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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   CanadianBLK says:
    Posted: 14 Dec 07

    Caribprincess!! You really sound classy on your remarks to Bill...He's got a point (Although there is no need to insult non-anthropology educated people). You sound very conceded...and not too clear on your anthropological understanding of the race concept...If you are truly an anthropology graduate, you should know that race (a social concept) and culture are two different concepts...your attacks on Bill and your acknowledgement of mainstream ideologies on those two concepts, brings me to question where you've obtained your degree... BTW: Race is a concept fabricated by white supremacy hegemony to justify the mistreatment of groups of people deemed inferior and to maintain the Eurocentric ideology of the superiority of 'white race'. This ideology gave way to the justification of slavery. Bill is right!! There is only one race: The Human race!!! P.S. Je parle aussi le Francais…for bragging rights! LOL

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  2.   joey says:
    Posted: 13 Dec 07

    simple due to upbring blk women have amatur male side and can be you friend and lover.......... the ultimate sex godess - full lips and unbridled passion there are no other women talk tome at email joey older Italian get

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  3.   nocolor says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 07

    Ahsley, Calm down all I was really saying was I'm glad you think the way you think, you like who you like and that you have the ability to see past color. But most of us have been so ingrained on the color issue the social status all the dumb stuff that at the end of the day really makes no difference. What matters is at the end of the crazy day with the crazy stuff and people you can share it with someone else be they black, asian, mexican,christian, catholic or jew. Believe me when the time is right we will both meet someone who is right for us, you a postive black woman, me anyone outside my ethnicity. You are right about one thing the blogs can be good or bad. Their just that the opnions of those that blog, opnions not fact. Have a great day.

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  4.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 07

    Well hello nocolor! I am sorry but I have read your response to me many times, and still really, I do not understand what you are saying? I'm truly sorry it just doesn't make sense to me? ""who gets you like who you like just 'cause that's the heart God gave you. I feel like you do although I have never dated outside my cultre background… well no really." and please do not think I am saying something negative I just don't understand? And really I do agree with you in some ways, but for me black is comfy! It is home and it is all i know! It is a preference, and I just love it! This will not change, I know if I close my eyes and it is a white woman it will be different! TO ME!!! Maybe not you or someone else but for me it will! Just like I don't like Ice cream, most everyone else does! I should not be interrogated by everyone I meet because I like or do not like ICE cream! I don't know. I go about my day to day life everyday thinking about my culture and background, and Haitian culture and background, and African culture and background, and Dominican culture and background and Japanese culture and back ground! I don't just stick to my White Culture and heartage, and it is not becasue I do not like my white skin or people! I have a thirst for knowledge! I love travel, and I love all cultures and want to experience all of them! I love people of all colors! And ethnic backgrounds! I love my White skin, just like I love your skin what ever color it may be! Sometimes I just wish I could find my partner in Crime, and cast ourselves away on a small island someplace to be away from all the bull! Because I never think about all of these racial problems, topics, or what ever you want to call them, everyday I see people, different colors, sizes, and shapes! I do not see them, they, or those,! I really just feel that there is not a racist bone in my body there are good people and there are bad! And maybe some in between! The only way all these issues can end would be to stop talking about them so much! all this media, blogs, and everything just keeps all this stuff brewing! I feel like I am just blabbering now, anyways, to all have a great week! All I can say is I LOVE MY BLACK WOMAN,,, WAIT, NO NO I AM IN LOVE WITH BLACK WOMAN AND IT WILL NEVER CHANGE I KISS THE GROUND THAT YOU WALK ON!!! Ashley,

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  5.   ChaiBlend says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 07

    I don'r find anything wrong with dating outside of my ethnicity. In fact, it is truly a blessing to be able to unite on love and not segragating because of skin color...Segragation is man-made not God made. Soul mates unite from inside not out. I do have a question though - where are all the non-superficial (deep) vanilla brothers in Southern California? ~CB

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  6.   nocolor says:
    Posted: 10 Dec 07

    Well Ashley, Finally someone who gets you like who you like just 'cause that's the heart God gave you. I feel like you do although I have never dated outside my cultre background... well no really. What's the differnce... when you're with the person you like and you give that person a kiss and you close your eyes when you kiss them can you tell what color they are when you kiss them. Didn't think so you look past the color of ones skin, the neighborhood they were raised in then prick them with a pen I bet they bleed red just like you. Hope one day our paths can cross I don't like to cook sounds like you do.

