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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 11 Jan 10

    @Robs It's fine if you have ONE person or a thousand people supporting you on this board, that's really not addressing the frustration that you came on this board with in the first place. You will likely run into this problem time and time again. There are many who don't believe in God and those who do and are accepting of you not believing. I suggest you find those women. But please accept the reality that many black women have been exposed to christianity, religion,etc. You may have to face that. There are exceptions, find them. Have honest upfront conversations in the BEGINNING of the dating process about your beliefs and go from there. If you accepted, wonderful! If not move on. Finding love is a journey that takes time. That's all I'm saying. I'm not offended at all and I'm not trying to convert you, just trying to let you see how faith in God and religion are important in many people's decisions. Peace

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  2.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 11 Jan 10

    @Robs I just wanted to make one other point. You have no FAITH IN GOD as deity or his existence. But here's what the Bible says about that: "But now a righteousness from God, apart from law, has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. This righteousness from God comes through FAITH(emphasis mine)in Jesus Christ to all who BELIEVE(emphasis mine).There is no difference,for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus." Romans 3:21-24. So that is why I said you as an atheist, lack the first step to understanding any of this. This is why any woman who is a TRUE Christian won't settle for a man who is simply "moral". I often hear women say that's all they want but then again I didn't know if they were claiming to be christian women or not.

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  3.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 11 Jan 10

    Robs..... Have FAITH that at least one person here sees your posts objectively and IS NOT offended by your presence here.....ONE (or two) black people don't represent the whole board here (on this issue). But I do advise that you move on from this...it's on of those "circular subjects" that will have no end....kinda like Queens "making up shyt" tirades(but that is another story....LOL). Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  4.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 11 Jan 10

    edit: "No matter how accepting" is what I meant.

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  5.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 11 Jan 10

    @Robs YOUR FAITH is obviously not enough when it comes to dating people who believe in God. The reality is, faith in God is important to religious people. Atheism won't changed that. Faith in God is often apart of a believer's core value system.No how accepting you say you are to that person, you are rejecting something at the core of who they are and what they believe. There is nothing wrong with a person wanting to be in a relationship with someone who believes as they do. I don't know what the girl's religion is but obviously she agreed with her parents,possibly because deep inside she wanted someone who believes as she does. Maybe she just didn't want to be at odds with her parents, either way she made her choice. I am totally persuaded that the Holy Bible was written by men inspired by GOD and total FAITH that it is the TRUE WORD of GOD. GOD states clearly who he is. He is the FATHER and his son is Jesus. John 14:6, Jesus answered," I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. Again, I don't know her religion but the word of God is clear about who he is and what he came here to do. The Bible is his word to us about him so that we can know him better. Romans chaprter 1:28 verse says,"Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done." I suggest you read the Bible for yourself. I only put some scriptures because I have to get to the point of them due to lengthiness and not just picking out verses that support my point. If you read the entire passage you would see that it's consistent. Peace

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  6.   Robs says:
    Posted: 11 Jan 10

    I'll say it again. I was frustrated after the fact. I probably summed it up when I said I lost the "one" because of religion. I said in my second post on here that this girls parents loved me, and wanted me to be their son in law, and upon discovering my atheism, completely changed their mind. This girl was accepting of me. She asked me "Do you believe in God" and I took a deep breath waiting for the rejection and said "No I do not" she must have detected my hesitation because she said the best thing anyone's ever said to me she said "Robert, I don't agree with you, but I know you are very intelligent, and that your reasons for not believing must be good ones." She was celibate. I was okay with that. I respected her beliefs. She said guys of faith had run away when she told them that. She said the nicest things like "I've been praying to God for you to come to me for so long...You are the answer to my prayers!" I didn't believe that, but I was touched nonetheless. And the fact that it didn't work out may be proof that it wasn't true. And I do have FAITH. I have FAITH that God won't care that I never believed in her (If God were to exist I'd think it to be female or sexless) I have FAITH that the Bible was written by men and later modified who had no authority on the matter. Like I said, everybody rejects 1000s of the Gods human kind has dreamed up in the past 100,000 or longer years. I just believe in one less. I don't care that people believe. I just care that people care that I don't.

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  7.   Scoff/Sarah says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 10

    Ichibod Excellent, very well put Thank You Scoff

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  8.   MustangDave says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 10

    How about more about the dating stuff and less about religion. For me personally, religion is like race..it doesn't matter to me what your religion is as long as your as good to me as I will be to you..

