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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    @Petite and Friendly good morning sistas. It's hard to trust anyone Friendly so any guy you meet, you do need to be selective and take your time. I love white men, but there are quite a few who just want to use you as a lab rat and experiment. Like I said, you can tell if a white man is truly into black women by the way he talks about us. If his first sentence begins with "how good we are in bed" then RUN. RUN LIKE THE WIND. LOL That's the one you don't want. Look for the guy who has genuine love and respect for sistas. Petite, yeah I notice ole boy had nothing for me, maybe he missed that comment.

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  2.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    @Queenie you just upset because I refuse to take the bait any more. Why should I tell you anything about my life when you have disrespected me and lied on me? WHY? I don’t owe you anything and if you want to believe I’m a slut,or whatever, then baby have at it because you don’t know me and what you think doesn’t matter. And also you haven’t really added anything to the conversation other then your bogus beliefs that any black woman who dates white men are sell-outs. You are incapable of having a reasonable conversation with most of the women on here, so why should anyone listen to you when you don’t want to listen to them?

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  3.   Bamabab2k9 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    @Queenie you just upset because I refuse to take the bait any more. Why should I tell you anything about my life when you have disrespected me and lied on me? WHY? I don't owe you anything and if you want to believe I'm a slut,or whatever, then baby have at it because you don't know me and what you think doesn't matter. And also you haven't really added anything to the conversation other then your bogus beliefs that any black woman who dates white men are sell-outs. You are incapable of having a reasonable conversation with most of the women on here, so why should anyone listen to you when you don't want to listen to them?

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  4.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Dear Ich I hear you on that. (Holding head) Any other black women will complaints, whining, and general unhappiness. Please forward your letters and comments to P.O Box I hate black men Lane Street. We will be sure to process it in a timely manner for you. (Looking in the white man's mail box) WOW, no complaints in that box. Maybe, I will check back later. Go figure!

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  5.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    friendly13 said: I am slow to move to the intimate level with any man because of everything I have been through. I always had the black mens' back unti I realized that they did not have mine. Now I am open to the white brothers. I like them. Menelik asks: and could you once again remind us as to the EXACT reasons...point-point, and with the UNDERLYING reasons in brackets, please. Friendly13 said: 1) I have to ask why I’m reserving myself for only black men when they are not reserving themselves for me? (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) 2) It’s likely that I will be asked to get married by a white man than a black man because many black men do not appreciate black women anymore. (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) 3) I am not going to down white women any more because black men tend to prefer them. (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) 4) I have learned a hard lesson. I have learned that I should open my choices up instead of closing them. (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) 5) We have been left by black men for white women in past relationships. (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) 6) Instead of us crying and feeling bad about ourselves we should consider white men who like us… (Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me!) Menelik replies: it seems as though everything you do in life is because a Black man rejected or abandoned you i.e. rejected you for a white woman or abandoned you with a kid. I mean, think about it; you have stated in the clearest possible terms above from 1-6 that you ARE Black men's reject! You can put a romantic aura around white men as much as you like, darling, and falsely present yourself as a martyr to racial intolerance like Romeo & Juliet - but it simply will not work: you are Black men's reject! A simple fact which you cannot tolerate and which I have defiantly exposed to all here! Good Morning America! Menelik Charles London England

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  6.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Here’s what I wrote below. Please note my suggestion that certain aging, single, and/or child-burdened Black women on here get off their arses and go seek their ‘white Knights’ in the real world Menelik said on 19th April: My view is that if there are so many compatible, attractive, white men out there willing treat Black women with such delicacy and grace, then why the hell are they on an anonymous dating site searching for said men? It makes no sense! ‘Good’ Black men are apparently scarce while ‘good’ white men are in the abundant millions. For heaven’s sake, girls, get out there, flutter your eyelids, fix that smile and make yourself available! Surely, you don’t need to be on this site warring with daddy substitutes at your ages, do you? Friendly13 said 20th April: The reason that there are not a lot of white men wasting their time on this site is the same reason that I like them. They want to date black women and so they are spending their time finding black women who want to date them on here instead of wasting their time on this blog. Menelik replies: do you see how this individual has translated what SOME may interpret as white male passivity to intervene, like ‘white knights’, to defend their choice of women into men with swagger prowling the ghetto streets and downtown offices searching for their ebony queens? My original question to the likes of this rampaging fruit bat, was why wasn’t she out their making herself available to this endless stream of suitable white hunks rather than being on this blog beating up on Black daddy substitutes? But as usual my question wasn’t answered; and it will NEVER be answered as the answer require is SIMPLE.. but therein lies the problems! Can I get an answer? Menelik Charles London England

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  7.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    MLQ, I just read it myself. I wanna just leave this one to the ladies to discuss, but she's back onto the "black men don't want me" and "they say white women are better" crap again. I'm turning on my Playstation. Don't feel like bothering with this right now.

