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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   seancarter03 says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 08

    Legalease thanks for the comment but to be honest I remember those studies from a class I took called marriage and the family. We had a long discussion on what fueled or attractions to members of the opposite sex but as far as my statistics they can viewed or acquired from your state census bureau, I had to do a report on employment trends. I'm not saying that this is exclusively why white men date black women but I am saying as far as I've read it's a reason given. If you are really interested in studying anything like this or other topics I suggest you look at academic journals (entries that are reviewed by that subject matters most qualified members) or even conduct your own study I would be interested in helping, it could be fun. Let me know. Have a beautiful day

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  2.   seancarter03 says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 08

    Legalease thanks for the comment but to be honest I remember those studies from a class I took called marriage and the family. We had a long discussion on what fueled or attractions to members of the opposite sex but as far as my states they can viewed or acquired from your state census bureau, I had to do a report on employment trends. I'm not saying that this is exclusively why white men date black women but I am saying as far as I've read it's a reason given. Have a beautiful day

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  3.   Legalease says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 08

    Hi Cousin_Joe: I am responding to your question about what a WM can do to let a BW know he is interested. I cannot speak for any other woman but I know for me, being polite and having good manners is always something which piques my interest. Ask me questions about what I like to do, remebering what I said in previous conversations, smiling, these things let me know a man is interested. Be yourself, I know that sounds cliche, but it is true. If a woman, no matter what color, is going to respond if you are sincere and are a gentlemen. I saw your picture and you are cute, too bad you are not in NYC, I would let you try your skills on me. LOL!! Good luck and I hope this helps.

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  4.   Legalease says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 08

    Hi All: Sorry for the hiatus. I have been keeping up with most of the blogs but some of them are just not responding to. For the positive people out there, I have a query: why do we need a reason? I like who I like and want to be with someone who wants to be with me. For instance, Cousin Joe is a cutie. I like all types of men and I want someone who wants me. If you are out there Cousin Joe, I would be pleased to make your acquaintence. If anyone knows Cousin Joe, tell him to check in again. SeanCarter, I like your style but could you point us to those studies that talks about WM dating BW because they equate BW to being "care givers and nannies". I would like to research this for myself. I did not know anyone did these types of studies. Thanks!

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  5.   seancarter03 says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 08

    Ray I thought what you had to say was a little interesting. I don't know where you're getting your information but saying that white men are more industrious and hard working is false and statistically unsupported information. On average in this country white men make up more than 40 percent of the United States unemployed. Statistically spoken Hispanic Americans are the most industrious and hardworking as their male population's unemployment is usually far below the national average of 5.5 percent. A lot of studies have found that one reason a lot of white men date black women is because of the nannies and maids that took care of them when they were growing up and identify with them as caregivers and nurturers. In the 20 years the trend might shift to a lot white men dating Hispanic women. As far as white men being more about the family and taking care of their home then why is it that more than 50 percent of American marriages end in divorce and if the majority of white men are the major participants then maybe they wouldn't be the best choice for stability. I'm not saying any of this to offend you I just find a lot of your "facts" to be poorly unsupported ranting and if you want to engage in a thought provoking conversation please at least think before you put hateful and racist propaganda. Have the decency and respect for yourself and the other members to at least either research your statements before putting them up here or at least say they are YOUR OWN opinions and not try to pass them off as facts. GET AN EDUCATION, LEARN A LITTLE.

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  6.   rayyan007 says:
    Posted: 26 Jul 08

