Menu

Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

Find your soulmate on LatinoLicious

Join Free

Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

Related Stories

More Opinion Articles

8093 responses to "Why white men love the black woman"

Leave a reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.

  1.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 09 Apr 10

    Gentlemen: Malarki, Tyrant, Minelik thank you for coming to my defense. It is greatly appreciated. The compliments are appreciated as well. I didn't come here seeking attention in that way. I came here cause I got tired of deleting flirts and emails.....Tried to Chat rooms once or twice too, but that wasn't for me. I frequent various forums a great deal. One of my favs is Black Voices. My local area forum, City-data, Open Congress, HuffPo and more....I like to know what folks are talking about around this country! LOL. Thanks again....

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  2.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 09 Apr 10

    Dear Sal person: In a practical sense if you are here for laughs and kicks, then that means you are not really interested in Black women or inter racial dating then are you? Are you? I know, I know.... 1. I don't care what kinds of names you call me. Trust, I lose no sleep over things like this. Your remarks about my looks won't have an adverse affect on me. If you thought so, you thought wrong. 2. I never said "ALL WHITE MEN" don't want to have anything to do with Black women the statement again goes as follows (read along with me now): THE VAST MAJORITY. If you don't understand what that means, I'll explain. It simply means MOST OF YOU. I ALSO STATED THAT I HOPE IT GETS BETTER, BUT the deck is stacked against Black women with White men and men in general. And we can't just come running to the White man to look to remedy our problems. You're not the be all to end all. There are other ethnicities as well. I stated that too, somewhere up there. 3. I thought this controversial discussion was about AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN? Where did the Caribbean and other ethnicities come into play? I personally was discussing what is going on here at home in Amerikka. 4. You appear to be the type that likes to hear what you want and dismiss the rest. Very telling.....I'll let you run with that cognitive dissonance you call "making sense." 5. What is your educational background? Do you hold a Master's Degree in International Finance like my ex? Do you hold a even a Bachelor's Degree in anything? Do you have children? If you do, did your son graduate with a 3.6 GPA from one of the country's top colleges? Mine will on May 14th. Are you in the midst of obtaining a Master of Science in Rehabilitative Counseling? I am.... 6. I have dated: Haitian men, African American Men, Puerto Rican men (several actually), White men and men from Africa (the motherland). Out of them all, the ones that treated me the best were the African American and Latino men. 7. If I attract what I am, then I'd like to know why someone such as myself with the educational and work background attracts so many white men on this very forum who have "some college" or high school? No lie. So that lil theory is moot. Men are visual and are attracted to what they see - not your friggin educational status. Women do more of that! More of your uninformed cognitive dissonance. 8. In a practical sense if you are here for laughs and kicks, then that means you are not really interested in Black women or inter racial dating then are you? Are you? It bears repeating: 8. In a practical sense if you are here for laughs and kicks, then that means you are not really interested in Black women or inter racial dating then are you? Are you? 9. It would behoove you, as an adult to read, learn up and observe. Get off this site and go to other places and read. There is a multitude of information to be found (some true and some of it false). 10. If the sisters that frequent this board want to hold you in high regard for looking out for your male peeps in the coochie department that's all good. I ain't mad at the sistah's. Never mad at them. I have a daughter and a mother who was Black. I am on their side. Trust. What they've read from you is a good taste of what White men really think of Black women and you have provided the fodder..... 11. I will stand by my statements. And I'm not concerned with YOUR opinion on it, nor do I care what you think of my looks, or anything else about me for that matter. Reason: You mean nothing more to me than the gum under my BOOTS, PUMPS, SNEAKERS AND STILETTOOOOOOOOOOO'S!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  3.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 09 Apr 10

