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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 26 Oct 09

    and one more note, MR LAURELTON QUEENS, just to clarify for you, i stated before that i've been hurt on both sides of the color line..as a matter of fact, a WHITE man hurt my heart before worse than any brotha ever did...so, no, we don't all date white men because of being hurt by black men. is that what black men think of other black men that date women of other nationalities and refuse to date black women? man, i tell ya, hypocrisy knows no bounds...

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  2.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 26 Oct 09

    my day at work was obviously too long! seems i missed all the fun! Mr. Queens: i was wondering when you were gonna grace my statements and questions with your retorts! i find some of your views more amusing than disturbing...either way, very intriguing. i laugh so hard i almost pee myself sometimes! no matter how much any of us "agree to disagree", we're all very real with how we feel, and that's respectable. now, to address your question about my ex-husband..yes, he was black. got married in dec 08, i left him in april 02, he fought the divorce until i moved to oklahoma in june 06, and i finalized it in feb 07. now, the cause of our divorce, he WOULD NOT GROW UP, had no vision for his own life..much less one for our anticipated family, and he refused to adapt to my drive to have something in life. 11 years later, he's back to the same pathetic situation he was in before we married. i'm very aggressive when it comes to life, and i refused to stay stagnant, especially when there's no cause for it. that is why i'm a successful female to this day..have pretty much had to do it by myself, but i HAVE something, and aspire for more. i depend on NO ONE (but God) financially. i'm an independent/codependent female. on the flip-side, i have to agree with you, there are some of us black women that want a man to "be the man" of the relationship..i'm one of them. my father is a pentecostal pastor, as are several people on my mother's side of the family, and that's how i was raised...woman submissive to her husband. now, that's not to be confused with a woman being weak, because the women in my family are anything BUT. we are very strong minded/strong willed women, but we know our places as wives, and most of us are successful. as a matter of fact, strong black women seem to always play the role of "backbone", "spine", "neck", in our relationships, especially with black men, and in my opinion, SOME (and this in NO WAY speaks of all) of them have gotten so accustomed to and comfortable with that notion, it's a handicap for them. they take us for granted..like we're "supposed" to be that way. putting their "i'm the head of this relationship" to play only when it's convenient for them...not as the "true" head of the relationship. in a sense, we as strong women are to take our places as such, but, a strong man (regardless of race) will grow with that kind of support. further elaborating, in my experiences, dealing on both sides of the color line, SOME (again, not all) men of other nationalities tend to "embrace" that side of black women, rather than allow that to be a "crutch" for them. and to elaborate on me saying a man being the "true head" of his family, that's a man that will love/respect/honor his significant, be a provider to the best of his ability, has a positive vision for his family (and actively pursuing it), try to the best of his ability to make the wisest decisions (with his significant's help) that will encourage strength/growth/prosperity of his family. and a wise/strong woman will add to her husband's efforts. so, your father & mother's situation, i have to say, was one that definitely displays loyalty (on your mother's part) and strength. i can't say anything negative about that...only that my hat goes off to your mom..you don't see that kind of "stand by your man" strength displayed very much nowadays. few and far between. and, i'm glad you've overcome many obstacles/challenges that our black men face, but your education can't tell you how to be a "true" man, queens. which again (and i know you're gonna answer this) leads me back to my inital question...what is the big deal about black women dating other races? why do black men consider that a "slap in the face"? i've been called (as you've repeated several times throughout this blog) a "sell out" more times than i can count. i don't hold anything against my brotha's at all, and i don't weld the door shut on dating black men...i just "prefer" white men or men of other nationalities. as you may say, and some agree, yes, there are cultural differences (not much for me, because my mother's a mulatto..lol), but, hey, that's no different than the male/female gender being different. that doesn't stop them from marrying, does it? also, as far as me "kissing tricc's ass", only in the mind of the narrow/perverse minded. even in the sense of me viewing other women's profiles..i'm secure in my femininity, so i don't have to justify myself on that, because i know who/what i am, and who/what i want. and you say you have no weaknesses when it comes to women...dude...for real! you've been engaged (as you say) more than once, so, something's got you. i have to defend triccinicci on your statement of her "shamelessly throwing yourself at white men. what a waste of an intelligent woman." naw, bru..the waste would be her "throwing herself" at any man that doesn't equivalate to half of what she is...black/white or otherwise. sounds a bit to me like you're intimidated....hmmmmm....

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  3.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 26 Oct 09

