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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    uniquelydeey: Scroll up to my name higher on this page. Mine is there from before.

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  2.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Oh one more thing: Tric: People like you prove me right about "some" black women being confrontational. Not all, but stereotypes are there for a reason. Take care

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  3.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Okay. Tatt: I was responding to Queens when he said: "Clearly, this was a racially insensitive remark. I am starting to think Tatt had a reason for changing her mind on you concerning a relationship.” I responded defending from my own perception. I didn't start the rant over you. Why not just let the damn thing go? It happened like 5 months ago. Leave it rest. And Tric: I don't care about your lifelong posts. This had nothing to do with you, so it's only right to steer clear of my business. And go ahead and write another half page statement, I won't read it like I'm sure a majority of others tend to skip over it any way. Peace to both of you.

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  4.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    okaky, i'm just curious here...alot of the men that are voicing their opinions on here have no face (pic) to go along with their words..WHAT GIVES WITH THAT??!!

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  5.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Tat, Don't worry, many WOMEN (and I need a PERIOD there) are more interested in a cup of coffee because they have a BRAIN which produce thoughts/ideals to share, not just the symbolic Valentine red of a p---y rose, meow! There's also another saying which is far more stimulating than the flat buzz sound from a rejected flirt..."Why cast your pearls before swine?" And, ooooh, Az - that little macho statement about women loving roses. The last bunch of roses a guy sent me ended up directly in the trash. As who said I wanted anything from him? Course had we met for coffee and showed true interest in me, not treating me simply as an object to thrust his perception of attraction on, might've been a different story. I mean Az, you were discussing another topic, but what is the value of this statement??? "...but that doesn’t stop me from keeping my horizon very wide and distant because I appreciate women from all races, backgrounds, experiences, and walks of life". I won't speculate and wasn't there when the initial action took place, but weren't you acquainted on the blog prior to the flirt? Did it ever dawn that a flirt might come because someone's interested in your mind? You seem quite the philosopher so why does it always have to just be sex/race, love/hate? What extremes, how about just simple connecting with a human of your psychological/social caliber. Anyhow each to his own. It does make for interesting and provoking conversation/thought. Things that make you go, "hmmmmmm".

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  6.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    No, Az, that was NOT all I had to say (don't women just love being told what is necessary for them....lol). Obviously, something is amiss if you think a cup of coffee has the same meaning as a rose. And who the hell gets so bent on online flirts anyway......it's not like the person is stalking you.....YOU CAN JUST IGNORE THEM....just FYI. I am just getting a little tired of you coming in here acting like I was really coming on to you or some ssshhh. For future reference, not every woman that flirts (online and REAL WORLD) with you wants to "carry your seed" or even "talk" to you. Some women do it just for the fun of it. Others just do it to acknowledge a guy for whatever reason. Some even do it just to get a kick out of boosting a guy's ever-so-delicate ego......Like I said before, "grey areas"....Life's full of 'em. And the fact is I have made it crystal that if I found someone on here that I REALLY wanted to "TALK" to I would go on and send a full message rather than just a "flirt". but maybe that's JUST ME....lol. So stop the B.S. ....ENOUGH ALREADY....LOL. Because you are soooo right...so what you "denied" me.....LOL. (keep getting the image of "ACCESS DENIED" in my head....hilarious) The air just needed to be cleared and it had been "stagnate" for a long time on this trifling issue.....soooooo..I just put the "wind machine" to work....lol. Peace and Blessings (as always) tatted2death P.S. Ok THAT was the last time.....LOL.....nighty, night, kiddies.

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  7.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Tatt: All you had to say was you we're putting it to rest again. So what if I denied. EVEN if it was a cup of coffee compared to a wonderful red rose. lol Hell, I've denied flirts regardless of their symbol. A flirt is a flirt, coffee, rose, teddy bear, bag of coal, whatever. They have no meaning to me. If someone is initiating they are interested somehow. I would usually send roses since women love roses more than a cup of coffee. Hey that's just me.

