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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 09

    Urlover6: "The problem with my generation is not about IR dating, but when will Black Women open up their options"? I think the REAL question is, when will white men open up theirs? White men want Asian and Hispanic women, most do not want a black woman, for numerous and various reasons. Also, not enough black men for black women. That's why they are single.

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  2.   Kendall says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 09

    Eddie; HA HA HA, you are right on point!! I recall The Old Master sneaking out of the Big House when his Wife was asleep or wasn't asleep and would come to the back slave cabins to have his perverted sexual fantasy with our Black Great-Great Grandmothers. Just as today, We are everything less in his eye site but at night he rides his Big Pretty Car through our Black Neighborhoods/Ghettos (late at night) in the USA looking for dope, Drugs and Sex (from Black Women or Black Men) and the police doesn't even stop him, just tells him to leave and be careful and return to the suburbs to you White wife and kids. Let my Black Ass get lost in an all "Exclusive White USA neighborhood", I am questioned, handcuffed, etc. And there are a lot of them same Under cover racist Whites who are on this website, have a fantasy about Black Women but they will never introduce you to all of their family, co-workers of friends. They usually give the Black Women a little money a little gifts and expect her to be happy. You see on the other hand if it was a White Woman, he would buy her the house on the hill, 3 to 6 carats diamond ring (not from finger hut cheap jewelry) sign her to his deeds, cars, etc. He also will either find her a Wonderful career, marry his secretary or she will be a stay at home mom (with the house on the hill), shop at the mall all day, go to the salon, etc. The Nerve!!! White Men if you want our Black Woman, pay the high stakes with her, too. I use to work with this Wanna Be Cool White Guy who dated Black Women. I asked him, "why do you date Black sisters?" He responded, "they don't ask for much or require much like a White Woman." Right there I lost respect for him. Same example: just like they under pay we Blacks, Under appraise our Black Properties and change the rules when they see fit so we won't surpass them in the USA. Wake UP!!! BLACK WOMEN AND MEN, SIT HIGHER STANDARDS AND REQUIREMENTS. KNOW THAT YOU ARE HIGH END MERCHANDISE THAT WILL NEVER GO ON SALE , AGAIN!! LOL

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  3.   Eddie says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 09

    Why do "ALL WHITE PEOPLE" think they are attractive and think every Black Person wants them and are excited over them? NOT!!! I was at the mall yesterday and they feel so entitled and God forbid the Boot Licking Blacks. Always thinking we want them and get mad when we don't acknowledge them. They are always the first to touch the food, use the bathroom ,etc without washing their hands and want to call his nasty. Remember it was the Whites who brought disease the USA on their Mayflowers Boats. And Blacks who usually date whites hate their Blackness(have heavy Negro/African features) and God forbids if the Black person will have children (for the White Person) because they want their kids to be light with curly hair (it's funny when the genes still turn out Black). I salute the Black Sisters and Brothers who are trying. It is usually "PWT" Poor White Trash and they have the nerve to be racist. I can tell the difference from PWT, Nuveaux Riche Whites, it's a demeanor about them, those, them people. Lol For the most part, Black Men don't have to say they are buying "EXTENDS" to grow their penis. Lol In other words, WE ALL "AIN'T excited over ya'll and usually IR children are confused, mentally.

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  4.   renee24 says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 09

    hello everyone I've been reading your comments for the past several days and I wonder why some of you even post, some comments are either right on the subject or way off in space. I think people just want to find someone who will love them no matter what. After all isn't that what we all are looking for.

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  5.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    To: otherbrother, My youngest brother is 31, 32 in September. He came to my job to have lunch with me, while waiting for me, he struck up a conversation with a lady, and somehow the subject was about kid's. You should have seen the look on her fcae when he told her his age, and then told her that he has no kids. She just assumed that because he was a young black man that he would have at least one, if not more. When he told her that "he was waiting to be married" before he had kids, she turned ghostly pale!!! Another instance, I had a patient making small talk and she asked me how many kids did I have. I told her that I had one son. Her reply was this "I guess it's very hard to be a single parent". What does being a single parent have to do with how many kids a person has? The truth is I became a single parent, but only after my husband passed away, then I had no choice but to be a single parent but I was married first. It's funny and ignorant how people just "assume" in general. If a person really want's to know something about someone, why not ask? godiva

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  6.   Member says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    Dear Otherbrother I would think the white woman with 5 kids is married and doing well. That is my honest opinion. As for black women, depending on how she is dressed, I would think she might be struggling with her children. It also depends if a man is with her too. If I see a black man with his wife and 5 kids. I just never think they are struggling. I notice the double standard. I have a black woman in my church married to a Deacon. He is a former marine (only white deacon in a black church). Just to be a Deacon you really have to have the trust of your pastor. They have three kids together. They are the nicest people you ever met. I am a skeptical person when it comes to this. They are just a normal couple in a black church. I am from New York City, even though it is a big city, people are segregated mostly. I mean choose to be segregated unless it is work related. I would agree with you black women suffer stereotypes right away. I can literally count on my hands and toes how many times black women have got into it with white women. I have to be the peacemaker. I really never see white men and black men "get into it". Very rare I ever see it, even if both parties are with different races of women. Some words might get exchanged towards the women (black or white). I haven't seen anything physical.