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  7.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 10 Dec 07

    CaribPrinces some times it almost seem like you are really hung up on the whole Black White thing? You say THEY so much it almost feels like it could be racism. Although you do seem very intelligent and And like a great person, I think you try to Break down everything to much. "Yes, they are intimidated by us so need a bit of coaxing but once they feel you are nice, pleasant and intelligent they will open up and the world is your oyster baby!" They They They?? Also I have never one time in my life been intimidated by a black woman! What youdontbelievefatmeatgreasy? I love a Nice, pleasant and intelligent woman period but that has nothing to do with white or black??? I don't know it just feels weird! I know my self, and I have never approached a black woman based off of who she is standing next to? Black, White, Purple or blue! And I would never describe black woman as THEY THEY THEY!! Or any race in general. I am 31 years of age, Half Italian and Half white. My first Kiss was with a black girl in the 2nd grade! My first play Girlfriend in the Third grade was black. My first Real Girlfriend in 9th grade all the way through high school was black, we were together for 5 years. And every woman since then was black. I have never had a problem approaching black woman. And as far as me approaching any woman with a disrespectful line such as "YOU GOT A FAT ASS BABY" Would not happen in any life For me. I respect all woman, and really just do not speak like that. I think black woman are the most Beautiful woman ever, I could not even fathom being with a white woman. Hell I never even seen a white woman naked in real life. And only kissed my grandmother on the Cheek so that the clostes to kissing I have ever been! The other day on the site I met a woman We chatted a few times, then out of the blue, I was right in the middle of asking her something, like "SO WHERE ALL HAVE YOU TRAVELED AND WHERE ALL WOULD YOU LIKE TO TRAVEL" After about a min I seen her typing and she says " WHY DO YOU DATE BLACK WOMAN?" "OR WHY DO YOU EVEN LIKE THEM" I was like WOW, Where did that come from here we are talking about Traveling, and out of nowhere this question pops up killed the whole mood. I tried to answer but it is just hard to break it down, I cant really place my finger on it specifically. But she would not let it go like she was interrogating me, the Final blow was "WHAT ARE YOU NOT COMFORTABLE IN YOUR WHITE SKIN, OR WITH BEING WITH YOUR OWN RACE" I was amazed! I have never felt that it was that serious of a deal and for her as like many in here it seems to really be a big deal! I just feel like it is not a important issue, Why any one likes anyone is unexplainable. Attraction is something that is just human, and has no Wordily break down. It either is or isn't. All I know is I'm me and I feel I'm a great catch! I can cook to much to name, Italian, Mexican, Even soul! Bake, make homemade candy, hell I can even CAN Food, like veggies, and make homemade jelly's. I dress well, I have a great job I'm clean for a guy, and really overall a good down to earth person! I never walk around with racial questions or break down any part of my actions in a black or white manner. I never speak of any color of person in a racial slang, or the whole THEY, THEM, stuff that is going on here! I do not know but all this just gives a very racist feeling, and really I try to distance my self away from that its like negative energy! The bottom line is I LOVE BLACK WOMAN! EVERYTHING ABOUT THEM!!! and yea they are all very different, just like any other color of woman. I love skin, eyes, smile, hair and all! This will never change and will always be! Ashley,

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  8.   SoulAmbient says:
    Posted: 10 Dec 07

