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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Robs says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Oh btw. Thanks a lot bigeyes. I'm not frustrated with you or your answer. Just in general.

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  2.   Robs says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Well I'm what the New Age calls a "Cultured Christian" or "Christian by Culture" or whatever. I celebrate the holidays, go to church, I have read the Bible... I just don't believe it. I don't try to convince anyone. I just answer a simple question when asked, honestly. I get called the devil. If I was really influenced by the devil wouldn't I be lying about it and working crazy devilish agendas? I think people need to start thinkin' on their own instead of believing a book that was written 1600 yrs ago in the name of God without her permission. It's their loss if they are going to reject me for that. It's my loss too though! And that's what bothers me because I lose connection with an otherwise great woman. And like I said, even if the woman is strong enough to think on her own her family or friends go bonkers about it if they find out. My mom says I should lie about it and that it's nobody's business. I say lying about it is for Presidents and Mother Theresa. I don't lie.

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  3.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    @Robs I read your posts on this subject before and didn't get a chance to chime in. I can't and won't speak for all black women but I can say that THINK most black women from the U.S. were raised as Christians. Even if as adults, they may have gone another way as far as their beliefs but still exposed to Christianity. I don't have any statistics on this and of course there are the exceptions.As you may know, serious christians study and practice the principles of the Bible and the apostle Paul states that christians should not be unequally "yoked" with unbelievers. He asks the question,"How can two walk together unless they agree". Even if a black woman that you meet may not come out and quote scriptures to you, this teaching may be in the back of her mind so you get the response that you get. You will just have to search REALLY hard for a woman who isn't religious or is an atheist. You may find it easier to find a black woman who isn't a practicing Christian and doesn't attend church until Easter sunday or church at all than find one that DOESN'T believe in God. BTW I'm a Christian. Peace

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  4.   Robs says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    So It turns out E-dub is a white dude. Here I though it was a black woman telling me not to date black women a while back on here. Yeah I'm an atheist. I love atheist black women, Christian black women, muslim black women....it doesn't matter to me. I was just sayin my problem is that sometimes it's a problem to them that I'm an atheist! Sometimes... They can consider me perfect but then they find that out about me and it's like I've got the plague or somethin. peace

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  5.   BeaLvly says:
    Posted: 08 Jan 10

    Hello everyone! I hope that everyone had a safe and blessed holiday season. 85kguy asked a question about how many of us have sons. I would like to answer that question sir. I am the mother of a beautiful African-American son. He graduated at the top of his high school class, and today is an outstanding United States Marine. We are so very proud of him!

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  6.   2juicy4u says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    Wow it's getting hot and heavy in here lol. Everyone on this blog makes some very strong points but at the end of the day love is love and if your secure in every fiber of your being no one can hinder your growth, no matter what kind of monkey wrench/negativity may be thrown at you to assasinate a person's character. I like this blog it's real. Even if it gets a little from time to time the facts are the facts.

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  7.   Member says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    Dear E dub I disagree. Oh yea you left out something Robert. Still being married to your white wife is NOT want some black women want. Uh yea, you left that out.

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  8.   e-dub says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    Sorry folks, I’ve been away for a while. Dr Mr. Laurelton Queens It seems to me that you have a sour opinion of black women in general and black women with white men in particular. It seems that you think any relationship between a black woman and white man is based upon sex. As a white man who has been married to a black woman for eighteen years our relationship is not based on sex. We’re both too old and too tired -- #$%^ it. Just something to consider

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  9.   Robert says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    What do women of color want? Do you want the same things as any other woman of another color or culture? Here is my perception of what women in general want from a man: 1. Respect (mutual) 2. Honesty (no liar's laugh mixed with bs talk) 3. GOOD sense of humor about the things that r life 4. Secure in himself but not issueless/perfectionist 5. Good lover; attentive Input and elaboration from ladies appreciated

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  10.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    I wonder how many of these black women are mothers of black boys.

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  11.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    One thing we have learned in over 2000 entries is that there is a cross-section of black women who definitely prefer relationships with men of other races (lol). It is not a threat. The threat is the murders of young black males by young black males, the crimes committed that require overwhelming incarceration rates of black males, and the lack of black males attending and completing college. Black mothers and fathers need to teach their boys not to hate each other, to stay out of trouble with the law, to attend high school in preparation for college studies, and to be accepted to college with a goal to complete those college studies. I think we all can agree on that. Some black parents were not and still are not prepared for the task at hand. Everyone have a blessed and wonderful 2010.

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  12.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    Paula99, She puts it down "with conviction!!!"