    To all: Here are some insightful thoughts about the race relations between Black women and White men..... Take it for what's it worth. Note that people can say and do whatever they want when sitting behind a computer. There are no boundaries and, well they pretty much say what's on their heart. http://www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/728541-black-white-relationships.html READING IS FUNDAMENTAL.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  4.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Not so Petite: why you coming here to this space? Free membership? Looking for something? Entertainment. People like you are comedic. Not so petite: *snicerking* Keep on ‘snicerking’ Malarki: she could have been dating the “few” years since her divorce, Sal, and ‘hit on’ countless times during her marriage! I highly doubt that she just got out of a 20 year marriage at age 50 and dated a White guy. Hit on? All men hit on women. Or is she saying no Black men whistled at her. LOL No, I’ll pull a Queen here: Not so Petite, WHEN did you date White man? For how long? And what was his education level? Malarki: Petite NEVER claimed to be an expert on inter-racial dating. She did however suggest that 1) white men frequently ‘hit on’ her, and her Black female friends; and 2) that white men (for reasons she did not state) were not generally looking to marry Black women (and vice versa, I might add). Her exact words: The vast majority of you DO NOT WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH BLACK WOMEN unless it’s because you want a good lay. Her supposed sources: Her experience, her friends and her supposed White co-workers. Again, what is their background? Why is it that Afro-Latina and Afro-Caribbean women, who have the same phenotypes but different cultures have a lot higher rate of dating and marrying White men? Why is it that Afro-Surinamese women have a huge rate of dating White women in Holland? If it is a White man or Black woman thing, the trend should be at all classes, and global. But the fact is that in educated Black women, and foreign Afrodiasporic women, the trends to date outside the group are higher. Dossproving the asinine stereotype comments of not so Petite. And no I am not going to show respect for her because she is 50. She is younger than my sister. And if a older White tramp came to this board and made similar comments about most Black men I would make fun of her as well. Malarki: well, whatever it is they’re taking or eating, you wanna get it bottled/packaged and on sale, pronto because Ms Petite is, well, dick-stiffening lol Your lack of selectivity in women is no concern to me. If you are an elder who likes short generic faced stocky women, more power to you. I am more selective. What does my family eat, healthy Peruvian food. Go look up our foods online. Malarki: why, because she excludes (like most Black women) white men from her dating options? Like most women of any ethnicity actually. But she claims expertise on White men but has yet to show any of that expertise in actual experiential history. Just good ole hating. So I am returning the favor. Malarki: sounds like sour grapes to me. LOL. Sour about what? She is no where near my type. Malarki: classy Black women attract a whole different genre of man and tend to stick with one genre of men…Black men! Actually, they tend to go for educated men. Black or White. And the trend to open up to White men is opening up more and more each generation. Soon they will be no different than any other ethnicity. Tyrant: Salsassin, I can’t believe that you, of ALL PEOPLE, could be this ARROGANT. Have you lost your-groveling to the IR black woman-mind? Apparently you have, because from where I’m sitting PetiteChick is GORGEOUS. Again, if you are elder and find stocky short women as attractive, that is your choice. My style of women are quite different. h t t p : / / i151.photobucket. c o m /albums/s157/legeonas/Sample. j p g ?t=1270764951 You guys can share Not so Petite all you want. When I date petite the girls they have looked like this: h t t p : / / i151.photobucket. c o m /albums/s157/legeonas/Petite. j p g ?t=1270765604 DragQueen: There is something seriously wrong. You don’t have to agree with Petite chick. But I can’t help but think you wouldn’t address “other races of women” this way. I addressed an individual. And let us no be hypocritical. The way you address Bamachick constantly, is way worse than how I address Not so Petite. No, I am treating Not So Petite with no respect because she chooses to assume the worst in all White men. So I assume the worst in her.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  5.