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  8.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 09

    Ok time to put the "madness" to rest....... this is the absolute LAST TIME I am going to address this childish matter. Az, Yes, you did decline (I assume you mean that instead of "denied"...lol) a "flirt" from me that was a effing "cup 'o coffee" on this site. The other "flirt" icons are clearly "romantic" in nature so I chose the one that was NOT. Two GROWN people can have a mutually repectful dialogue over a cup of coffee AND THAT IS WHERE I WAS GOING WITH THAT. NOW you can say you clearly know what tat's intentions were.......cease the B.S. PULLLLEEEEZZZE. All those with eyes can see that our friend, Queens likes to twist sshhhh like a effing tornado in Texas so to even acknowledge that nonsense (with another half-assed put-down for me...lol) shows the level of maturity you are working with......I peeped the "leaving the arguing to black people comment" and knew where you were coming from with that. It's just your whole mentality it seems......just like those people that have a problem with an assertive woman....nine times out of ten she is going to be called a "bitch" but if a man exudes the same quality it is considered admirable. Hail, I have been called "hot-headed" just for not letting mouthy jerks walk over me....whatever. I have seen "other than black" people "argue" in here....I have seen people also defend themselves. There are fine lines and grey areas here. YOU (just like many other well-meaning folks) have been guilty of engaging in the nonsense here....but I guess you get a pass because what???...you're white???...you're a male???....you're "new to this"......UMMMMM....I THINK NOT!!! Some people really need to take a hard look in the mirror before they say some of the stupid sssshhhh that they do.....geeesh. And to think I was almost going to let that shit slide in the name of not letting our friend, Queens get a kick out of it.....dayum...he is probably coming in his pants right now trying to come up with a way to "pretzel-fy" this situation....LMAO. Not trying to be harsh or anything I just calls 'em like I sees 'em......character flaw, I suppose. Peace and Blessing tatted2death

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  9.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    "Show me a black woman that was raised in the black community that never dated a black man." I'm sure the possibility is there. But even if she dated black men does not mean every single one of them has been hurt by black men. Not every white woman has been hurt by white men. I mean hell, I've never been hurt by white women. I love them all, but that doesn't stop me from keeping my horizon very wide and distant because I appreciate women from all races, backgrounds, experiences, and walks of life. "That is the equivalent of finding a white woman that dated black men her whole life and she never lost her virginity. I never heard of it." That may be true, but not just a black/white issue here either. It's pretty tough to find anybody that is a virgin and has morals for themselves nowadays.

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  10.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Queens: I can't input for Julius. But we can only speak for what we may know or see by experience. We can't assume on others based upon our own experiences. As an example: You may have met black women (again only assuming, correct me if wrong) that have been hurt, so that is what you have by knowledge. Julius, on the other hand may know the exact opposite of your experiences. Another example: I know four white women who date black men under these two circumstances. 1.(Two of these white women) White men never showed interest in them until they started dating black men. 2. (One white woman) says because of general attraction to all races. (The other white woman) says of being screwed over too many times by white men, so she expanded her options. Now those are my experiences. I cannot possibly think ALL white women think this because of "my" personal experiences. Everyone knows different people therefore, different reasoning.

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  11.   Member says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Dear Julius Perhaps I should ask you this question. Show me a black woman that was raised in the black community that never dated a black man. You show me and than you made your case. There is always rare exceptions in a group. That is the equivalent of finding a white woman that dated black men her whole life and she never lost her virginity. I never heard of it. If that white woman exists, show me that white woman too. I am a fair man.

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  12.   julius26 says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    There are black women whom has never dated a black man so i dispute the fact that the majority of black woman date white men because they have been hurt by a black man.

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  13.   SEWilde says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    A hearty welcome all new comers!

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  14.   SEWilde says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    SimplySpicy, Thank your for the nod, welcome. The release of the book is soon. Ms. Godiva, hope all is well with you and yours. I wish all much peace and happiness. Returning to my backyard, to enjoy 80 degree temps. Enjoy life. SE

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  15.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Very good points queens. I suppose all have a different outtake on IR dating. I guess it's the "weeding out" of people who are genuine compared to the people who do it in vain. I'm sure a black man who truly loves white women and seeking a lifetime companionship would not want one who puts down white men or complains about them or even has to explain why they chose to date you. I think most (if not all) seek true love, but you have those rotten bunch who ruin it for everyone else. I've heard white women complain that the Asian women we're taking theirs. Your right about looking down on white men by white women who date black women. They have that look as if "that's the best you could do?" or, "how could you sink that low?" I've heard white men do the same towards white women who date black men. I have no issues with IR couples. I just hate when people slam each other for choices that has no effect upon them whatsoever. It always seems to be a black/white issue. Not so much the case in any other pairings. I understand the history and the relevance between whites and blacks. Blacks are much, much more open with displeasure with each other. Sometimes in public and here on these blogs. White people seem to be more subtle, and issues tend to be dealt with behind closed doors.

