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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 10

    @Salsassin and Bamababe I agree. I'm serious about my faith. That's a deal- breaker for me. I don't join my body or my spirit up with just some anybody. Oh, this is what gets me in the shins everytime...I'm spiritual but not religious. What??? What does that mean??LOL. I'm like Bill Maher on that one. He asked the same thing and he is an aethiest,LOL. I'm determined though that I will be with a christian man. That's the first requirment. Trekkie a close second,LOL.

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  2.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 10

    Ah religion, that is a whole different ballgame. People can have such diverging beliefs. The question is how willing are people to compromise when it comes to children. Better to find someone with a similar belief system.

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  3.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 10

    @bigeyes31 I agree with you. It's hard to find men who even have a spiritual side. I have found myself asking men do you believe in God? Most of them say yes but I tell them straight up look my religion is very important to me.

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  4.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 10

    LOL> You have hung yourself here to many times to count. Yes, are many women like Halle Berry. Maybe not the same story line, but tragedy plays in their life. I all groups. You can claim all the delusions you want, but it doesn't matter. Womanizer? LOL. If dating more than one woman in your life is being a womanizer, I plead guilty. I'm not here to try to pick up anyone so your claim is entertaining. As is your claim I said all Black women where like Halle Berry. Your selective interpretations are funny. Stupid, but funny. And yes you are talking out your ass because you not only try to speak about what the Black woman thinks TOO BLACK WOMEN, something I don't. You also try to claim knowledge about White males and a ton of other people. Out your ass. I talk about facts, I make no claim about minds. Unless they are regurgitations of what Black women have told me. Now I will speak my mind whe it comes to being Latino. The Original name is Charki

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  5.   Member says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 10

    (Picking up my drink) Plenty of women like who? Are you alluding to Halle Berry's character. Na, I have never seen a black woman that was "down and out" like her. Sorry, I don't know where you live at. You just cashed a "check" your ass can't cash. PLENTY of black women ARE NOT like Halle Berry's character in Monster's ball. What's next, "Precious" is the representation of all full figured black women to. You live in the black community. Plural, you're last few "girlfriends" were black. Are you with a black girl right now? Thank you for admitting you are a womanizer. How do I talk out of my ass and I am black? I was raised in the black community. You live in the black community so what does that mean? What experience have you had in the black community? Other than, assuming all black women are like the Halle Berry character. What does your whole conversation have to do with the points I mentioned in the last two posts? Listen, collect your thoughts better. You are just jumping around all over the place. You mentioned Monster's ball. Now, you don't give a "rat's ass". You basically said "there are many black women" like Halle Berry's character. I would have to respectfully disagree. I can't recall seeing many black women with an obese child, getting evicted and being a waitress. Oh yea, getting treated like a 2 dollar hooker. At some point, I think she was unemployed too. Jerk Chicken came from "you". Whatever, makes you happy. LOL Jamaican Jerk chicken is the best hands down. Perhaps, I am biased. LOL I am giving you enough rope to hang yourself. LOL

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  6.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 10

    Usual Stupidity. That is the only part relevant to this discussion. The movie created a character. Not my fault you din't like her. But there are plenty of women out there like her. It gave a message. I could care a rat's ass if you liked it. Plenty of other people did. I didn't say I lived next to the Black community. I live IN the Black community. My roommates, my neighbors, my friends here are all Black. My last few girlfriends have been Black. No, unlike you, who talk out your ass, I actually have experience with the Black community. But you obviously are clueless about the White one. You are one dimensional and completely fail to listen to what Black women say even fi you are a part of their community. I never claim to be a Black woman, but I have the same contact that you do, and I sure know how to listen a lot better. Spanish rice, with Jerk Chicken, after all, it came from us.

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  7.   Member says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 10

    (Listening to you) What was the main plot of Bronx Tale? What was the movie about? Since you like to pick one small part out of the movie. She looks poor? That is not the reason why I don't like the movie Monster's Ball you knucklehead. They treated Halle Berry like a 2 dollar hooker, What are you blind or something? They made her look like a charity case. Now, if she got back on her "feet" on her "own". The movie might have turned out better. But they didn't do that. LOL Who said anything about Latinos living in the black community? We live "near" each other but that does not mean you understand black women. I don't understand Latin women simply because " I live next to them". That does not correlate to me understanding Latin culture. I can't "Salsa" because I live next to "Latin people". Listen, the more you respond, the better it is for me. Go eat Spanish rice you jerk! LOL

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  8.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 10

    More stupidity from the resident Moron here. Bronx Tale had many sub plots. The romance was one of them. Obviously you can't fathom that. You have yet to show evidence the protagonist was Jewish in Something New. If you had any clue of the even and what a roast is and why Whoopie had Ted do what he did, then you would have a clue. Oh sorry, women going through real trials and tribulations. I guess you don't like it because she looks poor. No, you don't like it because she hooks up with a white. guy. Your dumb ass is so stupid you don't realize many Latinos live in Black communities. And you obvioulsy don't know jack shit about Black women as not one of them has agreed with you yet. Now go suck on some more mierda cause that was weak..

