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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 08

    Just to keep it clear......I have no problem with anyone asking me anything. Just respect my right to not answer especially when the question is not clear (hypothetically, huh???lol....it was NOT that kind of question..the way I posed it). You don't see me whining because e_edward never hasn't come back... yet...lol. I didn't say you were "attacking".(even though I reserved comment when you eluded to me being possibly being a hypocrite amongst other things...your opinion, in that capacity, matters not to me)...I just made an observation.....but you know what.....anyone with "EYES" can see what's going on here. Therefore I truly am DONE....this "battle" is so pointless it's ridiculous..(especially when I had nothing against ANYTHING you were saying from the beginning). YOU could post that I am a transexual animal "lover"....I really don't care anymore.....LOL. You are 100% on the right track in not asking me anything else.....focus on whatever it is YOU are here for and have fun.....that REALLY is all have left to say to you. as always Peace and Blessings tatted2death P.S. FYI...I ask questions here to stimulate the convo...move the blog along...NOT to "amuse" myself only or to "pounce" on the first thing someone says that "appears" to be different from my own perspective. (the ONLY exception might be ONE issue, but I have already warned folks about that...LOL...and even then I am not above been "corrected")....Hopefully this is the END of that STORY.

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  2.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 08

    @_@ I realize that you are trying to get a certain perspective; it's obvious in the fact that you have criteria. I am ADDING on to it because *I* want to know from everybody. Sheesh. It's not like I am attacking you, so would you give it a rest already? You know... I never dissected anything in my last post and I STILL get accused of it =O I am asking what you think, hypothetically. As you want to know what others think, I want to know what you think. You seem to have an extreme problem with that, though, so I guess I'll refrain from asking you anything in the future. -RoChi

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  3.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 08

    I appreciate all HONEST replies (regardless of author)......I only narrowed the criterion to get a certain perspective....I am NOT dating anyone so I don't feel the need to answer MY OWN question....geeeesh.....lol. But see what I mean.????.....EVERY LITTLE DAYUM THING HAS TO BE DISSECTED/AFFRONTED(to some degree or another)...It's cool though....I believe everyone is entitled to their own methods. But hopefully they won't balk the results (or lack thereof). Meanwhile I stay true to self....nothing more, nothing less. Peace and Blessings tatted2death P.S....come on people (anyone heard from Ashlyn aka "Chatty"; for that "serious/in-love" perspective as well), check in with those answers...in spite of what you might have heard, I am not looking to judge here. I am simply curious....NOT looking to "amuse" myself with your heartfelt replies.

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  4.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 08

    You're probably beyond caring about my opinion, but I'll give it anyway. I'm not sure if "serious" means in love or married/in love, but I'll answer this. We're not just getting started anymore, but we were once. I love him with all my heart, but let's be honest--obstacles are obstacles for a reason. If everyone is trying to tear the relationship apart, I'm not sure how well the relationship can last. In movies and books and other universes, we can probably truthfully say, "Only we matter and nothing can ever tear us apart!" But in this universe---our reality---our survival depends on others, too. I'm not saying that it wil indefinitely break them up, but I can see how it might make them want them to give up. I believe that, if they overcome it, it will make them stronger, though. You can recite the exact quote I am thinking of, I bet. My boyfriend and I encountered difficulties in the beginning, but they were straining enough. I'll admit that, although I wanted to keep him near me, I also just wanted to give up. Call me a weakling. Fine. We somehow found the strength to push it all behind us, but we were dedicated and it wasn't easy. We found new places to hang out and new people to hang with. It was stressful, but I guess we weren't able to give each other up. We're still reaping the benefits. We know how to handle these things more productively now, and we're prepared when we encounter it. Some cliche advise: Make sure you can communicate with your partner, especially about these types of things. They WILL rip your relationship to shreads if you guys don't find a way to handle it. But that requires a little conversation first. I think that, in this world, it is healthy to experience a little hate from other people early on, because it lets you know if you can handle it and work through it. (Notice I said a LITTLE, just because this is the world we live in, and not an extreme amount.) What do you think about your question, tatted? If I may, I'll like to extend the question to everyone, despite which stage your relationship is in. Nothing makes us immune from problems---not even time. -RoChi

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  5.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 08

    MAN,.....this IS amusing (and SAD at the same time,... WHOA)....LOL!!! ...but fortunately I can get my "laughs" elsewhere as well. Anywho..(on a sincere, serious note)..I was going to pose another "add-on" question to those who are actually(currently) JUST dating (not yet at that "serious" stage) interracially. Knowing that there ARE people who will actively try and tear your relationship apart (especially if they see you as "happy") does it make you feel closer to that person or does it make you want to just "give up" mostly?? Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  6.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 08

    KayJude, thanks for your story! THAT is why I am here, to read PERSONAL stories and not "Black women are beautiful! Black women have great bodies! Black women have great personalities! Black women know what they want in life! Black women can cook! Black women are smart! White Women are stupid! White women are so fake! Black men can't enjoy art and can't support a black women!" And all that other stuff... And we're trying to be hypocrites and say that we don't like stereotypes and generalizations! Puh-lease... I mean, "Why white men love the black woman" just about REQUIRES stereotyped answers. But, as I said, stereotypes affect how people think, so they count. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that they're not welcome (I mean, you don't see me telling people what they can and can't say, though I may debate points said), but they're all the same and soooo boring. Meaningless, in my eyes. But personal stories have something to them---it's not the same thing over and over. It's about you and another soul, not just you and a race of a baskillion different people. Okies. Whatever goes, I guess. Believe it or not, I am pretty flexible. The people here who write their stories out seem to be good writers too, lolz. But I'm a hopeless romantic... I can't help but love reading stuff like this. I hope more posts in the furture are like yours, KayJude XD -RoChi

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  7.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 08