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  16.   Member says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Hey Big eyes. How you been? The weather that bad. Sorry to hear that. Hey AZ You make good points. It could be all speculation. Surveys I have read. White women are the most open to dating different races of men. The same with white men. I would have to agree white women due voice their displeasure with white guys. The reasons I have read is because white men date outside of their race. In my observation, I use to see subtle tension between white women and Asian women. Actually, Asian women are passive aggressive. They are not as innocent as they look. I would say Asian women literally "get aggravated" if a white girl moved in on a white guy they liked! I have also observed white women sort of dismissive of black women being with white men. They generally look "down" on white men dating black women for some reason. Vice Versa can be said for white men who see white women with black men. Black women are really different in my opinion. It is hard to tell if they date white men out of resentment towards black men. Black women are generally the last to date outside of their race. I have hardly met any black women that was indifferent to black men dating white women. Generally, they have all have an opinion about it. Black women seem to get really upset when "well off" black men date white women. Their anger is directed to athletes, entertainers and other black men that were fortunate to get rich. It makes no sense since a majority of black men are not even close to being rich. They basically indict all black men for having jungle fever. In conclusion Black women date white men out of jealousy and resentment. Most sellout black women are selective in the white men they do date. They will not date a white guy that lives in trailer. If they were not so selective, I think more white men would be dating them. Sellout black women would rather be mistresses to white collar white men and "side" girls. A nappy headed black girl told me you get more money and things if you are a mistress than a wife. This is the mentality that is plaguing the black female population. "Maybach Blog Music" addresses this mentality. I am gone. I have to go to work.

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  17.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    "90 percent of black women who choose to date outside of their race, say they have been hurt by black men. I say 99 percent." Hell, I could take a survey of 1000 white women and ask why they date black men. There would be a variety of answers. 1000 could say because I have racist parents. Probability cause for racist parents= 100%. 1000 others could say because all the white guys want there supermodel like white woman. These same white women could be a little overweight. Probability that white women claim white men only want "the supermodel mold"= 100% 1000 white women could say "because I want to see if it's true that black men have big dicks. Probability= 100% Point is on who you ask. Each person is different. I surely couldn't lump all white women in the same category especially when I don't even know .0000001% of them. But I give black women credit. They've been hurt, or can't find a black man who treats her right, they expand their options. There are many white/non-white men who appreciate a black woman. And we can show them love just as much as black men, and also give them that love they never had. If society wasn't so harsh on black women, they would know other races DO appreciate them and they would not have the mindset of "only black men can truly appreciate a black woman." Too many wait for that perfect black man. If that wasn't conditional to them, they would have an easier time knowing other races love them and they are allowed to find love from other races. Black men do not own black women. White men do not own white women. People are free to choose and only ignorance makes it tough for us all.

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  18.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Thanks SimplySpicey for the honorable mention and you have a beautiful spirit. Ms. godiva how are you? Mr. L.Queens, what's ? I hope everyone is having a great weekend. I'm outside and too cold to think right now,LOL. Peace

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  19.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Queens: I didn't say "all" black people argue. That would be absurd. I said "I'll leave it to the black people." That was meant to be in here only. My apologies. It's hard not to notice that after seeing this website and the numerous arguments between 99.5% of black people, and considering hardly any white people post here. "Clearly, this was a racially insensitive remark. I am starting to think Tatt had a reason for changing her mind on you concerning a relationship." I don't know about tatt, but my intentions we're surely of no interest of talking or interest of being in a relationship. Far from it. She came to me first, I denied. Simple as that and I'll leave it as that.

