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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Bambababe: YOU GOT MAIL!

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  2.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    @boots OJ loved Nicole to death.

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  3.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Petite you are going to have to send me a message at Bamabelle2k9 on this website. I should be able to read but i can't send you a message because I don't have a paid memebership right now.

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  4.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    @sorry chile I wasn't feeling so hot this morning so I slowed down a bit. I'll get to you now :)

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  5.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Dear Boots White boy robbed banks with a black mask on. He said, he found the love of his life in a black woman. Hopefully, she will visit him in jail.

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  6.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    @BAMBA: I ain't posting it (my email) here. No way! You did post yours once upon a time here, and I wrote it down, now I can't find it. This is why I asked you to go MY PROFILE HERE and send me an email so I can provide you with mine OR repost yours again if you feel like that. C'mon. You holding up progress..... teeheeheeeheeeee

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  7.   boots says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    My point is.. White men can claim they love blk women, have sex with them, and even get married.And still be racist.....I have no love at all for those kind.

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  8.   boots says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Greetings to all ......especially to all you blk women that just love white men. This article in the Cincinnati Enquirer on may 12th 2010 makes my point vividly....these white guys that claim that they love black women like, Conrad Zdzierak the bank robber .He wore the mask of a black man while robbing several banks." I met a beautiful African- America woman she is the love of my life".....WTF .. yet he is willing to be disguised as a black man while commiting his crimes ,thus showing his total disdain for blk men. These white dudes out there who proclaim their love for the blk woman have no love for our race at all.But they sure dont mind having a good bed partner............please read the article...ACCUSED ROBBER CAME FOR LOVE CINCINNATI.COM

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  9.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Give me your email addy and I'll hit you up.

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  10.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    friendly13 said: You refer to black males in that derogatory manner….what a shame. I am raising two black men. I never use that word around them because I'm raising them to be strong and respectable. Menelik replies: and will you be teaching your sons that Black men are of equal value to white men, won't you dearest? friendly13 said: Right now, I have not decided who I want to be be my man. I do know this though: it will be a white man! Menelik replies: I guess that just about answers my question! your sons will doubtless learn some valuable lesson from you lol Menelik Charles London England

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  11.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    @friendly.... That's what's up! Holla, I got something to share, and some info I got elsewhere! *hugs*

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  12.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Comment by Bamababe2k9 on 21 May 2010: GM ladies and some gentleman. Petite I am waiting on you to tell me what’s going on --------------------------------------------- G'morning sis.... I can if you email me or either give me YOUR email addy. See what I'm say'n? How was Grey's? I heard there were a couple of episodes. Anyways hit me back here with your email addy by way of email or if you want to post it again here. I can't remember where I wrote the friggin thing down at. So much for 50! Trust I joke about it with you, but I'm loving it. There's something to be said for a woman about to embark on that, ummm er...well you no that stage of her life. I know friendly can feel me on that a little bit. She might not be there just yet! Y'all know what I'm say'n..... I will give you explicit details when you hit me up.

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  13.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Dear Friendly All jokes aside, technology is great. But it never replaces the physical presence of a father being there. For the record, my cousin is married to his wife and they got two kids. (Both black) I call them my niece and nephew. It is amazing how responsive my nephew is to his father. The same goes for his daughter. They are both 5 and 4 years old. He don't got to tell them to do anything twice. They just do what they are told. He never uses corporal punishment ( I don't believe in it). Even though, I was beat as a child. I am actually old school. My mother beat me when she was angry. LOL Or my mother said, "Wait until your father get home". That classic line. You be like "oh shit", me and my brother, would go upstairs because when my father came home. You could hear the door distinctly slam. He would talk to us mainly because he was too tired to "beat us". He was just say " I heard you did this and that". I won't get started on the strict church upbringing. You had to have your suit ready the night before and be up early for church. It wasn't a game. At a certain point the beating didn't even hurt with the belt. You can't spank boys after 9 years old because it is useless. Me and my brother faked like it hurt and laughed. You just getting tired beating us. You losing breath. LOL Theres things your father teach you that is important. Like how to tie a "tie". Getting up early for work like he did. Just certain things that rubbed off on me and I am 31 year old. I can't recall my father being out from work more than a week in 25 years of working. How to iron your clothes was important. My father didn't teach much about women. He was pretty much a male chauvinist. I figure my mother was the only one to put up with him. My father was a player though. I saw a picture of this British white girl he had in his suitcase. I was like "damn this a fine ass white girl". My pops yea she was until your damn momma get pregnant and wouldn't leave my apartment. That is back in the day, where you had to marry your baby mother man. LOL My mother is just the total opposite of him. My father is really mean. He was raised kind of hard in Jamaica. Literally, from the same ghetto as Bob Marley. My mom grew up very privileged. Her father was one of the first black men to get a Master's in Math in Michigan. That was before the Civil rights movement. My grandfather went back to Jamaica because the bus driver wouldn't pick him up. He said fuck this shit. I wouldn't raise my child the same way I was raised. I don't believe in beating your kids to get good grades. I don't believe in intimidating your kids period. I am old school when you grew up being scared of your pops. He was temper was out of control when he was a young man. My father mellowed as he got older though.