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  13.   Member says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    Dear Paula I am hardly on this site. But sometimes the one that barks the loudest gets heard the most. Inmates accessing the system to go on an interracial site is quite amusing. Considering you use to work for the system. LOL Yea they got women lining up to the prison to see them off the computer. I am 31 years old, I actually meet more women that want dick more than me wanting pussy. It is much easier to get pussy than it has ever been. That goes to show how low some black women have sunk. 2010, I don't plan on holding back anymore. I never been with a white woman. But it sure is not hard attracting "one". Professional black men don't got a problem getting women. We are not on ABC news talking about " I ain't had a date in a decade". Y'all doing that. Why would I be unhappy? It is harder for me to be faithful than it is to be committed. God honest truth. It is a battle everyday. Simply, there are to much weaklings in the 'herd" of black women. I don't have an underlined hidden agenda. There is no conspiracy to keep the black woman from a love life or marriage. This is all in your head. You have a white lover, how about get a commitment and than come back. You just lectured black women on finding the right man but you "just got a white lover". Some old dogs can't learn new tricks. LOL I want you to respond back.

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  14.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    laurelton let me tell you a thing or two if you have a woman how come your on this site? not getting enought pussy?.. anywho.. no one is loose if anything i been dogged out by more blackmen than white men. you do not know a thing about me. so get off you high horse you do not want to match wits with me. i am begging you. do not go there!... you will be embarrassed. but do me a favor i do not have time. for men who trying to change the world. like i said leave these sisters alone. what make you think none of us have not dated men with degrees. i met plenty of then . you say that to say what . and yes. prison inmates do access the internet i worked for this system so don;t tell me shyte. apparently you have not read. what i wrote before you went off deep end. i think you your unhappy about yourself.all this black crap. look i seen men like you. have underlined hidden agenda be ther first one to go between a whitegirl legs. if she let you. the point being i do not justify my beliefs to anyone. how i know all this stuff. because i read i learn becareful who you calling names i will have you barred from this site as a nuisance. if you do not like your momma. do not come here and disrespect these women. go play some nfl on wii or something. anybody who have wrote as much as you. on this blog. can't have much of a life. your addicted to drama!!.. need a 12 step?... nothing you can say can match wits with me. if you knew anything about women need be black or white. you would not say some of the things you say out of your neck. i have a white lover. i will continue to date white men that is my choice. so se la vie. dude.

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  15.   Member says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    (Eating popcorn and watching Paula) This is what you don't want to end up like (speaking to the room). Two older bitter women trying to give advice to other black women after they were a loose booty for years. How you know all this crap if you wasn't messing with married men and etc? Ass I love black women so much, I am engaged to one. Unfortunately, 40 percent of you will never see a ring. It is even slimmer that white men will give you a ring. I just give you the harsh realities of life. Tatt claims I am a liar. What do I need to lie about? It's no secret you are desperate and "all these supposed men" falling over you. Where are they? As for Paula, you can't expect much. She thinks prison inmates are accessing the internet to go on a interracial site. The sad part is it could be a white male inmate and they would go visit his ass because they are lonely. People laugh at my response. Seriously, inmates accessing the internet. I suppose it would be white inmates looking for a desperate black girl to shack up with that has a job. Next thing you know, the sellout black women would be advocating that. No disrespect to the old ladies. If you know information like this... from Paula I quote. "men will tell you what you want to hear. but pay close attention. you have to be assertive women. ask for what you want. never mention babies and marriage on the first date. killers!… never talk about your ex." That is why your ass is in the position you in now. Being deceptive. Just be your damn self. Stop squeezing into clothes that don't fit you. Stop lying about how many MEN are chasing you. Stop lying about waiting until your 80 if the right man don't come along. Like that is a threat or something. Black men and white men with degrees are the Trophy. Get fucking used to it. We call the shots. I am tired of playing games with you. I am just telling you what is going on right now. Clearly, most of you are clueless. The bar is so high for you right now you might fall and scrape your forehead. White men have done this to you for YEARS. Now you want to worship them. I say what I want and BACK IT UP! Look for DYNASTY "WHO DO YOU BELIEVE" http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  16.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    tatt i like your style girl...lol

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  17.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    oh i forgot. now if your horney and want to play cool. leave it at that. but a guy does not owe you a commitment because he laid you. count your blessings. some are good for just that. does not mean he will be a good boyfriend future husband etc. look at the big picture. get with women who are doing well. ask them how they got that successful man. real men respect regardless how hard his dick is. real women. we all get lonely. but i had to learn the hard way. wait!!... try different personality types. do not always go for the pretty boys. or the flashy man. i go for potential. sometimes you can find a trophy man a man with real potential. yes its hard. but i rather have a bill gates than a brad pitt. any day!! although i love brad pitt..lol watch out angelina.. lol

