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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 May 10

    @ ChocPrncess, would you mind if I ask you the following questions: 1) what kind of community did you grow up in? was it predominantly Black or white? 2) did you grow up with your father? Was he loving, bullying or passive? 3) do you consider Black women to be as beautiful and/or as feminine as white women? Excuse me for being seemingly over-familiar with you but I’m just trying to work out where you’re coming from. As an educated woman, I’m show you see where I’m coming from. Thanks Menelik Charles London England

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  2.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 May 10

    @ PetiteChick, the reason this white boy’s targeted you is because you’re one of only a couple of Black-identified Black woman to appear on this site. Think about it: he and your nemesis, friendly13, are loved up good. That should tell you all you need to know about certain types of white men. The type that seek out sex and/or relationships with amputee women, midgets, the mentally unstable and others with so many issues they have little option but to embrace the likes of Hannes. Worth a thought, eh? Menelik Charles London England

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  3.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    @Paula, thanks, I would not hestate to date a elder woman, some of them are sexy as hell. Why dont you have pics on your profile? @dumbassChick YOU ARE ONLY BOREING AS HELL!!! The question is not if you namend one sellout, the question is if I did it and I did not, I read the first time about that term when you brought me in touch with it and now please LEAVE ME ALONE

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  4.   paula says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    hannes i like you.your no nonsense for a guy to be young as you are your very mature.. i would date you myself. younger men are not really my thing. but some are cool..lol

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  5.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    Dear Petite Have I ever been hurt in a relationship? Sure, in my younger years. I wasn't experienced in relationships until 19 years old. I got into a serious relationship at 20 years old. I was always in serious relationships (Hmm 3 relationships lasted 4 years exactly in all 3. My last ex fiancée and I made it to the fourth year. Her ass got locked up. I guess the relationship jinx for me is the 4 year mark. When, I wasn't in a serious relationship. I was running around with different women in "the hood". I guess "making up for missed time". For example, Harlem, Brooklyn (Crown Heights Bedstuy). It was nothing serious. Just something to do. Obviously, I tend to scrutinize the black women I am with. I don't know if my expectations are too high. For example, I will meet an education black women but her ass lazy. She won't go to the gym. Then, I meet another one and she got kids. Kids is fine with me but you got no time for me. Oh yea, the educated black women "stuck" on their ex boyfriends. That is a "pet peeve". I intentionally pick up their phone or answer their emails to make sure their ex boyfriend know I am fucking them. I watch if they get mad about it. Most of them do get upset or stop calling. I am a "flawed" person. I never play the games first. I give them enough rope to hang themselves. Then , in my middle 20's and after college. I started dating professional black women seriously. I left the hood rats alone and decided to date sophisticated black women. But they had "control issues" and a "little insecurity". I can't put my finger on it. From my experience, the "book smart" black girls sometimes do not "understand" how men are. They feel like if they ain't controlling him, he must not be the man for them. I am a Leo and Jamaican so that is recipe for problems. I am the dominate one in the relationship. I can't see it any other way. I am really competitive at everything! As for the comment about you being hurt by a white man, I don't remember what was said. Perhaps, I said in general because I like to generalize. From my understanding, you don't mess with white men. Personally , I like black women that are straight forward. I want to know what it is. In general, my problem is with sellout black women who "bash black men" to justify dating white men. I actually like Choc. As far as, a woman with strong opinions despite the bad hairstyle. That type of woman will get my attention. I knew she would "respond" back to me. She said that statement " to get a reaction". That whole " tirade about never being with a black man in her whole life". She wanted that type of confrontation. But she tries to "play the victim" after she got called out on it. This woman got a damn "doctorate". It makes you wonder what the hell black women are thinking. There is a misconception I pick on "weak women". It is more of a challenge to be with an extremely smart woman. Most sellout black women fall in that segment of being extremely intelligent but they are bit delusional. It is fun to debate them and laugh at the same time. Lastly, no white men every took anything from me. It was more like "the other way around". Good day.

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  6.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    @ Mr. Laurelton @ 10:05a.m. You never answered my original two questions. Here they are again: PetiteChick asks on 5/5/2010 @ 7:40a.m.? Have you never been hurt before in a relationship? If you say that you haven’t I might think you are not telling the truth. Never thought “she was the one” that got away and your heart sank? Rejection is part of life - the human condition. It is to be expected. (Recall this in the context of the last debacle here). Why do you assume that what I do here is on hurt?) Also, I'm just wondering why you said PetiteChick was hurt by a white man, when I have no interest in them. Care to respond?

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  7.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    @Tom4Blaq@ 9:59a.m. Listen, say whatever you like. But please leave me alone. I asked you too, to define what you mean by snooty and you've yet to do that. Yet another one who thinks he's "the man." You mean absolutely nothing to me. Faceless, and you don't have a clue about what you're talking about. You complimented Choco Princess now you say she's snooty? What is it with you men? Please go away and put down the drink.