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  9.   Member says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    Shut up pussy. Bronx Tale did not focus on that Italian and the black girl he had a crush on. That was incidental to the movie altogether. You made more of it for whatever reason. I still don't know why you did that. The character was Jewish. The actor playing the character is not Jewish. I don't even care if he was Jewish. The movie was stupid. You seem to give a pass to Ted Danson wearing "black face" and his girlfriend at the time was Whoopi Goldberg. Explain the "context" to me pussy. Show me the "humor" in that. Maybe, I missed it. In Monster's ball, she got evicted from her apartment. He decided to let her stay "at his home". She looked like a charity case. Personally, I don't like black women being portrayed like that. What are the redeeming qualities of Halle Berry's character in the movie. You tell me pussy! Pussy, you are Latino by your own admission. You don't know shit about black women. All I know is you google shit all the time. You ain't even address everything I said in my last post. I never thought it would be this easy to pick you apart. The Bronx Tale analysis was a joke,. That is like saying "Samuel L Jackson" in Goodfellas should be focused on and the movie is not about him. Stupid bitch! I want you to respond back.

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  10.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    Are you seriously stupid enough to make fun of a typo where I wasn't paying attention and it did auto correct? Yes I typed it in word first, I did not notice it changed the word to mail. Of course, I am not the one who types "do not mistaken" It is do not mistake, moron. The character's name was Brian Kelly, not a drop of Jewish in that name. It is a called a Yarmulke. And I don't remember one. Will have to look at it again. How was she a loser? SHe chose to walk away from a guy she found uninspiring. Only you would think her a loser. Ted Danson donned Black face because WHOOPIE had the idea for his comedy. Context. Bronx Tale is about many subjects. Unfortunately for you, your mind can only process one. He falls for the girl. I don't see the Black community of that time giving him a chance to meet the father. Try again. I also realize you were too stupid to realized that in Monster's Ball he had just quit his job, and why would he pay her rent if he wanted her to live with him? Moron. Ashton Cusher did a comedy. The movie was not a flop pendejo, it was a good movie like many independent films. Target audiences. Now go suck your mierda covered thumb some more.

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  11.   Member says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    Dear Sal The character was Jewish, he had a yam-aka on at the end of the movie. The ACTOR is not Jewish from "Something New". I don't have to resort to calling you names. But since you want to get into the gutter. That is perfectly fine with me. You said: "More like she ditched the lawyer, and the landscaper wasn’t Jewish, but Australian. Shows were your prejudices are." Where am I prejudice at? She ditched the Lawyer. More like, she ran back to the white boy like a desperate loser. I can't recall him "doing anything" wrong in the relationship. Perhaps, you see what you 'want to see" in the movie. You also said this "Oh and we must be horrified at anyone who dons Black face without looking at context. Just like we should vilify the Wayan Brothers for “White Chicks” right. Relationships fail. Not just because they are Black and White." (Thinking).... That is interesting, Whoopi's spouse "Ted Danson" puts on "black face" and you compare it to the Wayans Brothers doing "White Chicks". LOL You failed, now try again.I don't see the comparison. It is not about being horrified at "anybody doing black face". Whoopi's "SPOUSE" did this to her. LOL It was a "roast" but that was just the ultimate disrespect. You also said about Bronx Tale "Oh, he is a “guido”, racist term. The whole point of the movie is living in a time of prejudice and crime. HE overcame the racism of his time to fall for a Black girl. White director." (Looking at you and mocking you) He overcame racism because he was interested in a black girl he saw on a bus. I assume he fell "in love" with the black community too and her "father". I watched the movie and I don't recall it being a love story between a racist Italian bigot and a black girl. From my understanding, Robert Deniro was trying to steer his son away from the mafia PUSSY. Sorry you failed again. You said this about Monster's ball. "A white man overcoming his racism and falling for her. Stopping to take her son to the hospital. Please tell me how he treated her like a whore. Did he pay her money and never returned? His father states that his son is using her as a whore, and he sends his racist father to a nursing home and moves her into his house. Yeah, really treated her like a whore." Oh really, she gets evicted and has no place to go. He doesn't even bother to help her pay her rent. You are right. He got to fuck her at a "low point" in her life. I suppose taking advantage of a homeless black woman sexually is quite noble of him. Sorry if I don't see the romanticism in it. Please tell me you have a better argument. You said this: "You claim they were flops, but you obviously didn’t see them. It is true that interracial movies don’t have as much strength in the box office because of racism in the US. But that does not speak to the quality of the movie, or the point you made. That White men never made movies about their interest in Black women. So calling them flops , is a cop out." It FLOPPED. I don't want to hear about the racism shit. Guess who is coming to dinner with Ashton and Bernie Mac went "number 1". "Something New and Lakeview Terrace" flopped because nobody want to see that interracial crap bashing black men. Newsflash, most of the country dislikes black women with white men. Make excuses all you want. They never encourage white men to date black women. Obviously, black women are making the effort to "date out". Explain why white men are not "reaching back". Is that racism too? You also said this "Oh yeah, I am a Latino mail, not a Black womn moron. And I like Jamaican food with its Afro Carribean, Indian and Latino influences, but they are not better than my Latino food, nor are they better than Trini food, if I’m going to choose a Caribbean food to be the best. I am of Afrodescent, never sold out to anything as I am proud of all the roots in my culture and yes Black History is a part of it. You would be too stupid to remember that there are many White Jamaicans as well." What is a Latino "Mail"? Shut up pussy. Learn to spell. I got nothing against you, You seem pretty smart. However, do not mistaken the sense of humor for "stupidity". (Smiling) You have a nice day "Latino Mail".