    Touche! Tsk, tsk, I have to choose my battles carefully. I never battled with you. That is the thing. You make good points, but they have no bearing simply because I never, nor did anyone else responding to any of your inane retorts, ever say you HAD to save anyone. God does the saving you are the vessel to do His Will. J-O-B is either Job or job. Both cause suffering. But a job as in: "My job is not to save black youth simply because I am a black male. My father gave me guidance but I pretty much learned along the way." Simply stated is J-ustifiable O-bligatory B-ullshit. "I never compromised my principles like you sellout black women are currently doing." It is well known you refuse to compromise because you are too busy compromising the very thing you say made you grow and develop, your very own mistakes! What kind of humiliation must have been wrought against you for you to be so torn up inside! That vexes my spirit because I believe somewhere there is a beautiful spirit inside. As well, the reason I would never acknowledge or deny the scenario of experience I had with a certain wealthy business men is because I don't have to compromise myself to speak to an individual who conditions a mentality of ridicule and abuse. A person like you neeeeeeds a victim. That is the only way he can win. He could never use raw intellect or talent or blessings rendered to do anything as such a one believes there is nothing good in himself to begin with. "If you are single, and I am engaged, actually was engaged more than once, What exactly are you doing wrong Tricc? Shamelessly throwing yourself at white men. What a waste of an intelligent woman." There you go again. Fantasizing! Are you sure it's just your brother who is schizophrenic or did you catch a bit of that bug as well (BTW, pick up a copy of "Prescription for Nutritional Healing" for natural therapies and remedies to that and other ailments for your brother's health. It saved my life more than once)? Fact: I never have said I've not been engaged. I said I REFUSED to get married. I said 3, count them (3), engagement rings from the SAME MAN. I choose not to marry and YES, I got my way. Didn't you take the time to select the right person. Didn't you feel responsible to be in the best position to offer the most in your relationship? Where are the similarities between you and any other human? You think you are the only one to love and be loved? Fact: "If you are single, and I am engaged, actually was engaged more than once, What exactly are you doing wrong Tricc? Shamelessly throwing yourself at white men. What a waste of an intelligent woma". Another fantasy of yours, lol! Refer to the paragraph directly above. To boot, you choose a woman to build a life with who won't offer what you say is a deal breaker. So you intend or either have negotiated a side deal to bring forth your own seed eventhough you know your fiance doesn't want children to QUALIFY your inability to carry on a monogamous relationship. You're wanting to be this hardened self made pioneer of kicking the Black Woman in her ass is just turning the table and reflecting the mirror. You have called the Woman of Color a thousand times a whore beyond her own recognition. Is this what your destructive father said to your abused mother who anyone could care less what nationalities her blood line represents as ABUSE IS ABUSE! So the picture is much more clear and concise in its depiction of who you truly are because you have been made to feel such blatant shame. How else could you misconstrue simple gestures of love? It's hard to feel love and even more difficult to show it when your soul is burdened by absolute shame. You WHORE your sisters You WHORE your women You WHORE your relationship with God You WHORE your skills and talents Yes, I am intelligent. I was BORN THAT WAY! That was my blessing. You are no less, but you WHORE it away by trying to make undignified slashes against Women of Color. Oooooooh...and as far as the wealthy men I've dated. It was important that they were A) Men and B) Not outward slime bags. Never dated a drug dealer. Never dated a thug. Dated one guy who marked probably the most important period in my life. He smoked marijuana (not around me). Never again... My never list is quite long, I won't bore you. The men I have dated in the wealth factor arena threw themselves at me - actually come to think of it, ALL the men I dated threw themselves at me! Wow, I just realized that. I ran from most of them, lol! Back on topic now...You must know some professionals can do business without raping their neighbor, yes? To be honest, bad business practices I saw weren't always on behalf of the wealthy. So I'd say that was a pretty biased and judgmental statement. Anyway, I'm glad to see your commentaries are very well presented in actual terms of debate and self formulated ideas eventhough I'd term a great deal of it as hypocrisy. So what, who cares what I think, lol! My belief AND Personal Opinion is you do greater harm than good sorta like your parents (your mom probably) beating you with an extension cord/ironing cord because this is what THEY believed. That is bullcrap! It is not right and had they brains they would have used them. Yet you mirror this egotistical cycle they threw you into. Please stop the madness, it is not right. You know this when at the end of the day you can utter out of your mouth you are trying to save a group of people by dislodging the vulnerability of the minuscule amount of appreciation that person may or may not know how to seed and develop. Yet it belongs to them fully. Through the same style of trial and error they will come to their senses even if it means sitting in a jail of their own making, much like you did in the real prison before YOU woke up. ALL on YOUR own. I doubt you can stop yourself anymore than your weak father could prevent himself from harming your mother. I see the story that is unfolding. I won't say what I see because I am not a cruel person just out to catswipe/malign anyone. That's the opportunity you seek...perfect time to jump in and bash it all to Hell! This is the sad state and affair I bring to show you. BTW, Az did nothing wrong by apologizing and I did nothing wrong in accepting. For you to try to create discord is not original at all, not self made at all. It is the work of those things against anything beautiful, kind, divine and good...that has been with us since before the beginning of time. Hate will one day stop or be stopped. Believe it...or not.

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  4.   Member says:
    Posted: 26 Oct 09

    Dear Tricc Why is being ruthless a bad trait? Those are the same traits you are attracted to. Considering your talks about "well off men" that have courted you. The bankers and real estate barons you allude to. They are all ruthless individuals. You can't be rich and not be ruthless. My family tree is very deep. It goes from a biracial grandmother who had a white Scottish great grandfather that owned a lot of land in Jamaica. I don't undermine women of color. They undermine themselves. My mother is weak in some ways. There are just some women I believe need a man in their life. That is my personal opinion. If it wasn't for my father I really think she would be homeless or a "nut house" because of her bad financial decisions. See I can be honest about what limitations my mother has. That does not mean I don't love her. Black women are not monolithic. My mother has different sides to her. Just like most black mothers do. She will tell you she was never abused by my father and not even blink twice. I don't have any children but I work with children. I wouldn't subject them to my strict upbringing. It would be considered abuse in 2009 but back in the 80s it was anything goes. You mother hit you with a shoe, belt and sometimes an iron cord. Some considered that good parenting back then. No you are wrong about my brother. I have no problem with my mother favoring my brother. My brother was never strong as me. He is currently schizophrenic. A mother naturally will protect the "weaker child". I love my brother but she favors him. I assure you it never bothers me lol. My parents were too caring actually. I have always been independent and strong willed. I was born with less compassion than the next person. I respect my parents but I am sort of indifferent to the love aspect of a family. My relationships have failed due to my lack of "showing emotion". Sex is love to me. But my parents were very caring. I am just indifferent to it. I wouldn't say my father was a whore. He has weaknesses like all men do. He cheated twice in his whole marriage. Not that it makes it better but it is what it is lol. I don't need to be taught anything. Life teaches me. Some guys never had a dad in their life. You assume if they kiss your ass then they are the definition of a "real man". You said " Az had to apologize because that is what men do". Actually he didn't have to if what he feels about you is accurate. You come off confrontational and self righteous. He rather keep the "peace". I rather answer back and say yea you are that way. You have the inability to see your own flaws. The mold you speak of is something I do not want to break. I am my father's child thus I take on his values that are good. He said anything you do you must accept the consequences for your actions. I am fully prepared for the consequences when I do something. If I cheat on my fiancee and have a baby with another woman. I knew what I was doing. But I always upfront about it. You don't want kids but I do. Therefore it will happen and do not be surprised. I am wavering on it though. I do listen to Jesus but some people have their own view of scripture. God forgives but that does not mean he doesn't punish you. Out of wedlock sex is a sin but we do it. I know what I am doing is wrong sometimes. I won't beg for forgiveness but I will try to be a better person. I am not one of those Christians that ask for help when shit is going bad for me. My job is not to direct people to god. They have to find god according to their values. I am not a preacher. I lead by example sometimes. I am in a steady relationship. I don't rob or steal. My job is not to save black youth simply because I am a black male. My father gave me guidance but I pretty much learned along the way. My ex girlfriend really made me civilized because she went to an IVY League college. I was a savage back then. I would say she turned my life around and made me serious academic student. I got exposed to the college life of black sororities and the various "illicit" activities going on. In conclusion, I am a self-made man. I never compromised my principles like you sellout black women are currently doing. Tricc you are a smart woman. It was fun matching wits with you. If you are single, and I am engaged, actually was engaged more than once, What exactly are you doing wrong Tricc? Shamelessly throwing yourself at white men. What a waste of an intelligent woman. I am going to bed. I am glad you decided to play with the big boys. Observing you, I can tell you believe you should get your way. Az will let you slide, I WON'T! Good day to you.