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  18.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    laurelton do you like women?.. no one is a sellout a woman have rights ever heard of equal? but anywho. i allowed my self to be played like that know why? i was not true to myself i realize. and when you have vulnerable moments we all do. lay up off the sisters man. seriously. why are you obessed. do you work you need a hobby try mahjonng. good peaceful chinese game. so i want to reinerate. woman do need to get thier heads out of the clouds.. lets do this. see how much feed back i get. allright. tatt do not take the internet seriously, all men brothers , whitemen. arabs whatever are here for entertainment purposes only. some women have lucked up. but there is 200 women to one man . and they know it. just date these guys with a substanial background check. first and foremost. if it act like a duck it's a duck. give yourself time. this is not only for tatt. this is for all of us. just play the game the men know how to play it. these are people. they are no different from the men you meet at the club, etc. same bullshit game. okay. this site like others make money. because we give in to it. also some of these men are in the prison system they have access to computers. thats why you never meet them. red flags: if he does not give you a home number. does not want to meet you in a public place. acting like he is hiding a wife or boyfriend or girlfriend or both! never calls you back after the first date. or sexual contact. cannot reach him only at a certain time . he's a playa!!.. married and or both! men will tell you what you want to hear. but pay close attention. you have to be assertive women. ask for what you want. never mention babies and marriage on the first date. killers!... never talk about your ex. never screw him on the first date. now some guys are different. but what i am saying you have the power. use it . its called brains. and i know a lot of us can. see i grew up with 8 brothers i love them dearly. and a father. they taught me well about men. need i say more. but i make the choice on whom i want in my life. and if i have to wait until i am 80. like i said i rather have none. then half.

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  19.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    Yup, "Daffy" must be snorting that high dollar stuff now.....coming in here putting shyt in quotation marks like it makes a difference. WE ALL KNOW YOU MAKE SHYT UP.....so stop mastutbating in here!!!....clean up your own mess. If people want to know what I said all they had to do was scroll. ..And as for "bitchassness flu".....nah, I couldn't have that seeing as how I get my regular innoculation in here from you. You spout about all the "bitchassness" anyone can handle so I am immune to any form of it now....lol. Once again you can't make up your mind if I am "loose" or sexually deprived...sound like the stuff of fantasy for you. If you had even bothered to look at my profile on here you could see for yourself (instead of speculating....MAKING SHYT UP...LOL) that I am so faaaar from desperate it is not even funny. And just because I have a firm sense of self-worth does not make me a narcissist. I guess the New Year will teach you nothing in the way of not being blinded by your own cow-patty philosophies. Just because you know 1 (or 100) women that fit your description of a sellout/loose/whore, whathaveyou doesn't mean you have the right to label all women this. And YOU really need to get over AZ's supposed "rejection" of me.....WE all have seen what that dude was about; I just caught it months before he let you in on the joke....WAKE UP!!!...LOL. Maybe one day you will grow tired of the lame tactics you use in here and MAN UP.....realize that a woman can, will, and has handed your azz to you TIME AND TIME AGAIN with this nonsense. When you are ready to have an intelligent discussion again, let me know.... Peace and Blessings as ALWAYS tatted2death

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    Actually it is not funny. You have to be careful. Just because she looks good don't mean she don't got an STD. In defense of black women, most are very careful about their health. The problem is they lower their guard down and still get an STD. For the record the media says black men give them STDS. The rate in black women is so high. They aren't just sleeping with black men. Food for thought when you think the precious white guy is your lord and savior. Good day

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  21.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    Robert, Through half of the last decade there were women who were "independent". The walk around like this since the invention of the birth control pill. In New York City 29% of all men and women have HIV, herpes, or something else. A higher percentage of those women and men are "independent." For women they may have good jobs and good clothes and accessories (house, car, makeup). Treat them like the whores that they are if they are whores with a whores swagger!!! Could be fun!! If they don't get it from you they will merely take the next guy!! Make sure you have covered relations and know the percentages and risks in your community to interacting with these specific women. If you can beat the odds of HIV and other diseases and you feel it is worth the risk..................... Be the whore that you are (just funning on ya guy).

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  22.   Member says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    Dear Robert I don't dislike you. I was being sarcastic. If you really wanted to be with a black woman. You wouldn't be rambling about your current white wife. Then, you tell your wife you are curious about black women. Yea that was smart. The curiosity is just sexual. Get you a a black escort or mistress and never tell your wife. It would save you the possible headache of a black woman knocking down your door and "telling you off". For most black women relationships are not a game at this point. Especially, if they think a white man is interested in them. They just seem to believe he will take them to the suburbs and they will never have to work again. I should do seminars on this for white men interested in black women. Lust is different than love or being interested in a woman.