    Why white men love the black woman? From my own Observations,the answer is SIMPLE :For SEX.. For a WM,a BW is an exotic sexual conquest.. White Men want to try something new and unique not found in WW :dark skin,bulging lips,pronounced ass,nappy hair.....etc,,) Now, WILL WM marry BW?? According to Statistics,few will... I must admit that there are some WM who marry BW because they want to prove that they are not racists or want to get back at their families who oppose such a union or are seeking a sexual fetish or they simply fall in love.. .. Now let's ask the opposite question: Why would a black woman love white men? FOR Two Reasons: 1-WM,IN GENERAL, are more industrious,hard working,ambitious,educated,AND FINANCIALLY SECURE than BM.BW (and actually ALL WOMEN of all races) seek Security and Protection for themselves and their offspring..The WM is a better PROVIDER and more committed to his family than the BM.. Asian men(on average) ,however, make more money than WM ,but very few BW marry THEM..Why is that? This discrepancy can be expalined, IMHO , that Sexual attraction AND FINACIAL ABILITY are BOTH important for women. Asian men are shorter,have slanty eyes,wide faces and ARE stereotyped to have smaller genitals than WM or BM.. 2-No matter what they say,deep down,BW would like to get approached,Seduced,married to, and Ultimately impregnated by WM because they would like to give their offspring more "lovable" & "desirable" physical features that a white man has:straight hair,colored eyes,fair skin,pointed & delicate "Roman Nose"..etc... This is evident in the Black community itsself where light skinned African American Girls are considered "Prettier" than dark skinned ONES.(Tyra Banks highlighted this issue on her program).. You must also observe a BW who has a milk-chocolate,blue-eyed,straight haired, Biracial(the father is white) child parading him/her infront of other BW..See what I've given birth to?See how Cute he/she is? Also ,BW try to look White by straightening their hair,adding hair extensions & weaves,dyeing their hair blonde,having reconstructive surgeries on their noses to make them look less flat...etc... For the same reason,when BM achieve material success ,they'll either marry a light skinned,skinny ,and attractive Black woman or a "Trophy" Blondy Gal..This is called:"Marrying up the social & racial ladder"..Poorer BM who marry WW end up , in General, with Fat ,overweight,and ugly White Trash.. Lets face it Humans are ,after all,social animals... It is as simple as that....

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  7.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 25 Jul 08

    HI to All (the few and the proud.....lol) Oye, Rochi.....when I say "misguided" all I mean is that you obviously are in search of some kind of answers. (AND, like I said, we all are to some degree or another). And you said it yourself that you are a researcher. That is in many ways a scientist (you know this already, I am sure *winx*) , so in that way you are misguided because science certainly can not be credited with having all the answers of the universe...(ok...now I am waiting for Tom Cruise to come kick my ass....lol). I am not sure I explained that correctly but know this; I am as about as analytical as they come but sometimes you just have to know when to RELAX, RELATE, RELEASE (100,000 points to those who know where I "borrowed" that from.....lol). As for the excuse issue that was not necessarily directed at anyone in particular(I don't know anyone on here well enough to point fingers like that). It would just seem that some (in the world, generally speaking) get caught up in numbers and hide behind them as some sort of defense mechanism. They, themselves, have all sorts of complexes and the only way they seem to be able to cope is by pigeon-holing the entire world around them. I sympathized with them actually......but only to a certain point. It is one thing to be misguided; it is another to be mean-spirited and hateful. Oh yeah....I was by no means saying that just because I date interracially (and intraracially, btw......just not lately) I should be deemed more "open-minded" than the next person. Actually I was sort of being "funny" in that post directed to Ashley. (again there goes that twisted sense of humor of mine....doesn't translate well on the Net sometimes...lol). If I recall correctly I think my comment had more to do with some of the hate that was running rampant in the blog. Most times when I use the word "open-minded" I also mean "open-hearted" (as I don't see the mind and heart as necessarily being separate). Ok......I know I am all over the map here so let me round it up...and just say that all of us DO basically want the same things BUT I am hard pressed to find someone that truly understands that fact. (not saying that I positively do....but my mind and heart are open to the possibilities within and without) Peace and Blessings tatted2death (...ROCHI....I said I owned an electric guitar, NOT that I really knew how to play it...LOL...maybe one day will actually be able to "shred"; I'm working on it...lol)

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  8.   shellyv says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 08

    Why does it seem that now it is a trend for the ugliest african women to date and get pregnanat by the first white man to cross their path. Africans fresh off the boat are the ones that are getting with white men for the so-called "status".

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  9.   Quanta says:
    Posted: 22 Jul 08

    Truth of the matter,a white man does not have to explain to the world why he is with a black woman and he does not berate a white woman because of his preference. When a white man speaks negatively about a white woman he is offending himself. Moreover, he is offending his mother. She was the white woman who gave him birth and without her he would not have had an opportunity to experience a black woman. I do not need a white man or any other man for that matter, to put down another woman just to stroke my ego.. Love me or F&^% me because it's your choice. I believe the answer lies within the individual himself and the person he is sharing the experience with. Despite the reasoning behind his choice, it is his choice.