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Not so Petite: why you coming here to this space? Free membership? Looking for something? Entertainment. People like you are comedic. Not so petite: *snicerking* Keep on ‘snicerking’ Malarki: she could have been dating the “few” years since her divorce, Sal, and ‘hit on’ countless times during her marriage! I highly doubt that she just got out of a 20 year marriage at age 50 and dated a White guy. Hit on? All men hit on women. Or is she saying no Black men whistled at her. LOL No, I’ll pull a Queen here: Not so Petite, WHEN did you date White man? For how long? And what was his education level? Malarki: Petite NEVER claimed to be an expert on inter-racial dating. She did however suggest that 1) white men frequently ‘hit on’ her, and her Black female friends; and 2) that white men (for reasons she did not state) were not generally looking to marry Black women (and vice versa, I might add). Her exact words: The vast majority of you DO NOT WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH BLACK WOMEN unless it’s because you want a good lay. He supposed sources: Her experience, her friends and her supposed White co-workers. Again, what is their background? Why is it that Afro-Latina and Afro-Caribbean women, who have the same phenotypes but different cultures have a lot higher rate of dating and marrying White men? Why is it that Afro-Surinamese women have a huge rate of dating White women in Holland? If it is a White man or Black woman thing, the trend should be at all classes, and global. But the fact is that in educated Black women, and foreign Afrodiasporic women, the trends to date outside the group are higher. Dossproving the asinine stereotype comments of not so Petite. And no I am not going to show respect for her because she is 50. She is younger than my sister. And if a older White tramp came to this board and made similar comments about most Black men I would make fun of her as well. Malarki: well, whatever it is they’re taking or eating, you wanna get it bottled/packaged and on sale, pronto because Ms Petite is, well, dick-stiffening lol Your lack of selectivity in women is no concern to me. If you are an elder who likes short generic faced stocky women, more power to you. I am more selective. What does my family eat, healthy Peruvian food. Go look up our foods online. Malarki: why, because she excludes (like most Black women) white men from her dating options? Like most women of any ethnicity actually. But she claims expertise on White men but has yet to show any of that expertise in actual experiential history. Just good ole hating. So I am returning the favor. Malarki: sounds like sour grapes to me. LOL. Sour about what? She is no where near my type. Malarki: classy Black women attract a whole different genre of man and tend to stick with one genre of men…Black men! Actually, they tend to go for educated men. Black or White. And the trend to open up to White men is opening up more and more each generation. Soon they will be no different than any other ethnicity. Tyrant: Salsassin, I can’t believe that you, of ALL PEOPLE, could be this ARROGANT. Have you lost your-groveling to the IR black woman-mind? Apparently you have, because from where I’m sitting PetiteChick is GORGEOUS. Again, if you are elder and find stocky short women as attractive, that is your choice. My style of women are quite different. http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s157/legeonas/Sample.jpg?t=1270764951 You guys can share Not so Petite all you want. When I date petite the girls they have looked like this: http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s157/legeonas/Petite.jpg?t=1270765604 DragQueen: There is something seriously wrong. You don’t have to agree with Petite chick. But I can’t help but think you wouldn’t address “other races of women” this way. I addressed an individual. And let us no be hypocritical. The way you address Bamachick constantly, is way worse than how I address Not so Petite. No, I am treating Not So Petite with no respect because she chooses to assume the worst in all White men. So I assume the worst in her.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  6.   Member says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    (Drinking Gatorade) I kind of felt sorry for Sal after that comment he made. Comment by Salsassin on 8 April 2010: Only classless desperates and low class whites would be interested in you anyway. People attract their like. You might attract trailer trash, but no decent man. No wonder they just wanted to have sex with you over 25 years ago. Not even white men say some shit like this. You are considered a "minority". There is something seriously wrong. You don't have to agree with Petite chick. But I can't help but think you wouldn't address "other races of women" this way. I am not a fan of "trailer trash" but they are people too. Sounds like classicism to me. It reminds me of what happened in recess today with one of the kids. The teacher is "Italian". She is a nice lady. She told "Jordan" one of the third grade black girls in her class. Jordan "get out of the sun" you will get "darker". Apparently, she didn't realize what she was saying. I am dark skin myself. She is not the only one that says this. Plenty of black people do this and don't even realize it. I just realized " you are making her feel some type away about being dark skin". She didn't even blink or made a second thought to what she said. She is not racist or anything. She didn't realize what she said to the little black girl. Dark= not attractive, so be like the biracial black girls in class (who happen to be very popular). Sal just put his foot in his mouth that is all. No shame is saying " Yea I went overboard".

