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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   kiki says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 10

    im half african (my dads family is from africa), a quarter white, and a quarter filipino. now thats a mix. my mom and my dad didnt last, but it wasnt racial reasons. my dad is married to a white lady and its been strong and there is no race problems. its funny because alot of people worry about what there family will think and sometimes you should, but in my particular family, no one cares. all my dads brothers and sisters are dating or married and have kids with a white person, except one who is married to a mexican and one who has a full black kid. my mom is filipino and white and dates blacks, her relationships dont last too too long but its her own reasons, non related to race problems. this also means her dad is white and her mom is filipino. we're all just a bunch of interracial dating people. we're all doing fine. did i mention all of my dads kids and his sister and brothers kids like white people and other races more than black. after all this time, still no race issues what so ever. srry i know i was a little redundant but yeah. why does race matter. if you love someone you love someone. some people miss out on such amazing people that could have been in there life.

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  2.   fire321 says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 10

    Hi, Ich Yeah, I've chosen to keep my posts to a minimum considering the direction the blog has been taking lately. I will not participate in any of the madness that's been going on around here. When things become civil and the topic at hand is being discussed, maybe I'll participate again. Good to see ya!

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  3.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 10

    Hi Fire, I must say, you've been pretty lowkey yourself. I read George's comment and found it pretty obtuse, but I was too busy commenting on another thread so I didn't respond to it. That's funny how you said you expected Queen's to be all over that one. I said the same thing, but like I told him some weeks ago, more pressing matters in "Essence reader calls cover model a white supremacist" required his attention. It's funny how predictable we find his motives and purpose we can almost anticipate, even expect a cameo appearance.

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  4.   Member says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 10

    Dear Fire I have been working with the kids in elementary school. I should say 1 kid. I also have another job working for the cable company. I write for entertainment. I prefer to call it "reality blog entertainment". You make a good point fire. You go where you are accepted. I just don't believe in this blog worshiping of white men to attract them. White men should get the balls to chase you. Stop blaming "her family or baby brothers" that want to beat you up. You act like black men don't get that intimidation. For the record, most black men ain't going to fight a white guy over "his black woman"! We gain nothing from it. Plus if we lose that we make us look stupid. Words might be exchanged , but I have never seen it happen. But white men being backing down or "saying nothing". You wonder why black women look at you funny. For the record, I am aware of interracial dating on the rise. I think 1/3 of the kids in this small PA Town is biracial. The majority being white women and black men relationships. From my observation, the white staff (the majority in this elementary school) treats the kids the same. But they do look at them as "black children" not "biracial". This is just my independent judgment here. The biracial children seem to be "taken care of" MORE than the fully "white children and black children". That was sort of shocking. My town is a rural economically depressed area. A lot black people here are from "Philly". Nice to see you Fire

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  5.   fire321 says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 10

    @Queens I don't have issues with light skin vs. dark skin. I just found George's comment strange whether it's a preference or a fetish. Personally, I love a nice chocolate brother over a lighter one but that's just me. Would I limit myself over skin color?... no. I do agree with you about going where you are accepted. I don't have time worry why this person isn't attracted to me. What one person doesn't like, the next one loves. p.s. Where have you been? You've been pretty low key lately.

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  6.   Member says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 10

    Dear Fire Me personally, I have always been with darker women.I got no fetishes or preferences. Some women got this thing about light skin women. What they fail to realize many light skin black women either have children by dark skin men or family members that are dark skin. I can never understand this "so called" bitterness towards black men choosing lighter skin women. Nobody says anything when dark skin women are with light skin men. My preference a "thicker" woman with thighs and a big butt. Skin color doesn't matter to me. I am dark skin, I am not going to cry if women do not like dark skin men. You go were you are accepted.

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  7.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 10

    To Fire321: Lol @ you :0) . 1st thing that came to my mind was Queens too. Well he was honest. He did say he find black women to be attractive, mixed ones. Hard to fault people for their attractions/fetishes etc... I guess. To George: You asked if there is some special way to get mixed females to notice you. I would say approach some of them and maybe ask them. Who knows, you might find one that want a white man that only want a mixed black woman. Imo, If one takes the bait, and that's the basis of the relationship, she might keep in mind there is always another lighter. prettier woman out there.