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  7.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    Mr. Queens would you think if you saw a White woman with 5 kids was also on welfare? if not why would you think a black woman is and a white is not? or do you think people assume in general that a woman with 4 plus kids is just on walfare regardless of her race? we know a White couple the wife is pregnant with her 6th kid, people tell her all the time how blessed she is, the same peoplpe will say to my wife "poor thing how do you do it, 5 kids and all.

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  8.   Member says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    Dear Otherbrother This is more of a civilized conversation. I agree mothers, wives and kids should be kept out of the conversation. The whole slavery thing is a different topic since this is a dating site. It would be to repetitive for me to go on about it. I like the debate of whether people should interracial date. Nobody can stop anybody from doing anything they want to do. At some point you reevaluate the way you feel about things. I am always reevaluating my views. I still disagree black men are bitter. They are rather indifferent more than bitter. Since everyone scape goat for everything right down to interracial dating, if you like a white man then date one don't bash us that is how I feel about it. Even if you were not financially secure would it make you less of a man to be with a black woman? From my observation it seems like you want to prove a point to society more than black men. You mentioned all the assets you have and money you have. Is this how you measure yourself alone? If you didn't tell me you were white. I would think you were a black man. I thought it was a compelling argument when you said that they think my wife is on welfare because we have 5 kids. That is something I would "think in my head too". You have a lot of insight for a white guy. Everybody gets misquoted to win arguments it is like Fox News here. You should know that. My father's best friend was a white guy (30 years). Me and his kids grew up together. Just my opinion, but I always thought he was harder on his biracial children than my father was on me. I am only black men he would consider letting his biracial date. That's another topic altogether why white men won't let their biracial daughter date a black man. They say they "would". They are lying plain and simple. I think subconsciously some white guys who have children with black women want to distance their biracial children from the harsh racial stereotypes the best they can. At the same time not allow their child to be the "statistic" they see on the news all the time. I can respect any man that sticks up for their family.

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  9.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    Dear Mr. Queens, I do not need counseling, I merly stated facts and those facts were taken out of context. I never said you should date a weak woman of any race let alone a white woman, Nowhere in my post does it say you should date any specific race. another distortion of the facts again. You attack anybody who does not agree with you, maybe because of your insecurity, you know nothing about my mother and I do not talk about other peoples mothers or fathers or children either,But since you asked again I am not sure I do not look at my mother and judge her in that way, however she is probably more of a man than you are, since you asked again, I heard you, wow you toned it down quit abit, seems like you were taken off gaurd that a White man can deal with the issues, And again your wrong, the military is really no different than the civilian world, Racism is just as big there as anywhere else. It is against the law in some states to curse at a law enforcement officer. in fact in my city it is against the law to curse period, and you could be fined. What the law is in Cambridge I have no Idea but he was not arrested for cursing he was arrested for something like disturbing the peace. The whole situation is crazy and could have been avoided if the professor would have just showed his ID when initially asked. However I can agree with you that they both can take blame the officer should be held to a higher standard. I do not disagre Africans were not told what was going to happen, my arguement is and always has been this is not simply a White problem. I have no arguement that their have been many wrongs and atrocities committed against the black community, many many things still happen today, Blacks predominatley receive less acurate health care and are sentenced to longer prison terms for the same exact crime that white's committ. I understand and fight against those injustices. I however do believe that many black Americans do things to keep the racial divide alive and well. Noone that I have met can get to the core of the problem because we all disagree with what the problem is. We can talk years about this subject because there are so many lies told on both sides. My image is of no concern to me, I am hapilly married with 5 great kids, own two Homes, some time shares, property, three cars I am retired and receive a pension and an annuity and working on my second carreer. I am just fine in fact better off than the majority of people my age. I find it fascinating that in 2009 their are people of all races that are against daqting outside their race, so I discuss it. That has nothing to due with my image. why wouldn't other black men be nice, as I have always said not all black men are bitter, and by the way I do not back track or whine just simply state the facts, If my facts are proven wrong then I am man enough to say I am wrong, can you however do the same? Oh yeah to this point I haven't been proven wrong. On the other hand I have proven that you have mis quoted me and from reading other comments from people on this blog they have proven you wrong, yet you still stand up trying to make arguements, points, or statemnets, that mostly not all (because some things you have stated are True) but mostly false and inacurate.

