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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   LadyDee says:
    Posted: 04 Jul 09

    To ICH: That's your nickname right? "Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 13 April 2009: What’s up ICH" I re-read your postings and I did misinterpret them. I thought you called black women sellouts too, but just the oppisite (Comment by Ichibod on 16 June 2009). I apologize for involving you. I was so PO'd at the other guy's posting I didn't see it straight.

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  2.   Member says:
    Posted: 04 Jul 09

    Dear Lady Dee Man you about to make me the first black man on the internet for smacking a black woman on the internet. Let me tell you something my parents have been married currently going on 30 years. Yea I am from South Jamaica Queens. The high crime rate is criminals attacking other criminals. If regular upstanding black citizens were getting killed left and right I assure you that would not be tolerated in any black neighborhood. That is the problem with chicken george negros. They give the misconception that "everybody dying" in the black community. Man do not insult my intelligence on this board. Maybe you really don't know who I am. I am Oprah or Dr Phil.I don't sit in my cozy couch never seeing what is "really going" on in a black neighborhood. I see more people helping each other in the black community more than I see the violence. I see more black people going to church. So I really don't see what you see. You to busy brown nosing a white man. Then have the nerve make disparaging remarks about black men. I don't care if you are slender and got an expensive weave made out of "real hair". I never asked you about that. I am an IT Professional too. I don't care if you was Oprah "baby sister". Listen do not bring up family members. I don't bring up your family members. None of them ever bashed "their own race". You bash black men and when it "came around" to me. I wasn't letting that happen. I don't care about Asian gold diggers or white gold diggers. You have a profession so where did you see me call you a gold digger at?

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  3.   Member says:
    Posted: 04 Jul 09

    Let me respond to this Clearly, some of these women are angry today. One accuses me of "discouraging" black women from dating white men. A black man can't control your mind and make stop dating anybody. You chose not to date a white man for "whatever" reasons you did that for. From what I have seen on here, it has been very said. One girl gets rejected and "blames me for it". No, she actually twists the story like she was "interested" in the guy. Then he comes out and "really" rejects her and I am the bad guy. Man listen, get some self esteem and stop thinking black men stop you from doing anything. I am not naming names. If you mentioned my name I am talking to you. My woman is black, I picked her first. I never made an excuses about " Oh I didn't grow up around blacks" and all this bullshit. These black women on here hate themselves. The same ones that bash black men and don't say shit when a white man rejects them. My sole mission is to call you a sellout for bashing black men. You mention you don't let me use you in a disrespectful manner. That white man is using you. So you are letting him. You caused a division when you said negative things about black men to justify dating white men. Nobody is stopping you from dating a white man. When they reject stop making excuses about it. You even blame the media you pathetic excuse for a black woman! Look for my new post soon. It's everybody else fault why nobody want to date you. Like the tattooed one. She even goes onto say she is not interested in the majority of white men here after they reject her. How fucking delusional is that? That's what you do keep dating 'several white men". The goal is to get married not sleeping around!

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  4.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 09

    I'm going to keep my cool on this one. Because I don't know what I ever said or did this Lady Dee chick. Ofcourse, my dad left the black community a long time ago. He left with his high school sweetheart, married her and 'made babies'. She's black and he's still with her after 33 years. Dee is obviously confused, especially by the way she called me ICH, she apparently has me mixed up with someone else (guilty by association). I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. I love my black mother. I have a black father and hope to be one myself. Is this what really bothers you? The fact that you have so much anger towards black men that you'll even take it out on black men that go against your misconceptions of them? Where's your black father? How about finding him and taking out your frustration. I can only speak for myself, therefore I'm I not trying to take anyone else's bullets.

