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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Queens lack of comprehension is very entertaining. He acts like he is showing me up because of this case, when I specifically said the jury is out. But Queen specifically stated that a child that age raped by multiple people would be dead. That is a general statement. Or are you claiming South African girls are a different species with different chances of survival?

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  2.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Menelik replies: yeah, I guess you’re right. People are always leaving, aren’t they, darling? Why can’t they just stick around and love me, eh? I just can’t seem to get this relationship lark right! Once women get beyond my looks and get use to my, ahem, cock, they just slide away! Why is that? Maybe because I’m not all that friendly at but a nasty, argumentative, immature, self-loathing twat! And why? All because mommy and daddy rejected me as a child! Why can’t I just go away some place and sort out my daddy issues without projecting and displacing onto you guys? ________________________________ TYRANT says: Menelik, you're wasting your time. friendly (like Bama) is INCAPABLE of UNDERSTANDING, let alone, READING what you type. What's even more PATHETIC is the FACT that she doesn't pay ATTENTION to the GARBAGE she posts. Face it, friendly is conversation with the VOICES in her head (I see a trip to a mental institution for her in the near future.) My point: You can't REASON with someone who's proven over and over again that she can't be reasoned with.

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  3.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Why is there so much fitting going on? We are all of one God and there is no need to explain, explain, explain. Now if its for fun then enjoy but life is to short. I'm of mixed race. My mother is black and my father italian and black. I've never dated outside my race not because I don't want to but because there hasn't been that one guy to catch my eyes and ears as yet. I'd like to get the chance to date outside my race to learn more about this world I live in. But seriously folks, love life, live life, cherish life. Signed, Bahamian Queen

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  4.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    friendly said: you can never win any of the fights you have with your wife at home. If you don’t stop it your wife is going to leave you for a white man. Menelik replies: yeah, I guess you're right. People are always leaving, aren't they, darling? Why can't they just stick around and love me, eh? I just can't seem to get this relationship lark right! Once women get beyond my looks and get use to my, ahem, cock, they just slide away! Why is that? Maybe because I'm not all that friendly at but a nasty, argumentative, immature, self-loathing twat! And why? All because mommy and daddy rejected me as a child! Why can't I just go away some place and sort out my daddy issues without projecting and displacing onto you guys? Menelik Charles London England

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  5.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    @friendly13 I thought it was a feel good story too and glad ya'll like the joke too. Have good weekend peeps!

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  6.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    The story about Katie Washington is inspiring. This is a great example of a strong black woman. I know it couldn't have been easy for her. Thank you for sharing this Bamabebe2k9. I found it to be inspiring.

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  7.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Menelik, I bet you like fighting with me because you can never win any of the fights you have with your wife at home. If you don't stop it your wife is going to leave you for a white man. Your back jumping through hoops again. Haven't you got enough embarrasement. You shouldn't be on here either if you are already married. You are neglecting your duties and your companion on here always fighting with everyone. You are still trying to get the last word with petty foolishness. I guess you ran out of content since you are now recycling old rebuttals. The topic is "Why white men love black women."

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  8.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Friendly13’s re-occurring rejection theme repeated over and over again. She said the following: I have to ask why I’m reserving myself for only black men when they are not reserving themselves for me? 1) Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me! It’s likely that I will be asked to get married by a white man than a black man because many black men do not appreciate black women anymore. 2) Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me! I am not going to down white women any more because black men tend to prefer them. 3) Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me! I have learned a hard lesson. I have learned that I should open my choices up instead of closing them. 4) Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me! We have been left by black men for white women in past relationships. 5) Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me! Instead of us crying and feeling bad about ourselves we should consider white men who like us… 6) Underlying Message: Black men don’t want me! Friendly13 then goes on to make the following startling revelation below: I am adopted because my biological mother was only 14 and her parents helped her to give me away for adoption. Menelik says: This explains a lot because the constant themes in all of your posts are abandonment and rejection. Check them again for confirmation. Check also that any Black man with whom she disagrees is either 1) going to lose their partner to a white man 2) can't get a white man or 3) is in some way ugly. Rejection is the over-riding theme in all of her posts. It comes as no surprise that she herself was rejected by her birth mother and her grandparents. Very sad. But why does she continually project her own rejected, self-loathing status onto those who disagree with her? Why? Can't she simply move on and stop warring with men who simply no longer want her? get a white boy and be happy for heaven's sake! Menelik Charles London England

