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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Jenipher says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    So Rayne How’s your interracial relationship coming along? How long have you been together and what does your hair look like and how much do you weigh?

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  2.   Xxnjxy says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    MARKETING BILL my experience is my experience you can't tell me it's off based....no mistakes about it. The guys I've dated have out right told me why they like me, I am not the darkest in skin tone,i have in their opinion gorgeous eyes, I am well educated and compensated well for my work. They like what they like,I was treated very kindly. they were the most romantic and considered the ground I walked on; gold, if you paid attention I said it is best to ask the man in person what he likes, I am not judgemental, take the person in front of you for who they are and if youre not sure, ask questions. Our comments will differ based on experience. you nor I can discredit that. For an old guy, I'll give you this much respect and give this topic a break and wish you bes luck here, atleast I am. Ciao

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  3.   Rayne says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    Jenipher, There appears to be a lot of anger in your post. Some of it, I find offensive to women, black or white. I also find some of it offensive to men, black or white. All white babies do not look like senior citizens. I think that maybe you and your husband have been hurt in previous relationships. Yours being black, and his being white. I truly hope your husband does not speak for all white men, as referenced in numbers 1-9. I also think it is sad that you got pregnant because your husband wanted a trophy "baby". There are good and bad traits in all races. Afterall, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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  4.   Member says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    CONANLD CONANLD CONANLD CONANLD IF you love and admire black women so much then why are you married to a white woman for 20 years. And does she know how extreme sexual arousel you get by the mere presence of a black women. CONANLD IS A CON! CONANLD IS A CON!

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  5.   Jenipher says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    I am black (28,haitian) and my husband (34,italian) is white. We worked together for 6 months then started dating. After 3 weeks of dating we had sex and the 1st night he said he wanted to get me pregnant, so we tried for 3 weeks and I got pregnant. He said he was fascinated with black women because of their bodies, style and minds. He said something about white women turn him off. He loves watching his white male part go in and out of my black female part- he says this is an ultimate turn on. He also said he feels powerful by being with me. And sometimes in the beginning he admitted he used to secretly role play during sex like he was the master and I was the slave. He never dated a black woman before me because of negative social pressures, his friends and family. He says he used to meet a lot of good looking black woman but they were ghetto. Reasons why he said white men don’t date black women: 1.) White men are afraid of all the pressure that comes along with dating black women- from society, family and friends. 2.) White men don’t know which black woman are into white guys- they are scared of rejection. 3.) White men don’t want a black women who didn’t graduate college. 4.) White men don’t want a black women who has multiple BABYDADDIES! 5.) White men like a some black attitude but are scared of a black women who has too much attitude. 6.) White men like black women who are n shape with a nice air style. 7.) White men like a black women who is versatile and he can bring anywhere and know that she will look good, be educated and classy. 8.) White men don’t like gold diggers but they love a trophy wife. 9.) White men do not like a black women who is too dominating and aggressive. My husband (we got married when our daughter was 6 months old) said he had a crush on me 3 months before he asked me on a date and I didn’t even know it. Like Conanld said my husband wanted to have a mixed child so bad- he thinks they are so beautiful and futuristic. He did not want an all white baby he thinks they look like senior citizens. What I learned about white men since marriage 1.) They will let you be in control but let them think they are in control. 2.) They listen and respect a woman’s needs better than my ex-black boyfriend. 3.) They have a lot of strategy when it comes to approaching a black women in a romantic way. They can be very subtle. 4.) They really love long hair and very little body fat.

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  6.   sm says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    Hello everyone. I am a black woman, and I am very new to the whole thing.I can say that I've never dated a white man, but for some reason I fine myself attracted to them. I want to be open to them but I don't know if I'll get the same response.I sense that some of the white guys are secretly attrated to me, but they seem to be very nervous. Is that a normal thing? I got on this web site asking why are white men attracted to black women? what makes them want to be with us? A white guy can answer the questions