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  10.   packer083 says:
    Posted: 21 Jul 08

    HI i am brandon i am a white guy that just love balck women i think they are the most beauyful thing on this planet earth i like that they can think on there own make chicoces know what they want and i myself think that we should be open to whatever comes in our life.I am still looking for that special women in my life and i think i am apretty good looking guy .

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  11.   woman2 says:
    Posted: 21 Jul 08

    I was married to a latino for many years but I can remember the first time I had an encounter with a white guy at @ 13 years old. I can still remember, what I can now describe, as the look of painful lust in his eyes and his behavior. I was taken aback. I had never been that close to a white boy before and this startled me. This was at a church gathering in a different part of town. four years ago I fell in love with a man who happen to be white. It was never consummated. There was a lot for both of us to get over. I stil love him but he is no longer active in my life. The look of 'painful lust' was not in his eyes or his behavior but the painful look of love was indeed present. He will always be in my heart. It was after this relationship that I realized the 'burden of the white man.' He is prejudged as the oppressor immediately just because of the color of his skin. There is such a terrible distrust of him. His own people chains him. We all have suffered terrible losses because of myths, lies, and historical baggage. I hope this last taboo will be obliterated so that we can get down to the real problems.

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  12.   Member says:
    Posted: 19 Jul 08

    Im the same way as the guy above me in the comment by lovely, black woma are soo incredible sexy and i think so much more down to eath than alot of caucasian ones that they just wow me and i just stare at them and wanna make passionate love to one, i saw the one in bed with denzel washington in the movie crimson tide, I mean when the camera was on here she was my dreamboat wowsie wow wow, my gosh i couldnt take my eyes off her, her eyes her sweet looking lips her overall warmness in the picture and her face i just wanted to be next to her and just love on her

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  13.   lovely says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 08

    I think white men like the color, natural sexuality and exotic nature of black women. Many of them want to date black women, but society and the media makes this seem abnormal.

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  14.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 08

    I went to the store today and saw the second WM/BF married couple I've ever seen (in real life). Whoo! The girl reminded me of me! (Totally a rocker!) She had blue streaks in her hair and her lip was pierced. She was so pretty. Anyway, they had their daughter with them and I saw it was my little sister's friend. Righteous! There are a hell of a lot of BF/WM couples in NY (go there frequently), but when you start seeing that in Baltimore? You know we're making progress! So... I am curious. How did you guys meet your partners? And hi poetlove! I'm doing fine! I skipped your comment by accident. Geez, I'll leave and have to read 10 when I come back. -RoChi

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  15.   seancarter03 says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 08

    Hey tatted2death I really appreciate the acknowledgment sometimes I feel like I am unheard at times or above some people's head lol. I really like what you had to say, you seem to have such a beautiful insight not tainted by social convention. Keep it up ma.

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  16.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 08

    tatted2death, I love yout post chica! Slightly twisted, or fully you rock!!!!!!

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  17.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 08

    tatted2death, I enjoy statistics for a reason. I will be in the 'hype' if it allows me to be educated. As I said before,just because something is not liked, it doesn't make it unreal. I refuse to dimiss something because I don't like it. At the same time, I don't just 'accept' a statistic because it is one. Trust me when I say this: I am a researcher (not as an occupation). I am thorough about being as informed as I can be. Or maybe I just love learning too much? >.< "OK Ashley now…..breathe….slowly….lol I see what you mean (yet once again)…..you know they are sent here just to try and torment the TRULY open-minded ones like ourselves so let’s just not waste our lovely keystrokes on them…..LMAO." It was aimed at that. Seeing as this thread is about white-black relationships, and most of the people here only date WM/BF (that I've seen so far), I wasn't sure how that is more open-minded. (Then again, maybe I took what you said in the wrong way. In that case, I apologize.) Attraction is not 'open-minded' anyway. It is very strict. Only dating interracially is not more 'open-minded' than only dating intraracially. What is being used as an excuse? And for what? And I am curious (in a nice way XD You're cool in my book as well). What am I a tad bit misguided about? Attraction isn't as complicated as we seem to think it is. It's very simple, actually, and we seem to want the same things. Where we think we'll find them is where the differences occur. Nice pic, btw. Lemme see that guitar! And I'm glad you like the quotes! I added some more to my 'collection' yesterday! -RoChi @_@ The mods put my posts back. Thanxx.

