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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Member says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    LOL Dear Bama Sure, I hate black women. I don't even think you believe that. The movie "Something New", I saw that movie. I think you are fudging the facts. It was a blind date and she didn't know he was white. He wasn't pursuing her in the beginning. It is a confusing movie. Sanna Lathan was a pain in the ass. I actually felt sorry for the white guy. She just came off really "shallow". She was "hung up" about race more than he was. I documented that last year on my blog. She is just the type of black woman that is very insecure. She wants a "Professional man". But ends up with a white guy that is a "Landscaper". She wouldn't date a black man that was a "Landscaper" like in "Baby Boy". Tyrese's step daddy, I forgot his name. Anyway, "Something New" just made sellout black women look "insecure and anal". You didn't analyze Lakeview Terrace very well. Both characters were pathetic. The white boy going on a rant about making "Samuel L Jackson lose his job" because he allegedly "wants to mess up his relationship with Kerry Washington". It was almost like the white guy was annoyed Samuel L Jackson was a cop. White men have a big problem with "Black men in authority". Kerry Washington wanted a child. The White guy "goes off on her" because she didn't use birth control or something like that. It was a bit disturbing. Kerry Washington's white husband just came off "very paranoid". He didn't even like "her father". The white guy was upset. It is not uncommon for a black woman's father to give you "hell". Trust me, I know first hand! At the end of the movie he gets shot lol. It is safe to assume in real life the white man will not be dating you with all that damn drama. LOL I am sort of mad that Will Smith produced this stupid movie. Never saw Guess who is coming to dinner. Anything with Ashton Kutcher is fake to me. He does not even come off like he likes black women. I don't even know how that movie was so successful. The market is saturated with interracial novels. The problem is white authors are not exactly writing endless novels about being with black women. They tend to sound all the same. White authors are so of afraid to say anything "negative" about black women. Try to be "honest" in your book or don't do it! Black women like to "be stroked" with romantic novels. But they want some "edge" to their books. My woman read these stupid "romantic thug books". It is real sexually graphic but revolves around black men being former criminals trying to do "one last hustle" to make it "big". I assume he will take his black woman "along for the ride" with his fame and fortune. The same with interracial novels. The theme is "semi rich white man" rescuing me from my "mundane" life. Personally, I read Robert Greene books like Art of Seduction and 48 Laws of Power. I read many books and autobiographies. People don't respect the fact I do my homework on black women.

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  2.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    ok thanks.I'll be looking out for those "Alabama clues"LOL

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  3.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    YEs it is. I think she is a Bama girl because she talked A LOT about our state and things we know being from there that most people wouldn't. But Rock Star is a great book. It will be worth your dime trust me. :)

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  4.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @Bamababe I typed that title in and a thousand things came up. Is the author Roslyn Hardy Holcomb?

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  5.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @Bamababe I don't like romance novels but that Rock Star sounds good.Alabama?? What??LOL. I think I will check it out on amazon. You are right.Something New, I liked that movie. I didn't like Lakeview Terrace. I don't like how it portrayed an educated, successful black man trying to properly raise his children as STILL having something wrong with him. I haven't seen Guess Who;Ashton gets on my nerves sometimes,lol. Good looking out. Peace

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  6.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @queens I'll leave you at this: you still hate black women no matter what you say. I think you believe any woman who dates outside her race is a traitor and should be punished. You may not come out and say it because you don't want to be seen like a hater of his own race, but it's the truth and maybe one day you'll own up to it. Now, I'm done with that conversation because I know people are getting bored with us going in circles. As far as movies go in Something New, Simon Baker did pursue the main character. She denied him at first because he was white. They went on a blind date but the second time they went out, he asked her so, yes he came after her. In Love Song with Monica (if anybody has seen that) the white guy in that movie came after her. She was enaged to a young black soon to be dr. but she met this white musician and they fell for each other. He was the one who made her re-examine her life. Simon Baker did the same in Something New. Lakeview Terrace I hated because it made Samuel L. Jackson look bad and it was a bad plot but they were already married so really that movie didn't focus on how they got together. Guess Who? They were already together too and the white guy quit his job because his bosses didn't like him being with a sista. The book I'm reading right now is about this rich white guy pursuing this black woman. Good book so far. I wish there were more movies out about IR couples especially black women and white men. I know there are LOTS of IR romance novels out there that are featuring that these days. Surprisely, I find a lot of these books at my local Wal-Mart. In fact another example of this is the book Rock Star which I think a lot of you would enjoy about this white rock star who pursues this black chick in all places Alabama. It too me is a realistic look into why some black women are afraid to pursue relationships with white men, of course in the end there is a happy ending.