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  14.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    GM ladies and some gentleman. Petite I am waiting on you to tell me what's going on

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  15.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    @PetiteChick Again, I am with you 100% on the parenting issues. You are so right. Sometimes women can be the absent parent. They need to realize that they need to be involved with their children just as much as noncustodial fathers do. The poor girl is probably acting like that because she didn't have a mother figure to teach her how to conduct herself. This is mere speculation but, her dad may have had some girlfriends who were bad examples and she maybe mimicking them. On the other hand girls who do not have fathers around may try to get that attention through unhealthy relationships with older men or just any man for that matter. Parenting is a two person job. I think it is sad that people don't take it seriously. In stead so many want to shove their responsibility off onto someone else. By the way yes I did get your message. I will holla.

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  16.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Good morning ladies: PetiteChick, Bamababe2k9, Godiva, etc. and to all the men on here who are not uptight: Mr. Laurelton Queens (who can be reasonable sometimes) What'ch'all know good?

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  17.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    @Malarki5 You refer to black males in that derogatory manner....what a shame. I am raising two black men. I never use that word around them because I am raising them to be strong and respectable. Yes, again you are right, I did all those things for my black men and they did not appreciate it. That is their loss. Who said I was trying to live with someone. The only man I have ever lived with was my husband. I feel like if we are not married, he should have his own house and life and I mine. Malarki5, you need to get some counseling sweetie. You have a lot of bottled up hatred for your mother and you are taking it out on every woman you meet. Get some help, it's going to be alright. You will find that special someone who likes being abused and neglected. There are plenty of women who are uptight about sex too. Maybe you should go out and find yourself one. Yeah, get off of here babe and go out wearing your T-shirt that says "I am a angry bastard and I am mad at my mother". Then that special someone will find you and you will find her and you both can live miserable lives together. You are such a bore.

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  18.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    @Bambababe and Friendly13 Ladies, whenever you're ready! *hugs*

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  19.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    G'morning MzBrown! Yes, I did forget that. It is HSN. Hmmm, girl I stopped watching them channels. I had to...they are the "debil." Teeheeeheee!

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  20.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    friendly13 said: Right now, I have not decided who I want to be in that position. I do know this though, it will be a white man. Menelik replies: it would have to be, dear; you can't be washing niggers feet, and soothing their balls in sea-salt, and they be walking out on you. I mean, it's happened 4 times already! Best get you a white man; more of em for a start; less like a lottery; mo money; more likely to be pussy whipped etc lol Goodbye! Menelik Charles London England

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  21.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    friendly13: The person I get involved with doesn’t need to worry about fathering my children because they have their own fathers. Menelik replies: so they don't need to live with you either, right? because if they did then, well, they'll have to have some parenting skills, no? Menelik Charles London England

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  22.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Friendly13 said: Has a woman ever washed your feet, dried them, and then fixed you a dark leafy green salad tossed with mandrian oranges, green onions, strawberries and oriental ginger dressing? Then bathed you from head to toe in a hot seasalt bubble bath and saturated your body completely in lotion from head to toe. You really should try it. If you guys had and appreciated a woman who treated you like that - the sex would be much better. Menelik replies: and you wouldn't be SINGLE lol Menelik Charles London England

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  23.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Petitechick said: "Another brand to look into is Carol’s Daughter." I forget which one, but either HSN or QVC does the Carol's Daughter products sometimes

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  24.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Petite where the heck are you? I'm here and now I can't find you lol

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  25.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    yeah I can multi task

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  26.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    @bamba I can't seem to get to YOU, so I want you to email me.... (above was for Bamba)

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  27.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    OK, can you email me right here?