    Another silly post, eh, geneandthem? If this weren’t so entertaining, I’d stop responding to you. It was a main point, and it is another main point. In fact, you’re whole point is, “You’re young, so you must be clueless.” “How could you possible know that? You cant, its like a statement a child would make!” Yet another display of your embarrassing amount of ignorance. How do I know this? Because everyone excels and lacks in different areas. Maybe you like to think that you’re smarter than everybody in the world—I said before that I don’t know how you think—but the reality is that you are not. Like it or not, I know more about certain things than you, and you know more about certain things than me. It’s how life works. At this time, we all can’t know everything about everything. If you can’t accept that, then you really are a lost cause. Like age, I find it silly to list credentials and careers as well. As the great Dr. Lowell Harrison said, “…A degree cannot be confused with an education.” But do you see the logic? I ask you a question, and instead of answering it, you say, “Blah blah, do you know who I am?! Do you know how old I am?! Blah blah… Do you know where I work?! Do you know where I graduated?! Do you know where I’ve travelled?! Blahblahblah…” Or any other statement that proves nothing and does not answer the question. Working in a building does not mean you know what is going on. You’re proof of this, geneandthem, if you truly work there. I don’t care what this thread is really about; I don’t remember it specifying. I broke this down scientifically once or twice, I believe, and it wasn’t even in depth. Then you misread what I said a post or two later and wrote a bitchrant about it, and I straightened you out. A few posts later, CJ misread what I said and wrote a much nicer post, and I straightened him out. Now tatted is starting to misread my posts, but she doesn’t seem clueless like you, so I won’t do much there. Despite what this is about, if I see something that is wrong, am I not allowed to comment on it? You’re commenting me for the same reason. We’re both contributing nothing to the topic. Choose your battles wisely, geneandthem. Don’t complain about what you are doing yourself. If you have such a problem with it, then stop responding and let it die on it’s own. You’re basically saying that a relationship is not scientific, which basically translates to a relationship is not understandable. I’m not saying that a relationship is a science experiment, but they sure as hell are predictable. Ask a marriage counselor. Furthermore, your comment is crass because you are speaking ultimates here, which is a nono. *Your* relationship is not a science experiment. Maybe someone else won’t mind their relationship being tested with so we can understand things much better. You’d be surprised how many people actually don’t mind. How do you think we know so much about the human brain when in love and concerning sex and such? Or perhaps you don’t know because you apparently think that your view is the only way it can go and everyone has to agree with you. You and your partner define your relationship, geneandthem, not anyone else’s. At least when it is strictly an opinion. Do I have a problem with dating interracially? Which scientific thing did I post that opposes interracial dating, for your point to have any merit? What are you yapping about, anyway? I think I stated in my first post that this can be an evolutionary case, and the science stuff really ended there (for me responding to the actual topic instead of directly to people). I argued with CJ because he questioned me about it. In fact, a lot of it was me responding to other people calling me out about stuff. If someone said they liked white men, did I ever ask them to explain it, scientifically? If a black woman said that she prefers black men, did I ask them to explain it, scientifically? Did I ask MackDaddy to break the situation down, scientifically, for me? The only reason I am still talking about this is because you wish to keep it alive by debating ridiculous points with me. I don’t mind that---but don’t keep acting like it’s only me. If you leave it alone, so will I. If you keep responding, so will I. I go with the flow. Congratulations on your new house, by the way :) -RoChi

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  8.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 08

    Ashley, my man!!!!!.....way to go. It sounds like you have what many in here are searching for/wanting. YOU can try me at the place where ya yadHOOle....(that probably will get pulled off here....LOL). The only advise that I will extend to you on your relationship is this: Cherish it and safeguard it with your whole heart. There are TOO many people out here that are obviously unhappy with themselves and love to project that onto others(SOME are even in relationships themselves but are loneliest people you'd ever meet....SAD). Anywho....I am glad at least you read my messages and get what I am saying (that means there are plenty others...maybe they are just afraid to get "sliced and diced" in here.....LOL). I am sure you recognize that there is no REAL hostility coming from me for anyone out here. But if that is what they truly feel I hope they would stop dissecting my posts and thinking everything is directed toward them. (lol) (to KayJude)....I, for one, thank you for sharing that story. It seems to say many things about how far we have come and how far we still have to go(with interracial dating). Hears to the hope that your post may help foster that same "search" amongst some men that have lost loves due to some very foolish reasons. THAT WOULD TRULY MAKE MY HEART SMILE. Someday (soon, even) I think we will be able actually STOP LABLING people(like canned food or SCIENCE experiments....LOL)....period.....putting folks in pigeon-holes for your own SELF-SERVING purposes is mostly just harming yourself. YOU will be the one missing out on meeting and getting to know many wonderful, interesting people. FOR THOSE THAT ARE TRULY READING WHAT I WRITE.....know that this is coming from the "heart" of me...with much TRUE LOVE. (one of those parts that "won't change".....I am a stubborn Taurus in that way I suppose.....SUE ME!!!....LOL) Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  9.   KayJude says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 08

    It’s been thirty years since I was a teenager. I‘ve been happily married to a wonderful man for twenty of them. He is a tall, handsome black man with deep dimples and pale brown eyes. He has a comfortable paunch where his washboard abs once were, and his brown hair is sprinkled with grey. As for me, the grey hairs outnumber the brown and there is certainly more of me to love. Thirty years ago, I was a teenager in a high school in a middle classed Atlanta suburb. A black girl, pretty by anyone’s standards. Petite, with a symmetrical face and an hour-glass figure. There was a boy—I don’t recall anymore who spoke to whom first, who showed an interest or how. He was a beautiful boy—tall and athletic with deep dimples. Pale blue eyes and frizzy blond hair. I don’t recall when or how it began—our safe romance. We spent time together at school. He played basketball—the only white boy on the team. I’d stay and watch him practice sometimes. We never went out on a proper date. As I recall, a group of us would go together—the movies, pizza and beer. He would always drive and he would always take me home last. That was how we spent time together, after everyone else went home. We would park and like teenagers everywhere, we’d talk. Make out. One day, he joined me as I sat outside the school office. It was a main hallway, with benches for waiting. He joined me there. I don’t remember what we talked about, but I remember our being engrossed in each other. And then, I was startled. A girl passing by saw us. Stopped. Asked, “Are you boyfriend and girlfriend?” Out of the corner of my eye, I saw him turn to look at me. Without turning my head, I responded quickly, “No, of course not.” Even after all these years, I think on my Judas response and am ashamed of my own cowardice. I wonder...if I had turned my head, what would I have seen in his face? What if I had turned to him and asked, “Are we?” How might he have responded? Even after thirty years, I remember that moment and I wonder. Those events when I was a teenaged girl, so long ago, have left their mark. Even now, when my eyes search a crowd and land on a handsome man—who is it I see? What are my eyes searching for? I know whom I seek out—a man like the boy I knew. The boy I once loved. The boy who was my first lover.

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  10.   BeautyBeyondWords says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 08

    Smooches... gets a smootch up!!!!! I totally agree with your post. Ashley, you seem like such a sister...lol... I am so happy for you, once again. I pray that you have much success and much happiness. I really do. On the most part, I can usually relate to what other's are trying to say. I may not agree, but So What! lol.. You know why white men really love black women? Our skin tones are beautiful. Oh, so many shades So many ways... We're strong, yet so soft We're real Good is how we want to feel Black women, we have something to be thankful about. You don't know how often I thank God for making me who I am. We have so much going for us. We are smart. We are beautiful. We have so much personality. We don't mind "shaking a tail feather (dancing)" We're inventors. We're creative. I mean.. the list can go on...... and on... and on... I celebrate you. I celebrate me. Without us, where would the world be.lol..lol.. Stay strong. Build your sisters up. If they don't know... show them. Be examples in your community of how a real black WOMAN (not a girl) should be. I need all of you to survive!!!!!!!!!