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  9.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    She's Notre Dame's first black valedictorian (WBBM) -- History is being made at the University of Notre Dame this spring. In the 161 years the University of Notre Dame has been awarding degrees, never had there been an African-American as valedictorian. Until this year. She’s Katie Washington of Gary, Indiana. She carries a 4.0 GPA majoring in biology and minoring in Catholic social teaching. According to the Northwest Indiana Times, Washington plans to continue her studies at Johns Hopkins University and follow in her father’s footsteps into medicine. Washington says she’s humbled by the honor of being named valedictorian. More information from Notre Dame University: Katie Washington, a biological sciences major from Gary, Ind., has been named valedictorian of the 2010 University of Notre Dame graduating class and will present the valedictory address during Commencement exercises May 16 (Sunday) in Notre Dame stadium. Washington, who earned a 4.0 grade point average, has a minor in Catholic Social Teaching. She has conducted research on lung cancer at the Cold Spring Harbor labs and performed genetic studies in the University’s Eck Institute for Global Health on the mosquito that carries dengue and yellow fever. She is the co-author of a research paper with David Severson, professor of biological sciences. Washington directs the Voices of Faith Gospel Choir at Notre Dame, is a mentor/tutor for the Sister-to-Sister program at South Bend’s Washington High School and serves as the student coordinator of the Center for Social Concerns’ “Lives in the Balance: Youth Violence and Society Seminar.” Upon graduation, Washington plans to pursue a joint M.D./Ph.D program at Johns Hopkins University. What an awesome accomplishment and historical moment. Wonder why this has not received national media attention? Please share with others...

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  10.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Strange Look at Mr. Laurelton Queens….. What now you are telling on yourself….”I am single with no kids….I am not concerned about losing any black woman.” Said Mr. Laurelton Queens to the sexy infamous well educated industrious Friendly13 “…I don’t have anything prove at this point. I got a degree, work two jobs, and go to the gym. She better hope she don’t lose me!....” Rebutts Mr. Laurelton Queens and reveals this truth about himself because he knows that no black woman would have him and would rather have a white man who appreciates her instead. That is the reason that you put all of your time into “…two jobs...” and the gym because you aren’t getting any play. I was wrong you really don’t have a life. You will wind up falling in love with a white woman eventually (they probably don’t want you either), since you think so negatively about black women and don’t appreciate them. Unless of course you are going to start dating men. You are probably one of those men who only works on his upper body all the time and has bird legs. I guess you read my profile and found out that I look pretty good for my age and after having four kids. Don't hate just appreciate.

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  11.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Queens,If this case is open and shut as you said it is, then why are the Police still looking to arrest other people involved in this case. Most of that article was from the defense point of view, so of course they are going to stand up for their clients as they should but you ready to go on some stupid ass rant as you normally do about a case that has NOT been proven either way. SO you need to shut up and get the facts first before you open your big ass mouth and put your foot in GENTLEMAN my ass. LOL

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  12.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Dear Bama You're analysis of the case is almost as bad as your jokes. You were the same one condemning these black boys. NOW, you are saying the "defense" is just giving their point of view. The sign of a case falling apart is when the witnesses are not reliable. If the case was solid, the defense wouldn't have mentioned the medical examiner's delay of evidence concerning the child. Defense attorneys and prosecutors exchange information. It leads me to believe that 7 year old child might have not been raped. It is basically an open and shut case. Either the child got raped or not. The medical examiner will determine if the boys are guility. The 15 year old girl that prostituted herself and had her sister tag along is despicable. She put the "ball" in motion. Oh yea, you also implied I was against the child. I should curse your ass out. But I won't do it because I am a gentleman. You have a nice day.

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  13.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    That's hilarious! You're right, that is a good laugh.

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  14.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Bama: THE CHICKEN CUMS Umm, er, comes FIRST!!!! LOL. Good one.

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  15.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    We need a good laugh and this is good: A chicken and an egg are lying in bed. The chicken is leaning against the headboard smoking a cigarette witha satisfied smile on its face. The egg, looking a bit pissed off, grabs the sheet, rolls over and says; "Well, I guess we finally answered THAT question."

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  16.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    @Queens I read the article and most of it was from the defense point of view. I want to hear what the police and DA have and what they have to say because they are still looking for other people involved in this case and this story still doesn't discount the witnesses who saw the whole thing. So, before you start jumping up and down for these boys, I suggest you get ALL the facts as well.

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  17.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Comment by Other Brother on 16 April 2010: Now on to Ms.PetiteChick You need a man? Queens is available, however you better not be educated, oh yeah you better not be classy or strong or independant. If your willing to kiss his feet and do what he says he might give you some of his much wanted loving. If your not good enough for a relationship you might be two or three phone calls away from a booty call if he is in between his black women, watch out though, I think I finally have him figured out, he might be with a white lady on the side, you know since there are no educated, strong black women available that he can deal with. He might have an educated, strong white woman on the side. ---------------------------------------------------- You forgot to include Menelnik and Ichibod. I like what they have to say too. I like what the sistahs have to say too. I don't want to lay any of them though. YOU, on the other hand, should never ever address me again. I will do likewise, cause you can't comprehend a word I've said. You think I'm here bashing Black women, when it is the contrary. If you find a post that proves that i've done so, bring it up. You think I'm here just bashing. I have done no such thing anywhere. The only person I have had serious words with here is Salassisout. Step off please, dude.....