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  28.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Hey Petite I just saw your message. I'm here watching Grey's hit me up.

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  29.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    @ Bamba, thanks for the love sis. I might not look it, but hey I know it. LOL. Please email me so that I may share something with you. I looked for ya and I can never find you. Dammit! LOL.

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  30.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    @Bamba Email me here please......

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  31.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 May 10

    Hi Friendly! I hope you got my email..... Sis, we are on the same page. A pontiac? That's what's up! Shoot, she's a young lady and needs things that she don't have to be expecting men to be giving her. Dad looked out! I have a sad but true story. My brother's ex wife has a daughter who really never lived with her own mother. The child is suffering for it now. I saw her on facebook recently and OMG. She is waaaaay out there. So much so that she looks like she belongs in a porn video. I was like, WTF? When children don't have the love of both their parents whether physically with them or by other means many of them seek attention and love in all the wrong ways and places. Children need their parents. Boys and girls need their dads. Boys especially need their dads, because try as we may, women can not teach their boys about manhood. This is just my opinion. So, yeah, any amount of attention a child can get from dad (so long as it is love) is a good thing.

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  32.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    @ Malarki5 Okay you are seekin to get a little attention from me even if it is negative....okay this last time. First of all you are the one trying to get me to say something that I am not saying. I only believe in monogomous relatonships, at least on my end. If I am not in a relationship I don't have sex, you imbicile. I make that perfectly clear to everyman I date right off so that he is not deceived. As far as trapping, you are silly. A man cannot get trapped. If he is in a situation it is one he wants to be in. My kids don't need you or anyone. The person I get involved with doesn't need to worry about fathering my children because they have their own fathers. You need to get in your time machine and get up-to-date. Right now, I have not decided who I want to be in that position. I do know this though, it will be a white man. So read'em and weep. Your mission is futile, move on and live your own life because you are notequipped to run mine.

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  33.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    Dear Friendly Please excuse my language about pussy whipped. Actually, I have not and that sounds very interesting. You know what the sex would be better. I like a woman with a sense of suspense. I always liked "what leads up to sex". Lingerie, and sex appeal is important in the bedroom . At least it is to me. I find women are more sexually aggressive than men nowadays. But the art of seduction is always important. I am from from uptight. I go the "Adult store" every now and then. I figure if you don't take it to the next level in the bedroom "another man" will. I find that more women are sexually aggressive than ever before. Maybe, it is just me, but I have been running into that.

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  34.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    Mr. Laurelton Queens I am suprised at you. Who was talking about pussy whipping. Well, at least you are not uptight about sex like Menelik(aka Malarki5). White men like to be appreciated like all other men do. Has a woman ever washed your feet, dried them, and then fixed you a dark leafy green salad tossed with mandrian oranges, green onions, strawberries and oriental ginger dressing? Then bathed you from head to toe in a hot seasalt bubble bath and saturated your body completely in lotion from head to toe. You really should try it. If you guys had and appreciated a woman who treated you like that the sex would be much better.

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  35.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    She said "friendly13 said: I am so sexy that the white man who wins me isn’t going to care that I have kids. He is just going to be glad to have me!" I ain't mean to laugh. HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA "Whew" (tears in my eyes) That must be some powerful pussy. I ain't gonna lie, I thought about being a woman with 4 KIDS. The sex was that good. Not this time around, hell with that. White boys get pussy whipped easily by black women. I can see why she so cocky. Good day.

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  36.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    friendly13 said: 1) Do you have a hangup when it comes to sex. I don’t. You can’t cheapen me with your old fashion notions. 2) Women are free to do as they wish. I don’t have to explain my sex life to you. Menelik replies: 1) you "cheapen" sex by seeking to entrap a man without regard to his ability to be a father-figure to your kids (read what you wrote above)! 2) you've already explained your sex life insofar as you're more concerned with having sex than you are with finding a decent man. Please try to read what you write before you post before you into the unseemly business of denying what we can read before our very eyes! Menelik Charles London England

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  37.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    @Friendly see I noticed with Menelik that he has no problem picking in your business, or my business or anyone elses for that matter but he got quiet quickly when his business was put on front street. A chicken loves to pick in everyone's shit but his own. Oh and at you and Petite I wanted to tell you both how great you guys look for having grown children. Black don't crack and both of you have proven that. And Friendly honestly I thought you were younger then me lol when you said you had a child to graduate college I was stunned.