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  9.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 10

    Jesus was a carpenter. He was referred to as Rabbi, Master, and teacher because he was an expert of the law. After all, He was the author of it. He was not married, which wasn't unsual for a person chastened for a mission. Pharisees were not married, and neither we're any of the disciples, which is one of the factors in them being chosen. Jesus is Jesus in the Koran, they just regard him as a prophet and see it as an insult to say God would bear a son with a woman. That's were they lack perspective. God is no perv, Jesus just needed a body. Islam was offically started around 620 AD. A church in Antioch called themselves "Christians" around 34 AD. However, the faith of both started with the coventnant between God and Abraham over a millennium before then. If a man declared himself a prophet in 2010, ofcourse we'de should laugh in his face. I heard a preacher on the radio yesterday say that he would run if that happened. The prophets of old spoke of the Messiah. Jesus spoke of no one else but The Father. I don't understand the purpose of people always mentioning that Jesus was a jew. He could have been Chinese for all I care, "Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me." Jesus had no religion, he just did what pleased His father. Jesus said (Mark 2:27-28) The sabbath was made was made for man, and not the man for the sabbath. Therefore the Son of man is Lord also of the sabbath." The sabbath was apart of the laws given to the Hebrews. The sabbath wasn't a day, but a set of holy ordinances. The "seventh day" could have been any day seeing as though people generally worked 6 days in a row. You have the rest. The Julian calender (Sunday thru Saturday, Jan thru Dec) didn't even exist at that time. If going to church on Sunday is a sin, then Christians, Catholics, and Muslim are sinning for not keeping a feast unto God 3 times a year or sowing the land for 6 years and resting the 7th year (Exodus 23). The apostle Paul made it clear to Peter that that was not our yoke to bear. Jesus made it clear to the Pharisees "For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all." This is where sifting through laws that don't apply to us get us. A lot of self righteous "what I'm doing is better than what you're doing". We have access to the laws to better understand our God. People who don't read the Bible all the way through miss all of the detailed history of ancient lands, people, practices, and customs that are already in there. I know history. The reasons for church being on Sunday have more political and pagan roots than the specualtion of the Apostles' rationale and show to have started around 135 AD in Rome. I could see Peanut, Lady Dee, and Otherbrother's points, doesn't mean they don't stand to be corrected. Everyone's entitled to there opinion, however opinions are formulated by ideas than can be based on truth or fallacy. Which makes a person's opinion worth jack squat and potentially dangerous to anyone within earshot that's easily influenced or persuaded. It's not a matter of whether faith or religion is attacked. I mean, for real? What happens when a black women starts flaunting her insatiable desire for a white man while slinging insults at black men on a blog and how it looks on and affects us all? I'm sure you can understand that. My faith is more important than my race. I'm not angry... sadden if anything to see or hear from a wayward soul. But to each one, teach one. I see the dirty, homeless guy with a piece or cardboard in his hand, and I give him some bills that I would most likely piss away on a box Nerds or Black and Milds. Certainly I can share the gift of God with someone for free. It's really the only thing free in this world. Okay, change subject quick. Trust me, I can go on for days. Many of my posts are being deleted anyway. Let's see how long this stays up.

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  10.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 10

    L.Queens Yep, it was as simple as that. I notice the liberalness of the liberals, LOL. They tend to be TRULY open in their views and that seems to include dating. The truth is though ,in dating you have to be discriminating. "Northeast and California", LOL. It's more like the conservative South and Ohio, LOL. Peace

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  11.   Member says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 10

    Dear Big Eyes I agree. His "opinion" is his relationship ended over "religion". There is always two sides to a story. I believe he might have been "troubled" with her commitment to her religion. Than the other way around. This country is more conservative and religious than people know. In my opinion, most atheists are liberal overall in their views of everything. Not everything revolves around the "Northeast and California". I think some atheists just don't understand that. I think his belief system and the black woman he was with belief system 'clashed".

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  12.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 10

    Edit:the correct spelling is atheism.

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  13.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 10

    Mr. L Queens I didn't feel that he attacked my religion at all,but he seemed not to want to accept the very real possibility that the black women he is being rejected by, believe in Christ or God and do not want to date or be in a relationship with him because of his athiesism. He admittedly said he lost the woman he felt was the "one" because he didn't believe in God and she did. He seemed more angry and defensive about Christianity than I did about athiesism. He seems steadfast in his unbelief and seems frustrated that the woman he lost was steadfast in her faith??? People can believe or not believe however they choose. I have absolutely no problem with it. I simply offered a reason as to why he was getting the responses he was getting from the black women that he encountered. There will always be exsuses and or reasons why people don't and won't accept Christ but he seemed to be frustrated with those who do. Peace

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  14.   Member says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 10