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  8.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    @Hannes72 9:18a.m. Comment by Hannes72 on 7 May 2010: @disturbedChick No, you dont have a life outside the net, thats the problem with you. ---------------- I DIDN'T WRITE THAT, SEE YOU DON'T READ. LIKE I SAID YOU'RE ABOUT ONE OF THE DUMBEST MEN I HAVE EVER HD THE DISPLEASURE OF DISCOURSE WITH. "White Mack Daddy" said he has a life outside of the net." Here it is sir duke: Comment by White Mack Daddy on 1 May 2010: I need a bad model with designer toes…Tatoos & Gold. I haven’t posted on here in a minute because I have a life outside of the net. I love black women, cuz they’re so beautiful. I saw this one sister that was so fine; all dark and shiny! Umm ya, how she look so damn fine. Why do you ask the same questions again and again, are you stupid??? ---------------------- NO you are the stupid one because you don't take the time to read and answer direct questions. Anyone who can't answer simple questions and back up their talk with facts are stupid in my opinion. ------------------------------------ Please spare me with that “Sellout”- Term as I did not use it, it was your foolish friend who fights on your side who call black women sellout here. --------------------------------------------- AGAIN MORE STUPIDNESS FROM YOU THAT NEVER CEASES TO AMAZE. I NEVER CALLED A BLACK WOMAN A SELLOUT - LIAR. NO ONE FIGHTS ON MY SIDE. NOT ONE PERSON HERE. MY SIDE IS NOT TO DEGRADE BLACK WOMEN BY CALLING THEM SELLOUTS. MY POINT HERE IS TO BRING BLACK WOMEN TOGETHER TO BE WEARY OF THE LIKES OF YOUR KIND. I ASKED YOU TO SHOW ME WHERE I CALLED SOME WOMAN HERE A SELLOUT AND YOU HAVE YET TO PRODUCE SUCH A PRODUCT WRITTEN BY ME. I KNOW THAT YOU CAN NOT, SO I WILL NO LONGER DISCUSS THIS PARTICULAR SUBJECT WITH YOU. ------------------------------ I know what you try, you want to make the entire thread confusing as Friendly13 recognized it before. You plan to state that sellout-nonsense again and again so that people think I used that word, again it was the british fool who called black women sellout here on the board. ---------------------------------------------- The British Fool you refer to is Menelik also known as Malarki. IT IS LAURELTON who calls Black women sellouts. YOU DON'T READ AND PAY ATTENTION. IF YOU DID YOU WOULD HAVE ALSO NOTICED THAT I CALLED HIM TO TASK AS TO WHY HE PUT WORDS IN MY MOUTH THAT I NEVER STATED. SO AGAIN YOU DON'T READ AND GO HOLLER AND RANT LIKE A IDIOT MAN. -------------------------------------------- My english is good enough for all over the world, but I cannot understand the ghetto slang you speak like Sista, Phuck and all that nonsense you let us here. Can´t your write properly, but let me guess - its a black thing - Lord, what a idiocy!!! ----------------------------------------------- I DON'T CARE WHAT YOUR ENGLISH IS ALL OVER THE WORLD. IT AIN'T GOOD ENOUGH HERE. BUT PERHAPS IT IS NOT YOUR ENGLISH BUT YOUR READING COMPREHENSION THAT IS LACKING. YOU INTERJECT THE WRONG TOPICS WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE. I RECOMMEND YOU TAKE YOUR TIME AND READ WHAT IS BEING SAID BY ALL THEN MAKE YOUR CASE. ------------------------------------------ Ok, I did not understand jury duty as I am a foreigner, but why do you state it anyways, is it important for the topic. ------------------------------------------------ WELL, SEE HAD YOU NOT BEEN SO SMART ALICKY and think you are the shit's petunia, I WOULD NOT HAVE HAD TO ADDRESS YOU IN THAT MANNER. YOU WROTE ME, SAYING SOMETHING AWFULLY SILLY ABOUT "who said you were on the jury?" THE AMERICANS HERE KNOW WHAT IT MEANS but it made you look stupid. What was the point in that? It had nothing to do with anything I said in the context of the discussion. Just a note thrown in as we do here from time to time. We all do it, we may say we are watching t.v., ready to retire for the evening, etc. I said I'm on my way to jury duty. YOU JUMP IN WHEN YOU SHOULDN'T. MAYBE YOU OUGHT TO LEARN TO READ TO UNDERSTAND BEFORE MAKING COMMENTS. That would keep this sort of confusion down, doncha think? ------------------------------------------- You come back the day when you have learned even english properly, I do not ask for foreign languages as that would be a looooooooooooong way for you, far too long. I speak 4 languages, so dont mess with me, you cannot compare with me… ------------------------------------------------ I DON'T CARE IF YOU SPEAK 40 LANGUAGES LIKE THE POPE. When you are engaging in discussions with others it is best to FIRST read before jumping into a conversation with others so that you can understand the slang or language of the sub-culture. Every race of people has a sub-culture and then sub-cultures within those. YOUR 4 LANGUAGES MEAN ANYTHING IF YOU DON'T TAKE THE TIME TO READ AND COMPREHEND IN THE CONTEXT OF A CONVERSATION THAT IS AS HEATED AS THIS ONE IS. YOU JUMP RIGHT IN WITH BOTH FEET AND THEN IT makes one wonder if you know what you are talking about. ----------------------------------------------- You and the fool from england hi-jacked the entire topic here. ---------------------------------------------------- Nobody HI-JACKED ANYTHING. THIS DISCUSSION WAS GOING ON LONG BEFORE I GOT HERE AND WELL BEFORE YOU GOT HERE TOO. AND IT IS NOT THE FOOL FROM LONDON, BUT RATHER LAURELTON (the one you said was made for me). How odd for you to say such a thing. When I have had very little conversation with him. Minimal at best. YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN THAT TOO, HAD YOU TAKEN THE TIME TO READ. PERHAPS YOU BELIEVE IN CONSPIRACY THEORIES...... ----------------------------------------------- All the people are against you and now you start blowing powdered suger in ther asses to bring them on your side - wont work! ------------------------------------------------- I'M GLAD. I don't care much for group thinking. Never have. I am also very pleased that you don't like me. I hope you can understand that. ------------------------------------------------- The ChocPrincess knows how beauteous she is, and your foolish UK-friend call her “Sellout” ---------------------------------------------------- No, again you are wrong. It was not Malarki5 also known as Menelik. It was Laurelton. He was over in the other thread doing the same. I'm surprised he's not mad that I like Latino men as well instead of just Black men. SEE, I TOLD YOU ARE A MAD HATTER! LOL. LOOK ALIVE, pay attention. Now if you're trying to say Malarki5/Menelik Charles from London and Laurelton from Queens are the one and same person and you know this, I would agree with you. READ MALRKI5's posts and tell me if he called her a sellout. Go over to the other blog post and see if he did that there too. I see that you were there discussing degrees when Laurelton was complaining about Ms.ChocoPrincess. I read it. Every bit of it. ---------------------------------------------------- Now, since you have chosen not to anser my questions (you have that right) I am going to ask you, just like I would anyone else here THE FIRST TIME, TO REFRAIN FROM WRITING TO ME AGAIN, UNLESS I MENTION YOUR NAME. From this moment going forward, I shall make no mention of you, and I expect you to do the same. Since we dislike each other so immensely, I learned that it is best to leave those you dislike alone. My wonderful parents taught me that Hannes. I will say that we should agree to disagree. I will not refer to you in anything, nor shall I look in your direction for anything (so long as you do likewise). I ask this of you in the nicest possible way that I know how. I would expect as a man you shall honor this..... We never have to have another exchange ever again. And so it shall be! Peace.