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  10.   Member says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    Dear Otherbrother You deal with more black people than I do lol. You are giving the impression there is "many" bitter black men. You sound bitter to me on the account you get mad when people think your wife lives off food stamps with 5 kids. So you tell me what am I bitter about? Secondly, you threw around insults at me. I stepped to you and called you a coward. You backtracked and whined about being "misquoted". You made the statement that black people sold other black people into slavery as "if" black people "got off" on killing their own people. Since you read so many slavery books then you should know the full story. You show me in a history book where Europeans explains to Africans they were going to beat, rape and feed them to sharks on that long voyage. You show me that. Then you mention you were in the Military for x amount of years. The military is different from civilian life. You are not free to say or do what you want. People follow orders all day. But you seem to think that black people in the military must agree with you. You got upset about the mother comment. That got under your skin. You said I should date a weak white woman. I asked you if your mother is weak since she is white? You got all upset about it. You heard me, is your white momma weak (sounding like Gates). I will say it again. As for the Gates situation, they were both wrong. Once the cop understands you live in this house. He should leave. You can curse at the cop, there are no laws against that. The cop invites Mr Gates off his property because that is the only way he could arrest him. Then the charges got dropped because the cop could not prove there was disorderly conduct. Gates showed his ID and it should have been the end of that. I personally do not think the cop is a white racist. From my understanding he teaches diversity training at the academy. LOL Clearly, if the man can prove this is his house, you shouldn't arrest him. I don't discuss children. I hope your children do well. You got racial issues you need to deal with. It seems like your overly concerned with your image as a white man. It almost like you blame us for your wife being perceived as being on food stamps. Take that to your white community friends. I got nothing to do with that. The other black men here are actually nice to you. I respect the time you served in the military but this is not the military. You are in civilian life now. Go to counseling.

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  11.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    Wow Mr queens again I am mis quoted, I didn't say all black people are bitter, I said bitter black men their are plenty of bitter black men, again you distort the truth for your own benifit, I have forgotten more about women then you will ever know. Now now such vile words from an educated bitter brother seems you can not handle the heat, stay away from the fire, I talk to tatt because she speaks with care and compassion and is not bitter, she has always been fair and open minded and doesn't distort the truth. Your right I do not own anybody, my wife is with me because she has a real man, she doesn't need me, she is a strong independant black women who see's me for the man I am, someone to share a wonderful life with and grow together. Funny you woud mention Gates another educated bitter black man, was the cop wrong? I was not there, so I am not sure, if Gates was white would he have been arrested who know's probablly not, I do know that the facts of the case shows the cops were called to a possible break in and he refused to show his ID and caused a scene, probably deserved to get arrested, but maybe, just maybe the cop approached him wrong who knows but what is also very evident is he is very bitter. Nowhere have I said black people are bad, again a twist to help you distort the truth, I know plenty of hard working, decent black men and women, in fact in my 24 years of military service I have seen alot of very successful blacks men and women serve with honor and distinction. I have plenty of books on slavery over three dozen I read about the plight of black America on a regular basis, because I have to send 5 black children into this crazy world and ensure they know when the facts are distorted and when they are real, I have to prepare my black boys to become decent hard working men who will not let the racist (that would include all races that are trying to hold my children back) people who are out there hold them back. Is my mother a weak woman? I really have only looked to my mother as my mother, you sick and peverted bastard. also I probably deal with more black people on a daily basis than you do.

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  12.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    @Ichibod I know YOU weren't telling anyone to leave,lol. I just don't want to be on a blog where there's only women talking and no one with the insight or a first hand perpective on interracial dating/marriages. That's all Ichibod,lol. Thank you for the compliment. I like your new picture by the way, the other was just as nice too.

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  13.   JimmyMcDuff says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    Ah yes! It is the beauty of spinning plates that attracts me to black women. I'm living in cloud cuckoo land and this just feels like spinning plates.

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  14.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    Hi fire: Haha....I'm back. Btw, I don't have a specific reason why I am attracted to Black women. I just know I am and that's all the reason I need. Spinning plates.....hmmmmm......whatever he's smokin, I want some..lol j/k

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  15.   fire321 says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    @Jimmy McDuff spinning plates?? what does that mean? it's kind of strange not to know why you are attracted to someone....don't you think?

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  16.   JimmyMcDuff says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    I am Jimmy McDuff. I like black females of the human genre. I am not sure why but it reminds me of spinning plates.

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  17.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Nobody's telling anyone to go anywhere, Bigeyes. I was talking about childish responses that are frequently exchanged 'round these here parts, silly :p. You're just too cute, you know that? The word antithesis means an exact opposite or a direct contrast. Just for anyone that didn't know.

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  18.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Thanks, Azrazyel. I've been wondering how you've been. Good to see you again!