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  8.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    (Loosening my tie up) Reading Friendly's story. Taking a break.... Heading back into my home office.

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  9.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Petitechick: I feel you on that...but just because you didn't find love with a white man does not mean other black women don't. And just because the white men who approached you before you gave up the search in that group of men were the wrong type doesn't mean they are all bad. I will tell you...I know. I haven't ever slept with one or been in a serious relationship with one yet because I haven't felt like they were the one for me. I will be honest, I even met some good ones but they weren't exactly what I was hoping for. I just keep on looking. Sometimes I don't even think I am being fair to some of them because I can be harder on them than I would be on a black man because I know black men. I grew up with them but not the white men. I really am going to have to feel the love vibe before I decide to take the big relationship lunge with one. But I am in the process of being friends and getting to know some of them on a more romantic level (which doesn't have to mean sex). I am slow to move to the intimate level with anyman because of everything I have been through. I always had the brothers (black men) back unti I realized that they did not have mine. Now I am open to the white brothers. I like them. I am working on the trust part. When I find one to trust I will give him a chance. I believe that I do deserve love and I shoul not allow black men to pass judgement on me and say that I am not as good as white women or any other woman for that matter. I am just exploring my choices like the brothers (black men) do. I have a right to do that.

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  10.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Hold up let me defend myself. Obviously, there are some people here that think " I have power". Number 1 Bama is new here. She was a 'fan" that didn't like my posts from the beginning. Now she gets to run her mouth and "dictate" who people should listen too. That is why you are currently failing in your personal life right now. The reason you don't want to respond to me is because you are full of shit. Your the one that brought up the 2 white men you were dating. One was a store owner and the other one. I can't recall the other guy's profession. You have the audacity to get mad about it. You SAID IT. You played yourself not me. I just pointed it out. Everything you say is a complaint. Ich took you to task on it. Now, your like " oh Ich we can talk". After, you tried to force Ich hand saying he is responsible for "what I say". Now you are backtracking trying to be nice to him. The typical desperate sellout black girl. You are desperate for validation from any type of man. Personally, I don't think you particular dated white men all that much. I just think black men got "fed up" with you and you went to white men. I rather you just say that.I am tired of your whining and complaining. People are free to say what they want. You control your white men that way. You ain't going to do that to me. There is nothing to talk about with you. I have been talking about sellout black women for years now. Again, Paula made comments that validated my points. I just don't like the fact she tried to slick to me. This is the same woman that said this.... "Comment by paula99 on 21 April 2010: because charles.. no low self esteem here. see let me give you a synopis i lost 160 pounds. and i had a white boyfriend drop me. when i lost the first 90 and i been happier ever since. i really loved jim. this too shall pass and it did." The white boyfriend "dropped you". But somehow you can come out your face at me. Listen, I am trying to be nice to you. (Turn around) and go lash out at the white men that didn't want you when you was obese. If there is ANYBODY you should be mad at. It is the white boys that dismissed you. I never lie about anything. I just go off their "own words". The same thing with Bama. It is not made up "words". This is what they said they do. They feel stupid saying it and than get upset. I can't control that. Sometimes, you have to smack a toddler's hand when they touch the hot stove. Hopefully, they learned their lesson. Have a good day.

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  11.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Comment by Malarki5 on 21 April 2010: @Paula99, thanks for your reply though personally speaking, I’d find it excruciatingly humiliating pursuing a race of women my ancestors were enslaved to! Especially in a complex, race-conscious society like the US. I mean, how would one separate racial rejection from romantic rejection? When some dude/dame decides not to take one home to meet their Ma ‘n’ Pa? My race-consciousness is too wrapped-up in self-respect to subject myself to such an ordeal…and besides, it’s chocolate-skinned sisters all the way for me! I got one too lol Thanks again. Menelik Charles London England ------------------------------------------------ YOU GO CHARLES, YOU JUST GO!!!!!