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  11.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 08

    Ok first off, I know you said in a previous post your age hence "I know I asked you before but how old are you again? Or should I say young?" Do you really even read post or skim trough them? The age thing is not a main point but when you do get older kiddo a lot of stuff changes such as views, point of view, and just an overall view of life in general. You are very intelligent. Book smart. But you just seem very young, in your post! I read all the post here as if the person was talking, and when i read your post you just seem clueless about a lot of stuff. I mean listen to you! "I am more knowledgeable of some things than you are, even if you don’t want to accept it." How could you possible know that? You cant, its like a statement a child would make! I bet you I can do that better that you can,,,,,,, not uhh ,,,, yes I can, not you cant, yes I can!!!!! Child!!! A relationship is not a science experiment! You can break everything down in the world scientifically, at some point in time, maybe in the future, maybe it has already been done. But this topic is not a question of science! OR a question or polls and percentages! Now you question my knowledge on scientific theory???? Come on what do you do for a living? You know nothing about me? I work in research and development for one of the largest companies in the world??? I just see you all over the place! This blog is much more for you. I have seen many people here treat it for what it is, and you just seem to take it all over the place! Do you have a problem with dating interracially? Are you looking for answers for yourself to help you decide what you should do? Here do this start another post, and call it "Scientific theory in black and white" Then you would be on point!! Thanks smooches, and Tatted, Love every post you all have ever had! HEY GREAT NEWS ME AND MY FUTURE WIFE, JUST PURCHASED A PENTHOUSE DOWN TOWN LOFT!!!!!! IT IS AMAZING!!!!!! We Are so Happy! IT is BEAUTIFUL!!!!!! I need Some email address or something that is if any one would be intrested in seeing photos or wedding photos in the future!!!! Ashley,

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  12.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 08

    This is so ironic, tatted. You asked me to more carefully read your posts (or something like that) and yet you don’t do the same for me. I didn’t have enough time to respond to the PS, so I will here. (Before I do, I will say that, in your main post, you stated how your questions are clear. I find this funny because mine are as well, and still I have no answers. I am also wondering why you keep saying that your questions are clear---I never said they weren't. I actually don't even think I addressed your questions. All I am asking is why are you asking others to think of things when you refuse to [think of SOME things]. Also... I'm sure you've heard the saying that the amount doesn't matter. I think the fact that you consider them "core" and nondebatable is more important than the amount, correct?) I never said that you couldn’t get them to want to think about anything. ALL I question is why you want them to think about ANYthing when you are stating things you will not change (to clarify, I am not speaking of EVERYTHING you said, but the things you specifically said you won’t change). And the fact that you are fighting and dodging everything I ask you instead of answering exemplifies my point. I also don't think I said that you’re basically demanding they change themselves, so I don’t know what your point is with that. I have not “made up my mind” about you, tatted. That’s… the point of the questioning. To be honest, I have just about no opinions of any of you. I feel quite a bit of cognitive dissonance coming from your end of the table, along with a little hostility and annoyance, but I have nothing to say about your personality. Well… you’re idealistic, as you stated previously (although you said that you’re a little idealistic). It is not so much that I am asking you to repeat yourself as me asking you different questions and you giving the same answer. Look back. Which question did you *actually* answer? What question did I ask that involves you repeating yourself (beside when I asked you what you asked previously, but that’s different)? I spy a little projection here. I understand that you want people to think, but you can't make anyone think---I don't doubt you know this for one second. But sometimes the most important person we should convince to think is ourselves. But we're done with the one-on-one, as you said. There's no point in asking questions to someone who refuses to even acknowledge their significance. *BACK TO THE ACTUAL THREAD TOPIC* -RoChi By the way, I feel ya, Smooches.

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  13.   Member says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 08

    Hi all, Smooches here I just want to say I love to read everyone’s thoughts. I just wish we could all just be a little more cohesive with one another. I know that we all feel very passionate about what we feel and believe. However, we need to respect each other’s points of view. I’m not here to judge, it just breaks my heart to see us bicker back and forth. I’m not trying to insult or step on any toes. I’m just trying to unite us so that we go in the right direction. Which is to enlighten everyone on just how beautiful, smart, creative, and desirable we truly are; that’s why we are here right? Stay passionate ladies. Ciao, Smooches

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  14.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 08

    I never said that you’re not willing to challenge any thoughts. I am indicating the thoughts you mentioned you are not willing to change. I think you’re the only one here who stated that you want to “challenge” people’s opinions (besides me), and you’re also the only one who has stated that there are things you refuse to change. I find that hypocritical. Or irrational, at the very least. If this is wearing your patience thin, tatted, then lemme tell you what to do: “ok.....all I can say is PLEASE reread what I post before you even bother addressing me.” Take your own advice. You should also remember that this is a public forum, and I am not preventing anyone from posting here, as you keep suggesting, and I am not forcing you to reply, as you are implying. If you’re getting tired of this, then stop responding to me. I really suggest that if this is beginning to get under your skin. Especially since I think this is all incredibly amusing. -RoChi

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  15.   BeautyBeyondWords says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 08

    Girl, It's a trip. It is suppose to be fun and maybe we'll have fun oneday.... lol... This week has been awesome, actually! Me and some friends are planning to go to the Motherland. My girlfriend just married an African man last year and she just came back from visiting Africa for a month! It was beautiful! Her husband has a beautiful house there and so we are planning to go visit (hopefully) in 2009. I will have to get on my "A" game. Girl, They saved about 10,000 cash and came home with about $15.00. It was crazy. I am definitely excited and It will be a wonderful experience for my son. Flirty, I will say that you look just like one of my good friends, here. I thought it was her at first. FYI- You definitely have a twin out here in the world. lol... What brings you to the site?