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  18.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 08

    Dayum.....dayum...dayum.....(done Florida Evans-style...lol).... I go away for a week and come back and ALL HAIL has broken loose. I don't even know where to start. I guess the first place would be with ROCHI.....ummm in your first post (after mine) I saw you "aim" something toward me and then proceed to make a statement that had absolutely nothing to do with anything I said or am about ....BUT, no worries because also as long as you don't use any "projectiles" in what you "aim" you are still cool in my book (albeit a tad misguided.....BUT hey WE ALL ARE to one degree or another....how boring life would be if we all had the answers). Those quotes were well appreciated.....thanks for sharing. As for Ashley, I understand his passion (and frustration.....WHEEEEW) more than anyone knows but dayum if that didn't get a little wild. I don't claim to be the most enlightened or most educated person around but I do have an open-mind AND an open heart and I must say it just hurts a little to see people lash out at one another the way they do sometimes. (I KNOW.....I KNOW....then I need to stay my sensitive azz off the internet....lol....believe me I AM cutting back....LMAO). YES, we are human......YES, science is real and envolved in nearly every aspect of our existence....BUT, must we use these facts as EXCUSES for ALL THE BS. (not saying that any ONE person is doing that here so let's kill that one before it even gets started). The reasons that one may be attracted to another are WAAAAAAY too vast to get twisted up in any generalizations or statistics (not saying that stats aren't real....Just WHY GET CAUGHT UP IN THEM???....even restating them is just feeding into the propaganda). The core reason that anyone should care for another is LOVE (and yes, I realize how kiddy and cliche that sounds but DAYUMMIT...I don't care....lol). And if you are wrapped up in the "science" or "numbers" of it then you just might be missing the point. You know, I understand that my comments are mostly ignored here because they aren't "sexxxy" or drama-laden but that is fine....I write my peace and move on.....I say this because I know some others will read this and come away feeling that I "attacked" them in some way, shape, or form. (JEEZZZ, if people only knew that I am a "closet" pacifist....lol....not that I run from a "fight" but I AM very choosy about my "battles"). Yes, sometimes debate stimulates some real growth but for the most part nowadays it seems overrated. Because if no one comes away from it having seen "the other side", so to speak it basically just amounts to a bunch of self-righteous hot air. All of that being said I am truly glad there is a site/blog like this...(even though WE ALL must recognize that MISINTREPRETATION is the biggest, baddest INTERNET DEMON there is and not take all this schnitzel too seriously.....lol). And I must say I also appreciate the appearance of seancarter03 in this venue.....his statements seem to be on point AND they are expressed with a little compassion thrown in for good measure; very balanced....some could definitely take lessons. (along with a bit of self-editing courses....lol) PEACE AND BLESSINGS tatted2death(the only way....for this slightly twisted chica.....to go...*smilez*)

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  19.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 08

    Mkay, geneandthem XD I feel like your post is lighthearted, but I totally don't understand what you mean by, "With your I might of been born yesterday but I stayed up all night looking A$$!!!!! lol!" *thinks* Maybe you forgot the word after "your," or possibly, you could mean "you." No matter which it is, it's the second part that's confusing me. Are you saying that you stayed up all night looking AT @$# (pr0n), or LIKE AN @$#, or... possibly licking @$#… o.O ...Why do I think so darn much?! Anyway, what you said ("Ill be here at home with my beautiful black queen in love not giving a F@#$ about what anyone thinks!") immediately reminded me of The Kiss by Karmina (http://youtube.com/watch?v=sl4uhCR-GHc). I am completely in love with the song, and it is right on target with how it feels, right? I prefer my white boys smelling like 37 week old dead pig, but you go on with that piggie, geneandthem! -RoChi

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  20.   poetlove says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 08