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  5.   ummm says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 09

    ive started datinga young black woman,actually shes my first,because i kinda grew up in suburbia , any suggestions, do s or donts would be greatly appreciated, actually i think technically she would be considerd mullato, not that its really rellevant

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  6.   LadyDee says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 09

    To the laurelton hood-rat (as you called me & my sisters) "when the last time a white man was in your neighborhood actively searching for a date?" Why is this important? We're dating regardless. Do black men go to white women's neighborhood? Hell no! "Where you see white man giving you love at." Where do I see a black man giving love?? "Your a sucka to believe what black women tell you." I'd be a sucker to believe you. You only want to cause division between black women and the men that desire us. "Where is the criticism for white men picking you last." There is nothing new about white men being attracted to black women since slavery days. We were not picked last. "You let black women walk over you so you equate that to love. That is not love, that is you being her doormat. Plus black men is still sleeping with your black wife or girlfriend. Despite the bullshit she is saying on here." White Men know what love is they can decide for themselves if they are doormats. No black man sleeps with me. Why would I disrespect my body in that manner?? I allow no man to use me in a disrespectful manner. You Lie to cause dissent - divide & conquer rountine...ho hum "Secondly, black women drove black men to date white women" Goodbye, get lost. Go to the white women. Many black women on this blog do not want you men - we prefer white men. You don't love black women, why do we have to love you men? I bet your woman is white, you hate black women. I'm looking for my quality white male. Sisters do not be discouraged white men are marrying us. See picture after picture of beautiful black women dating/marrying white males. The media hides the famous couples http://www.blackfemaleinterracialmarriage.com/

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  7.   LadyDee says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 09

    Also Laurelton Ghetto dude, I'm slender, eat right and excercise. Men of all races check me out, but I prefer hot blue eyes. They make me hot. You call me a sellout?? Dude, I'm already SOLD! and not looking back! Your sole mission on this site is to discourage white & non-black males from loving us with your lies. Leave us alone to find happiness where we choose, not where you say!

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  8.   LadyDee says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 09

    Last sentence correction: I'm guessing that they cut out on your black mothers too.

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  9.   LadyDee says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 09

    Laurelton (Im from NY - This is a high-crime ghetto in Queens)and ICH, you're the true sell outs. Black men left the black community a long time ago. You stayed long enough to make babies you don't support with women you won't marry. I love white men and don't give black men the time of day. All the white women,etc can have you. Black men are the only race that puts down their own women - I do not belong to a man just because he is Black - period. I am an IT professional - I am not golddigging after anything except for a quality man to love. There are white & asian gold diggers go kiss their a$$. This is a new day - are you jealous that white men love what you despise. Do you despise your black mothers?? Do you have black fathers?? I guessing that that cut out on your black mothers too.

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  10.   chinigami says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 09

    i know ,the black women it'is very sexy than white women but we should be we should be look at inside this women. when we look in the inside we see the kindness the fun spirit. thanks for all

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  11.   jaycee says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 09

    As a latino man, I have never dated a latina lady. I prefert asian, white and black ladies. I do cook Italino and spanish meals.the last time i dated a black lady she allmoss kill me with her sexual thin body. an thats why i love fine black women..el papi

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  12.   bill says:
    Posted: 30 Jun 09

    When I see th th th that BOOTY...I say ..OH MY!!!!!

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  13.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 09

    yeah, Legion...I just thought I'd let you know that I agree with your sentiments IN A DISCREET WAY.....(LMAO). But I see you'd rather "shout out" about it. I hope you took the time and read my profile..... AND realize that JUST because I sent you a "flirt", I am not really flirting with you or thinking you are my soulmate or any other such thing (if you will notice the flirt was a "cup o' coffee" rather than the other "romantic" choices). I just wanted to set it straight there.....lest we have our "imp" thinking I was "begging you to want me"....LMAO.