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  7.   Conanld says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    Reading through some of the postings here, there appears to be at least some black women who feel under appreciated by men. This is so unfortunate, if not downright tragic. I feel compelled to write this blurb because just maybe I can make some small difference here. I have custody of a very important little secret that all of you ladies need to know. This secret is written inside of the minds of so many like-minded white men such as myself. We very much admire you. Everyone likes to be admired do they not? We are men who think often about women, and we think about black women in particular. We may not be with you in person for various sundry reasons, because life does have it’s quandaries and tribulations, but we are always there behind the scenes with you in spirit. How could we not think about and admire you? After all, we are living breathing men with passionate desires, and we know that you just happen to be the most beautiful, charming, and sexy women on the entire planet, even when you yourself may not be aware of this. I’m an amateur astronomer, and like all astronomers – both amateur and professional alike, we often think about the big picture view of the world and the universe in which we live. I’ve seen a lot of beautiful things in the night sky through my various astronomical telescopes. Nevertheless it all pales in comparison to your beauty and charm. The whole of the entire external universe cannot hold a candle to you. You are indeed very special. You are so special in fact, that we so much desire to be with you, we desire to love you, and we desire to see that all of your needs are met, and that you can be all that you can be. We really do wish you to feel good about yourself, because in contrast to the vast desolate overall emptiness of this universe, you are indeed a rare entity, and oh so very precious. I have attended so called star parties in the past. These events involve a collection of hundreds of amateur astronomers who gather in remote areas for the sole purpose of having the opportunity to observe astronomical objects free of city light pollution. At one particular event I witnessed a white man and a black woman together enjoying each other’s company and sharing their telescope together. I would not be honest if I were to tell you that I wasn’t just a bit envious. How incredibly romantic it seemed! Wow! I will close this post with this thought ladies. At any given point in time, you can rest assured that there are men out there somewhere who have noticed you, and who dream about having the opportunity to spend some time, however fleeting, in your presence.

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  8.   CafeAuLait39 says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    <<<>>> I totally agree with Conanld. Even though there are definitely cultural differences, we are still people. Dating interracialy does not have to be difficult unless we allow it to be as such. Outside forces can only create division in a relationship between two people who are not strong in the knowledge of themselves. People are going to hate if they see a white man and a white woman; a Black woman and a Black man; a Latino man and a Latino woman. So, what. Let them hate while you focus on your relationship with whomever you are involved in. Life is too short to worry about what society thinks about your partner. If you can find true love, grab hold to it and do not let it go. How often does true love and contentment really come around?

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  9.   Conanld says:
    Posted: 29 May 08

    A number of folks have commented on some of the deep- seated issues that have in the past and even the present, made it difficult for white men and black women in particular, to date outside of their own race. While I think that it’s important to recognize and understand these issues, at the same time, too much focusing on the past increases the risk of falling prey to those same issues in the future. So where am I going with this? We must begin to build our optimism ladies and gentlemen, and take on a goal-oriented future perspective. We need to change our attitudes! We need a paradigm shift, a kind of out of the box type of thinking. This can only be accomplished by focusing on what we want for the future, not by us focusing on the reasons why it could not be done in the past. I am a great admirer of Helen Keller. If anyone ever had any reason to give up, she did. Nevertheless, she managed to rise above it all. I will leave off on this particular post with just a few of my favorite Helen Keller quotes: Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything good in the world. No pessimist ever discovered the secret of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit. Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose. When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt within the heart.

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  10.   Tatiana says:
    Posted: 29 May 08

    interesting thread, i don't think this is a particularly new phenomenon, just new in the fact that black women and white men seem more comfortable dating in public. i wonder is it any harder for the average white man to date a black woman and vice versa, i have heard that it can be, people kind of expect black women to hold it all together, meaning their communities, and black men are often given a pass, they can run out and date who they want and not be held liable for much since they are men. i just feel like alot of sisters are unnapreciated period, by this society, by black men,by white people by the world in general, our beauty is often overlooked and denied, and our contributions to our community seem to be also. how do we juggle the paradigm of black loyalty to our race and heritage yet allow ourselves to be loved? that is the real question for the black woman, because not so long ago, and even today you can see things have not changed as much as they should. love happens, it simply does, between 2 people for whatever reason,this is a beautiful thing, any good woman deserves a good man, white, black, latina, arab asian or otherwise, but few people have as much social weight on their shoulders as the black woman in america.