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  23.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    Robert, It sounds like you're going through the usual mid-life crisis that most men go through. And just like going to high school football games to watch the cheerleaders and picking up the latest slangs colloquialisms, your desire for and curiosity about black women will pass eventually. I kinda think telling your wife about it was a mistake. Even though you love her very much, she is a woman afterall. Expect hearing about what you told her again and again and again. Watch her force eye contact with you for extended periods of time when black women are in the vacinity, and expect a lot of tears out of nowhere when no matter how much you tell her she's beautiful and that you love her, she may say, "... but I'm not black." Never compliment another woman to your own woman. It's just asking for trouble, Sir.

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  24.   Robert says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    Mr. Queens...don't understand the dislike coming from you. However, you're more than entitled. I described myself, used my real name and email in a show of respect to this site and the people that post here. There will be no mistress or escorts. That would be disrespectful to my spouse, me and the beautiful black woman. I hope single or otherwise available white men will see what I've awakened to, and that is the sheer beauty and content of black women. In turn, I hope black women will give them an opportunity to court them.

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  25.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    I praise the perspective of Paula99. Lots of unhappy women around the globe and not just in the world of black and white America. Lots of unhappy men too. History is ignored more I feel by black women today. Many feel oppression of their male options is beyond their recognition. They feel that they are non-traditional. However; change is always going to happen and it happens to make someone happy. In this case it makes a cross section of black women happy. The lack of responses shows how much they are locked out or inclusion. They have been locked out more than black men by interracial marriage statistics kept by the census bureau.

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  26.   Member says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    Dear Paula You make good points. But even you implied white men have used you for sex like Tatt. All I am saying where is the reciprocity you sellout black women like to preach. If you are going to do blogs and worship white guys. They don't seem to be worshiping you back. You got the right mindset though. A man should be chasing you, not the other way around. Tell Tatt stop trying to find a white husband on the internet. Then she turn around and 'diss them" when the don't want her. Bottom line Paul you need a talk show. Because they desperate knock kneed sellout black women need help. Have a nice day.

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  27.   Member says:
    Posted: 05 Jan 10

    Dear Robert Keep your white wife and get a black mistress. I am pretty sure sellout black women don't mind. It wouldn't surprise me you are sleeping with black escorts anyway. You have a nice day prick.

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  28.   MRyan09 says:
    Posted: 05 Jan 10

    Black women have a certain... let's call it "swagger", about them that I have never found in any of the white women I've dated. Plus, the wonderfully soft skin and the smell of lotion and cocoa butter... I think I'm getting aroused just talking about it.

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  29.   Robert says:
    Posted: 05 Jan 10

    I am 40. Married to a beautiful white woman. I have never been unfaithful to her and I never will. I have other demons I've allowed in. In the last year I have grown physically attracted to black women. Never in my life before has this been the case. Other things have changed as well, like mixing my mashed taters with my corn and green beans..meaning that I know I'm maturing and aging is my only point. Black women shine. They have a fullness about them I never noticed before..and I've been around. An Army brat from birth to 18, I've been around all sorts of cultures and admired each of them for their goodness and pride. I am now at the point where I 'want' a beautiful black woman. What I mean there is I was first attracted, then intrigued and finally physically charged. Keep in mind I love and have a great relationship with my wife..so much so that I've shared all this with her. What gets me now is why aren't there more visible relationships between BW and WM? Do WM fear BW? Do they think it's all a neck roll and a 'Hellll NOOOO!'...I just don't know but it has peaked my curiosity and I would greatly respect and appreciate any input on what I've laid out.

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  30.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 05 Jan 10