    Alright rr, i can tell you've been hurt and that's understandable. Generalizing black men though will not get us anywhere. I personally don't care who you're dating I just think you should be a little less judgemental. I personally do tell my friends when they make hideous remarks about sistahs to cut it out. I just personally think you take it a little extreme and try to be hurtful to the person that did not hurt you. Asking wether I compare to a white man was insane. I've accomplished some things, that some white men would love to say they did and probably vice versa. I just think people on here go out of their way to belittle someone who has a different opinion. Rockerchick what's good with you another quote "without struggle there's no progress" Frederick Douglass

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  21.   woman2 says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 08

    To Cousin_Joe: A person who responds to everyone with respect is a person worth knowing and probably willing to be known.

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  22.   rr says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 08

    To rayyan007: You are sooooooo right..

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  23.   rr says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 08

    Comment to rayyanna007: You are soooooooo, right..

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  24.   rr says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 08

    To XXNJXY: I could'nt agree with you more. Alot of Blackmen are insensitive and not to mention too macho!! Finally someone agrees with me.. Finally!!

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  25.   rr says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 08

    To Cousin_Joe: You're Gorgeous.. You'll find the right Black woman..

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  26.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 08

    OMG Ray, those were some twisted remarks! I'M A BLACK WOMAN AND I'M DEEP CHOCOLATE AND BEAUTIFUL (look at my pics! For a lot of black women it's not about money or what we want our children to look like! It's about a real attraction to the white male. Its, their attitudes, heart felt compassion and concern, it’s their sensuality, THERE ALSO OF COURSE HAS TO BE A PHYSICAL ATTRACTION! Don't get me wrong I find men of all races to be desirable creatures! Each with his own set of attributes. I'm not saying that there aren't some poor misguided self hating people that see things the way you do. They have been programmed by their inner circles to believe the lie that was set in place by a plantation owner by the name of Willie Lynch. Well if you aren't familiar let me enlighten you. Mr. Lynch created a letter that went out to all the prominent Plantation owners. On how to cause division among your slaves and at the same time keep them in line. He purposed they treated the lighter complexion less cruel. They were given the more domesticated jobs, while their darker counterparts received the more brutal laborious jobs. It’s sad but the idea worked; to this day a very small portion of the black community still fall victim of this systematic way of thinking and viewing of themselves. Now fast forward interracial daters or whatever you would like to call us. We don't view life the way you've described. I take it you have never dated outside your race. When you are with someone you don't look at the man or woman you are with as being white or black DUDE! You see the person that makes you smile when their number comes up on the caller I.D. or the one that ever so gently kisses you goodbye in the morning before work. We love colorlessly, we love without delusion that world is happy to us together, we just simply love DUDE! For the record all women are beautiful and for you to say that a particular race of woman ends up looking like a stereotype is immature and hateful! We don't need your type of views here! Please if you don't like what most of us here represent or believe then find another blog.

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  27.   seancarter03 says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 08

    XXNJXY just want to know how can you make a comment like live and let live but then make such a judgmental comment like the one you made in your response. "Most black men are weaker so thats why they opt for white women" I can definitely see why you are single. You have some real self worth issues because only someone who didn't see the beauty in themselves would take the time to attack others who have found love. How dare you? I myself am with a beautiful woman who happens to be white. I now come on this site because I love the blogs on here. She is educated and career driven, she went to Northwestern and graduated with a 4.0 in pysch and has a job as a school psychologist. I myself am still in graduate school and work as security guard on weekends. I am definitely not broke but I am not as successful as she is and it has no bearing on our relationship. As for the never seeing a broke black man with a white female, why would any worth while female black, white, or whatever want to be with someone who has no aspiration or passion in life. I seriously wish you love and happiness, but start looking at yourself before judging others because you a long with a lot of the women on here NEED to stop the hating. 1. This is an interracial site so stop with the bashing of black men liking of white or women outside of our "race". We like what we like you complaining about it won't change it, it'll only make you look and feel worst. 2. If you feel that you aren't getting your fair share of attention please take a hard look at yourself, are you what one would call desirable, do you take care of yourself( that means spiritually, emotionally, and PHYSICALLY) there is no reason for a woman under the age of 35 without any kids being more than 20 pounds over weight and you know who you are. 3. Please start seeing yourself for how beautiful you really are. Stop worrying so much about what people are doing to make themselves happy and start focusing on what you can do to make yourself happy. Peace and love