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  12.   mecca77 says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    you know what bigeyes31... i do not pay attention to the media as long as those uncle tom blacks that work for the media allow bullshit to go on. and others do not watch those racist stations. negativity about us will always be the way that it is. look who the media is ran by need i say more. abunch of imcompetant morons. media always send subliminal messages.

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  13.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    Booty: “Here are some of the colonial policies that the drafters of the constitution incorporated into the doucument of the new nation....ARTICLE 1 SECTION II...... which counted slaves as 3/5 of a person , the federal ratio ,for establishing representatives to the congress(electoral college) This law was aimed specifically at black slaves” No, it was not. It was addressed at ALL slaves. The constitution was ratified in 1787. Lets look at what was being legislated in those decades building up to the constitution. In October 1669, a law granted immunity to employers who, in the course of "correcting" killed their Negro or Indian lifetime bond-laborers, on the grounds that it would not be reasonable that an owner would destroy his own property with malice aforethought. Three years later similar immunity was granted to any person who killed "any negroe, molatto, Indian slave, or servant for life," who was sought by hue and cry as a runaway. William Waller Hening, comp. and ed., The Statutes-at-Large; being a Collection of all the Laws of Virginia, from the First Session of the Legislature in the year 1619, Volume 2 pgs 270, 298 (1723). Clearly a Blacks and Indians were both being enslaved for life, and as stated in the second law, Black slaves, Mulatto Slaves, Indian Slaves and Servants for Life (AKA a slave that wasn’t Black, Mulatto or Indian, wonder what they were…) In 1676 Bacon’s Rebellion occurs. The rebel army was composed mainly of European-American and African-American bond-laborers and freedmen recently "out of their time." Letter dated 19 September 1676, New York Public Library, George Chalmers Collection, I, folio 49. African American and European American bond laborers fighting together to end imposed servitude. So only in the preceding century to the Constitution we see established that there was lifetime slavery of non Blacks and that they rebelled together on multiple times. In 1749, Virginia Council members Thomas Lee and William Fairfax, favored discouraging the importation of English convicts as bond-laborers. They cited former Governor Spotswood's allusion to freedom's cap, and warned that increasing the number of convict bond-laborers in Virginia, "who are wicked enough to join our Slaves in any Mischief...[which] in all Probability will bring sure and sudden Destruction on all His Majesty's good subjects of this colony." Legislative Journals of the Council of Colonial Virginia, 3 vols., H. R. McIlwaine, ed., (Richmond, 1918), 2:1034-35 (11 April 1749). An estimated 30,000 convict bond-laborers were sent to America in 190 ship loads between 1717 and 1772. Of these cargoes, 100 went to the Chesapeake, 53 to Maryland and 47 to Virginia (Arthur Price Middleton, Tobacco Coast: A Maritime History of Chesapeake Bay in the Colonial Era [Newport News, 1953], p. 152). So here we have recognition that only a few decades before the constitution, English slaves were still being brought over. Now a key point, many of these so called ‘convicts’ were Irish fighting for their freedom. Now remember, a century before we still had non Black slaves. But what determined a slave in Virginia. And I am focusing on the south because the North didn’t have slavery in many states. Massachusetts had abolished it. But the issue here is if the 3/5ths rule was applied to Blacks or just to slaves in general. Well Virginia, again, being a key state in the legislation of slavery states in a law passed in 1662, “Whereas some doubts have arisen whether children got by any Englishman upon a negro woman should be slave or free, be it therefore enacted and declared by the present grand assembly, that all children borne in this country shall be held bond or free only according to the condition of the mother” Partus Sequitur Ventrem. Hening Volume 2 pg 170 This enactment brings to points to light. Until 1662, slavery was patrilineal. If the father was a free person. The child could not be enslaved. This law changes things. It means the slavemaster could have children with slaves and the children would be slaves. Why do I bring this up? Because at this time, we still have “negroes, molattos, Indian slaves, or servants for life.” So any of these slaves that were female, their children were being born into slavery. Be they Black, White, Mulatto or Indian. So when the Constitution is drafted, the 3/5ths rule was not about Blacks, it was about slaves, whatever their mother was. And if there is any doubt about this, all one has to do is read Thomas Jefferson’s (the main drafter of the Constitution) letter written in 1815, after the Constitution was written, to Francis Gray (a Massachusetts man who had never seen slaves till he visited Virginia.). In it, he clearly states that one of his slaves, was legally White by blood fraction, but was still a slave because of Partus Sequitur Ventrem. A White slave, but still a slave because of laws enacted during the period of time that the Constitution was written. On a side note, we now know that was Jefferson’s’ own son, Eston Hemings. And that he later emancipated the kid, and he joined White society. Again, slavery BECAME racialized as time went by, one because with time the Indian population was diminished through disease and attrition. Two, many other tribes, who were still free made treaties with the Europeans (that would be broken later), and they stopped importing slaves from Europe. Furthermore, many revolts of Africans and Europeans in life servitude made the elite realize they needed to divide these people. SO they started giving Whites petty privileges, enacted laws where poor whites became slave patrols, etc. But even in American history there are time periods where Indians, and even Whites suffered lifelong slavery just like Blacks, and many of their descendants mingled in with the descendants of African slaves to become modern African Americans. It is no coincidence that genetics has shown that 40% of the European genetic contribution to African Americans came from White females. Francis Cress Welsing is a loon. Won’t waste my time on her. “like SALSSASIN who continue to maintain that nothing is owed to blks,those who helped make this country great but are always at the bottom of every ecomomic indicator.” More stupidity. Again, Indigenous populations were equally enslaved in Early history, and then later on they were exploited again when they were sent to die in reservations. Not only that, but defacto slavery of Indigenous peoples continued in Latin America in Latifundios, practices that we see in some central American countries TO THIS DAY. So when you see many Maya Indians who flee to this country, spare me the claim that they had it better than African Americans. Economic Indicators? Let’s just look at the census. 