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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Sunshine says:
    Posted: 27 Jan 08

    pbs86 I doubt your body looks like a man. I can't believe some men thought you were a prostitute! As for the white men who stare at you all day, they must like what they see! They are probably too scared to approach you. Thanks for your thoughts!

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  2.   pbs86 says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 08

    What in the hell is an amazing body? God gave me a body that looks like a man if you removed my breasts. Sunshine I don't know why white men approach you and not other men. Maybe it's your style of dress, the way you wear your hair, or even the fact that you smiled. Maybe they like your skintone. I have had very bad experiences with white men who were just strangers, and I have had weird experiences with some who believed I was a prostitute. These days since I am in college they just stare all day long, but they won't say anything to me. This always happens when I wear my hair in an afro. It just leaves me feeling like a damn freak. Anyway, good luck to everyone in looking for their future mates. I'm out of here.

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  3.   Sunshine says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 08

    This is my first time visting this blog. Can anyone answer me this? Why is it that the only men who approach me are the white men. I could be at a bar or club with 50 black men and 3 white men. Who do you think will approach me? Always the white man! That's why I love them! I have only dated white men because they are the only men who will pursue me. I am open to all kinds of men but I tend to favor the white men. Anyone have any thoughts?

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  4.   naenae73 says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 08

    as long as you are happy with the person you are with...regardless of the attractions..stereotypical or not...there is no need to explain anything to anyone (nor should you feel you have to)

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  5.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 25 Jan 08

    Thanks Eva just was'nt sure! Ashley,

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  6.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 25 Jan 08

    Yes Eva it does thanks! Just want sure! Ashley,

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  7.   Sadena says:
    Posted: 25 Jan 08

    I would have to agree with some of the other post, for those that are color blind its a preference, just like some people are attracted to slender people some curvier, some blond and brunette, it really shouldn't be such a big debate, if someone of a different race turns your head more then your same race, so be it. There are so many other trouble's and problems in the world, that need to be address. The preference of who loves who should not be one of them.

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  8.   naenae73 says:
    Posted: 25 Jan 08

    you just cant help who you fall in love with....regardless of all sterotypes and cliches...love is love...and as long as those two people are happy and they understand each other....

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  9.   eva says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 08

    Ashley aka Geneandthem, In my original post I used (sp?) after the word uncomprimisingly because I figured I spelled it wrong (which I did). (sp?) does not stand for SP or Suppressive Person. In cyberspace people use (sp?)(-->question mark is the giveaway) when they are unsure of the spelling of a word they are using to make a point. Hope that clears everything up.

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  10.   Liberatedwoman says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 08

    Hold on wait a minute!!!!These words are not even mine! If you are going to take the time out to type such a long post, you should know what you are talking about! The top parts of my posts are cut and pastes from other bloggers posts. The bottom are my comments. Here they are: Question for Cocobaker… You stated that you have dated numerous non-black men over the years. Have any of them ever asked you to marry them? and I say: Dont worry about the white woman's power and beauty so much. If we are so fabulous in our beauty we should not be worrying about who is held up to the standard. Just know your own value and worth and dont worry about them. The above comments in this box are the only comments I have typed on this blog. I am responding to other people's comments and I cut and pasted to include in my blog. GO BACK AND REREAD THE POSTS!!! You just typed that long post and did not even direct it at the correct person!!!By the way, you sound like a total crazy person. Please do not post anymore messages to me!