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  12.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    @ Paula: Comment by paula99 on 21 April 2010: hey that is my comment.. and i am sticking to it you women stop giving laurelton the power by responding to a idiot. some of his point is valid but does not mean we are sell out. i am glad women woke up and smell the coffee the percentage of white men marrying black women in the united states are very very low. but it will climb by the year 2020. maybe.. ----------- JUST WHAT YOU STATED above is exactly what I said when I first started coming to this forum. That the VAST majority of White men are not hooking up with Black women. I don't have to make that up. I didn't come here and pull a number out of my hat to say that. Having said that, the vast majority (right now - can't speak to 2020) only want coochie. When I bought this message, it was like OMG. Who da hell does she think she is? Truth teller, that's who. NOT ONCE DID I CALL ANYBODY A SELL OUT. Not once, not once did I say Black women can't get with white men. NOT ONCE. I said it is NOT ON A GRAND scale right now that these inter-racial RELATIONSHIPS (key word) back there: are taking off. Fun, sex, yepper. And I ain't mad at nobody for wanting to do that. BUT THESE WHITE MEN can at least be honest about their intentions towards my sistahs. That's my problem. Here's what many of them do: Tweak their profile so that what you see tells you they live in a certain area. When you actually talk to them you find they live elsewhere. Tweak their profile so that you get conflicting information about where they are really located. Flirt with you on the downlow (no photo and no other information) marriage could be a reason, however there was one WHITE MAN (nice guy a lil too old for me) who told me straight out why they do this. THEY ARE ASHAMED and afraid they will be found out within their immediate communities. He was kind of pissed that he told me cause hew knew after our conversation was done that I would have a different view of them. He told me the reason why he told me the truth is because he really liked me and told me the truth. Now this gentleman DID NOT HIDE his profile info or "lurk" as it were. That's how we got to talk in the first place. I don't flirt or talk to no faces. When you tell them to get one and come back, they tell you (me at least) it's MY loss, (teeheeheee). This man was right, girl. From that point on I began to look at my dealings with them and how they interacted with me and noticed patterns (not all - but the majority) were doing exactly what he said. I scratched them out. I HAVE NEVER HAD A MAN OF COLOR HIDE BEHIND A NO PIC AND CONTACT ME. Well, maybe one. And when he got his foto he came back and asked could we talk....we did and it wasn't clicking. So many of them (no foto having mofos view me dozens of times - once it gets pass 10 views I block ya. Cause then methinks you jerking off or something, LOL. Nasty mofos. Oh, and don't get me started on the freaks who want webcam sex. What that gone do for me? What that gone do for me, girl? I'm not chasing no man down who doesn't know or think I don't have self worth. He could be green, Black, White, Brown no matter to me. That just don't sit well with me. Thanks for writing.

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  13.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Comment by mecca77 on 21 April 2010: Hi Mecca! I am in full agreement. I DON'T NEED A MAN, I WANT ONE. I'm full blooded African American female who desires companionship. I have put relationship opportunities on "hold" in the past for various reasons: rebound; career reasons; family issues. See, I don't step or look to be in a relationship if my shyt ain't tight. Guess why? Anyone interested in me had better not bring me theirs. I am of the firm belief that women and men should be together, but I don't lose sleep over it if I don't. LOL. Sometimes we let our want haves get in the way with our "must haves." The only thing I must do is what I know I should be doing. Telling the truth, exposing the truth, sharing it with my sistahs. I will continue to do that - even if they don't like it. Your point about men: I find that men and women alike are just vicious and nasty toward one another. I don't take too keenly to people attempting to take advantage of another. I pull out the weaponry then. I have always been this way. That won't change cause somebody calls me a name or two or misconstrues my words. It is bad enough that having discussions in this manner the written word can be taken out of context on a lot of occasions. However, when the whole thrust of your missives are aimed at getting at the truth, people will call you jealous, tell you they hate you. Guess what? THEY HATED JESUS CHRIST TOO. It is what it is.

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  14.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    @Bama G'morning Comment by Bamababe2k9 on 18 April 2010: And as far as that man saying what he said about sistas, he is a fucking idiot. Guess what? WHite men can be idiots just like brothas can. Equal opportunity. ---------------------------------------------------- I agree Bama, but he came after me. Not once did he say anything to YOU in your AGREEMENT with me. I wonder why that is. You co-signed and he came after ME? Hmmmm I must draw out the real good stuff when I tell the truth. TELL THE TRUTH AND SHAME THE DEVIL MY DADDY WOULD SAY...... Friendly13 DID THE SAME THING. She came after ME instead of addressing this so-called White man who loves Black women to set him straight. Maybe she does, maybe she don't wanna. I'll let her have that - as much as she wants.