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  11.   conanld says:
    Posted: 28 May 08

    Cherris - Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m so glad to hear that you are writing an article and even a book on this topic. What a great idea! We certainly have a need for information in the area of white male/black female relationships. You are welcome to use anything that I have posted here. As I am sure you can probably imagine, I did have a little bit of trepidation over expressing my feelings from the heart over a public forum. The decision to proceed was an inspirational experience that just came over me, like I was serving a larger purpose. I didn’t even know if anyone would read my comments on a somewhat inactive thread that originated so long ago. I’m very happy to learn that my effort was not in vain. The question as to why it is that white men and black women are afraid to get together is an intriguing one. For my part, I wonder if I have to some extent bought into the stereotypical notion that black males are at the top of the dating food chain so to speak, unanimously being the preferred male of choice for women of all races. The media to some extent might be somewhat responsible for advancing this notion, but some of my own personal life experience also partially reflects this same notion. Many women seem to be very comfortable telling me their inner secrets. Why this is, I do not know. I’ll probably never know why, but so many (white) women tell about their fantasies regarding black men. Others, at dances, in the office, or wherever, have begged me to find a way to set them up with a black man they see on the dance floor, in the office, or at the gym etc. I’ve even had women that I have never met before (at the fitness center for example), try to engage me in a conversation, by telling me how sexy some black man (that I also do not know) was that just walked by! Seems like a strange way to start a conversion with a stranger, but oh well, I digress. Now it’s important to recognize that all of these women who have revealed these fantasies to me, are all white women. This is a very important distinction, because on the other hand, some of my other personal experiences do not reinforce that stereotype. Black women seem to find me quite attractive, even when there are good looking black men around. Well, at least a reasonable number of them seem to at any rate. This does not figure well with my other personal experiences mentioned earlier above. I suppose that at times I have rationalized away the attraction as an anomaly, thinking that the reason black women find me attractive is because I display a special interest in them that supercedes the interest I display to white women. While there probably is some grain of truth to that notion, the logic seems to fall apart under closer scrutiny. There have been a fair number of white women through the years who have apparently had absolutely no interest in me, despite my showing an interest in them. In contrast, my social encounters with black women, while being somewhat limited in number, have been most positive and entirely out of proportion to my relative experiences with white women. I’m speaking in general terms here, and certainly there are exceptions to this rule in both cases. So, what am I to conclude? Two things. First, there is no clear answer as to why white men and black women may be afraid to connect, but looking at things from the perspective of a white male, I can at least envision the possibility that some white men may not feel that they can measure up to the presumably inflated standard of black male sexuality, that is so often promoted by white women. If black women feel the same way about white men that white women feel about black men, then this fact is probably relatively unknown by the white male population at large. That’s why forums such as this are so important. Communication helps to break down unrealistic stereotypes that interfere with people getting what they really want in their lives. secondly, what do I think drives my own personal desire for black women? My personal favorite theory is that the attraction across races is an entirely natural process and it probably stems from a biologically driven species survival need. After all, a diverse gene pool is always superior to a homogenous one from a survival perspective.

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  12.   cherris says:
    Posted: 26 May 08

    Oh, how your words touched my heart. I am a black woman in her late 50's. I have been pondering the plight of my young, single, black sisters for a while now. And just as I had concluded and you pretty much second it, their answer I believe is in dating outside of their race. Why are we the black woman and the white man still sitting on the sideline with sneered up noses and letting the black man and white woman have all the fun?᾿ Are we so stuck on stupid because we are jealous that they have found what we desire for ourselves? Isn’t it high time we took the shackles off our feet and go get some of that love? If we were having as much fun as it seemed that black man and that white woman we last saw were having we wouldn't have the time or need to be jealous of them. I have a 36 year old single, beautiful, doctor daughter and I told her, “You need to stop waiting on a black knight in shinning armor because he just might not be black. I took the liberty and put her profile on an Interracial dating site. She has met a tall, blue eyed gentleman that seems to be smitten by her and she seems to be smitten by him as well. If not an eternal match, at least she and he know they have choices and many of them – there is no shortage in black women or in White, Asians and Hispanics men, etc… I learned this valuable lesson for myself about 3 years ago and I haven’t looked back since. I met the most wonderful man on an interracial dating site. Though it was not a walk down the aisle kind of relationship it has been wonderful none the less. He has shown me in more ways than one what it is to be respected, honored and treated with gentleness and kindness. He is without a doubt the best man I have ever met. A black man or any man has got to come high or stay at home in order to take that title away from him. I’m game for any who man wants to try with this sexy, attractive, intelligent, Christian middle aged woman. I thank you again for your words of warning and encouragement to the white men who have and have had a longing and desire for black women and yet have not acted upon their desires, be it for what ever reason there may be. May I paraphrase your words and borrow words from you know who and say to these men, “Just do it.᾿ I was scanning the net for information regarding the black woman and white man dating and there is very little positive information on here, only the stereotypical stuff you would expect. Thank you again for sharing such positive and encouraging remarks taken straight from your heart and life. I found your words so profound that I would like to include them in an article that I am presently writing and hopefully a book that I am gathering information for. Please contact me regarding permission to use your article.