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  16.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 08

    ok.....all I can say is PLEASE reread what I post before you even bother addressing me (Sorry if you don't have the time to "waste".....you need to make the time then....LOL).. ROCHI....dear me.... I NEVER said that I am not willing to change my thoughts. I already mentioned some CORE things about myself that are NOT up for debate (the list was VERY short) but then also go on to say everything else is negotiable. I am also going to respectfully request that you refrain from making this a personal issue.....I canNOT keep replying to you on every LITTLE thing (especially when it is in PLAIN ENGLISH in my post....geesh). YOU are NOT "getting to" me, ROCHI but some of your tactics are just wearing a bit thin in here. If you are SO CURIOUS and want to know so much I just don't understand why you don't take (or waste....lol) the time to actually read what I write before you go totally onto another tangent. I am soooo done with this one-on-one crap. My questions were clear and there may actually be someone out there to actually answer them instead of railing against me on every point I make....someone who truly has an open-mind(heart) but is not keen on being tested on every minute thing I type in here. Please allow others to jump in here.....give it a rest...(for a little while at least...lol) PLEASE let's keep it simple ....LET'S STICK TO THE BASICS.... Peace and Blessings tatted2death P.S.....just FYI....I am not all for all the PC crap either.....what I do it just that ....WHAT I DO....I don't need everyone to think or be like me to be at ease. Rochi....some of the things you pose to me are not in line with what you ask...Why can't I want to get people to THINK about their actions/words????...I am not telling everyone they should automatically CHANGE anything. Please just stop dissecting my posts when you have already made up your mind what you "think" I am about....It really should not matter. Like I said before it doesn't really seem like you are "challenging" me......only asking to repeat myself....NOT COOL.

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  17.   Flirty1 says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 08

    Hi Beauty! I'm doing well. Hopefully your week has been great. Glad to see that things are lightening up in here. ;-) We need that. This is supposed to be fun.

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  18.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 08

    You crack me up, geneandthem. Really, you do. I said how old I am in a previous post. If you want to know so badly, check it out. I’ll say that it does bug me when people use age as a main point. I’ve noticed that people use things that don’t affect the conversation at all (not the very mention of it, at least) as a last resort, when they have nothing else to contribute or they can’t exactly prove a (non)point. Like, “I’m 97, so I’m right!” or, “You’re 12; you can’t possibly know anything about (x)!” I’ll give bonus points to anyone who can remember the quote I posted earlier that relates to this! I am 3 ½ years old. Is that what you want to hear, Geneandthem? Age aside, I am more knowledgeable of some things than you are, even if you don’t want to accept it. I’m not saying that I am smarter than you overall, but about this I am more educated (it sounds like). I am just interested in finding answers and understanding how things work. As aforesaid, it doesn’t have to be everything—we’ll take it one step at a time—but clearly you are another person who is interested in fairytaleland explanations. If it is not scientific, then what is it? Magical? Unexplainable? Not understandable to any degree so we should just give up? What do you think “scientific” means? I don’t understand how you think, so I don’t know what you’re getting at. I find it funny, what you’re saying----Science?! About matters of the heart (brain)?! What are you, two? Everyone knows science can’t explain anything!!!! Witch! Witch! You’re one of those people who thinks a (scientific) theory is just a guess, amirite? I actually am interesting in knowing what you think science is. Judging from your very silly reactions to all this, I’d say you’re in that group who doesn’t have a good understanding of it at all. And, see, yet again, I am being provoked. (But at least it looks like you actually read what I wrote this time, geneandthem, although I never said “smelling colors”. Another ignorant statement, I suppose. You look at something like this and call it silly or stupid [you’re using it in this way] without even desiring to understand it, and I see opportunity to understand things we never have before. I think it’s neato, “smelling colors.” Do you know that this could be the “missing link” or sorts to understanding how the senses work (because there are lots of gaps in our knowledge of the senses)? But, of course, knowing or wanting to know how things work (scientifically, not just guessing and wishing) is a horrible idea. Insulting, in fact. This is one reason why I don’t give too much of a shit about people’s emotions. We’re teaching everyone to be stupid and offended at everything (in America, at least), to the point where it’s ridiculous. I hope we get the perspective from a nonAmerican somewhere in the mix (perhaps a European or Asian or Australian or something. We have African posters, I believe). I do miss Australia… I just find this so assbackwards. But it’s both amusing and very entertaining. And I don’t think Tatted is the kind of person to let me get to her (and I’m not trying to). Though I must ask you, Tatted, if you are reading this post: Why are you interesting in getting people to think about their actions and thoughts (by “challenging” them) when you yourself said that you are not willing to change your own thoughts? I really am curious, so I hope you answer the question. -RoChi

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  19.   rockerchick27 says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 08

    Tatted, Hey girl! About the stereotypes… I am bored with it, but that doesn’t mean I can’t post. I said I don’t like talking to people about things they clearly don’t know about. If they’re willing to learn, now that’s different. I’m happy to teach. But debating with people about this stuff when they have no clue, I find pointless. I might still do it, though, if I have some time to waste. Anyway, I believe the exact opposite. I think that they act this way *because* we’re allowing it (via “sugar-coating”/not stressing enough that it is a problem). Now, considering the way you said that, I think you are confusing what I am saying. I’m not saying I like to be blatantly rude or mean, but I am saying that some people need to hear the message full-on in order for them to comply. I am not a person who believes that everything just works out or that being nice solves everything. Again, I am not saying that we should resort to violence or anything, as I believe talking it out is best at first. Sometimes plain talking doesn’t work. Sometimes you need to yell. Sometimes you need to bring some very harsh realities to light. Some people just need a good spanking (though I really do think there are better methods. I like to keep it … verbal). I really think I am giving you the wrong impression of myself, but that’s alright. I don’t know what I can say to turn it around without turning it into a lie. On the same note, I think they need to be treated nicely. I wish we could all get along, but let’s be real. No matter how big the world is, our differences cause problems and probably always will. I don’t think we should all be the same (and I’m glad we’re not), but I don’t like seeing statements like what you’ve said. It seems like all talk and no action; useless, in other words (I wish it’d happen though, don’t get me wrong). The way I figure it, if we were really capable of that on a grand scale, we would have accomplished it by now. But I also see it as a journey… maybe we’ll learn how to do it. I think we’re capable of achieving more peace than we have now. One of the things I think we have to do is start trying to get people to operate off of reality and not fantasy. Now I’m not saying that we can’t fantasize, but I find it utterly detrimental how so many people function off of how they wish the world is rather than how it really is, or even trying to find out. But, oh well. That’s exactly why the world is like it is. Or at least it is part of the problem. -RoChi

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  20.   babybcool says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 08

    It's me the "black male" from Atlanta. Sorry, haven't posted my picture yet. In my experience white women come in about three flavors. Black women on the other hand come in thirty three! I think black women are more in tune with their God given gifts of creativity,sensibility as well as sensuality. White women act they are uncomfortable with natural sensuality and sexauality. A lot of white women are just too plain... Bacon "don't" sizzle if you "ain't got no" grease!