    laurelton. i date caucasian, white. ofay what ever you want to call him. because thats my choice it fits for me . does not mean a woman is a sell out. i am definitely not a sellout nor do i justify myself to anyone. f--k that. but i do know one thing if your doing something for the wrong reason. rethink it. it will comeback to bite ya. but anywho. i am not here to argue just discuss. some whitemen like i said where my cup of tea and some where not like some blackmen. no i do not think all blackmen are dogs. i know some fine respected brothers. but i choose to date whom i have what in common with. not color. and i think blackwoman should experiment and open their minds to new possibilities. things are bad if you make them bad. i do not live in la la land. i am a realist i just lost a friend because she got mad at me because why are you going chasing after a man oversea 3thousand miles away you never met. let alone never laid eyes or heard his voice. so she said she does not need a friends like me because i am not supporting her. bullshit! i am not sugar coating it for her. if a man wants to see me. he come on my turf. thats how i roll!... but everyone is not hardcore and stand up for themselves. look ladies the bottom line is just like this site. its a game. either you play it or stay away from it. do you think i want a husband off the internet. no way. after he had 200 woman he screwed come on. playa , playa. i hope like hell you do not think your the only one. food for thought some, whiteguys also think like any other testerone male. well , i can get one of these blackgirls. to do me. yeah. right. it makes him feel big. and wanted and needed. men think differently. whitewoman won't admire him. so why not go to blackwoman who will fall all over him. hmmm. wrong concept. dude!!. yes again men can smell desperation. believe me whiteboys are playing this game well.. so becareful who you let in you bedroom. now on the flipside. some blackwomen think well i can do this whiteboy. he will fall all over me. he never had blackpussy before. press the easy button.. wrong answwer do not believe the hype. thats what you think. most men tried every flavor in the book. particularly whitemales. they have spread there seeds all over the continent before slavery. wonder how you and i got that light skin. i am just being truthful. act like a lady. but dammit. think like a man. it works!!!

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  31.   Member says:
    Posted: 05 Jan 10

    (Eating pop corn) Paula I am glad you are schooling "tatt". The poor woman is lashing out. I just merely speak the truth and it seems to bother her. She even admits she agrees with me. These useless comments like "women must reducate themselves" before dating. These empty statements make no sense. What sellout black women need to do is not end up like you. Bitter, sexually deprived and angry at the male population. Then in all your shallowness you talk about how are 100 MORE men would NEVER reject you. Unfortunately, this is a symptom of "bitchassness flu" that is spreading to black women. I call it "Sellout Swine Flu". They start believing the stuff they say to themselves. You call me the narcissistic?????? LOL I see the AZ rejection still bothers you. How about you tell people what happened. You ran around saying one story and he said you was "lying". Then you got mad when he went public with it. Yea you did, you got mad as hell and made a statement about "some of these white men are not my type anyway" after AZ kicked you to the curb. Perhaps your memory is bad and you want to save face. Loose booty stop mentioning how you are not "open" like that. We don't put labels on you that don't fit. You put clothes on that don't fit! http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/ Read the Great Sellout Black Girl recession. I address women like here. Good night

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  32.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 04 Jan 10

    Paula....I agree with you 100%. You and I both know that just because we are open in our dating choices does NOT mean that we are "open" like that....lol. Lots of women out here have most definitely bought into the idea that the only thing they have of value is their sexuality....that that is their only strength and power. It's sad and clearly alot of re-education needs to take place before any such woman puts herself in the dating arena. BUT ALSO.....we have got to stop letting men put labels on us that DO NOT FIT. The minute you accept being called a "hoe" or a bitch by a man you lose all dignity and respect. There are too many men in this world to feel like you have to settle for the one with self-esteem so low that he has to pick on a woman.....or the one that worries so much about what the next man possesses (i.e. looks, material wealth and the like). He will forever feel less of himself and be looking for the "upgraded" you. I could write a book on the "red flags" but I am sure so could many PEOPLE. Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  33.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 04 Jan 10

    men are men i do not know why women do not get that in there heads. black white, green, whatever. okay where am i going with this. yes some whitemen like black women , but from my dating experiences some have been good. with white men some are not so good. now... i do not view white men as the end all. i do not know whom i may fall in love with, one day. i guess...lol at this moment i am not looking for a relationship. it works for me. if anyone want to question that. be my guest, in the interim. its what you settle for. its about how you feel about self. men can smell when a woman is desperate. regardless or as they would say. in my day. hard up and desperate. they have radar. that;s why they go after green women. see that where you will seperate the men from the boys. getting to know the measure of a man. i am 51 yrs old . i heard all the lines etc. hell played a few myself. playa , playa. okay !... but i suggest that women who date whitemen , get to know about whitemen first, not the superficial aspect or some fantasy about them . because your bubble will be busted. i am being straightforward. now i enjoy company of a secure gent. i do not settle because he is white . or the adage. he's going to treat me better. that is not true. you get what you put out. i had to learn that just like every other woman. stay away from the losers..lol. or they have money. hell to the know. thats another falsehood. and i admit. some of the guys know the internet game. so honeys. keep your perspective about you. and put god first. and foremost.