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  7.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Tyrant asks: Do we plan on sharing any of that MONEY with PetiteChick? Menelik replies: yep but I'm sharing PetiteChick lol Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  8.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Comment by Salsassin on 8 April 2010: Only classless desperates and low class whites would be interested in you anyway. People attract their like. You might attract trailer trash, but no decent man. No wonder they just wanted to have sex with you over 25 years ago. TYRANT: Salsassin, I can't believe that you, of ALL PEOPLE, could be this ARROGANT. Have you lost your-groveling to the IR black woman-mind? Apparently you have, because from where I'm sitting PetiteChick is GORGEOUS. Menelik replies: well, whatever it is they’re taking or eating, you wanna get it bottled/packaged and on sale, pronto because Ms Petite is, well, dick-stiffening lol TYRANT: Menelik, I want to start buying STOCK in the company now because when PetiteChick's product hits the stores we're going to be FITHY STINKIN RICH. Uh...Do we plan on sharing any of that MONEY with PetiteChick?

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  9.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Do you not think Queens is arrogant enough not to consider himself part of the "truth" squad and part of the media? Now that's laughable. He is been trying since I been on here claiming to want to sell books on the subject. I didn't say main stream media but I did say MEDIA which includes blogs and such as his and others who want to spread the myth that black woman have no chance with white men. now am I am lying? There are LOTS of white men who want black women now for what, who knows but that's their reasons. I choose to believe because they love us for who they are and prefer to be with us. Of course there will always be white men out there who want to experiement with sistas but that doesn't discount them ALL because of a few idiots out there. Hell I'm sure there are black men who do the same thing with white women. And as far as them have a problem marrying me, I'm sure there are but it doesn't mean I can't or won't find someone. For me, it's finding someone who suits me and my taste and not settling.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  10.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Bamababe said: I take back one thing and that’s the ALL comment but the implications have been by Queens...that MOST white men don’t want black women and that is a lie. Menelik replies: OK then, "most white men" do want Black women...but what on earth for, Bamababe, what on earth for? Bamababe said: Queens considers himself part of the media since he has a blog, and I have seen other Black male blogs like his - who have said the same thing. Menelik replies: wow, you are really struggling, aren't you? So Queens is part of the mainstream mass media keeping Black women in there so-called "place". He be mighty powerful that Mrs Queens! Bamababe said: stats I’ve seen about black women dating outside their race indicates that although most black women prefer to date and marry black men, a lot of us would not have a problem dating or marrying a white man. Menelik replies: but a lot of them might have a problem marrying you! Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  11.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Salsassin said: You (PetiteChick) were married to the same man for 20 years. You have been divorced for a few. That means you stopped dating hmmmm around 25 years ago. Menelik replied: she could have been dating the "few" years since her divorce, Sal, and 'hit on' countless times during her marriage! Salsassin said: WTF do you know about the interracial dating scene? NOTHING. Menelik replies: Petite NEVER claimed to be an expert on inter-racial dating. She did however suggest that 1) white men frequently 'hit on' her, and her Black female friends; and 2) that white men (for reasons she did not state) were not generally looking to marry Black women (and vice versa, I might add). Salsassin said: You are an old hag...living in the cave era. My dad looks better than you at 80. And my sister looks better than you at almost 60. Menelik replies: well, whatever it is they're taking or eating, you wanna get it bottled/packaged and on sale, pronto because Ms Petite is, well, dick-stiffening lol Salsassin said: I am well aware White men are not an option for you. That is why I know you are full of shyt and... just talking out your ass. Menelik replied: why, because she excludes (like most Black women) white men from her dating options? Salsassin said: Only classless desperate, and low class whites would be interested in you anyway. You might attract trailer trash, but no decent man. Menelik replies: sounds like sour grapes to me. Salsassin said: No wonder white men just wanted to have sex with you over 25 years ago. Menelik replies: yep, sour grapes lol Salsassin said: classy Black women attract a whole different genre of man. Menelik replies: and tend to stick with one genre of men...Black men! Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  12.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Salsa babe: why you coming here to this space? Free membership? Looking for something? ANSWER MY QUESTION PLEASE. *snicerking*

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  13.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Sal, sal, sal, sal. Look dude... You're reading too much into stuff you don't know jack about. Yanno? Here's the thing. I have dated White men before. I'm divorced how many years? Who told you? Idiot Savant. You have no clue about a thing concerning me. NO more than what's in my profile. Which ain't much to glean from. So...LIKE I SAID BASED ON MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCES, AND THAT OF FRIENDS AND WHITE MEN THEMSELVES (*think from the horse's mouth for a sec*) WHITE MENZ DON'T WANT BLACK WOMENZ on a grand scale. NOPE, NADA, ZILCH. Deal with that for me. And as far as I look, well that's relative you poker nosed face bastiiiddddddd. Did I hear Queen say you're Latino? You think you White. Well just cause your complexion is that of European man - if'n you ain't from Spain your arse ain't White fool. Dominican Republic, prolly not. Argentina? Bolivia? Peru? Don't know, don't care. None of the aforementioned is in Spain (which is in Europe) which if you ain't from - YOU AIN'T WHITE. Stupido....

