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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Sal I do not agree with your numbers, where did you get them? Those numbers are interesting and go against all the research I have done.

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  2.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Queens See you caught up again lying, again you said you wanted a domestic woman, now that the arguement is thrown in your face you do not want one. Your pretty pathetic blaming the black wome out there for your problems. Did you get called a DUM DUM? what was that about see I do not think your dumb. Dumb and ignorant are two different things. You need a lesson or two in reality, You can not hold down a relationship and you do not know why, it is slapping you in the face, open your eyes, I do not know If I agree with Sals numbers either, I will have to do some research, but he is plummiting you it is like a 15 round boxing match, since you like boxing so much. it is like unanamous 10-0 sal going into the 11th round. It seems more and more you can dish it out but you can not take it. Stop Whinning, your arguements are baseless. You feel lonely you get some wth just a few phone calls, why do you need a few, If you had an A game you would only need one call, Who needs somebody, if you feel lonely you make a call, your pathetic, the black women is good enough for some sex but nothing else? Your the sell out, You have sold yourself out, the sad part is you do not even realize it. I am pretty sure if I was a sell out loike you I would have the same problems you have.

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  3.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    You can't measure someone's heart and feelings by numbers. There are a lot of people who would love to date outside their race, but the opportunity doesn't present itself or they are afraid. Stats can't measure that.

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  4.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    LOL If statistics didn't matter, economist would be out of a job.

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  5.   whitey says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    ok im a white guy who is crazy about a black woman, who i met at church. we are great friends, and we are going from there, too me it is not a erotic or what ever some have said on here, White women or Black women, core adventure of soul is just that, CHrist designed all humans, simply put, so who am i to say Color is for my mate, the Lord will run that show. amen. personally i pray about it, the Lords will be done, i really like this woman, she is something sweet to me, but i am not in life to please man kind opinions i am in life to live solid before the Lord of host and to bless his name, CHRIST JESUS, and if it so happens i marry her, then more power from the throne of Grace on US. as one. man kind has to label something to provide to oneself the lordship of self vanity, if it is a black man and white woman, white cowards throw a fit. Black woman white man, black women throw a fit. listen up. take it up with the Lord of host. see how far you get with this sissy mind set, if Jesus died for all , then why cant one Love the other and die for her as the Lord died for me. color is not a stoppage point, it is a place of freedom and wisdom that booth parties bring to the table. anyone who has the problem of color marriage has a problem with life period. who is running the show, if you didnt die for me, then its on your judgement, personally i am pressing forward to see where this is going to go cause she is special to me. im blessed, i know it, blessing to everyone who lives their passion, live on. whitey

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  6.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    There lies, damn lies and statiscs. I just don't think it matters.

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  7.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Marrieges are important because they factor out casual dating vs confirmed commitment. White female-Black male unions are more prone to result in a divorce than White-White marriages are, while Black female-White male marriages show similar rates of divorce to White-White marriages. "But Will It Last?": Marital Instability among Interracial and Same-Race Couples, Bratter, Jenifer L.; King, Rosalind B., Family Relations, v57 n2 p160-171 Apr 2008

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  8.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    I have a question for both of you: Why does it matter? We already know that more black men marry white women and less black women marry white men. I think a lot of that is because most sistas prefer black men. I know the numbers are lower here in the South but I bet you in cities like New York and Chicago, the numbers are higher. So take that into account. Also,the census doesn't take into account the number of interracial couples dating or living together, so I think the numbers can be questioned on both sides of this arguement.

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  9.   e-dub says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    A big old dick---swinging contest going on around here— pathetic. Tatted thanks for the Metallica suggestion—Metallica and Linkin Park sounds perfect tonight--Black ablum one of the ablums ever

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  10.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    "Particularly in the black church, women often outnumber men as many as 10-1." That speaks to the religious level of BW over BM, not statistics of the population. LOL

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  11.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    LOL. You still don't get the idea of an example. I guess your simple mind can only use real numbers. OK real numbers. Black husband/White wife: 1960:25,000(49.6%), 1970:41,000(63.6%), 1980:94,000(77.4%), 1991:156,000(67.5%) White husband/Black wife: 1960:26,000(50.4%), 1970:24,000(36.4%), 1980:27,000(22.6%), 1991:75,000(32.5%)