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  28.   Cousin_Joe says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 08

    Sorry RR, I tried to post a picture as you requested, but I see it didn’t show up. I will look to see what I did wrong and retry. Cousin_Joe

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  29.   Cousin_Joe says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 08

    Hello to all, first time poster. I found this site a few weeks ago and started reading from the top down. A lot of reading and a lot of passion I see here. I am a white male who just turned 45 and have always been attacked to women of all races, never mattered to me what race you were. There is so much truth in the saying “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.᾿ I grew up in white suburbia America where at the time was approximately 99% white. Unfortunately the racist stereo remarks would run amuck in school. I thank my Dad for showing me otherwise as he had black friends we would visit as kids. I made certain my son and daughter were raised the same way I was. Going through life I have meet and become great friends with two black men. One of which I am the god-father to his son. When I tell talk to them about dating black women they bust my ass telling me I have jungle fever. They would then banter me with white men have little penises that is why black women don’t date white guys. I heard all the canard’s in regards to this legend, and don’t accept it nor care to. Albeit you see plenty of white women and black men, it is a rarity that you see black women with a white man. As doltish as this may sound it began to appear to me that black women for whatever reason were not attracted to white men. Hence my search for answer via the internet and here I am. For me I find many characteristics and features attractive with regards to black women: skin tone, nice pronounced lips, the way the talk and how they carry themselves so proudly, just to name a few. This is no disrespect to any other race including the white women. I have always worked in the construction industry so further limiting my access to black as the majority of my fellow workers are men. This past year I went back to college full time and not to my surprise found myself attracted to some black girls. Question: Knowing that not all black girls are interested in white men, and not looking to make any of my classmates feel uncomfortable, what cue does a white man look for that a black girl would be interested in a white man? Any and all help is greatly appreciated.

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  30.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 08

    Whatz up, I fell blessed that I found your post while searching for 40 year old virgin speed dating. I agree with you on the subject white men love the black woman : Interracial Dating Central Blog. I was just thinking about this matter last Wednesday.

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  31.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 08

    smooches 2008, you are wonderful! That was probably the post best post I have seen in this blog! You shouldn't last to long! Being single that is! Please more, more, more!!! Ash,

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  32.   xxnjxy says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    I so thought this thread was over, I read what CaribPrincess said, Im not offended (im mixed but consider myself black) but neither black nor white is better than the other, terrible attitude to take into a relationship let alone to be on this site. But to each their own, I just respect men that respect me, and it so happens I find White men to be way more respectful than Black men, I have drawn the conclusion most Black men are weaker so they opt for white women to feel worthwhile, also due to injustices in our society towards them, white women have been their symbol of success and "whos's the man now" .....just my observation as I have yet to see a broke black man with a white female on his arm. Strikes a bit of curiosity on my part. With maturity we have to "Let Live" nonetheless.

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  33.   woman2 says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    2 smooches: Well said......very well expressed....and true.

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  34.   woman2 says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    To rr: Oh I understand. I know the pain. I've been more than 'there.' That is why I responded. I've also grown enough to know that all black men are not like the ones who harmed me, namely my father, brothers, uncles, male cousins....etc. I'm hoping that love will throw off that heavy blanket that we have been under and allow us to breathe and just be women...2....and not have to defend ourselves so. We need love like everbody else.....we may need it more than everybody else.