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Dear Black Queen Nothing wrong with feeling the way you do. Sellout black women complain about black men on a daily basis to justify being with a white guy. I never hear any women defend black men. As soon as you say a white boy called you a racial name. Everybody gets defensive over the white guys. Let me tell you something, if a white guy on this board is 30 years old and up, or even 25 years old and up and says to me " I have never said an racially insensitive thing or never heard it. That son of a bitch is lying. Everybody has racial stereotypes and thoughts about other races. I like AZ but he said essentially that all black people argue. He said this.... "I am not here to argue with you. (I’ll leave that to black people. no pun intended.)" Clearly, this was a racially insensitive remark. I am starting to think Tatt had a reason for changing her mind on you concerning a relationship. Unique brings energy to this board again. Tell Scoff and Sara to never come back with their fabricated tales. I never followed your background. I don't even think they are married. Now back to Black Queen. If she said a black man slapped her face and she decided to date a white guy, I doubt people would question it. Our experiences is what shapes us. I had my battles back in the late 80s with white boys until they fled to the suburbs. They call it "white flight". It was no white flight. It was to many damn minorities let me move the fuck out of here. Just like white guys want black women to live in their comfort zone away from the black community. It is disingenuous to jump on her when everybody here harbors the same feelings she does. 90 percent of black women who choose to date outside of their race, say they have been hurt by black men. I say 99 percent. I stick by that! Oh yea, I released "Maybach Blog Music" on my blog. Showing black NBA players married to black women. It wasn't one or two either!!!!!!!! I dissed the sellout black girls too. http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  21.   julius26 says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Simplyspicey you say you are mixed; mixed with what white,latino, indian, you look black to me hun

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  22.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    tatted2death, Just sending some love your way! It's always nice to hear from you!!! Say hey to Mick for me(lol). love godiva

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  23.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Wonderfully encouraging dialogue lately......LOVELY. The newcomers (uniquelydeey, SimplySpicy,...) are ROCKING IT!!!! Thanks so much for the love and recognition, SimplySpicy....YOU ARE NOT ALONE (lol). Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  24.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    oh, and azrazyel, get with a good black woman that has an entrepreneural spirit (and some business savvy) like yours and your hopes and aspirations will become hers and you WILL own your landscape business...she will see to that and help you every step of the way!!

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  25.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    godiva61: you are so very encouraging! your words of wisdom will echo in my thoughts for times to come.. :-) azrazyel: i'm darn sure not a spammer..i myself have tried to access a few accts and got the same message, so, i don't know what the deal is on that! ryan: okay, hun, i will say this from just the perspective of "uniquelydeey", not anyone else..so, please, no one think that i'm speaking for them!..the color of your skin doesn't automatically disqualify you. for some women, it's the PERCEPTION behind the color of your skin...as has been repeated so many times throughout this blog, the stereotype that if you're "x" nationality, then you act like all the rest of "x" nationality. no different than a black woman wondering the same pertaining to white men automatically dissqualifying us. i've been attracted to black men, heck, i was married to a black man for 9 years...but, my attraction to white men is more than just on a physical level, it's a mental/emotional attraction. judging from the few "good apples" that i've come across, when white men know they have a good black woman, they respond accordingly..they truly treasure her and treat her like the queen that she is. THAT IS IN NO WAY A SLAM ON MY BROTHAS (i've got much love for them), again, i'm just speaking from MY perspective and experiences. SimplySpicy: i agree with godiva61,..gorgeous cheek bones! :-)

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  26.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Black Queen: I am not here to argue with you. (I'll leave that to black people. no pun intended.) All you had to say was you are happily married. You came right in saying about your bad experience with a white boy in seventh grade, so of course it is my nature to question you and try to understand what you meant by that. I saw it as a negative comment so I responded. Yes, some white people are evil, but it's not just whites who are. And then you say a comment about a white boy in seventh grade. And then state "because the topic was about white men being attracted to black women." I saw nothing in there relating to this topic. I saw you post a negative experience which has nothing to do with..."are white men really least attracted to black women?" I wonder how some would take it if I was a first time poster saying....."yea, this black dude called me whitey in sixth grade." I am sure they would wonder what the hell my statement had anything to do with this here topic. Some may see it as negativity. "I am highly educated".....okay....and? "I’m happy in my life, are you?" Yes very much so. Thanks for asking. I work full time as a landscaper with aspirations of owning my own landscaping business someday. I also help my buddy as a DJ. So yes, I am very much so happy. I am happy you are married. That's good to see. All I did was question your intention with irrelevance (on topic to this thread) by a statement made. Have a good day.