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  38.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    @Furryjeans On May 14 2010 You said "I wish I knew why I find black women so sexy and alluring, but there is no denying I do." Are you just too shy to give details. You know why. You don't have to explain yourself to the hateful men on this blog(expecially not to the mundane idiot Malarki5).

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  39.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    friendly13 said: I am so sexy that the white man who wins me isn’t going to care that I have kids. He is just going to be glad to have me! Menelik replies: he’s ONLY going to be "glad" to have sex with you, and NOT care about your kids? Have you any idea what you’re saying here, you silly sausage? Lol Menelik Charles London England

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  40.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    @Malarki5, You just want attention don't you. You can't be smacked for your rude sexist remarks because you supposedly live in London and you know if you made the comments you are making to the black women on this site to a white woman there in London they would probably have your butt put into the slammer, and rigtfully so. You are angry aren't you. You sound like them but you don't look like them. What a shame. Do you have a hangup when it comes to sex. I don't. You can't cheapen me with your old fashion notions. Women are free to do as they wish. I don't have to explain my sex life to you. You obviously don't have one. Besides that, I am not a teenager who needs her father to tell her what her curfew is and not to be out kissing boys.

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  41.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    @PetiteChick I am with you 100% on that. Yes, parental involvement is the most important. I want to share a little bit. First of all I am not proud that I am a person who has to deal with multiple fathers, but I do. My youngest daughter has never seen her father. But he pays so much childsupport that when she turned 18 I was able to buy her a new pontiac G-6 and pay over $300 a month for the insurance payment and pay her at & t cell phone bill and still give her a $200 allowance. Wow! But he has never sent her a birthday card or tried to visit her even though he was always welcome. It is also a right that I cannot deny him. She would have benefited more from his involvement than just sending her so much money. She sees her siblings fathers showing intrest in them but her father never showed any intrest in her. Now that she is grown he still hasn't tried to contact her. You are so right that sometimes women, in trying to punish the father, are only hurting the children when they intentionally withhold visitation. It is illegal anyway. Even if the absent parent gets behind in support that does not give the custodial parent a right to withhold visitation. If the childs absent parent builds a bond they will eventually want to do more for the child. It all works out in the end. If something happened to me it would be good to know that my children have a relationship with the other parent. Sometimes people can be so selfish. It is all about the kids.

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  42.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    Ladies: I have re-upped here. Got a good deal too w/ free months till August. I say this to tell you to look out for an email from me from this site. Have something to share with you. Friendly13 I agree with you on the many ways a parent can interact with their children. Children need both their parents. What I find disturbing is when a woman won't let a man see his children as a means to get back at him. Or if he fails in child support. Child support is of course important. Let's make no mistake about that. However, I don't feel it's reason enough to keep a man from his children. If the man can not provide child support monetarily, he can be there for his children in other ways. LOVE. Children need LOVE too. This is always topic that disturbs me. Most of the time women are using their children as leverage against the men for whatever reasons. This is just wrong in my opinion.

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  43.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    Anybody tech saavy? I'm confused about why my pix shows up sometimes and sometimes it doesn't. I'm not logged in at the site. There are times when it shows up and times when it doesn't. My browser is set not to save cookies, so that ain't it, is it? I do use different browsers so wondering if that's it? I'm gonna keep using this browser (Flock) to see if my pix shows up when I post w/o being logged on.

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  44.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    @bamba and friendly Florida is nice. The only thing is every time I went, I went right back to the same place. Y'all wanna guess where? You guessed it! Of course, because it was always for my son (when he was younger and then my grandson). Lord have mercy. And of course you have to go in the summer months or during Christmas break or something. Too hot in the summer for me. Standing on those lines, baking our arses off! LOL. We went in the Summer months because Christmas was always spent at home. OMG. I try as hard as I could to hit those parks later in the day.....of course that didn't gel with anybody. So I baked and enjoyed it overall for the happiness of my grandson. When they're happy I'm happy!

