a white man or another man of color that would change all of that and my thing is, men are men. No one is better then the other. What I'm saying to you is, if you came across like that all the time, a lot of sistas would listen to you. It's all about communication, understanding and healing. Ok let me shut up I'm sounding like Oprah I'm scaring myself. lol

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  50.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 10

    Dear Bama I would have to agree. I get more luck with older black women opposed to "young girls". It is what "it is". I like older women anyway. Aside from the "character" here, I am a charming man. I can't help that I am talented. Plus, I have a sense of humor. It is a bit "mean". I want black women to be successful in their relationships and happy that is all.

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