Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    MzBrown, I've heard black men say bad things about black women to justify there dating choices, but only 2 of them were on this site. You see, many black women just vent their frustrations with life on this board. I only concern myself with stuff that happens on this site or in a particular thread. I don't take what I heard some lady say on this TV show and throw it at some chick on a blog on chat room. And I don't care to take the heat for some woman's daddy or baby's daddy did or didn't do to her. Again, " I was just reading the “Interracial Dating and Black Men” thread, and nowhere does a black man say anything negative about black women. However, black women went there to proclaim their love and desires for white men and said negative things about black men." Weird, ain't it? Also, "Why some Black women only date White Men" is the REAL topic for black women to comment on regarding their preference for white men. Like James says in the topic article (I'll copy and paste this yet again), "Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is why some white guys are opening themselves to black women? Let’s concentrate on that." I laugh everytime friendly quotes the topic in her posts. Anyway, how was your weekend? Hannes, According to your theory, only white men should be here. But really, friendly and Other Brother actually believe this thread was overflowing with comments from white men (friendly thinks black men ran them away). It never has. Now how could a question ask of white men (according to your theory) be answered by someone other than a white man? Another thing you fail to realize is that no black man has tried to stop a black woman or discourage her from dating white men here, therefore the reasons for the black men's presence has to be something else. If the question "Why white men love the black woman" and a black man decided to just come throw his two cents in, then there would be a problem. So what are the comments from black men in this thread about? The defense against negatives toward black men when the topic nor the topic article says anything about them. Anyone can read this website's topics. Why do white men like black women? I don't know. For the same reasons I do, perhaps? Let me take a look see. Low and behold, comments from white men saying stuff like "I just do" or "love has no color". The rest of the majority of the comments are from black women. No offense, but who ask them anything? Oh, yea. James asked them something. He asked them to "leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys." Later, bro!

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  2.   Member says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ Itch The truth hurts, That is the only problem. When I expose your lies and do not fall for your BS like many people on this blog, youe stunned. Your the only child here and your really confused. pass some of that off to your youth. You wrote a whole two or three paragraphs and said absolutely nothing, your an idiot. Black men who only date white women exclusevly are not a minority in any sense. Black men who bla,e black women as to why they date only white women are also not a minority you ignorant fool. see that is why your even more ignorant than queens he will at least challange anybody, well anybody but you, he knows your fragile might break down if he reveals the real you. No one is debating weather or not some white men dis respect black women, no one is debating that some are with black women for racial reasons and the wrongb reasons, what the debate is, is that your dumb as has no clue as to why white men love black women, you make factless, ignorant statements and you say a few kind words and fool a few people on this blog and you think you know something about why white men love black women. you like to generalize in your statements, then when a black women generalizes you want to fall off the deepend, I do not need to be on another blog, I have plenty of lies to dispell right here. See i really do not have problems with any black women on this site, I call a Spade a Spade, Two Black women expressed they do not believe your racist, One said she didin't threaten to have an IP adrress traced and didn't care if i was confused, one tried to interject her personal belief about what repect to her was on all women and relationships, then their is petite who made baseless statements got called and changed her story a couple of times then explained why she changed her story and asked for a response i'll get to that later. Your point is what? Who the sixth person was I do not remember I just mispell the lies said about white men and challenge anything that has been said about most white bmens intentions behind dating black women. The only person who should leave this blog are black men, that is because black men have no clue as to why white men love black women, Black men only know why they love whoever they love, your an idiot if you can not figure that out. after all this the facts remain the same though. You are racist and pathetic, grow up, a distant aunt or cousin married to a white man give you zero knowlegde about this topic. Now I will be like everyone else! You do not own this blog, this is a free country, I have a right to nexpress my self, how dare you tell me to leave, you pathetic little child.

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  3.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Good night...bitch!

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  4.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Why should I keep it to myself? It's not like you're SMART enough to do anything about it. Just watch, tomorrow will come and you'll find yourself getting PUNKED yet again. LOL

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  5.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Mmmmhm like I said you love to bait me and the other women. Well at least you admitted that,but I think I would have kept that to myself. I'm going to bed.

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  6.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Maybe you're not as DUMB as I think you are because there is some TRUTH to that. ROFLMAO Still, if I think you're an IDIOT I'm going to tell you so. Sorry, but I just don't see the FUN in keeping my thoughts to myself, especially on a BLOG of all things.