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  21.   BeautyBeyondWords says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 08

    Well, Mack Daddy.... I think you should take care of one thing at a time. You are married and she is in a relationship. It's not wise to jump into something and there is still open doors somewhere else. Too many things are involved. It sounds like, she is not ready to just give up on what she has going at this time and you need to take care of what is going on with you. It's easy to jump into the arms of someone else and magically think that life would be so perfect. You don't know her to consider marriage at this time. SLOW DOWN, BOY! :) You don't want to jump out of a bad marriage into a worst relationship. Not saying that it could be worst.... But slow down, do self inventory of yourself to understand why your marriage failed... and make positive nessesary changes for future relationships. Women are emotional and you don't know what emotional ties, she has to this man she is still with. If she is in love with him, and he is no good for her. She could possibly use you and play with your emotions to console her own. I don't know her and I don't know the circumstances of her relationship. But, my advice to you is to slow down! You are moving way too fast and possibly faster than this young lady is willing to move. Get the facts. Find out your place. One thing I have found to be true.. People ONLY care about who they love. You can't make anyone love you, if they don't. I said that to say... You don't want to move prematurely and get hurt. And then your drawls is all in a bunch.... Keep your eyes and EARS open. If you are a good listener, people tend to tell you where they are coming from. Don't do anything with anyone, until your marriage is over on paper! Okay, my friend. The bible says.. A man that findeth a wife, find a good thing and obtaineth favor from the Lord! ~ There are plenty of "good things" walking around here that would love and respect you and be an awesome woman to you. Don't settle. By the way... I don't know this girl. I don't know you. This is my opinion and my advice to you. I will keep you in prayer and ask God to bless you beyond, what you could possibly imagine. Just be able to appreciate the blessing, when you get it! :) Hope it helps.

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  22.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 08

    Ashley!!!!!!!!XOXOXO(Did you know we were considered for being on the INDEPENDENT 2008 ticket together???..lol....US in politics....could you imagine....LMAO!!!!) SOOOOO glad to see you back and thanks for the love, man.....I needed it. I must tell you I have read all the subsequent (after my last) posts and I must say (personally-speaking) I am GLAD Louisville just went through a THREE-DAY BLACKOUT......lol. Seriously, we just experienced remnants of IKE (one WICKED wind-storm)and that shyte was tough as leather....lol But like I have said in here before, I believe in "signs" and things happening for reasons.....And one BIG reason for me going through that 3-day bit o hail MUST have been to keep my AZZ out of here....LMAO. STEREOTYPES......lol....couldn't believe that one persisted as long as it did (for the record I don't LOVE the "positive ones"....it's just interesting to sit back and see how many actually "fit" me...not being arrogant...I just have always been a more POSITIVE person.....with "sugar-coating" and all). And as for being "challenged" by you...funny, because I SURE didn't feel like I was .....I guess that is because I NEVER actually OPPOSED anyone in here. (WARNING:Something else I have stated before, feel it needs reiterating) THIS WORLD IS BIG ENOUGH FOR DIFFERENT PEOPLE(W/DIF. VIEWS) TO ALL LIVE IN HARMONY. and once that is recognized then there WILL be (more) PEACE ON EARTH. I close here with sincere love and hope for all the people (especially those in Texas) suffering any sort of aftermath of this storm season. IT ONLY MAKES US STRONGER..... ...(as always..)PEACE and BLESSINGS tatted2death P.S.....(to Rochi)....ummm, just forget the whole "changed me" thing.....I misread something you said pertaining to my view on relationships..lol. ALSO EXTREMELY HILARIOUS...you state you think discussing stereotypes is "SOOOO BORING", yet continued to do so for at least two more posts....you slay me....LOL. I really just need you to know one thing about me, Rochi..the reason I am a "sugar-coater" at times is there is ALWAYS enough so-called reality and BITTERNESS floating around here. I tend to think if some of those "ghettoville biatches" had a little more "sugar-coating" (preferably in the form of some opposite sex POSITIVE, NON-PERV recognition) in their lives maybe they may not have ended up so deserving of your title.

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  23.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 08

    Welcome Back Geneandthem! I'm so happy that you have graced us with your thoughts. You are a breath of fresh air. I would also like to welcome all the new members. I find some post to be well put together others not so well. I just keep off my soap box till I have something meaningful to post. This blog does give me some colorful reading while I'm at work. Thank you all for your thoughts! Keep posting and hopefully we can explore the real topic at hand. Ciao, Smooches

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  24.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 08

    OMG!!!!!! Where are you from????? "You do realize that the root of the matter is scientific, right?" With your smelling colors looking A$$! What is wrong with you? You make the statement "In my experience" sound so refined! You world traveler you! I know I asked you before but how old are you again? Or should I say young? Tatted I always come back for you because you rock! Your the only rockerchick! Don't let her make you sick like she does me! It will never be scientific That's why you will never understand this! Let me guess rock do you believe in Xenu to?????? Oh and edward Your post rocked dude! SO what part of Africa are you from????

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  25.   BeautyBeyondWords says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    Okay.. Rocker... Okay already.... I am tired of this discussion with you. Maybe will agree on something else later. You can't change what I feel and I don't really care, if you do. So.. it is... what it is...:) I love you in spite of yourself....lol..lol... Okay. Mack Daddy, I will definitely give my side of things, when I have a little more time. I am on the run.... How old are you by the way?

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  26.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    I think that is something you should ask her about this instead of us, because she will be able to explain it much better. It could be emotional distress---I know I was afraid to commit to my boyfriend at first because I feared that we’d split and I’d be hurt. But it sounds like it could be many things. Who knows? She may even appreciate you trying to understand it with her. It could also be that she’s just waiting for your divorce to be finalized… Sorry about the generic advise @_x;; -RoChi

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  27.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    Once again, your examples are not good. Yes, it means it is partly true if some people have it >.> Do I seriously need someone to define “partly” for you? Maybe you do need sleep. Examples: Stereotype: Asian women are submissive. Asians, from Asia, are generally taught to be submissive. Some women from every culture is submissive, but women from Asia are associated with it more. Another Asian stereotype: Asian men have smaller penises. Penis size is generally proportionate with body size, and Asians used to be much shorter. So, yes, their penises would have been smaller than the average white, black or whomever man’s. Does this mean that they are the smallest or that no one else’s is small? No. The average height of Asians in various Asian countries has increased very much over the past century. Guess what that means? On sociological and psychological terms, we are on different levels of understanding. (By that, I mean I think I am more versed in these things than you. Either that or you forgot an awful lot). You’re also using logical fallacies. If you want to be taken seriously, I suggest you refrain from doing so. I’m not telling you what to do, but if you want to sound like you know what you’re talking about, then don’t use them. Using one example does not disprove a general statement. Every rule has its exceptions. My point is that SOME are true, not all of them. Not to mention, the definition of sterotype says nothing about EVERYBODY in a particular group. I’m bored as well. As I mentioned to CJ, I don’t like talking about things with people who are not knowledgeable about the subject. This is off-topic, anyway. -RoChi