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  34.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 04 Jan 10

    Again you prove just how ignorant you are, "Daffy".... I am NOT originally from KY, but that is beside the point. YOU keep making shyt up......PERIOD. I HAVE NEVER PUT MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS ON BLAST HERE. YOU SPECULATE ABOUT CRAP AND THEREFORE "IT IS SO" (sign of a TRUE narcissist....ask anyone). What "white men" am I ducking????....There have not been any coming in here saying they would NEVER marry a black woman (if they do the "cowards" ususally don't last too long anyway...LOL). AND even if they did that is their choice. And what brand of crack have you been smoking in order to think that men seriously (not in cyber-space....lol) turn me down. I am NOT an unattractive woman by any stretch of the imagination, so again even if you saw 100 men in here "reject" me, you better be dayum sure there are at least another 100 who would not....not conceited, just confident, as you have said of yourself. I HAVE NEVER said that "none of them (white men) is my type anyway". I have NO NEED to "save face".....lol. That tactic would only be for sad internet trolls. Oh and by the way, the fact that you have to mention my name in a reply to someone else PROVES that you are WAAAAAY too focused on me here. Just because I won't let you shoot your beak...mouth off without being checked does NOT mean I am "talking back" (as if I am a child...LOL). I will continue to check you on your B.S.......GET USED TO THAT. YOU can have 2010....maybe that will be your year to wake up. We can all only hope..... Peace and Blessings tatted2death P.S. Kentucky Joe.....you know better than to speak of the Cats to this "city" gal....lol..j/k I try not to get into that because getting between the Cats and the Cards is like trying to wave the white flag in the Civil War....lol.

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  35.   Member says:
    Posted: 03 Jan 10

    Dear Kentucky Joe Thanks, Tatt a small town girl. How about that. KY women sure like to talk back. I know firsthand.

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  36.   James says:
    Posted: 03 Jan 10

    My Black Beauties!!! WHOA WHOA WHOA Look I been reading all your comments back and forth and I am a white man and I prefer the black woman because it sets better for me. I have always been fascinated by the beauty of them and their rich cultures from clothes style to cooking downhome southern and soul food!!! MMMMMMM whoops got side tracked, anyways I think every black woman on this site with a picture listed is BEAUTIFUL whether you like or date or not like or not date a white man, you are wonderful and unique and very beautiful. Thank you to the black women that do recognize a good white man that wants to provide and spoil her. I love my black woman and she loves me. I am her first white man of her 39 years and she is very pleased and is very good to me as I am to her. I pamper her ALL the time. She cooks for me and buys me things and our sexual experiences are wonderful as we can heart to heart in bed. I rub her feet and massage her down and even oil her hair (just got her hair done in braids) There is nothing I wouldn't do and she wanted one thing that she waited for a long time and that was a baby. I am the proud one to have made this happen as she is 9 weeks tomorrow! Before my time she was once in love with a black man and she got pregant by him and he got into an auto accident and died a few weeks she lost her twins that she was carrying and went into deep depression at the age of 22. Losing her babies was hard and the man she was to marry that lost his life. Terrible. To make things worst she was just released from the hospital after losing her babies and called for a cab. The cab driver being a family friend didn't take her to her home ( a black man that was dating her sister) instead he took her by gun point into a wooded area and raped her. She has been depressed and never told anymone of this and then opened up to me three years ago and we tried but could not make it happen and we prayed and now our miracle is happening. I listened and read all your ups and downs here and most of you have forgotten one important thing, not about color people it's about LOVE. I gave her something she was told could and would never happen. She has been through alot and even after what happend to my girlfriend I never looked down or thought bad about her but uplifted and prayed many nights to give her this miracle. Just to let you know and to end this on a better comment than you could imagine. It was August 9th when her babies were lost and on our doctor appointment back on December 23rd 2009 we were told our baby should be born on August 9th 2010!!!!!!!!!!! Tell me GOD doesn't work in mysterious ways!! Peace and love to all

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  37.   Member says:
    Posted: 03 Jan 10

    Still read from time to time, Mr. Queens i have respect for you man even if I don't always agree with you. Mrs. Tatted hope KY is treating you right this new year! How bout dem cats!!!!

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  38.   Member says:
    Posted: 02 Jan 10

    Now I am turning something positive into a negative. Why don't you stop ducking white men and ask them why they shy away from marrying black women? See, you don't want to ask the tough questions. You rather pick a fight with me that you constantly lose at. You mentioned your relationship status not me. If it was so great for you, then you wouldn't be bitter and trying to decipher everything a white man says on here. Nobody focuses on you. What you need is a white guy to focus on you. Then perhaps your ego would be EVEN bigger than it is now. AZ turned you down, as well as numerous men here. Then you lashed out at the white men on the board saying "none of them is my type anyway". I guess trying to "save face". No black woman ever hurt me lol. You read my blog. You know what my status is. http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/ Read my blog you might learn something about why your failing at interracial relationships. The Great Sellout Black girl Recession Volume 1 "The Book of Laurelton Queens". This is not no Wizard of OZ shit neither man! You have a nice day. 2010 IS MY YEAR GET USED TO IT!