    Dear Ich and Bigeyes I am willing to look at the point of view of an atheist. I knew this reaction would happen. He never attacked your religion. Both of you got real defensive about it with all due respect. The bible was written by "men" allegedly inspired by god. I am a seventh day adventist. My grandparents, my parents are all in this faith. Essentially they believe in Jesus but worship on Saturday. Many people go to church on Sunday due to Jesus being resurrected on a Sunday. If we was to go strictly off scripture you are worshiping on the wrong day, which is a sin. Now people argue and say "as long as you believe in jesus it does not matter". Cool with me, fine. The Koran is similar to the bible. They believe in Jesus but call him another name in the bible. I am no expert on the Koran. But the difference in their religion they don't need an intermediary to talk to God. The Catholics have the "Pope". Baptists have ministers and pastors. The Koran is very much to the point. My point is people interpret religion from their own point of view. People used religion to justify segregation. People used religion to kill Jews in Germany. People used religion to justify why they are wealthy and their "congregation" is not (i.e Creflo Dollar and Joel Osteen). Religion keeps the "poor or struggling" masses hopeful and unaware. Most people go to church to "gain something". If I pray " I will get out of this hole or problem". Ask somebody if they go to church when they are always doing well. They will say " You know what I was struggling but now I am good. Thank god". Interesting, how about being in church when things are good ALL the time. Lastly, you shouldn't worship god over "fear". The last days are coming so I want to "get in good". This antichrist talk and etc. I believe in revelations but the Antichrist will not make you aware who is. In the scripture the Antichrist will get credibility with a politician. This person will be able to perform miracles too. Miracles could mean anything. He could be a physician who found cures for ailments. But see when you watch television they give you the sinister music and the brim stone of the devil. I can understand an atheist point of view. Christianity has not been around longer than the Islamic religion. Jesus was Jewish. If a man was declare that he was a "prophet" in 2010 you would laugh in his face. It is no different than what happened back then. Hardly anybody believed he was the son of god. Jesus was a 31 year old Jewish teacher. That was never married, which was unusual for "those times". The "lost years" of Jesus (when he was in his 20s) was not documented. People speculate he traveled to different "lands". Nobody knows for sure. You have to study the custom and history of those times, as well as the bible. People read scripture but don't read history. By the way, Jesus did exist that is documented. They don't know if he was "divine". That is why some Jews don't believe in Jesus.

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  15.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 10

    I don't know how far up on this thread you read when Robs first posted but this began with a simple reasoning on my part as to why he was being rejected by black women when they find out he is an aethiest. I was preparing to get into debate with him but sometimes I go with discernment,which says not this one. I don't question, I obey. I read, study and live by the word of God and feel as if I could have taken up the "gauntlet". "No, not this one". Relationship with God is one of "FAITH", choices, redemption, and repentance. "Without faith it is impossible to please God". You must first "BELIEVE", aethiest lack that first step. Like you said, you are 31 years deep in your studies;the aethiest I was met on this site admitted that he never read the bible because he says he couldn't understand it. This man, by his own admission was influenced by some bizarre things in his past,but yet he steadfastly REFUSED to even consider the bible. I argued the points, gave him the scriptures, reasons, so to the point of a heated debate, the heat mostly from him I might add.It was fruitless. Finally, I allowed discernment instead of reasoning to lead and simply told him about "how" to receive Christ. Funny, things calmed down, the storm subsided and I realized that sometimes that's all God wants us to do. If I read the word, have God's holy spririt and a willingness, I am MORE than equipped to debate with aethiest. Peace

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  16.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 10

    I understand, Bigeyes. I'm 31 years deep in my studies. I'm ready to take on any person who is only a few poorly comprehended verses shallow in their's. Romans 1:28 "And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient..." You just won't be able to save everyone.

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  17.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 10

    Well said Ichibod! I'm glad you had the energy. I just couldn't take it on . This is not my only encounter with athiests. I met one on this site and had to end it because of his athiestic beliefs and I just was not up to arguing the bible or my faith again on this site.I simply told him about the way to salvation and ended the debate.It got heated on his end. I have already resigned to the truth of without FAITH no man can please GOD. No matter what answer I give they will have an argument that justifies their unbelief. Good job. Peace

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  18.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 10