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  8.   fire321 says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 10

    @george I'm confused...are you saying you're attracted to black women as long as they don't look too black? you want to keep them light, bright and damn near white...wtf??? Am I the only one to find this strange? I was expecting Queens to be all over that comment...hehe

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  9.   george says:
    Posted: 29 Jan 10

    I am a whit male who finds some black femals to be very beautiful. I think that when a femal is mixed with black and white that there is some about the whole package that is great. There are a few light skined femals in some of my college classes who are some of the most beautiful people i have ever seen. Is there some spechial way to get a mixed female to notice me.

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  10.   Wg110212 says:
    Posted: 29 Jan 10

    I know, I misspelled him.

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  11.   Wg110212 says:
    Posted: 29 Jan 10

    Hello MustangDave, Insight and help in regards to what specifically? The questions was, "Why white men love black women?" It boils down to choice. Either the man chooses to be with the woman or he does not and the same goes for a woman. Either she is going to choose be with hime or not. The discussion about Adam was my way of saying, "Hey, we are not so different after all." As with all sites, I am sure what Mr. Queens said is true, so be careful. Best wishes

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  12.   Member says:
    Posted: 28 Jan 10

    Dear Teesa " Oh it's my fault" things are going bad. Show me where I called black women whores and trash? I am sick and tired of your false accusations. People have their opinions about subjects here. This is called freedom of speech. You never complain when white guys say "their opinions about black women". But I am the problem for you. If you got a man, why you even here then? This is a public board. There are plenty of private boards that everyone drinks the koolaid and agrees. Maybe that might be for you. Stop changing the subject and maybe help your fellow sistas find a way to get white men to marry them. 4 percent is a damn disgrace. I have to go. I am hardly here because I focus on my blog. Get your facts straight about me before you make shit up. Oh yea, have a nice day.

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  13.   Teesa says:
    Posted: 27 Jan 10

    Queens, why does it have to be about black women? I am with Dave on this one. This blog is disgusting and it is because of you. Your disrespect and accusations against black women in general is sad. You obviously have no respect for yourself or black women period! You don't know me or anything about me and generalize all black women as "whores" and "trash". I actually think you get a kick out of trying to spread hate and ignorance. Dave, I don't blame you one bit for not wanting to be a part of this blog. I really hope you find that special woman. I am sure you are intelligent to know that all black women are not evil and of low class. Queens... get some professional help you need it! I feel lucky that I am in a meaningful relationship with a real man. A man that doesn't disrespect women in a harsh and cruel manner. I have read some nice posts on this blog but Queens that last statement did it for me. You ruined it. As for all my beautiful sistas here, KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND STAY STRONG! AS WE ALL KNOW, IGNORANT MEN CAN'T DEFINE WHO WE ARE OR OUR SELF WORTH! WE HOLD THE POWER TO DO THAT FOR OURSELVES! Peace....And I really do mean that literally.

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  14.   Member says:
    Posted: 27 Jan 10

    Dear MustangDave I am here to help you understand some of these black women. Clearly, you don't understand how some of these black women are "wired". They are attention seekers and are unable to see their flaws and limitations. A chubby black girl will be the first to tell you she is the "finest" girl in the world. But you know what Dave, I am glad you are able to see the light concerning some black women on the board. I plan on distinguishing the "different" types of black women that you should be aware of in the future. So you can make the right decision in your personal life. Good day to you.

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  15.   MustangDave says:
    Posted: 27 Jan 10

    This has gotten so far off topic to what this blogs title suggest it is about. It has now become a sad joke. just a bunch of bickering and back and forth non-sense. I used to come here looking for some insight and help.... now I come here and see what this has become and its pathetic and disgusting...

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  16.   Wg110212 says:
    Posted: 27 Jan 10