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  12.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Oh yea I got more "Cynthia Feliciano and Belinda Robnett collected data from Yahoo personals between September 2004 and May 2005, randomly selecting profiles of people ages 18-50 in the Los Angeles, New York, Chicago and Atlanta metropolitan regions. While white men were more open to dating outside their race than white women, both had specific racial preferences. White men preferred Asian and Latino dating partners to African Americans; white women were more likely to exclude Asian men. In comparison, the image of the strong African American woman is at odds with idealized notions of submissive and frail women. This may explain why African American women faced high levels of rejection among men, researchers say." God damn Asian and Latin women spanking black women. Explain this "Latino Mail". (Throwing hands up) Jesus Christ "high levels of rejection". (Throwing hands up again) I am tired of beating on you like Floyd Mayweather did to Marquez. You was better off "making up numbers". If 43 BW dating 43 WM. Stop that bullshit! You can "google" everything else but you making up numbers. (Throwing hands up). (Closing door and leaving)

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  13.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    I am wrong now. "These statistics, derived from U.S. Census Bureau calculations, are daily impacting the love lives of black women across the country. Particularly in the black church, women often outnumber men as many as 10-1. And on holidays such as Valentine's Day, Feb. 14, the impact is exaggerated as black women without soul mates feel robbed of romance by social conditions beyond their control." This is just in the "church" alone. 10 to 1 god damn man! What are you suffering post traumatic stress? You won’t really find dating percentages considering its hard to poll. But marriage statistics showed that of the marriages in America in 2005, a little over 7% were interracial. That is every combination(except white-white, black -black, etc). Lets say that African Americans made up a 3rd of that 7%. That makes it 2.5% were dating/marrying inter-racially. Out of the 13 million African Americans in the U.S then. Only 260,000 are dating inter-racially. This is all guess work though, so don’t take it as a fact. Something, I did want to talk about is a study made on an online dating site. Pretty much, the study showed that in a group of men and women of different races but similar levels of attractiveness, white men were the most likely to get replies if they requested a conversation, black women, on the other hand, were the LEAST likely to get replies if they tried to start a conversation. Wrong how?

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  14.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Oh your stats for BW vs BM are wrong as well. There is 1.1 BW for every BM. 16,465,185 BM 18,193,005 BW

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  15.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Oh your stats for BW vs BM are wrong as well. There is 1.1 BW for ever BM. 16,465,185 BM 18,193,005 BW

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  16.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Dear Sal You said this............. "We already addressed why White men tend to prefer other women. Accessibility of the culture. No problem with that in Europe. Your stupidity is showing once again." Oh, we addressed why white men 'tend to prefer" OTHER women. Nice of you to admit that. LOL You also said this.............. "54 BW date WM, 46 BM date WW. BW represent 54% of the interracial dating. 54 BW date WM, 146BM date WW. Now Black women only represent 27% of the interracial dating. Yet BW numbers didn’t change." Interesting "made up numbers. Now why hasn't black women's numbers changed? (Insert excuse here) Obviously, you must know the answer. I am not talking about Europe. I am talking about "here" in the United States. My hothead Latino friend You just hung "yourself" with "made up numbers". Did they order a "code red" on you in the military? They beat you one to many times with bar soap. LOL

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  17.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    We already addressed why White men tend to prefer other women. Accessibility of the culture. No problem with that in Europe. Your stupidity is showing once again. Let me give you a basic lesson in percentages. 54 BW date WM, 46 BM date WW. BW represent 54% of the interracial dating. 54 BW date WM, 146BM date WW. Now Black women only represent 27% of the interracial dating. Yet BW numbers didn't change. And you are an auditor?

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  18.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    (Listening) So if black men date outside their race almost "three times more than black women", the percentage decreases for black women. Explain to me how does that happens? Oh you left out, there is about three black women for 1 black man. Oh yea, you left out the fact that white men rather pick white women, Asian women, Latin women, before a black woman. You said this.................... "In 1960 there where more Black women marrying White men than there were Black men marrying White women." Okay, why is that not the case NOW? You must have been beaten with soap like Santiago" in the movie a "Few Good Men" with Tom Cruise. You got brain damage. You must have post traumatic stress from being in the Military to long. You have a nice day.