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  7.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    I just come to the conclusion that you love to fight. You love coming on here to fight because it probably turns you on in some weird way. I've yet to see you have one conversation with a woman when you aren't calling someone stupid and I think a lot that it has to do with you getting a thrill out of pissing people off. And I noticed if you don't piss me off that makes you more upset with me because I'm not letting you get to me. Personally I think you are a closted S & M person who enjoys abuse and abusing others. LOL

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  8.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Look Bama, unlike you, I'm NOT desperate for attention, so you can take your last comment and SHOVE it up your ASS where it belongs. Queens shouldn't have called you a slut, he should've called you a STUPID SLUT, because that's a more accurate description of YOU.

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  9.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Actually I am flattered because I must add meaning to your otherwise misrable existence. So I should take all you say as a compliment because obviously I give you the attention you so richly want and need. :)

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  10.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Don't flatter yourself, I haven't been here in a while, and if I were going to stay up all night it would be because I'm downloading fresh music into my ipod, not because of anything your lame ass said. After all, it's not like you're the sharpest knife in the drawer.

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  11.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Like I said crazy as a bed bug. I bet you stay up at night pissed at something I said about you two months ago. I bet you stay up at night wishing you knew where I stayed so you could come to my door and do...nothing. You sound like Stewie Griffin on family guy always threantening to do something but never do. LOL You are ALL talk. If it wasn't for me, you'd have nothing to talk about because no one likes you.

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  12.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Like I said, if I had it my way I'd do you myself and save you the TROUBLE of KILLING YOURSELF. The mayor would more than likely give me the KEY to the CITY just for putting your silly ass to SLEEP. ROFL Besides...It's not like anyone would miss your sorry behind.

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  13. Posted: 11 May 10

    LOL

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  14.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    No you just crazy as hell. Anybody talking shit about killing a stranger ain't wrap too tight. Get some help before you end up being somebody's bitch in prison.

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  15.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    I've got no where as many ISSUES as you do, because you're STUPID, IDIOTIC, BLUNDERING, PATHETIC, SILLY, and BLACK MAN HATING. If I were you, I'd seek THERAPY, because you DESPERATELY need it, as well as a course in remedial reading.

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  16.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Seriously Tryant, you need some help because it sounds like to me you are threatening my life and FOR WHAT? Dude you sound like you have gone off the deep on with your shoes and shirt on. I mean damn man you need to chill because it ain't that serious and if you is, you need to get some couseloring and get into some anger management courses because you got issues.

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  17.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Bamababe: You are SO low. as much as I dislike you I NEVER wished death on you. Even I wouldn’t go that far but apparently you would, what a pathic loser to wish death on a stranger because they don’t agree with you. TYRANT: If I had it MY WAY, not only would I run you over with MY CAR, but I'd back up over you just to make sure I did the job right.

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  18.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    MzBrown, I wouldn't SCREW Bama if she were the LAST WOMAN left on Earth. I'd STRANGLE her first and HAPPILY live out the rest of my life in PEACE and QUIET.

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  19.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Girl I'd rather be hit by that BUS first before I even THINK about letting him touch me. I'd kill myself.

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  20. Posted: 11 May 10

    Actually Bama and Tyrant, ya'll not fooling me <--aka cupid. They say it's a thin line between love and hate and uhh, it ain't all hatin I am seeing between you two. Ya'll stop fightin the feelin. LOL!!

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  21.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    You are SO low. as much as I dislike you I NEVER wished death on you. Even I wouldn't go that far but apparently you would, what a pathic loser to wish death on a stranger because they don't agree with you.

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  22.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    I've got a better idea...Why don't you go get HIT by a BUS.

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  23.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Tryant go sit on a tack.Good nite petite and mz. brown

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  24.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Oh no girl I was talking about the sexy russian Max on DWTS

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  25.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Ladies, I'm gonna bid you all good morning. I got an early call. Good nite fellas!

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  26. Posted: 11 May 10

    All this^

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  27.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Bamababe: Tryant get your facts straight, I have nothing against black men. I don’t like your ass. I don’t like you at all nor do I respect you for the way you have talked to me and the other sistas on here. Now you can go back to Queens and cry to him about me, friendly and the other sistas on here. TYRANT: In case you haven't figured it out yet, I DON'T LIKE YOU EITHER. NOW STFU

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  28.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @bamba and Brainfarts.......ummmm ok! LOL MzBrown: Yeah, I think this thing has run its course. At least it should be by now. And you ain't never lied about the both sided bashing.