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  35.   Member says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    Wow, I’ve been reading these posts and I’m just blown away at how off topic some of them are. Everyone here knows that some black men and women posses some unsavory characteristics. Just as any other race of people! OMG the smell thing just knocked me off my feet! I’m an African American woman who is married to a Caucasian man I have never had the experience of having my husband smell like raw chicken or fired chicken or any other food that I personally didn’t put on him myself (mostly fruit). Someone stated that we should leave race out of it. How can it be done when our personal preference evokes a wide range of emotions on each side? We all know that this issue has deep running roots. With that being said I think the purpose of the question being posed here is of the utmost validity. This is a country where racism and hatred was bred and fed into the minds of many. Many are still pawns in the age old practice. We are bold as we embrace our true feelings of what we desire in a mate. I feel as though it is wonderful to hear why the white man loves the black woman. It feels good to have a man from another race recognize our inner and outer strengths and beauty! We just have to remember that it isn’t the race that attracts you it’s the individual attributes. In conclusion, I just want to stress if this blog/ discussion forum isn’t appealing to you please don’t voice negative, ignorant, hurtful, and spiteful comments. I think I can speak for myself and others when I say we are happy with who and what we are (interracial daters, lovers, and spouses)! We plan to abolish racism one bi-racial child at a time (joke):-D. No really let’s just love each other the way Christ loves us without any inhibitions, expectations, or a judgmental view. Oh BTW I'm separated currently thats why I have a page up.

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  36.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    Okay. I have a lot to say here, so let’s get goin’. (By the way, I have to officially take back what I said about geneandthem’s posts being really long. I don’t think I can say that anymore seeing as mine are longer >.>) Firstly, I’d like to address rr and say that I agree. I’ll be the first to tell you that I hate double standards. I got on geneandthem because he was yelling at B Heard because, as a black woman, she likes to date black men and that is ‘bad’ because she’s subjecting herself to one race. However, so is everyone else here. We all seem to have a preference, and as long as everybody’s is our own, it is fine. Bring something new into the equation and it is hateful. I swear, people have got to let go of whatever it is they are holding against these other people; you're doing the same thing as them. I'll also say that I despise PC (political correctness). Sorry to give such a low blow, but everybody does not like everybody else. We're not attracted to everybody. I accept this and I think it's fine. I personally don't care about hearing other people's opinion's that differ from mine; it helps me to become less sensitive and more understanding. That's my goal. Secondly, I’ll address woman2’s post. Lolz, you’re speaking as if everyone can choose what they want. As I said before, everyone is looking for the same things, generally, but the difference is where they think they’re bodies find it. I’d like to know the psychological level and genetic aspects of this. Why are certain people attracted to certain things, scientifically? Heh… I don’t value people’s opinions with stuff like this. I is a science girl :D Thirdly, did any of you read my post with a bunch of quotes? I can't figure out why that one was taken off. I don't think I cussed in it, and it was actually relevnt to the discussion. Hmn… I’ll address the other two personally. -RoChi

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  37.   rr says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    To Woman2: My comment is not loveless and shallow, I'm just speaking from the heart. You have to understand I've been hurted by "BLACKMEN" and I pretty much don't want anything to do with them, I'm not saying all are bad, but the majority are just cruel. Question: If a blackman said something negative of a blackwoman, would you honestly say that his comment was loveless and shallow? or Would you be offended and tell him off?

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  38.   rr says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    And to poetlove: I don't think you should say that my comments are hideous and hurtful, I'm just speaking from the heart, just like you have a lot of blackmen that express their resentment towards blackwomen, what is really the big difference? Don't you guys say that blackwomen or the majority of us are: loud, demanding,unfeminine, fat,have hair under the arm pits,unappreciative and I can honestly say that it is "true" of alot of blackwomen out there and so I can understand why alot of blackmen run from blackwomen, I can understand why.

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  39.   rr says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    If there are anymore whitemen, in this blog please show a picture of yourself, you're gorgeous... Just as "Black-n-neva goin-back" comment from Apr.21-08.

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  40.   rr says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    I'm Back... and I have this to say, to "Black n Neva goin back": You are sooooooooooo fine, I saw a picture of you and you are gorgeous, you'll find that special black woman and yes she'll have a backside, not a pasty backless figure. Gorgeous white skin and beautiful dark brown or black hair Much success to you.. mmmm... Too fine...

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  41.   seancarter03 says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    Hey geneandthem thanks for the response man I really appreciate it. As for woman2 I think the answer is every blog response. We all like PEOPLE for different reason, we might be attracted to certain physical characteristics ie. eye color, height, body type etc but what keeps us there are common interests. All of us have been in love at least once and I know that what might of us brought us to the table was not what made us eat the dinner and kept us coming back for seconds. I know its hard and I know we have been socialized into believe this but lets drop the whole race thing. Lets remember we are just people, human beings, homo sapiens, earthlings lol. Have a great week guys

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  42.   Flirty1 says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    *gasp*!! Woman2: Look at you, trying to stay on point. LOL! ;-) Just joking. Somewhere on this page is the answer to that question. I've seen it answered a time or two.