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  28.   MackWhiteDaddy28 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    You see, we are both seniors in college. She is going to graduate before me. Yes, I am married for 5 years. However, my wife has only been with me intermittently for 3.5 years. Last fourth of July we split for the third time. She is real young , I married her a week after she turned 18, and she uses that as an excuse. This time our split is amicable, and I have no desire to ever be with her again. I am filing for divorce, but it takes time. Once upon a time I loved my ex wife, but I never felt about her the way I do about this other girl. One time we were at work, we used to work together a couple of years ago at a job on campus, I saw her and everybody standing around her disappeared like a movie or something. About a week later she told me she told me she thought I was handsome and it was too bad I was married. That was two years ago. She's the one I think about 24/7. She is not married and is closer to my age. I have known her for several years and she let it be known to me that she wished I wasn't married several years ago. However, I stayed away because I was tryna make things all good with my wife. She told me that next semester she will be ready to give herself fully to me...like I deserve, after she has time to mesh with herself. I can't wait that long, even though it's not that long. I told her I would fall back and wait for her like two months ago. We communicate via emails, but I haven't seen her in 6 weeks; I miss her 2 death. We are like that song lovers & friends. Some of the shi she tells I would not let fly with any girl...but, because she is honest to me I let it slide, plus she's really not even my girl yet, but she wants to be. She tells me that she knows relationship with dued won't last, and that she still believes I'm the "one". My divorce will be final by next semester. I think I might marry this girl, so I don't want to make any hasty decisions because that is what got me where I am with wife 1.0 ;], but for real I'm crazy about this girl. I hope that is enough info for you to help me answer these questions. Hit me back

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  29.   BeautyBeyondWords says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    Hi flirty... How are you, girl? Hope everyone has a good day today and makes lots of money. That is my goal. lol... lol.. I am starting work late today. I am about to go workout and pick up some groceries for this elderly lady that I help. Check you out later!!!!!!!

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  30.   BeautyBeyondWords says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    Much love to you Mack Daddy.... I am tired of talking about stereotypes and all that... I really don't care, what anybody feels about me. I slept good last night. People choose to believe what they want about people. I know who I am. I am happy to be, who I am. Rocker, I don't have to take anything up with anyone. Who says what is true?...Out of all the people in the world, I see 20 white people with purple hair... Does that mean that its partly true about the whole race. What defines if it as partly true or not? People are just people. If you find white people with purple hair, I will bet money you can find some black people with purple hair, also. So stereotype is based on what? What a person choose to believe? Ignorance? What? My energy is draining.... Hey, Mack Daddy... No one is married, right? You or the girl (is who I am referring to?) Did she tell you that she dating out of convience? ~ Just want a few facts first. What kind of relationship, do you have with her? What have you discussed to make you feel that she will be ready for you next year, boo?

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  31.   rihtnow says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    Black women are magical in my eyes!! As a WM, I have never been more connected to women than BW. They definately turn me on the most! They're beautiful,gorgeous,social,funny,deep,casual,sensitive,smart, likeable,loveable and the list goes on! WW I've been with put up so many roadblocks to their innerselves that the fizz soon loses its taste. With BW, there is such a naturalness that makes them approachable even in the most minor encounters. In my list above, I love their depth the most. With BW I don't have to go out of my way to initiate conversation as with WW. With BW, I just feel I'm on the same wavelength and everything feels natural. I have met BW who are not interested in WM, but that's ok, that's their choice.

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  32.   Flirty1 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    Bronze: I read you're profile and saw your pics. You seem pretty outgoing and fun too. You'll have no problem meeting a guy very soon. ;-)

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  33.   MackWhiteDaddy28 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    I'm talking to everybody out there in blog land... I have a new question... When a women likes you and thinks that you are the "one". What exactly does that entail if she is still in a relationship with somebody she is merely dating because it is convenient to not have any deep emotional attachment to until next year? Is she somehow going to be ready for me next year? She thinks so, but I'm not exactly sure. If the ladies could help me out here...much love ;} And just in case you nonbelievers don't think this is relevant. This girl is the most beautiful women to ever grace me with her presence and she happens to be black. We both have things in our lives we are trying to work out; and other than our skin color we have more in common than any other female I have ever dated...including my ex-wife who is 1/4 black.

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  34.   Flirty1 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    Hi Bronze! I love to flirt so I find that if I smile at men then they smile back. There are some that don't. Whatever. Their loss. I don't let a few sour grapes get me down. I've struck up conversations in lots of places about anything, really. I've met people at the grocery store (people love to know what you're cooking--especially when you have a recipe in hand), bar, parties, dance class, the park (we have a beautiful park in the heart of uptown in the Twin Cities--you'd be amazed at all the men and women you meet there). I've also met some great people online as well. My advice is to exercise all avenues. If you enjoy your life, people will gravitate toward you.

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  35.   BronzeEra71 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    p.s. -- flirty1, you seem pretty smiley yourself -- how do white men whom you don't know that well respond when you smile at them?

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  36.   BronzeEra71 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't debating the validity of 'racial' or cultural stereotypes just a bit outside the purview of this blog?? I think it's very relevant, however, to find out which of them are still floating out there in the minds of the general populace [in this case, the male half, and particularly those who have good feelings about the subjects of those stereotypes]. I will certainly plead guilty to discovering stereotypes in my thoughts on a regular basis, but I sure as heck would be reluctant to tell anyone about them -- especially the subjects of those stereotypes. That doesn't, of course, automatically mean that the stereotypes are completely wrong... --- That's why I would like to not scare the guys off from telling us what their honest-to-whoever reasons are for 'loving them some black ladies.'--- I don't know about you, but I don't know of a better way of finding out what's going on in folks' heads than to ask them in a place where no one will ever see them or know their names... And ideally, one in which they won't get those heads bitten off... Incidentally, to put MY 2cents in, I vaguely agree that really we love who we fall in love with and race (the cultural construct) should have nothing to do with it. Sadly, as long as that cultural construct is with us it will have a heluva lot to do with it. -- And I want to back up Miss Thang, aka CaribPrincess: although we all know 'race' doesn't exist in the dreamworld of science, it is very much alive and well in the world of the human mind that we all actually inhabit. All we can hope for is that learning from science will influence our cultural thought-scape more and more... Meanwhile, men, tell it like it is!