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  18.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    (Reading the comments) Look at this shit here! Other brother lashing out like a "mad man". Seriously, I have never seen a white man this angry. You lashed out at me, Ich, and other people. What is going in your life Other Brother? I just wonder about you sometimes. We are not racist towards you Other Brother. You came on the board talking about "you holler" at other black women. When you have unemployed black wife at home. These are your words. You already know you won't talk about it. For you to respond me to me and Ich. It is like your "little brother" trying to get "tough". Even, the sellout black women here disrespect you. I do recall you got smacked by one of them on the board. Oh yea, stop telling black men here you know more black men than us. I don't care if you knew Nelson Mandela. You will never know the black struggle or experience. That is like me saying " I met a couple of white men; so, I know how they are. I could say my current clients are two young white boys. One is 7 and the other one is 10. LOL That is real life. LOL Maybe, I will ask them, if I am racist. As for Sal, this guy brings up South Africa. One slight problem with that. The boys lawyer is alluding to the medical examiner saying "the 7 year-old might have not been raped". There is no physical evidence. You are comparing Africa to NJ. These women have a "valid claim". Oh yea, I can't recall reading a 15 year old going to the projects to prostitute herself to young men. Also, having a little sister tag along. We can argue the case and the result will be the same. My claim holds no water. That is not an argument. You have to prove that girl got raped. I doubt bringing in an "article" will prove your case. You are a Lawyer so you know this. Hence, no argument back. (Pointing to) Other brother, you out character man. You are making accusations all over the place. Your black wife needs groceries you better go to the supermarket immediately. We all know you do all the work in the house. It makes you feel tough to "talk back" to us. It is not even a fair fight. I rather give Marquez (Sal) another beating. Other Brother you are like "Ricky Hatton". You got knocked out. It is time to pack it in already. When sellout black women tell you how to treat your black wife, that is really pathetic. Good day.

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  19.   Scoff/Sarah says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Ms. Cherie Thank you so much for your wonderful post, as I too had a emotional struggle accepting that I had feelings for a young white man. (sergated south circa 1964) Even to this day I can remember walking home after my first Kiss thinking, Oh My God I just kissed a white boy, what will people say, if anyone discovers my secert I'll have serious a problem. Yes I'm still around as I love to read all the badgering back and forth as who is right or wrong. My dear friend Ms. Godiva one day I will surprise you with that special inviation. I want to give you a big hug and a Thank You for asking about my daughter, her health is improving and I hope by this Summer I can resume my normal life once again. Blessings to all Sarah

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  20.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Brother Menelik, Those were the comments that stood out to me, too. But I'll only do this one below. MzBrOwNSuGaR, "If you all are being talked about negatively, then yes, you should say something. It would seem that would be directly to the person that does that, not every black woman on the planet. I really haven’t seen much of that, and the ones that do pretty much post one time and we don’t see them again. In all fairness, a woman that comes here and says she is “only” attracted to white men,does not mean she is saying anything negative about black men. But. I have noticed they are the ones that get the most heat, and then during battle they say things. What can one expect?" Fair enough, SugaSistagurl. However, the "only" attracted to white men comments just aren't perceived as negative to the women that make them. You not being a black man, no offense, wouldn't understand how it is or can be. And the things said during the battle (statistics, past relationships, stereotypes) are often the true motives behind the "I've been attracted to them all my life, I don't know why" statements. What can one expect? The truth! As far as the 'every black women on the planet' line, I don't see where you got that impression of me or my comments. I directly address who I'm am speaking to, and yet I, many times, am being mistaken for another blogger for some reason. Many know the difference, some just act like they have no clue or just don't care. I agree you shouldn't just go to any topic and start telling people what they think or feel or why, but some of these topics make for good reading. I see something about black women, I want to know what's being said about you gals... my gals. My mom, my cousins, my grandmother, my aunties... you get the picture. I come to a thread that asks white guys a question about black women, I'm curious to see what they say. But when I come here and don't see comments from white men, only from black women and most of them are either negative or presumptuous, then it's time to say what I think and feel. But my feelings aren't just, "Hey, watch your mouth, woman." I try to show a different perspective given the statements made in the posts that I may disagree with. If that fails and I feel that I'm dealing with an imbecile (sadly to say), then it all goes down hill. I can't help it if media suggestions start flowing from a woman's subconcious during the heat of battle. Long story short, I have no problem with you, or Bama (except for her liking Tyler Perry, lol). I've got more pressing issues to attend to. We've been under attack for quite some time and it's about time this gets handle once and for all. Take care!