    Mr Queens, I wish more people who called themselves Christians actually had a true relationship with God. 1 Peter 3:15 "But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready ALWAYS to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear." None of those points were valid. They just echo all the things that non-believers have been saying for centuries and have been countered. They read other books thoroughly and advise others to do so, yet they never read the Bible thoroughly. Also, they say something isn't true but never say what it is that they claim not to be true nor can they reference where it came from. In high school, we learned that research papers required sources, footnotes, endnotes, books titles, chapeter and page numbers, authors, publishers, and other annotations for the research to be consider valid or credible. Athiest arguments contain none of these when referring to anything read in the Bible. They probably don't understand it because it's not for them. It's for people who already believe. If a peson of faith never talks about it, then they really have no faith. "Fatih without works is dead." Athiests believe that belief in God is no different than a belief in Santa Claus. In a relationship, they beg the question why one can't just say "tom-ay-to" and the other say "tom-ah-to". Every apsect of life is supposed to be based on your faith. If an athiest had a supposed Christian girlfriend, did they have sex? Did she explain John 3:16-17 to him? If a person is a Christian, they have no choice but to look out for the condition of your soul. Don't be deceived, brother. I remember this one athiest tried to ask all the Christians and Catholics here to explain how religion might have something to do with racism or some other stupid stuff. I'm glad no one gave him the time of day. I have to quit now or else this post will end weighing a Gigabyte. I study this everyday. I put my life on this as every Christian should. It pains me to see how many of my brothers and sister and not epuipped or simply unmotivated to truly witness for the most high. Luke 9:26 "For whosoever shall be ashamed of me and of my words, of him shall the Son of man be ashamed..." I've always wondered why, throughout time, God comes under more scrutiny than Satan. The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world that he didn't exist.

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  19.   Member says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 10

    (Eating popcorn) "random white male comes in with HONEST answer to the question…. (select few) black male has something negative to say (because he has an “issue” with black women simply being admired by white men…because as far as I know you can’t actually HAVE sex in this blog….lol….so all that “black women getting used for sex” noise needs to get killed in here)" Oh really, White man says " I have a white wife but I always been interested in sticking my penis in black women". " I wanted to do this my whole life and I told my white wife about it". LOL At least he is honest. Maybe I am being too negative here. You can't have sex on a blog but you can arrange too. But get mad when you get turned down. I have to go because she won't tattoo that on her forehead. LOL

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  20.   Scoff/Sarah says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 10

    Religion & the Black Lady: Very interesting comments,is their an end to a arguement concerning religion? Not really, each person has their own reason's for believing what they believe. Religion is argument with not starting point, and no ending. Having said that, I think this type of dialogue is very healthy, as it expands ones views. Thanks to all of you who commented Blessings to all Scoff

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  21.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 10

    You know, I have watched many of the responses of this brand-spanking NEW YEAR....AND I have noticed something (actually it's been going on WAAAAY longer than that but ya know,...)... Here is the basic banter that goes on.... random white male comes in with HONEST answer to the question.... (select few) black male has something negative to say (because he has an "issue" with black women simply being admired by white men...because as far as I know you can't actually HAVE sex in this blog....lol....so all that "black women getting used for sex" noise needs to get killed in here) random black woman (or even at times just other WOMEN/SISTERS) feels the need to defend her own honor. REPEAT REPEAT REPEAT REPEAT......... Every once and awhile there will be a truly intelligent or inspiring dialogue going on here but due to certain "factors" (read: internet "trolls and imps" that jump into the bodies of otherwise intelligent or inspiring people) it usually doesn't last too long.....such is the balance. JUST AN INDEPENDENT OBSERVATION I know this is basically just entertainment but at times it wears thin with all the negativity. I mean, that type of humor is only funny for so long. And sometimes people don't say things because THEY ARE BETTER LEFT UNSAID....("if you don't have anything nice to say.....). Alot of times in here I don't respond DIRECTLY to a person because I simply don't agree with everything they have to say. I may point out something SPECIFICALLY that they said that struck a cord but not much more. Then at other times I might go DIRECTLY FOR THE JUGULAR because that is the "tactic of the day" and in the end, this is just a diversion for many. All in all this is a COMMUNITY....and that is what keeps me coming back..... Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  22.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 10

    Robs.... I like your perspective....and there is a book you might want to check out, if you hadn't already. It's called The G.O.D. Experiments by Gary E Schwartz, Ph.D. It's a really great, eye-opening read....not what I expected at all (from the cover). And the author offers a list of other "good books" (lol) for the reader to investigate...some support his theories and others do not; that impressed me. Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  23.   Member says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 10

    Thanks Bigeyes My blog is a mix of entertainment and things people really want to say but "they won't say it". Mr Rob You make good points and this discussion can go forever. You did better research on me. I am a bit lazy. But back to the topic, most black women are religious. I mean you can get upset at most African Americans or even Africans for being religious. Europeans introduced religion to the "darker people". In the hopes, it would make us civilized. I don't think you ever been a black church. Black people still old negro spirituals in 2010. They just don't notice it. I would know because I grew up in the church. I mean old school with the "hard benches" and the bibles with the blue eyed baby Jesus in it. For those who think I am racist. I have some Mormon guys over my house all the time. It is damn shame these young men will visit me more than black minister every visited in 31 years of my life. Regardless if you like the Mormon religion. You have to respect people that are dedicated at their beliefs. Rob I don't think you should look for a black woman is non religious. Black women will tell you have they men that "will not go to church" and they grew up in the church. They just want you to make an effort to understand their religion and why it is important to them. Half of black women husbands go to church "off and on". It is really not the issue. It seems like the religious aspect bothers you more than the black woman. Good day.