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  14.   rayne1 says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 09

    I am the wife of ayoung040 and my story started on line. I grew up in a all white small town and even though i eventually married a white man i dated nothing but black men before him, not because i only liked black men but because the white men in that small town where i grew up didnt like me.they wren't allowed to date the back girl and it wasnt till i moved from there that the brothas noticed me so i started dating them. I just happen to be on line years later that my fine friend and soul mate chimmed in. he was polite and grew up in the same type of town that i did so there was that connection and i felt like i ended up with a man that reminded me of those guys that i had curshes on in high shcool way back then, it was just familiar. Nothing to do with color just comfort. I fellin love with his heart but it helps that like those that i dated in the past there was a physical attraction, he is HOT AS HELL! So love and date someone who is out of your race because it feels good to be with that person that should be the only reason PERIOD

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  15.   ayoung040 says:
    Posted: 28 Jun 09

    i met my wife on myspace and i kept trying and trying to get her attention and one day finally she responed iam gonna try to make this short iam a 40 yr old white male and my wife is a 37yr old black female let me say she truely is a god sent a true angel shes my life my best friend and my world i dont look at her skin i love her for her i worship the ground this woman walks on so guys its not the skin color its the person regardless if were pink' white' black or purple we cant control who we love or fall in love with.

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  16.   Member says:
    Posted: 27 Jun 09

    most of these comments on this site is so foolish and immature. im younger than most these people on here and i can plainly see that it's lust not love, or attraction. how could you not know why you are attracted to someone.everyone has a reason why they do what they do,or say what they say and most of the time it's not of good intentions.

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  17.   _Legion_ says:
    Posted: 26 Jun 09

    I see you sent me a flirt tatted. LOL I thought I recognized your name from this blog.

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  18.   Dajuicelady says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 09

    Hello People Is it really sad to know that in this day in age certain individuals are still flaunting their ignorance like its something to be proud of. Everyone should be free to socialize,marry,befriend or sleep with whomever they choose and for those who just refuse to accept this, sorry but you need to get a life because no one but no one in their right mind is going to conform their lives to your ideals. I mean come on were in a recession, we have morons in the senate seats, viruses and all types of heck are running rampid. No one really cares about what you think. We are trying to deal with everyday life and take in a little sunshine while were at it,so put an "H"on your chest and handle your own issues of low-self esteem and negativity elsewhere, and if you take offense to my comment hey I guess this means you :P

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  19.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 09

    WOW.....just when I thought his ignorance couldn't get any plainer. I HAVE NEVER CALLED THIS PERSON A "HATER"....personally I thing the term is over used and it has become de rigeur to be one......blah. I HAVE NO DATING ISSUES PERIOD.....no problems with men staying away me because of my weight (and NO, NOT just the "chubby chasers" are interested...lol)....I can happily look in the mirror each day and be proud of the INDIVIDUAL standing there. Weight is a problem in America, IN GENERAL. For the dude to focus on Black women is only showing you how much disdain he has for them. He might have this "mission"......but if it includes "keeping the black woman down" he might as well be on screen with Tom Cruise trying to bust into Fort Knox. I am so tired of his tirade but on the flip side I still want to dissect his reasons for the negativity against women that he has never met. I am of the firm belief that he has been deeply hurt and will not stop until he has someone "slit their wrists" in here. A black woman hurt him somewhere down the line and he will deny this to his grave. Although I don't know him personally....I DO WISH HIM WELL (as in "get well"). It seems that any attempt at exposing him to the positive nature that can exist between people is met with such attitude. Why in the hail would he prognosticate that I would go against godiva over a man (and to expand you universe a little, Godiva chocolate got the name from the tale of a "bold" woman......one that would not do what was expected of her)????? I have NEVER displayed any such behavior in here OR IN MY "REAL" LIFE. Which although I recognize that I am "online"....I still treat others as I would in real life.....it's called having a little class. Just because you CAN come in here and spout all sort of degrading stuff about anyone doesn't mean you have to or should. I mean, all the school-yard stuff is seen just as that ...and any so-called "facts" you have are weak and used a futile attempt to get people to go against the core of their TRUE nature.......which will always be based in love. But as I have said before, I know why L. Queens is here.....I recognize this awful need for him to balance out all the natural posivity that normally and regularly flows through this place. I have been accused of placing blame on black men (how someone saw that in my last post I will NEVER know....LMAO)......when in all actuality the only blame I see needing to be placed is on the black woman that more than likely tore his heart in two. BUT that only goes so far.....then it's time to BE A MAN and let go of the past. Whatever you do you will NOT have any woman in here crying over your heartless remarks......if anything you are creating the opposite effect. Women are uniting and strengthening their resolve to love who the want to love. You really think ANY woman is really crying over her dating issues ANYWHERE???? I mean, yeah there may be a gripe here and there.... But more and more women are opening their eyes to their options. No longer are they staying away from that slightly younger guy of a different shade. No longer are they in constant internal conflict over whether or not they are being "loyal" to a "race" (pfft). THEY ARE FREE of any former inhibitions that told them JUST BECAUSE THEY DID NOT HAVE A PENIS they could not do as they chose. So there is no longer any "penis-envy" amongst the truly liberated women. Ok I am NOT a feminist.....but when I see such a blatant (albeit, weak) attempt to knock "sisterhood" (or any other form of positive unity) I HAVE to speak up. The weight issue is REALLY is moot seeing as how more than half of America is considered "obese" (not making it right; just stating facts...lol). There is just as much of an issue with girls starving themselves half to death trying to fit in with the images that are air-brushed and Photo-shopped all to hail. Why not discuss that???? This character keeps calling white men out by calling them "boy"...(I wonder how long he would sit still for someone addressing him as such....hmm). BUT maybe just maybe they are actually see him for what he is and don't really care to justify (to him) why they love who they love right now. I respect that.....(although I "see" you Lil D and appreciate you response here)....and know that once things calm down in here "they'll be back"....giving the mostly positive insight that was once commonplace in here. And before it gets twisted......YES, I am implying that there are classy white men out there....just as there are classy black men and classy asian, latino..on and on (I especially like the ones that feed the character with a "long handled spoon".....lol....that is true classiness at it's best....Thanks, ICH.). Signing off for now.... ...Peace and Blessings as always... tatted2death to godiva.....woman, I am a ROLLING STONES fiend...lol. Honored to be associated with them in your psyche....coolness. sidebar: I wonder does he realize that he is actually creating more of a "buzz" about this topic......KEEPING IT ALIVE....HA!