    When I came across this Blog, I was curious to know how many Black Women truly felt the way I do about being receptive to dating outside "the norm". Growing up, I was always looked at as "the strange one" due to my artistic musical taste and what type pof Man I found to be attractive as a young girl. My preference in Men has always been universal. I've dated and even married a Black Man, but again, I simply was never really (personality wise) attracted to them. Now this statement is not to put the Black Man down, because I do believe that there are good Black Men out there, seeking to commit themselves to a Black Woman. But for me, I will confess (as it is my right) to choose who I want to be with and I am exclusive to dating outside my Race. It is about Taboo for me, I am proud to be the object of desire, passion & intellect to a Man that can truly appreciate a Woman outside of anothers tunel vision. What is there NOT to love about the Black Queen. We make some of the most beautiful babies!

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  9.   nocolor says:
    Posted: 06 Dec 07

    I think after reading this again there is one thing that rings true about a black woman, as a cultre here in America from the begining of time in America and even before that in Egypt we have lost a lot we have watched and are still watching our familes in some case dispersed but yet and still we perservere, at black women we have God given strenghth that matches no other so yes that may be a turn on to our white male conterparts but let it not be a deterent. Let us take that and walk w/it. Even if one may never approach in our hearts of hearts we know we have the strenght to move on and hopefully we have the sense to know we can turn that burden over to the One that can handle it. But let us always remember to get beyon the superfical and remember to accept each other. Let me ask this will any of us date a white man in a wheel chair, a damaged soldier of war, an ugly white guy just 'cause he't white??

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  10.   Elsa says:
    Posted: 02 Dec 07

    You said it perfectly. I do agree that white men are more inclined to do the things that we both seem to enjoy. I asked the friend of mine the other day if he would join me to a broadway show and his response was "that's white people stuff"..............I am so tired of that nonsense. I believe in the end we must be with that person whose company we enjoy. For me its that person who is family oriented, enjoy doing the things I mentioned and has his own hobbies that I am eager to try. If it is White guy so be it!! I have absolutely no problem with that. Just want to meet someone nice BUT I have no intentions on trying to change anyone. As for the brother as you called them, I am so done trying!!

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  11.   CaribPrinces says:
    Posted: 02 Dec 07

    Hi LaShaun, There may be all sorts of reasons why they are intimidated. However, it could also be just a cultural reason as to them having a different approach to coming over to you. I agree with your observation that most white guys WILL NOT in most situations approach a black woman. It also makes me question their strength and courage! However, when I was going out I had no problem...white men used to come up to me and ask me if I wanted a drink or to dance. I think however, that white men are more strategic planners in the dating scene...they have a certain way of coming on to you that tends to be LESS DIRECT than black men and more calculating so they don't appear that they really want you. It's a bit superficial but it's a cultural thing. For example, a black man may say "damn baby you got a nice ass" or whatever and a white man may say "do you come here often or can I get you a drink (by the way brothas never buy you a drink, they usually just want to work up a sweat on the dance floor and get a free feel)! Sorry, that's just my observation. Or the white guy may say, I'm just here with friends after work etc....but he may be thinking the same thing. I found that if in a bar for example, I had to position myself close to the white guys and smile a lot, be cute and say something witty to get their attention in a non-direct way. It's also good to go with a white woman not as gorgeous or got it going on as yourself so they can see the difference and ask YOU out! I've found that they don't seem to be so intimidated to approach you if you are with a white woman. LOTS of white guys have come up to chat with me and/or ask me out if I am with my white female friends. They know then that you don't have a problem with white people and so they are less intimidated. HOWEVER, if I am with another sista, NO CHANCE. If the mild flirting doesn't work then they are just not interested, too scared or stupid to get it. Then it's not even worth it. Yes, they are intimidated by us so need a bit of coaxing but once they feel you are nice, pleasant and intelligent they will open up and the world is your oyster baby!