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  21.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    @Another Sister, I told myself I wouldn't say anything to you after Tatts and Godiva put you on the spot about making up stuff about me last year. I even apologized to you after my first post to you that I later realized I had totally misunderstood and you constantly call me racist, bitter, a liar, and claim that I don't know white men when I have never said anything to or regarding a white man. I don't ride band wagons. Just because someone posts something with some points I agree with and I may read comments the same way someone else read it or vice versa, doesn't mean that I am riding with them, or them with me. And you say that I'm the most pathetic on this blog, yet you've managed to get under the skin of 5 different black women on a thread entitled "Why White Men Love The Black Woman". You asked before that if anyone thought you should leave then you would leave. Bigeyes and I said no. What is your deal with me, seriously? Do you even know the definition of racism to be accusing me of it? I do not hate anyone of other races or my own, nor do I make race based decisions in relationships/partnerships whether personal or business using negative or positive prejudice, and you cannot show me or tell me (especially since the thread only shows the last 200 posts) where I have given off that impression to anyone and you have been asked to show where I have, and not by me, and not by just one other person (black woman). I don't appreciate how you are coming at PetiteChick, and I didn't like how you came at MzBrOwNSuGaR a while back. You have proven to be a bigger nuisance with nothing lucrative to add to this conversation, especially when you say that you "...probably work with more black people then you even know..."? You think this is a all a big joke don't you? Sal is a very smart guy and I am a subscriber to his YouTube page. I've enjoyed reading most his perspectives on things in various other topics on this site since I've been a member, so I'm not really bothered by his dealing with anyone... I'm actually inspired. But you are an annoying little gnat. Even though I like debating, this is not fun debating what the black folks here are debating, and you are not helping by thinking that this is just some mud slinging contest that you have no suggestions or interest in helping bring to a close. Since you know so many black people (more than I probably know, whatever), try telling them what you read here and what you type here. Scoff had Sarah come to the blog, why don't you have your wife come to the blog? Does she read what you have to say to the BLACK PEOPLE on here? Just for $hit5 and giggles: "as I said before I really do not care what makes anyone one open their mind about enhancing their opportunities to find that one person they are looking for, even if it is a pathetic racist Blackman that so called pushes them there" Please, MLQ. Handle that line for me. I know you know what to do with it. How's that for your band wagon assumptions? You just need to stop spreading lies about me with no proof of anything you've accused me of. Because what I have been attempting in this dialog here, and I gather other black men (and obviously PetiteChick) are as well, is caring what makes us and our black women "open their minds about enhancing their opportunities to find that one person they are looking for" as you so succinctly put it. You're trying to sound intelligent and you just sound silly. "Enhancing their opportunities"? There are situations in the black community that you have no clue as to the what, when, why, or how, and yet you have some nerve to say anything about me and what I am alledgely saying on this board that you have no proof of me saying or eluding to. I don't know what your angle is or what you hope to gain by insulting me for no good reason, but you need to grow up and knock it off. Also, get Hooked On Phonics. Learn how to proof read. Stop racial profiling and make sure you're accusing the right people of stuff. We all don't really look alike, you know.

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  22.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Back to itchaboy I could take a yaer off, you and queens would still be taken a beating, sometimes silence is the best way to allow someone to show there ignorance, I went away for five months and you still lied and showed your ignorance. Not really is nothing to be proud of.

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  23.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Now on to Ms.PetiteChick You need a man? Queens is available, however you better not be educated, oh yeah you better not be classy or strong or independant. If your willing to kiss his feet and do what he says he might give you some of his much wanted loving. If your not good enough for a relationship you might be two or three phone calls away from a booty call if he is in between his black women, watch out though, I think I finally have him figured out, he might be with a white lady on the side, you know since there are no educated, strong black women available that he can deal with. He might have an educated, strong white woman on the side.

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  24.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Queens Answer the question Why are you so racist? You trying to make a false claim that you are not racist doesn't answer the question. Are you slow? Just answer the question.