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  24.   Robs says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    I meant "that's NOT all there is to my life of course" lol

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  25.   Robs says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Mr Laurelton Queens, Sure religion had it's purpose, and very well may still have its purpose for certain people. Let me say that it again it may VERY well have its purpose. But that doesn't make its teachings true. I don't believe in "survival of the fittest," I believe in natural selection. Charles Darwin coined the term natural selection, and never agreed with his co-discoverer of evolution, Alfred Russell Wallace, who coined the term "survival of the fittest." And Darwin was right! That's probably why nobody knows about Wallace, but his term lives on is often misconstrued with being the same as natural selection. I understand your desperation for an answer on the unique personalities and emotions of humans. It's natural that we all want answers. Since evolution was just a mere hypotheses shy of 200 years ago, we have learned so much about it that it's now a solid theory. And yes, theory means fact, real, actual! Look it up if you don't believe me. The way people playfully use the word "theory" like "I have a theory that blah blah..." they actually mean hypotheses. I'm just saying that in general. I know you understand that Mr LQ. Anyway, qualified scientists would all tell you if you asked them the origin of your personality, they'd say it's in your genes, in your DNA, which came from your parents. Genetics is incredibly complicated, and we've known about it for such a short time. In science, it's okay to say "I don't know...But I am confident we will know!" Religion always seems to be spoutin' out the answers, and so many people seek these answers. I don't think it's the best argument to say "You can't tell me...so that's evidence that there must be a higher power!" That's what Richard Dawkins refers to as "The God of the Gaps." God lives in all the gaps that science has not yet explained, as science closes the gaps, God of the Gaps's home gets a little bit smaller. And to get back on topic...I had a girlfriend of faith for nearly 3 years. It was an interfaith, interracial relationship. How did we manage? It was simple, we just never talked about it. Now I obviously have a GREAT interest and great knowledge in this subject, and I would have loved to share that with the person I was closest to, but that's all there is to my life of course. She was my Girlfriend of the Gaps so to speak :) Peace.

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  26.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Hey Mr.L Queens, Thanks. I have been visiting your blogs for months and I found them interesting. You have some news stories I didn't know about!! I like it. You make some execellent points too. Always funny. Peace

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  27.   Member says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Dear Robs I use to read Greek Mythology as a kid. Apollo and etc. It did have a good story line. I guess you can say the Bible and Quran is the same way. But I don't see people worshiping Greek Mythology. You make a good point. I don't know much about atheists. I have heard some PHD Professors make some good arguments. One was on Bill Orielly and said " What makes you think you can dictate to people how they live because you believe in Jesus Christ". The same goes for the Islamic religion. We really don't separate church from "state". You make some compelling points about religion. But did you ever think without religion we could still be in the 'dark ages". Survival of the fittest like the Vikings, Goths, and Barbarians. Not saying violence wouldn't happen if we all believed in religion. But if there was no religion, where would society be "now"? Laws originally were based off religion and "self interests". The forefathers of this country construed laws for their best interest. Only wealthy white males could own land and etc. In conclusion Atheists and Religious people can get an understanding if they don't take it personally. You can argue some religious people and they will straight flip out if you question them about "no god being present or Jesus". Literally, just ignore you. I am not that way. If you can't explain to me how people have unique personalities and emotions that science cannot explain than there must be a higher power present. You can go back thousands of years and you see paintings or markings showing "people" fearful of something "higher above". The Inc Empire and Aztec Empires. Sorry I ain't bother research. Just going off the top of my head. Good day.

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  28.   Robs says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Mr. Laurelton Queens, That culture barrier may be present with old folks but with us young kids I'd say it's pretty much nonexistent. I've dated African girls FROM Africa and seriously they're was no culture barrier to be found. I had no problem connecting with them. Any reason they didn't last was because of any other reason most relationships don't. An even better argument that atheists present is that one cannot pick what religion they are born and raised into. Why weren't you born a Jewish? Muslim or Buddhist? Also, EVERY body are Atheists in terms of hundreds and thousands of Gods. I'm pretty sure you don't believe in Apollo or Zeus Atheists just believe in ONE less God than everybody else. It's also false to state that for evolution to occur there must be a higher power. It's been shown that evolution is autonomous. The information (and evidence) is all out there in books for anybody willing to read up on it and truly understand it, instead of just listening to word on the street about all the MANY MANY false assumptions about evolution. I've read the Bible and the Qu'ran, Now I wish people would read MY books. Feel me? I'm sorry to say, it's a lot of reading because of the mountains of evidence and awe inducing aspects of evolution through the non-random process of natural selection. Yeah, it's hard to explain those feelings and the uniqueness of human intelligence, but there are some pretty interesting hypotheses made on that topic. Also, there are probably countless planets out in the universe that have life on it that never reached intelligent life forms like humans. Think of all the planets that are only filled with plants and no animals in sight! How boring you might say! It's no wonder you've come into existence and able to contemplate how it's possible that everything around you is just right in order for you to exist! Cuz if things weren't just right, you'd be the last to know because you wouldn't be here to think about it! Btw, I really like Mr L-Q's story on Sheila Dixon. She's scum to us here in Baltimore. We never wanted her in the first place. Somehow she got re-elected just cuz she's black. Now we're stuck with Stephanie Rawlings-Blake. Peace