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  9.   Tom4Blaq says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    Ms. Petitechick, you are snooty. So are all the rest of the Black women on this dating service. I was rather intrigued with the Brazilian looking woman, but I have lost interest in her as well. She is still a gorgeous woman though a bit uppity.

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  10.   Tom4Blaq says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    To the gentleman who calls himself Hannes72 You appear rather girlish to be arguing with a woman. I see just like the Black men here you have nothing nice to say about Black women. I understood her questions to you rather well. I think most would as well. While she does not prefer Caucasian men - as she stated in a rather rude manner to me, you still give White men a bad rap here. You did single her out based on what I've read so far. I won't go so far as to defend her, because she is not my type but I just wanted to let you know how childish you and the rest on this place are.

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  11.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    @disturbedChick No, you dont have a life outside the net, thats the problem with you. Why do you ask the same questions again and again, are you stupid??? Please spare me with that "Sellout"- Term as I did not use it, it was your foolish friend who fights on your side who call black women sellout here. I know what you try, you want to make the entire thread confusing as Friendly13 recognized it before. You plan to state that sellout-nonsense again and again so that people think I used that word, again it was the british fool who called black women sellout here on the board. My english is good enough for all over the world, but I cannot understand the ghetto slang you speak like Sista, Phuck and all that nonsense you let us here. Can´t your write properly, but let me guess - its a black thing - Lord, what a idiocy!!! Ok, I did not understand jury duty as I am a foreigner, but why do you state it anyways, is it important for the topic. You come back the day when you have learned even english properly, I do not ask for foreign languages as that would be a looooooooooooong way for you, far too long. I speak 4 languages, so dont mess with me, you cannot compare with me... You and the fool from england hi-jacked the entire topic here. All the people are against you and now you start blowing powdered suger in ther asses to bring them on your side - wont work! The ChocPrincess knows how beauteous she is, and your foolish UK-friend call her "Sellout" By the way Mr Menelik, you did not state the fact that you are a Sellout yourself, you was quite silent on that question.

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  12.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    Comment by White Mack Daddy on 1 May 2010: I need a bad model with designer toes…Tatoos & Gold. I haven’t posted on here in a minute because I have a life outside of the net. I love black women, cuz they’re so beautiful. I saw this one sister that was so fine; all dark and shiny! Umm ya, how she look so damn fine ---------------------------------------- Say what?

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  13.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    @MsChoco @ 1:22a.m. I give you props for calling out the White men who have "superiority" issues. That doesn't sit well with me either. However, I think you a good looking sista no doubt. Most Black women are anyway (at least that's how I see it). My hair is as a brillo's pad. Yep and love the hell outta it. It is huge, rough and tumble under my wig[s]. I got a wake up call about 8 years ago about being Black and how I really did perceive myself. What an acid test that was! This primarily had much more to do with where I live and what I have seen and continue to live with on a daily basis in terms of Black/White relations. Not gonna get into a racial injustice missive here, because we all know what it is. I wear no shame and proclaim that my hair IS like a brillo pad. I love it and many of those who can wear such styles. However, I have an oblong face and quite frankly don't know what to do with it other than blow it out after applying some sort of deep conditioner. Oh, and yes I love my wigs too. Rock the hell out of em! Lots and lots of Black women have hair similar to my own. Maybe you don't. This has much to do with your bloodline. My father had "good hair" as self-hating Black folx used to call it. WTF is good hair? I just wanted to make that statement. For the record, here is a Black woman who has no shame in her hair. What I need is for someone to teach me how to wear natural styles (other than an afro)! LOL. Peace, girl!