23% of Blacks are below the poverty line vs 24% of Native Americans. And what about Latino Native Americans in the US? 25%. As to your claim that the 3/5ths rule was because of taxation and instigated by the South instead of votes for the electoral college, and instigated by the North, your claim is utterly ridiculous. Before the Constitution, lsaves weren’t counted at all for representation or taxation. The South was trying to push for their slaves to be counted to have a higher number of representatives. The North pushed for a lowering of the validation of slaves for representation, and the added burden of taxes, to compensate for the increase in representation. And, in fact, the south was not affected by higher direct tax because the inconvenience and difficulty which would attend the levy of capitation and direct taxes in accordance with this method were so great that no successful effort has ever been made or probably ever will be made to raise revenue in this manner, although several times attempted. The object of these provisions, however, was evidently not to render such taxes impossible, but to preserve some proportionate relation between representation and taxation of this character. As for your quotes on how dehumanized Blacks were. No dispute there. But let me give you some other quotes. An Indian...is frowned upon by the meanest peasant, and the scum of the earth are considered sacred in comparison to the son of nature. If an Indian is educated in the sciences, has a good knowledge of the classics, astronomy, mathematics moral and natural philosophy, and his conduct equally modest and polite, yet he is an Indian, and the most stupid and illiterate white man will disdain and triumph over this worthy individual. It is disgusting to enter the house of a white man and be stared at full face in inquisitive ignorance. Wilkins, Cherokee Tragedy, p.145, citing Christian Herald, vol. 10, p. 468 (20 December 1823). You also seem to forget that in the US. Slavery was a breeding slave process, so they did not intend to kill their slaves. But in the earlier years, many of the bonded servants had to be paid after their tenure. But not if they died. Many indentured servants were literally worked to death instead of freed and paid. It was lifetime slavery by attrition. A similar practice occurred in Latin America with slaves, both Native and African. It was cheaper for them just to buy new slaves than to breed them. So they just worked the slaves to death. But again tell me how American slaves had it worse. You claim that Native Americans were still on their land and flee. Not when most of the land was dominated by Spain. Finally, what is worse? Being robbed of the identity of your very ethnicity, made in to a generic Black, and taken from your homeland, to always dream of far off Africa, or being robbed of your identity, such that you are made into a generic Indio, taken in your homeland, moved around so you loose your roots, and no dream of a far off land as the very land you are in is what has been lost. No, the suffering of all these peoples was horrible, but when you try to make it into a pissing contest of who suffered more. I can counter each of your claims with equal horror from the Native side, and even the European side, in the early years. Try again Mr. Booty. Queen: “The movie "Something New" couldn't be played with a black man being a Landscaper because she wouldn't have married him.” Says who? We have plenty of movies where the Lawyer Black woman marries the Laborer Black man (even with children). Can we say “Daddy’s Little Girls”? “Plus, the movie started out "bashing black men". Just the opening of the movie implied negative things. I just knew where the movie was heading after that.” Bashing Black men? Please. It bashed CERTAIN Black men. Let me know how The father was a negative image of Black men. Or many of the friends. Like the couple that developed along side them. “”She ended up going back to the Jewish landscaper after she figured out nobody would put up with her "anal" ways.” More like she ditched the lawyer, and the landscaper wasn’t Jewish, but Australian. Shows were your prejudices are. “As for the movies listed, Whoopi Goldberg is a disgrace. Ted Danson put on "black face" and Whoopi thought that was funny. She still ended up dumped and Ted Danson is the one "that ruined" her reputation. It is amazing to me Whoopi defends white men but "no white men" stay with her.” Oh and we must be horrified at anyone who dons Black face without looking at context. Just like we should vilify the Wayan Brothers for “White Chicks” right. Relationships fail. Not just because they are Black and White. “Bronx Tale, are you kidding? He sees a black girl on the bus and he is a Guido. The same movie that had stream of profanities from Italians to African Americans. That was just a small part of the movie with the black girl in it.” Oh, he is a “guido”, racist term. The whole point of the movie is living in a time of prejudice and crime. HE overcame the racism of his time to fall for a Black girl. White director. “Monster's ball with Halle Berry being treated like a two dollar prostitute. I especially like that movie. A white man taking advantage of a "down and out" black woman. You can't be serious?” A white man overcoming his racism and falling for her. Stopping to take her son to the hospital. Please tell me how he treated her like a whore. Did he pay her money and never returned? His father states that his son is using her as a whore, and he sends his racist father to a nursing home and moves her into his house. Yeah, really treated her like a whore. “The rest of the movies are flops with the exception of "The Score".” You claim they were flops, but you obviously didn’t see them. It is true that interracial movies don’t have as much strength in the box office because of racism in the US. But that does not speak to the quality of the movie, or the point you made. That White men never made movies about their interest in Black women. So calling them flops , is a cop out. Oh yeah, I am a Latino mail, not a Black womn moron. And I like Jamaican food with its Afro Carribean, Indian and Latino influences, but they are not better than my Latino food, nor are they better than Trini food, if I’m going to choose a Caribbean food to be the best. I am of Afrodescent, never sold out to anything as I am proud of all the roots in my culture and yes Black History is a part of it. You would be too stupid to remember that there are many White Jamaicans as well.