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  13.   conanld says:
    Posted: 26 May 08

    I am an athletic 56-year old attractive white man, although I appear to look much younger than my actual age. I am a software engineer by trade. I want to focus exclusively on the topic of this thread – why white men are attracted to black women. More than likely, most of the writers on this forum are much younger than myself, so I can perhaps provide a bit of a different perspective as to why white men are so attracted to black women, because I grew up during an era when dating between white men and black women was strictly taboo and was more than just frowned upon. Then too, I hope to provide hope and encouragement to white men and black women alike to go out and realize their dreams even though I was never entirely able to do so myself. I had never even seen a black woman in real life until about 2 years after I had reached puberty. I was probably 13 at the time. We had just moved to Georgia from Washington State, and shortly after that I had my first look at a black woman in real life. I have no way of knowing her real age, but at the time, she looked to me to be a mature woman perhaps in her early 40’s. I will never forget that experience of extreme sexual arousal. It was more intense and unlike any of my prior experiences, and believe me I had plenty of them as all young boys that age do. For most of my life I have had few opportunities to interact in social settings that would bring me into direct contact with black women. Nevertheless the few black women that I did manage to catch sight of, I always considered to be far more attractive than the masses of white women that I encountered on a daily basis. For example, I recall attending a friend’s high school graduation, and while I saw only one black girl in the entire class, I considered her to be the most beautiful and sexy of all of the girls. I was very intrigued by this recurring theme. It seemed to me to be virtually statistically impossible for so relative few black girls and women to constantly register at the top of the attractiveness scale against overwhelming numbers of white girls and women, unless they truly were far more attractive, at least from my own personal perspective of course. More importantly, I discovered that my physical attraction to black women was far more than something triggered by just a visual experience. While it is true that I am visually attracted to a much higher percentage of black women than I am a comparable percentage of white women, there are nevertheless, black women that I am not visually attracted to, as one would naturally expect. Sometimes though, even visually unappealing black women can excite me beyond that of a visually appealing white woman. There is something else that draws me to black women, and physical proximity determines when that process kicks in. I don’t know what it is, whether it is chemical in nature (e.g., pheromone related), “animal magnetism᾿, aural related, “sixth sense᾿ or whatever, but some of the most amazing things have happened to my body whenever I have been in relative close proximity to a black woman. Amazingly enough, some of my most intense experiences have been with black women with whom I do not otherwise find visually appealing! Whatever the process is that activates and elicits the response in my body, it may involve a massive hormonal dump into my bloodstream, and I experience physical sensations that run the gamut from feelings of mild euphoria, all of the way to almost paralyzing ecstasy. This experience is more likely to be intense when I sense that a black woman is intentionally “invading᾿ my personal space, or perhaps when she touches me on the arm or leg during a conversation. However, even innocent unintentional proximity can trigger this response in me. I recall one time I was on a business trip to New York City. I was on a crowded subway, and I just happened to be sitting next to a black women. No body talked or interacted in any social way on this subway, and we all sat in silence. I was initially mentally preoccupied with a major business problem, when suddenly out of nowhere, my mental focus shifted completely away from what I was doing towards intense feelings of sexual arousal. My attention was immediately drawn to the black women sitting next to me, although I only stole a very quick glance at her. She stared straight ahead just like all of the other regulars on that subway. I would not describe her as being particularly visually attractive, but nevertheless I just knew that she was the catalyst of those feelings I was experiencing because it had happened so many times before. Can white women elicit a similar response in me? Yes, but the intensity is always much less intense, and the woman must be more aggressive in her attempts to provoke a reaction in me, such as when she stokes my arm, or caresses my head. There is one another very interesting facet to my attraction to black women that I would like to mention, and that is the notion of procreation. Whenever I have had sexual relations with white women, in general my fantasies focus mostly on just the sex itself. With black women, it’s different. My sexual fantasies go beyond just the sex, to the more fundamental fantasy of mixing our genetic material for the primary purpose of generating new and more exciting life! I think that this is something that I have wished for more than anything else in my life. Ironically, my wife is sterile, so I have no biological children of my own. A few years back we adopted two baby Chinese girls in order to become parents. They are darling little girls and I love them deeply. Regardless, today there remains a big hole in my heart in this one very specific area. I had one relationship with black women during my early twenties. It happened at a time when you just did not see white men and black women together. The relationship was unfortunately short-lived due to extreme pressure from family members. Nevertheless, it is the one relationship that I most fondly look back on. Of course the sex was absolutely phenomenal, but this woman really seemed to care for me, and it ripped my heart out to have to break things off with her. I was crazy about her, and she will always remain my favorite as I look back in time. My family threatened to disown me if I stayed with her, so I broke off the relationship. I think that my family might feel differently now in this day and age about me having a relationship with a black woman. Unfortunately for me, it’s too late. I’ve been married for over 20 years now to a white woman. However, being married has not stopped my yearn for black women. About 4 years ago, I met a black woman in a class I was taking while finishing up my Master’s degree. I have to tell you, I have never been so attracted to a woman in all of my life. She was so incredibly attractive in so many ways. She was beautiful, charming, and intelligent, and best of all, she really seemed to like me too! I felt just like a young man in my twenties again, only much better! In the end, I did not pursue the relationship outside of the classroom setting, because I was after-all a married man. During the earlier years of my marriage I did have a number of women friends. Over time they all drifted away. Today, my life is filled with responsibilities – my job is a challenge and is time consuming. My wife travels on business much of the time during the week, so I’m a part time single parent to two girls 5 and 7. I really am a very busy person, but my personal relationships have suffered as a consequence. I have endeavored to work on rebuilding friendships with women again, even if they remain nothing more than cyber relationships. I miss that experience that I have lost over the years. Finally, I would like to offer a word of encouragement for all of the white men and black women who want to connect together – to go ahead and reach for your dream. There has never been a better time to do so, so DO IT NOW! Trust me on this, you do not want to wind up like me, a man who has a lot going for himself, who nevertheless managed to squander his time, and who now finds himself approaching his sunset years, with little hope of realizing his true dreams.