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  29.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Bamba You talking bout my baby Maxwell? Oh lawd have mercy girl. I hate that he cut is hair. Hate it, hate it, hate it. But he still look good to me!! Lordy I got a thing for Don Cheadle too. I ain't no brother had a body like he sporting. He is my desktop image right now!!!

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  30.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Brown Amen to that. Yes I get brain farts sometimes when I write lol I think part of it is my brain needing a rest but it has been in full gear for the last few days.

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  31. Posted: 11 May 10

    All thid male bonding and dapz'ing is so touching. C'mon fellas. stop being so onesided about this thang. I've seen black men bashing and putting down black women, and I have seen them naming black woman in their reasons for crossing over. Neither side are all victims.

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  32.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ bamba Ohhh, ok. I hear ya. Solitude is best for writing. Do you find yourself getting those writing Blocks sometimes?

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  33.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Naomi is crazy as hell. LOL I believe Halle is too. Max is still my boy with his sexy self.

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  34.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @ bamba, I have a thing for Benecio del Torro. I just found this out not too long ago!

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  35.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    I don't get to watch Oprah. I like her in bits and pieces. Naomi is still beating up on her help? She's wacko. Somebody needs to beat up on her. She's a gorgeous Black woman but she crazy as a bed bug. Does her Russian beau look just as good as your crush from Dancing? LOL.

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  36.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    I'm a writer so I do my best work in the piece and quiet of the night with no phones ringing and no one is looking for me

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  37.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @bamba graveyard shifts? No could do. I'm a morning person. I had one day of Jury Duty last week. Uuggggh. At least it was telephone stand by (which is worse) cause you don't know if they want you to come in until the night before, so you must be "at the ready." They let me outta there when I told them they could put me on whatever case they wanted but don't expect me to be there on 5/14. Hahahahahahaha. Told them no way in hail was I missing my son's graduation!

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  38.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Yes I was Drooling. LOL he is HOT did you see Namoi Campbell's Russian BF last week on Oprah? Girl I need to move to RUSSIA. lol And yes I agree time to move on.

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  39.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Bamba I hear ya! I was speaking of you earlier today, though not by name. We are going to move forward. Each woman here knows her preferences in men and we agree that we don't have the same tastes in men. THERE AIN'T NOTHING wrong with that!!! Was you staring at the Russian dude again on Dancing with the Stars? Hahahaha?

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  40.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Chile working. LOL I'm working now when I should probably be sleeping.

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  41.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @bamba Hi bamba!!!!!! What's up?

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  42.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Friendly said: I am slow to move to the intimate level with any man because of everything I have been through. I always had the black men’s back until I realized that they did not have mine. Now I am open to the white brothers. I like them. Menelik asks: and could you once again remind us as to the EXACT reasons…point-point, and with the UNDERLYING reasons in brackets, please. Friendly13 said: 1) I have to ask why I’m reserving myself for only black men when they are not reserving themselves for me? (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) 2) It’s likely that I will be asked to get married by a white man than a black man because many black men do not appreciate black women anymore. (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) 3) I am not going to down white women any more because black men tend to prefer them. (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) 4) I have learned a hard lesson. I have learned that I should open my choices up instead of closing them. (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) 5) We have been left by black men for white women in past relationships. (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) 6) Instead of us crying and feeling bad about ourselves we should consider white men who like us… (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) Menelik replies: it seems as though everything you do in life is because a Black man rejected or abandoned you i.e. rejected you for a white woman or abandoned you with a kid. I mean, think about it; you have stated in the clearest possible terms above from 1-6 that you ARE Black men’s reject! You can put a romantic aura around white men as much as you like, darling, and falsely present yourself as a martyr to racial intolerance like Romeo & Juliet - but it simply will not work: you are Black men’s reject! A simple fact which you cannot tolerate and which I have defiantly exposed to all here! Good Morning America! Menelik Charles London England

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  43.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Petite let me save you the trouble here, Queenie is going to twist your words around to suit his purposes. He did it with me and now he is doing it to you. Don't try to explain yourself because he is going to think what he is going to think. When I said I was chatting with two white gentleman, he took those few words and ran with it. By the time the whole situation was over, I had slept with both of them and I was a slut for doing so though I never said anything of the kind, so sweetie, don't waste your time. Just some advice from someone who has been there done that.