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  19.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    No dumdum, If one gender dates the same amount, but the other dates more than the last time, the percentage of the first group will still decrease because it is a percentage of the whole.

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Dear Sal I never served you got me on that. I always respect the military even though you are "personally" a prick. Most of my friends are in the military. I don't have a sisters. But coming from you ( a military guy) does not surprise me. I use to hear black women say we don't fuck with Military guys they are "crazy". As my down south "female friend" use to say. You made the comparison of black women being with white men in 1960. I asked you how come it decreased all the way to 2010. You said "we went overboard" dating outside our race skewing the proportions. (Strange look) I don't know if that was an answer or an excuse. Basically you lost me. Essentially, it is the "wicked black man" that made white men stop marrying black women over the years. It seems to come back to that. You have a nice day.

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  21.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    LOL. Nice try. Let me know when you actually serve in the military. Then go calling people internet warriors. Like I said, We don't shine our boots anymore. But if you have a hot sister, let me know. Dismally low in 2010? Not at all. It just means you guys went way overboard dating outside skewing the proportions.

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  22.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    You internet warrior. Come make me "shine your shoes". I won't let you take me down. LOL So what does that mean more black women were marrying white man in the 1960s? Why is it dismally low in 2010 or gradually decreased over the years? "Indoctrination right"????

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  23.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    Interesting statistics: http://www.census.gov/population/socdemo/race/interractab1.txt In 1960 there where more Black women marrying White men than there were Black men marrying White women.

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  24.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    LOL. I train in combatives. We have seen how well boxers do in a fight when they get taken down. LOL

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  25.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    Dear Big Eyes I am happy for you. Sal would beat me up. Nobody is scared of you. I don't propose to say I can beat anybody. But I train like a boxer. Just know that you will get "hit back' HARD. LOL You have a nice day.

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  26.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    LOL. Big Eyes is everybody's cheerleader. Happy spirit.

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  27.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    @BE of course I'll pray for you girl. :) Good luck and keep me posted. I love happy endings.

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  28.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    @Bama You are still making your points loud and clear,lol.True Capricorn til the end,lol. Go head. Well, pray for me and my new found relationship,please. Ms. godiva also please pray for me. Thank you Ladies. Peace and Love(now)to all and I didn't even have to "tattoo" my body to find it,LMAO.

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  29.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    @Mr. L Queens Man, you still holding your own in here,LOL. I applaud that. I love a good "back and forth". I have been away from the place for a minute because I have met someone here in Houston, originally from Morocco, and we are busy learning about each other and what not,lol. He is not black but he is from Africa, does that count?LOL. Just kidding. I can't stay away from this place because I just have to keep up with your responses. You are just charismatic,lol. Fight On. Peace

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  30.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    what's insulting about this is the notion that no one wants black women but black men which is a lie. what's hurt us as sistas is sometimes we are too damn loyal which hurts us in the dating pool.what's good for the goose should be good for the gander.

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  31.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    LOL. Nice try at generalizing. Some are, some aren't. Sorry bub, Black males do not intimidate me. If you were in my girlfriend's family there would be nothing you could do about it. And if you tried I would just beat the crap out of you and ban you from our house. With the approval of my partner. Sorry bub, not an immigration or personal injury lawyer. My career is strictly military. Try again.

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  32.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    LOL Who says black men are not "friendly"? There you go talking about black males allegedly "intimidating you". I don't mind being despised. I just won't allow you using black women. Especially by no immigrant/ambulance chasing lawyer. You have a nice day.