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 09

    (Drinking hot chocolate) I see the "Tattooed one' and the "other one" named after chocolate are still blaming the so called "haters", which are black men for their dating issues with white men. They always to focus on the image of someone else than to confront the real issue. I have yet to hear anybody dispute the facts I have brought up. I read an article a couple days ago. It stated all black women will be obese by 2034. Here is an excerpt from the article. Weight problems will be most acute among African-Americans and Mexican- Americans, the study projects. All black women could be overweight by 2034, according to the researchers. http://www.blackvoices.com/boards/love-and-relationships/livingloving/living-loving/all-black-women-over-weight-by-2034/46013/1 Here is the link. Again, show me where white men will date overweight black women. 78% of them are considered overweight. Not 7 percent, not 25 percent. 78 percent! My fiancee is 177 5ft6, in comparison to her friends she think she is skinny. I thought she was "skinny" too in comparison to her FRIENDS. These women are playing games man. I got nothing against them. They want to hold hands and say "girl your my best friend" ON the computer. This is not black planet. Next thing you know, they at each other throats over a "homely" white man they like. The "MO' of some of these sellout black women. They can only do subliminal posts. Call me "Da evil one", I deal with reality. I haven't seen a white man on here saying he would date an overweight black woman. God bless the "minor" too. She young, she don't know any better. She could be on her way to obesity at 16 years old too. Walking around with cookies and cakes in her handbag she bought with her allowance. Man look for my new post soon on this issue. I say ALL BLACK WOMEN ARE OBESE BY 2012. I am willing to bet a white boy right now.

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  21.   Lil_D says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 09

    Okay I had to join this to put my oppinion on this conversation. (even though I'm late) Okay I'm from NC, White(Italian/Irish decent). 1st of all I love women of all diff ethnic back grounds. I grew up around mostly Black people and most of my friends are black. And for me growing up I was just more connected to black females. I also have had better experiences with Black females more than white ones. For me it has always been more easy to talk to a black female then a white but also I find it easy for me to befriend black males more easily. (I have never understood that.) But in the end we all are human, and im looking for the time when it will not be a White/Black thing going on Hating wise. You love who you love thats what love should be. Much love to all.