    Wow! As always anything in relation to race is a hot topic. Has anyone ever wondered about the reason why? I will say this, God gave man dominion over this planet and Adam screwed it up. Mankind was separated by language, not by the color of his skin. You want proof? For those of us that believe in the creation of Adam, he was formed from the earth itself. Do an experiment and pick up a handfull of sand or dirt, is it just one color or is it made up of many colors. All the races where in Adam when he was created. So, I will say it again, God did not separate manakind by race, but by language at Babel. Eve was already there as well, she just had not manifested into a person. So, what is the problem with interacial dating and marriages, when in the beginning all races were together in Adam? Always remember that God is a Spirit and although we can not see him, he does exist. We cannot see the wind, but it exists, so why is it so difficult to belive in a power greater than man? Sounds like control issues to me; however, I digress. If you are attracted to someone of a different race, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it! I am a black woman married to a white man, whom I love and am in love with and yes there is a difference between the two. Yes, we receive the stares, from people of all races. I have even had a "brother" stare at me like he could take my head off and yet he was with a white woman at the time. I did not tell my husband because I did not want his Irish temper to flare up. However, it has become a joke between the two of us as we watch people watching us. My husband is old school. He opens doors for me, kisses my hand, carries my bags, holds his hand out to help me from the car, and encourages me in everything that I do. There isn't a day that goes by when he doesn't tell me that I am beautiful and yes he buys me flowers and other gifts just because. I have said all of the above to say this, the last time I looked God was still on his throne. How do I know, because the world is not in total chaos. I have six months to attend to my own affairs and six months to leave everyone else's alone. That's a whole year to work on myself. You see, I am still on this earth; therefore, I have not accomplished all God has put me here to do. I do not want to stand before Elohim with blood on my hands because i did not accomplish what i was put on this earth to do. We are all here for a reason. Do you know your reason for being here? No, well don't you think it is time to find out? We all have free will to make the choice to choose to believe in God or not. God is a gentleman and will not force himself on anyone. The choice is ours, either you believe or you do not. The job or charge of a Christian is to love God with everything within you and to love your neighbor as you love yourself. By striving to follow these two commands, we show the world Christ. "One plants, another waters, but God gives the increase." So, I will say it again, there is nothing wrong with mixing chocolate and vanilla, because we were all together when Elohim created Adam. :-) Remember: These are my opinions and beliefs and I am sticking to it! I have enjoyed all of the comments. The good, bad, and ugly. Why? Because we all have a right to choose.

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  17.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 10

    IT IS HOT & HEAVY UP IN HERE...UP IN HERE....

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  18.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 25 Jan 10

    Hey Paula, ya know us "older" women sure "preserve" mighty well......LOL. Besides since when is being in your mid-thirties make you "older". I suppose to someone with the mentally of a 12 year old that could be possible. I am not ashamed of my age.....why should I be??? Peace and Out

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  19.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 25 Jan 10

    Bitter women = women that don't "hold" Queens' "johnson".... ....LMAO Peace and Blessings

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 10

    Dear Paula LOL You are talking about my so called issues. You did say this: "i cannot in my hearts of hearts be onesided. right now i have a crush on this jewish guy. but he already told me not to have a crush on him. why i don’t know. most men i find here in Maryland anyway are reluctant to date black women. they look and stare and give this slight smile. but will not even come up to you and say hello how are. again dealing with male inferiority complex." Maybe, it is just your ass they are not attracted to. I mean, you lash out at me. But apparently, this Jewish Guy says "to your face", do not have a crush on me lol. WHO SAYS DON'T HAVE A CRUSH ON ME? I am having an AZ flashback when he did that to tatt! I maybe a lot of things but cruel is not one them. Then you blame the men of Maryland for your lack of attention. It is not even fair for me to come after you. You are around my mother's age or something like that. It ever occur to you that men in Maryland might feel black women are "standoffish". I have been to Maryland. It is no different than New York City. Black women have their guards up in the street. You are to old to know what is going on. Perhaps, go to a lounge or choir practice to meet a man. You admit you "lower your standards" for an old white man near his retirement. Your "white lover", as you proclaimed, is testing you like a broke down Honda. You accept this. That is the beauty of my blog. It is tailored for bitter black women like you. "THANK ME LATER" Album, read it, it will change your life. I know, I sound like an infomercial but it's true. It is not "Lady like" to curse. You have a good night. I hate black women lol. Maybe, my black fiancee will tell you different. http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  21.   Teesa says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 10

    Paula... you are awesome! This guy definitely has issues..Oh well..ignorant men will never go away but at least we still are strong sistas who know who we are and respect ourselves regardless of idiots! Good job Paula!!!

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  22.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 10

    oh i am on a roll.. here can't stop.. koo koo ca choo.. look laurtelton asshole queens i also feel you have deep seated latent homesexual issues as well. hidden so the next best thing to do is to come on a site down black women for their choices. we have brains you are not dealing with uneducated sisters here. you have resentments.. fix it. do you get high? i think you do. but thats my thought. i would not put it pass you. you sound like an ex-addict who converted. and still have mental problems. hey. you left yourself wide open for this one bud!!. just telling it like i see it. if it acts like a duck , walk like a duck.. quack , quack.