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  44.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @Laurleton 12:02a.m. You said this……. “I dated 2 White men in the past who I found were not to my liking. One was boring and the other just wanted to “screw.” I can get real accurate “when I want too”. But throwing rocks from a “glass house”. Just wouldn’t be a good idea for you. I gave you a pass because I know Malark (London). Do not insult my intelligence. Other than that, I got no problem with you. You help my argument more “than hurt it” concerning the interracial dating issue. I will let it go for now. ---------------------------------------------------- We all know the written word can be misconstrued, Laurelton. Thus, the reason for my trying to explain what I meant, rather than you making an assumption. Yepper, sure did say that I dated two White men. But I didn't say in this particular statement that they had an opportunity to "use" me. I can get just as technical too. After all, they are my statements and experiences. It's not the same. Now, had I said I dated them and let them screw me and use me and hurt me, that would justify what you think. However, since I didn't say such a thing, but merely pointed out my interaction with them you ASSUMED it meant I was used. You don't know how far I got with those men because I never said how far. Nor the other ethnicities I dated that I mentioned. All you or anyone else here knows is that I married and loved a Black man who is father to my son for 20 years. I didn't tell anybody I slept with a White man and he used me. Didn't tell anybody I let those two use me. You are probably assuming a little too much, that's all. Houses made of glass and stones....well, I can't speak to any of this. I can only say that what I have stated here is MY TRUTH and MY REALITY. You are correct! You don't know the whole story, because I never gave it. We should end this back and forth because it is pointless, really. I say hallelujah you say haleilujah! Thanks.

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  45.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Tryant get your facts straight, I have nothing against black men. I don't like your ass. I don't like you at all nor do I respect you for the way you have talked to me and the other sistas on here. Now you can go back to Queens and cry to him about me, friendly and the other sistas on here.

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  46. Posted: 11 May 10

    LOL!

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  47.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 9 May 2010: What’s up Tyrant This is what I don’t understand. Sellout black women complain we “tear them” down. But they have no sympathy for all that negative shit they say about black men. They got no remorse for the the comments they made. TYRANT: Of course they don't, black women who BASH black men know exactly what they're doing and don't think for one moment that they don't. The funny thing is when you cut and paste their words for them to see they get AMNESIA or even WORSE they come down with a severe case of STUPIDITY, which oddly enough, they've been suffering from all their lives. Queens: I never made the comments Choc said about black men. She was more outraged that she would be “relegated” to black men. Then, the comment said by the white man. She never called him a savage or beast. She put his “name” out there. I don’t understand the point of snitching. This is what they do. If anything, it makes you look unhinged and pathetic. TYRANT: I read what she said, and in all HONESTY, I think she's NUTTIER than a FRUITCAKE. It's really SAD that there are black women out there who are incapable of dating other races of men without DISRESPECTING the opposite sex of their own race in the process. What I find particularly DISTURBING is that a LOT of these black women are supposely EDUCATED...go figure. As far as I'm concerned a loser (Miss. Chocolate) with an education is still a LOSER. Queens: She went on to say “that a black man has never touched her”. A desperate attempt to use black men to get a date. They all do this shit. They indirectly put down black men to appease white men. TYRANT: What else is new and are you really SURPRISED? Let a black man do that and see what happens...You'll have every single black woman in here saying that not only does he HATE himself and his MAMA, but he's a MYSOGYNIST. ROFL The fact is a LOT of these women have UNRESOLVED issues; Daddy issues, past relationship issues, it doesn't matter, but the fact is they're UNRESOLVED to the point where they've grown and festered into a HATRED of black men. Tell me you don't remember when we FOUGHT Bamababe and friendly? These IDIOTS were so STUPID that they accused us of TWISTING their words, when all we did, was CUT and PASTED exactly what they said so they could see the STUPIDITY of what they wrote. Did that work? Hell no.

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  48.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    Dear Petite I see what you are saying about the comment. London feel a certain way about it. I let the subject go. I will just say this. You point to one comment (a subtle statement). You wrote a whole tirade about it. That is fine with me. I hardly take things out of context. I look at the big picture and make my opinions. Obviously, I don't know the whole story(Anybody can tell just their side). I just go off statements that are said. I am not going to argue about the definition of "used". You said this....... "I dated 2 White men in the past who I found were not to my liking. One was boring and the other just wanted to “screw.” I can get real accurate "when I want too". But throwing rocks from a "glass house". Just wouldn't be a good idea for you. I gave you a pass because I know Malark (London). Do not insult my intelligence. Other than that, I got no problem with you. You help my argument more "than hurt it" concerning the interracial dating issue. I will let it go for now.

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  49.   e-dub says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    R.I.P. Lena you will be missed

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  50.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    @friendly13 Diana Ross, did you mention her? Her daughter Tracey Ross is bi-racial. I'm trying to think of em. I'll write them down as I remember them and then post.

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