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  14.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    Actually it's Books a Million (that's what we have down here) and it's not one man, it's actually two. One is a lawyer from New Orleans the other one is a manager in retail store but thanks for asking. :)

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  15.   Tamn8ercl says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    @boots I am in an interracial marriage. I'm Black and he is White. He deals with my Black brothers (who love him) My Black grandfather (Who loves him) my Black dad (Who loves him) and My Black ex-husband (who I find hanging out with him when I walk in the door...A LOT!) Some Black men feel very insecure when they see a Black woman with I White man...ESPECIALLY a beautiful Black woman. But MOST Black men are very secure and don't not see this as a reflection of their short comings. You are on your own on that one, kiddo. Not enough Black women date outside of our race for this to even be an issue for anyone. Black men do it WAY more. Let me set your mind at ease about one thing. I'm not an Oreo who only dates White, I'm not a hood chick who found some buffoon who is a caraciture of a Black man. I only liked Black men. I fell in love with my best friend. We had so much in common and he was the one thing in the world that made me feel right. When I'm with him I'm home. It was love that found me when I wasn't looking. I tried to run away for a while but then I thought 'Why should I' Why should I be another Black female unmarried statistic when love is RIGHT HERE. That was in 2005... we married in June of 2009 and now we are expecting. I'm happy...but you'd rather me be alone until a Black man comes along who is JUST LIKE this White man? Took me 30 years to find him but I should wait 30 more so you don't feel insecure when you see himwith me? No thanks! :-)

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  16.   Member says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    LOL Bama Again, where is your "man" at? Since you seem to know men so well? I picture you at "Border's book store" reading books and not having a social life. Good day

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  17.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    Like I said Queenie that explains ALOT because you sound HIGH most of the time with some of the shit you say. lol Why do I picture you smoking weed and typing at the same time. LOL Puff, Puff, Type, Puff Puff type.

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  18.   Member says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    What is going on here? A Whoopi Goldberg Marathon??????????????? No offense to Whoopi, but Sister Act was the last straw. I am glad they don't offer her any movie roles. Color purple was her best role. I would have to agree. I think Whoop is a good television star. My pops loves "Star Trek". She on there with uh "Jordy", homey from the "reading rainbow". Levar Burton. Well, I won't argue about what Jamaican men are about. Obviously, somebody has to be dominant in the relationship. I am also a Leo. You take the "good" with the "bad' concerning "Caribbean men". I am working on self control. I have been going to the gym everyday and playing basketball. Black women can be stressful like Bama off her "meds".