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  22.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 09

    To: candygyrl0711, I agree with the other's, you held your own, and you did it in a true "ladylike" fashion.. Stay true to you, and know that you have a voice in this world, and your voice count's!!!! You are a prime example of why we shouldn't judge the age of a person. I have to be honest, the mother in me, the nurturer that I am, was a little uneasy about a 16 yr old being on this site, but then you reminded me that wisdom is not limited to the older in age.. I just want you to promise me that your education will be your priority... I can't help it, I'm a Mom.. The new show will be called "are you smarter than a 16 yr old"? love godiva

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  23.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 09

    To: The Tatted One, As alway's, it's great to hear from you.. Thanks so much for the compliment, I'm honored that you feel this way about me, but the real honor and blessing is to know you and to have you as my "sister"!! I have admired you, and have been inspired by your word's and your sincerity here, you really make the world a better place and for that I am grateful... One of my favorite Artist(s) is the Rolling Stones. They had a hit album that was released in 1981. The name of this album is "Tattoo You". The album had a couple of hit singles, one was "Start Me Up", and the other was the hit song "Waiting on a Friend"... No real significance, just thought I throw it out here, in light of the "tattoo" remark. It has alway's been one of my favorites, and now I'll think of you when I hear it.. The album, the song's were a mega hit, and so are you... Later my friend.. love godiva

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  24.   candygyrl0711 says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 09

    lol thanks tatted aka "The Tatted One"

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  25.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 21 Jun 09

    Just wanted to let it be known that the TATTOOED ONE ( I kinda like that....thanks Queens) is still alive and kickin.......not scared off by any ONE IMP. I figured what was the need to reply to some of nonsense in here if good folks like Ich, Ash and Candy were doing the do......and WOW they have done it so well....OMG...especially Candy, woman (because that's the way you handled yourself) you are the S*&T...lol. ....AND ASH...man, thanks for "broadcast".....I don't think people really "heard" mine...lol. I guess it sounded too much like a "vendetta"...LMAO. A vendetta for what?!?!!?LOL. Anyone with two brains cells to rub together knows that you don't have to dislike the person to dislike the message. And it's not so much the message as how it is blindly delivered....but I digress. Also a special nod to Godiva.....your zen-like vibe is just the right balance for this place: I have got that "one love" for you. Some may see that as wierd or whatever but I don't care. Love wins over hate every time. Peace and Blessings THE TATTED ONE (I like that adaptation better....lol)....NO ONES VICTIM.

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  26.   Member says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 09

    Dear Candy I want a woman to have her own career. I just think for myself I like attention. I am a "Leo", I can't really say the professional black women are the problem totally. I had commitment issues, I am 30 years old and just getting engaged. I always go back and forth on if I should even settle down. It does bother me if a woman does not have domestic skills. I don't plan to eat out everyday. If I have to do everything for myself why should I settle down with a woman. That is the way I think. If there is limitations in my current relationship is that she is not ambitious enough about getting her education. That could be a problem down the road. Everything else is good. From my experience dating many different types of black men. It is hard to get a woman that is the whole package. In my case, they either have a degree or higher like me. They end up being "controlling". If they are not educated, they are intimidated by my education. They will say " I think you find something better". I think I met one girl at my night class prior to moving to PA. She worked at a hospital and was just getting her associates degree in Medical Billing. She was surprised I was engaged. She said " I would never think you would settle down". I was like " yea one of those things". My answer there is just no ideal woman. My mom liked my fiancee so that sealed the deal too. My mom never liked the girls I was with. All of them were highly educated. Mom was like "no" they only care about themselves. I consider what my mother says sometimes. Lo and behold she was right 99 percent of the time. No they don't have to give up their careers and aspirations. But if your career comes before your man than you can't expect man to stick around forever playing the background. I supported all my ex's careers and goals. My goal was to settle down and they ain't move in that direction. I could have told them "why" but I don't talk about my feelings. I just move on. Black women complain that men don't tell them how they feel. If we tell you then you will "just change" for the time being. You have to adjust on your own and see the signs in your relationships. I am not into giving advice to sellout black women. I will just end it there.