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  25.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Ich Your childishness shows show much, your racism is so evident and you ignorance so prevalent, You are probably the most pathetic person on this blog, yes even more pathetic than queens, not by much, but more than him. You are special I know you are so special, A black women can not come on this blog and give her opinion that hurts your feelings, but you can post lie after lie. I have noticed you jump on every ones band wagon you’re a follower not a leader. You need to post off of other peoples post but whine when someone slaps you with the truth. One day you will grow up and be a man and maybe then you will understand. As I told queens, I probably work with more black people then you even know, and it is obvious that you have no clue about white people. I speak from experience If I make a statement like I am getting ready to make then it has really happened. It is not a imaginary event in my head, you are one of the few who imagine things and lie in you post. They do not come much more pathetic than you, your feelings are hurt so you have the right to lie, your serious right, that is pathetic and in all actuality it is black men like you that push those so called sellouts you hate so much over the line into inter-racial dating. For that I want to thank you, as I said before I really do not care what makes anyone one open their mind about enhancing their opportunities to find that one person they are looking for, even if it is a pathetic racist Blackman that so called pushes them there

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  26.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Sal Why do you even give examples Queens is to Racist to understand. He still hasn't even answered the question why?

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  27.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Innocent till proven guilty. So I will wait to hear about th evidence of the 7 year old being raped. But Queens is completely delusional if he holds as evidence that "If a 7 year old got raped by 7 or 8 boys. The girl would dead, she wouldn't be able to walk or would be bleeding. " as proof the 7 year old didn't get raped. These cases AR confirmed, and many of the children DID survive. Child Rape in South Africa Eileen Meier, MPH, JD, MPH, RN Introduction Rape, including child rape, is increasing at shocking rates in South Africa. Sexual violence against children, including the raping of infants, has increased 400% over the past decade (Dempster, 2002). According to a report by BBC news, a female born in South Africa has a greater chance of being raped in her lifetime than learning how to read (Dempster, 2002). When South Africa became a democracy in 1994, there were already 18,801 cases of rape per year, but by 2001 there were 24,892 (Dempster, 2002). Numbers vary by different institutions, but are nevertheless extremely troubling. The Institute of Race Relations found that more than 52,000 rapes were reported in 2000, and 40% of the victims were under age 18 (du Venage, 2002). The University of South Africa reports that 1 million women and children are raped there each year (South Africa: Focus on the Virgin Myth, 2002). High Profile Baby Rapes A number of high profile baby rapes since 2001 (including the fact that they required extensive reconstructive surgery to rebuild urinary, genital, abdominal, or tracheal systems) increased the need to address the problem socially and legally. In 2001, a 9-month-old baby was raped by six men, aged between 24 and 66, after the infant had been left unattended by her teenage mother. A 4-year-old girl died after being raped by her father. A 14-month-old girl was raped by her two uncles. In February 2002, an 8-month-old infant was reportedly gang raped by four men. One has been charged (McGreal, 2001). The infant has required extensive reconstructive surgery. The 8-month-old infant's injuries were so extensive, increased attention on prosecution has occurred. Infants and Children For children below age 14 and those requiring reconstructive surgery, many go to the Red Cross Children's Hospital, a tertiary hospital in Capetown and for the Western Cape area. In 1995, the social worker responsible for child rape victims saw an average of 100 child rapes per month. It has slowly decreased to approximately 25 per month, but this number is deceiving (Carla Brown, Chief Social Worker for Child Rape Victims, Red Cross Children's Hospital, Capetown, personal communication, June 11, 2002). Most child rapes are now seen in primary care centers in the community where reporting is still haphazard. The incidence may still be 100 or more a month. The number of child rapes and rapes in South Africa was so embarrassing that the government placed a moratorium on government crime statistics in 2001 stating that they needed "reassessment" In the 1998 South Africa Demographic and Health Survey, researchers assessed the frequency of rape in a nationally representative study of 11,735 women ages 15 to 49. Researchers asked women if they had been "forced to have sexual intercourse against their will by being threatened, held down, or hurt in some way" or "persuaded to have sexual intercourse when they did not want it." Women who responded that they had, were asked if these events had happened before the age of 15 years, in which case researchers concluded that they had been raped. The response rate for the survey was 90 percent. 153 (1.6 percent, 95 percent CI 1.2-1.9 percent) of the women surveyed had been raped before age 15. Two (1.3 percent) of whom had been raped by gangs of three and ten men. 85 percent of the rapes took place against children ages 10 to 14 years, and 15 percent between 5 and 9 years. Uh yeah, I think your claim holds no water.

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  28.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    MzBrOwNSuGaR said: Will I go back through all those long drawn out past post and paste them ? Sho won’t!! Menelik asks: why not? All you have to do is scroll upwards. That shouldn't take a minute or so. MzBrOwNSuGaR said: don’t have to make up jack and certainly got no reason to be afraid. Menelik replied: of course not, dear, but you now have a reason to provide supporting evidence for your claims that Black men on here have sprouted hatred towards Black women as a GROUP akin to that of the KKK! MzBrOwNSuGaR said: Everybody here pretty much knows what they have said and have been saying. Menelik replied: and according to you they (more than one person) have been saying Black women are "useless" not "worthy of marriage" and "envious of Blondes". Well, if you can't be bothered to scroll up and quote what people have allegedly said then maybe you can name names. Deal? MzBrOwNSuGaR said: Anybody with a sudden case of amnesia is the type of person that can be so nasty. Menelik replies: I'm sure they can, dear, but what about those who make false accusations? Menelik Charles London England

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  29.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Gosh and I could be playing my trivia: @ Queeens All I have to say to you and all your usual mumbo jumbo is: HA!!