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  14.   tmyers3 says:
    Posted: 26 May 08

    In response to the message below from HandsomeLustyBlackLad, what's the trouble with all black women thinking they are queens? We all are queens, even the fugly ones as you say. If it weren't for you mother being one you wouldn't be here to profess your affinity for buxom blondes! Comment by HandsomeLustyBlackLad on 23 May 2008: That’s the trouble with too many black women(ESPECIALLY the fugly ones):they ACTUALLY think they are queens.As for this handsome black 55-year-old(July 6)Canadian lad,I’m into buxom blondes!!!!!!

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  15.   tmyers3 says:
    Posted: 26 May 08

    In response to black-n-neva-goin-back's statement below in quotes. Please do not place all black women into one category because truth be told, most of us are not loud, brash, ghetto etc. just as you cannot say Africans relate more to white cultural behavior because you can't speak for all of them. I don't know where you're from but stereotyping against one particular group of people is just as bad as being racist. "The thing about African girls is that they completely lack the cultural attributes of African-American girls. So you don’t have to deal with a lot of the ghetto-ness and attitude that people attribute to “black women.᾿ African chicks relate more to white people since that is a more “normal᾿ cultural behavior to them. My girlfriend hates the loud mouth, ghetto BS that she sees African Americans spewing forth all the time. It makes her look bad just because she shares the same skin color as them."

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  16.   missthang100 says:
    Posted: 26 May 08

    All I have to say about the question in circulation: I am not a white man, so I can not respond why some of them like black women of different countries. I will say that we all have the bad and good in all ethinic backgrounds, that is just pure fact. No race is better than the next. We all are beautiful. Just look past a person's color and look inside their hearts, observe their behavior patterns, talk with them, listen to them, and then decide if that is the person for you. Love with your eyes closed and your ears opened as wide as they can be so you can get that feeling that tells you "this is right for me."