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  19.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    @Bama LOL, I have faith that Queens is not a "vegetable- eating" monster. The kids in this movie can move anyone,lol.

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  20.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    ...OMG I think she has soo many..The Color Purple, Corrina,Corrina, Ghost and I loved her in Jumping Jack Flash,corny I know.

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  21.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    I think "The Color Purple" was Whoopi's best movie.

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  22.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @bigeyes girl asking queen to watch that is probably like asking a vegetarian to eat a steak; it ain't going to happen. lol

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  23.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    In Corrina,Corrina that is...give it a chance.

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  24.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @Queens If you can try and get passed Whoopi,it was the acting of the children in the movie that made me laugh and warmed my heart.

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  25.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Queenie let's just get this straight, any movie that features an interracial couple in it you don't approve of so you saying you don't like the movies we like BIG Surprise there. LOL the shock would be if you actually liked the movie. Whoopi Goldberg is ok with me. Sometimes I agree with with she says and sometimes she is too laid back with her attitude about race relations. One thing is certain, she didn't have to chase after white men,they came to her so she must have something going on. And you won't see white magazines talking about IR couples because A)most of them like black folks stay within their race to date and marry B)for them it's not an issue because its more of them then us. IR dating and or marriage is a big issue in the black community because we are only 12 percent of the populuation and because a lot of black men are in jail, therefore limiting the amount of black men available to black women. White women don't have that dilema and neither do white men. Jamaican huh? that explains a lot. One of my friends tried to date an Island guy and she pretty much too me you guys are too dominate and pushy and she lives in South Florida and dates mostly black men.

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  26.   Member says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Did somebody say Jamaican Food? I live in PA not Houston. I am moving to Orlando Florida and if things don't work out. I will be at Tatt's house. It is good people like my Jamaican culture and food. It is just odd a sellout black girl is helping with a Black History event. What's next a white man in a "Dashiki" and dreds. Speaking of seeing a white man in dreds. I was watching "Wife Swap" and this white couple "acted Jamaican". He had the accent and everything. I was impressed. He was talking about "Ja will provide for his family". A sad case of the white man "thinking" all Jamaican people got Dreds and practice "Rastafarism". Most Jamaicans are "conservative". These sellout black women on the board "need guidance". I really think I have heard everything. What's next, sellout black women helping plan the "Million Man March". You wonder why white men "just don't get involved" with you altogether. I will have administer the "Street Medicine" intravenously for sellout black women at this point.

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  27.   Proverbs31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Can't we all just get along

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  28.   Member says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    The movie "Something New" couldn't be played with a black man being a Landscaper because she wouldn't have married him. Plus, the movie started out "bashing black men". Just the opening of the movie implied negative things. I just knew where the movie was heading after that. Love and Basketball was Sanaa Lathan's best movie. They don't do those type of movies anymore. Movies like that are more compelling than the same "theme" of white man "never does wrong in dating" versus black man "is evil". The movie does address class to some degree. However, she was setup with a black lawyer (Blair Underwood). Obviously, she got what she complained about but went back to the white boy ANYWAY. She ended up going back to the Jewish landscaper after she figured out nobody would put up with her "anal" ways. It is the same old story. The white man rescues the black woman "in the traps" of the black community. The movie is pathetic. First, it shows black men "cat calling her in the beginning of the movie". Something New just goes downhill from there. Than, she goes to dinner with her "girlfriends" complaining she can't find a black man on her level. She gets with a black man on her level and ends up going back to the white boy at the end of the movie. You wonder why sellout black women fail all the time. As for the movies listed, Whoopi Goldberg is a disgrace. Ted Danson put on "black face" and Whoopi thought that was funny. She still ended up dumped and Ted Danson is the one "that ruined" her reputation. It is amazing to me Whoopi defends white men but "no white men" stay with her. Bronx Tale, are you kidding? He sees a black girl on the bus and he is a Guido. The same movie that had stream of profanities from Italians to African Americans. That was just a small part of the movie with the black girl in it. The Body Guard with Whitney. I do recall her sister tried to get Whitney killed or yea she wanted to sleep with Kevin Costner. Great example! Monster's ball with Halle Berry being treated like a two dollar prostitute. I especially like that movie. A white man taking advantage of a "down and out" black woman. You can't be serious? The rest of the movies are flops with the exception of "The Score". Corrina Corrina, never saw it, and never will. Don't particular care for Whoopi being in movies. Ghost was her best movie. Books are so broad. I should have clarified books that are "known". Pretty much anybody can put out a book. Hollywood has failed doing an interracial story without bashing black men. I don't even think a movie like that can be done. None of these movies will ever address the negative traits of black women when it comes to dating. Tyler Perry just goes overboard. He really dislikes Professional black women. I think it was Madea goes to jail. The guy ends up being with "the prostitute than his "lawyer girlfriend". Was she in the "wrong"? I mean, "Rudy" was going to prison anyway. I personally wouldn't have snitched on my lawyer girlfriend. Just break up with her. Tyler Perry is an epic failure right now. Hollywood seems to portray professional black men as aloof, intimidating, and uncaring. Lakeview Terrace did this and "Something New". Monster's ball was just horrible altogether. She had an obese black son, and her baby father was on deathrow. The white man took part in the execution and she fucks him. Halle wins an Oscar for this LOL. WOW Nobody answered my question. When will the media "encourage white men" to date black women on national television? I would like to see that "Prime Time special". Right now, I just see sellout black women on television promoting their self serving books about white men. They either think black people are stupid or black women ain't worth shit. Good day