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  11.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 08

    Liberatedwoman, HAHAHAHA..... LOLOLOLOL,,,,,,, Are you serious? So the question of this blog is, "Why white men love the black woman?" And you think that White men love black woman because of media influences and you also think that this is just RECENT?? I am 31, and all of my friends Date interracially and have since we were Kids! You think that White men Love black woman because a Spot light has been shed on White woman for years and now the blinders are being lifted, for us to see Asian and Black woman? Where do you live?? Show me a Article or magazine or TV special in the top circulated media forms where it says these things or has ever said these things? I have Heard many racist remarks, degrading slangs, racial slurs and flat out just wrong things to say. But black woman not being beautiful I have never heard that! Weather a man is racist or doesn't believe in interracial procreation he can most defiantly not take away your beauty! Even a racist man has to admit that black woman are the most Beautiful woman on the planet! I mean Black woman don't have to wear make up, unless they want to! Black woman age better then any other woman. Weather a black woman is 20 or 55 almost all black woman look about mid 20's. Beautiful Soft skin, Over all better complexions! And then "you only want the Successful white men" What is Successful To you? Rich? Wealthy? Owner of a business? Owns a Yacht? What is it? So you mean you look for a man with money, and a nice car and nice things it really doesn't matter if he BEATS YOUR ASS when you get home as long as he is successful right? I mean you would hope for a successful partner, but happiness is more important right? A good man? A good father? A good provider? A good Companion? A good Relationship? I don't care what my better half does as long as we have everything we need! We are happy! We provide for each other our family, our Children? You know when I read your post I just feel the Racism brewing from your writing? Do you even date interracially for the right reasons? You talk about WHITE PEOPLE in a crazy way? And yes there are many bad white people out there just like there are bad black folk, and asian, and hispanic, and every other type of nationality! But wow!!! "Don't worry about the white woman's power and beauty so much"""" WTF?????? what are you talking about? I'm sorry I'm not saying that there are not beautiful white woman because there are but there are WAY more Beautiful woman of ethnic backgrounds out there then white woman, and this Whole WHITE POWER trip your on! Once again the question is "Why white men love the black woman?" IT has nothing to do with Media, it has nothing to do with the WHite woman holding anyone down for so long and now they are not any longer, it has nothing to do with WHITE WOMAN POWER, And WHITE Beauty! It just IS!!! GO ASK ANY WHITE MAN YOU KNOW THAT LOVES BLACK WOMAN THIS QUESTION!!!! DO YOU LOVE BLACK WOMAN BECAUSE OF INFLUENCES OF THE MEDIA IN ANY WAY?? That man will look at you like you are crazy ask you what the hell you been smoking and probably not talk to you any more on the simple fact of thinking you are crazy! Please please do not bring up the whole WHITE POWER Trip around any of your interracial dating friends either because more then likely they will start to have a different opinion on you! And never ever ever ever ever bring up the little ps- we just want the successful white men!! To any man you are trying to date or hook up with because It has gold digger written all over it! You are most def a trip that was the wildest post i have seen yet in this blog! when I read your post I think of this, Imagine your opposite? Like if you were the WHITE interracial dater? You would be like a Racist RED neck white girl that dated black men? That's just what it looks like to me? What you are saying is just way off base to me! You are black woman that dates white me, (sucessful white men)(only) and so you cant not answer the question of why "WE LOVE BLACK WOMAN" becasue your not a white man? It would be like me saying Oh black woman love us white guys becasue were better then black guys, and we are more sucessful, and becasue we have money and nice things! And there are just now seeing that becasue the media is opening there eyes to this so now the blinders are off! NOOOOOOOO We cant and we could not answer this Question? Nor would I ever say some off base shit like that! "Why do black woman love White men?" Only a black woman could answer that and it would be a different answer for every black woman you asked! DAMN I need to stop reading these blogs! This is Crazy! Ashley,

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  12.   Liberatedwoman says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 08

    So, to answer the question, the world is changing and becoming more global and the media etc is not only showing the white women as the queen of all in intelligence and beauty BUT now other women are getting their share as well so naturally the world is now seeing the true beauty of these black women and naturally want a piece of the pie! It's about time..they tried to say we were not beautiful or intelligent but now we are among the top. Here's to all the beautiful black as well as Asian women who for so long were not consedered beautiful or intelligent and are now giving the white women a run for their money AND ALSO taking their men!! ps- we just want the successful white men!! We've come too far to go back now! I say: Dont worry about the white woman's power and beauty so much. If we are so fabulous in our beauty we should not be worrying about who is held up to the standard. Just know your own value and worth and dont worry about them.