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  27.   Member says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    TricciNicci, That was so long ago, I just thought I would share an experience I had,I was 13 years old, I just started becoming interested in boys,I was a late bloomer, kids nowadays have boyfriends at 9 LOL, but anyway,I am married, now for 11 years, and very happy, very blessed that God, sent a man that I have a strong connection with, some people don't believe in soul mates,I have mine.

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  28.   Member says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Azrazyel, you didn't read my comment right I don't hate anyone, I said he was evil,and I said some white people are evil, did I say I hated anyone, you need to check yourself I did not say anything about hating anyone, no I didn't it seems to me, you read like your in elementary school, that is not the only negative experience I had with white people you don't know me at all,everyone is entitled to their own opinion,I am so over that,I just thought I would tell of something that happened to me, because the topic was about white men being attracted to black women,I am highly educated.I'm happy in my life, are you?

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  29.   Member says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    I didn't know who I was then as someone that was 13 years old and in 7th grade, you really don't know who you are,you imitate what you see on t.v. I am glad that happened,with that guy at school, because, it made me want to get connected with my roots to find out who I am,if you lack knowledge of self,you will walk around not knowing who you are,I couldn't live a life like that, I'm happy,I am married, 11 years now, life is good.

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  30.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Ryan and Black Queen, Ryan's point is smack dab, X spot appointed. Black Queen, idealisms introduce us to the concept of differences and similarities in people or cultures. Our experiences give us just that, experiences. The beauty is that experience is not the be all and end all of any ideal. Black Queen, I doubt not you are just that, but here is a young man who says he is attracted to Women of Color from the stand point of commitment, attraction and desire. So you are correct to say "some and not all". If that simpleton remark from the mouth of a peer in the easily warped mind of youth opened your eyes to the beauty of your cultural kin, that's beautiful as you took something meant to be negative and turned it positive. My question, is that the only reason you pursued your love for chocolate? Was there anything outside of cultural ease that brought you to the arms of your strong, Black man? I only ask because it seemed it was wrought out of the fire of rejection. I would hope it would come from love of self and the overcoming of a warped sense of self-disapproval for your ethnic self. What brought you to self love? What made you love your Brown brother outside of distaste for the foolishness of youth? Do you think Caucasians beneath you as you once perceived you were to feel? There is no right or wrong answer and I am glad to hear you have achieved favorable happiness for yourself in a standard that you can accept. The point of asking is only because you sound as though you suffered and I, for one, think you shouldn't have had to. Still, I see the inflection of your experience upon others. The cycle never seems to end.

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  31.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    uniquelydeey, I won't try and decipher or assume the 'hunting' theory, but I will say this, you only get one chance at life, so explore, seek, indulge and whatever you do, live life, rather than exist through life. You will never know what an abundant life is, if you think, thrive and live in mediocrity and inside of a box!!! Stay true to you, and don't compromise your integrity as a decent human being, use common sense, and always value that precious gift of being a woman! love godiva

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  32.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Simply Spicy, First off you are a very beautiful young lady, love those cheekbones. Second, I do appreciate your comments, not only towards me, but to all that you mentioned. Too many time in life we hear all too often the pessimism about human behavior and attitudes, and way too much judgement against others, so it's nice and refreshing to hear, optimism and compliments towards other human beings. Thank you for your kindness and most of all thank you for being here. If there is anything that you need, just let me know.. Stay sweet and God Bless! love godiva

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  33.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Ryan: Simple quick question. Is this website still infested with scammers? I closed my account because it was seeming as if this place had more scammers than "actual" people registering. Became quite frustrating because I would come in contact with them only to find out their account "has been closed by site administrator". Let me know man, thanks.

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  34.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    SimplySpicy: Thank you for your comments. I encourage you to stay as well. :)

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  35.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Black Queen said: "When,I was caught up in the way society, and televison, wanted me to see myself as inferior to white people,like white women were, beautiful I was in 7th grade, I liked white boys, that was until, a white boy that sat behind me called me nappy head,I new then that some of them where some evil ass bitches, not all but some, I have never dated a white man, and for those that do, I don’t have a problem with it,I don’t care that’s their chose, but as for me, I’m stickin with my sexy chocolate black man." "I liked white boys, that was until, a white boy that sat behind me called me nappy head." While you are most definitely entitled to your preference and opinion, that to me is surely a retarded comment. A black person called me whitey before. So... Should I stick to my own kind because of it? And that was in 6th grade. Only black kid in school and he called me whitey. (roll eyes) That comment of yours is as elementary as the grade you we're in. Surely to hate whitey because one called you nappy deems itself in a narrow-minded, short-scoped point of view. That's my opinion. As I said you are entitled to yours and I respect it. Good luck!