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  33.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    Well, all I know is there is one pesky black "Duck" that has ALREADY been in the face of this blog for longer that I care to remember...LOL. LMAO@ "I don't play those games"......"Master of Puppets, pulling your string".......yeah yeah yeah(deny, deny, deny....lol) But you are admittedly "nicer" to your "fans", those that you "like" here and those that "swing from your root" (oh how "CRASS" of me...LOL).......PFFT. Hang on tight dear ones....soon you will be "twisting, turning through the never"...(sorry, listening to Metallica at the moment...LOL......oh because I have been a serious fan of their's SINCE I WAS 10...NOT BECAUSE I AM TRYING TO BE "DIFFERENT">>>LOL....wow, I love killing "noise" before it's even thought of/made). Glad to see you are still hanging in there, Salassin....KEEP IT UP!!! Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  34.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    LOL. Again, you always try to make it about you. You must have impotence issues. White people, or any other people who date outside their ethnicity, or shooot really anyone that dates and encounters the partner's family will enjoy the company of those who are friendly and despise those who are antagonistic. No one is against Black males. But Black males that show themselves as assholes toward the relationship will be despised. This is no different than assholish females who are antagonistic towards the relationship. The same goes for the White side of the family.

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  35.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    Dear Sal Their mothers, sisters and aunts were indoctrinating them about what? Even if it was Patriarchal mentalities was the case. That is not the "parents fault". You fail to mention racism too. I do recall white men call black women niggers, sheboons, and etc. It wasn't really long ago either. I don't know what indoctrination you are mentioning. The defensive mechanism black people use is a valid point. However, white people use defense mechanisms too. Just because you like a black woman does not mean you like her black brother or father. I tend to think white men would like a black woman to excommunicate her "black male" family members. I can understand why they use terms like "indoctrination" and etc. To try to make it seem like "black men is the problem". If only the "pesky black men" would disappear life would be so easy for me. Fuck you, I plan to be in your face for a long time. You have a nice day.

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  36.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    LOL. You always think it is about Black men. No it has to do with the culture per se. Women where not fully aware of their choices because of the culture. Their mothers, sisters, aunts and friends where indocrinating them with those beliefs since childhood as well. It's quite simple. We have lived for millenia with patriarchal mentalities where we have seen women as property, the weaker sex, etc. The mentality has always been that when a woman is with a man from another culture, she has been taken by that man. But when a man does it, he has taken that woman into his culture. This has been like that from time immemorial. But because of Jim Crow, Black women and Black men have had the mentality survive with much more strength as a defense mechanism.

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  37.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    Now, that is funny Black women "didn't realize" they could date outside their race. That is a convenient excuse. It kind of reminds of the argument that the "big bad evil black man" brainwashed black women into sticking with us. It is not about black women "willing to date outside their race". It is about "other races of men" willing to date them seriously. Especially, white men doing so. I live in the real world not "the fantasy land" of internet blogging. I got nothing against Other Brother. He is like the "piggy bank" of the family with his black wife. Not even Sal is the "piggy bank" for sellout black women.Although, he has "multiple" black women that is "hiding". Remember this guy is a Lawyer. He can play word "games" with sellout black women. But he does not fool me. However, you have to respect the way "they play the game". I am just brutally honest to point that the perception is I don't care about black women. I am pretty sure if I was "nicer like Sal and Otherbrother". I could manipulate black women. But I don't play those games. Good day.

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  38.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    By the way, I am not criticizing all people who marry their first choices, but it isn't always the first choice that is the best choice. If that were so, there wouldn't be any divorces.

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  39.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    LOL. If all people married what was their first choice, before they explored the world, their choices would really suck. No, that is not selling out. That is pure stupidity. It is called personal growth in perception. Many Black women never realized they had the option to choose outside the Black community in the first place. It's funny how Black women who live in much more integrated communities, such as that of the army, have a much higher incidence of choosing inside or outside the Black community for their "First Choice". I guess those that choose to get a better job are "selling out" to their first job which was probably the only choice they had at the time.