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  30.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    @ Malarki5 I don't have to make up jack and certainly got no reason to be afraid. I know what I been reading. Will I go back through all those long drawn out past post and paste them ? Sho won't!! Everybody here pretty much knows what they have said and have been saying. Anybody with a sudden case of amnesia or is the type of person that can be so nasty, and not see it as nasty, Oh Well

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  31.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    (Listening to Mzbrown) She does not seem hurt that white men pick black women last to date. Apparently, if you don't see the negative comments by white men. They don't happen. I actually tend to think you are naive. To make the comparison of black men to KKK and Nazi. That is such an absurd argument. The same white men that claim they want to be with black women sexually. They will have friends that are racist or prejudice. Some on this board imply "well some people don't agree with me dating a black woman". But they are still 'friends" with these people. How many white men encourage other white men to date black women? I still haven't received an answer. Do you think a white guy's friends "change" because he is dating you? If they wasn't fond of black people before, I highly doubt you will be the exception. Most white guys will not give up there friends for you. To be ostracized from their community. That must be the reason why black women are picked last by white men for dating. Ultimately, you can call black men whatever you want. Just hold the same standard to white men. You rather roll over on your belly waiting for rub for his "white family" getting used to "seeing around". Now, how insulting is that. Maybe, it is better to blame black men. So, when white men never introduce you to their friends, family, and even their dog. You can blame black men for that. Good day.

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  32.   breazy says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    So I was looking for a movie about a black woman and a white man falling in love or what not. you know how movies are, same ol' same! I think my fiancee told me the it had Jude Law in it. if anyone knows what I am talking about please tell me. secondly I used google to try and find it when I stumbled across this. I was intruigued speaking as a white male who is engaged to a black female from ethiopia. we have been dating for 2 years now and plan on getting marriend in september. I don't know what is wrong with the world. could anyone answer me this? does you really have to break things down and categorize anyone. Everyone is there own seperate person. Although I am not blind to the fact that the color of your skin can change how your viewed, which can even change how you act at times. All in all everyone is there own person. If your a white man and are into black women that is you. or a black female thats in to white guys that is you, and so on and so forth. When can we stop seeing it as a racial indecency to date out of your pigmentation, and start seeing it as a joy. A joy to know that there really are people that don't judge ones content of character by the color of their skin, and indtead make assesments on their moral fiber and their heart towards the world. I can tell you I was attracted to my fiancee before I talked to her; obviously. How could I not be. With a beautiful smile, gorgeous eyes and a coke bottle body to match her gorgeous face. What made me fall in love. Was her soul, her views of the world, her optimistic disposition, and how she never had anything bad to say about another human being. to ms petite if you are reading this all I ask is not to categorize every single white male together. It my dear is flat out racism. Also we dated for a solid two months before we ever screwed around so no I was just trying to get in her pants. I really wanted to get to know her before we complicated things with a sexual attachment. Thanks for your time :) breazy

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  33.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    MzBrOwNSuGaR said: after reading some of the most hateful, and nasty remarks, I would expect to see said from KKK members or Skinheads, coming from black men, am I naive enough to think I can say something to make them feel guilty? Not hardly. Menelik asks: could you please give but a single example (more if possible) of Black men on here making "nasty remarks" towards you or others akin to either the KKK or the Skinheads. I mean, it's just for the record, you understand, just so we know that people aren't making stuff up. Not suggesting that you are...but well, you never know. MzBrOwNSuGaR if you think that I’m s’pose to roll over on my back with all fours up in the air, hoping for a belly rub from men that come here and tell us how useless we are, and how we have no options, no self-worth; how we envy blonde-haired women, and their fair skin, and how no man see us as worthy to marry... you better believe I have a problem with that. Menelik asks: 1) who here has ever suggested that Black women as a group are "useless"? 2) who here has indicated that Black women envy Blonde-haired white women? 3) who here has ever so much as suggested that Black women are unworthy of marriage? Please, Ms B if you do choose to answer my questions don't be afraid to quote the alleged culprit(s) word-for-word. I'd appreciate that because I like to quote people so they can 1) see just exactly what came from their own mouths and 2) see what exactly what I'm taking issue with. Thank you. Menelik Charles London England