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  14.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    I also think interracial dating is a generational thing. I bet if you did a survey of both blacks and whites who were born before 1965, you will probably see that a lot of people still would be against it because it's taboo and they would feel uncomfortable doing it. But if you took a survey of blacks and whites who were born in the 1970's and beyond, I bet the attitudes change because society has changed.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  15.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Ok I take back one thing and that's the ALL comment but the implications have been by Queens and others like him that MOST white men don't want black women and that is a lie. As I said the other day, if a black woman isn't with a white man it's because it's her choice not to be not that can't get a white man. Queens I think considers himself I'm sure put of the media since he has a blog and I have seen other blogs like his by other black men who have said the same thing. The stats I've seen about black women dating outside their race in the past indicates that although most black women prefer to date and marry black men, a lot of us would not have a problem dating or marrying a white man.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  16.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Bamababe said: The FACT of the matter is if a black woman isn’t with a white man, it’s probably because it’s her choice. Menelik replies: because most Black women have NO interest in white men, right? Bamababe said: Most people stay within their race to date and marry. Menelik replies: because most people have NO general interest in straying from their comfort zones, right? Bamababe said: To say in general white man have no interest at ALL in sistas is a LIE generated mainly by some black media outlets in my opinion to keep us in our place. Menelik replies: 1) who ever made the bizarre claim that white men have no interest whatsoever in Black women? 2) which Black media (names, articles and dates, please!) is spreading the "lie" to keep Black women in their "place"? I await your considered answers. Thanks Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  17.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Sorry bub, Petite is not just short Petite is small in all directions. And as you like stereotyping, don’t complain about it coming back at ya. You were married to the same man for 20 years. You have been divorced for a few. That means you stopped dating hmmmm around 25 years ago. WTF do you know about the interracial dating scene? NOTHING. You are an old hag who like Boots is living in the cave era. My dad looks better than you at 80. And my sister looks better than you at almost 60. I am well aware White men are not an option for you. That is why I know you are full of shyt and have no experience in that arena, just talking out your ass. Only classless desperates and low class whites would be interested in you anyway. People attract their like. You might attract trailer trash, but no decent man. No wonder they just wanted to have sex with you over 25 years ago. But classy Black women attract a whole different genre of man. Right back at ya.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  18.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    @PetiteChick, I'm from overseas but I'm NOT flirting just stating my personal opinion. However, if you should ever set foot in London England then I would....yes I would lol Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  19.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    The fact of the matter is if a black woman isn't with a white man, it's probably because it's her choice. Most people stay within their race to date and marry, but to say in general white man have no interest at ALL in sistas is a LIE generated mainly by some black media outlets in my opinion to keep us in our place. If we as black women believe there is no one out there for us other then black men,most of us won't even try to date outside our race because we believe in those myths. Are white men perfect? Hell no but most men in general aren't. If you believe as a woman that any man will save you regredless of race, you are lost anyway.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    (Damn) "Picking up Sal's face and giving it back to him" Jesus, I have never seen a black woman straight smack the Latino Mail boy like that! Like Flavor Flav said "WOW". I knew there was "something" funny about that guy. He claims he is a Lawyer. Why are you here? I figure you can get you a nice black woman to settle down with. Petite chick looks better than most of the black women worshiping a white guy. Obviously, she gains nothing from telling the truth. I just don't understand why some black women are afraid of the truth. Again, where are the white men encouraging "other white men" to be with black women. Sal doesn't even do it. He defends black women and turns around and "disses them". This leads me to believe there is something "deep" concerning him and black women. He straight "went off". He is in the Military so go figure, No wonder black women shy away from "military men". These non black men like to talk about black men. They straight LASH OUT when a black woman "rejects" them. They pull a "Sal" for real. (Laughing). Sellout black women have told me this happens concerning non black men. I guess they are willing to take that "on'. LOL Black men may get upset over a relationship ending. But these non black men literally want a black woman to suffer, end her career in the workplace, and just in general make her life miserable. You cowards are sick! Hey London.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  21.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Thank you for the compliment Mr. Malarki, I didn't see that.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  22.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Oooops, I'm gonna have to stay is Sal's shyt for a min.... Whilst you were checking my profile did you notice that White men are not an option for me? Hmmm, but then again men don't read and they'r still flirting. Even from overseas for all sorts of nasty shyt. Get outta here!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  23.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    @ PetiteCheck, why respond to a negative when on the 7th April (scroll upwards) I said you look damned cute, foxy, sexy...whooosh! I'm well 'n' truly taken but, boy, I'd break the law for you lol Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  24.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Mr. Malarki is right!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  25.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    PetiteChick said: THE POINT I AM TRYING TO MAKE is don’t be so delusional about this so called vast majority of White men wanting Black women. THEY ARE FEW AND FAR BETWEEN FOR THE ONES SEEKING a long-term stable relationship with a BLACK WOMAN. Menelik replies: I think the general statistics will strongly support this assertion. PetiteChick said: You'll have a sprinkling of White men who don’t care, and want what they want. But not in America. Any woman outside of a White man’s race is most often out of curiosity. Menelik replies: I don't think white men marry Asian or Eastern-European women out of curiosity. I mean, how often is a white male seen as a creep (or desperate) for associating with Asian or Easter-European women? How did such couples hook up? Over the internet, via a catalog? Questions, questions! PetiteChick said: There was a time White men didn’t like our look... So, what has changed? Methinks its the desperation that is seeping in the air for Black women to have a man. Menelik replies: and this IS a point very rarely made in the present climate; that it is not so much white men rejecting Black women but Black women not being particularly interested in white men...until desperation crept in or rejection from their own menfolk. Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  26.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Mr. Sal whatever..... While you were so busy checking out MY profile, lemme ask you sumthin..... Why are YOU here? You wish you could look as good at fifty. Black don't crack!!!!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  27.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Dear Mr. Laurelton: Thank you. It is what it is. I don't know why this is so complicated or why it's such a big deal actually. It's the TRUTH. I never said anywhere that some White men aren't attracted to Black women, there are some. But we can't look to hollyweird for that representation. Or movies that star Sanaa Latham as a testament to this. Puhhleeeease, now. Yes, there are some. BUT THEY ARE NOT IN THE NUMBERS, the sisters want to believe. That's all I'm say'n. That's all...