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  13.   Liberatedwoman says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 08

    Question for Cocobaker... You stated that you have dated numerous non-black men over the years. Have any of them ever asked you to marry them?

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  14.   Lauren says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 08

    Ashley, Another use of sp(?) [with a question mark]behind the word uncompromisingly is for "is the spelling incorrect here". If I'm not mistaken, that is what Eva's (sp)? signified. Eva, please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

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  15.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 08

    Well Lauren, the reason I was asking was because yes she did seem like she was with me but the whole (sp) comment was not? Maybe you don't know what that means but let me fill you in! SP is a abbreviation for Suppressive Person. A Suppressive Person is a person who possesses a distinct set of characteristics and mental attitudes that cause him to suppress other people in his vicinity. This is the person whose behavior is calculated to be disastrous. Also called antisocial personality. There are many other characteristics of a suppressive person that are not good, such as a person that deals mainly in bad news, who makes critical or hostile remarks. And many more! So really it was me trying to find out what she was talking about because one comment basically canceled out the other! Like I said I wasn't kicking up dust. She sounds dope and just wanted to know if she was feeling me which I thought she was or she wasn't feeling me? I would most defiantly not want to date or be with a person that is (SP). So no i do not doubt her, nor was I questing her. Just clearing it up for me. She sounds great! Maybe you just didn't catch what she said but I did! Ashley,

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  16.   Lauren says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 08

    Eva, Your response to Ashley who questioned whether your support of his previous comments was positive or negative was succint and priceless. I'm with ya, I did not see the angle he was coming from; your original statements were clear. He had no more doubt or questions for you. Miss missy you cleared it right up. lol

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  17.   cocobaker813 says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 08

    I personally think that White men have finally ALLOWED themselves to acknowledge the beauty and spirit of Black women. As an older teen and early 20-something back in the late 1980's and a lot of the 90's, I was surrounded by some white guys in college who didn't want anyone to know they found nonwhite women attractive-unless they were Latina or Asian women-the "exotic" types. I live very close to New York City, and it seems that, at least in the Downtown areas, there were always White men dating and marrying Black women. As for me, a lot of the White men I dated as a younger woman were European(German, French, Italian, Scandanavian)men living in NYC who thought it was no big deal to be with a Black woman until they came to the States. I didn't date a "domestic" White guy until my 30's. My last serious relationship was with a White man who ONLY dates Black women! My final thought is that I date who I date. As long as I get respect that I give to a man, we're fine. How hypocritical would I be if I hated on Black men who date nonBlack women? I agree with Prettypaw when she said "All that I ask is that you respect my place to have my choice". Isn't that supposed to be what this country was founded on? Choice and the freedom to have it?

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  18.   Prettypaw says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 08

    I for one am tired of having to explain myself to any and everyone about my preference. I just do. I have done nothing wrong and i have made choices of good men. Hey some men like Blondes I have no complaints, they just do. I have no probelem with black men who date white women. I don't feel cheeted or lumped out from it. I honestly don't care. Peopple can't understand. All that I ask is that you respect myplace to have my choice. Happiness to all.

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  19.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 08

    Yes you did and was just wondering! Have a great week! Ashley,

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  20.   Eva says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 08

    Geneandthem, I thought I was quite clear that I agreed with what you were saying. I liked all of it. You are very clear on what you want and fearless to boot. It is very positive. Did not mean to confuse you. As for wanting to meet someone in NYC, it is because NY is where I live. Online I've met men who live in Texas or Germany, etc. And I certainly do not rule out someone because of location. If I meet a man who lives far away...I am willing explore the possibilities if it is conducive for both parties. In fact, I would embrace such a meeting. So dear Ashley, hope I cleared up the questions you had.