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  7.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    EDIT: Thick, however does NOT include a gut or large flabby stomach,lol but large hips,thighs and rump without said gut,lol.

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  8.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Some may enjoy the "black" look that comes along with being or looking mixed, if black and white happen to be the the combination. I think black mixed with hispanic is THE most beautiful combo, LOL. There is VERY little chance they will not be attractive once grown,lol.The child will have the best of both worlds, just my opinion. It doesn't matter about where emulation of big butts began it just matters that many black(not all) like them at THIS point in time. Some of us who still are attracted to our own men as well as others, desire that which would attract them,period. Thick, however does include a gut or large flabby stomach,lol but large hips,thighs and rump without sid gut,lol. As a woman who is attracted black men, I like to study and understand what they like.I think this is a natural response in the mating of all species. @ms godiva...blessed are the peace-makers. I will take your ever wise advice and not respond to sexyeyes/renee,lol. I have never seen you respond in a cliquish way so I repect you. You say what you have to say and never try to get an approval or "backing" from anyone. I have great respect for you as always. Peace

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  9.   Member says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Damn That is a white girl's ass. What is really going on? Not only are white women stealing black men. They taking your "large rump too". Anyway, I read some of the comments. It is simply amazing to me that people "indirectly" blame for the way a conversation goes. The original topic was why do white men love black women? Judging from the comments, very few white men replied with any substantial things to say about black women. Other than, I like her "sexually". I ask the tough questions that nobody wants to ask. They all want to be "friends" here. Godiva , god bless her but Bama really got out of line. I don't even know where the conversation went left at. Bama made an earlier comment about "other black men" using white men. I told her " I agree". Apparently, she was off her "meds" the next day and lashed out. LOL How about stick to the topic people. Why do white men love black women? The few that do! Tatt you are going to sue me. I will spank your "rump". I am changing names in the book anyway. Lastly, I read the Washington Post article and similar ones. It always says "Black women should date outside their race and etc". Always something similar to that. I have never seen a movie that showed " a white man" actively seeking a black woman. "Something New" didn't do that. It was the black woman's point of view. "Lakeview Terrace" never did that. It is from the point of view of a disturbed black man. Guess who is coming to dinner with Ashton was sort of a Bernie Mac point of view comedy. That really does not count. Please somebody tell me where they did a movie with the "lead character who is a white man" actively seeking a black woman to marry. Oh yea, Monster's ball don't count because "he felt sorry" for Halle Berry's character. Why does the media or Washington Post never say "White men should date black women"? They never seem to encourage white men to date outside of their race, much less BLACK WOMEN. Now "chew on that". Everyone have a nice day. That "Street Medicine" is suppose to cure you and it is not going to taste good!

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  10.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    LOL. Reading the comments about the mixed like. Nothing wrong with that. Some of the most beautiful women I have seen have come from heavily admixed regions. If any people here have a problem with mixed people's looks (not speaking of the haters who hate all mixing), then they are definitely on this site for the wrong reason. As their children will be mixed. And yes, many people will find their look very appealing. It is not that they like the "White" look. It is that they like the combination of features from different populations. Not even necessarily Black and White.

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  11.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Uh, while big butts in African women are indeed admirable, Europeans did not create the Bustle in imitation of them. It actually started with the crinoline as a way to stop the drag of the hemline. In time it did evolve into a sexual imitation, especially with the corset. By the way, there were women in Europe that had larger rumps and were emulated as well. I have seen many Slavic women with nice rumps. They are just less common. http://i188.photobucket.com/albums/z156/Lumpdogg60/bigass.jpg?t=1267280222 No, Europeans did not tan, wear lipstick or curl their hair to try to look African. They emulated those that had those features among themselves.

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  12.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    And yeah...."DAFFY".....call your "rag" that first title and I would hire myself a VERY GOOD lawyer, if I were you..... You know NOT the ways of the REAL TATTED ONE......LOL.