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  28.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Mr. Sal: Thanks for attacking my appearance. Methinks if you had any smarts that you would recognize that a person can be deemed petite based on their stature. I am barely 5'0 tall. Thank you. If you are trying to infer that I am "fat" well, tell ya what...LOT'S OF your kind like it. I am not fat however. I'll admit I go through the monthly woman bloating issue (if you have ever in your life had a woman you'd know this too), but I digress. I have been married - did that. Was with the SAME BLACK MAN for 20 years. Have grown children by him. Me not looking to marry up. I realize some Black women have never been married and statistics show that we are the least likely to marry and the marriage rate for us is dismal at best. But doesn't apply to me. Thanks for your unproductive comments. I GOT YOUR NUMBER. You and the rest of your White male buddies. Eat on that a while, see how ya like it.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  29.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    LOL @ PetiteChick, who aint so petite. 50 and still searching online? Naw just cause you had bad experiences doesn't make you an expert on all White men. The happily married ones posting on here seem to beg to differ. You are talking like the White men only want one thing, but it seems no man has put the the ring on you yet.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  30.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Most white men don't want, date or marry Black, Asian or Hispanic women for the same reason Black don't want, date or marry these women. They prefer their own! The problem with certain types of black women (as with men) is that Black men don't want them as girlfriends or wives because they are, quite frankly, unsuitable for these positions. The reasons are varied; some relate to looks; others to attitude. Whatever, they are simple not considered a catch amongst their own kind. Is it not also true among certain types of white women (their weight & appearance being the issues) who are often seen with Black men? Hmmmmm Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  31.   Member says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Dear Petite I totally agree with you. By the way, you are not in the minority. It is rare to find black women who "actually" tell the real deal about interracial relationships. Quite often, black women "cover" for white men when they feel a little bit "used". Just because a white guy is nice to you. Does not mean he wants a serious relationship or even marriage. The argument is always going to be "well black men do it too". That very well "maybe". However, we are talking about white men. Petite is the only black woman I have talked to who was "bold" enough to say what it is. They can't say she never dealt with white men before. I figure there is a silent frustration concerning some black women and white men. These black women bloggers continue to worship white men on their blogs. If the relationship does not work out with a white guy. Well, blame the black woman for that. That is the basic theme of their blogs.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  32.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    To the White Men posting here: The vast majority of you DO NOT WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH BLACK WOMEN unless it's because you want a good lay. I speak from personal experience, from the experiences of other Black women I know who have gone that route, what has been said to me by male co-workers (White) and one gentleman I had been speaking to who didn't enlightened me but affirmed what I had already suspected. Finally, it's a no brainer that African American women are always the last on somebody's list. No White man or any other ethnic group will hold a Black woman his own. Not a nary one. And it's the "global view" of African Americans in general. Of course, you "like" Black women who choose to date you. Why wouldn't you? It means you might get laid. Can anybody doing all this yapping about Black women's option to date White men explain just one lil ol fact for me? WHY IS IT SO MUCH MORE PREVALENT TO SEE BM/WF COUPLINGS THAN IT IS TO SEE, BW/WM COUPLINGS FOR RELATIONSHIP PURPOSES? Don't come back with unproven, unscientific talk about Black women holding out for Black men. NOT.... Simply because there are so many other ethnicities Black women can date, just like the Black man does. Of course it's a Black woman's prerogative to date who da hell she wants. That's not the point I'm trying to make. The point I'm trying to make is don't be so delusional about this so called vast majority of White men wanting Black women. THEY ARE FEW AND FAR IN BETWEEN FOR THE ONES SEEKING a long term stable relationship with a BLACK WOMAN. You will have a sprinkling of some White men who don't care and want what they want. But not here in America. A Black woman or any woman outside of a White man's race is most often (not all the time) out of curiosity. Based on their perception of us being sexually aggressive = good lovers. There was a time White men didn't like our look, our nice rounded bottoms and hips and preferred the euro-centric figures of their own women. So, what has changed? Well, methinks its the desperation that is seeping in the air for Black women to have a man. It dayum sure ain't Obama! Maybe that will change one day. Hopefully it will, but until then - take it for what it's worth.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  33.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Dear Mr. Viking: Many Black women (including myself) are not falling for the great White Hope solution. Soorrreeeee....

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  34.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    @ BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS, darling, the question was as follows: where did you grow up, and how would you describe your background? If you answer (honestly) thank you,; if not then no problem, babes. Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  35.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    HEY BIG EYES.... GURRRRRR! HOW ARE YOU? I HAVEN'T BEEN ON HERE IN AWHILE... I STOP IN AND OUT TO SEE HAVE LAURELTON GREW UP YET... (LOL...AND KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED MISTER) MISS JARITTA HOTSAUCE (TATTED) WHERE IS SHE?