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  29.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @Bigeyes Chile you know cute and curvy never goes out of style. LOL

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  30.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    LOL. No, New York. . Thank God I'm back in style again,LOL Thanks Bama, trying not "read between the lines" too much,LOL. Peace

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  31.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @bigeyes31 I hope it was a mistake but who knows? the producer behind the story might have gotten offended by the title and thought they might just show us as these fat blobs that no white man should be interested in nor date. Hey is Queens from Houston? LOL could have been him. I find that interesting though because I just read an article in the AJC (Atlanta Journal) that says men PREFER curvy women. So big boobs, big butts, big hips are apparently in again.

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  32.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @Bama Yesterday on the local news channel My Fox Houston channel 26 I think,they were doing a story about the book Don't Bring Home a White Boy and the whole time the story was being narrated the camera was showing ALL obese black women going about their day,lol. The cover story didn't match the video that was simultaneously being shown. I tried to go on the website myfoxhouston.com to get a link to the video and to just watch it again to make sure I was seeing what I was seeing. All the stories were there but that one. I'm not saying anything is wrong with larger women but it just seemed like a subliminal message. Bamababe, talk me out it ok?LOL.

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  33.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @Bigeyes31 @Salsassin, I didn't like thet book because I thought it mostly sterotyped black women.

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  34.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Well, gotta leave, will chat later. Helped organize an event for Black History month. http://i46.tinypic.com/28hzl89.png I worked on the poster. But they changed it to 5PM and I love me some Jamaican food, so I'm out.

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  35.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @Bama Well maybe I WON'T be reading it then,LOL. Is it really THAT bad. I'm glad I didn't pay for it,LOL

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  36.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    I must be losing it Bamababe.How could I forget A Bronx Tale. I like Ted Danson as Becker(love it) but not in Made In America, he seemed out of place and it showed in the acting to me. Salsassin I understand the point you are making but all you have to do is look at those men and that's the look I like,lol. Take that and add a little black and I'm on fire. Btw, I have The White Man’s Guide To Dating Black Women by Adam White in PDF and I have only skimmed through it. I came across it for free too,somehow but I don't remember where. It seems so far as coming from the point of view of just treating and approaching black women like any other women,honestly but as I said haven't read in detail. Thanks for reminding me that I have it. I will go and read it properly.

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  37.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    As a White looking Latino who has dated across the spectrum, as well as a cross the Black spectrum, I can say that any time people try to categorize broad groups, they usually get it wrong. Are the stereotypes valid? Yes, to a very specific sub group. Or should I say sub, sub, sub group? Unfortunately it is usually pocket groups with the most exaggerated ways of acting out that tend to form the stereotypes for a larger group who actually cringe at how that sub group acts. The same goes for White, Latino, Asian stereotypes,etc.

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  38.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    LOL! I knew it. I am all for inter-ethnic mixing, but some people really don't have a clue. You know which movie I have been wanting to see, on a tangent topic, Skin. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbj691Z1Z1E

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  39.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    I read parts of that book and talk to the guy cause he use to come into our yahoo chat room, he is an idiot. LOL You are right to be cringing.

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  40.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Someone read this book and tell me if it stereotypes Black Women or is a valid book. The White Man's Guide To Dating Black Women by Adam White. The description has me cringing. "If you're a White man interested in dating Black women, this book shows you how to make it happen. Learn how Black women think, what they like and don't like to see in White men, and where and how to go about meeting them. Find out how to cope with public reaction to interracial couples, learn how to counteract the psychological inhibitions that can hold you back from getting involved and understand why those who oppose interracial relationships feel compelled to think and act the way they do. Find out what works and get involved." BigEyes The problem is that we, the Spanish speaking people encompass almost every look on the face of this planet. There is a reason why ambiguous looking people constantly get asked "Are you Latino!!" in a heavy gringo accent. The only reason why White, Black and Asian are not seen as Hispanic is because there are such a heavy contingent of Straight Anglos, African Americans and Asians here. So you have the flip going on there. We have a TON of Latinos getting asked "are you Polish?" (Me), "Are you Filipino?"(My sister), "Are you I-talian?"(My brother), "Are you from India?"(My dad)(all with heavy gringo accents), or in the case of some of my cousins and friends "You just Black!!" (in a heavy Afro-gringo accent). :)

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  41.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Corrina, Corrina was on this morning on TBS. I love Made in America too. A Bronx Tale is one of my favorites too.