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  13.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Godiva......my genuine love for you has been reaffirmed. Within that exchange with MzBrown, you just gave a living example that you don't have to be in a "clique" to give/receive love (in the form of deep respect) from another woman. I have a deep admiration for your tact AND patience.....sometimes I admit I am lacking in those departments here.....the internet demon rides my back sometimes and the temptation to just let my wicked sense of humor take over just becomes to much to bear.....LOL. Oh and as a side note...... When did exploiting someone become synomynous with "making them sexy"????.....Because if that is what we are talking about, white men HAVE done that as well!!! Waaay back when some were fascinated with the large rump the African woman and thus, the use of the "bustle" became popular amongst the white women.....NO ONE so-called race of man has exclusivity on how to make/be an ass....*tee hee* Thank you and good day AND....of course.... Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  14.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @MzBrOwN SuGaR, Amen, Amen! You just said what I was basically trying to say all along, thanks! Yet sometimes when we feel the need to respond, say what you have to say, and then be done with it!!! We have no power to change a person's mindest, but we do have the power to change how we react to people! You ever been to a family gathering, and everyone is having a good time, laughing and joking, and then the drama/nonsense comes to TRY and ruin the good mood? I have a cousin who is infamous for the negativity he brings at these gathering's and it's alway's the same story about something that happened a million years ago. It wasn't until everybody started ignoring him and then he soon realized he had no audience, so it stopped!! love godiva

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  15.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    @godiva61 And then too, when we give the obnoxiouz an audience, we play right into their hands. I guarantee you, if the ladies here, and men too for that matter, would stop reading and responding to those rude and disrespectful posts, this forum would go much smoother.

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  16.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    SexyEyes, What really makes you a sellout in the black culture? Who is the author or designer of black culture? Just curious as to why you would say something like that. That's my response.

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  17.   SexyEyes says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    The topic of this blog is....Why white men love black women? I'm a sellout in the black culture. In my boyfriends eyes, "I'm just beautiful." It such a good feeling to be loved and told your beautiful everyday...Now why would I want to change that? Not in a million years. We are color blind...I can't wait for the response. I still love human kind and their cute behaviors. Where is my love? Right here next to me rubbing my back...

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  18.   SexyEyes says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    Where is that sexy guy I know...

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  19.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    @queens you still full of shit no matter what you say and each comment proves my point; you hate black women and you are jealous of white men that's the bottom line. I would have more respect for you if you just came out and said I HATE BLACK WOMEN. That way you don't have to hide behind your words to cover up how you really feel.

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    (Loosening up my tie) I am actually happy. It seems like you are bitter for some reason. Attacking Godiva for no apparent reason because she "checked" you on some things. I really don't know why you are so angry at me. It is not like my opinions are "universal". I certainly will not apologize for my opinions about black women. Godiva has a point about "negative" statements and bringing each other down. I don't bring sellout black women "down". They doing it for me! With these damn "infomercials" looking for a white man. I don't even call them interviews anymore. It is just "one bad" E HARMONY commercial. I respect Godiva's opinion and Big eyes opinion on topics. It is almost like you compete with men instead of just trying to "understand" a man. Do you even have a "man" in your life? You're whole demeanor is kind of "intense" Bama. You're poor white boyfriend ask for some dinner. You would be like " Your hands ain't broken" and kiss your teeth. You are a real piece of work! I like your passion though. Once again, Ike Turner made Tina the woman "she is today". Even "Tina" admit that. I am sick and tired of you talking about "Ike Turner" a living legend. I don't even call her "Tina Turner". I call her "Anna May", that's what her name was right? (country accent). The only reason she got a "second wind" was because the white man produced her song "what's love got to do with it". Great song but she was like 45 years old BACK THEN. She was wearing "hooker clothes". God bless her, but watch that video. Black women keep getting misinformed. I might have to work harder on my book to educate them. What's with these black women taking credit for everything black men did for them. Berry Gordy a living legend. He brought you all these great black women singers. But you attack Ike Turner. An older black man told me this story. It made so much sense. He said this "When a white man is in office, his wife says "HE is in office". When a BLACK man is in office, his black wife says "WE are in office". Na, your punk ass needs to stay in the background. no wonder you want to be with white men. So you can emasculate them, empty their bank account, and make them raise the children. Can the white man speak for himself anymore? His black wife dominate the conversation and tell "him to what to think". That book is coming and you are going to pull out "what is left of you're real hair". I am tired of this blatant abuse by sellout black women when you try to be nice to them!

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  21.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    @Bamababe2k9, Don't worry about the misunderstanding, we all been there, and maybe it was how I wrote it, we all need to check ourselves every now and again, that's what makes us better and stronger. I just want the best for you and your life and if it's ever anything that I can do or say that will make your life richer, I will do it! Say what you need to say and then be done with it, we all been there!! love godiva

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  22.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    Godiva I feel you on that and I guess I wanted to stand up and say ENOUGH! This dude has a right to his opinion but quite frankly I'm sick of the over anaylzing of the black woman by someone who doesn't know what the hell he is talking about. LOL From one sista to another, I appreciate the kind words and sorry if I missunderstood.