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  5.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 26 Oct 09

    BTW, it is hard to fit your life on a blog. That's why every chance you get, since that partially is your aim, you should be discussing THAT life, not justifying it by showing others the ugliness in yours by demeaning theirs. If you feel you see a semblance you, I'm sure, are welcome to share familiarity. You are not the only soul to have been hurt or need to overcome detractions parents may have caused. You said it best when you realized had you listened to a father who had been hard because hard was all he knew, had you just listened you'd have experienced life differently. That was your realization. He could have taught you that lesson rather he went hard or went home. You could have examined the growth and development benefited by having a father in your life rather you were free or bound. In other words it's just simple CHOICE that makes us who we are of course mixed with a few more ingredients. Another is moldability. Your father helped shape your mold, but you can break it any time, start all over and create something very original, something uniquely yours. Bealvly said it best, Jesus can help. You claim to know and serve him. According to your beliefs you should be directing those you feel are lost to God. What's up with that? You speak more like a bigot than a believer as God has not told you to take his place. That's why your words are constantly turned against you because they are not pure. You only use the acknowledgment of a church association because that is what your father and others have shown you. Since you hate all Women of Color to an almost absolute majority, you probably should interact with them according to the need to assist them in seeing the condition and plight of their cultural brethren, only through the eyes of God. As well, you should request those in your house of worship to help you find a spiritual resolution to your hatred and inept handling of this very intimate matter. I wish you luck and Blessings from on High. My words will fall on deaf ears unless you have the Spirit that abounds in all who hear it with you. That spirit can't abide and won't stay if you feed it garbage so holding up pews is truly baseless.

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  6.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 26 Oct 09

    It's sad to see you think others bash black fathers. I openly showed you the plight of bashing black women because you think none had a daddy like you did. That is the humor. I stick by my statements because I know they are true: You need to keep the ruthlessness divined in your family tree there. Deal with its legacy in regards to you and yours: "I get very sensitive about the father thing. This idea that black fathers have to be perfect or they fall short of raising productive children is bullshit." (See text above) No YOUR words are just that. You will try anything to undermine Women of Color. Freud said such men as you have "mother issues". First you said your mom was weak, then you said she whupped upon your father like Hell on payday, lol! You think by making blanketed statements about what others 'supposedly' said that was never said, you are paving the way to blame Women of Color in the future when you treat your own children as badly as you try and treat others (that is, if they permit you). You keep alluding to your mother favoring your brother and you being like your father. Then you claim to have been angered by him for a long period of time. Apparently you hate being like him but can't help yourself. So in an effort to improve better relations within yourself, you just allowed his impunity and improprieties to bowl you over. Fight back dammit!! Since you believe your mother rejected you and it's apparent you believed for a long time your father didn't concede much in your direction but bullying and overpowering of your psyche...I'll continue to wear kid gloves with you. I refuse to be party to the damage uncaring parents displayed in the sight of their children (a whoring father who felt no shame to make his children party to his lust). Though I have that compassion to see you were calling your father a whore every time you remarked this about Women of Color, make no mistake, you still need to deal with your issues and stop passing them off on your sisters of culture.

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  7.   Member says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Thanks bealvly Sorry for the long post. It is hard to fit your life on a blog. I get very sensitive about the father thing. This idea that black fathers have to be perfect or they fall short of raising productive children is bullshit. Considering my father came a long way from being a farm boy and his mother dying from cancer at 10 to working at the United Nations. It also had to get out of my mother's father "shadow". Like I said, my mother was very privileged unlike my father. My grandfather did well for himself academically and financially. My father had to prove himself for years. He still remains married for 31 years. I look at the totality of a person's life before I just jump on the bandwagon of bashing black fathers, which seems popular here.