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  14.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    @ PetiteChick, fair does, sista. Menelik Charles London England

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  15.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    LOL @ Malarki @ 1:05a.m. Yes I remember, I corrected above. It was meant for Hannes72 not you..... I corrected statement to read like this (scroll up): Comment by PetiteChick on 6 May 2010: I think you’re a liar and I don’t think you are who you say you are. THAT’S WHAT I THINK. yep! That’s what I think. —————— ABOVE MEANT FOR HANNES (or whomever he is posing to be).

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  16.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    PetiteChick said: @ Marlarki5 did you say anything to Hannes72 before today? I don’t recall it. If you did, then good for you. I think you’re a liar and I don’t think you are who you say you are. THAT’S WHAT I THINK. yep! That’s what I think. Menelik replied: I'm confused! I'm not trying to be anyone else. I am Menelik Charles and Malarki5 is me....one and the same person! I always sign my real name after each post, remember? Menelik Charles London England

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  17.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    Comment by Malarki5 on 6 May 2010: @ PetiteChick, sista, you gotta let this one go. So much is lost in translation that a nuanced debate is NOT possible. Peace! Menelik Charles London England -------------------------------------------------- Perhaps, Menelik! Maybe you are on to something.

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  18.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    I think you’re a liar and I don’t think you are who you say you are. THAT’S WHAT I THINK. yep! That’s what I think. ------------------ ABOVE MEANT FOR HANNES (or whomever he is posing to be).

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  19.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    @Hannes72 @ 11:38p.m. You were abused by "ME" because of the derogatory statements you made about Black women in Africa. THAT'S WHY I abused you. Did you forget? Now you want to act like you forgot. I ain't got nothing to do with what Menelik said to you. I don't recall him saying anything to you really. @ Marlarki5 did you say anything to Hannes72 before today? I don't recall it. If you did, then good for you. I think you're a liar and I don't think you are who you say you are. THAT'S WHAT I THINK. yep! That's what I think.

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  20.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    @Hannes72 @ 11:19p.m. In the United States of America, it's citizens have the ultimate duty of serving its country by serving on a jury of its peers to hear crimes in federal and state courts. That's Jury Duty. You don't do that in Austria? Maybe not. It is our American system of jurisprudence.....It's how we send people to jail! IDIOT SAVANT..... On to your ignorance: I SPECIFICALLY, MORE THAN ONE, OR TWICE OR THRICE, ASKED YOU why you chose "me" this Black woman to pick on because I am telling Black women on here (who are willing to listen) to be careful of some of these white men (including you). What was in the link you posted earlier? Something nasty about Blacks right? I know, I know. But yet you say you like us. How does that work again? Tell me..... You like someone then you hate them, but you still like them? I told you to man up and come in here and fight for the Black women you claim to care about. I didn't call a Black woman a sellout. I'm a Black woman. and I don't just have a preference for Black men. My preferences stretch a little further than that but just not to the Caucasian side. See, some of you caucasian men think your the shit's petunia. Because so many men here are/were doing that, and I wasn't - I asked you why are you continually barking up the wrong tree - DOG...... Lie. Pull up a post that said I want you to come here and bash Black women. You won't find one LIAR. You're a punk. What you will find if you go looking hard enough - is me telling them, like I did before that you are a liar. YOU ARE A LIAR. One minute you like Black women, then the next thing you post something to offend them. How does that work in your warped mind? How can you love them and hate them at the same time? Maybe you ought to learn English a little better before you get into a debate with me. Maybe you ought to not think you understand racism in our country when you have absolutely no clue. You have to come live here, walk in our shoes, understand what we go through, live it and breathe it before you can bring your behind up in here and claim to be an authority on the issues of Blacks and racism. I will NOT engage you in an anthropological debate about racism and its roots and continued intrinsic affects on Blacks in this country. You had better learn that on your own over there in Austria, Mr. Man. Good job, you did come in here and get in the men's butts about calling Black women sellouts! You earned ONE kudo for the day. But you still got your tail whipped. Don't you worry yourself about my dating needs. What man I want. I don't need a matchmaker. I know what I want in a man. Stick to finding your own mate, whomever that might be. Good nite.

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  21.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    @ PetiteChick, sista, you gotta let this one go. So much is lost in translation that a nuanced debate is NOT possible. Peace! Menelik Charles London England

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  22.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @SelloutChick The answers are directly answered. If you dont understand the meaning, your even dumber than I guessed you. But to make it transparent to you how YOU brought ME in the "Sellout"-Topic, here I quote you: I have another series of questions for Hannes: Why have you not gone toe to toe with the Black men on here who call Black women sellouts? That is how it started, so is that answer direct enough, Trampel? Question #2: It was you and the fool from London (I think his name was Menelik but not positive on that) who was abusive to me, so you get the bill. Why do you think there is something that binds you and other black women together, because of the color of the skin???? Hahaha, what a nonesens, you think they are closer to you because they are the same race, who cares about things like that? I feel associated with people of the same education,maybe who got the same hobby or a similar mentality, but not because they are white as me. Otherwise people would call me a RACIST but how it looks that term only works for us whites. Another quote: I am out of the door for jury duty! Who the hell said you are in the jury???