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  23.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    @Bamababe2k9, Maybe I wasn't clear about my point, it happens.. I think all black women here get tired of being viewed in a negative manner, it's unfortunate and so unecessary, and I think any and all adults should act accordingly and I'm not sure why the derogatory names and stereotypes have to be a part of a conversation, unfortunately for some, they will never stop!!!!!! No one here should be put in a position whereas they have to constantly defend themselves for their right to live their lives. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in how you feel, but more importantly I wanted you to know that you are much more than what someone calls you and I didn't(don't) want you to be discouraged! love godiva

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  24.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    @queens I just call it as I said it, you just full of shit and you are a bitter angry black man you fit every sterotype that is out there about the black men and your conversations with me just adds on to the negitivity you put on yourself. Like I said, insecure about your standing with the black woman just like Ike was with Tina. When she got too big he tried to suppress her by beating the song and spirit out of her but who lost that battle in the end? Your insecurity is why you are here and while you will continue to try to spread your negative vibes around here. Hell if it wasn't for a few of us actuality giving some attention, no one would probably care. You make some good points every once and a while but for the most part, you are full of it. @Godiva I have no idea what you are talking about. If there is something I said you'd like to address with me cool. But I was mainly speaking for myself and probably some of the sistas on here who get tired of being called sell-outs because we choose to date and think outside the box by a man who obviously has a disdain for the women he supposedly loves and I make no apologies for calling a spade a spade.

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  25.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    @Bamababe2k9, I had a patient a few years ago who was always coming into the ER for her svere asthma attacks. She was one of the many americans without health care, so the ER was her primary Physician. She wanted so much to be normal and to experience life to the fullest but the Asthma seemed to take over her life. She had this one passion, and goal that was always in the forefront of her mind. To be honest, that's all she would talk about, how much she wanted to be able to run! Eventually she was able to get health insurance and I found her a very reputable Pulmonologist. He was reputable and had a great repoire with his patient's. Not only did he treat their disease, he treated their spirit and their UNIQUENESS inspite of the asthma. One of the main reasons he is so good at what he does, is because, he himself, suffered with asthma all of his life. Sometimes we need to have EMPATHY for other's to truly get it. He first sent her to an Allergist, the allergist told her what she was allergic to and told her what she needed to GET RID OF in her house, he didn't emphasize to her what she SHOULDN'T BRING IN THE HOUSE as well. Eventually, they figured out it was the carpet that was the culprit. Now before they could figure out it was the carpet she was still suffering. Not as much, but she was suffering. The one thing that I admired about her was, she never lost focus on what she wanted to do, which was run. It took them almost 2years to get the asthma under control, but guess what? Last October she completed a marathon!!!! I don't have asthma and I don't think that I could complete a marathon, so I admire her! I guess you are wondering why I am telling you this?? Just like my patient, you are a woman, who happens to be black, and who God made, in a UNIQUE manner!! That being said, you do NOT represent ALL BLACK WOMEN, NO BLACK WOMAN DOES!!! Woman is SINGULAR, WOMEN IS PLURAL!!!! Don't lose your focus on the UNIQUE plan for your life!!!! You are NOT what other's call you, you are NOT a stereotype!!!!!! When people behave in that manner, it say's more about them, than it does you! It doesn't matter there color, creed, gender, eye color, hair texture, bad behavior is bad behavior! I think it's time to stop with the black men, black women, white people, polish people, irish people, short people, thin people, etc, etc stereotyping! I don't know ANY person on this earth who has met EVERY person/gender in a particular race, your's as well!!!!!!!!! Your skin color does not define one's character!! love godiva

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  26.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    @MzBrOwN SuGaR, I have often said and FIRMLY believe that the tongue(words) are a very powerful weapon!!!!! Words can uplift, breathe new life and restore a wounded spirit. Unfortunately words can be used to do just the opposite. I have spoken with so many, too many, young men and women who were the victims of ill-will, vicious and deragotory words early on in life, and now most are adults who are incarcerated for various crimes, however there first experience's with incarceration came early on in life, via ill-will and vicious words!!! Wether these words spoken to them were intentional or not, the end result almost always end up in some sort of self destruction(bad choices)due to the lack of feeling no self worth, because someone decided to break them down early on with words of discouragement, instead of words of encouragement(true uplifting). I to hope that these negative, demeaning, rude words, and generalization's do not create a wider gap between black men and women, and the one's who indulge in this behavior, BOTH THE MEN AND THE WOMEN, will prayerfully, one day, cease with this verbal genocide!!!!! It can be done, but only when EACH man and woman take full responsibility for their own words! One need's to ask themselves from time to time, "what's in my heart to make me speak these word's, what is my motive for speaking these words"?? Out of the heart, the mouth speaks! It's IMPOSSIBLE to uplift people, while you are dragging them around on the ground!! My only advice to you, even though you didn't ask my advice, but because I love you, and care about you, LET NO MAN, WOMAN, BLACK, WHITE,SHORT OR TALL, DRAG YOU DOWN!! If and when you let people drag you down, you usually have to stay down with them! That is not the plan for your life!!!! love godiva