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  34.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Now I will attempt to respond to your other statement Itch: "I feel that you only typed that comment to Bama hoping to make black men feel guilty about posting on a topic with “White men” and “Black Woman” in the title. Oh, was that comment not for anyone other than Bama to see (on a public SPACE)? Nice try though." --- Now you see what I mean... how you gonna think for me and tell me what I was thinking and why. Number one, I have no problem with black men posting here,actually I never considered myself as having problems with black men, not as a whole. But I will say that if you or anyone think that I'm s'pose to roll over on my back with all fours up in the air, with my tongue hanging out, hoping for a belly rub from men that come here and completely tear us down and tell us how useless we are, and how we heve no choice, no options, no self worth, how we envy blonde haired womean and their fair skin and how no man see us as worthy to marry.... you better believe I have a problem with that. Every word of that, I have sat here and read from my so called "Brothers" . And I do stress.. NOT All here have done that. And so, after reading some of the most hateful and nasty remarks, that I would expect to see said from KKK members or Skin Heads, coming from black men, am I naive enough to think I can say something to make them feel guilty, not hardly. ----- “Also, most black men DO care, which is why we come running when we see things said about black women. When we find out what black women are saying about us, when the topic says nothing about us, then that becomes a problem.” If you all are being talked about negatively, then yes, you should say something. It would seem that would be directly to the person that does that, not every black woman on the planet. I really haven't seen much of that, and the ones that do pretty much post one time and we don't see them again. In all fairness, a woman that comes here and says she is "only" attracted to white men,does not mean she is saying anything negative about black men. But. I have noticed they are the ones that get the most heat, and then during battle they say things. What can one expect? --- "It’s a shame that you don’t care to know what others may be saying about us. The part about the US military was regarding knowing what others are doing before it affects our country. Hard to see the correlation at first if you’re purposely trying to misunderstand me." The shame is you assume I don't care when I never said or implied that.

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  35.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Comment by Salsassin on 15 April 2010: Seemed like you were criticizing. Well, you don’t have to be a paying member to post. ---------------------------------------------------- Things ain't always what they "seem."

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  36.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Kalynada: Thanks for responding to my post (off this forum). I understand what to do now, and actually it's a good idea to see if it works. To all the others who answered without passing judgment...thanx. Of course, that excludes SAL'S ASSSSSSSS

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  37.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 10

    Dear Bama http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5iKXxMr8bsqnMXwXSdngFnb7worpAD9F37D1G0 Here is how the case is going: Excerpts "The boys are learning disabled and the 14-year-old can't read or write, the official said. The 13-year-old boy often seemed confused during the interview, the source said. At one point, he said the group held down the 15-year-old and had sex with her, but police have said the 15-year-old voluntarily had sex with several men for money." "Assistant Prosecutor Jennifer Downing said several witnesses saw Leary having sex with the 7-year-old girl. Leary denies touching her, and his defense attorney questioned in court whether the 7-year-old was raped at all." "Leary has also been charged with statutory rape for having sex with the 15-year-old, which he admits doing. His attorney has said the girl told everyone at the party that it was her 18th birthday that weekend." "During the interviews, the 7-year-old also said she and her sister were planning to run away and that she was afraid of getting in trouble when she came home. When she arrived at her house, police were there because their parents had reported the girls missing and told police they feared that the older girl had run away and taken her sister with her." "An affidavit for probable cause alludes to a medical finding that he believes is inconsistent with the injuries from a gang rape, Main said. "If a gang raped that little girl, I don't think she would be alive," said Shemika Leary, Gregory Leary's sister." Obviously, the media's rush to judgement is amazing. These boys are guilty of bad judgement. The 7 year-old being raped. That is up "in the air" too. Yea the sellout black women rushing to "hang these boys" with no trial. Man, look for that Vigilante Season Part 2. I wonder if they will "retract" the story, if these boys are exonerated. I am out.

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  38.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    THIS is what I originally said: When I see these titles on this site like: “Interracial Dating - White woman’s perspective” “Do white women approach men better than black women? ” “Interracial dating and black men ” I know I am not white, asian, or whatever, and I am not a black male, so I have made it a point not to go there and tell em what they think or feel or why. Maybe that’s what ya call respecting people’s choices and space. Let me attempt to break it down for ya: 1: “Interracial Dating - White woman’s perspective”... How can I speak speak fora white woman and tell her what her real perspective is? 2: “Do white women approach men better than black women? ”..... I'm not a man so how can I speak for him and or tell him who approached him best. How the heck would I know 3: “Interracial dating and black men ”'... again, I am not a man nor am I of a woman of another race, so what knowlege would I have on that? I fell to see what that has to do with James and I never said I have never read any of those boards. I'm saying I have enough respect not to go to their boards attacking. Respecting that has nothing to do with that nonsense you said about the military, and you know it. There is not even a comparison there.