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  19.   urlover6 says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    wow, y'all are entertaining to read, LOL. I just see bickering between between older people. Honestly, I can't really relate to what any of y'all are saying. I'm 18, recently graduated from High School, and IR dating was just as common as same race dating. I've only dated white guys, and I never approached one of them. No one cares if a Black guy dates an Asian girl at my school. As IR dating becomes the norm with my generation, I feel like Black women are being left behind. I mean, a lot of the black men, even my brother preferred White or Hispanic women. And white men are heavily going for Asian women. I've been fortunate to attract White Men, because a lot of Black women at my school tend to blow of any non-Black. Most Black Women I know are single, while a lot of Black Men are dating. The problem with my generation is not about IR dating, but when will Black Women open up their options? OMG, at prom, a lot of the Black girls had no dates, compared to the Black guys and basically everyone else.

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Yea Big eyes There was some good deals in Florida I couldn't pass up. The recession can give you some opportunities too. My mortgage payments is close to $300. The tax credits were available. All I have to pay off his my student loans and my fiancee's medical bills. I have a guest room for Tatt when she visits.

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  21.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Hey Mr. Laurelton Qeens I KNOW this doesn't have ANYTHING to do with the topic but I just wanted to give you a shout out for becoming a home owner! That's great!You and I are about the same age(30-32)I'm a little older than you( 32...shhh..hush!)(lol)and am also a home owner. That was ONE of MY proudest moments!I feel you guy, do the dam thang! Peace

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  22.   Member says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Listen Coward I don't recall ever talking to you. Secondly, how can I distort the truth about interracial dating. White men are not picking black women last to date? This is not happening? Black women are the last to date outside of their race. This is all facts. Name calling does not bother me. That may bother other people. This pussy doesn't understand history. Europeans coerced black people in Africa to sell other black people into slavery. Europeans never told other Africans "look we are going to starve your black women on the long voyage, rape them, feed them to the sharks. Now sign the contract to do so. You sound like a racist prick that has a fetish for black women. What the fuck you mean black people are bitter "other brother"? You don't know what the fuck you are talking about. If black people was really bitter they would have burn this country down. The civil rights movement didn't happen because Martin Luther King marched around and caused "change". Lyndon Johnson was fearful of a race war by the Malcolm X and the black panther party movement that didn't take kindly to being hit with water hoses and lynched by the Klan. So, when the black man got a gun. It was oh let's pass the Civil rights movement legislation. Martin Luther King was marching to keep black people "peaceful". There is a reason white people are afraid of black people. So you can sit here and try talk shit about me. I don't duck or hide from ANYBODY like you are doing because you lay up with a black woman. Is her family bitter? You wouldn't say shit to her family. Since you claim black people are bitter. What the fuck am I bitter about I just closed on a house in Orlando Florida. I have a house in PA right now. You also said this "Back from my vacation, Mr. Queens as we can all see your so called education was very poor. I simply stated DO NOT REPLY UNTIL YOU REALLY LEARN SOMETHING ABOUT WOMEN. Obviously you can not comprehend simple English. You are a child still and need some lessons, get your crayons and coloring book out and color while in time out. However your time out well lets just say wait till I tell you its ok to come out of your time out." I reply anytime I want too. You don't own me pussy. I finished my lessons. I went to college and graduated. Only 30 percent of Americans have a Bachelor's degree. Take some grammar classes. Why are you speaking to Tatt? If you like her stop mentioning my name and go talk to her. I am going to start sound like "Gates". Is your white momma weak! Yet, you are talking about I should be with a weak white woman. Why don't you be with a white woman? What do you have against white women and you are a white man? Get a history book about slavery. You are sick and you want to be with a black woman! You claim black people are so bad why the fuck you went to get involved with black women then? What is your real motive? (Moving Tatt gently out the way). I already know you come nowhere near the black community. You can only rant on here like a coward. (Heading out the door) http://mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  23.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Fire, thank you for your comment, you are very correct I am sorry doesn't make it right or better, however I was not apolaizing to him I was apologizing to anyone else who was offended by my mere facts about slavery, it at times can be a very touchy subject for some people especially when their are so many misleading data and information about slavery. You not taking my apology seriously I am concerened with, either you do or you do not. II think reading my post even with a missed comma the average person would have understood what I said. I stand by what I said I just responded to mis accurate statements and people who mentioned my mother and father in a blog that actually had no place mentioning, the insults were hurled at me first. This is the grown up world, if they can not handle the heat than they should not play with the fire.

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  24.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Was up Ich! Long time no see. Hey, I don't take anyone with no picture/profile hidden seriously. I mean you could be arguing with a 12 year old kid for all I know. Haha Great comments to 85KGuy. Uplifting set aside from the bickering....ahhhh so refreshing. lol Hello to Tatted. Hope your doing well. Keep coming with the great comments you always have in mind. Good to see you all again. Peace

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  25.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Please Everyone, Stay! LOL. This blog has just gotten PEACEFULLY interesting again!