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  21.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 08

    Eva, Just curious as to what you are saying about me? Is it negative or positive? I couldn't really tell, on one hand it seemed like you were supporting me and on the other hand your (sp?) comment was really the opposite. I'm just curious a suppressive person has many negative characteristics? In fact all the characteristics of a suppressive person is negative. SO i was just wondering, not trying to kick up any dust just wanting some clarification! Also you say you would like to meet someone similar in NYC? DO you only limit yourself to a radius around you in searching for your soul mate? I feel that all possibility's should be left open. weather it is long distance from another city or another country. You never know who or where your better half might be located! Maybe in NYC, but maybe in Texas, or Europe, or Italy, or Colombia. You never know I feel that if I only settled for who i could find in The Dallas Area and shut all other possibility's out I would just be settling. Ashley,

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  22.   Eva says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 08

    First time visiting this blog. The subject matter is timely although I am a bit late in commenting. "Geneandthem" (Ashley)you express yourself like an independent thinking person. That is a very good thing. You make your thoughts clearly and uncomprimisingly(sp?). Like that. It is so needed in any relationship regardless of color/ethnicity. Gee, I would certainly like to meet similar men in NYC. Having said that, I decided I wanted to date White men as it is really quite natural...due to work environment, etc. The White men I have known really are not vastly different in terms of my own lifestyle and mindset. I think it is a win/win all around (positive think negates fear). May we all find someone great to date/marry in the near future.

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  23.   Queenbee7519 says:
    Posted: 21 Jan 08

    As a black woman I've seen white guys approach black females for the sexual thing and nothing more. Which to me is offensive because technically white females are the most loose sexually. Yet some white guys can't admit they like black women for the fact that we're so different we make most white women hate us because we're not a cookie cutter type of woman with a run of the mill type image. Like some of the posters said black women come in all shapes, sizes, and skin tones so it's like a white man has the choice to choose what he wants since white women are generally all the same. Most of them as told to me are clingy, whinny, and expect men to do everything for them. Whereas a black woman stands strong on her own and is ok with or without a man as to some white women who can't function without a man on their arm. I've had white men come and talk to me in clubs and even bought me drinks, but when white women start seeing that they do things like approach a man too overly flirty and even sometimes drunk. A lot of white guys don't like drunk women hitting on them. Even the good looking white guys are not impressed with things women do for their attention. Most of the attractive white men usually are very stand-offish because they think women who approach them are doing it because of how he looks instead of getting to know him as a person. I like a guy who happens to be Greek, but every description I've heard out of a females' mouth is how he so sexy and hot and I was like damn I want to know does he like to cook, read, and listen to music. This wasnt black women saying this it's white women who get off on that he's so hot and sexy and whatever redundent sexual thoughts they have about the man. I was interested in knowing him as a person and what he enjoys doing in his spare time, I know he's attractive, but I am not drooling over him like some 15 year old school girl. He's a successful 31 year old attorney and was VP of his family owned bank as a loan officer. Most of the black men I've met are chronically unemployed, been in and out of jail, got babies and mamas all over the place, they're acting straight thuggish, and don't treat women right. I found that white guys are more apt to doing for themselves and don't got some female telling him to get up and get a job and having to deal with a plethora of excuses. Yes there's that preference aspect, but black women are getting fed up with black men acting insensitive and prickish towards their needs and only seem interested in getting pussy most of the time. What happened to a sista being treated like a lady and not thinking the only date she's worth is to the local McDonalds or some fast food joint and going out for romantic dinners to a nice restaurant. I can understand why sistas are crossing over in the dating and marriage department they want better. Black men have been trading sistas in for a stringy hair white woman as a symbol of his success and making it. Sistas were only a rock he stepped on to get up in the world when nobody else was there for him. Today in 2008 sistas are taking back control of their lives by dealing with men who have no long standing history of social issues and personal problems. I say sistas don't be afraid of the vanilla flava because there's nothing wrong with a little cream in your coffee.