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  39.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 02 Jan 10

    See....case in point...instead of addressing your mean-spirited message, Edward comes in and states what he needs to and THAT IS ALL. But of course you are going to find some way to twist his post to mean something it does not. You will work all night to find a way to turn something positive into a negative...this is what you do best. You can't even make up your mind whose really getting "hoodwinked"...LOL....is it black women or white men. (don't answer that.....for risk of getting twisted in your own shit storm....lol) Daffy Duck can keep shooting his beak off about how I am "supposed" to feel about my relationship status when he knows NOTHING about it. He can keep insinuating that I have low standards and low everything else when I know for a fact my character shines like a beacon in the night against all his ramrod tactics. If NOT falling for your B.S. is having an "EGO".....then YES< I have the biggest one in here and am not ashamed of it. Your focus on me speaks volumes......go find the weak-minded black women that HURT YOU personally and tackle those demons on your own. Until you do that all you are in here is a "dog barking up the wrong dayum tree". Most thinking people in here have already recognized that. And finally stop trying to steal my fire you narcissistic vampire....get your own "lines"...(lol) and "TATTOO that on your ass" (hardhead = softass = "Daffy Duck") Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  40.   Edward, says:
    Posted: 02 Jan 10

    Seems like white woman i know are either totally insecure or totally arrogant or know it all's, Ive never been in love witha a nice lady but when i was going out it was always games with white girl's and i was fed up with it, I see something definetly different in black woman, i see a confidence but at the same time a down to earth person that dont have to be the center of stupid attention, I see a MUCH MORE LOVING AND UNDERSTANDING person in A black woman, listens to your talk and isnt thinking about something else or how to be a look at me or insecure turkey, I wish I had more black woman friends,

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  41.   Member says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 10

    Now white men are staying "above the fray". Sort of like "staying above the fray when it comes to NOT dating black women". I guess you wouldn't call it that. Perhaps it is there 'confusion" as you like to call it. Perhaps, your EGO can't handle the truth. At the end of the day, to measure the way a man feels about you is "him pursuing you". Since that is not HAPPENING for most black women, your argument continues to be very weak. I implore you to broaden your "Horizons" and just realize you keep running into a brick wall concerning white men. Mrs 'Above the Fray". LOL White men don't defend you or even come to your blogs so that is "above the fray". Right he got you in the background like a mistress because "baby we are just going to be above the fray". I am going to use that line. Tattoo on your forehead. THE ABC NEWS REPORT showed black women talking about they haven't been in a committed relationship in a decade! Now who's fault is that?????? White men are getting hood winked! http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  42.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 10

    Yeah it tells me alot PEACHES......that most white men prefer to stay above the "fray" when it comes to "defending" their preferences. IF you have been around as long as you seem to portray then you have seen the sort of NONSENSE that is passing as "discussion" in here. Some people would rather not mix it up and I can not blame them. This does not make them a wussy or any other such malarkey.....just DIFFERENT. Internet "thuggery" doesn't suit everyone.....and many see that as the only way to "man-up" out here (again....utter nonsense). I like DVersions comment...he kept it simple, short and sweet. But his comment was not controversial or "sexxxy" so it will probably be overlooked in the grand scheme of things here. There have been others who have tried to interject here and their pressence has time and time again either been ignored or met with hostility. I don't run this board so I can't say as to who stay or goes but it is obvious that the pressence of certain "imps" have kept others away. THIS is NOT the only site where interracial dating is welcomed so, PEACHES I implore you to broaden your horizons a bit before you come to any conclusions here. Peace and Blessings tatted2death (Happy New Year, Good People!!!!)

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  43.   DVersion1 says:
    Posted: 27 Dec 09

    I am a white man and am a member (new last 2 weeks or so) of this site. I'm not stupid/crazy enough to put the spectrum of African-American women in a box, but I will confess that I do prefer them to all others. I'm 48 years old and have never been married (no I'm not a player) and have dated women of a wide variety of racial and ethnic backgrounds and definitely seem drawn to black women going all the way back to my 1st sandbox GF. Asking me why is like asking you why you prefer a particular type of wine, or like/dislike modern art- we just are what we are. On a conscious level, I live in a part of the country where the population is probably close to 50-50 Black to White and excluding women of color is like cutting prospects in half. Above all else, I was raised differently than most of my peers and never considered that a woman of a different race was off limits. My first sexual experience was in HS with a black classmate that made the first move that I gladly accepted. Finally, in my case it's not "Jungle Fever". I have been engaged twice in my life, once to a Redhead and once to a Blonde, and don't just chase black women as some sexual secret. I'm not going to bed with anyone I wouldn't walk into the home of a friend or family with or take over to mom's house for Sunday Dinner.