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  26.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Icibod, No I am very secure in my marriage, again the question was why white men love black women, only White men who love black women can answer that, That would mean dating or married, anyone else is mere speculating, I am this blog because of people who spread lies about why white men and black women are open to dating and marrying, and to encourage other white men to understand that all black women are not opposed to dating inter racially. I was only responding to the comments that were mad about what I said, which were completely in accurate, Missing the meaning of one sentence because of a missed comma is one thing, to state that the preverbial athiest of white is black based off of my statement was childess, See I did not mean no harm and I was sincere you obviously are bitter against white men and have a problem with them. I on the other hand only have a problem with ANYBODY who distorts the truth or facts. I am not arguing with either I am simply stating that the comment was made to someone else, you talking to someone else talked about me and misqouted me. So actually you did attack first and of course as any man I just let you know what the real facts are so there was no confusion, this blog doesn't need to go anywhere just some of the people who are distorting the truth about should. I guess for some people they would consider me as one who should go, some would think tatted should go and others might think mr. queens should go.

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  27.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    otherbrother. I wasn't arguing with you. You're right, your punctuation needs work because that's exactly why I misunderstood your comment. Open-mindedness includes giving someone the benefit of a doubt. Less than a half of Julius's comment was toward you and he was merely trying to draw a parallel between your comment about white females and your white female relatives. My comment to Julius was showing him that I understood where he was coming from after your comment about black men. Neither of our comments were attacking you, but you attacked us. I don't know where the "mind reading" comments are coming from. But to insinuate that past girlfriends have left me for a white guy, I've had problems with white men, or that I'm bitter for some reason, takes more alleged mind reading than you accused us of. No one said you were threatened. I will admit, your missing punctuation mark had me misunderstand what you were saying entirely and my comment was not to you, anyway. But your response to both he and I was childish and uncalled for and is exactly what folks are trying to eliminate from this blog. "You have people who will stand by their preferences, yet will still have insecurities that would lead them to assume things about what other people are thinking that are not true or entirely accurate to help justify how they are feeling at the time." I said that in a discussion with a friend about something not even pertaining to race. I wish you the best and hope you find whatever or whoever it is your looking for... oh, wait! You're already married, aren't you? What are you doing here? Searching the internet for discussions on interacial relationships to feel more secure in your own?

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  28.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Best topic and most peaceful blog I have read so far. Except for Mr. Truth. He is correct though on African women. Ethiopians, Kenyans, Ghanans, Congolese. Wow!! Dallas, TX is very integrated for Black females. If you ladies have not been it is the 4th or 5th largest metro area in the country too. You would love it here (black women who love white men). This is very true!!! Truth is telling the truth about Africa. I ordered pizza in Johannesburg, watch Oprah, and Jerry Springer there on the TV. A soap opera called "Simunye" had my attention every day. It should be on BET!! KFC, McDonalds, they are all in Africa. They have shopping malls, and cars on the road that we don't see sold in America. 83% of Ghana children go to school. It is the country of our UN guy Kofi (dont want to mispell). The acceptance of any race in America has started with assimilation of its women into the main stream. Asian women dating whites, latin women, and now black women. Truth: It is the assimilation of these african american women that is making pure African culture and churches more acceptable in predominately white America. Ethiopian doro wat, Nigerian rice dishes so spicy it makes your eyes water. It is all here in America now and growing to fill the void left by the assimilation of African Americans. Truth: Obama is president and he is half Kenyan. Almost all of these people you created animosity with voted for him. African-American ladies: They are coming in droves and as Jamie Foxx said he thought he landed in a field of Halle Berry's in laughapolooza! He was in S. Africa. Check out the lady at your local convenience store with the smooth pretty face and the beautiful naturally long hair. Talk to here and hear her accent. Hip Hop is huge in Africa!! Ethiopians love Al Green!! Truth, Don't be so hard..Give them time to see. These black women and the white men who love them are some of the most open-minded people on this planet!! Great Blog, Best from James so far. Keep em coming.

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  29.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Hello otherbrother(I like that,lol) Thank you for your kind words. I do try very hard to be open because I truly want insight into interracial dating. I believe,only through open communication amongst the races can we eliminate SOME of our prejudices and improve race relations in our county. It is so easy to misunderstand each other and even easier to make no effort to correct our misconceptions of each other. I don't mind a little political correctness but not to the detriment of honesty, truth and understanding. Thank you again. Peace

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  30.   fire321 says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    otherbrother, correct me if I'm wrong but saying "people assume she's on welfare", doesn't that include black people? I'm sorry but you didn't clarify and then you came back and hurled insults at ichibod for misquoting you. Then in a post immediately after apologizes for being offensive. I find that absurd and it wasn't sincere (in my opinion). Saying I'm sorry does not "fix" everything or make it acceptable. we are not white men and our opinions about this topic is just that, an opinion. afterall, your opinion is only from your perspective and not all white men's perspective.