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  37.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    Who are you talking to, MackWhiteDaddy? And we can't assume that of ALL atereotypes. You're generalizing stereotype, lolz. I think we should get away from the stereotype bit, hmn? -RoChi

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  38.   MackWhiteDaddy28 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 08

    Stereotypes are brought about by broad generalizations and not necessarily based on factual information, but rather misinformation. I still love you.

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  39.   RockerChick27 says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 08

    Flirty, I repeat: Of course, some ARE pure bullshit. You must admit that it is difficult for a stereotype to persist if not many of the people in question fit into it, yes? Just so you know, you only listed one stereotype. Many asian women (in Asia, at least) are taught to be submissive, so that isn't a stereotype. Many black women ARE loud. Bossy? I don't know. The ones I know sure as hell are. But I live near ghettoville, so everyone here is a biatch. Now we must keep in mind that stereotypes are not saying that they are the only ones. And, again, I am not saying that everybody fits into their assumed stereotype or that all stereotypes are true. I donno. I just don't give too much of a sh-- about stereotypes. Maybe I'm just much less sensitive than the average Joe. Talking about stereotypes is soooo boring... -RoChi

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  40.   Flirty1 says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 08

    RoChi: in response to your stereotypes comment: I just want to throw my 2¢ in. Stereotypes can be based upon falsehoods. There are many ideas that get cemented about groups of people that have no basis in reality (myths), get magnified, and then are solidified as truth. There were many falsehoods about blacks that were passed around from the outlandish (black people have tails) to the subtle (there are more black men in prison than in college). Some also use a 1 or 2 experiences with people to stereotype a group (White people as racist, Asian women as submissive and black women as bossy and loud).

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  41.   Rockerchick27 says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 08

    Tatted, Howdy! I never meant that anyone hates science. I just stated what I see as true in here—science is not encouraged. I’m not saying straight-up bs is—although that seems to be the case with some of these responses—but scientific breakdowns don’t seem to be taken too lightly. Go ahead… disagree with me ;) About hurting people… I’m not asking you to change or anything, but our views differ yet again (which I like. Opposition; different viewpoints. Makes it more interesting). I don’t give much of a shiznick about hurting people’s feelings, though I won’t TRY to hurt them. I realize that many people are far TOO sensitive about many things (and I blame much of this on society, really). Maybe it’s more like you said… tough love. Again, please understand that I don’t TRY to hurt feelings. I am just truthful. My friend says this about me: If you want to hear the truth, don’t go to , because she’ll tell it. You know what they say… the truth hurts. You’ve probably noticed that I am generally blunt and I don’t bother sugarcoating things (though I might try to make it sound nicer if it doesn’t lower the impact and central message). I care more about their health (mental, physical, emotional, etc). I know that a temporary smile is not always better in the long run. Some people need to cry about some things. We should let them. Tatted, you have to realize that this blog isn’t directed at anything in particular. The title is, “Why white men love the black woman.” Although we are mainly seeing repeat answers, the source of why will be different. Some, like me, will view this from a scientific perspective, and some won’t. Neither is right or wrong. As for stereotypes, I told you before, they affect people’s opinion. That’s how it goes. You do realize that the root of the matter is scientific, right? Lol… And… it seems to me as though you are accepting the nice stereotypical answers and not the bad ones. I mean, everybody here is speaking from a personal perspective and objectifying and generalizing white and black men and women—stereotyping. All I see is E_edwards giving personal observations and you going overboard about them. I actually like both of his posts… And, hey… I was provoked both times. Geneandthem posted that long bitchrant to me, and CJ posted something to me too. Both challenging me, both stemming from them not fully reading what I had written. That really bothers me, someone trying to start something with me without even READING what I had written. Just understand that I am challenging YOU. I’m straight-up calling your views out (in a nice way, of course ZD), as you’re doing to E_edwards. I want people to ask questions too… you know the debater in me. I hate how people so blindly believe things, but sometimes it is hard to realize that blind belief is the culprit. And… I don’t understand. You want E_edwards to answer you, but you won’t answer me? You know that he DID point out that he is speaking more along the lines of GENETICS and not just random shit. Black women and white women tend to have different body compositions, which means they will look different with different amounts of fat, on a large scale. I can’t say anything about the teeth… I can research it for personal knowledge (don’t worry. I won’t share what I read). Onward… you have to question whether the ignorant racist people are teaching this stuff or whether the stereotypees are. In my experience, it is the people in question and not so much what people are directly teaching me. But you know what also happens to kill many stereotypes? Scientific data and refutes. REAL answers. Of course, some ARE pure bullshit. And I must ask what you are talking about with your next post. I never said anything changed you. As for your next post, what is an original thought? Everyone becomes a ‘supporter’ of an already existing viewpoint (i.e. certain philosophy). Wait. "Now if anyone has some REAL answers to my other questions....I will address those." Of which questions are you speaking? -RoChi

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  42.   Rockerchick27 says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 08

    Okay… I’ll break this up again. Beauty, let’s see here… According to dictionary.com, a stereotype is a simplified and standardized conception or image invested with special meaning and held in common by members of a group. So, by definition, a stereotype is *party* true, which is what E_edwards said. Anyway, your examples are trite. No one said stereotypes are true on a full scale, but some ARE true on a large scale. Does that mean every last person fits into them? NO. But a lot do in some cases. Is that bad? Take it up with the people who fit into them. -RoChi

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  43.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 08

    LOL:......yes I DEFINITELY will be the first to admit to getting quite a bit lax in my grammar and sentence structure as of late. But you must understand (and I think I speak for quite a few others here) that when some people are passionate about a subject sometimes that whole grammar thing goes right out the window.....lol. As for the "flow-of-consciousness", it's funny because that is exactly how I write (creatively)...it's my style so to speak. Anywho....I just wanted to extend a welcome here ( I know I don't "own" this blog or anything....LOL) because it seems I have made this my online "home"...LOL... Mi casa es su casa. And I just wish people would (finally) get my point on the whole "expressing yourself" issue. I have NEVER supported the idea that others don't "let us know who they are or what they are thinking"....I would just (sincerely) like to know where these thoughts truly originate. Are they original thoughts or have people just heard something said, experience very little and suddenly become "supporters" of a certain philosophy???? I am just trying to get to the root of that. End of story. Again you are most welcome here and I am 100% sure that soon your presence will attract the RIGHT type of male attention (here and in your day-to-day life). Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  44.   BronzeEra71 says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 08