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  23.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 10

    correction. laurelton you have mommy issues no doubt. women issues period which is not uncommon . for many black men. will not go into the theorys of it. just like a lot of sisters do also. you hate black women. you really do thats my story and i sticking to it.

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  24.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 10

    and another thing laurelton is a bully he has issues his issues has issue. f--ck you laurelton why? because , you are a sexist , male. i really truly honestly hate black women. i do i look at the way you down these sisters for their choices on who they want to date. see men like you i eat for breakfast. i see you coming a mile away. people fear what they do not understand. and you lack understanding. i live versatility. i like having to make my own choices. i like being a woman. i like.me!! love comes in all shades no one have time to disect , an individual because of there race. these are people who cannot think outside of the box and you seem to be one of them. i hate bullys they are really punks in sheeps clothing!.. and hey why are you wasting time. you cannot change the world. so you have a deep seating personality conflict with self. you hate. you are a hater bottom line. your issues , have issues, seek dr. phil!!.. immediately before you explode.

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  25.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 10

    hey its me again. 85guy i got your comment i am a mother of a black son. he is a tech surgeon let me tell you something. i was blessed to have brothers in my life. who help me with the male aspect of my son. his father is german jewish-african american. yes! it happens.. lol his father's father died when he was young. plus he did not have the know how on parenting skills. but i was a single at 19. it was not easy but god led me thru. but no my son is not crazy about me dating whitemen. of course not . but that is my life i am an adult he excepts it. most boys are over protective of their moms of course. and i understand. men know other men. if he is no good they will tell you. trust me. but mustang dave on your comment i do not let someone faith bother me. i am glad i am versitile i studied islam. most people would say oh! don't islam frown upon marrying outside your race?. see misconception of a lot of people, i studied the torah. and of course the king james bible. you have to have a balance in life. i find. i cannot in my hearts of hearts be onesided. right now i have a crush on this jewish guy. but he already told me not to have a crush on him. why i don't know. most men i find here in maryland anyway are reluctant to date black women. they look and stare and give this slight smile. but will not even come up to you and say hello how are. again dealing with male inferiority complex. older whitemales are different than the young counterparts. they are imbedded with the old ways. and not so easy to rush into a relationship. some had bedded black woman . i am talking about a long term, relationship anyone can lay horizontally. but getting to know the woman. that's why i will not let any man , black or white test drive me. i am not a HUNDAI!

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  26.   Member says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 10

    "Eating popcorn" Big eyes didn't do anything to you. You seem to hold a grudge for a long time. They wonder why black women get an F- on their report card. Sometimes when you cannot say anything nice, it is best to SAY SOMETHING. You can't even bring yourself to say "you know what Big eyes I dislike her ass". You rather dance around it like Michael Jackson. Good day.

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  27.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 10

    Thanks Teess and Beauty..... for understanding what I was saying..... ANYONE WITH HALF A BRAIN can see it was a POSITIVE message at it's core. >And for the "Daffy" one Why is it that you "hate" whenever I get "love" here????....Don't answer that....I ALREADY KNOW!!....I have explained before that I don't need to address everyone on everything here. And maybe you....NO obviously you weren't taught "sometimes when you can say anything nice, it's best to say NOTHING at all" Peace and Blessings TO ALL tatted2death

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  28.   Teesa says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 10

    This is for the women... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJiOWShBsvQ I love Erykah Badu's song "Bag Lady". The lyrics are deep and every woman should live by this song.

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  29.   Teesa says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    LOL!! This place is crazy! "Sellout Black Woman" hmm..... LOL! I have to say that label is so...funny! It doesn't bother me in the least. Call me whatever you want. I would rather be a "sellout black woman" than a sad, pathetic,low self esteem, miserable woman period! I have been with my man for over two years and I am happy beyond description! I love it here! Wow...this place is so entertaining! :) Queens...you are hilarious!