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  31.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    to anyone I have offended I am sorry I do not mean to offend anybody, but lets get real about this, the question is why do White Men love Black Woman. I would only assume only a White man can answer that question, everything else is mere speculation and opinion.

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  32.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Ichibod You as many other people have taken what you want out of a post to make a completely invalid arguement. What I said (Maybe my puncuation needs work)but when I travel out of town and my wife has the kids just because she is Black people assume that she is on welfare and uses food stamps. Nowhere does it say black people think she is on food stamps it states that because she is a black woman with 5 kids people think she is on food stamps, I was merely sharing some things we face before jumping in a conversation please ensure you state my words properly. In general it is the racist white people who think that. I mostly refer to Black and White and not other races is because of the title of the blog, I am very aware of the fact that there are people thinking the sane thing and just do not speak up, because you might be a little slow does not mean I am. Of course you know why I stated something because you are a mind reader, I stated Black men and White Women because that is who she gets the comments from, Maybe I can break it down for you so you understand. We live in an area that is Mostley White and Black, so the majority of what we encounter is from white's and black's that's just plain mathmatics. I am not threatned at all, I find it kind of strange my wife has never been approached by anybody while I am with her, but when she is alone she is bombarded with comments, and that just happens to be mostly black men and white woman. If that is to hard for you to comprehend then maybe you should be on a different blog. because you have had problems with White men in the past, is no concern of mine, maybe your insecure, or feel threatened by a White guy who is open minded and can offer a black woman the same thing a black man can, or maybe in one of your past relationships your woman left you for a white man, I have no clue, but being bitter will not solve your problem it only makes it more complcated. Whatever it is that has happened to hopefully one day you can feel secure enough about yourself not to pass judgment and try to turn someone else's word around to make yourself feel better. I wish you the best and hope you find whatever or whoever it is your looking for.

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  33.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Tatted I hope I have posted nothing that offends you, however I am real frustrated right now. I have read the majority of the post on here and you have always been very welcoming to everybody, please keep up the post and thanks for your kind words.

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  34.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Julius 1st let me thank you for responding for Mr. Queens, as I was not talking to you. 2nd I was talking about my expierences, of course you know my expierences because you are some kind of mind reader. 3rd let's talk some real facts, Yes their were some very ignorant white people back in the day in fact some of them were very powerful people and helped form this country and all Americans should be ashamed about our past. However Blacks sold Blacks into slavery for money and if it were not for the non racist whites of the past their probably have been a different outcome. 4th Please tell me the name of the White master that had you in shackles, what plantation were you forced to work on, because the last time I checked Me, my Father and My Granfather owned no slaves nor supported slavery. It gets old hearing about how you were enslaved, if you were I am sorry however I did not enslave you. I know of no black man in my age group who has been enslaved. You would be the first. I do however know of many black people trying to hold many other black people in slavery with the past, I know about the past and have to educate my black children (Yes in this country a drop of black Blood classifies you as black) how to be proud of whom they are, not let bitter black people hold them back (Not all Black people are bitter) I am talking about you if your bittre and the other bitter black people who are bitter. I have to educate them about the racsim that they will face which for two of my chidren will be three fold. Since two are Biracial and will expierence all the racism you face plus some. They will be accepted by knowone, white because they are Black, Blacks because they are biraical or the crazy light skin, dark skin racism between many blacks. Their race is nnot listed in some states simply because they sre biracial. 5th as I stated previously, I know Black men whom are not bitter whom are mattied to Black women and white women, they are married because they found something in common they love each other because they just fell in love. However most bitter black men I personnally know are with white women because they will take the crap the brother puts out that most strong decent black women will not take. You can take that for what it is, I am just telling you what I know to have expierenced. 6th both of my parents are white and I have no clue why they married. What does that have to do with my expierences. 7th I know people of all races dead set against dating out of their race, most (NOT ALL) are due to racial issues we still face today unfortunatley. 8th I havev know clue were you get your numbers from, I will try to find the survey I read a couplen years ago but it stated that inter racial relationships accounting for all races has tripled in theb last ten years. I wish you also the best, as tatted put it, simply if the shoe fits then put in on, if it doesn't than I am not talking about you.