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  8.   Member says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    HMM Tricc (Playing chess with you) Actually, sometimes the weak is "really ruling everything". I will give you the perfect example. There is a perception that women are weak simply because they defer to their husbands. When I was growing up my mother always did what she wanted to do. Now have you ever seen a black mother "not get her way" when she wanted too? A black woman going to do what she want to do! I remember my mother got visible upset my father was spanking my younger brother. Needless, to say they came to blows. My father actually backed down and went to watch television. Let's get this straight my mother wasn't no push-over. My young brother is my "mother's favorite son". I tend to believe every parent has a favorite child. I am more like my father. I would have to disagree with you concerning the weakness statement. If you mean that statement in that manner. I agree with you concerning George W Bush. I don't think it was critical for my mother to leave. She did visit her sister for awhile. My mother's sister never liked my father. My mother is the youngest sister out of all her sisters. Sometimes, family member will just dislike your mate. But it was never to the point of nobody showing up for thanksgiving. It was rather subtle for years. My aunt is a "strong headed" type of woman. She is a nurse and was a no nonsense woman. She will tell how she feel and not give damn. My father was weary of her. She has her own problems with men. I won't discuss that. My father married my mother because she was pregnant and young. My father originally had a model girlfriend that was white. I saw the pictures in his suitcase that he "still keeps around". She was a British white woman from Jamaica but moved to the United States. I don't know what happened to her. My father said " he never bothered telling her he got married because of fear of her reaction". Long Story short my mother "strong armed the white woman out of the way'. My father married her in a big wedding (My mother's father paid for the wedding, she was privileged child hmm rich you can say). My mother is nice but she is not soft. She beat up some woman that she let live in her house in New York. Allegedly, my father slept with the girl. I guess the girl felt like she get my mother out of the way. My mother punched her in the face and kicked her out. Never saw the woman again after that altercation. My mother sees things one way. She thinks all men cheat but she will be damned to lose everything. She would burn down the house or something. She is an irrational person at times. She believes you date a woman marry her. That is why she thinks I am a player. I tell her, mom these women are "slut buckets". She is like find a nice girl from the "church". Uh yea' those are the biggest slut buckets". She starts laughing. I don't have any hatred. You see it has hatred. I look it as funny. I did get serious about the father thing that is a sensitive issue. I think he was hard on us because that's how he was raised. I am glad my father raised me strict because I wouldn't be successful like I am today. I was rebellious towards my father when I was younger. That ended me up in jail. I said " you know what" LOL , how the fuck I end up in jail? I realized this is my own ego and arrogance that got me here. My father got me a lawyer in Queens and got the case dismissed. It was my baby brother's case. But I took it for him because my dad asked me too. You asked me this When something has been proven it is no longer a theory, but a fact. No children I assume? If one were a girl would you want her to be crushed as you saw your mother? Would you want her to be weak after being traumatized by a man like you and your father? Lastly, loyalty can be blinding. Study the great civilizations. Wisdom creates salvation. Who shall you save? Let me answer your question. My mother NEEDED a man like my father. My mother specifically said the reason she married my father was because " he was a real man and she never liked pretty boys that never worked with their hands". My mother had money, she never needed my father financially. I think she needed him emotionally because people would walk over her. My father does not allow that. I told my fiancee, where would you be without me? If it wasn't for me my fiancee would let people walk over her. I think people seem me as a dark skin thug. Until, I open my mouth. They feel like they can talk to her because "they feel safe". I read everything you can't get over on her and definitely not me! She knows better. It is me that made this lifestyle happen for her. I am the brain behind the operation. None of the guys she was with did anything for her. This is not arrogance, this is facts. Some of my detractors say I "picked a weak uneducated woman to be with". I have a dominate personality. They are going to think any woman with me is weak. I think women want a man that takes charge. I want the ball in my hand when it comes to the last shot. Not true, I have dated black women with Phd's, Lawyers, nurses, and etc. They were good women but they never had enough time for me. I am the focus of the relationship PERIOD. My mother carried the relationship in the beginning. But she didn't sustain it. My father became the breadwinner for the next 20 years. She made bad decisions that put her in debt and he had to clean up her mess. I don't traumatize my woman. I provide everything she needs. I think black women take for granted what men do. They take nice bubble baths, have light in the house and cable to watch stupid Madea Movies. They get to drive a car and I pay the insurance. Then don't realize who is paying a majority of those bills. Then some women come out of their face like " You know what your stingy and selfish". Are you kidding me? LOL I think my father is far more an Angel than a Devil. I never realized what it was until I had my own house and woman. Now I am dealing with the scrutiny. Tricc you make excellent arguments but you must realize there are no PERFECT MEN. Their damn sure ain't no perfect women. Women would want to be with a man that did HALF OF WHAT I DO. I am not going to sugarcoat shit and appease anybody anymore. WHERE WOULD YOU BE WITHOUT ME! The problem with some black women is they want to jump on the train while it's in motion. They don't want to help you push the train. You want to just reap the benefits of a man's hard work because you feel entitled. I man's man, and I respect my father for taking care of two kids and a wife, at times, by himself. He never left the family, we never starved, and he promoted education. I got my degree. I lived a decent lifestyle in a middle class black neighborhood. We attended church as a family. Some black women need to be traumatized so they know their roles in a relationship. You don't got any goals or anything, go be by yourself. Your vagina can only take you so far in life. End of story Loyalty is everything. Civilization history is comparing apples to oranges.

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  9.   bealvly says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Dear Mr. Queens, you don't know me and I don't know you, but I want you to know , my dear brother, that I love you. The choice and preference to date, and marry white men is in no way a slight, or disrespect to our wonderful brethen. It is just what it is....a preference. You may blast me and call me names, but that's okay. Be blessed my brother, and allow the LORD to heal, to strengthen, and make you whole. GOD Bless you Mr. Queens

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  10.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Only the weak and willing can be ruled. The first by their own weakness. The second by their willingness. Bush ruled due to our weakness to fight back when we saw discord and abuses in democracy. Obama rules because a nation of willing people fought to put him in office. You are bombarded by the parody of inverted messages you received in your development. This is what has created the issues you face. This is why and exactly why it was critical she should have left. Your father would have straightened up, just as Az did when I stepped out of the argument with him. All civil men will, no matter their relationship strategy. Beyond that she should have left because your life as a child has a higher value than your father's. He was grown and knew what he was doing. Whereas their union, your mother and father, has cost you crucial balance. You are a tortured man. I don't expect an apology from you and one may never come. But I do not sleep with you. Your spirit abides there and can barely tolerate you so it permits the demonizing that goes on in your soul. You should cast that betrayal aside and permit a cleansing and healing atonement FROM YOUR CHILDHOOD AS ALL OTHER SPEWINGS AND RANTINGS ARE A DIRECT RESULT OF THIS!!! We on this blog, are not the targets of your hatred and rantings. Your parents are. You want them to know how much they hurt you, insulted you and crushed your human morality. You need to tell them. You need to cut yourself loose of this and be free. You are now in your mother's place of choice. You know, that moment when it was apparent she should have walked away, but didn't. You are there now and you need to choose to save your future generations from paying for your father's sins. You are not guilty, it was not your fault. Because of that all the Women of Color that you see your mother's face in are not guilty and cannot pay your father's debt either. It is not their's to pay. Invert the Hellenic tragedy and increase Godspeed towards Catharsis. You are young yet and may endure this suffering for a few years yet, but your time is coming now or nearby, to release this weight. Do not let it destroy you. You said, "Lastly, incredible that you came up with the father theory. It is true, I was angry about it for years." When something has been proven it is no longer a theory, but a fact. No children I assume? If one were a girl would you want her to be crushed as you saw your mother? Would you want her to be weak after being traumatized by a man like you and your father? Lastly, loyalty can be blinding. Study the great civilizations. Wisdom creates salvation. Who shall you save?