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  29.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Look DAFFY!!!....I am about to let you in on something...YOU KNOW ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ABOUT ME. I don't NEED a "clique" here or in the real world. I am and probably always will be a loner. Yet, unlike you, I don't need people to agree with me to validate my views. I don't have to speak with every individual female/person in here for them to know that we are a definite part of a SISTERHOOD/COMMUNITY/"FAMILY". SOMETHING THAT I KNOW YOU CAN'T EVEN FATHOM....the temrmial cynic that you obviously are. AZ was NEVER my man....LMAO. Whatever went on with him and any other woman in here is none of my business.....PERIOD. AND LIKE I SAID BEFORE, we all have witnessed the mental state of that dude so I don't even feel the need to address that nonsense from here on out. And as far as you "hardly being on this site", how come you have two responses in the same dayum day??? SEEMS LIKE YOU ARE ON HERE WAAAAY TOO MUCH and your "relationship" more than likely suffers for it...lol. Your "concern" for black women seems to not be the SOLE motivating factor here. You know, you really would do a whole lot better in here if you left my name out of things...especially when it comes to fabricating "grudges" and "loose" sexual morals. These seem like issues you might personally grapple with but not all women/people are like YOU!!! GET OVER THAT!!! (and tattoo that on your AZZ!!) Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  30.   2juicy4u says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Hello everyone, I'm new to the blog and you guys have some extremely interesting posts and make excellent points especially you Mr. Laurelton.

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  31.   Member says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Dear Edub Can there be successful interracial relationships? Absolutely, no will they last? I highly doubt it. The cultural barrier is simply to much. Now if you want to be a sex toy for a 66 year old white man that is "not committing you" specifically but you think "older white men" do it all the time. Then you are a serious delusional black woman. I am a Christian, Seventh Day Adventist 2 generation. This is what I was born into. I think some atheists make the argument that people often don't stick to their faith so why even "have a religion". True enough we got hypocrites. But that is religion, it is filled with hypocrites. You can only ask for forgiveness and try to be better in the future. As for the science argument. I do believe in evolution but for evolution to occur. There must be some type of higher power. Science can't explain why every human being has different personalities. They can't explain "emotion", they even discovered that animals have emotions and experience grieving. Science can't explain "compassion". Hey Big Eyes you looking good girl, no wonder Tatt still holds a grudge against you. See, these sellout black women act like I don't pay attention. Ever since Big eyes tried to Tatt man, she don't talk to her. But she will TALK to every other woman on the board. Looking for a clique. I explain this mindset in my new blog "DYNASTY" The Sheila Dixon Story You can dream hard but reality is! Off the Dynasty Blog Album. http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  32.   E_Squared says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Hmmm, I am in a similar predicament Robs. I basically don't conform to any single religion and I believe that at the core of each religion it is pretty much the same fundamental teaching and belief. If I had to say that I was part of a religion it would have to be Buddhist. Unfortunately, Buddhism or having no religious affiliation is not highly compatible with the brainwashed populace of the United States.

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  33.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Ooops, Going to the places I mentioned requires committment. BWs are just looking for dates.

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  34.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    @Robs Good luck my man! Peace

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  35.   Robs says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Yeah bigeyes. I totally agree with ya on the last bit there. That's what its all about. And I'm really bitter because I have found 'the one' but one little obstacle is all it took to derail it. I really hate to be a negative nancy, and I hate rainin' on parades, but atheism truly is on the rise. It's pretty much agreed upon that atheists will one day be the vast majority in the whole world. in year 2200, perhaps even later than that, people will be saying "remember when people believed in God and Jesus Christ?" Now if youre very religious, you can believe that all the people in the future are lost and will be going to hell and maybe even that that is when the return of Christ will come. But please make no mistake, you cannot say you don't believe this is going to happen. Because it's happening. I'm just trying to make atheism more acceptable in MY lifetime because I know my life is all I have. Any cute black atheists hit me up ;)

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  36.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Yeah Rob that's how it is. I think you just have to keep trying. I'm just trying to make the point that there are so many who are as strong in their belief as you are strong in your disbelief. You keep running into believers. I know that sounds like some circular logic, lol but hey. You seem like a nice guy and deserve to be with someone who sees and appreciates that. I don't think your color should have anything to do with how much you can contribute. You just have to find that black woman or whatever color who will accept you as you are. That then sir, puts you in the boat with rest of us searching for that man/woman who will do just that.