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  17.   BillinTO says:
    Posted: 25 May 08

    In all fairness I dated a black woman for over a year [I am a white male, mid 30's] and I actually never noticed her skin color. It was her I really liked we connected vry well, unfortunatley her family [not mine] were at odds with what was going on as I then proposed to her. We eventually broke up and sometimes feel she was my loss.

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  18.   BlaackGirl says:
    Posted: 25 May 08

    Cons to dating a black woman: we can only wash our hair once a week so often times when you try to get close you might get a wif of sweaty hair or if you try to run you fingers thru it your nails might get caked with dirt. But don't let that scare you off....black woman need love too!!! PS. blk wman use waterless shampoo btwn washes for fresh smelling hair!

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  19.   melody says:
    Posted: 25 May 08

    All very interesting. After watching two Tyra shows that seem to cast black women as undesirable it is refreshing to see the other side. I am a women of color and I have often wondered why there are so few white men dating black women, interracial dating commonly refers to black men with white women or white men with any race other than black. I have only had one experience of being approached by a white man and though he was fine, he approached me at a bus stop and asked me if I wanted a ride. I don't take rides from strangers no matter what color they are. Even though this happened over 20 years ago, I have wondered why if he was truly interested he did not get out of the car and approach me like a gentlemen. For the last 4 years I have lived in a predominately white commumity. This year marked the second anniversary that we celebrated MLK day with a performance at the high school. I am happy to say that the place was packed even though the people of color were few. The community leaders are proud of the growth toward understanding and embracing diversity. But since moving from the inner city I have not been approached by any man. The Indian and Asian are with each other, of course white are with white, and the black men are with white women. When I happen to be around a black man at a store or gas station that act as if I am not there pretty much the same for the white men as well. So where are the white men that are attracted to black women? A black male once told me a white coworker admitted he liked black women but he was afraid to speak to them. So if you are a white male and are attracted to ebony skin don't be afraid to speak up, but not from a car, we don't bit.

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  20.   Rayne says:
    Posted: 24 May 08

    Best of luck to you and her....guy..lol

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  21.   luckyguy says:
    Posted: 24 May 08

    I just started dating a black woman. We met comparing TVs in a store and the banter just kept going on and on and on. I called her later for a date and she said "I didn't see this coming." We talk a lot. She's very intelligent, very funny, good in her career and has a great deal of independence and spunk. I'm really amazed that this attractive woman even went out with me; I'm average looking and older (maybe 15 years and I'm over 55). But we connect. She just bowled me over. I looked up this site to find out what others have found out, not that it would bother either one of us.

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  22.   Rayne says:
    Posted: 23 May 08

    I am in a great relationship with a white man. We do not have any problems with our relationship but others do. And to be frank.... WE DO NOT CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK. We have decided to base our relationship on how WE feel. I am a good Black woman and he is a good white man. We met living across the hall in a apartment complex.

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  23.   CafeAuLait says:
    Posted: 23 May 08

    Tune into my show tonight as I will be discussing "Black Women Finding Love and Contentment Outside of Their Race." The show address is: www.blogtalkradio.com/LifeLoveAndEverythingInBetween

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  24.   HandsomeLustyBlackLad says:
    Posted: 23 May 08

    That's the trouble with too many black women(ESPECIALLY the fugly ones):they ACTUALLY think they are queens.As for this handsome black 55-year-old(July 6)Canadian lad,I'm into buxom blondes!!!!!!

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  25.   too2badboy says:
    Posted: 21 May 08

    I have been attracted to black women since I was 9 years old and spent my summers playing with black families that lived near my grandmother's home. Since I am 50, that was when it was taboo to mix socially, especially in S. Texas. I never had the nerve to ask a black woman out until I divorced in my mid 40's. I went out with one black woman and that is all I have dated or married since. Yes, it is physical and I do love the softer skin, the hair, the features but their is more to it. A black woman seems to take life with more humor and have a way of making life more enjoyable. I do not find every black woman attractive and some simply do not attract me. I have dated beautiful black women that I did not date but once, and less attractive ones that I came to think of as beautiful after I got to know them. The initial attraction to me is the blackness ( the darker the better) but once beyond that, it a cultural inner strength and beauty that holds me within that blackness. I see beautiful white women but I have little desire to be with them because I am thoroughly spoiled already beyond redemption and will never again go white. I could not really explain to a black woman why I prefer them over all other women. It is an internalized desire that eludes words and explanation. I simply like what I like. I have met several women from the islands and other hispanic countries and I love the lyrical, musical rhythms of their speech. I also find African women to be totally different from American black women. All these different cultures are fascinating and enjoyable to experience. I have no regrets and have no shame in revealing my preferences to others. If they cannot cope with it, it is their problem; I have accepted who and what my life is centered around.