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  24.   Kimme says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 08

    I love the fact that the "white man" loves the "black woman". But I'd settle for the man just loving the woman. Sure racial preference is big these days, but I'd hope that reverse prejudice is not rampant. Me, strong, educated black woman that I am, prefer to date white men, I was even married to one for 20 years, so I'm not a novice, but I certainly have witnessed the same qualitiies and lack thereof,in all men. It's sort of like having a preference for coffee instead of tea, or vice versa. It's just a matter of what satisfies you. Me, I've tried both and I like both, but if I had to choose.....? I'd go for the whiteboy! Just being honest.

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  25.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 04 Jan 08

    Salome, I was reading your post on December 16th, and wondering what is your name? Did we date? Were you talking about me????? lol jk Ashley,

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  26.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 04 Jan 08

    Well I live in Dallas Tx, I have never had a problem looking for or finding Black woman in Dallas. In fact most of the black woman I have dated are mos def not looking for hoods! Where are you going to find woman? You need to Check out Spike on Monday nights! Its in Mockingbird center, by where the old Virgin records was. On mondays it is Neo-Soul night! Never spotted any hoods in there! Now if you are wearing Dickies to your ankles, walking legs spread wide to keep your pants on, Open Fronts in your mouth, riding a 88 caprice lifted on 26's, well then more then likely your only going to always find Hoods anyway! What is your style? Ashley,

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  27.   Cfreeman says:
    Posted: 03 Jan 08

    I'm a white dude from Dallas TX, and find black girls the sexy women out there. Not just for their amazing bodies, but because of their mind and spirit. Black women are the strongest of women. But the problem I have is finding a BG that wants a WG thats not hood. It seems everytime I meet a new girl within ten mins. I can tell she has no interest cuz I not hood enough for her. And i won't pretend to be something I'm not. So are there any black girls from Dallas TX that can tell me where to go to meet a black girl looking for more in Dallas TX. please and Thanx

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  28.   Salome says:
    Posted: 03 Jan 08

    I co-sign to the above.

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  29.   phatkitty says:
    Posted: 02 Jan 08

    To black and proud 34, i agree with geneandthem. What the hell!!!! girl you need to stay off the bottle or take a creative writing class in English. I dont know if your second language is English, but you write/talk like it is. If so, i understand, but you still need to proof read what you write before you post your message. Quite frankly, it is very hard to read writings that seem like "nonsense." And ontop of that, you will get a lot of negative criticism.

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  30.   nocolor says:
    Posted: 02 Jan 08

    Amen to that!!!!!!!!!!!

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  31.   Caramel54 says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 08

    Thirty-five years ago, White men were attracted to me when I wasn't even aware of it. Thirty-five years ago, in my small home town, interracial dating was not acceptable. Now there are at least (5) interracial marriages in my family. I have basically always got along with everyone, I did not then and I do not now see "color". During the last (10) years I have dated interracially, so I say "to each his own". The same God made us all.

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  32.   Member says:
    Posted: 25 Dec 07

    Well, I'm just a country boy from the east coast.I've always been atracted to black women but until last week, I always feared rejection if I asked for a date. This friday I'm going on a date with a beautiful, classy lady, who is interested in me, even though we are from different ends of town. God makes beautiful women in all flavors!