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  37.   Robs says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    @bigeyes I will lose my malicious atheist pride! sike. You think I haven't tried that? Lol Really what's most offensive to me is when people say that only someone with faith can have a good foundation of morals. The Ten Commandments to me is stating the obvious. What if instead, one of the commandments was "Thou shalt eat 10 babies" and that was truly God's wish? I think I may be more likely to believe because I'd be like wow I really need some help with my moral foundation because that's not how I feel at all. Also, I've made it through trying times without the help of God. Never asked for his help a day in my life. I made it through the old fashioned way... by failing...making mistakes... and suffering the consequences of my actions or non-action, and then learning from it. God helps those who help themselves? Well I help me...so I help myself. There are plenty of black atheists. I've dabbled in the black atheist movement. I can't do much cuz I'm just a white boy... but there are way more than you'd think cuz it's such a pain in the @$$ to come out of the closet. One black man said to me "In my community, it's more acceptable to be a criminal and believe in God, than it is to say 'I'm atheistic in my beliefs'...ain't that somethin?"

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  38.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    @Robs Try praying to him and not about him,LOL. Ask him to help your unbelief. What will you lose if you try??

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  39.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    And guess what, he will mess over them too, waaaaaay over and down there. LOL

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  40.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    @Robs You are funny! Just hold on man, you will find her, LOL. I keep telling you what you have to do.You are very young. You have time to find the one for you. Just date and have fun. You shouldn't have to be concerned with religion and faith, politics and such unless you are in a serious relationship closing in on marriage. Both parties need to know this information about the other in this case. But if it's just dating, just have fun. Peace

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  41.   Robs says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    bdsista I am in the DC/MD area and I am a 22 year old white male. I strictly date black. It'd be the best thing ever if I could find a young girl that's going to be as successful as you. bigeyes Yeah I could see how you get that vibe from me because the relative anonymity of a website caused me to lash out my frustration in hopes of being heard I guess. I'm no where near like that in person, and I never belittle. It's only after rejection do I get those kinds of feelings for that individual. I mean, it's only natural. It's offensive to my beliefs! It hurts! It's not something I can help! I just believe that way! It's not fair. I'm soooo accepting of whatever someone believes and I am faced with total rejection because of my beliefs and it's almost as if it's socially acceptable for them to feel that way about me. Trust me, the brick wall is hit the moment i utter "I'm an atheist." I don't lie about it, I don't tip-toe, I'm not ashamed of it. Not all Atheists are the same. Some are incredibly moral like me. The the kids didn't call me "the angel" and "goody two shoes" growin up cuz I was a Godless heathen. Even then, I was an atheist. Since about the age 5 when I learned that not believing in God was an option (like Santa Clause who I gave up believing in at 2) my mind made its decision and never went back. Couldn't believe if I tried. It frustrates me that Barack Obama is most likely almost freakin' certainly an atheist but I can't claim victory in having an atheist president like blacks claim victory having their black president because he'll never admit it. And if he did he wouldn't have a fireballs chance in hell at being president if he hadn't lied about it. I long for that day when Atheists like me are accepted. I'm not even spiritual. I'm just a really serious young man, with serious plans and goals for life, and a good sense of humor and you'd never know I was an infectious Godless heathen unless you asked me, in which I'd stop being such a freakin' sinner for once and I'll tell you straight up and honestly, that I am. Funny thing is, I've wished there was a God, hoped there was a God, even prayed there's a God if that makes sense. I really hope I'm wrong. I really felt like if I died and went before God we'd have a good laugh over it and be welcomed in before a lot of believing Christians I know. But not a fiber of my being believes anything close to that will happen when I die. Peace.

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  42.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    BTW, Black American men can go to Ethiopia, Peru, Columbia, Phillipines and hit "top dead center" on a younger woman who is beautiful, slender, naturally long hair, Christian (Catholic or Orthodox Christian though). Since you have followed black men to assimilation in relations and marriage with whites................. Might want to get up to date and follow them black men to the regions I mentioned around the world too!!!

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  43.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    @paula99 that's the truth. I don't go around thumping bibles or anything but like you said how can I NOT share what got me over the hump and the bumps of life? I just can't. I just find it easier to talk to a man who also can share how his faith in God got him through. I think people think that Christian women can't be fun or free-thinkers simply because they don't see themselves as the be-all,end-all of everything.