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  15.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Bama, I was just looking over some of my old posts from last year and that was one that I had totally fogotten about. I was clarifying to another blooger what a young lady was speaking on. Azrazyel (a white guy) was tired of hearing black women talk bad about black men in conjuction with speaking about their attraction to white men. He told her that she sounded disturbed after reading her comments about different attitudes of some black men and women reagarding interacial dating and what pissed her off. A lot of posts came in between my last one and the one I posted before it, so it does seem out of place by now. The whole 'defense' thing was still on my mind. Sorry about that. :(

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  16.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    @Brown you probably right but I've just learned to pretty much ignore what Queens says because I don't take him seriously. And I'm starting to learn to pretty much not deal with people who don't want to have a serious conversation or incapable of having one. There are times I have had good conversations with certain people on here and that's why I'll stick around. @Ich you lost me. Can you explain what you posted? @Friendly, Petite, BigEyes hey ladies hope all is well.

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  17.   younglefever says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    dear menelik, Im 46 years old and have been interracial dating for about 28 yrs and have always wanted to know why.I have always been more attracted to black women ever since i was young.My 1st girlfriend was black.Dont get me wrong i wouldnt change my dating style for nothing.But please tell me do you have to have a reason for being more attracted to black women or is it just something i was born with? Thanks, THEO

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  18.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    @Paula99, thanks for your reply though personally speaking, I'd find it excruciatingly humiliating pursuing a race of women my ancestors were enslaved to! Especially in a complex, race-conscious society like the US. I mean, how would one separate racial rejection from romantic rejection? When some dude/dame decides not to take one home to meet their Ma 'n' Pa? My race-consciousness is too wrapped-up in self-respect to subject myself to such an ordeal...and besides, it's chocolate-skinned sisters all the way for me! I got one too lol Thanks again. Menelik Charles London England

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  19.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    (Eating popcorn) Listening to "Other brother" "Also why your pathetic A** can not keep a women, they all smarter than you? You do not deal with white women so you say and you say all the thin black women with white men, except petite chick that is, so what is the problem all them big blessed black women available and you can not seem to keep one. That is pretty pathetic, not even one. Come on queens, are you really that pathetic because we all know it is not all black women who are worthless, just the ones that date white men and the educated ones, So you say. so you shouldn’t have a hard time keeping one. You want to talk about other people and your game is weak, you have lost every debate since I have been on this blog, and you think you have won them, that is a joke. Hey petite chick needs a man a reaL man, not just sex but a real man, she hasn’t even asked your silly A** out what does that say, She doesn’t want white men and she doesn’t want sex from men, she just wants a good black man, why she aint hit on you. LOL" This sound like Other Brother wife talking for him. WTF is a "big blessed black woman"? That like a "small bbw" or something? You said that comment about "worthless black women". I never said all black women are worthless. You know what I am starting to think you are upset your wife is unemployed and writing books that "don't sell". Where that worthless comment come from? LOL I don't mean to laugh but damn man. LOL I don't got no game. I am not here to pick up women. Listen tell your wife to get up early in the morning. I figure you make breakfast for yourself and you got like 10 people in the house. I tell people on this board. This is not even a "fair fight". Then, you had the "nerve" to talk about money! I already "picked you apart" with this statement you made. "Come on queens, are you really that pathetic because we all know it is not all black women who are worthless," I don't think any black woman is worthless period! I am out.

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    By the way, I am not bothered by Paula's comment By the time 2020 come she will be 62 or so. I don't respond to old ladies. She already sound defeated. Again, Have a nice day.

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  21.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Paula I like your honest comments about this issue. I wish more black women would tell the truth. This coward Other Brother "holler" at other black women and got a black wife. Why the hell would you say that on here. Yea, you "thought" you was hanging out with the black men you know, they would have pat you on the head for being a "player". Black men don't cosign that shit you are doing. Nobody brags about that shit you coward. Most of your black friends think you are a "sucker". Continue to be the meal ticket before you even mention my name here. There is no comparison here. You are the meal ticket and I am not, POINT BLANK! Have a nice night.

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  22.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Dear Otherbrother What book your wife got published? What is the name of it? You're unemployed wife managed to write a book in her spare time while you pay all the bills. How she make more money than me? You support like 20 people! Your wife makes you sit down and pee! That is the difference between me and you. I don't care if you think I am racist. You claim to work with all these black people and know 'more black people" than me and Ich put together. Where are these black people at? Because you "know" a couple black people makes you the authority on black people. Ask them if they are racist, when the "push up" on your black wife. I already know you won't do anything about it! What is the name of her book? I know you won't tell me. Stop playing games on here. Go take that out on your wife. Try to encourage her to get a "real job". Good day. LOL

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  23.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    because momma taught them and their daddy racist rants you can fool with them but we do not want a half cast running around. you be surprised how people still think of course that is not everyone. but most people 50 and older are racist as hell. that is why the country is so fucked up. and passed on to their so called legacies. i lived in europe i did not have that problem came back to america you have these i like black pussy but i can only see you in the dark. see i stay away from jerks like that. superiority complexes. i find.