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  27.   candygyrl0711 says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 09

    I'm just curious Laurelton. Is there something you're trying to achieve going on OTHER blogs and attacking people you don't know and people that don't have anything to do with you? I mean are you trying to accomplish something here or have some kind of goal? I also think it's funny that you feel intimidated by successful black women and think that they want somebody to be their "trophy". Successful black women someone successful too that can be their equal. It appears to be that all you want is some "trophy" wife or some one that give up all their careers and aspirations so that way they can fit into your perfect housewife image.

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  28.   Member says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 09

    Let me answer the questions about my personal life. My fiancee was "wild". I have known her close to 4 years. The women I have been with in the past we are all "middle class to upperclassman" black women. "On" paper you know the perfect women. My fiancee and me just clicked for some reason. Obviously, nothing is perfect in our relationship. She happens to be the closest thing to traditional girl I was looking for. Most of the black women I have dated "want to craft" your image. Since I don't want to be the next "Stedman" and walk around like some trophy husband I decided to be with someone that was always there. I really had no intention of settling down. I could have married a lawyer and just cheat on her. I choose not to be emasculated by the "Professional black women committee".I told my fiancee once you try to control me this relationship is over! I am happy with my relationship because it doesn't have the materialistic aspect to it. The perfect example of my life would be the movie "Madea goes to Jail". I said to myself why am I breaking my back to make her happy and I ain't even happy. My ex kept stressing me to get my Master's degree. Yet, she made no effort to lose weight or be interested in the things I like. I ended up moving to PA to be with the girl I knew for four years. I packed all my things up, got a mover, and moved to Williamsport PA. The black girls in my night class were against it, I was getting a second degree during this period of time. I said "maybe" it is, but sometimes you have just evaluate your life somewhere else. Dear Andrew Black men are not complaining. Where were you when they did Essence and Ebony magazine articles bashing black men. People seem to forget I was reading everything years before I got into blogging. I had a concept of what I wanted to write about and prepared for it. Prior to me even getting into blogging. Evia the sellout messiah of sellout black women kind of provoked me into it. That was after the sellout black women blogs "censored" my comments. They censored me after I hyped their blogs up. I was naive at the time. I said you know what, I am going "use my talent" on my own blog. It's been good ever since. I got a couple people that got potential too. Rocky, London, Rashida, Ms Kitty and Raina. I got Mike who is married to a black woman. He is popular too. I figured out I could market myself so I decided to do my own blog about a year and half ago. Quite often it is chicken George Negros that let society dictate their fears. "Oh they don't want to listen to an angry black man". If my blog was dedicated to kissing an ashy sellout black girl's ass. Oh I would hear endless praise. I don't stick up for anybody but MYSELF. Now if you want tuck your tail in between your legs then you do so. The goal is always to be better than you are. My blog was real simple a year ago lol. After awhile, I put pictures and youtubes on it and worked on it. I had nobody on my blog when I started and now I got some people on it. I don't mind coming straight from the bottom. I am going to state my opinion whether "ankle" sellout black women like it or "simp" black men like it. Good day

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  29.   Member says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 09

    If I'm correct, From his comments on his website his Wife actually lost her kids. It's not clear why but from the looks of it she doesn't have them or getting them back right now. I do know of those girls. He seems to mention Black Women being loose all the time. This is not the case, As a Black Man I won't sit here and talk about how Black Women are loose. It's disrespectful.

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  30.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 09

    "Why do you keep using the word loose? Whats the meaning behind that. If I’m correct someone said on here that your Wife had kids before, I’m guessing that she is “loose” too??" Loose, as in promiscuous. I'm sure you know the type. "Girls Gone Wild", Sex In The City, pretty much all the rap videos nowadays? His fiance could be divorced or widowed. I've tried that one on a blogger before. Unless a significant other is here to answer for themselves, let's avoid them as best as we can. Stay classy San Diego!