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  44.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    bdsista.. i like dating older whitemales. but they are not reluctant to settle down into marriage. and you have to realize you have to approach them differently then the now generation of young whitemales who don't give a shit what somone thinks... kudos to them. but my lover is 66 looks like he is 59.. he is in great shape. and sex is good. believe me. younger men bother me for some reason. lol... i like to look at a fine homosapien every now and then. but being involved i been there done that. but i will never say never. because you never know.

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  45.   e-dub says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Dear Mr. Queens; Could you please elucidate on your disagreement? Is the premise of the question or do I just plain think I’m hallucinating when I think there can be successful black woman/white man marriage? Just curious Dear Mr. Robs; My advice is the same, date the woman not the color. It seemed to me the primary quality you were looking for was a person who wasn’t religious or preferably an atheist. Statistically, speaking black people in this country are much more likely to go to church then white people so it seemed to me you were bucking the tiger’s odds. (Not impossible but why make life any more difficult then it has to be.) Secondly, it seemed to me that you had this preconceived notion of what a black woman was and I’ve seen too many relationships/marriages fail when someone doesn’t live up/down to the stereotype. My dad gave me one piece of advice when we were getting married. A lot of people aren’t going to like what you’re doing from both side of color line make sure it’s worth it. It is! It is but I’ve seen more than one black/white relationship fail because they went into because it was risqué, or the ever popular I’m not racist, I dated a black woman or in one case a guy (white) dumped his black girl friend because she wasn’t black enough because he was expecting a ghetto fab life – what an idiot. So getting back to the point Mr. Robs—if you’re lucky enough to find a woman who can make you want to go work when you would rather stay in bed and watch cartoons grab it hold it tight and never let it go no matter what color it comes in. Now that, I've muddied the waters have a good night and take care e-dub

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  46.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    here, here bdsista!!... by the way. bigeyes. listen men has always fought with god. you know this. i understand i want a man with morals , who half way sane and the likes. but men run from strong women that let you know the measure of that kind of man. i do not have time to babysit. spiritualality is a process. one thing that does turn guys off is talking about god all day or everytime you met.. not saying you do. but i find people have to walk their own path. they think your trying to convert them. your just sharing what god done for you in your life. you have to believe in something that what got me over the hump many a day.

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  47.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Sorry, I disagree with not being able to benefit from what I help to create. My faith in Christ tells me differently. I won't accept a defeatist mentality. Peace

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  48.   bdsista says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    This is the most bizarre thread I have ever read, but anyway, I haven't dated a white guy since the 80's, not that I am not open, but ran into the usual, love you but can't bring you home to meet my racist parents, (even if you are a lawyer). So despite my being an "American success story" still not good enough to meet June Cleaver. Got on here because I do diversity training and post on a lot of IR blogs and have been called out on my personal lack of IR experience. I would seriously like an answer to the question posted and I would like to hear it from white men. In the DC/MD area, young white men seem to be more open to IR dating, but older white men still seem to be afraid to ask a girl out. I would suggest that plenty of Black women would say yes to something really simple like drinks and appetizer/tapas if you would just ask. Heck I had a first date over coffee end up being dinner and closing the restaurant because we wanted to talk so much. I have not had a lot of experience dating white guys and I am open and interestingly have only dated one Hispanic guy who was separated from his wife and whined about it all night. (They reconciled btw). So, tell me why do white men love black women? We certainly could use love.

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  49.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    @Robs You're welcomed. I can understand your frustration but from the other angle. It's sooo difficult for me to find a cute guy who is a christian. Most all seem to kind to live their lives devoid of the ways of the Bible and the pattern that Jesus set. Or when was I actually trying on this site, their profiles would read "spirtual but not religious". My faith is totally in Christ and I would like for my man's to be also. As I said before, it might be hard but not impossible to find a black woman who doesn't believe in God and willing to accept a man who doesn't either. Don't lie about it please because then you're endangering trust then. Just let them know that you don't believe but if her faith is important to her you will attend services with her. You will have a fair compromise and win points with her at the same time. Btw don't insult or belittle the bible, her faith and insinuate that she can't think for herself if she has faith in someone(God)greater than herself. Your post kinda sounded that way. If I picked that up, that might be an indication of why your hitting a brick wall. I'm just trying to help. Peace

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  50.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Well, BW's where is your alternative. We know it is desired that the alternative have Christian values. Where in this world does your alternative exist. American men are known as limited-to-visual suitors. American women may be known as income-education partner seeking. Gotta find an alternative place in the sun where men are color blind, look beyond the external beauty of a woman, are educated, can come to your town and make a good stable income, and go to church each Sunday. You have to create that. Create it in your town or city. The tough thing is........................... You will not create it early enough to benefit you............ You can only create it unselfishly for the next generation of BWs. Like your female black ancestors did in the generations prior to you.

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