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  27.   Member says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    Dear Bama This is the fundamental problem with black women. They "think " they know what black men and white men are feelings. How do you know black men don't agree with me? You have no clue what is going on. That is why black women have such a high failure rate in dating. If you took time, to listen and acknowledge what men felt about you. Things might get better for you. My personal life is on record. I got a college degree, no kids, two jobs. I am a Christian. My parents continue to be married for 31 years. It is beneath me to respond to you but I do. You "crowed" something about black women being unable to put up with me. That might be true because I don't "bullshit". I have less compassion than the average person. The truth is men that are "Professional" they intimidate black women. They all say "well men can't handle a strong woman". Na, you can't handle a strong man. That goes for all men. When shit get difficult, black women will blame everybody but themselves. White men is taking "good black women" from who? They got you in the back of the "food court line". You need to reevaluate the reality. Go outside and look around. I don't even need to "rub it in". If the so-called white man is taking you away from black men, how come you still on television whining and complaining. Why the books and movies? You need to take your gripes to white men. Black men like me is "comfortable". That is not arrogance that is confidence! LOL Tina Turner reference. If it wasn't for Ike . Tine be a little "country girl" cooking meals and singing in church until she 70 years old. Do not insult Ike Turner. Who do you think wrote Tina's songs? Who taught her how to be a "show woman"? Stop listening to loosely based movies. I will go even further. Who made black women exotic in music videos? US, black men did that. We said "thick or full figured" black women are sexy. (Pounding my chest) We did that. No white men said a big black girl is sexy. But they love you so much. Stop playing games on here. Read that Street Medicine it will help cure you. By the way, if I wasn't in a relationship. I would still be pulling black women. I adapt to black women well. I am charismatic individual.

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  28.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    @queens and yet you do a good job of hating hater. You have never answered a personal question about yourself and your personal life yet have the nerve to question others. The white man is not saying anything because quite frankly, you are making their case for them. You come off as an arrogrant, jealous hearted, and angry. The black men on here don't answer because they probably think you sound like an idiot and you make them look bad. It's funny to me that you getting defensive now when someone questions your motives which are what? Helping whom? My dear you are frustrated because you feel like the white man is taking good black women away from men like you that's the bottom line to all this. It's not about black women dating white men for you, it's your personal insecurities which is you feel like you are superior to the black women and when a woman sees this, she runs away screaming. You want someone to be the Tina Turner to your Ike, the Cecily to your Mister. You want to be OVER a black woman and the truth is, most sistas won't put up with you.

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  29.   Member says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    (Raising eyebrow) My insecurities as a man. I don't harass people. I question if interracial dating is "helping" black women. It is a valid question. It is really easy to attack people instead of getting to the "root problem". You act like I stop people from commenting. You criticize me and you make your suggestions to black women on the board on how to date. Not just you, but most of the sellout black women on the board had a "lecture" moment. I don't know how they can give advice and they ain't had a white man since 2001 when George W Bush was in office. I speak for myself not other black men. Most black men are "indifferent" to the point of "arrogant" about dating. White men don't even bother commenting because "they know black women are desperate". They won't say it, but I will. Contrary to what people believe. I read different blogs by black men and women. I am a man because I work 2 jobs, take care of a black woman. Pay all the bills in the house and etc. I do what I am "supposed to do". I don't know what you're definition of a man is. Perhaps, you are frustrated for dropping your panties for men you didn't "vet" properly. Perhaps, it is the white man that you emasculated and trained like a puppy to do everything for you. I prefer to think you don't have a man "at all". My blog is to uplift black women. You might learn something. Your ego won't allow to realize what some black women do wrong in dating. Instead, their first reaction is " to lash out". Black women are emotional women. It take them off the "path" to much. Good day

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  30.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    @queens you are so full of it. LOL You really believe most of the stuff you spout such as helping black women. First of all who appointed you Lord Savior of US? I didn't ask for it and most of us on here didn't. Like I said what it comes down too it, is your own insecurities as a man. I won't go on a black love websites harassing black folks and calling them "racist" for dating within their race but you feel need to come on here and harrass the black women and the white men here because bascially you a hater. It takes a strong person to be secure within themselves to date outside of their race, you obviously aren't that strong. So, you feel the need to "save" us when in truth you sound like someone who needs to be saved. You have nothing better to with your time then try to preach to a bunch of people who quite frankly don't give a damn about what you think. I don't think your words has helped you or other black men, if anything I'm sure it probably turned more women off. You want to help black men? How about you acting like a man and being an example of what manhood is about and that's loving and respecting other people. That to me is a REAL man.