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  23.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @ ChocPrncess, would you mind if I ask you the following leading questions: 1) what kind of community did you grow up in? was it predominantly Black or white? 2) did you grow up with your father? Was he loving, bullying or passive? 3) do you consider Black women to be as beautiful and/or as feminine as white women? Excuse me for being seemingly over-familiar with you but I'm just trying to work out where you're coming from. As an educated woman, I'm show you see where I'm coming from. Thanks Menelik Charles London England

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  24.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @ PetiteChick, the reason this white boy's targeted you is because you're one of only a couple of Black-identified Black woman to appear on this site. Think about it: he and your nemesis, friendly13, are loved up good. That should tell you all you need to know about certain types of white men. The type that seek out sex with amputee women, midgets, the mentally unstable and others with so many issues they have little option but to embrace the likes of Hannes. Worth a thought, eh? Menelik Charles London England

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  25.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    As for racism in America: I will just add my two cents to that discussion very briefly as it pertains to Black WOMEN: I can not speak to the issues Black men have gone through because I am not a man. I know what I read and hear, and what I see going on around me in terms of racism toward Black men. I have to be, because I have a 22 year old Black son! But to understand how they feel - I could never imagine. FOR THE BLACK WOMEN: STOP THE DIVISIVENESS, PETTY BACK BITING, REMARKS AND SNARLS ABOUT ONE ANOTHER IN THE NAME OF MEN. DEMAND THAT CAUCASIANS AND ANY OTHER RACE OF PEOPLE who would engage us have some respect. When they disrepect you, they disrespect me and vice versa. Don't tolerate it. Why would you? It is one of the many reasons we are not a cohesive group. IT SHOULD STOP! Why do you feel the need to score browny points at the expense of your own kind over another group? SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME TO UNDERSTAND THIS. I read on another forum space, some white gentleman who came to one of the threads and said he has never seen other threads where White people put each other down the way Blacks do one another. Hmmmm, food for thought anyone? Let's talk about this one sensibly. Our race is a mess. If you want to be part of it, then let's do something about it. If you no longer want to be considered Black, then that's fine. We must first address the issues of race and hatred within our OWN groups before we can go running off proclaiming love for others. It just don't work that way in reality unless you are a self-loathing type. I hope that my sisters can understand where I'm trying to go with this. We need to come together. There are ties that bind us, whether you like it or not.

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  26.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @Hannes72 @ 4:40p.m. Continuing to not answer my DIRECT QUESTION. It was sooo simple. 1. When did you hear or read any portion of ANY STATEMENT I made referring to my sistahs as sellouts? That's what I asked you. If you can find such a post, please quote it verbatim. 2. Why have you chosen "ME" just "ME" to lash out at when I NEVER ONCE called a Black woman here a sell out. When and if you can answer those two very simple and direct questions for me, I think you and I will be done. However, when you continue to dodge the questions at hand, I suspect you are being willfully ignorant or just do not want to admit that for some reason, just don't like me. And trust, as I've stated on many occasions here I DON'T CARE who likes me or doesn't. I JUST DON'T!

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  27.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @ tatted 4:37p.m. PetiteChick….I feel the need to address you here because I detect (correct me if I am wrong….please) that you might be grouping me in with some of the other women here. While I encourage many of the “sisters” here in many ways I am not for everyone’s opinions and or tactics. Just to clarify I NEVER jumped to any solid conclusion about why you were here and what opinion you truly held of the BW/WM relationship issue…..never really assumed anything about you other than you had a strong will and a passion for self-expression (things I actually think we have in common)…..Peace onto you, sis. PEACE AND BLESSING to all tatted2death ---------------- You do indeed need to be corrected sis Tatt. When I first arrived on this forum you were not part of the daily discussions. So no I was not referring to you. You came in (from the time I was here) maybe once or twice) to make an observation. I am referring to the two women who I found here when I got here. THE only two who were having discussions back and forth about Black men vs. White men dating issues. So....if that clears it up for ya, then good. If not, hit be back and I can expound a little further.

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  28.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    (shaking Daffy's hand loose).....I DON'T KNOW YOU.....but I CAN speculate where that hand has been.....LOL.

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  29.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    As for your comment about ChocPrincess She is a woman with a bad hairstyle... ARE YOU CRAZY????? If I would see those hairs every morning next to me, breakfast wouldn´t be the first thing in the morning anylonger lol

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  30.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Aha, finally I got the point here: If a black female is after white male, it can be for one reason only - she is the sellout model, right? You should marry SchweindlChick, you and her would definitely be a match. What about sellout-men, if we got that ugly term already in use??? You seems to be quite desperate to me as well. I was spying your profile and everything points to it. You are 31 You got no image (is it that bad?) You search for women 18-99, so every possible age on the board (I told you that you and Chick are a match) You dont smoke but you are ok if a woman does? Hmmm.... On a day off, I enjoy: Napping, Shopping, Watching TV or a movie - You life seems to be quite boreing. You seem to be really in the need of a woman to me and threrefor you are a TATAATATAAA S E L L O U T Seen for 9,99 (prices negotiable)