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  45.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    hey bamba babe! Yes, get away with friends or sistahs. When my oldest sister was liivng we'd do this. We'd have sister weekends. I miss her so much and don't have sister weekends anymore. My youngest sister an I don't get along very well. I love her - but from a distance. My older sister would come to my house, fire up the grill, find stuff in my house (even when I hadn't shopped) and make meals out of practically nothing) on a whim! Then there were times we'd call my nephew or ask my ex to come home with whatever. I miss her so much. When she wasn't cooking we were our way somewhere with the kids. she didn't have younger kids like my son. Her youngest child is the same age as my daughter, but she'd grab her grands, and my son and we'd go wherever. Dorney Park, places like that. All on a whim. Phone ringing: What you doing today? Well, I was gonna do xyz abc, well how about we do 1 2 3...I was always down. LOL. We've traveled together to Aruba, went to Mystic Connecticut, Canada, etc. So, Bamba I agree. Getting out of dodge is sooooooo great!

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  46.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    @friendly again: I forgot to answer the sugar scrub question. No I have never tried to use a sugar scrub. Too scared, LOL. I have to be very careful with what I use. I am tempted to try an Ahava scrub. They have some. They broadened their product line about 5 years ago. If I use any sugar scrub I'd try that first. Girl talk about looking like I got chicken pox? Yes, those sweet smells in the summer attract the bugs. I wear a signature scent that seems to keep bees away but not mosquitoes! Uugghhhhhh. One of the many things I don't like about summer. LOL. Another brand to look into is Carol's Daughter. Black Owned! Started in the Kitchen of a woman's apartment in Brooklyn. It's widely used now. Some people swear by it, but I never saw a benefit at least not with the stuff I purchased. It's backed by Mary J. Blige and Jada Pinkett Smith. They may have a website for purchasing. Mary is about to develop a line of her own for this chain. Folks swear by the hair care stuff. That's how what I bought. But everything ain't for everybody! LOL.

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  47.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    Good morning ladies! It's a beautiful day in NYC! Ms. Friendly: Ahava is a brand that you can not find everywhere. Once upon a time Bath and Body Works' Flagship store used to carry it, along with other products aside from their own. You can also purchase from their website. Just google Ahava. Cause I don't remember the name of the website. Now, the mud mask you only have to use twice a week or so and it costs about 29.00. It will last you at least 3-4 months though. They have one for normal skin and oily skin. I use the normal because when I tried the one for very oily skin it dried my face up just a little too much. The results are immediate. You will feel a difference after the first two applications. It is a combination of ingredients with Dead Sea minerals (Jerusalem). I love it. Tried it at a stand in the mall years ago and have been hooked. Drugstore.com sells it and I have to go into another borough to buy it here in New York. I recommend a bar of mud soap too for the face. That too, will last you quite some time if you only use it for your face. I just so happen to use it for all body parts because of the hard water in my home. You may not need to use it like I do. Each bar is 8.50. Remember there are no sweet fragrances to any of it. If you try it let me know. I like it cause my skin is so sensitive. Very much so. That's why I can't use stuff with too many scents as they may break me out.