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  24.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    because charles.. no low self esteem here. see let me give you a synopis i lost 160 pounds. and i had a white boyfriend drop me. when i lost the first 90 and i been happier ever since. i really loved jim. this too shall pass and it did. but most of the guys in my age range are married i am 52 yrs old. and i am not some damn cougar. if i want dick i have no problem with that area. someone is always willing. but i had to resort to dating some married men. single men my age and under i find did not fit into my criteria. most want a meal ticket. or a momma or some other dr. phil issue. i am not presseed really . i do not obessed anymore on will i find mr. right or right now. the majority are too shallow for me..

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  25.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Mecca77/Paula99 said: Lord knows I dated all kinds of white males. All are not my cup of tea. Majority are NOT comfortable with I think I take her to meet mom. Menelik asks: why wouldn’t the majority of white men feel at ease taking you to meet their mothers? Menelik Charles London England

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  26.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Also why your pathetic A** can not keep a women, they all smarter than you? You do not deal with white women so you say and you say all the thin black women with white men, except petite chick that is, so what is the problem all them big blessed black women available and you can not seem to keep one. That is pretty pathetic, not even one. Come on queens, are you really that pathetic because we all know it is not all black women who are worthless, just the ones that date white men and the educated ones, So you say. so you shouldn't have a hard time keeping one. You want to talk about other people and your game is weak, you have lost every debate since I have been on this blog, and you think you have won them, that is a joke. Hey petite chick needs a man a reaL man, not just sex but a real man, she hasn't even asked your silly A** out what does that say, She doesn't want white men and she doesn't want sex from men, she just wants a good black man, why she aint hit on you. LOL

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  27.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    petite chick i am mecca.. i could not find my password..lol

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  28.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Here’s what I wrote below. Please note my suggestion that certain aging, single, and/or child-burdened Black women on here get off their arses and go seek their ‘white Knights’ in the real world Menelik said on 19th April: My view is that if there are so many compatible, attractive, white men out there willing treat Black women with such delicacy and grace, then why the hell are they on an anonymous dating site searching for said men? It makes no sense! ‘Good’ Black men are apparently scarce while ‘good’ white men are in the abundant millions. For heaven’s sake, girls, get out there, flutter your eyelids, fix that smile and make yourself available! Surely, you don’t need to be on this site warring with daddy substitutes at your ages, do you? Friendly13 said 20th April: The reason that there are not a lot of white men wasting their time on this site is the same reason that I like them. They want to date black women and so they are spending their time finding black women who want to date them on here instead of wasting their time on this blog. Menelik replies: do you see how this individual has translated what SOME may interpret as white male passivity to intervene, like ‘white knights’, to defend their choice of women into men with swagger prowling the ghetto streets and downtown offices searching for their ebony queens? My original question to the likes of this rampaging fruit bat, was why wasn’t she out their making herself available to this endless stream of suitable white hunks rather than being on this blog beating up on Black daddy substitutes? But as usual my question wasn’t answered; and it will NEVER be answered as the answer require is SIMPLE.. but therein lies the problems! Menelik Charles London England

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  29.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    hey that is my comment.. and i am sticking to it you women stop giving laurelton the power by responding to a idiot. some of his point is valid but does not mean we are sell out. i am glad women woke up and smell the coffee the percentage of white men marrying black women in the united states are very very low. but it will climb by the year 2020. maybe..

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  30.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Queens you still have yet to answer the question though, why are you so racist? the question is easy just answer the question. My wife has already published her book idiot, while your talking about doing it she has already done it. You really sound pathetic when you get desperate to make comments, your broke black a** makes less than she does idiot that's including both your jobs.

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  31.   mecca77 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    petite chick you know men are scared of truth most are spirtually dead. a a lot of them had not put away their toys yet. just because your not with a man does not equate you being not being a real women. i watch women over the years kill themselves with plastic surgery. i men a nip tuck a little bit is not bad. but we have twisted our lives so much . some of us do not know which way is up. the reality is black women are going to just like me face the fact we may never have a soulmate. whatever you want to call it. and today's men are not man enough for me. i do not like superficiality. and disrespect. they are on these sites to get 'laid" nothing more. and once these women get used to it. they will be happier sitting around on these sites are a waste to me. enjoy life get out there. but we live in a crazy world. everyone has a Modis Operandi. majority. women , men. look i just date and have fun. but when i see red flags. i am out. i am not holding my breath. i accept the fact hey i probably be the old lady. alone. but does not mean lonely.