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  40.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Mar 10

    Dear Other Brother I am not flirting with other women while I am married. So who is really insecure? I do agree with you concerning the value of "housework and kids". As for black women dating white men, you are wrong on that. Where do you get black men being with white women is "decreasing"? Only 4 percent of black women are married to white men. If it was happening at a rapid rate like "you said", where are all the blogs worshiping black women like the sellout black women do to "white men"? I can even mention the discrepancy in online dating for sellout black women. They say white men pick white women, Asian women and Latin women. Black women is dead last in "online" dating. The E Harmony incident made black women upset. I don't have any bitterness. Again, I don't do what you do. Relationships have their ups and downs. Some days I rather be alone. You need a "woman" in your life. I don't need anything. If I desire something I get it. I just have to make a couple phone calls. I am financially good. I don't get angry seeing white men with black women. I just hardly see it. So, how can I be mad about it? You mention competition for black women. LOL Maybe you don't go out much. Sorry to say, there is plenty of women out there. Last time I checked white men still get upset black men are with white women. LOL I find it comical when I see a black man with a white woman in the mall (Quite often I may add). The hate is really amazing. I am indifferent to it because I only date black women. Trust me, there are plenty to date. LOL I call them sellout black women because they "sold out". White men was never their "first choice". You like being "second choice" that is fine. You even said black women are not rejecting white men "much". Again, if the next man is arguing about his woman. That is "his woman", don't poke your fat nose in it. You are making judgments and you don't even know half the story concerning their relationship. Just because your black wife pussy whipped you. Does not mean all men have to "be like you". What A game you got? You give your wife a "handout" and pay for "her kids" and "your own kid". Even if I had all the money in the world, I wouldn't like that arrangement. They have life insurance on your ass too I bet. That is the difference between me and "you". Your woman "control you". I am not controlled by anybody. I will be damned if I financially support everybody in the damn house and all they do is cook, give sex, and do laundry. That is why I got out of my current relationship. I don't plan to "end up like you". You are so "stuck", it would be hard to leave your wife right now. Keep "hollaring" at other women. I don't see your wife leaving her meal ticket anytime soon. You have a nice day.

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  41.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Mar 10

    Queens, your own insecurities, now you say black women are desperate. Really? It sounds like your the one that is desperate. You sound so deperate to show you are in charge or a bread winner, yes I happen to bring in more income, but the work my wife does with the kids is valued at way more than my income. When my late wife died I filed a lawsuit, part of the process was fiding out her monetary worth if she would have lived a normal life. The amount of money they give women credit for doing housework is way more than we both probablly earn with one job apiece. The unfortuanate fact is again you are wrong, Like I said the fastest growing inter-racial marriages is between black women and white men. Yes the number of black men with white women are larger, however that number is decreasing annually almost 3 to 1. Because you can not beat me in a debate does not mean I have a temper, it is by far your post that shows you are the one with a tempper, and it seems to be a violent one at that. Your biterness against black women, especially highly educated ones is more than evident, there is no problem in looking for the total package, but how can you look for the total package when you can not even bring an A game to the table. I know of very few men that have full time custody of their children, the courts usually give the benifit of the doubt to the women, however I know black women that have gotten with both white and black men that had more than one kid. See because you haven't found love yet doesn't mean that black women can not find love. The Problem with black men like you, I say Like you because most black men I know do not have the issues you have, but the problem with black men like you, is you feel threatened when I white man can come to what you believe is your world and belongs to you, however black women do not belong to black men they belong to nobody, but when you see a white man with a black women it angers you, that is one less good w3omen off the market, your not use to competing with white men for black womens affection, but now you have to compete and that bothers you, if you bring your A game, it wouldn't have to bother you. I suppose a sellout black woman wouldn't do the same, but I have never met a sellout black woman, so I wouldn't know. I am pretty sure you have never really met a sellout black woman either, that is just what you call her to make yourself feel like a man. As I said before I have never cheated neither on my late wife nor with my current wife, because you cheat on your mate doesn't mean everybody else does. You will never understand, I am not worried about what other men are doing, however when your in a fox hole pulling gaurd duty and the guy is going off about his wife it is hard to ignore. Your anger and bitterness is so apparant that it seeps through every word you write. One day when you relize you control your own manhood not the the woman your with, you will be able to let go of some of that bitterness. Do not hate the player, hate the game, I bring my A game to everything, that is just my philosphy, I win some things and I lose somethings, but I always have my A game.

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  42.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 21 Mar 10

    Assuming that new generations ofr women are the same as past generations id flawed. Assuming cultural trends can't change and that desperation is the only thing that can lead people who haven't done something before to try something new is lame. I guess people travel outside their country out of desperation as well. Actually education and exposure are the probably the biggest causes for changes in trends, as exogamy is highest in the people who experience higher education.