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  26.   GodzDesign08 says:
    Posted: 19 May 08

    Color doesn't represent the love the a person has for someone. I am a well educated young lady that has decided to start dating outside of my race. I have been approached by white me in the past but have never to concern it until now. I would one day like to be married and I know that God has someone in store for me and I would not want to miss out on him due to it been simply because of someone's color.

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  27.   Jericko says:
    Posted: 18 May 08

    I'm a 46 yr. old male from an Native American and Irish back ground, I dated and married a very beautiful black women in 1985, in 87 we had a very beautiful baby girl, when she was 6 months old, her mother was killed by a drunk driver. My daughter is now 21, i have raised her to the very best of my abilties, when i look at her all i can see is my late wife standing there with her beautiful smile and laugh. I find it hard to believe that in this day and age, we still find it in our hearts to judge...Love shouldn't have boundries, if you find someone who touch's your heart, touch there's in return, regardless of race, the love of your life may only come once, so cherish it. I have yet to replace my wife, but when i do, she will be a beautiful black woman.

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  28.   Nakhasi says:
    Posted: 16 May 08

    i am a "traditional" young woman in some aspects, i was raised in the deep south with grandparents and sunday dinners, i was also exposed to racism and the small minded mentality of alot of white people. i just never got how these people couldnt see my humanity, they didnt get why i liked morrisey, the cure, the clash and all that and how i could still be "black" how i could have friends from all backgrounds and be black enough. i have often found myself connecting with the quirky white guy or 2, often starting out in our tastes in music or books or somthing and going from there, but after awhile i said, its not worth it. the man i am dating now happens to be white and jewish,he is the typical "brooklynite"! and i am a southern girl relocated in NYC. i am having fun just meeting people and i say if you connect with someone who respects you vice versa, thats a wonderful thing, because i find most people, regardless of race seem to be rather selfish. If someone makes you smile at the thought of them and brightens ur day go for it.

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  29.   greatunice says:
    Posted: 16 May 08

    i will tell you later

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  30.   jaeilah says:
    Posted: 09 May 08

    some of you white folks are not so great either but dont get me wrong im not saying i would pick a back man over a white man without tinking about it some black men are hot and some white men are hot and im a proud african american women whos educated im not a foul mouth so you hknow something some of you guys need to keep your comments to yourself.

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  31.   slyvia says:
    Posted: 09 May 08

    there lovely andnice.

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  32.   slyvia says:
    Posted: 09 May 08

    iwant whitemam.

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  33.   kevin says:
    Posted: 08 May 08

    I am a white jewish male dating a christian haitian female. We are very much in love and have been together for a few years now. You fall in love with someone because of who they are as a person not what their skin color is. My girlfriend is intelligent,well educated,beautifull and the sweetest and most sincere woman i have ever met. I Love and Cherish her with all my heart and she treats me like a king and I treat her like a queen. I could care less what people may think because in my eyes I have found a woman who would make an amazing wife.

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  34.   LadyNY says:
    Posted: 04 May 08

    My white husband says he’s attracted to Caribbean women. He is not attracted to black American women. It depends on what their type is.

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  35.   Janell says:
    Posted: 03 May 08

    PLEASE COMMENT This question is for white men who prefer black women. Does it matter which nationality this black women comes from? or is it the color of her skin that just attracts you? What do you think about dating a brown Hispanic women as oppose to African American Women? or is their no difference to you?

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  36.   Jay says:
    Posted: 02 May 08

    I'm a whilte man married to a beutiful black woman. I'll just say that she loves me with a deep intensity that I have never experienced with any white woman. I have known and been with other black women before I married my wife. My experience has been that black women just love more deeply and intensely. They just have something about them in that way that white women have no clue about. Jay

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  37.   LadyNY says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 08

    I am BLK and love my white bf. He is so secure and feels that the world is his. He doesn't stress about anything. Things always work out in his favor. He is very fun and exciting- loves trying new things! He shows me lots of attention and emotional support. He treats me with so much respect. I am lucky that in this cold disease infested world I found true love!