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  42.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    I ADORE Corrina,Corrina makes me laugh and warms my icy heart everytime.

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  43.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Let me put it this way for all who like specifics. I like the mixture of whatever encompasses the Spanish and portuguese speaking people and black,lol. Latin like Mario Lopez, Hulio Iglesias,Eric Estrada and El Debarge of the famous R&B group El Debarge and several members of Santana,LOL. Stop it.

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  44.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Just did a quick Amazon book search. Anyone read any of these books? Interracial Marriages Between Black Women and White Men by Cheryl Judice Black Women Deserve Better by C W Black Women - Interracial and Intercultural Marriage: First and Foremost (Volume 1) by Eve Sharon Moor The Interracial Dating Book for Black Women Who Want to Date White Men by Adam Whit CHOICES: Black Women Interracial and Intercultural Marriage Book 2 by Eve Sharon Moore Mr. Fix-It (Indigo Love Spectrum)by Crystal Hubbard At Last (Indigo Love Spectrum) by Lisa G. Riley Blindsided (Indigo Love Spectrum) by Tammy Williams The Sweet Spot by Kimberly Kaye Terry Choices (Indigo Love Spectrum) by Tammy Williams I'll Be Your Shelter (Indigo Love Spect... by Giselle Carmichael Unexpected Mr. Right by Kelley Nyrae Tempting Faith (Indigo Love Spectrum) by Crystal Hubbard Never Say Never (Indigo Love Spectrum) by Michele Cameron Man there are a TON of novels of WHite men with Black women. Who would have thunk.

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  45.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    LOL. As a Hispanic person, I am always amused when people say 'something' mixed with Hispanic. Hispanic is an umbrella group, not a race nor an ethnicity. Spanish speaking cultures. While Americans don't like to admit it, as they are divided by ancestral based ethnicities, they are also Anglo. That would be like me saying that Black mixed with Anglo comes out beautiful. The question is, which Anglo? Are you speaking of Wesley Snipes, Brad Pitt, Benjamin Bratt? Which specific Anglo look? Same goes for Hispanic, you can have the Whitest looking Argentinean, a Quechua Bolivian, a Black Cuban, a Afro Mestizo Puerto Rican, a Nisei Peruvian, etc. All Hispanic. And to some degree you find all these combos and types in every Hispanic country. The difference is that in active mixing, we really do not see ourselves as separate groups, for the most part. The elite in many countries tend to be more Euro vs Mestizo, but even that has been changing heavily.

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  46.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Mr and Mrs Loving Heavy Traffic A Bronx Tale Corrina, Corrina Haven Bleeding Hearts The Engagement

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  47.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Add Restaurant Neo Ned

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  48.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Something New addressed two issues, racial prejudice and class prejudice. If he had been Black but a landscaper he might not have been accepted. If he had been White but a lawyer he might not have been accepted. But both? Yeah he was rejected. And she lets that upbringing, and yes there are girls like her, let her look down on him. I have met some Jack and Jill girls and AKAs that are a perfect fit. The movie is about how, in a moment when she let her guard down, she allowed herself to experience him, just as a man. Then her guard went back up, and she went back to her picture perfect guy. Only to find out pictures don't always tell the whole story and she was actually happier with the landscaper. The story could have played itself out very similarly even if he had been a Black landscaper.

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  49.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Zebra head The Score Boiler Room Soul Man Monster's Ball The Body Guard Besieged MI2 Things we lost in the Fire Feast of all Saints The Courage of Love Dance with Me Made in America One False Move The Truth About Charlie The Last Place on Earth The Time Machine

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  50.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Cheers to you Queenie, you actually admit you hate black women. Let's just hope for your sake that doesn't lead to finding dead bodies in your basement. Something New is one of my favorite movies because it was a realisic look at Interracial Relationships from the black women's point of view and the pressure she was under from her friends and family to stay within her race. The main character was flawed, but you liked her because she wasn't perfect. Her family was successful, black social elites. And really the movie to me had a lot more to do with social standing then race. It was realistic, romantic and sexy. I loved it. I think anyone who is going to do a movie about interracial relationships should take a page from that movie. Ive read a lot of interracial romance novels and most of them are written by black authors. Most the books I've read are fairly well written but I've read one of two of them that were either A)not written by a black woman or b)poorly written and you can tell this person has never been in that type of relationship. Sandra Kitt is a great author who use to write a lot of IR romance novels that actually brought the main characters together in an unsual circumstance.

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