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  30.   Teesa says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    I feel that one day this topic will not be an issue. The world is changing. America is changing. In my opinion, the present generation cares less about who dates who and why. Most people my age and younger that I converse with think it is just silly. I rarely come across people who refuse to date someone because of racial and cultural differences. Although... In the rural areas they are a little bit behind in accepting people without presumptuous thoughts of stereotypes in my opinion. I know..I know... it happens everywhere but I can only state my experiences where it occurs frequently. Oh well..the world isn't perfect but it is changing. Thank goodness for that.

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  31.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    (Clapping for the peanut gallery) These poor sellout black women being influenced by the 'Tatted" one. Big Eyes yea Book of Eli was a good movie. Tatt continues to make excuses for white man when they pick her last and ignore her. She didn't learn her lesson with AZ. Now she is looking for sympathetic sellout black women to share her misery. Beauty and Teesa this is a woman you don't want to end up like. She is very vindictive. You are going to say "no she is not". She don't even speak to Big Eyes with her rude ass. It's all good. The "Thank me Later" Blog album is taking off. No lie I AM HIGHER THAN I EVER BEEN. The "Money to Blow" ft Rocky is one of my best work. http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  32.   Teesa says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    That is very true Tatted. You can't feel sorry for yourself and worry about what other people think. You have to do you.

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  33.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    AGREED TATTED!

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  34.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    Big Ups to Tatted2death, From Tribal Wisdom (1992) by David Maybury Lewis "In the modern world we shroud our interdependency in an ideology of independence. We focus on individuals, going it alone in the economic sphere, rather than persons, interconnected in the social sphere." I see someone of Jewish descent interconnected in the social sphere. He is interconnected. Socializing in a group setting. That is the way to interconnect with anyone (white, black, red, brown, yellow). You can't swing a dead cat around in this country without hitting a white person! That is what they call a majority. If you make the correct effort to intermingle and assimilate somewhat you will have a place with whoever. Get into the red, brown, yellow, black, white social sphere if you want to interconnect with them.

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  35.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    Well, I saw the "Book of Eli" and it was excellent. Denzel's character certainly didn't have a problem with being "labeled" for what he believed in. He was , however "loose" with that machete,LOL. LOL, just having some more fun with it. Peace

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  36.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    You know, looking at the past few responses I have to say it'll be great when women of color don't have to EXPLAIN themselves about this matter. It will be even greater when "sad" people" stop feeling sorry for themselves....either you want to date white men (AND YOU DO IT) or you face facts (YOUR facts, NOT mine...lol) and leave it be. All this "woe is me" garbage is pathetic and does nothing for the image (yours, that is...lol) Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  37.   Janek says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 10

    Love to read the responses. It is very interesting to see that progress in loveing one onother is takeing place on earth.. It is a slow progress to overcome the color barrier for some due to liberal upbringing. Liberal political whores stir up the mud useing propagand through CNN, ABC or CBS. I am glad that some are aware of the divion created by thouse liberals who seprate us by color and classes. I lived and visted 13 countries and was astonished how dep rooted division still exist especialy in places like Ghana or Nigeria. Only through conservative media like FOX NEWS and freeedom to sepak without spin we can eduacte people of different colors that god loves us equally thus we ought to love one onother equaly. I escaped from communism and only want to warn you all what is comming unless we go back and see what the constituion is all about.

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  38.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 10

    AGREED...

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  39.   Teesa says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 10

    I grew up in a multi-cultural neighborhood. When I started to date as a teenager, race wasn't an issue. I didn't care about it or what others thought. If a guy was cute, fun to be around, and interesting, that was all that interested me. My first exposure to the whole race thing was when I was twelve. I had puppy love for this blue eyed, blonde haired friend of mine. We decided to go to the city fair. At the time this was in Memphis, Tennessee (1992) . We held hands and were very happy to be having our first little date. My sister was there with our other friend who was a cute red head. My father was glad to take us. He never had a problem with our friends being different races. Anyways,the people were staring and whispering the whole time we were there. That is when I found out what people thought about interracial dating and friendships. After that I still made friends and dated outside my race. I wasn't going to let people tell me who to date or be friends with. So dating outside my race has nothing to do with me not loving my own race. I dated black guys. I dated latin, indian, and asian guys too. A good man is a good man. Color cannot define that.