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  38.   SexyCool&Black says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 08

    Before you date someone outside of your race be prepared for your familiy, frends, co-workers and strangers to be against it. Make sure the person is worth the fight. You'll get lots of stares and attention. I'm black and my man is white. He couldn't believe that I have to wrap my hair every night or have to wear a shower cap or swim cap. So he learned lot about black women through me. I learned alot about the white race also. A white guy who has a relationship with a black women and treats her like a queen for all to see is a strong man!

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  39.   lali says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 08

    To Truth... I am an intelligent and kind African American woman who is hard-working and successful. I don't appreciate your negative stereotypes about american black women and African Americans. I was raised in a Christain home and I was not raised to be a racist. You need to understand that you cannot judge people by there race. In every race you have some very good people and some very evil people. Some of the best people I know are a different color that me, and I love them for who they are and not for what society says about them. Remember that we did not come to America by choice and we are a strong people that have rose beyond and are still rising beyond the circumstances. I think that you need to take time to meet some nice African American women and you next to watch the whole series of "Roots".

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  40.   jd says:
    Posted: 24 Apr 08

    I have been in love with a beautiful afghan since 10th grade in high school. I have told her time and time again that I would date her no matter what her religion is. I am a white christian but sometimes I sit and think about if I was ever given the chance to date her. She has told me I should convert to muslim but I don't know if that means she wants me to be muslim so that I can date her or if she is just trying to get me to believe in what she does. I want to ask her why but I don't know if I should. I will tell you though that when your parents tell you that you should only date your own race, it feels like they are robbing you of your rights to be who you want to be. I had so many chances with black women that I blew off because my family has been so controlling. I know now though that I won't let another pass by because life is too short and I want to live life to the fullest and I don't care what people think either.

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  41.   Dymeangel26 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 08

    I HAVE PICTURE OF ME ON YAHOO PACKER

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  42.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 08

    Hey all. Are there different web sites connected to this blog? If not why dont we all put the screen name that we have on the website so everyone can all be seen?

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  43.   Dymeangel26 says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 08

    I MEAN YOU HAVE A WAY I CAN CONNECT 2 YOU I HOPE YOU NICE LOOKING

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  44.   Black-n-neva'-goin'-back says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 08

    One thing I think a lot of people completely forget about is that "black" women are not just "African American" women. I am white and I have an African girlfriend. She lives in America so she is actually more of an African American than are blacks born in America, but I digress. The thing about African girls is that they completely lack the cultural attributes of African-American girls. So you don't have to deal with a lot of the ghetto-ness and attitude that people attribute to "black women." African chicks relate more to white people since that is a more "normal" cultural behavior to them. My girlfriend hates the loud mouth, ghetto BS that she sees African Americans spewing forth all the time. It makes her look bad just because she shares the same skin color as them. Personally, I think that ghetto crap is hot, and I like all black chicks as long as they are good looking. However, African chicks often have a more exotic look and I can tell you that some of them are smokin' hot, despite the misconceptions. I also like the fact that dating black chicks disempowers white women. I love the looks on their faces when they see me with a black girl. Then they wonder what is wrong with them that a nice looking white guy would turn to black women over them. Well I'll tell you why. Who would want to be with a pasty, stick figure with no back side? Black guys can have the white women, believe me. I certainly don't want them.

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  45.   lora says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 08

    I would like to get connected to a nice looking white man too.

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  46.   packer083 says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 08

    cool i would love to get to know you i dotn know really how to get your profl;ie up or something i dont use this site that often.

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  47.   Dymeangel26 says:
    Posted: 20 Apr 08

    hey packer i would love too get too know u

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  48.   Dymeangel26 says:
    Posted: 20 Apr 08

    hey packer i w3ould love too get too know so hit me up ok

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  49.   packer083 says:
    Posted: 20 Apr 08

    hey dyme angel26 i am a white guy im i just turned 18 i dont know if im to youinbg or something i know this has nothing to do with this topic but i am looking for a good black women. brandon

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  50.   packer083 says:
    Posted: 20 Apr 08

    hey dyme angel26 i am a white guy im i just turned 18 i dont know if im to youinbg or something i know this has nothing to do with this topic but i am looking for a good black women.

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