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  11.   Member says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Sorry, I rushed the post.

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  12.   Member says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    (Watching football) Reading your comments Tricc. Why would I be jealous? Lennie of Mice and Men is quite interesting. That is one my favorite books actually. LOL Your comparison of me to Lennie was amusing. I don't have limited mental abilities. My agenda is to entertain, as well inform sellout black women that white men are not the solution to your dating woes. Before we even get into that. I analyzed the discourse between you and AZ. He called you confrontational and abrasive. Those statements were harsh but on the surface true. Then you changed your approach when AZ called you out on it. I did see him apologize to you concerning calling you confrontational. I think he did that just to appease you. Unlike him, I am not willing to bow my head to a woman that is clearly spoiled like you. Then you reference plantation and hints to slavery. It is a such an absurd argument. It is like conservatives bringing up Nazi references concerning Obama. I just give another perspective to a discussion. I don't write the author of this blog to ban people. That is like "KGB Soviet Union" tactics. By the way, your crying and complaining to them has not worked. Let me tell you something! I will never ever apologize to you. I have no reason too. Not even for the comments about you seeing a wealthy man and being propositioned into being his mistress. You did deny you never got involved allegedly. My father has some flaws. He was a good provider and loved my mother. Now was he misogynistic. Yes absolutely. My father grew up on a farm and chopped sugar cane. His mother remarried a one-armed man that was one of the toughest men on the Island. He must have been 6ft 5 240 pounds.My father's real dad died just before he was born. My father and his stepfather never got along. My father is a small man 5ft 4. I would say my father is a loyal, strict parent. He was an accountant for the United Nations for 25 years. The difference between me and my father is actually more compassionate than I am. His mother died of cancer when he was 10. We see relationships very differently. I tell him look these women is a different generation. My father said to me" rule your woman or she will rule you". We sort of think the same. You said forgive your father. I forgave him a long time ago. My father and mother have been married for 31 years. Abusive men can change. It is really not for me to forgive him. I believe in Karma man. Everything came back him. I can't kick a man while he is down. Most black women would have walked away from him to be honest with you. Deep down he is kind man. He is just a product of his environment and of the men he saw growing up. Your concept of what makes a real man is different than mine. There is no such thing as a "perfect father". I am never bothered by comments by intellectual women that took psychology. I do believe having a man in a boy's life is better than no father at all. Liberal women say "oh what if he is a drunk or etc". Again, still better no father at all in my opinion. Lastly, incredible that you came up with the father theory. It is true, I was angry about it for years. But that has nothing to do with women. It made me dislike weak women. It might be related. I do have a dislike for weak women. It could be an indictment on my mother. I don't think she had the "confidence" to walk away. But then again I like the fact she was loyal. LOL I can't explain it. I value loyalty over anything else. Sorry, I can't stand a disloyal woman. I stick by ruling black women with an iron fist. As far as a woman is concerned I have no weaknesses.

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  13.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Oh and BTW, I didn't get any of my aforementioned statement out of a book. I was born with REASON and my PARENTS helped me develop it with love, trust, guidance and didn't teach me to hate, tear down and deny my fellow brother, sister nor human. About the only disdain my mother rebuked were cats cause we even had dogs growing up. Dee, Poetry Night is Tuesday. Let's keep in line with the topic if we have anything (either way, this is America so we don't have to agree with the topic itself) to help achieve our points. If not, let's let some prose at least give us a break from so much! I am going to check your page out too and add you as a friend. I am happy this site gives us so many ways to meet and greet each other. I didn't just come here to flirt with a bunch of guys. I came here to give myself the opportunity to be a well rounded individual WITH the possibility of Divine Love. I'd love to hear your words as I've performed many a time on stage, but don't get the time to hear other poets. I look forward to Tuesday and hope others will join us.

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  14.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    You're Just JEALOUS I didn't have to take pity on Az because he's a real man and may even hide his bookworthiness to compensate for Sad Sacks such as yourself. You, I have to treat with kid gloves because you are a grinder and remind me of the character, Lennie, in the book "Of Mice and Men". On top of that you are a fool that clearly has a way with words but refuses to utilize your ability to do any justice in the world. No better than a plantation overseer, your instruction to human kind is to be berate, subdue and kick the Woman of Color, while your own woman you've so odiously written about you say refuses to accept a standard of being labeled "Black" (I don't blame her according to your justification), so everyone knows that means you don't TREAT her that way. When I first came her you were so demonizing Women of Color, myself and others thought to take it to the next level as you and all others know, what you were doing was not only wrong, it is illegal. Now you may say what you want, but it is good you are commenting using real Freedom of Speech tactics. Your observations are not off, they are just colored with ingrained hatred from your Caribbean roots. If you study those in the Caribbean or ask many people from there (who will truthfully tell you), you know that the desire to erase the genetics of Africa are far reaching in the mental psyche. You hate African American women because the only lament is being treated unjustly. We LOOOOVE our EVERYTHING which includes our men, babies, mothers, sisters, brothers and anyone that infectious love we cradle will reach. We've even loved those who've hated us the longest because LOVE conquereth all! THAT, my lost friend, is EXACTLY why you are jealous! If you apologized like Az had the man balls to do without FEAR, I would love you too. For just as much as you CLAIM Az HAD to treat me with disdain to get through to me, Az and any other logical HUMAN BEING realizes unacceptance and proliferation are just foolish. You hate yourself so deeply and untowardly it doesn't matter what others think. You got that from your father's household long before this blog came into effect. You, as a child, were not able to handle the maligning that went on in your home and the genetic recapitulation of the mental stability sequencing has damaged the core of your emotional psyche resulting in fracture. Nevertheless I have compassion as do others I've noted. You just don't know how to receive it, Az does. Most humans do. You are human too. Forgive your father and stop trying to make others feel your pain.