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  32.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Comment by Ichibod on 21 April 2010: Bama, I just found one of my post from the topic “Black Women Have No Option”: “Comment by Ichibod on 22 September 2009: Azrazyel, Nikkay87 is okay. I feel she expressed herself very well, I can’t believe she is just 21. She was basically speaking on what Mr Queens might call, “The Sellout Black Men”… or at least that’s how I would best describe them. Using black women as their excuse to date other races of women, particularly, white women. It may seem weird reading it at first because we never see that here, but there are black men who do say what she has heard them say about black women and similarly to what we read black women saying about black men. So, if she sounds disturbed, I’m sure she is… as disturbed as myself regarding the above mentioned issues. Later, bro!” Just throwing that out there. -------------------- Is there a point here?

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  33.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Queens said: "Let me interject here." That's the problem, you interject too much. You embarrassing ya self. Heck, I'm embarrassed for you. "I read the comments. I have my own blog to address the desperation of sellout black women. This forum is open to the “public”. Now if you want a site dedicated to just you seeking white men be m guest ..... Instead of the copy/ paste route, I cut it short and reworded the whole post to this: “blah blah blah mumbo jumbo " There, that about sums it up. ----------- Bama , friendly, anyone else who really just want to be able to have a discussion with people that have like interests, without having to defend yourself for how you feel, or having to “debate” it to death with people who just don’t get it. ... YOU DON”T CARE WHAT THEY THINK, it really is not a bad idea to search out boards and sites that are more moderated and simply won’t allow the smut throwing and name calling. There’s no need to subject yourselves to this kind of disrespect. Life is too short .

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  34.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    @friendly Here's a snapshot of my inbox.....I've just cleaned it out too...... Inbox (0/478) (as of the time of this writing...... JEALOUS OF YOU? GET THE HELL OUTTA HERE....That's what's wrong with Black women today. We try to backslide one another to dayum much. I'm not that kind of person. People have a tendency to take my straightforwardness, yet passion about people the wrong way.

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  35.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Dear Otherbrother The only person lying to you is your unemployed black wife. It must great being a "meal ticket". Good day.

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  36.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Ooops, last comment from Petite Chick is aimed at Ms Friendly13

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  37.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Another thing, you babe, I don't have no kind of "man" in particular running behind me. None, nada....Cause I ain't the kind of chick they want. So, you're right about that. But getting a man? A woman can go get her trim done EASILY....but to get a quality man takes effort. Most are rejected by me because of their approach (White men) that's why I stopped bothering with them...Black men (same thing) and any other preference I have. It ain't about opening up shyt. It's about having some principles. I do...you ought to grow you some. If I want stick, there is an ex or two or three who would be happy to oblige. But see, that's why they're exes. I want a man full and through. FOR ME DOES THAT DOES NOT EQUATE TO JUST SEX. I want a man for all reasons, what about you? I don't let dang-a-lang slingers get with me (knowingly). So if there is ANY reason I don't have a Black man/Hispanic man/Multi ethnic man or whatever kind of man I see fit to seek not in hurry to knock down my doors it's because I WON'T HAVE THEM. Open up myself? OK....I have been married? You? I was married to the same Black man for 20 years. Educated and all. Don't ever get it twisted.

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  38.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    @friendly I was trying to defend your ass....but you do you. Comment by PetiteChick on 20 April 2010: @Bama, yes I know I am. I don’t like liars. I detest them immensely. I was taught to stand on my principles. I should know it was fake coming on here pretending to be someone else. I know friendly13 wants love. You can tell it by the way she writes. I can. I know what that feels like and for someone to deliberately lie in Black and White like she stooopid or something and then try an twist it - made me see red. That’s what I came here to do doggone it, LOL. ———————————-

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  39.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    JEALOUS? OF YOU? No hun, I came here to tell you about the machinations of some of these white menz. I said he said those nice things to you because he probably only wants to get in your pants, drawls, (slang) whatever. Don't act like you ain't never heard of it. I have no reason to be jealous of you. Upon my arrival here did it appear as though I was jealous of you? What do you have that I want? I don't want a white man you do. I did, but no longer. If you don't want to read what the man said in full black and white about what he said about WOMEN LIKE YOU who are looking for MEN LIKE HIM, and then he turns around and claims he said something nice to pique your interest....go right the hell on. What he has said (apparently to you) and what he has said here in Black and White for all to see is evident that he has some disdain for Blacks. Reading comprehension goes a long way. Jealous? Of you? No....dahling. I don't like lying ass men who come up here and sell our sisters a false bit of hope when all they want from us is sex and nothing more. Nothing more...nothing more. Now if you swing that way that's yo bizness, but at least these men can be honest about it. Lying arse phuckers they are. Take it however you want to sista girl. Peace. BTW I don't stoop, I strut.....