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  12.   Virgo says:
    Posted: 02 Dec 07

    Elsa, I think a few things you said hit home for me. I like trying new things that aren't always considered "black". I like hiking, rock climbing, wine tasting, art galleries, plays & quite a few other 'artsy' activities. My experience has been that rarely do you see 'brothas' participating in those activities (sad..but true). White men opt to try these things & are open to trying new things. Black, asian, latino, etc... are just as entitled to participating in those activities as we(black people) are, so why they don't? I don't know. I'm turned off by the 'what it do', 'holla at ya boy' mentality & would like to hold a genuine, intelligent conversation about current events w/a brotha but, it's rare nowadays to find one who isn't concerned about what others will think if he steps out of his comfort zone & try something new or 'white' as it was described once. Who knows, maybe that's the way it's supposed to be to force us to open our eyes & look @ different types of people & bring us together..........

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  13.   Elsa says:
    Posted: 02 Dec 07

    Ok Ok where are the white guys? See so many of them here in NYC but some how can't get connected. I am from the caribbean and seem to be attracted to whie guys. Why? Not that I am judgemental of black guys, but I honetly think I pretty much enjoy the things a white guy might more enjoy doing. Like a broadway show, a tennis game, baseball game, walk around the city or just go bowling. I can't stand that barbecue stuff all the time. Once in a while YES! I have dated black guys have one daughter. Family structre, in my opinion, white guys are generally more commited. Again that is my opinion. I think black guys are not open to change or to trying new things. By the way I am with Bill on one thing!! We are all part of the human race BUT I also want a guy who at least knows how to speak and is aware of what is going on in the world.

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  14.   nocolor says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 07

    I've been to a lot of websites regarding interracal romance. I've looked and read the whole gammit, heard the pros and cons. The bottom line and I'm speaking from just a little experinece... I think initially we are attracted by looks, color, sexual desire(in any order). But at the end of the day when the lights are low or out its what our heart feels, it's what our minds tell us and when they come together the only thing that matters is do I love him/her? Will I put up with them will I defend them, will I love them till death?? That's what we must all look at not the color or the attraction but do I really love you (that's the question before me). "I Corthians 13:13 But now faith, hope and love, aibde(live) these three; but the greatest of these is love." W/out it the relationship is false and highly unlikey to work no matter what color you are.

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  15.   Salome says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 07

    Bill, quite trying to flame everyone. If you don't like the subject matter and you think that everyone is beneath you then leave. There is no need to insult a group of people who managed to stay on topic. It's immature and says plenty about your character.

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  16.   Foxfuzzy says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 07

    Well said, CaribPrincess. I was going to call Mr. Bill a dickless, pussyface loser and tell him to get freakin a life, but I guess we gotta be civilized. Ya know?

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  17.   CaribPrinces says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 07

    Mr. Bill or whoever you are. You say we all need some education but I think we are all more educated than you! Quite frankly I think you are schitzophrenic because you have a very strange and agressive writing style in one response but in the next it is calm?? Very strange. I also have a degree in Anthropology as well as (more useful degrees) and so therefore know about "scientific education" as you put it. YOU ARE THE IDIOT.. WE ALL KNOW ALL HUMANS ARE THE SAME RACE, THE HUMAN RACE...But you are missing the point. The question is "why white men love black woman". Whether you accept it or not there are cultural differences among people of different races and although you may see that as a threatening thing it is a reality and not necessarily a bad thing. We choose who we can relate to...People are different based on their background. You seem to be a closed minded Anthropologist. Any good Anthropologist would tell you that a human is made up of BOTH biology and his/her cultural background. And who cares if you are a business writer...there is no need to be so critical. I am sure some of the people in this forum are lawyers, doctors, entrepreneurs etc...This is not the place to be critical about someones writing style!!! You really need to work on yourself...it's people like you why others are afraid to join websites like this because of fear of meeting some complete fool and idiot! On the other hand I am probably the most intelligent and beautiful woman you would never meet! From the Caribbean, went to Harvard, studied Anthropology, then got a law degree as Anthropology was not geting me a job or good career, learned French and German, am an artist in free time and dancer etc etc....You on the other hand sound like an old fool who needs to catch up with the times AND/OR move out of your TRAILOR PARK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  18.   bill says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 07