    New to the topic... I have to agree with Rocker Chick: ""…That’s why I like the internet[...] I like knowing who people actually are and what they’re really thinking."" I know I don't look half black, but I am and I was endlessly curious to find out what people would say in response to this topic. I'm very grateful that folks have been so honest and open here [though I wouldn't have minded having fewer personal off-topic rants to wade through ;o)]. While I've dated men of various colors, I've had a passionate thing for blonde men since I was about 5 years old.. Back in the seventies and eighties when I was growing up, they generally emphatically did not return the interest. Now suddenly I look around and I see what used to look shocking happening with nonchalance all around me. But here's my thing: I'm a smiley person -- I smile at everyone, for no reason but that they're there. My experience with white men is still that 1) they assume that I'm expressing interest and 2) they immediately go all cold on me, to make sure I know that they don't share it. That being the case, how the hell am I supposed to believe that there are white men out there who would be interested in me? I'm honestly intimidated to flirt with white men because I'm afraid I'll get the same response that I get when I'm just being friendly! I'd like to get some frank response from you grand men who have injected your two cents into the conversation -- given that you have a passion for dark women, what would your response be if a lovely dark woman of your acquaintance gave you a friendly smile now and again? I'm an attractive woman, and I know that I project self-confidence, because people tell me so regularly (unasked); and I'm frankly very comfortable being single, so no one could accuse me of being desperate -- but I wouldn't mind dating more often -- or even meeting a man of my dreams, if that's not too much to ask. I welcome anyone else's input too, of course. Conradld, I want to thank you, thank you for your very generous outpouring of love and goodwill. [btw, would folks please consider using some good old-fashioned punctuation? It honestly gives me a headache trying to make sense of endless run-on sentences with flow-of-consciousness grammar.. thank you from the bottom of my heart]

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  45.   edward, says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 08

    I like african woman , as they are really cordual to you unlikealot of ones over her ethat are into whatever and snobby alot of the time, african american ones could take a lesson on how to treat people and not be foul mouthed as i see sometimes, I dream about making love to a nice african woman in bed with her and both of us going over each others body, like sweet chocolate, african woman are really down to earth and caring as ive seen alot of places, I wouldnt be concerned about being married to one as they are really personable and alot different that ones over here,

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  46.   MackWhiteDaddy28 says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 08

    I love you baby because you keep it so juicy for me.

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  47.   BeautyBeyondWords says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 08

    That is why I like you hotsauce (tatted)....lol...Girl, I have renamed you on here. lol... James 1:8 says.. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. Don't you ever waver. I liked that. You asked " Where is the love? " I got some. White men? Beauty is looking for you. Why do you like black women, again? " Tell me something good...Tell me that you love me- YEAHHHHHHHH " lol..lol... I am being silly, what is the subject?

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  48.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 08

    oh...dang it... I DO have to address you ON THIS (and this only), ROCHI>>>> what did any of your opinions have to do with my view of relationships??....JUST CURIOUS AND NEED SOME CLARIFICATION HERE.....How did your opinions change me...(seeing as how I have pretty much felt the same about relationships for about ten years now and I AM COOL with that)?????

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  49.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 08

    That's what I am talking about,Beauty......WHERE IS THE LOVE????LOL(tye's reponse was cool.....more comments like that right about now are really needed...lil less superficial would be REALLY cool...LOL). ROchi Sis, I don't HATE science so let's not get flipped around in that hurricane....ALL I AM SAYING (AND WILL CONTINUE TO SAY IS), WHY RESTATE SOMETHING THAT YOU KNOW DEEP DOWN WOULD HURT TO HEAR (the flipside of) YOURSELF. AND HAIL TO THE YEAH I CARE ABOUT HURTING OTHERS.....just the compassion in me I suppose. If you don't agree there, I will just have to leave you be....because that is a core part to me.....NOT CHANGING IT....NOT sorry there. Although at times I give "tough love", it is TRUE LOVE....not the romantic/attachment-based sort....REAL LOVE....(humming Mary J. Blige....LOL) All things being said, there is a time and place for everthing....if this blog were posing specific scientific questions and/or directed to the discusion of stereotypes then I would, as you say, "chill"...(although I think I am being quite "chill" considering the way I have seen you "go for the throat" in here...LOL....the name-calling and cussing.....whhheew....LOL). But am not suppressing anyone's opinions here or any of that crap. LIKE I SAID PREVIOUSLY, I challenged just to get to the root of the matter...NOT that that will ACTUALLY happen in here....but at least it just might make some OTHERS thinK. I am not in here to be some self-serving, opinionated "witch with a B in her AZZ.....I thrive on knowing that SOMEWHERE someone is reading what I write and going back and asking themselves some serious questions (MISSION COMPLETED...lol). Anywho....I already knew my comment would probably bring you out of the wood work, Rochi(LOL)....and knew exactly what you were going to have to say in answer. Therefore, I am not really going to address your post. The reason for me asking the questions I did was to get some "fresh" responses..that are not necessarily "scientifically" based. (especially from white men....more specifically from E_edwards...I am patient and am SURE he will reappear; maybe even with "girlfriend" in tow 8^/); I guess I am just ALLERGIC to B.S....but when I see it coming at 100 miles an hour, I don't duck or run...I face it head on...always has been my style so telling me to "chill" on that is hilarious. ....nah, Beauty, I don't think you can take full credit for this one.....LOL.....I guess this time I am the "FIRESTARTA.....twisted FIRESTARTA"...(I think I am going go listen to some Prodigy and DANCE my A$$ off...whether it looks good to others or not, it's wicked fun to me..... *smilez*....lol...I need to get my own playlist together for when I type in here...LMAO). (as always...never wavering) Peace and Blessings TO ALL tatted2death P.S...just to keep it clear....I NEVER said stereotypes in and of themselves were ignorant....when I typed "IGNORANCE"....it was pointed to the reasons that SOME....I REPEAT>>>>>SOME use/fall back on/ restate OVER AND OVER the same old tired stereotypes (especially the ones that are based less on superfical attributes (the teeth thing.....just ridiculous) but more on character (like all blacks are lazy or some crap like that). That word (ignorance) was used to address the cycle of people teaching this sort of thing to the next generation (thinking "futuristically" here...lol)and just basically "recruiting" the next wave of rascist (whether that is the intention or not) THE END...lol. DANG IT.....I never thought I would have to dissect such a clear and concise post....whew.

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  50.   BeautyBeyondWords says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 08

    Stereotypes are very hurtful. I didn't like saying that about the stereotypes in my last comments... So, why do white women really love black women? Who got some good pillowtalk for me? lol...lol... Good night, sleep tight... Don't let them bed bugs bite...lol...lol..

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