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  15.   Member says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Man there was so many posts. I will answer the question Unique said. "sounds like a plan, a-raz. *smile* here's my question to the black men of this lovely (rolling eyes) blog, what does it matter if a sistah, especially one who's about something, decides she'd rather date men of another nationality? what difference does it make? according to alot of the black men that i've dated/been involved with/affiliated with, to them, black women are nothing but DRAMA! so, what is the issue? is there a sense of "insecurity or something?? is there maybe the thought that "that white boy is gonna treat her right, like the queen that she was meant to be" and "there goes my pride...", i mean..what?? really, i don't see black men trippin over black women that deal with another black man?! that scenario doesn't become a controversial blog! and this is coming from a woman who's been hurt on both sides of the color line...i was attracted to white men long before i knew what romantic pain was..that's not what "drove" me into the arms of white men." It makes a difference when you run your mouth about black men. Go be attracted to white men but drag black men into your baggage. Wasn't you married to a black man for years? Why did that end? I will address any other questions today. I am just on a rampage today.

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  16.   Member says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    (Leaning in my leather chair) AZ put Tricc in her place. See more white guys have to put their foot down. Just because you spent most of your life reading books and focusing on your academic career. Does not make you understand men! (QQ at Tricc) You can't understand men by reading a book. That is one of the fundamental flaws of extremely intelligent and successful black women. Then they wonder why they bang their hand on the table breaking their freshly manicured nails wondering why men will not stay with them for long! I noticed Tricc tried to explain the reason she comes off confrontational to AZ. Clearly, she realizes she has issues. The white man does not want to know why you have issues. They want to know if you are ready for a relationship. I haven't been wrong yet actually. Look at this comment by Tricc. "Az I know how my looooooong expressions delay so I have to forewarn they are lengthy but if you play nice, soft Jazz (a bit of Miles perhaps), they will unwind you like a soft pillow for your tired head. Let me know Dee (If I may shorten your moni). What do you think?" Az see once you put your foot down on her ass. They turn around and treat you nicer. You must be firm with black women. There is no other way. When I release manuscript on how to "treat black women". I plan to address this in more details. If you notice, the hate thrown by "tattoo that on your forehead" to AZ. It only gave AZ more admirers. Basically, she just helped AZ get more women. I also plan to address this in my manuscript on why black women are prone to like the mistress lifestyle and "side girl" lane. I have been studying the black female species for most of my life. These sellout black women fighting over AZ like he is a chicken bone or neck bone. I will be back.

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  17.   Member says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Unique said why don't you put up your picture. My identity is not hidden. Go to my blog and then go to my twitter. They know who I am. You are new here so I will let you side with the bravery comment. Your kissing Tricc ass and that is a bit disturbing. She talking about poetry night. What's next choir practice night. AZ you got nothing to apologize for. Tricc is the type of black woman that is so "book smart". She just bores you in a relationship. The relationship social skills are not there. It wouldn't surprise me if she was part of sorority and she asks other nappy headed black women how to be a better performer sexually in the bedroom. Tatt was unfortunately led on by AZ. She has a right to be upset. AZ you tried to get with Big Eyes and now the naive "Unique", who just got out her 8 year marriage with a black man and is acting like a dog in heat.She looking at women and men's pages. I like that. See I respect AZ. He will spot the freaky black girls really fast. From my observation, Unique needs constant love and penis attention. If you can't keep up, she will move on. Tatt knows she a loose booty. Why she playing games on here? She just likes to control the relationship she is in.I can read women pretty well, in particular, black women. Tricc I haven't figured out yet. Extremely intelligent woman, a bit sexually deprived. Unique the new girl, Godiva is Ich's woman. She really don't give a damn. She is just really nice about it. Some of these black girls on this blog use white men for "leverage" to get into other relationships. But see I play chess too. I know what they are trying to do. I don't bite my tongue for no one. I released Maybach Blog Music. It addresses the materialism of black women and the delusional world they live in. http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  18.   julius26 says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Hi uniquelydeey i did have my picture up but for some reason it was taken off. Dont know why.

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  19.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    TricciNicci: no problem with the shortened version..it's my name (lol). as far as YOUR poetry is concerned, i'm definitely interested in seeing your style as well..i didn't take any courses on creative writing, it's just something that has kinda come naturually, but, now that you've thrown the idea of a "poetry expression" night, heck yeah!! (and adding to yet ANOTHER "black women stereotype", YES, WE ARE ALL NOSEY! lol) i viewed your page (NO, i'm NOT gay..for the wayward thinking people!) and girl, i give you props! i would've never guessed your age from your pics! enough said on that..lol. A-RAZ: scorpio i see.."many more" happy b-days wished to you WITH the understanding that you return the favor on the 29th (yes, i'm a scorpio, too), yet another commoninity (i made up a word! ha! ha! :-)). as far as the emoticons..i'm limited myself, i just take a stab at them playing with the keyboard symbols and hope they work! lol. and the "expression of interest"...hhmmm...wow...that was a little pre-mature on my part, not having read your previous response to TricciNicci... :-( que cera cera

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  20.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Thank you Az. Babbel kills me as I always forget where the translation manager is! With all those ads they put on to pay the overhead on site management it gets to be a little convoluting. It's been great actually talking to you. I can't even say the arguments were bad (long as there's growth ya know?), just don't like wasting anyone's time. I'd love to hear some poetry from you and Dee. Anyone else in poetryland, lol!

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  21.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Nevertheless, I am off to bed. 3:46 AM here in Ohio. Hopefully soon, we can share with each other our poetic minds. You two ladies have a wonderful night. May God bless.