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  35.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Julius, Doesn't it just piss you off? "Black people assume that she is on welfare and uses food stamps." Some Whites, Asians, Arabs, and Latinos probably do, too. "Of Cousre the black men do not have the courage to say something when I am with her, it is only when they see her without me and the white women who think they are so superior are usually living in a already broken marriage." Maybe they don't say anything because they don't really care. Are the ones that say something when you're not around the same ones that don't say anything when you are around? Just splitting hairs here, but it's an idea to consider. You have people who will stand by their preferences, yet will still have insecurities that would lead them to assume things about what other people are thinking that are not true or entirely accurate to help justify how they are feeling at the time. For instance, the fact that some black men (according to him) say things to his wife when he's not around, how does he not suppose men of other races want to but don't? Because he is white, and the proverbial antithesis of white is black. Either this feeling occrus by default or he is choosing to believe black men are the greatest threat or adversity to his relationship. Instead of naming any other race of women that might be thinking, "they are so superior [and] are usually living in a already broken marriage", he mentions white women, only because his wife is black. Julius, I like the way you always come with what's really important in a relationship. Experiences shouldn't define them, just how we deal with situations. I find it a shame that (NO OFFENSE TO BLACK WOMEN AS A WHOLE) many of the one's that call themselves strong and the one's that white men say don't take this and won't settle for that, actually did which is why some of them have the bitterness they have and why (like in that other topic) a white man felt justified to call out black men for supposedly not recognizing that strength and for making black women have to put up with, whatever. Good to see you again. Take care!

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  36.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    ...And isn't it funny how the "cartoon character" disagrees with me on a point I wasn't even trying to make....where did I say that people with those things could NOT have respect???? Once again he is proving that he is not here for anything other than his DIVISIVE "MISSION" (immpossible....LOL)....and the thing with complain is you don't hear it when YOU are the one doing it (read some of your own posts sometimes, L Queens....the ones BEFORE you got onto this "loose booty" fixation with me....LOL) And to jezzy1975.....no, dude, YOU are just "so dayum sexxxy"....lol (I think YOU know a little flirting does NOT equate to a "loose booty"...LMAO) Peace

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  37.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Thank you so much for the words of encouragement, otherbrother...glad that someone (ESPECIALLY a WHITE MAN.....because some others might say you, as a race, you tend to not back black women in certain situations) can recognize what is REALLY going on here.... ...And I think that is what he is doing, Julius....speaking on what is going on here (or in his past experiences)...NOT calling ALL black men bitter and so forth. Man, can't we all just agree that people are basically speaking from their own experiences here and call it a day. I have recognized that L. Queens is probably the victim of one(or many) short-sighted black woman (something he has yet to even dispute.....funny...NOT "haha"..and too late to do that now...lol.) and that has "colored" his world. His statement reflect his experiences. He has NEVER experience being in my company so he can speak on what he "thinks" he knows and that is ALL. That is just one example here. His current disdain and disrespect for me is especially for me.....(lol....don't I feel special)....you don't hear/see other women in here getting up in his face for the things he says about ME as if he were talking about them....basicaly "if the shoe fits where it" OR NOT.....END OF STORY.....DONE. I have always enjoyed reading your posts and respect your point of view there, Julius...but let's just try and broaden it a bit. Peace and Blessings to ALL tatted2death

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  38.   julius26 says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Dear otherbrother you know nothing about black men so stop making assumptions about us. They is this myths put about by some white men and some black woman that black men prefer white women who are weak and easy to control. Is that why your father married your mother, are your sisters meager and easy to control. I treat all woman the same with respect and dignity as i know many black men do as well.All woman needs loving not just black woman, thats why i always say quality is in the persons not in the colour. As for bitter black men there are many conflicts in this world that roots go back hundred of years, and the plain fact of the matter is, if your ancestors had not been so ignorant when they went around this world black and white relationship would not be such a contentious issue that is today. I know many black women who are dead set against black/white relationships and they have no qualms about telling me why, so its not a black man thing. I wish you all the best in your relationship, love is a very personal thing between two people is you get treasure it.Interacial love in no more special that same race love, as to prove this point 80 per cent of biracial children go on to marry white, so this notion of colour blind love, does not seems to be getting to the children of IR couples. But everybody has the right to find love where ever. All the best to you all

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  39.   Eddie says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    I am a Black American Male and We Black Americans have always been idolized for our genitalia/ Anatomy something that other races are implanting in their bodies, now. I agree with "James." Slavery and demoralizing people of color is something White America has done and expects We Black Americans to sweep it under the rug. Slavery was a part of the sexual fantasy with Blacks such as S&M chains weeps, bondage, master/slave all sickness of their minds. I love BLACK WOMEN and mainly because MY MAMA, GRANDMOTHER AND SISTERS are Black and I was taught to respect BLACK MEN AND WOMEN. There are several of "We" Black men that wouldn't look twice at a White Woman, especially since the history of the USA has done to our people (if you are Black and Informed) such as Emmitt Till, hangings, lynching, etc. It is a known fact the reason why White Men in America date Black Women in America is because they have small penises and can eat Pu%$$#. And usually some Black Men that date White Women have small penises, but for the most part, Black Women and Black Men are stacking and packing. We are a accepting race of people and I believe we accept to much and usually less than what we should bargain for. It is What it is and Black Women remember there are Several of US GOOD BLACK MEN if you will get to know us for us!!! I like James's statement, "If you go White, Go Right$$$$!!!!! Peace