    I feel Slome has the right out look. I have dated out of my race more as I have gotten older also. We all have our reasons and maybe they are all similiar. I find women of color interesting and yes very attractive. I found that for the most part they are very aware of what is going on in the world which makes for good coversation. They are very loyal and devoted to their man. Dating is more difficult as we get older. Whom we choose to date or what color they are is not revelent to what and who will make us happy. WHAT DID YOU DATE OUTSIDE YOUR RACE? A CHIMP? YOU SOUND LIKE A MORON YOU FOOL! ALL HUMANS ARE THE SAME RACE. LEARN SOME SCIENCE

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  19.   bill says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 07

    I agree with the posts above. Poor thing. I'm a business writer and all the grammar and structural issues jumped out at once. Not his/her lucky day, huh? I definately commend the writer for making the effort to write and bring up this topic. That's more than what most people will do. I've often dated outside of my race. I dated more when I got older for some reason or another what do you date? neanderthals? For someone who thinks Modern Humans come in different races I wouldn't worry about spelling, I would worry about sounding like an idiot.

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  20.   bill says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 07

    I see many of you are very uneducated! There is only one race, its called the Human race. When you speak of different races of People it shows your lack of scientific education. You are 50 years behind the times if you don't know that all the humans on the earth came from Africa by now. I feel sorry for you..get some education. Your back in the day when people thought different people evolved from alone in different places, we as anthropologists now know this is not the case.. do some reading and go back to college..you may learn something new!

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  21.   jayzgurl says:
    Posted: 25 Nov 07

    I talked to my boyfriend who is Irish-American (6'2",blonde, blue-eyed, SWAT officer) and he told me that (and I quote) "...white women all manage to look the same. Oh, Sure they may have different hair colors, but that's about it. Black women have golden skin (that's not artificial) or pale skin or mahoghany skin, they can be stick thin or voluptuous. They're gorgeous to look at and the way they move is rhythmic and sensual..." he went on to say,"everything about them says 'confidence'. They love hard and long (purely not sexual). When they love you...they love you (stand by your man!)..." Need I say more?! White girls...take notes!!

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  22.   LaShada says:
    Posted: 23 Nov 07

    I've always found myself attracted to white men since I was like 5yrs. I just knew I would grow to marry Crocket and not Tubbs(LOL) . Even as a teen I dated white guys but later stopped because of all the rage it always caused.I grew up in mostly black areas so it wasn't accepted. Thus, I found myself dating black men that I didn't find all that attractive. For me it has always been a preference it is what I want and like. I have a son with a blackman and I teach my son to like/date whoever want!

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  23.   CaribPrinces says:
    Posted: 23 Nov 07

    Why white men love black women? I think the answer is very simple. People love the best things. And white men are finally starting to realise (after having a little taste of course). that black women are actually better than white women in many aspects. We have beautiful skin, athletic shaped bodies all the things that white women do not have. We age better as well. Just like the Asians even in our 40's and 50's we still have no wrinkles! For centuries the white woman has been put on a pedastle higher than that of the black woman, even higher than the Asian woman or any other color or culture for that reason. NOW white men are travelling and working alongside these women and going to far away places like Asia and Africa and India and are seeing that these women are even more beautiful, even more intelligent and even more sensual than white women. So of course the white men who are the brave ones are making the change while some other are still in denial on the true beauty inside and out of these other women. These are the ones who remain racist, closed and/or scared to go outside their race. So, to answer the question, the world is changing and becoming more global and the media etc is not only showing the white women as the queen of all in intelligence and beauty BUT now other women are getting their share as well so naturally the world is now seeing the true beauty of these black women and naturally want a piece of the pie! It's about time..they tried to say we were not beautiful or intelligent but now we are among the top. Here's to all the beautiful black as well as Asian women who for so long were not consedered beautiful or intelligent and are now giving the white women a run for their money AND ALSO taking their men!! ps- we just want the successful white men!! We've come too far to go back now!