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  31.   Member says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    Dear Bama and Sal That was an interesting assessment about me. No, I always dated black women in college. I was with an "AKA" and a "Delta". I was immersed in the "college subculture" of some black women. I have also dated black women straight from the "hood". Black women are not a monolithic group. However, a majority tend to follow the same behaviors and traits. You mention Barak Obama. From my understanding, Michelle Obama "didn't like Obama" at first. She said "he grew on her". You are trying to make it seem like it was "love at first sight". I respect Michelle Obama but she was "smart enough" to take a chance on Obama. She said "him playing basketball with her brother convinced her". Most black women that fit "Michelle Obama's" achievements and profile would be chasing a man that was an athlete or a man that have multiple women after him. That is why so many of them fail! Now, if you are going to tell "the story", please tell the whole story. Jealous of white men is the biggest misconception about me. White men really don't compete for women. Black men always feel we can have a woman. Tiger Woods said it be " I felt entitled". In particular, black women. Basically you sellout black women are "orchestrating" this whole "white men want me movement". I can't recall any significant white male bloggers worshiping black women. That alone should make you think. You mention my blog and its absurdity. I question sellout black women and their blogs that worship white men, and damn near, never have a white man bother to comment on it or read it. That is pretty bad when the men you worship really don't give a damn. You see me as angry black man. I see myself as a 'driven person" that is motivated to help black women. I often believe it is better to "care" than to NOT care at all. Sal made the comment about other races of men allegedly not talking about you. That is funny, I see them ranting about black women behind your back all the time. Off the computer and on the computer. They call you "sheboon" "baboon", "whores". I am surprised you can't believe some white men say this. I know what you are going to say "not all white men say this". Quite interesting, the same reason they don't go on your blog. As some sellout black women would say, "they are afraid to approach me". Na, they just are not interested in a majority of black women. Come back with tough questions for white guys who refuse to date some black women. Before you address a "Legend". I told you why I wrote Street Medicine. In response to Mz Brown, it would be laughable to see you on television still peddling this myth that black men stop you from dating a white man with dirty sneakers. The whole theme of sellout black women dating outside their race is because "they can't find a good black man". Why don't you tell the truth and stop using white men as a crutch because you are afraid to grow old alone. I rather you just say that, instead of scapegoating black men for your poor relationship skills.

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  32.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    I honestly hope all those dumb, childish "sellout black women" remarks and blogs just encourage black women, even the more, to date and/or marry whom ever they please. Why? The main reason is cause you grown, and it's yo bizness. I also hope it doesn't build an even bigger wedge between black women and black men. I find it kinda odd, a person goes on and on about their so called education and executive status, and still spends so much time peddling ignorance. I would be laughable if it wasn't just really sad.

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  33.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    While you are at it, write a book on why you care so much about the less than 4% of Black women who date outside their ethnic group. I don't see White men, Latino men or Asian men ranting about it left and right. Tell us how this less 4% is affecting your life so much that you dedicate entire blogs to it.

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  34.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    @queens sounds like to me you just can't handle a strong woman. Any woman who has the nerve to better herself and chooses to have a career and a family, you seem to not handle well. Seems to me like men like Barak Obama who has a strong black wife can handle her being his equal. Doesn't sound like you can. I don't think black women are failures, if anything we've held our race up with our strength and conviction, you obviously don't appreciate that, therefore you get jealous when white men do I see you as the angry black man who blames everyone for his troubles but yourself. Blame black women for being too strong, blame white folks for keeping you down etc, etc. Rather then trying to bring yourself to her level. So, while you are questioning other people's love lives, maybe you can take a mirror and hold it up to yourself and ask why can't I attract the RIGHT woman in my life.