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  48.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    @ Mr. Laurelton Queens: on May 15, 2010 you said: "...Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 15 May 2010: Dear Otherbrother You make a good case. However, black women and white women are obese. You even admit that 78 percent of black women are overweight. Obviously, I wasn’t lying. We can argue what is the “definition” of being overweight. The fact remains black women are not “in shape” period. Now, if you said well “black women” need to go the gym more and focus on their health. I would understand your argument. We can argue if a black woman weighing 180 pounds at 5ft6, in comparison, to a black woman weighing 200 pounds at 5ft 4 is overweight. The chart is wrong because the weight finds its way into her breasts and ass. That makes a black woman “attractive” but necessarily “fit”. The fact remains they are still “out of shape”. You also mentioned it is based on a “white woman’s chart or whatever you mentioned. That is convenient to say that. Black women carry their weight differently than white women. I agree with that. The fact remains they are ’still out of shape”. Your argument is more emotional that mine. The numbers don’t lie. If you are going to tell me that overweight black women are “fit”, you might be smoking something. You backed up all my points but “yet” I have no argument. Your whole argument was blaming “white women charts”. The way “society” views black women. It sounded like one “big excuse”." Well, I differ with you on the idea that a black womans fitness is based on her weight in comparison to the national or even universal standards. For one, I always had to be tapped in the militar because I am a muscular woman. I need the fat I do have for my feminity. Black women have lower case of osteoperosis than white women. We also tend to survive cancer and certain diseases that take white women more often because some of them do not have te extra fat stores to help them survive when they get really sick like we do. I do not have any disease and i am considered overweight,even tough I do no look it. I have a big butt and huge muscular thighs. The pitures on my profile are recent. I am actually smaller now because it is warmer out and I have been out in the yard working. Now I pointed out that when I was in the military I had to be tapped because my weight said I was overweight. But I tapped in at the right percentage of bodyfat. To top that off I was a bodybuilding champion in 1988 and 1989. I ran with my company until I was 5 months pregnant. I only stopped because the doctor feared that I would take oxygen away from my baby. With my last child I walked even on the day I went into labor. I walked three miles in the snow. Now, the contribution of highblood pressure and diabetes is generated mostly from lifestyle choices and not skin color. Because of the nutritional deprivation suffered during slavery many diseases have a genetic impact. Another factor that contributes to African American obesity is the fact that the climate is not hot like it was in Africa. Our African heritage gave us a metabolism more suitable for hot weather climates. Now, we have to look at the whole picture when we want to look at statistics which you well know can be biased and skewed based on the point that the group who published the statistics that you and menelike are referring to.

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  49.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    Comment by Bamababe2k9 on 19 May 2010: 1) Menelik you sound like a jealous gay man. That’s what a lot of them tend to do talk shit because they are jealous they aren’t a woman. Comment by friendly13 on 19 May 2010: 2) You don’t know anything about what a white man wants. You are not a white man. But I think you wish you were. Menelik replies: can't you girls decides amongst yourselves whether I'm a closet gay man or a nigger who wants to be a white man? Seriously, to change my sex, sexuality and race in a single day is too much...and, apparently, I'm a dead-beat dad into the bargain! Whoosh! friendly13 said: I am so sexy that the white man who wins me isn’t going to care that I have kids. He is just going to be glad to have me! Menelik replies: he's ONLY going to be happy to screw you, and NOT care about your kids? Have you any idea what you're saying here, you silly sausage? Lol Menelik Charles London England

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  50.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    @Menelik (aka malarki5) you said "...I’m not opposed to people like you and 50 cents dating white boys (do the race a favour and go!), you silly sausage! White men ARE generally opposed to dating and marrying you! Do you realise the number of white men dating and marrying Asian and Latino women as opposed to African-American women? Get real, girl; the primary opposition to dating Black women are white men themselves. And you have 4 (Black?) children, two of whom are handicapped, and you seriously believe some white man’s going to beat a path to your door? No, darling, I think they’ll leave you the-hell-alone, don’t you? Menelik or whatever your handle is get a life. First of all I don't date white boys. No I date white men. As far as their preference for dating women with children that is their option. I don't hide the fact I have children. If they don't want to date me because I have kids I send them along and find a man who also has kids and doesn't mind that I have kids. I am not a sausage but a fine sexy leg of lamb. You don't know anything about what a white man wants. You are not a white man. But I think you wish you were. But since you can't be you try to intimidate women like me who find some of them attractive. If there are white men who want to marry asian women, or latino women that is there right. That doesn't mean that there isn't one who can like me. I am so sexy that the one who wins me isn't going to care that I have kids. He is just going to be glad to have me. Black women are beautiful and have more to offer than you think. If you knew that you would have a woman and wouldn't be on here bothering people and talking about peoples helpless children. Another thing you idiot is that my children are not handicapped. My children have a very high functioning form of autism, it is disability. The trend for people with learning disabilities is that they generally have higher IQ's than the average person, like you. Since you know so much about statistics you can do some research about that. Perhaps you have a disability since you don't seem to be able to get along with anyone. You might want to get that checked out. You are right there are men who don't want to date me because I have children. So what. There are men, who will enjoy spending time with me anyway. When did I say that I was desperate to get married? I don't need a man my dear. I have my own home and pay my own way. My children don't need their money either because their father gives them plenty. You are just flinging insults because you my dear are a bonehead.

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