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  31.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @Queenie The thing about it is, you STILL have no idea what I do in my personal life and I just came to the conclusion doesn't matter what you think. The fact is I do have it going on lol you just don't know to what extent. :)

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  32.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    (Listening to Tatt) It is a one-sided debate and she lost.You speak of victimization. But who was the one that "whined" about a white guy telling her to go back to "black men". I can't recall seeing any other black women getting upset over those comments. I have pretty much seen it all here. There is a misconception that I know your personal lives or "want to know it". Everything that happened came out of your "mouths". This is the problem with "most black women". They will "tell you" their side of the story. You challenge them on it. They get upset. They will NEVER tell you why a white guy dumped them or why they "left that white man". But they can rant and rave about black men all day. When a black woman says I am dating "two white men". But can turn around and get self righteous about it. Literally, get upset about it. I am going to say what people are thinking. Perhaps, the slut word was wrong. It may have inflamed things more than I wanted it too. I merely tell you what people was thinking when you made that comment. Essentially, bragging about manipulating two white men. You want me to cosign for that? You got me messed up. I don't condone that. She never denied sleeping with both men or "confirmed it". Her "ego" revealed herself to people here. I don't get credit for observing the personalities of black women. I like Bama. However, she started "feeling herself" a little bit. I brought her back to reality. I don't care how you "spin it". If both white men don't know about each other. You are being deceptive and vice versa. Some black women are so competitive in talking to me that "they slip up". They forgot what got them in this mess "in the first place". Choc made her "off hand" comment. She says , "oh it is not all white men". Then takes it further by "dissing black men". She could say " you know what" the white guy "disrespected me" and leave it at that. But she is so desperate she has to mention "oh by the way I never was touched by a black man since birth". As if to say, see white guys, " I am not the typical black woman". The only problem with that. If a white guy is going to stereotype you, no amount of indirect subtle shots at black men will stop that. Sellout black women 'feel" if they put down black men. White men will pat them on head. Obviously, it is not working for them. You will still be a black woman with a bad hairstyle when a white guy first gets in contact with you. He ain't going to ask you if you got a doctorate. Most men don't read about your education in your profile. I never get the accolades for trying to help black women. I get the audience but never the recognition. (Holding Tatt hand) Bottom line, sellout black women need "tough love".

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  33.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @friendly13 Wise words, if I would be a moderator I would clean that thread from all the haters who try to make world worse. And I am glad that someone also noticed the reasons why I love the black cats, its just attraction (for some good reasons). It is not that I could say the black women got a better attitude in general compared to white women, it is pretty the same once they raised here, I just suffer from jungle fever... @Mr Laurelton Queens ??? Let that say a white man.... But I am just tired of all that. I should better use the time going to youporn.com watching some interracial porn and let the people on that board do there hate.

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  34.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Oh wow....the one and only ChocPrincess had finally made here appearance in this thread.....finally a little less one-sided "debate" here. Yeah, Bama....We both know this dude is trying all the lame ass tactics (age, hair, weight etc.....things that are SUPPOSED to be the AVERAGE woman's Achilles' heel...LOL) he can to try and draw us into his web of shyt. He knows nothing of either of us or our "offline" lives and yet "flaps his beak" about what white men have supposedly done to us. Laughable, at best, sis. Like I have said before, people seriously need to turn off the "reality" TV and pick up a book (without LARGE TYPE AND PICTURES....lol). The only ones reading and truly believing his made up tales (suckin on that "Pinocchio Punch"....lol) are already lost causes for the most part so I tend to just let it ride. Do I really care what online trolls think????....ummm...the answer would a resounding NO. Now other HUMAN BEINGS that are of sound mind and spirit...these are the folks with whom I can commune. ....And for the record, I have never worn the victim label here or anywhere else in my life. People do what they will and can (and WILL) act an ass if they so choose. I usually just set back and observe. But I am NOT above getting "fiesty" and such. At the same time I do draw a line...a line that I know is not recognized by all. Now if someone crosses that line with me....so be it....I never cry about it or act like I can't hold my own (FYI: those are common bahaviors of VICTIMS). Some, on the other hand, believe that anything not done FOR them is done AGAINST them....more of that "extremist" BS. Tired, tired, tired....they must be.....nothing but low-blow school yard insults and threats from a self-proclaimed "legend"....LOL. PetiteChick....I feel the need to address you here because I detect (correct me if I am wrong....please) that you might be grouping me in with some of the other women here. While I encourage many of the "sisters" here in many ways I am not for everyone's opinions and or tactics. Just to clarify I NEVER jumped to any solid conclusion about why you were here and what opinion you truly held of the BW/WM relationship issue.....never really assumed anything about you other than you had a strong will and a passion for self-expression (things I actually think we have in common).....Peace onto you, sis. PEACE AND BLESSING to all tatted2death

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  35.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Black women I typed too fast.

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  36.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Yea Hannes There is a big conspiracy to keep black men from you. I am part of that conspiracy. I will not get into any further for fear the "internet authorities" will track me down. I would like to apologize for keeping white men from dating black women or even marrying them. The "powers that be" paid me a large sum of money for causing "white men" not to date all these available black men. I am so glad I got this off my chest. "Feel me"?