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  40.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 10

    I PERSONALLY THINK, IT IS ALWAYS GOOD TO KEEP YOUR OPTIONS OPEN! DOES IT MEAN YOU DON'T LOVE YOUR OWN RACE? IT DEPENDS ON WHO IT IS... SOME PEOPLE DO HAVE ISSUES WITH THEIR BLACKNESS, I KNOW. AND AS BLACK PEOPLE, WE HAVE ALWAYS HAD TO DEAL WITH LIGHT-SKINNED AND DARK-SKINNED ISSUES. SINCE I'VE KNOWN BETTER (LOL)... I'VE ALWAYS LOVED REAL DARK-BLUE MEN AND HAVE ALWAYS BEEN BADGERED FOR IT, BECAUSE I WASN'T LIGHT ENOUGH TO OFFSET THE COLOR. IS THAT CRAZY OR WHAT? AND GUESS WHAT? I HAVE A BLUE BLACK BABY! LOL... I REFUSE TO ALLOW SOCIETY OR ANYONE ELSE DEFINE WHAT PEOPLE...PLACES... AND THINGS MEAN TO ME!!!! I LOVE BLACK (DEFINITELY BLUE-BLACK), BUT I LIKE WHITE MEN, TOO! AND I WOULDN'T CHANGE ME FOR NOTHING IN THE WORLD!!!!! LOL.. MY LEAST CONCERN IS WHO BLACK MEN WANT.... I AM JUST CONCERNED WITH WHAT BEAUTY WANT...LOL

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  41.   BEAUTYBEYONDWORDS says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 10

    QUESTION.... WHEN YOU PREFER TO DATE ANOTHER RACE, DOES THAT MEAN YOU DON'T LOVE YOUR OWN? IS THE REAL REASON WHY WHITE MEN/BLACK MEN ARE BECOMING MORE INVOLVED, BECAUSE THEY HAVE BOTH BEEN "REJECTED" BY THEIR OWN? DURING A DISCUSSION AT WORK TODAY, SOMEONE POSED THOSE QUESTIONS - SO I AM THROWING THEM OUT THERE TO WHOEVER FEELS UP TO ANSWERING!

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  42.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 21 Jan 10

    Thank you e-dub, that was very insightful. However, I do think it's sad that one has to completely leave their faith to be with someone who is not a jewish person. Wow,I don't understand why it's so hard to accept conversion for the sake of marriage,either. I guess it goes back to how much do you love a person. If you want to be with someone truly, you will either convert to a particular faith or denounce it. hmmm...interesting. Peace

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  43.   e-dub says:
    Posted: 21 Jan 10

    Speaking as a Jewish Man married to a Black Woman; Jewish identity descends from the woman so if they woman is not Jewish the child is not Jewish. So a committed and religious Jew tends to stay inside the community and non-religious Jew who marries outside the faith tend to leave the faith completely. Additionally, Rabbi’s are extremely reluctant to accept conversion for the sake of marriage. I have a friend who converted and it was three years before the conversion was accepted. And just to answer the question about what kind of Jew I am. While, I practice my faith inside the orthodox community, I in no way hold myself as a paragon of Jewish thought or lifestyle. And we would probably be only accepted the way we are in Seattle because of just how incredibly unchurched this town is. When someone asks me what kind of Jew I am, I usually answer, “bad.” I hope that sheds some light on the Jewish Male/Black woman dynamic.

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  44.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 10

    I loved "In Living Color" one of the best comedy sketch shows around. I like the one where Jim Carrey and Damon Wayans pose as preachers....Hilarious. This reminds me of an encounter one of my brothers had. He met this jewish guy in the military and they became friends. The jewish guy asked my brother why did blacks hate them. My brother thought about it for a second and answered. He said that if we(blacks)"hated" anyone,it would be the "white" man,lol. The jewish guy says but I'm jewish and my brother says well, tell me how can we tell you apart? I thought that the was a very good example of communicating about our differences. I think both parties learned something about the other and possibly created a better understanding toward each other. Touchy subject but it allowed each person to ask questions and I believe each person went away, possibly a little less ignorant of each other and more accepting.