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  44.   peaches says:
    Posted: 25 Dec 09

    It is funny that there are just a few white men commenting on this website....that should tell you all something.

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  45.   ksmith687 says:
    Posted: 24 Dec 09

    I would like to say Black Women don’t only talk to beautiful white me because the have been hurt by a black man or any other man for that matter. For the person that made the comment saying show me a women that lived in the ghetto all her life that has only dated a white man. I hope that all people don’t think that all Black women live in the Ghetto we have Black women that are Doctors, Teachers and Lawmakers as well they have kids that live in very well off towns so Yes there are some light and Dark skin girl that have only had white boyfriends. I myself went to a private school; I lived in a great town with the upper middle class. So yes trust me it has and still will happen

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  46.   Teesa says:
    Posted: 21 Dec 09

    I am a black woman who has been in a relationship with my gorgeous white boyfriend for over two years. Sometimes I think about what would have happened to my love life if I never dated outside my race. I feel so blessed to have found a good man who loves me more than any man has. He is twice my age, I am twenty nine. I decided to date older men too. So I opened myself up to many different men I could date. I don't regret it one bit. I am happy that black women are deciding not to settle for less because of what someone might say to them about their rightful decision. I am so happy. I wish the best for every beautiful black woman who wants to find true love without the race barriers.

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  47.   Jello says:
    Posted: 19 Dec 09

    Hey everyone! I know Im late but never the less ready to raise my flag! Im a mixed black female(Im mixed indirectly-my parents)and I love white men. I love all men but theres a special place in my heart for white,Polynesian,and or asian men. Im open to dating outside of my race because its 2009,we are in a war in the middle east,gas prices are high,people are losing their jobs,their homes,and our future-not just Americans-but all of mankind has an unclear future. We are all working towards common gaols such as freedom,peace,and stability as well as our own personal success. With that said I think that dating outside of ones race is not an important topic-if anything its necessary to bridge the gap between cultures and inspire racial peace in this odd period of cultural unrest. Im not ashamed of what I like,its natural to me and I encourage other African American females to go outside their race for the experience and the novelty of it all.And I look forward to the day white non-black men are more open to approaching us.We women usually let the guys do the hitting on lol but we have to approach them for now and thats the thing to do! I think its important not to fight in forums like this. Some white men LOVE black women-others dont. Thats just the way it is.

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  48.   Robs says:
    Posted: 14 Dec 09

    Rosemary, Thanks for the insight. I believe you are 100 percent correct in that analysis, still I cannot see where the problem with me not believing lays. E-dub, I appreciate your honestly, and I apologize for my briefness of my post. I should say I have dated many different black women and know they are so different from each other. Just as white women and and asian girl that I have dated have been from each other. My preference for black women is that I find them more attractive; physically, emotionally, etc. I also never said I had a problem with their beliefs. Not one bit. I dated a black girl that said because of her religion, she wanted to stay a virgin until marriage. I said that was okay with me, especially since I really liked her, and marriage was def a possibility in the future, and it really just didnt matter to me. She said I was perfect for this, because when she told other men of faith, they ran away. But in this case, It wasn't her that had the problem with my atheism, it was her parents, who before discovering my atheism, joked about me being their son-in-law and such. I'm a great person! I don't deserve this for real... Dire_wolf I'm sure you're right. I'm sure there are many atheist black women here too, it's just that there is this stigma for coming out of said closet and they aren't too easy to find. Not that I really wanna be actively looking for a black atheist, because I just want a person that is right for me. I really don't buy that religion makes a person who they are. I dated a black woman for 2 years, she started out religious, but by being with me so long was atheistic and saw things differently by the time we broke up. She is still the same person and we're still friends. We were just young and grew apart. It happens. Thanks for responses in advance.

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  49.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 13 Dec 09

    Dire_Wolf.... Thanks for recognizing the open/logical minded women out here......we certainly need love too (Even if it doesn't come from the "grey-bearded white man in the sky".....lol) Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  50.   lonewolf54 says:
    Posted: 13 Dec 09

    Have always wondered what it might be like to date a sexy black woman have always dated and even married white women but have always thought black women were the sexiest as well as more fun to be around.Would love to go out with a sweet pretty black woman just to see what i have been missing.

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