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  40.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Shotgun, your post is right on I hope all cann find hapiness, and whoever they find it with is alright with me. I think alot of people hate those of us who are happy, my wife to me is a woman first although attracted to her physical attributes initially I fell in love with the person, she is a great mother and excelent wife, and an awesome person, who shares the same destination with me love and hapiness, everything else except our children are mere material things that just enhance our journey through life together. We face many obsticals, we have five kids and are extremely financially stable, but when I travel out of town and my wife has the kids just because she is Black people assume that she is on welfare and uses food stamps. We are a blended family she had three kids from her late husband and I one from my late wife and we have a daughter together. People do not realize I make more money than most of the people raising their noses at her. Of Cousre the black men do not have the courage to say someting when I am with her, it is only when they see her without me and the white women who think they are so superior are usually living in a already broken marriage. Meanwhile I am as happy as can be, as is my wife. Thanks for your positive support for all interracial dating

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  41.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Jack, this is only my opinion, no numbers or facts to back it up. In my 24 years serving this Country I have seen alot of things, But in My opinion black women appreciate love more than white women, but black women have been played by all races of men, I know of a few white guys in college who have dated black women, but couldn't take them home to meet mommy and daddy, I think black women are just more careful when dating period, I am a white male married to a black woman and have another white guy in my office married to a black woman. It is more prevalant than you think, But do you think a black woman is just going to jump up and say Hey come hear my white and shiny knight be my lover. Black women are like any other women, you have to touch them and touch them often, That doesn't mean physically but mentally and emotionally. Just try talking first see what you have in common, be honest and sincere but be confident and bold, wisper somketing in their ear, compliment them on there clothes make a wise but Not Crude comment or joke, (Hey does this sound familiar to you, The same thing you would do with a White woman you find attractive but pays you no mind). Just think over there is a woman who i find attractive, what can I do to get her attention and start a conversation and as the Late Paul Harvey would Say then "You know the rest of the story. Good Luck p.s. I hope your interest is genuine beacuse a good decent black woman can smell a rat a mile away.

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  42.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Tatted, hello long time sice I have posted, until very recently, you should be flattered, You do know Mr. Queens is only jealous he can not have a woman with the class that you have, so he is like a little boy you know when the boy likes the little girl he pulls her hair. I like that you stick to your guns and are a strong and indepandant woman, you go girl. Bigeyes, I find your post very refreshing and open, it is the likes of people like you and tatted that will help dissolve the bitter black brother whom at best settles for a weak and meager white woman so he can control them. I know many Professional black men married to both Black and White women. Suprisingly to some people they got married for the same reasons, they had things in common and fell in love. Keep up the positive posts.

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  43.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    James, although you make alot of acusations I see no proof in what you say. Obviously love has never really come upon you, Love see's no color, only your eye's see color, Your eye's are controlled from your brain, your nose picks up senses, Which is also controlles from your brain, your ears hear all the crap that people tell you again controlled by your brain, But Love (I am talking about true love, not the crap that many people call love) neither sees, smells, or hears, it just feels and that sense love comes from the heart.

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  44.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    Back from my vacation, Mr. Queens as we can all see your so called education was very poor. I simply stated DO NOT REPLY UNTIL YOU REALLY LEARN SOMETHING ABOUT WOMEN. Obviously you can not comprehend simple English. You are a child still and need some lessons, get your crayons and coloring book out and color while in time out. However your time out well lets just say wait till I tell you its ok to come out of your time out.

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  45.   georgeW1001 says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 09

    Jack, Black girls arent being "out-done" by white girls/women when it comes to dating. Black women like confident men...not men that are too afraid to even speak to them. Even if she looks away, why not say hello to break the ice? Also, keep in mind white women tend to date many races, I've noticed a little bit of resistance when it comes to black women, but that doesnt men they are no longer open to dating white men. I'm a white dude originally from Wyoming and I'm starting to see black women holding hands with white men, ...its a beautiful thing!! Maybe get out more or something, pal!! georgeW1001

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  46.   JimmyMcDuff says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 09

    Dudeeeeeeee I text Does anyone else?

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  47.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 09

    EDIT: upload a picture and start seriously seeking.

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  48.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 09

    Well Jack, they're probably thinking the same about you.So they quickly reject you before you can do it to them. I know it sounds silly but it is true. Why don't you create a free profile on this site and upload a picture start and seriously seeking. See what happens. Good Luck

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  49.   jezzy1975 says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 09

    because they are so damn sexy !

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  50.   jack says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 09

    Well i am a white guy who really never gets noticed by black woman, even when i look at them, they turn there eyes. I just figure they would not date a white man. At the mall i see very seldom a white man and black girl. I see more of black men and white girls in fact where I live i see a great portion of black men holding hands with white girls, even older white woman. I just wonder why more black guys for white girl and not many black woman for white guy? It appears that the black woman is being slowly out done by the white woman.

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