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  36.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    LOL....SALSASSIN..... LAURELTON... WHY WOULD YOU THINK STRIPPER? BECAUSE SHE IS BLACK? DON'T WHITE WOMEN STRIP? DON'T HISPANIC WOMEN STRIP? WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU? I HAVE A FRIEND AND SHE MAKES WELL OVER $100,000 A YEAR... AND HER HUSBAND IS A MAILMAN.... THEY ARE THE HAPPIEST BLACK COUPLE...I'VE EVER SEEN! THEY ARE BOTH MATURE... THEY BOTH REALIZE.. THEY ARE ONE!!!! A TEAM!!! NOT LIL YOU AND BIG ME.... A TEAM! AND THAT IS WHY THEY ARE HAPPY AND THE HAVE CONTINUED TO GROW EVEN MORE....

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  37.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    PLEASE BREAK THAT QUESTION DOWN TO ME.... WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, MALARKI???? IN THE REAL WORLD AND YOU?

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  38.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Queen is still fantasizing about other people's lives because he has non e of his own. LOL

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  39.   Member says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    (Dancing salsa) Sal aka Carlito. Carlito's Way is one of my favorite movies. Still lying to his Latina fiancée about being with black women. Anyway, what's up Boots. I don't advocate for black women to lower their standards when it comes to dating. I think some people in the media actually push black women to date "bums". However, if a man has a job and works hard. There is nothing wrong with black women dating him. White women will date the sanitation worker, construction worker, or the maintenance man. It is the entitlement by some professional black woman that make men say "this is just not worth it". Other races of women do the same thing, in particular, white women. However, black women have to be aware of their reputation. Men will believe some stereotypes before understanding the "real woman". If I see a black woman with a nice body, I do not say to myself wow she went to college and got a biology degree. I might think, she got a man. I might think she a stripper. Some suspect things goes through my head. When I see a Muslim black woman. My thoughts are the reverse. It is the impression men get from women. If you are spilling out of your clothes like a "Latina", we are going to think a certain way about you. No offense to Sal's Latina Wife. Good day.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  40.   Wow! says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    I came across this bord by chance, and I have to say it's really disturbing to see black women trying to validate themselves, and black men berating the women. Connotative and all.Oh, but that's not unusual. Neither side is budging and yet you continue argue. It's really pathetic. Nor is it progressive. Wasted time.I'm sure there are not many sucessful relationships going here. I wonder why that is. Black woman married to a black man for 15 years ALL of them happy!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  41.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Hello Ms Godiva! Hi Beauty!Queens and my main man boots is BACK!I could neve say I'm not attracted to black men...that is genectically impossible. There are no species that cannot be attracted to it's own. I just think that being the more highly evolved species we can forego our instincts and make CHOICES and excercise variety in the mates we choose. It is part of what separates us from lower life forms. @Boots I can somewhat follow your logic when you try to connect IR dating attraction to economics and the imbalance of economic power not afforded black men, but how can you explain that most black women, myself included have their OWN money? I am not trying to equate a woman being educated as being great at relationships or money equaling happiness but I can't see the MAJORITY of black women dating interracially as largely economic. Most black women are educated and financially stable. Anyways, always to hear from you on this blog and the points you make.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  42.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Boots said: Menelik, I want to thank you 4 your March 26 response on the (psych) confusion that some blk women have on this race issue ,it was deep. Menelik replied: my pleasure, sista friend. It is, however, that one was compelled to put forth such info in the heat of battle. Ideally it shouldn't be used as a means to score points but merely to enlighten those who wilfully or otherwise, walk in darkness. Peace. Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  43.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    LOL, considering I have dated Black women when I have been dead broke, I doubt it was my money that made me appealing. Of course being Latino in ethnicity and being a Latin dancer never hurts. But I still look like any White guy. Naw, I think White guys that date Black women, first and foremost, have to overcome the "white man as clueless of other peoples culture" stereotype.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  44.   boots says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    Greetings to all...been off the site 4 a while, had to speed read to catch up ,nice to hear from new voices,Queens still in the battle......Menelik Charles, I want to thank you 4 your March 26 response on the (psych) confusion that some blk women have on this race issue ,it was deep.I love reading all you guys ICH ,TYRANT,godiva Tatt,bigeyes.....and even SAL....lol.. Its my opinion that the whole IR dating issue is more an economic issue than a love,sex, physical attraction issue.Iam sure Bill Gates and Donald Trump look a lot more attractive than what they really are because of their money(power)....Black men have been denied any real power in this country be it political, economic etc..White western culture being so materialistic and shallow has bred a destructive mind set which we have fallen into, head long .To the point where we hear asinine statements coming from blk females like " I only date white men"..."Iam not attracted to blk men" May the good Lord help us, I dont think he ever intended that we hate our own race.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  45.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    @ BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS darling, where did you grow up, and how would you describe your background? If you answer (honestly) thank you,; if not then no problem, babes. Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  46.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    JUST LOOKING BACK.... WE AS BLACK PEOPLE HAVE ALWAYS BEEN "UNWANTED" BY THE WORLD. WE'VE COME A LONG WAY. BUT IT WAS ONLY BY GOD'S GRACE AND MERCY.... AND IF HE COULD BRING A WHOLE RACE OUT.... SURELY, HE WILL BRING US (BLACK WOMEN) OUT.... WE WERE BEATEN... ABUSED..RAPED... YOU NAME IT... IT HAPPENED. TO THE WORLD...WE WERE NOTHING! AND SOMETIMES... IT STILL LOOKS THAT WAY.... BUT..GOD! WE PRAYED FOR INTEGRATION.. WE GOT IT. WE PRAYED TO HAVE RIGHTS... WE GOT THAT... WE PRAYED TO BE TREATED FAIRLY... IT'S A LITTLE BETTER... MY POINT IS.... WE ARE WALKING IN THE ANSWERED PRAYERS OF OUR FOREFATHERS.... WHAT'S THE PROBLEM? WE ARE THE SAME, RIGHT? WHAT'S THE FUSS? IF I LIKE A WHITE MAN...SO WHAT? HE'S A HUMAN.... HE HAS A HEART...