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  33.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 24 Dec 07

    black&proud34 WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT??? Read what you said most of it does not make sense? And why would you even post in interracial threads? Obviously something interest you about that aspect of dating! To me it sounds like you are racist! You just broke down The description of "CHARMING" and disqualified all white men from being charming? That is a racist remark? If you say that a man is not charming, and he just happened to be white that's not racism, but you said all white men are not charming? Charming is a quality! And if you really believe that all white men in the world are not charming I feel sorry for you! There are charming men and woman of all colors and races! Just like there are men and woman that are not! But you can not describe one whole race as not being something or being something! If you are truly black & proud, take pride in what you say! I could say (wow look at your post, did you even proofread it before you posted?) Like you! From how you are and how you see things, I could say all black woman are stupid, just like you say all white men are not charming! But then I would be like you and I would be racist! Instead I leave color and race out of it and say, "wow this person is clueless, and it has nothing to do with color!" If you are into interracial dating please join us for debate! If you are racist go find someplace dealing with your type of interest to post in! The Title of this thread is!!!!!!! Why white men love the black woman! White and Black being descriptive words not racial comments! And it could not be "Why white men love White woman" That would be a non interracial thread! And for you!!!! You need to look for "Why black woman love Black men!" That's your blog not this one! Ashley,

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  34.   black&proud34 says:
    Posted: 24 Dec 07

    First of all let me say this I real don't care if you are a white person that grew up in a black society that doesn't you have to date a black man. Secondally, for those african american that feel that they dont care if there man is black or white it does matter because yes we are humans but we are culturaly and ehtnicty different , Iwoudn't date a white man ever in my life for many reasons I don't find them charming in my eyes at all, but for a white lady comes an say to me I love his dark complexion that is discrimating you don't know one real thing us african american woman find in are dark educated black men. Also caucasion white males and females be your selve stop trying to be black all african americans haven't grew up in the ghetto nor do we speak in the manner, that like I trying to be you, this wouldnever happen.my truful thoughts

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  35.   black&proud34 says:
    Posted: 24 Dec 07

    First of all let me say this I real don't care if you are a white person that grew up in a black society that doesn't you have to date a black man. Secondally, for those african american that feel that they dont care if there man is black or white it does matter because yes we are humans but we are culturaly and ehtnicty different , Iwoud date a white man ever in my life for many reasons I don't find them charming in my eyes at all, but for a white lady comes an say to me I love his dark complexion that is discrimating you don't know one real thing us african american woman find in are dark educated black men. Also caucasion white males and females be your selve stop trying to be black all african americans haven't grew up in the ghetto nor do we speak in the manner, that like I trying to be you, this wouldnever happen.my truful thoughts

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  36.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 20 Dec 07

    Hey josuf if you have you have you have not found something that interest you here why don't why don't you bump it on down and beat your feet up out of here! Why even grace us with you perfect blogging presence? Kick rocks!

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  37.   josuf says:
    Posted: 20 Dec 07

    Of al the blogs i have i have read on this site, they all pretty much repeat the same tired mantras.I'll continue to search for a blog that will enrich beyond shallow recitable and rehearsed diatribe found here."PEACE TO YOUR AGENDAS".

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  38.   Virgo says:
    Posted: 17 Dec 07

    Paula, I feel for you girl. My opinion is..if you take care of yourself & your appearance means something to you.....(white or black) if those are the qualities you'd like in a mate....except NOTHING LESS!! Bottom line....Life is hard enough. We don't need the person who is supposed to 'add' to our life in a positive way, there to bring us down, cause strife or direct us down a negative path!

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  39.   Salome says:
    Posted: 17 Dec 07

    I have a friend of mine who is white and she complains of her boyfriend being like that all the time. I don't think it has anything to do with race. I think it is just personal choice. That is how this guy chooses to present himself to the world. I dated a white guy who was an impeccable dresser. He looked fabulous, looked way younger than his age, and smelled wonderful. Again, personal choice.