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  45.   Member says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 10

    Dear Ich I use to watch In living color growing up. Perhaps the most talented cast on television. Also, the Martin show and "Married with children". They don't make comedies like they use too. Anyway, Book of Eli is a great movie. I mean to say "the bible does have justification for violence. By the way Book of Eli makes a big reference to the King James Bible. I think even Atheists would like the movie because Denzel Washington doesn't try to force it on you. He just makes theories as to why the world ended up like this. There is different types of Jews. I think some white supremacists believe all Jews are wealthy and etc. In Brooklyn, Jews take up whole "project buildings". There is a hidden "homeless" Jewish population in New York. From my understanding, most orthodox Jews are "not rich". Yea some Jewish men have sex with black women. They hardly marry them. Even the Jews that are really not that committed to their religion. The way they were raised was to "look down" on black people and Hispanic people. Not all, but most. Go to Brooklyn New York,, walk around and see for yourself. Good day

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  46.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 10

    Bigeyes, I remember there were 2 skits on "In Living Color" where they had Jewish and Blacks together. One was a musical with Jim Carrey and Kim Wayans. And another was a dating service with Kelly Coffield and Damon Wayans. They were pretty funny. Jim Carrey dancing like Michael Jackson and Damon Wayans talking about being circumcised...TWICE ("...and I'm thinkin' about going back for another cut"). If ever, you'll see a Jewish woman with a black man before you see a Jewish man with a black woman. I wonder why that is? I don't believe there is anything to be MISINTERPRETED in the Torah regarding that.

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  47.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 10

    "Quite often, people the bible as “non violent”. But that is not really true. There is justification for violence especially against wicked people." No there isn't. People use the bible to justify their idiocy far too often. Vengeance belonging to God alone is mention many times. Some folks just can't seem to grasp that. "There is nothing more dangerous than a fool with a cause." Might I suggest you check out the thread "Essence reader calls cover model a white supremacist". It's more your cup of coffee. I reminded you before about losing focus, I'll remind you yet again. You've already seemed to lose focus on why you've wasted years of Saturday mornings in a church. Let's give a rest now, please. Bye the way, I plan on checking out the Book of Eli. A lot of people who've seen it say Denzel should be nominated for something.

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  48.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 10

    Hello Everyone I would like to apologize for being off topic so much. I would like to offer a reason instead of an excuse:I'm bored with the present topic, since there are not many white men or other races of men posting anything OTHER than the usual "canned" answers. I'm easily bored so I'm more apt to lean toward just about any subject. Queens I'm definitely going to go see the Book of Eli as soon as I find the theaters here. Denzel is a excellent actor and usually pick great roles. I knew it would probably have religious connotation to it. If the movie had that affect on you, it has to be good. Oh what the heck.... I think I would rather date someone who practices Judaism if I had to choose someone not of my religion.Obviously, christianity flows from Judaism. Only problem with that is Jewish people tend to stick to their own communities from my OBSERVATION(not saying this is fact). It is very uncommon to see a jewish man dating a black woman. If a choice to date and or marry a gentile, it's usually someone who is a least caucasian and not of african descent. I find myself physically and spiritually attracted to jewish men,when I can tell that they are jewish. Maybe because of the similarities in our religions...IDK. I apologize in advance for any offenses made to anyone jewish if I have said something ignorant but aren't we all, while we are learning?. Once again, the black woman is chosen last. Peace, I need to hang around more jewish people and learn. Oh BTW...if anyone is ever in the Houston area, I strongly encourage visiting the Holocaust Museum on Caroline street in downtown Houston. It's free and totally awe-inspiring. I thought I couldn't be moved by anything but african-american slavery. I'm not an emotional woman but I cried about what I saw.

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  49.   Member says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 10

    Dear E Dub I saw "Book of Eli". Obviously, a movie with religious overtones. It made me love Christianity all over again. Denzel Washington killed that role. Few Religious movies "conform" to modern times but this movie does that. Quite often, people the bible as "non violent". But that is not really true. There is justification for violence especially against wicked people. I will see Avatar soon. I have heard some criticisms about the movie. Common "theme" white man saves a "so called" third world nation. I haven't read up on it. Hollywood has always been that way.

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  50.   Amy says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 10

    To Mr.queen, racism is a bad religious that most white folks are practicing. Or you can call it a disease that is hunting them deep down. They are not even trying to find a solution for their sickness because they don't think they are sick. It will take them awhile before they realize its a sickness.Btw, I am from a culture that will not permitted to marry a white person because my grandparents used to think whites were colorless, selfish like a baby and know it all. Its a taboo to marry a white person. I will be thrown out from my family if I marry a white person because they look down to white folks. You and people like you need to be born and raised again with a healthy mind. Please tell me what makes a white person better just because he has pigs skin colour??? Please be your own healer.

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