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  40.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    That is funny a pathetic racist low life calling people white supremacists and Black male bashers? That is even funnier than queens and ich lying comments.

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  41.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Let me interject here. I read the comments. I have my own blog to address the desperation of sellout black women. This forum is open to the "public". Now if you want a site dedicated to just you seeking white men be m guest. Judging from the sellout black women blogs they hardly have any white guys "over there" anyway. It seems like just a group of them worshiping white men but the "intended audience" does not pay them any attention. I don't have to put down a white guy at all. To be honest with you. More white men should say why they love black women. Just "1 or 2" is a disgrace. Now the excuse "is". They are to busy looking for black vagina through profiles. That makes it better? All I see on the board is 1 "Bama" mentioning she got called a "slut" for sleeping with two men. She didn't "deny it". So, you can stop the word games. You have another one that thinks she is "friendly". She is so "self absorbed" with herself she actually think "she is the catch with 4 kids". Allegedly because she wear "pretty panties". If I was a white guy, it wouldn't be hard to get with her AT ALL. (Looking at my IPhone) I can show 4 black women middled aged and delusional that sent me pictures of thongs and nipples. You need to wake up. It is not even fair fight. That is why I rarely respond unless they say "something" that bothers me. I wanted to respond to Queenbee I thought some of her points were interesting. Until she made the comment about a "dark hole". Listen, I went to undergrad with black women. So let's cut through the bullshit. Y'all made bad decisions in men. NOW, you want to blame black men for that. As for black women in undergrad with white guys, let me address that. It was never no loss to black men in college. There was plenty of "other black women" to date. Most of the time the sellout black girl in college was with a 'sucker". Why would I want a black woman that date "suckers". That almost makes me look bad. On top of that, they were not exactly models. This is what people do not understand about black women. They are very vain to the point of being delusional. I can't explain why that happens in the black community. But if the fat black girls think "their hot shit". It is "beyond" me to be honest with you. I will say it again. These so called college educated black women is intimidated by black men like me. That are equally educated and try to improve themselves everyday physically and mentally. Everybody black woman is tough until a "real black man" tell them what it is. It never fails in my experience. Of course, it easier to be with a white guy. (Pointing to you) Y'all need to stop telling the media that men are intimidated by successful black women. Lastly, stop making it seem like a "docile" white man is a "good man". You making it seem like all white men 'are soft and you can steal their wallet". White men don't even fuck with 80 percent of y'all. I showed the list of black women, white men exclude from their preferences! The standards are "way higher" but somehow they are "better than us". I have to head to work (Slamming the door) (Opening the door) Nobody care if you are with a white man. Stop bringing up our name in your shit. Trying to use black men to "get attention". If you learned to spend time with a white guy, maybe, they wouldn't pick your ass LAST! I am out!

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  42.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Petitechick, You have stooped really low with the tacky "drawls" comment. Sounds to me like you are jealous. You'll have a hard time getting a black man to date you much less a white one. All you are is pollution trying to blot out the fact that sometimes "...White Men Love Black Women...." the sad thing is that your own insecurity will keep you from opening up because you are afraid of being rejected. If you had so many black men after you you wouldn't be three in a row and every third message after Menelike, Ichbod, and Mr. Laurelton Queens. two thirds of this site consists of messages from you four contrary personalities. You all are on a mission that is already a complete failure. The one man on here who is bold enough to stand up and tell you for himself why "Whitemen Love Black Women" you just put down and try to run away. You need to develop a site all your own that addressess your own cause and that is why you think Black Women are sell-outs becasue they are open to interracial dating. Just to keep the record straight...no one on this site will ever get into my "drawls" because honey I wear something much sexier, prettier, and more thoughtful than that. Don't you wish you had someone on here trying to get with you. Maybe the underwear you choose is what your problem is.

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  43.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Bama, I just found one of my post from the topic "Black Women Have No Option": "Comment by Ichibod on 22 September 2009: Azrazyel, Nikkay87 is okay. I feel she expressed herself very well, I can’t believe she is just 21. She was basically speaking on what Mr Queens might call, “The Sellout Black Men”… or at least that’s how I would best describe them. Using black women as their excuse to date other races of women, particularly, white women. It may seem weird reading it at first because we never see that here, but there are black men who do say what she has heard them say about black women and similarly to what we read black women saying about black men. So, if she sounds disturbed, I’m sure she is… as disturbed as myself regarding the above mentioned issues. Later, bro!" Just throwing that out there.