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  37.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @Hannes72 Hey, my handsome friend, you said..." It hurts myself that I have to come down on topics like that, but I cannot let them say that the whites are guilty for what is wrong in the world..." You are so right...all races of people have taken their turn at some point in history of enslaving people. The Isrealites were held captive for over 400 years. Where? In Egypt. In europe, the peasants made up 90% of the population and were a very pooly paid and treated labor force. And they were white. Blacks have been exploited and whites have also been exploted. Black nations have enjoyed the profits of slavery and white nations have also enjoyed the profits of slavery. But as you have pointed out, we are so far removed from that point at least in our countries. Especially in America. I think that the racism issue is really just a way to get us all off the real reason we come to this blog site and that is for the purpose of reading "Why white men love the black women?" Since you are a white man who "...loves the black women" you are being hated on. You have shared the reasons that you love black women on here and now there are bloggers who want to out blog you so that black women like me will not be able to find the positive comments white men like you are making, which are the ones we get on here to read in the first place. Feel me?

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  38.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    (Eating pop corn) "Yes, I agree that every stair is not racist. In fact,most of them are not. I notice that when I am out with a white man I get looks from white men. The vibe I get is like this….hey that is a nice looking black woman…oh and I notice she is with a white man…isn’t that interesting. Okay that is complete speculation…but just want to insert the observation. When I am out with a white man I always feel like he is especially proud to be out with me. That is just a little something about experiences that I have had that I like to share with “white men who love the black women.” OH really, hey that is a nice looking black woman. LOL Seriously, who sucks their own nipple like this. Now, she is a mind reader for white men. This is the primary reason black women fail. The white man is "ESPECIALLY" proud to be with me????????? (scratching head) WOW Perhaps, white men are dating sellout black women for amusement. The stuff said here you cannot "make up". It is that hilarious. LOL

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  39.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @Phil and others Hey, Phil, thank you for standing up and letting the world know that white men can also see the lovable beauty of black women too. Of course, we know that may not be true for all white men. But for us black women who prefer white men, it is good to know that there are white men who are proud of the love that they have for us. For those of you who commented regarding my question about accepting black womens position on public racism (in so many words) thank you for your insight. I think that black women who chose to date white men will benefit from the association because it will help us to lighten up and relax a lot more. Who cares what people think about us if we date white men. We can go out have a good time and focus on the one we are with and not the haters. Yes, I agree that every stair is not racist. In fact,most of them are not. I notice that when I am out with a white man I get looks from white men. The vibe I get is like this....hey that is a nice looking black woman...oh and I notice she is with a white man...isn't that interesting. Okay that is complete speculation...but just want to insert the observation. When I am out with a white man I always feel like he is especially proud to be out with me. That is just a little something about experiences that I have had that I like to share with "white men who love the black women." Hey, I tried to respond soon but all my information just disappeared and then I had to go. I think a couple of words got sent....but I figured I would get a chance to rewrite my thoughts again later. Hey Hannes72 I enjoy all of your comments as well.

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  40.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    It hurts myself that I have to come down on topics like that, but I cannot let them say that the whites are guilty for what is wrong in the world, not to talk about the fact that there are so many nations with whites, and all are guilty for the things some nations have done? Again, this term "sellout" is not from me, the SchweindlChick asked me why I do not argue like the others here and yet I had it in my mouth. She wants to involve me in topics to make it easy for her to press charges against me later. This woman got her own problems, that is sure....

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  41.   Laurelton says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    My man Hannes Nice post. (Laughing) I knew there was something I liked about this guy. Hannes you make solid arguments about history. Some black women feel their "education" entitles them to 'speak down to you". I may not agree with everything you say. But more white guys need to kick these sellout black women in the ass for being disrespectful. It is the white man with the 'winning cards" in their hands. How you let a desperate sellout black woman speak down to you? (Not directed at Petite). Just in general, that is what I see. Have a good day.

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  42.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    You are quite stupid but funny at the same time. You asked me why I do not join the others here to call black woman sellout, I gave you the answer, but was to complicated for obviously. I never stated that I hate you, you came with that "whites did this and whites did that" but got know idea about history. First slavery ever happened in Asia and Africa long before whites discovered the continent. Asia at first from all. Plus, it was africans who sold men from another tribes to the armada UK. But all that is long gone, and none you had the to pay the bill but people hundrets of years ago. It is also not true that the white man destroy africa (and you got nothing to do with africa, or do you think because you got black skin you nerd), they dont steal the things there, they buy it. The gangsters are the leaders of countries like Nigeria and others. They steal it and keep the profit while the people have to suffer. If DeBeers make people thinking that diamonds are rare is one thing, but it is not forbidden, every company think about to maximize the profit, that is there politic. If they can afford to buy all that stones and keep them in the basement that lets do them so, got nothing to do that the profit on it is wasted for war instead for infra structur. Or do you think when the price of diamonds get down it is a good thing for Africa? Ok, they would not have such a big budget for guns, because the entire budget would be much smaller, how would that help Zara Leone or Angola??? There is only one way, using the money for something else than fighting. Austria is one of the richest Nations in the World and wie have barely oil, gold or diamonds, WE WORK!!! After the WW2 everything was bombed http://historie.venlo.nl/images/bombardement4november1944.jpg , the germans forced us in a war and the russians took every thing worthy plus we had to give them our entire oil-reserves to get rid of them. But can you here us whining.... As for the bad things I sad about black woman, what exactly did I say, EXACTlY - not your free transations. Your are pissed of that some black women like white men and they like black women too. Come over it and you will feel better. Dont ask me how I can think that you give a damn if I hate you or not, otherwise you would not ask me 5 times in one mail why? And something little different, take everything in consideration and than answer, dont give 3,4 or 5 in row, it make people thinking that you sit at home the whole day with your nose in that message board, is it like that???