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  24.   Virgo says:
    Posted: 22 Nov 07

    I believe at times some white men wonder/fantasize about black women & the 'stereotypes' that are associated w/us. But, bottom line....being a proud/beautiful sista...I believe that we come in so many different shapes, sizes & tones that it's like a kid in a candy store! Who wouldn't love that!? :D

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  25.   cassie212 says:
    Posted: 22 Nov 07

    Hey! all you guys here make yourself seem like Gods... I wish i found someone for meeeeee!

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  26.   Tstar says:
    Posted: 21 Nov 07

    I have a family with a white man. I used to date exclusively black. I find the difference is that in my experience, there seems to be a larger variety in personalities among white men than black men. The many black men I dated only considered going to a club or to a small time restaurant a good time. Only one took me around his family, and most of all, they'd go out of town to different states and never let me know until they get back. Also, my ex-stepfather admitted to my mother once that he didn't get with a white woman because he didn't make enough money. This scenario reminded me of the majority of black male athletes who cross over or marry extremely light-skinned black women.

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  27.   Foxfuzzy says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 07

    I've always found it easier to go out with white men. Have not a specific idea why, but if it ain't broke, why try to fix it? The white guys I've dated have always treated me like a lady and any woman can appreciate a man who makes her feel good. And guys, just so as you know, I do love getting cooked for!!

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  28.   Gary says:
    Posted: 15 Nov 07

    I have always found it hard to put into words what black women do to me. I immediately get a feeling of attraction inside. After talking with a black woman I can always tell that she is special and does not mind being treated like a lady. I know someday when I find my black wife I will treat her that way and I guarantee that she will treat me right too. Are you out there?????????

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  29.   dark1ande says:
    Posted: 14 Nov 07

    Too bad I hate desserts .

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  30.   Sucess says:
    Posted: 13 Nov 07

    I agree with most of the prior messages. At least for this guy XXNJXY is really off base. I've romanced black women since 1964 when I was a poor Sailor to now that I am doing very well financially. Trophy girls are for boys with the developement of a piss ant. When I was 17 and poor I was hooking up with girls like me. Nice, cute black girls that were fun to be with, none were scalps on my belt. My daughter's mother was a beautiful deveoping black girl when we hooked up. I was 15 years older and afraid of the differences in our ages and level of developement. Now that I am 62 and ooing OK of course I want a smart successfull woman who happens to float my boat physically. I have paid my dues. There are good looking women who have paid theirs.

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  31.   phatkitty says:
    Posted: 02 Oct 07

    Tommy, you are funny, your are pimping yourself on the net (lol). I am an islander and am not sure what u mean by family and cultural values. LIke jayzgurl, i hope u didnt mean "barefoot and prego". I know we as islanders are very proud and pushes education at all cause. So i hope that is what u meant. I wont harp on this any longer, just needed a clearer explanation. Whatever reason u love someone, just keep on loving, be it blk or other, because after all the BS, that is all some of us have at the end of the day. irie man, one luv

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  32.   Jeanette says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 07

    Hey Michael, Since you love to cook, there are queues forming you know. :) Have a nice week y'all Jeanette

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  33.   Michael says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 07

    I have wondered about this exact issue about myself many times. I can say that in general, I just love women, but I find my attention being grabbed by black women all of the time. I have come to the realization that the initial attraction is simply a preference. Just as some people that have preferences for a certain hair colour, or height, or or or... There are many other body characteristics that attract my eye as well, and speaking solely from the initial attraction level, those other items need to be there as well. Simply having black skin is not going to mean that I am attracted to them. Once you do get past the mere attraction level, for me, it all comes back to compatibility. It does not mater the race, age, look of the lady, if there are not all of the other items that make for a match, colour alone will not carry it. P.S. I might not know Italian cooking, but I love to cook too.... :)

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  34.   Teri says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 07

    I don't know but I need one of them!