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  44.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Like I said this is why we don't talk to each other but at each other and that's cool with me. The joke is you seem think as usual you did nothing wrong and that everyone is against you but when I say a lot these females are coming from a place of hurt and frustration, you claim I'm talking about myself but if that's what you think and believe that's fine, that's your opinion but I was addressing Ich. In my humble in opinion, you still don't get it and don't want to get it so there is no point in this conversation with you.

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  45.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Bamababe said: When I tried to explain my position, you shut me down so no we have no real dialogue even though miracle of ALL miracles I kinda get why you upset. TYRANT replies: In my humble opinion, I don't think you have a clue why this bothers me. I tried to EXPLAIN to you in ENGLISH that I didn't have an issue with you dating white men, but you didn't want to HEAR THAT. No Bama, you were convinced that there was a CONSPIRACY to keep you-and black women who THINK jus like you-away from white men-LAUGHTER Nothing could be further from the TRUTH. Now SIXTY posts later you're COMPLAINING about black men NOT wanting to LISTEN to you and calling you OUT of YOUR NAME? You can't be serious.

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  46.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Ich and I have disagreed on some stuff but I give him credit for NEVER disrespecting me or calling me out of my name which you, Menelik who will deny this although he says I'm going to hell for some odd reason and Queen who called me a slut. When I tried to explain my position, you shut me down so no we have no real dialogue even though miracle of ALL miracles I kinda get why you upset.

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  47.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    I (for one) have no problem with interracial dating.

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  48.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Bamababe said: Ich the impilcation is that we NEED to be saved. I read a lot of post and a lot of these ladies are angry because they felt as if they are being talked down to by the likes of Queens, Tryant and Menelik. None of the dudes can’t even admit it bothers them to see bw/wm. They constantly dog sistas and refuse to listen to reason why these women are upset. TYRANT replies: Who's IMPLYING that you NEED to be SAVED? While we're on the subject, yes you are being talked down to, and what's HILARIOUS about this is the fact that we're using YOUR WORDS to do it. Bamababe said: Ich you are the only one who is willing to have a dialogue about this; I’ve given up on the others. TYRANT replies: GIVEN UP!!!!!! You never gave us a chance. ROFL I LOVE this SHIT.

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  49.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Ich the impilcation is that we NEED to be saved. I read a lot of post and a lot of these ladies are angry because they felt as if they are being talked down to by the likes of Queens, Tryant and Menelik. None of the dudes can't even admit it bothers them to see bw/wm. They constantly dog sistas and refuse to listen to reason why these women are upset. A lot of the stuff that is said by the sistas is out the hurt they feel towards black men who may have done them wrong. So they take out their anger and frustrations here and those dudes make it worse even though I beleive they too are speaking from a place of hurt and disappoint which manifest itself in how they speak to me and the other ladies. Now, I'm not saying what some of them are saying is right at ALL, but I understand the hurt and frustration they must feel and how you feel too. It's some pretty nasty stuff being said back and forth to one another and no one seems to want to take a step back and maybe try to understand a place where this coming from and again why some of these women maybe turning to white men for love and comfort. I can't speak for these ladies, but I've never said white men were the end all be all, to me men are men no matter what race they are,none of ya'll are perfect. To think one is better then the other is bullshit,but I'm not going to stop dating them because of a few bad apples either but that's just me. Ich you are the only one who is willing to have a dialogue about this; I've given up on the others.

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  50.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    Ichibod said: In your opinion, Bamababe, how should posts like these be perceived by black men then? Menelik replies: negatively, which is why she and friendly13 post stuff like what we quoted! they care more about pissing off Black men than they do about their alleged preference for white…which is a myth for a start! _______________________ TYRANT: This is why I DON'T believe having a dialogue with black women on this subject is possible, because it's HARD to talk to someone (Bamababe and friendly) who DON'T want to LISTEN, and who are more interested in hearing themselves TALK. To add INSULT to INJURY, Ichibod, Menelik, and I have cut and pasted ALL the comments Bamababe and friendly said when we replied to them and these women acted like we twisted their words. LOL How can I twist something I'm QUOTING you as saying WORD for WORD? My point: Gentlemen (Ichibod and Menelik), there are people posting on this board who have SERIOUS issues with READING/COMPREHENSION, and what's FRIGHTENING is these IDIOTS actually posess DEGREES. Need I say more?

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