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  40.   paula says:
    Posted: 17 Dec 07

    Im a black single woman who just wants to find a decent man, black or white. I just got out of a relationship with a white guy who I thought could possibly be the one. My job requires me to look professional and I enjoy looking good for myself and my man. The only problem is, is that he takes no pride in his appearance. I dated him for his mind, but as time progressed, we started to go out and be around other people he was proud to "show me off" but there were times i was totally embarassed by him by the way he looked. He says Im being materialistic, but that is simply taking pride in your appearance. I truly like this guy but his hygiene was awful and of course he got offended when I addressed this issue with him. He said there are women who like guys who dont take care of themselves. I said theyre certainly not black women. Im curious black women out there, is this true? would you date a white man who wears no cologne, front teeth are brown from smoking and never wears anything but ripped jeans and t-shirts...all the time and is 42 y/o. I look good for him all the time, I get nothing. Please tell me all white men are not like this. Am I wrong? Please tell me I am. P.W

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  41.   andrew says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 07

    im white and honestly i grew up in a black area. i guess i just growd up likein black girls. they aint as timid and scared. lol and if u got to agrue with them they aint as soft. ya theres the physical and ya sex is better but personality wise they can be just as much ur boy as ur lover. lol and i like to see it piss white girls off when im with a black girl. shows alot of white girls they aint the shit like they think they r.

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  42.   QK1 says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 07

    I am a very well educated, intelligent and good looking black woman. I do not know why but it is almost exclusively white men who want to date me. There is one at the moment who is almost going crazy because of the fixation he has about me ie sex a with curvaceous black woman with big soft lips - his words and problem not mine :-) When I date a man, first and foremost I look for intelligence, a good sense of humour and the ability to string a couple of sentences together :-) Cheers QK1

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  43.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 15 Dec 07

    LOL! No sorry I am a American! Born in California! Grew up in Texas, and now live in Dallas to be exact. I know peoples views, and opinions are there's and everyone is entitled to them, but I just feel that if you are truly into interracial dating. There should be no Questions, or debate over it! Breaking everything down to the most minute level just seems like uncertainty to me. I never think twice about how I date! I never have second thoughts, it almost seems like if I did hesitate like that then I would really be unsure of dating that way! If I had all these crazy opinions like Caribprincess it would almost seem like I was fronting or lying to trick someone into getting with me only to not be that person. I'm sure that she will take offense to that but really if you read what she writes, she basically says to run game on white guys and act like you are a nice sweet smart person at first to snare them, then you got them???? I don't understand it! I approach every black woman the same! As my self, I do not front! I want who ever I find to be interested and fall in love with me for me, not a front I put on just to trick them into liking me? Because if I have to do that, then that person is not for me anyway! I'm really curious to see what you look like Caribprincess? Because like I said, I have no problems approaching black woman anywhere I go, that can be from a fancy bar, to a mall, to the hood, or a wine tasting event! Which brings up the real question what is it about you that you are not being approached by white men, that you have to """"Yes, they are intimidated by us so need a bit of coaxing but once they feel you are nice, pleasant and intelligent they will open up and the world is your oyster baby!""""??????? I am not intimidated by any man or woman! If you are with a man and you are in public, weather it be your boyfriend or your brother I would not approach you due to a respect thing! If you are not attractive to me in a way that I like more then likely I will not approach you! If I see you doing something I do not like in a woman more then likely I will not approached you! But who you are with has nothing to do with it! And if you are not really intelligent, or nice, or pleasant, please don't front like you are! I don't want to be hustled! And more then likely I have enough street savvy to see threw some BS like that anyway if it is just a front! Ashley,

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  44.   nocolor says:
    Posted: 15 Dec 07

    joey Says: simple due to upbring blk women have amatur male side and can be you friend and lover………. the ultimate sex godess - full lips and unbridled passion there are no other women Would you marry a black woman or is it just for her Friendship full lips or unbridled passion. After that what is there you are seeking from a black woman???? I know not all white woman have full lips the rest I'm a little foggy on. Shouldn't it just be because you care and love her inside and out not just for the physcial.