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  35.   Jeanette says:
    Posted: 29 Sep 07

    Hi Tommy et all I love italian food.And i am almost putting myself in the race right after Salome, but I met someone on this site and he is just wonderful. though American he makes mean italian food. You should meet and exchange ideas :). I dated an italian once and boy was he a great cook. I have been dting white guys since i was 20. in between i did try to go back to my own race but i guess my inner mind was made up and soon enough i was searching again for a white man who i would love and be there for. Nothing against the brothers but i do find the white man more sensible to a woman's needs emotionally. (My opinion). And hey, grammer or english we are not all english mothertongue and mistakes are excused mine included. :)

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  36.   jayzgurl says:
    Posted: 29 Sep 07

    Tommy, cooking aside, I'm kind of curious as to the "traditional family values" that meet your requirements for a wife that we latinas and island women display. You're not referring to the stereotypical barefoot and pregnant type of women, right??? If so, we do have so much more to offer any man.

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  37.   Dee says:
    Posted: 29 Sep 07

    Helloooooooo Tommy!!!!!

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  38.   Salome says:
    Posted: 27 Sep 07

    Dang Tommy. You're going to have all kinds of women chasing you down (me included) if you keep that up. Italian man making Italian food? Count me in!

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  39.   tommy says:
    Posted: 26 Sep 07

    Im am italian but was born in brooklyn NY. I have traveled the united states and observed that black women are very open minded and independent. That is what attracts me to them They are naturally beautiful, street smart, culturally educated by their upbrings of their traditional family values. THat is what attracts me to them. Especially island black women and hispanic women have traditional culture values installed from their families over the centuries which makes a perfect wife. I cherish black women and would do anything for them no matter what if they show me the love and respect. Since i am italian i would cook them any home traditional Italian meal with italian desserts.

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  40.   GRWNNSXY1 says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 07

    MY BOYFRIEND OF THE LAST TWO YEARS IS WHITE. COMING FROM SOMEONE WHO DATED BLACK MEN ONLY, NOT BECAUSE IT WAS MY CHOICE, BUT BECAUSE WHITE GUYS NEVER TRIED TO TALK TO ME, SO I IGNORED THEM. MY LOVE IS 6'1",BLONDE, WITH CRYSTAL BLUES, GETS BURNED BEFORE HE GETS TANNED AND I WOULD HAVE NEVER THOUGHT HE WAS INTERESTED IN ME. IN FACT, THE FIRST THREE MONTHS OF OUR RELATIONSHIP I SPENT ASKING,"WHY'D YOU FINALLY STEP TO ME?" AND HIS ANSWER SUMS UP EVERYONES ANSWERS. HE SAID,"BECAUSE YOU GET MY JOKES..." IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH COLOR, JUST LIKE IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH AGE, OR EYE COLOR, OR RELIGION. YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH WHOMEVER YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH. LOVE FREELY AND WITHOUT PREDJUDICE!!

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  41.   littlered48 says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 07

    For me, the reason I'm attracted to white men, I do not really know! I simply find the sexy.

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  42.   rich2112 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 07

    For myself, the reason I've dated outside of my race is attraction. But that's all so why I've dated white women. It's about attraction and who knows why any one finds someone attractive? I've been attracted to women purely by looks and some just by attitude or a combo of both. So who knows? Or better yet, Why Not?

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  43.   manowine says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    I've had several woman ask me why I date women of color... and I ask them right back why do you want to date a white man? That stalemate usually forces us to talk about our similarities rather than our differences. There is no good reason to exclude the woman of color or the white guy from your dating patterns. If you exclude them then you are missing a significant section of the population. Not to mention the high number of highly educated professional women represented here.