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  43.   woman2 says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 08

    So....why do some white men prefer to love black women?

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  44.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 08

    WOW!!!!!!! seancarter03 That was a great post! Not sure why it isn't showing up yet! I got a message, but I do not see it here in the blog!

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  45.   poetlove says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 08

    So who is the weakest link Big Mama

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  46.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 08

    I dont think she should have either, but you cant say The F word Or any other curse words! You have to kind of be DL with your curse words! Maybe she will re-post and edit the Cursing! I like reading her post when she is mad she is passionate like me! Although We dont see exactly eye to eye we really have a lot in common!! I think she is the only person here since the begening of this Blog that I schooled, and then in turn got schooled right back I like that a lot! Every one else really had nothing to say!

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  47.   Member says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 08

    poetlove, I agree with you. She should not have been removed. But I do know who should have been removed and told......... YOU ARE THE WEAKEST LINK!.... GOOD BYE!!!!

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  48.   RockerChick24 says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 08

    You're right, Poetlove. There's no reason for them to leave genandthem's posts but not mine. And what was wrong with my last post? It was on topic! I'm still Rockerchick. >.> I have to use a different name now. -RoChi

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  49.   poetlove says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 08

    yo who's the moderators on here, they kinda biased.Nothing rockerchick said should've been taken off

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  50.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 08

    Thank you very much, Poetlove =) And I never said I wasn't into black dudes (though "Since then, I’ve just been attracted to white guys ‘cause they’re so much nicer (personal experience)" can be mistaken. Put the "just" after "guys" instead to better understand what meant). But I have a boyfriend I love very much and I'm happy 'bout that ^_^ Actually, a lot of people tell me I have a lot of passion or that I am very deep. Haha, I donno, but I can tell you that I will kick your ass if I think it needs to be kicked. I also love to get into intelligent conversations. You know one of the reasons my boyfriend and I clicked? Odd as it seems, we both like to "collect" quotes we like. As in, if we run by a quote we like for any reason, we'll write it down. Call me silly, but I think you can learn a lot about a person from the quotes they admire, and I 'find myself' in some quotes. And sometimes I end up getting an intellectual beatdown, but I love it. I love, love, love progressing in thought. A few quotes I always have in mind: "We must not believe the many who say that only free people ought to be educated, but we should rather believe the philosophers who say that only the educated are free." --Epictetus "A thousand words will not leave so deep an impression as one deed." --Henrik Isben "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." --Martin Luther King Jr. "In three words I can sum up what I've learned about life: It goes on." --Robert Frost "Education's purpose is to replace an empty mind with an open one." --Malcolm Forbes "In the end, it's not the years in your life that count; it's the life in your years." --Abraham Lincoln "Walk with those seeking Truth. Run from those who think they've found it." --Deepak Chopra "It is better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing flawlessly." --Robert H. Schuller "The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who can't read them." --Mark Twain "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeing new landscapes but in having new eyes." -Proust There are 10 miscellaneous ones. I think a lot of quotes about love are corny and cliche, but some are ultra cute, such as (I don't know who said these): "Never frown when you’re sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile." "If you love someone, don’t put their name in a heart, but in a circle. A heart can be broken, but a circle goes on forever." "Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never knew." And I like humor too: "I dream of a better tomorrow, where chickens can cross the roads and nor have their motives questioned." "Hard work pays off in the future. Laziness pays off now." "I didn’t lose my mind. I just sold it on ebay." I bet you feel like you know me just a little better from reading those. I have three notebooks filled with quotes, with which I am proud. My boyfriend was the first person I met (in real life) who also 'collects' quotes. We started sharing them and getting into deep discussions about them and ended up talking for hours. Haha, it's a great conversation starter. I get excited when I read lists of quotes people love. It's like I get a sneak peak into their mind. >.> I was getting on geneandthem about *his* long posts. I think I officially lost that right. All but about two of my posts are very long. Then again, I only have about five posts. -RoChi

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