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  43.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Correction to Last Para @ Hannes72 @ 7:31a.m. What you would want to do is to stop making derogatory remarks about Black women on here and then turn around and pretend you didn’t say them. Then try to get to know a Black WOMAN OF YOUR CHOICE WITHOUT LYING TO THEM!!!!!

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  44.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Finally @Hannes72 7:12a.m. Hannes I simply asked you a question. Why have YOU chosen ME to pick fights with? Simple question. Why me? Is it pretty much what I summed up earlier? You speak of: "why call Black women sellouts?" DID YOU COME INTO THE MIDDLE OF THIS CONVERSATION, HAVING NOT READ SOME OF THE PRIOR DISCUSSIONS TO SEE THAT I EVER CALLED ANYONE ONE OF THE BLACK WOMEN IN HERE A SELLOUT? NO YOU DIDN'T HANNES72 because it never came from me! NEVER! Now, I will ask you again...your hatred on the inside and love on the outside confusion about Black women is mind boggling to say the least. In one instance you make derogatory statements about Black women, I call you out on it. Then you come back and tell me you "hate me" cause I called you on it. How in the world can you hate someone you don't know? Finally why do you think I give 2shits about you hating me? Why? Just...why? Again, you post to be (a link I did not click in, cause I don't do that) but clearly the name of the link) was derogatory (dildo in it) and you claim to like Black women. See, I'm not stoooooopid. You HAD to be called out. EVERY TIME YOU (a White man does this I WILL CALL YOU OUT ON IT. Yep, yep, yepper. Some of my sisters are living under the impression that everything is rosey and peachy with the many of you white men. Some have told me they never had a bad experience with a White man before. That one right there....well let's just say I don't believe everything people tell me. I ain't that gullable. As I sad there is no need for you to understand what "I" write. Why do you have a desire to understand me? What you would want to do is to stop making derogatory remarks about Black women on here and then turn around and pretend you didn't say them. Then try to get to know a Black woman of YOUR choice with lying to them. I'M OUT THE DOOR FOR JURY DUTY!!! end of session @ 7:21a.m.

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  45.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @MzBrownSugar: @ 7:10a.m. Props!!! You get them from me! Love and date who you want, but it's time Black women as a group STOP This backbiting about men. Either they gonna want your ass or they're not. Simple. Peace girl!

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  46.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @ChocPrincess @ 7:00a.m. STANDING OVATION FOR CHOCPRINCESS!!!! Girl that's right, put them on front street. I should have done that when I started in this thread. Some of the women here jumped down my throat. There are good and bady in EVERY group. I assume they thought I was "down" with the Black women sellout talk. I was not. I was down with the NOT LETTING SISTERS BE USED BY WHITE MEN MOVEMENT! Of course there are plenty of well meaning White men. I ain't come across too many on this site though. I never said their weren't any. Not once. What I did say was that I felt the majority of them here are into the "entertainment" of it and don't have our best interest at heart. Now we all know that this site generates new members all the time. So, out the many there are some few good ones thrown in. Just like there are some good Black men up in here somewhere as well as Latino. The latter being my preference. Not once, ever did I tell a sister or White man they shouldn't get together. No sellout talk from me. I was the "debil" incarnate. Whatever. You go girl! Put it out there. Let the sisters know which ones to stay away from. I might just go back to my emails and do the same. I gave some scenarios but the proof is in the pudding....

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  47.   Hannes72 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    @PetiteChick (you know what I still wonder) Why should I say black woman are sellout, to make it easier for you to bring other members on your side against me? That is your all thing, not mine. I dont know what is going on in the states between black and white. The point is, every woman at a certain age and maybe with kids thinks she is a sellout altough I am not the kind of man who would like to be with a 20years old girl. Ocasionally I had sex with such girls but for a relationship it is not what I am after. I do not plan to attack other members here since it was you and the fool that said the whites are the devil who planted my ruff. As for the haters here - Let ChocPrincess alone, dont fight what you cant understand, she got her opinion and that is ok. Nobody would go on her nervs if she would be attracted to blacks altough the nature want us to mix to create fresh blood. That people state she got a wig shows that they think her hairs are great looking - and indeed, I have confirm it. Wig or not, hot one is a hot one. I would not be athletic if I would not train 3 times a week, so it is artificial, but who cares??? This woman calls her self a princess and that is what she seems to be to me.

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  48.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    I agree with Mz. Brown. We have recently had a meeting of the minds about this subject which I hope created a better understanding with the black men and black women on the board and I actually found out Queens is not as bad as I once thought though he can be the big bad wolf when he wants to be. But we just have to learn not to put each other down because of our preferences. Hey Ich, hope all is well with cha. You too Mz. Brown

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  49.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    MzBrown, Thank you!

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  50.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 06 May 10

    Queens, I have told you in the past about helping me out. Please don't.. lol. I see nothing wrong with her hair.

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