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  43.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Mar 10

    Dear Otherbrother You said this "I know what respect is to me, I also know what respect is to my wife. Your definition might be different but that really doesn’t matter. So If I do Not HOLLER but beat the crap out of her, then I guess I can respect her. Exactly What is a good husband? is there a mandated list? How many things on the list do I need to mmet to be considered a good husband" So if you don't beat your wife, she can put up with your infidelity. You need counseling because you are an angry white man. It must bother you black men try to holla at your wife. This is where all this "talk" comes from. You want people to believe you are not emasculated by your black wife. You said this "I am an excellent husband, I hide nothing we communicate daily, as I have said before I know where dinner is served, I do however have eyes, a heart, ears, a voice, and a mind. I am as they would say human, I have never cheated on my wife nor did I cheat on my late wife, I was with my late wife and only my late wife for 10 years, I am going on five years with my present wife. I have never hit my wife, or called my wife out of her name, I provide very well financially for my wife, I equally share the duties of parenting with my wife, I even equally parent the three children she had from her late husband and she equally parents my son from my late wife. We equally parent our biological child together. What post have you read that I hit on some one, any one for that matter while on this site. You might have some insecurities but thankfully my wife doesn’t and I do not." I am sorry your late wife passed away. But hollering at other women can lead to "indiscretions". Obviously, marriages are not perfect. You assume your wife is not insecure. You said, you do well financially. She might be scared of your temper. Personally, I think you got a temper. I do admire you for supporting the kids. But I don't know where all this anger comes from. Mzbrown just said you should respect your wife at "all times". You don't have to listen to these nappy headed black women's advice. Because most of them "fold up" anyway. But the fact you got on Mz Brown ass. Shows me there is something "deep" there. You also said this.... "When my wife needs me I am there I support all of her dreams and goals, wheather financially or emotionally or both. I do not know many men who would do what I have done, I listen to men talk crap about their wife’s all the time, most women do not realize what shit is said about them," See, this is the problem with white men. The focus on what the next man is "not doing" to justify not being emasculated by black women. Apparently, you seem to be the breadwinner. She has three kids and you got 1 kid. Relationships and marriages are never equal. I assume you spend MORE than she does. It always seems to works out that way. Would a sellout black women take you on if you had three kids, and she had 1 child? Ask yourself that. There is a difference between respect and love. Could your wife "stand on her own two feet" if you divorced her? Personally, I think you do more than holler at other women. You are just cleaning it up to make yourself look good here. This is a sure sign of a marriage not being as great as it "used to be". Good day.

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  44.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Mar 10

    Dear Otherbrother Actually, black men more than triple black women when it comes to being wit white women. You said this.... "Let me tell you a little secret, the number of white men married to black women is the largest growing number of inter racial marriages over the last ten years." It is growing but white men are dating Asian and Latin women at a far faster rate. You said this........... "the numbers are just skyrocketing, and although some lame white men have said they were afraid to approach black women out of fear of rejection, doesn’t speak for the majority of white men. In all actuallity the reason the number has growm is because black women have opened up more." LOL Now, they are lame white men. Aren't you white? Black women rejected white men; but now they are "desperate", so they felt the need to grace you with their presence now? What else are they going to say when they are running out of options? By your own admission black women were rejecting you. Personally, I don't mess with women that reject me. That is why they keep getting picked last by white men. However, you want to spin it. As for me and relationships, perhaps I wasn't perfect. I can be guilty of looking for the "complete package". I either had black women with young kids. I would get black women who were "career students". Hmmm, emotionally and sexually abused black women that I would find out later. I guess you can say " I could pick better black women". Perhaps, these women will find a good white men like yourself you can "holler at them". Good day

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  45.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Mar 10