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  35.   Member says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    Dear Bama I welcome the different point of views. There is plenty of room for writers. I welcome the competition. Obviously, the sellout black women "like you" having dominated the interracial topic for some years now. We can argue on the merits of it "working for black women or not". I give credit where it is due. Karyn's Book "Don't bring home a white boy". That was pure marketing genius and she happen to have a "media friendly" group to talk too. Oh yea, I noticed the promotion of "other sellout black women bloggers". The difference is "we won't be denied". A matter of fact, we should get royalties off your damn book for talking about us so much! Your book on how to attract the right woman. Yea that would be interesting. Black men nor white men are having "problems" in the dating scene. What bullshit are you really putting up? We are suppose to wait for you to stop being a 'career student". Going to college for half your damn life. Oh yea, take care of kids that are not ours. Not living up the "standards" you got on paper. Sorry not everybody can be Brad Pitt and Michael Jordan. White women sellout too but I hardly see them bash white men. I don't see on television saying " Yea girl I am getting me a black man". These white men "is no good". If you write a book, I will read it. I think it would be interesting to do a book with one of these sellout female authors and just to put it out. Separate books put out at the same time. Just brainstorming something like "Why black women fail", Why black men fail the real story behind interracial dating. I am nice all around. Sometimes I surprise myself. I shouldn't even mention my ideas here. I am so creative it does not even matter.

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  36.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    @queens Maybe you don't see that because white men actually to me have shown more respect towards their women whether she be white or black then I've seen some brothas such as you have towards us. You see unlike you, a lot of white men love a woman who speaks her mind, is feisty, smart and sexy. things that apparently you forgot that makes us special. What I get tired of hearing is men like you calling us sellouts because we refuse to put up with your bullshit. You want somebody to worship the ground you walk on as you piss along the trail, but if we expect the same respect, you say we are complaining and bitching and it sounds like we need to be put in our place. So while you are writing your book about us, I'll be right beside you or even ahead of you with mine call "How to attract the RIGHT woman". I'll set a chapter for you, the angry man.

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  37.   Member says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    The internet is just an outlet for what you feel "outside". I am the same person here ( more toned down in real life). I get along with "older black women more" than the younger black women. This blog just gives you an opportunity to say things you normally do not get to say in public. Eventually, this "persona" will be public. I want to write a book and than just "really go overboard" in real life to promote it. I am sick and tired of seeing these Tavis Smiley Negros and Steve Harvey Negros speaking for me man. Leading black women astray. They can't do an article without mentioning black men. All roads leads to us, even with your WHITE MAN! Show me an article where a white man and his black wife do not get along. They ain't never going to write an article with a white guy saying "Yea my black wife runs her damn mouth to much and loves the fridge. Yea, but his black wife can call him a "sissy" for being a "stay home dad". Talking about " I lose respect for him". The white guy didn't even flinch or smack her face for that comment on National Television. Anyway, the sellout black women 'know I am coming". It is just a matter of time. This Washington Post article was the last straw. They made the white husband look like "baby Jesus". I really don't know long black women can continue to fail at this rate. This is a national joke. Damn, it has been 10 years of the same shit! The damn editor who wrote this "rag" asking the same questions "other" lonely sellout black women "editors" write. How about, why your black husband left your ass? I can't find a man on "my level". It ain't get better for yet! It is 2010! Latina girls are now picked before you! Latina girls??? with no damn green cards. "Start over again like the Healthcare Plan". That is what all black women need to do. My blog can only help so many of you at this point. I got so much material for like 7 books! http://mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  38.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    "Blog Legend" Oh wow. LMAO!! I hope I never consider myself an internet legend of any kind. That is when your outside life has been usurped by your online life.

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  39.   Member says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    You look good for 51. But you are addressing a "Blog Legend". You like attention too. LOL Let's not play games here. Where is your "black boyfriend"? You are very intriguing.

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  40.   mecca77 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    but guess what you better hope you look this good at 51!!!

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  41.   mecca77 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    look laurelton you are definetly barking off the wrong tree.. down boy.. what makes you think i do not have a ring. i do not have to justify anything too you. so be well. and do not give yourself a headache i know you like attention. and as far as your book been there done that!!!

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  42.   Member says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    QQ Mecca LOL Your lucky I don't disrespect the "elderly". I will give you an personalized autograph of my book when I release it. You have a nice day. By the way, he is just a "boyfriend". Get that ring on your finger. THAN, maybe you will convince me being a sellout is working for you. Some of you women need some "medicine". It is not over the counter either. It is the cold harsh truth that my blog provides.

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  43.   mecca77 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    who gives a rats ass. laurelton as far as i am concerned you can you can take a hiatus off this planet. your a joke to me. your hung up and have daddy and mommy issues. seek dr. phil. i love my irish american laddy. and he loves me. so call me what you want. but just do not call me late for dinner.