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  47.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    IF WE HAVE RUN OUT OF OPTIONS, BECAUSE ALL THE BLACK MEN HAVE LEFT US... AND THEY ARE WITH THE WHITE WOMEN... WHITE MEN HAVE (THEN) RUN OUT OF OPTIONS, AS WELL.....BECAUSE THE WHITE WOMEN HAVE LEFT THEM.... SO... HMMMMMMM..... I HAVE OPTIONS, NOW!!!!!!! WHITE MEN, RIGHT? LOL...LOL.... WHAT THE FUSS, THEN? BLACK MEN DON'T WANT US, CUZ WE ARE SO BAD.... THEN, WHAT SHOULD WE DO - MR. LAURELTON? IN ORDER TO AVOID.. BEING SELLOUTZ..WHAT IS THE SOLUTION TO THE PROBLEM????? SINCE WE ARE SO MESSED UP AND UNWANTED BY THE WORLD?

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  48.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 10

    SAYS WHO... MR. LAURELTON???? LOL.... YOU???? LOL.... I THINK... I'LL GET A 2ND OPPINION (FORGOT HOW TO SPELL THAT... IS THAT RIGHT? LOL...LOL...)

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  49.   Malarki5 says:
    Posted: 07 Apr 10

    PetiteChick looks real, damned cute! Had to say, sista! Menelik Charles London England

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  50.   Member says:
    Posted: 07 Apr 10

    Dear Nomad I would have to disagree. What influence do you mention? Who is influencing white men to be with black women? The reason I ask this question is because sellout black women are in the media complaining about not having a date. The conversation always seem to make a left turn concerning dating white men. As if they "assume" white men will be with them because they ran out of options. I would like to see a panel of white men talk about black women on television. I doubt that will happen. Simply for this reason, they afraid to tell people some the negative things that turn them off from black women. That is why this board is filled with 99 percent of " oh I love black women and etc". The few white men that had valid frustrations concerning dating black women were "run" off the board. I am pretty sure there are more white men that have "pet peeves" about black women. To bad they are emasculated to the point that they pee sitting down. My stance on it. It would be better if black women didn't just focus on white men. Even, if they want a white man. Men run away from desperate women. They may have sex with you but they run after awhile. Some black women are increasingly becoming "needy" and "desperate". One particular guy on the board takes care of his kid and his black wife's kids. He carries everything financially. He wants to argue the point that is what a man is "supposed to". Yea, that is my "father's" way of thinking. It is one thing to take care of your wife. It is another thing when your wife "is lazy and has no ambition". Good day.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment

Opinion

Find your soulmate on LatinoLicious

Join Free

Coaching Testimonial

"The Coaching Service served as an incredible perk and has really enhanced my online dating experience"

Submitted by: Karen, USA, 34

My Dating Coach really took the time to go through my profile thoroughly. First she viewed my pictures and gave me great feedback.

She read through the written portion of my profile, line by line, and gave direct feedback on how to add my personality to it.

My amazing consultant, even asked how my contacts where going and offered a few suggestions to increase my interactions with new men.

I took her advice and made the suggested adjustments.

I have received more contact from men, more views, and have started communicating with more people which was the whole point of joining the site in the first place.

The Coaching Service served as an incredible perk and has really enhanced my online dating experience. Thanks!

Find out more

Most Popular

Your Comments