    MzBrOwNSuGaR I know what respect is to me, I also know what respect is to my wife. Your definition might be different but that really doesn't matter. So If I do Not HOLLER but beat the crap out of her, then I guess I can respect her. Exactly What is a good husband? is there a mandated list? How many things on the list do I need to mmet to be considered a good husband. I am an excellent husband, I hide nothing we communicate daily, as I have said before I know where dinner is served, I do however have eyes, a heart, ears, a voice, and a mind. I am as they would say human, I have never cheated on my wife nor did I cheat on my late wife, I was with my late wife and only my late wife for 10 years, I am going on five years with my present wife. I have never hit my wife, or called my wife out of her name, I provide very well financially for my wife, I equally share the duties of parenting with my wife, I even equally parent the three children she had from her late husband and she equally parents my son from my late wife. We equally parent our biological child together. What post have you read that I hit on some one, any one for that matter while on this site. You might have some insecurities but thankfully my wife doesn't and I do not. When my wife needs me I am there I support all of her dreams and goals, wheather financially or emotionally or both. I do not know many men who would do what I have done, I listen to men talk crap about their wife's all the time, most women do not realize what shit is said about them, I however to not participate in this childess game, why because I RESPECT my wife, in all ways. If your man is hollering but doesn't tell you or calling you out of your name to his friends but you do not know, I guess he is respecting you in your eyes. That is not the case in my opinion though. As good old Paul Harvfey use to say! And now you know the rest of the story.

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  46.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Mar 10

    Queens There you go again, slapping the black woman in the face, you do not hget it. You simply do not get it. The problem is not the black woman, she usually gets the short end of the stick, It is the black man who feels slighted because the black woman can love outside her race, see most black men feel it is ok for them to date and marry white women, but when a black woman does it she is a sell out. Black women have stood up and said enough, I am going to date who I want, and you do not like that. Well that is just to bad, you should get us to it. Let me tell you a little secret, the number of white men married to black women is the largest growing number of inter racial marriages over the last ten years. The numbers are just skyrocketing, and although some lame white men have said they were afraid to approach black women out of fear of rejection, doesn't speak for the majority of white men. In all actuallity the reason the number has growm is because black women have opened up more. They disregard all that crap that you are telling them and they love who they want. I can not help that you have segregated yourself in a black church, I do not pick my church based on the congegration alone what the pastor is putting out is more important. You stated in earlier posts that you contributed the success of all your former smarter girlfriends, I just repeated what you said. I am sure though that just from reading your posts, it wasn't the woman who had a problem it was you. See you want your cake and ice cream too, however that is for children. In the grown up world you can't have both. They just do not get served together as an adult.

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  47.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Mar 10

    Boots, your arguement is flawed, so what if most white people make that comment. The comment has merit, you want reperation ask the government for it. I owe you nothing, not even a sorry, it is your problem if you feel slighted, not mine. What the Civil Rights Era was about is debatable, I have seen many documentaries stating many different opinions. Maybe White's should be compensated, many were killed for hiding and helping slaves. Many more than are given credit for. Maybe their decsendants should be compensated. Tell me what compensation do you want? Land? That was taken from Native Americans, so if we compensate we give them back there land. So land is out, what? Money? How much? How much does it take to make what happened go away? That is a pretty easy answer, Zero, no amount of money can make what happened go away. So I guess money is out. So exactly what is it you want for compensation? Please maake it good, because Land and Money do not cut the mustard.

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  48.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 10

    DNA testing would show more than 1/3rd of White Americans are also African decent. What about the African Americans that were slavers. Do you reward their descendants? Or the Irish slaves? Jewish survivors were still alive when they received reparations. Again, their children got zilch if their parents had died.

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  49.   Member says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 10

    DNA testing could be done. That would cost a lot of money and time. Jewish "descendants" reaped the benefits of "reparations". What benefits did black people "reap" concerning slavery? You are right and wrong in some ways concerning the survivors of slavery. I am descendant of slaves from Jamaica. My great great grandparents were slaves. Do I expect reparation from the "British" and Spaniards? It will never happen. But they sure "take time and effort" to get reparations to "Jews". You would think society think black people "deserved to be slaves". Even Native Americans, were given "something" and their people intermixed with white people. You have to be a certain "percentage" of Native American blood.

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  50.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 10

    Only Jewish survivors got reparations, not their descendants. So yes, Black people deserve reparations in same way. Feel free to show me the survivors of slavery.

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