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  22.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    "A-RAZ, keyword translation: communication direct. lol" Oh okay, got ya now. Sounds good. :) How do you learn the codes to put emoticons on here by the way? All I can do is the smiley.

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  23.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    uniquelydeey: So, now that you've shown interest....what are you buying me for by birthday tomorrow, eh? LOL I kid! I kid! Stupid sense of humor. I can't wait to see your poetry. I enjoy writing and it is a blessing from God that He gave me the talent and skill to write. No one should compliment me, only Him. It's a good way to tunnel out emotions and feelings onto paper. I have much more to share, I just need to compile them. Tric: Flip text and babel fish help a lot. lol I came back to apologize because it was wrong and in no way did I ever mean it. Sometimes I put my own foot in my mouth before thinking what I am doing. As Ryan said, if I was older I would most definitely consider you. I don't know if you would consider me nonetheless lol, but I would you. "I just happen to be good at both (naughty but nice?)." Attractive and sexy! Some men are turned off or, shy about smart, intelligent women. I find it extremely attractive and that characteristic of you is definitely a plus! I am sure you get or have gotten compliments before about your beauty and intelligence (blend of perfection) but it surely doesn't hurt to get more compliments. Peace to you and good luck finding your man who loves and appreciates your physical beauty, intelligence and personality defined through charm and glamor.

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  24.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Uniquelydeey, Don't worry, I tell people all the time I only "seem" nice. It is a choice as I had a unique upbringing and very well know how to curse like a sailor. What can I say about the power of choice? I am one who looooooves words (can you tell) and not their ruin (sorta think cursing lends to that end) coming from a large family where self expression was encouraged only deepens my plight, lol! May I suggest Dee, to share in your Tuesday Poetry Night? Az wanted to know more about my style and I read you were posting yours I believe. I'd love to share in exchange. So shall we make it a trinity of poetic expression? Az I know how my looooooong expressions delay so I have to forewarn they are lengthy but if you play nice, soft Jazz (a bit of Miles perhaps), they will unwind you like a soft pillow for your tired head. Let me know Dee (If I may shorten your moni). What do you think?

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  25.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    A-RAZ, keyword translation: communication direct. lol

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  26.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Loosely Translated: They know you're joking? Right? Used to live in Germany and took a course last summer I didn't finish. BTW, I want to thank you and Ryan for your encouragement and your compliments. I'm really glad Ryan showed up with his youth and honesty. It is really good to see. Thanks for coming back on the Man Stand, Az. I like male/female relationships as they remind me of a duet or dancing. Though it takes a special someone to make that song lifelong or that dance enigmatic, I think the practice amongst ourselves of the compassion in each role is just as important...i.e. I'd rather be demure than a hard ass. I just happen to be good at both (naughty but nice?). Take Care.

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  27.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    oh, and, A-RAZ, yes i did... (compliment to you) skills and talent in the "poetic" field, eh?! seems we have something in common in that area. you'll be able to see mine...tuesday... :-)

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  28.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Tric if I may ask: What do you write about in your poetry?

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  29.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Tuesday? Please help out with the keyword. Hey, if it's a no brainer just blame it on my blond hair. ha

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  30.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Wow, you're very forgiving. I am sincere though. Now quit wasting your energy on me and go find yourself a man already!!! LOL

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  31.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    A-RAZ: one word...tuesday. ;-) RYAN: i must say, you do appear to be mature beyond your years, you definitely know how to flatter a woman...heck, i'm flattered and you weren't even talking to me! lol TricciNicci: i applaud the way you let him down "gently"..very commendable.. to be honest with you, girl, i didn't know you had it in you the way you and A-Raz were going back and forth! (just a lil humor there!)

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  32.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Gotcha Az. All is forgiven. You'll never get a harsh feeling out of me (I said feelings, not words, lol!) Was on it, already translated (though not exact). I'll send you some of my poetry (on the blog that is). Hope you like it. Not today, soon. Namaste All

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  33.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    And the translation was wrong: "Now I know why black men LEAVE black women." Almost.... here, try this one: ¿ʇɥɔǝɹ 'uıq uǝzɹǝɥɔs sɐp ɥɔı ssɐp 'uǝssıʍ ǝıs

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  34.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Yahoo babel fish work well? lol

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  35.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Let's be fair and share in ENGLISH! "Теперь я знаю почему чернокожие человек выходят чернокожие женщины!!!" Quoted from above. TRANSLATED from the Russian to English: "Now I know why black people go black women!" Conversation Closed.

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  36.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    uniquelydeey: You got your response. :) I was kinda surprised. Cool though nonetheless. You read my poetry? And Tric: I apologize to you. I was being rude and I was the one being confrontational. You are a very smart beautiful woman and I do hope you find your love whether it be black/white/Hispanic or whatever. I agree with Ryan you have no excuse to be single. You have the beauty and intelligence any man can appreciate. Am I sucking up now? Maybe....(blush) lol And uniquelydeey: That better not have been a "ego boost" flirt. LOL

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  37.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Ryan, Thank you so much for the sweet and kind words! I had a great love Ryan, many years ago. We were together for a good deal of my adult life. There were just issues I could not overcome for him. I could not give myself to the marriage but have always prayed for the best for him. That would have been the person I would have married. It just didn't work out. So, three engagement rings later, no marriage, lol! The other thing is Ryan, sometimes a person can come along before time is ready for them. In my day, I avoided men my age and dated those who could hold me intellectually. This may have been a mistake, dunno. I figure, now men in my peer group should have caught up a bit since women normally mature about ten years ahead of their male counterparts. At this point in my life I am single as a snowflake falling and won't even consider dating anyone ten years my senior. I'll have a chance again and this time, time will be on my side. Still, I am with you, I wish someone of your honesty and openness could be found in my age range. But that is a person thing, not anything of age. You are just a genuine person. God didn't make to many of those. Good luck Ryan, I'm hoping the best for you. Just reach for the stars.

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  38.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    uhm..no, A-RAZ...it's called a "flirt"..not a "scam"! lmao!!