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  36.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    Ryan: It's in the eye of the beholder. Different strokes for different folks.

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  37.   RYAN says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    this might be a stupid question, but what exactly makes a black man more attractive than a white man? i dont like being automatically disqualified because of the color of my skin.

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  38.   Member says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 09

    When,I was caught up in the way society, and televison, wanted me to see myself as inferior to white people,like white women were, beautiful I was in 7th grade, I liked white boys, that was until, a white boy that sat behind me called me nappy head,I new then that some of them where some evil ass bitches, not all but some, I have never dated a white man, and for those that do, I don't have a problem with it,I don't care that's their chose, but as for me, I'm stickin with my sexy chocolate black man.

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  39.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 23 Oct 09

    lol, julius26...other than for obvious reasons that i THINK i may know, why would you discourage me from hunting?

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  40.   julius26 says:
    Posted: 23 Oct 09

    Dont go hunting

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  41.   SimplySpicy says:
    Posted: 23 Oct 09

    I must say that this is the most interesting forum I have ran into. I think that it is great that there are many similar and differing views. I am a black(mixed) woman who has i.r dated for the past few years. I never thought that I would find women who like myself (godiva,tat,smooches,natalie,sewilde,etc..)are not afraid of being with a man irregardless of his race. I appreciate the views of the males as well(ashley,azra,joe,85k,ichibod, and even mr queens lol) I even enjoyed reading about Sara and Scoff relationship. I can safely say that this forum is good because it shows that there are decent white men out there who are truly interested in black women. This forum also shows that it is never a good thing to demean anyone of the same or opposing race because they are here due to that race. I think that ignorance is wrong in all aspects and that people should not be judged harshly for their preferences. On that same note, those that have faced discrimination should not practice it in reverse. Mr Queens, I applaud the fact that you are a intelligent man and that you stand behind your convictions. I can see how you can have the passion <<is a Leo as well and thinks that she is right 90%of the time. That is something we both share honestly. What I do not understand is how you sit up here and say that you are a Christian, but some of your remarks leaves me thinking that you are biased. The last time I checked the God we serves is not biased against anyone and he does not judge us by the color of our skin. I personally think that you can be quite civil and nice when your not going to the far left.. Plus I find it entertaining that you have a love/hate relationship for Ms. Tat Sara and Scoff please do not leave here I am very interested in your story, I like others here would love to see it come to the big screen. I think that you guys are a beautiful couple and I commend you for exposing your mistakes and misgivings. We are all guilty of that and it is quite sad that people try to cast their stones at you, yet they are just as guilty,(whether it's with someone of the same race or different). Ms Tat, Godiva, Smooches, Natalie,SEWilde(I am looking forward to the book by the way) remain lovely and optimistic. I love all of your spirits and you guys are quite lovely inside and out. I wish that there were more angels like you around. To my main guys Ashley,Ichibod, Azrazyel,85k, thank you for giving a honest male point of view. You are some Great, Intelligent, handsome men that possess some insightful yet meaningful posts. Mr Queens even though we have differing views, thank you as well :-) p.s. Sara and Scoff I would love to hear from you guys please let us know if you have a blog or let me know if I can be part of your email list :-)

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  42.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 23 Oct 09

    azrazyel, thank you! you're awesome! ;-)

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  43.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 22 Oct 09

    You're very pretty!!! (:

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  44.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 22 Oct 09

    uhm..never mind on the post pic question...i see i got it! lol

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  45.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 22 Oct 09

    (how the duece do i post my pic on here?? i've been trying to figure that out since my first post!! lol) well, "a-raz", you had me at "...would like to travel..." (;-)), never been hunting or rock climbing, but the rest, right up my alley. oh, well, *sigh*, as you said, he will find me..be it on myspace, facebook, or face-to-face.."if i'm patient he will come"..cliche', but none the less, true. :-) RYAN: uhm, i've seen some of the girls in louisiana, though they might be cute, i see exactly what your tastes in women are (you're still young, your tastes will change..lol)..or maybe that's just the parts of la that i've got family in. so, being that this blog was originally created on the topic of why white men love black women, i've pretty much gotten alot of insight, from both nationalities, and both genders..all i can say is WOW..