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  44.   TheWriter says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 07

    Obviously, there is a physical attraction...that's true of any dating circumstance. However, there is a rainbow pallette of differences of black women, as there is with all races. Light, dark, tall, petite, the list is, while not infinite, extensive. But obviously (with the exception of those looking strictly for sex), any lasting relationship needs more to build on then just appearance. Again, that's a uniquely individual set of characteristics that can't be nailed down to a simple black/white distinction. As to what creates attraction, I'd have to say that probably has as many variables. Interracial attraction may even have the cultural taboo as part of it. And Madison Avenue, who tells us what is sexy, and what to wear, drive, drink, etc., to be that. Personally, I think it came from the fact that my first girlfriend (not first sexual partner) was black. She was beautiful but more importantly, I think, she was smart, personable, athletic (high on the list in grade school), funny and had a poetic soul. And she was built like a "brick house"...I'm kidding. Wherever it came from, for me it is a preference, not an absolute. But if I'm going to have someone to spend the rest of my life with shouldn't it be someone I have a preference for..? (pardon my grammar).

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  45.   DENNIS says:
    Posted: 10 Sep 07

    The main reason I date black women is because I am attracted to dark skin women. I love tan to dark skin women. I am also attracted to Asian women. So attractive! Most white women I know are so white they look sickly.

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  46.   Ed says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 07

    I feel Slome has the right out look. I have dated out of my race more as I have gotten older also. We all have our reasons and maybe they are all similiar. I find women of color interesting and yes very attractive. I found that for the most part they are very aware of what is going on in the world which makes for good coversation. They are very loyal and devoted to their man. Dating is more difficult as we get older. Whom we choose to date or what color they are is not revelent to what and who will make us happy.

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  47.   Salome says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 07

    I agree with the posts above. Poor thing. I'm a business writer and all the grammar and structural issues jumped out at once. Not his/her lucky day, huh? I definately commend the writer for making the effort to write and bring up this topic. That's more than what most people will do. I've often dated outside of my race. I dated more when I got older for some reason or another. The men I've dated have run the gamut. Some have dated a few black woman while others date black women exclusively. I used to ask why they date black women and I received the usual responses too. Then I realized that I couldn't answer this question myself. So I've stopped asking. Basically, people date the person that they find interesting and attractive at the time.

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  48.   karen says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 07

    xxnjxy dont worry anyone from yaad i awright with me, do worries man.

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  49.   xxnjxy says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 07

    I have to agree on the responses , and please karen don't meet my spelling with scrutiny ( I am from th same "aisle " as you may--Jamaica. But for the most part white gents I have met are ususally looking for a black female based on a sexual thing--junglle fever maybe! But in truth it works both ways , for black man -white female couples, sexual attraction among other things. I am of the thinkinig if a white gent seriously dates a black female she would have to be well educated/polished upbringing or financially stable (and I do mean stable) and in his eyes be the flashy trophy type to take around for the world to see for bragging rights, but which perosn wouldn't want that ? Truth is every guy out there black or white has their own reason for matching up with someone outside their kind, what led them to it, i suggest we ask our men in question individually ! I might send my messages quite shallow but I'm here to comment honestly not to upset anyone, enjoy

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  50.   karen says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 07

    The piece could have a little more substance and more testimony to it. Personally i love white men, i have, since the age of 17 and am in my late thirties. Now i seem to be attracted to white men with euro accents. For a girl that was born and raised on the isle of Jamaica, it seems unreal. Growing up i would only see them on tv shows. But "Coming to America" changed all that. Last , but not least, when wht men tells me that oh i love blk women, then i would say, well tell me what u love about us, they would usually say the cliches, such as, your skin, your figure blah, blah, i was tired of hearing all that nonsense, now i challenge them, and ask them to tell me something with substance and meaning. I didnt want to hear the everyday shallow description. Because we are more than skin color and booty size.

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