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  44.   Member says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    Stop promoting that stupid book by Karyn. The Washington Post had the nerve to promote sellout black women bloggers that continually bash black men! This is simply amazing to me. They are using a source like "Evia" and these other nappy headed sellout black women that call black men negative comments. The same story but with a different black woman attached to it. I think journalism has finally failed. She went to Harvard but can't figure out why she couldn't keep her marriage together with her black husband. Now it is an accomplishment to marry a old white man that lost his money to his white wife and their kids. I don't care if he knows Russian. Apparently, he got interested in "Karyn" when he found out she was a lawyer with a bank account! Living off his black wife's money. This piss poor journalism is filled with "observations" instead of facts. You think this type of article about a black couple married. I had to release "SELLOUT STREET MEDICINE" for sellout black women EARLY! My book is coming out Summer 2010 on Amazon right next to the sellout black women authors. I might call it "tatto that on your forehead". I might call it "WHY BLACK WOMEN FAIL". When was it okay for desperate black women to parade around in the media cry and whining, when they caused the dating problems with their reckless behavior? I took a hiatus but I am coming back. (Slamming the door)! http://mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  45.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 10

    scoff/sarah I'm glad you two are doing well. Sarah, trust me there are SOOOO many OTHER things to be truly "embarrassed" about. You kissing a "white boy",lol is not as bad as it could get,at least you ENDED UP with the man,lol. Oh, and I love your appreciation for "divine intervention" it takes great faith,TRUE strength and courage to believe and some people just don't have what it takes. Peace

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  46.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 25 Feb 10

    Salassin...I also must say taking this from Looney Tunes to Disneyland was quite a stroke of comedic genius....LOL....FUNDERFUL!

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  47.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 25 Feb 10

    Hey Ich....I would have definitely called for their to be an end on that policital chat if I had not been on hiatus here....LOL. It's all the same BS to me in the end....race, religion, politics...and yet it IS intriguing. Lots of BS has that potential....LOL. Actually I want to thank ALL the guys (Salassin,boots, fenway, etc.) that managed to hold their own in here whilst the political madness reigned. Guys just seem to have that ability to talk to (or even at) one another without it getting out of control to the point where someone either gets jealous or some other nonsense (I will NEVER understand the minor majority of women....LOL). Much respect to you guys. Yo Teesa....lol......yeah, it is NICE when the "grown folks" have the floor....but sometimes.....SOMETIMES.....you just have to let the kid in you do the two-step....LOL. Some people suppress so many aspects to themselves they end up VERY UNHAPPY.....and IT SHOWS. PEACE and blessings tatted2death

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  48.   scoff/sarah says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 10

    Ms. Godiva; It is so good to know that your are thinking about us, it warms the heart, Just God Bless You and yours. One day soon I hope to meet you face to face, and yes Scoff will cook. That ol'Greek can cook, you name it and he will cook it. It's so good to be back, and I hope if my daughter continues to do good I'll be back home, and to my regular routine. Love you Ms. Diva Sarah Now a few words to Mr. MP Divine intervention, Scoff and I go back to the 60's, just to catch you up, he's white & I'm black,(very black) I will say this he's not very white, being 1/2 Greek he does get very dark,in the summer. ( anyway at my age I don't really care.) Just a past thought if you read some of the earlier post, you will get a chuckle, Like when I was 15 or 16 and thought what will people say oh My god I kissed a white boy (Scoff). I would of been shamed and ruined, my family would of never forgiven me, for just a kiss. So take heart if it is to be it will. (Divine intervention.) Love Sarah

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  49.   A.G. says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 10

    I've dated three white men in my fives years of dating( i am 23 yo). To be honest, after my experiences I am no longer attracted to them. They were only physically attracted to me and when I didn't let them touch me, they left. They claim to be from Christian homes, yet don't value my choice to remain a virgin. It's shocking to them where as black people wouldn't find it as shocking. contrary to popular belief, Black girls do not lose their virginity as fast as white girls. I had white girlfriends who lost it in high school! I don't plan to lose it until after graduate school when I find someone who has marriage potential. White men are nonconfrontational.They just stop calling and answering phone calls instead of saying, " its not going to work" and the few that do become cold and heartless when you remain polite and civil the whole time. I am on good terms with my East Indian bfs I've dated. Our values always seem to match up. I also find black men too "touchy feely" and it makes me uncomfortable. And Asian men are the same as white men personality wise. I find Latinos more respectful of my personal space than black men. Although I never dated a Latino, I have Latino friends and they are very respectful.

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  50.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 10

    OOPS! Wrong link here it is http://www.bvonlove.com/2010/02/17/dont-bring-home-a-white-boy/2

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