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  39.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Okay, you win! One statement: Теперь я знаю почему чернокожие человек выходят чернокожие женщины!!! You take care!

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  40.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Azrazyel, Now this is directed at you for sure. I ASKED you a few INSIGHTFUL questions!!!! YOU CHOOSE NOT TO ANSWER BUT INSTEAD WENT ON THE DEFENSIVE!!!!!!!!!! LOOK IN THE MIRROR FOR A CHANGE! WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE!!! The blog itself CONFRONTS issues derived in interracial relationships. Folks are confrontational here constantly. I do not apologize for being whatever you perceive me as, as I am not on trial for being myself. Say what you want believe what you feel. Keep believing. Keep boxing, tearing down and not building up. I'm still posting to you because you keep writing back. You have every opportunity to change the course and direction of the conversation, but you haven't. This because I asked you a few logical questions? Wow, is all I can say. Now a moment ago you thought it wrong of me to state my own belief's but you want yours adhered to intangibly? That is surreal, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Then you try to insult my intelligent by saying you think I've superior intelligence but certainly not of a complimentary nature? Laughable! As I believe the statement was I was "acting" like I had superior intelligence. No, maybe I'm just more logical or more thorough - may have better writing skills. That doesn't make me superior as a human, just one who can make better inroads and certainly present more well rounded thoughts. Still no superiority over anyone black or white. So since I started this conversation, I'll be the bigger person and close it out. It's apparent you don't value growth that's not par to your perceptions of life. I'd rather have intellect than close-mindedness. I'd rather be free than a slave. So on that note I asked the question before, "Why cast your pearls before swine". I think I know the answer. Namaste and Blessings Nevertheless

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  41.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Oh Lord. This website is still infested with scammers. (sigh)

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  42.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    sounds like a plan, a-raz. *smile* here's my question to the black men of this lovely (rolling eyes) blog, what does it matter if a sistah, especially one who's about something, decides she'd rather date men of another nationality? what difference does it make? according to alot of the black men that i've dated/been involved with/affiliated with, to them, black women are nothing but DRAMA! so, what is the issue? is there a sense of "insecurity or something?? is there maybe the thought that "that white boy is gonna treat her right, like the queen that she was meant to be" and "there goes my pride...", i mean..what?? really, i don't see black men trippin over black women that deal with another black man?! that scenario doesn't become a controversial blog! and this is coming from a woman who's been hurt on both sides of the color line...i was attracted to white men long before i knew what romantic pain was..that's not what "drove" me into the arms of white men.

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  43.   RYAN says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    TricciNicci, i admire your intelligence, beauty and personality. if i were twice my age, i'd like to take you out on a date, so i can get to know you better. you seem like the perfect woman, i dont understand why you're single, it shouldnt be hard for someone like you to find a good man.

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  44.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Yes. I surely didn't read your worthless rant. I saw you posted garbage I could give two shits less about. But, you can continue typing. Waste your time and trying to act like miss superior intelligent. You ARE confrontational. You believe you aren't. I believe you are. Why you still posting to me when you already know I don't give a shit? That's being confrontational miss. Only furthermore proves your stereotype. Thanks for confirming.

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  45.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    "Oh one more thing: Tric: People like you prove me right about “some” black women being confrontational. Not all, but stereotypes are there for a reason." ~Azrazyel You must know I care not you are accusing me of the very thing I've seen ENDLESS pages and comments on concerning a certain "tribe" of individuals who would rather cut a person down instead of just taking simple human interest by ASKING questions. No, instead these particular individuals act very similarly to children at school yard recess: ganging up on those they think have no option (hey, isn't that the name of a blog thread, lol!); or those that show a greater propensity for decency; yanking things out of context; threading lies throughout their posts which the other cronies quickly agree with. Oh, can't stand the heat AZRA? Well get the HEdoublehockeysticks outta the kitchen. I am not in your business, dear sir. I am on a public blog. Certain interactions are interesting to me. Yours was one of them. Now you can hide like a chicken or come along in a manner that heightens your supposed manliness, since you heavily count on it. I don't count on my femininity, but rather my HUMANITY which leaves me pretty FEARLESS - not confrontational. No, not at all. I just don't cower in the corner because deep throat spoke and he's tallerbiggerwider, has-something-growing-between-his-thighs which he often wields like a weapon when a female won't do exactly as he says. Oh yeah, I forgot I'm the weaker of the sexes. So what's all the fuss about? The last time I looked in the mirror I wasn't BLACK at all. I was a PERSON! So pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee don't get me started! Like Mr. King said, "Why can't we all just get along"!

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  46.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    *Excuse my arguments here with Tric* lol Yeah, I closed it because of the scammers on this website. More scammers registering than actual members. Became frustrating. I was thinking of reopening it when I receive some kind of confirmation that it has toned down.

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  47.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    yeah, AZRAZYEL, i tried to link to your acct and you closed it (sucks for me!..lol.). but i'm speaking mostly of the men like mr laurelton queens, julius26, among others...seems ichibod and 85kguy are some of the only ones brave enough to show their faces in this battle of the wits, races, and genders!

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  48.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Take your own advice and don't indulge with issues that concern you not! Peace

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  49.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Az, People like me only prove one thing and one thing only: You need to think before you act. See I can be short and to the point. No need to take it personally.

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  50.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Black Queen, Good to hear from you. I understand your perspective completely. I think your expression was quite right on as knee jerk reaction or not, that was in your psyche somewhere. This particular thread brought it out. When issues or items create unresolved stress, we often will react to "triggers" that re-engage the issue. In your case it sounds as if you have already dealt with your scenario in a healing fashion, but took the time to write about it and share with others. You have given many of the men a degree of reprieve as there are those who write on this blog what they constantly complain and refer to as the 'Black Woman's lack of support for the Black Man'. Me thinks your sharing should be proof as why the words 'never' and 'always' should not be used EVER. On either side of the coin. I am glad to hear how your life has healed and taken on the result of beauty and definition because you took the time to think about what truly mattered to YOU! Thanks for sharing Black Queen. Your perspective needs to be shared and heard. Namaste

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