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  45.   CanadianBLK says:
    Posted: 14 Dec 07

    Geneandthem...I agree with everything you've said...makes me wonder: Are you Canadian? You sure sound like one...LOL (That's a compliment BTW)

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  46.   CanadianBLK says:
    Posted: 14 Dec 07

    Caribprincess!! You really sound classy on your remarks to Bill...He's got a point (Although there is no need to insult non-anthropology educated people). You sound very conceded...and not too clear on your anthropological understanding of the race concept...If you are truly an anthropology graduate, you should know that race (a social concept) and culture are two different concepts...your attacks on Bill and your acknowledgement of mainstream ideologies on those two concepts, brings me to question where you've obtained your degree... BTW: Race is a concept fabricated by white supremacy hegemony to justify the mistreatment of groups of people deemed inferior and to maintain the Eurocentric ideology of the superiority of 'white race'. This ideology gave way to the justification of slavery. Bill is right!! There is only one race: The Human race!!! P.S. Je parle aussi le Francais…for bragging rights! LOL

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  47.   joey says:
    Posted: 13 Dec 07

    simple due to upbring blk women have amatur male side and can be you friend and lover.......... the ultimate sex godess - full lips and unbridled passion there are no other women talk tome at email joey older Italian get

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  48.   nocolor says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 07

    Ahsley, Calm down all I was really saying was I'm glad you think the way you think, you like who you like and that you have the ability to see past color. But most of us have been so ingrained on the color issue the social status all the dumb stuff that at the end of the day really makes no difference. What matters is at the end of the crazy day with the crazy stuff and people you can share it with someone else be they black, asian, mexican,christian, catholic or jew. Believe me when the time is right we will both meet someone who is right for us, you a postive black woman, me anyone outside my ethnicity. You are right about one thing the blogs can be good or bad. Their just that the opnions of those that blog, opnions not fact. Have a great day.

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  49.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 07

    Well hello nocolor! I am sorry but I have read your response to me many times, and still really, I do not understand what you are saying? I'm truly sorry it just doesn't make sense to me? ""who gets you like who you like just 'cause that's the heart God gave you. I feel like you do although I have never dated outside my cultre background… well no really." and please do not think I am saying something negative I just don't understand? And really I do agree with you in some ways, but for me black is comfy! It is home and it is all i know! It is a preference, and I just love it! This will not change, I know if I close my eyes and it is a white woman it will be different! TO ME!!! Maybe not you or someone else but for me it will! Just like I don't like Ice cream, most everyone else does! I should not be interrogated by everyone I meet because I like or do not like ICE cream! I don't know. I go about my day to day life everyday thinking about my culture and background, and Haitian culture and background, and African culture and background, and Dominican culture and background and Japanese culture and back ground! I don't just stick to my White Culture and heartage, and it is not becasue I do not like my white skin or people! I have a thirst for knowledge! I love travel, and I love all cultures and want to experience all of them! I love people of all colors! And ethnic backgrounds! I love my White skin, just like I love your skin what ever color it may be! Sometimes I just wish I could find my partner in Crime, and cast ourselves away on a small island someplace to be away from all the bull! Because I never think about all of these racial problems, topics, or what ever you want to call them, everyday I see people, different colors, sizes, and shapes! I do not see them, they, or those,! I really just feel that there is not a racist bone in my body there are good people and there are bad! And maybe some in between! The only way all these issues can end would be to stop talking about them so much! all this media, blogs, and everything just keeps all this stuff brewing! I feel like I am just blabbering now, anyways, to all have a great week! All I can say is I LOVE MY BLACK WOMAN,,, WAIT, NO NO I AM IN LOVE WITH BLACK WOMAN AND IT WILL NEVER CHANGE I KISS THE GROUND THAT YOU WALK ON!!! Ashley,

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  50.   ChaiBlend says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 07

    I don'r find anything wrong with dating outside of my ethnicity. In fact, it is truly a blessing to be able to unite on love and not segragating because of skin color...Segragation is man-made not God made. Soul mates unite from inside not out. I do have a question though - where are all the non-superficial (deep) vanilla brothers in Southern California? ~CB

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