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  46.   azrazyel says:
    Posted: 22 Oct 09

    uniquelydeey: My mistake. I misread believing you live in Texas. My sincerest apologies. It's funny you say that those white men say you're not "black enough" for them. Wait....I've heard that before.....black men! lol That's what I don't seek is a woman that they pertained you to be. I know exactly what you mean in those terms. **cough...ghetto...cough** Sorry. "a white girl in a black girl’s body" That's not right. I would want someone to accept and adhere to her culture. Her culture is just as important to her as it would be for me. As well as vice versa. I wouldn't think nor say that to her. Just come as you are....everything else will fall into place. :) "guessing because i’m not “ghetto fabulous” or something, because i listen to rock vs rap, and country vs r&b, or because i’m into sports like hockey, golf, and baseball." Wow. I think I fell in love already. lol I listen to Heavy Metal, Rock/Alternative & 80's. Not rap. HATE country. lol Love sports, hockey...Pittsburgh Penguins. Baseball...Oakland Athletics. Golf...Tiger Woods and Phil Mickelson. If I could find someone who would like to travel, rock climbing, camping, fishing, hunting, long trail walks and bike path rides....I would be made. Many black females I am sure have the same interests. Cultures don't define interest, but interests define individuals. Every culture is not the same either, for every culture has different layers and complexity. Hang in there. He will find you or you will find him. Don't give up and don't let shortcomings bring you down. May God Bless. RYAN: Man, I might have to. I hear there are aplenty of them down there. Yea? Very beautiful too I hear as well. Contemplating.....

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  47.   RYAN says:
    Posted: 22 Oct 09

    AZRAZYEL, u need to come down here to new orleans if u lookin for a black girl

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  48.   uniquelydeey says:
    Posted: 22 Oct 09

    RYAN & azrazyel, you are both too sweet..and azrazyel, that's funny, but i live in oklahoma now, not in texas anymore..didn't have that problem there, just here! but, here's the thing, some of the white guys that i've dealt with that AREN'T just "black curious" say that i'm not "black" enough for them..say i'm "a white girl in a black girl's body"..guessing because i'm not "ghetto fabulous" or something, because i listen to rock vs rap, and country vs r&b, or because i'm into sports like hockey, golf, and baseball. don't know..all i know is i'm having it hard on both ends of the spectrum...lol. i will say this, though, i'm feeling about like you right now, i might just have to move somewhere else. uhm, but, if you ever consider moving south-ward, there's plenty of room in oklahoma! :-)

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  49.   azrazyel says:
    Posted: 21 Oct 09

    uniquelydeey: I am so sorry about your experiences with white men. You wonder why white men may be more "black curious" than "black serious"? YOU LIVE IN TEXAS!!!!! Redneck, right-wing (or mental ward as I call them) extremists. Okay, not every single one of them, but demographics being in Texas most certainly does not help. I am a white male from Ohio. I stated before that Ohio is pretty bad in certain areas, but people of ALL races and genders are very much open to dating IR. Where I live it seems pretty rough in some areas, but being throughout Ohio and knowing the general attitudes of many Ohioans....I am sure it must be different than that of Texas. I am not "black curious"...but I see ALL women as equal and understand real love has no boundaries. My limits are not restricted to just black women, but all women. So I am on the "all serious" boat. I wish there we're more black females where I live. Most are not my "type" or "class" if you know what I mean. That goes for any woman btw. Black women are beautiful and I am glad I can say that, not just online but to be able to share that with others as well. :) My demographics suck ass when it comes to black women. I love them all and all are beautiful to me. I just don't have a chance to MEET any since they are few and far in between around here. (Sob) That's why I came here in hopes of communicating and possibly meeting a black female someday. I might just have to move somewhere else. (sigh)

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  50.   RYAN says:
    Posted: 21 Oct 09

    the truth is that black women are the most atractive, and men of all races know that

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