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  39.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    I'm gonna do this in two posts just in case I'm not the only one who hate the long longggg posts @ itch: This is one of the main reason I don't post much, because by the time what you have written goes from the eyes to the brains of some of the readers, once the response comes back from their fingers, it has been entirely twisted and bent way out of shape, and thus, insighting hateful battles that have been going on here. THIS is what I originally said: By the time it made the trip thru yor brain, you said this: "I doubt James needs to be of each race and gender in order to write a topic about them. It’s called human relations. Maybe the US Military shouldn’t be in other countries listening to how many people there hate us. Who cares what plots exist to attack our country. We should respect other people’s choices and space, right?" (on to page 2)

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  40.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    Queens where is the story that the little girl retracted her story or changed it. I looked it up on the Net before I said a WORD to make sure and there was no such story that existed. So where is your proof?

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  41.   Member says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    No you got a serious problem. Obviously, you do not pay attention to the news. The 15 year old "willingly" prostituted herself to those boys in the project building. She had her sister "tag along". She got scared and made up that "story". Nobody raped this little girl. The medical examiner says there is no signs of rape. She just wanted to keep her sister from getting in trouble. If a 7 year old got raped by 7 or 8 boys. The girl would dead, she wouldn't be able to walk or would be bleeding. The fact they said the 15 year old would even 'sell her little sister" is poor journalism. This war on young black boys is fucking amazing. Get the whole fucking story first before you just jump on one side of the coin. I actually resent the fact you condemned these young teenage black boys so quickly. This whole incident wouldn't have happen if this fast ass little black girl wasn't "prostituting" herself at 15 years old. She admits this. Vigilant Season 2 is coming. I will get more into it. Sorry for the cursing but this is really crazy. I am gone! I have to go the gym because this story got me upset.

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  42.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    @Queen but you “claim” you don’t have a problem with black women yet you are about to blog about “false” accustations of rape by a seven year old although there were witnesses to this event. Dude you got some serious issues if you picking on a child.

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  43.   Bamabelle2000 says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    @Queen but you "claim" you don't have a problem with black women yet you are about to blog about "false" accustations of rape by a seven year old although there were witnesses to this event. Dude you got some serious issues if you picking on a child.

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  44.   Member says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    (Strange look at Friendly) What are you rambling about? I am single with no kids. I am not concerned about losing any black woman. I don't have anything prove at this point. I got a degree, work two jobs, and go to the gym. She better hope she don't lose me! Sorry, when the cards are "not in your favor". You can't tell a man nothing. The problem with black women they live in the "past". You are not as hot as you were in your "twenties". Plus, you have multiple kids. You are a middle-aged woman trying to make men believe the perception about "yourself". Let the white man show her with gifts that does not bother me. I haven't seen white men shower single black mothers with gifts. Obviously, you will disagree. Black men do that. Man, do no insult my intelligence again. You are talking to me like one of those "white trick" men that believe your sob story. I have never lost a black woman to a white man in my whole entire life. It is more like the "other way around". If a black woman told me she was with a white man, that is a wrap for me most of the time. It depends on the situation. I ain't Scoff, Sal, or Other brother. They might take you in but I won't. Man look for that VIGILANTE SEASON PART 2 I am doing the Oprah post soon. After that, I am doing false NJ Rape accusations by the 7 years old. I am tired of playing games with needy sellout black women. I am gone.

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  45.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    Mr. Laurelton Queens, I am glad you have learned to stop cutting and pasting. Or maybe you just didn't want to go back over the facts that you need to do your job better at home or face the possiblity of losing your companions intrest to a white man who will shower her with gifts and affection to steel her from you.

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  46.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    @Scoff/Sarah, So glad to see that you both are still around!! I thought you had forgotten about your friend's. Sarah, I do hope that your daughter is doing better, not just your daughter, but your entire family. I fondly think of you quite often. Are you still volunteering? It's important to give back, isn't it?? I know life get's busy but try and not stay away too long, okay.. Scoff, I do hope that you are still planning that menu(lol). I thought about you when I was at the Vietnam Memorial a few weeks ago. Keep on being good to each other! How many years has it been now?? Take care, and as always, it's a pleasure to hear from you both! love godiva

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  47.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    Seemed like you were criticizing. Well, you don't have to be a paying member to post.

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  48.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    I guess you can't be logged in when you post a different handle.

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  49.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    I kinda liked the Scoff and Sarah story. About finding love in taboo places and times. But I'll let them tell it. I just wanna know why my picture doens't show up anymore and why my comments are always 'awaiting moderation'. Probably because I changed my nickname and I post so much.

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  50.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 10

    PetiteChick, Just put in a different name in the 'nickname' field.

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