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  31.   Member says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 09

    Take Over the Blogging Game? HaHa! You make me laugh. I hope your not serious? No one is going to listen to an Angry Black Man Brah. They may not listen an any Black Man. I could make a blog tomorrow and get no supporters. Matters what my message is, White America hates to hear Black Men like us complain.I try not too, things can be worse. Even if you was a White Man or Asian Man, you couldn't take over the blog world. You have no class and people don't want to listen to Angry Men complain about things that have nothing to do with them. Your married, stop worrying about what single people are saying. Black Men don't need you to stick up for us in the dating world. We are capable of doing so ourselves.

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  32.   Member says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 09

    Black Men can sometimes push Black Women to date IR. White girls tend to over look men without money, I know for a fact. How mant of them are with poor black men? You lose your money and many of them bail. I can say that Black Women are more loyal, a lot of white girls are about that dollar. Haha. Why do you keep using the word loose? Whats the meaning behind that. If I'm correct someone said on here that your Wife had kids before, I'm guessing that she is "loose" too??

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  33.   Member says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 09

    Dear Lina I have touched on black men dating white women. I often say black women drove black men to do it. Of course I have been attacked for telling the truth. Black women often overlook the 'academic inclined" black men for athletes and "other shady characters". I have seen this in college too. I use to see black women chasing frats in college. I had a girlfriend at the time and her friends were "very loose" with the black fraternities. Now white women do the same thing don't get me wrong. It just seem to me black women need to guard their reputations better. No you can't do what "men do" because the stigma towards black women is unfair. I think some black women knock black men to much for saying their opinions. Black men can always do what emasculated white men like "Gene" do. Kiss your ass and lie to you. That is what distinguishes black men from white men. Good day

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  34.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 09

    Your going to take over the blog game? Look at this everybody! This F#$K stick just posted the same thing that I already said? Do you know how Stupid that makes you look! I tell you I'm going to do Something then In your next post you Try and act like you told me to Do it right after I already Said that??? Queens like I said Leave it is only getting worse for you here? Wait Hold on let me be nice!!!!! Great Post Queens you should take over the Blogging Game! HAHAHAHAHAH What a Loser!

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  35.   Member says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 09

    Gene You writing me a speech. Go do a blog than maybe you can get off my dick and tell me what you stand for. You worried about my blog and twitter. Clearly, I am not checking for you. Do a blog I want to see what your opinions are on anything. Obviously my blog got your attention. That is good enough for me. Do a blog I would like to read it.

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  36.   lina says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 09

    Mr Laurelton Queens what about black men who bash black women to get white women?? Why don't you ever write about those black men ?? The black men who say they prefer white women because they have thin noses and silky hair and colored eyes compared with black women who have nappy hair, big noses, and old brown eyes. Read this Laurelton, this is the kind of nonsense written by black men who bash blak women on whitewomenblackmen.com : "This is because white women, and black men are both the sexiest individuals of our respective races, and when paired together, there is a certain unique chemistry, and magnetism there. White women are soft, insatiable, and very receptive to affection, with few inhibitions, and black men are strong, virile, and very affectionate, sexually, and in general. Opposites really do attract, and we are polar opposites. So by Putting these two together, the attraction becomes a very intoxicating sexual experience for the WW & the BM. While, on the other hand, many/most black women can not always find white men to be up to the standards of black men, (hence, most do not desire WM), as they lack in virility, stamina, sexual prowess, and affectionate emotion, and many/most WM can not find the all too required sexual femininity in a BW, the same as is almost always apparent in WW."

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  37.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 09

    You tell us about your blogs like anybody Gives A Flying F#$K! Taking over the Blog game yeah? I could start a blog tomorrow and in one weeks time I bet you I would have 50 times the followers that you do In one day! If you weren't a Idiot you would pay attention to what people say! The thing about you is you Skim through these post and take what you want from it! You said this: "You are a sucka. Why you even drag Ichibod into this. You tell me what I can learn from him concerning this topic? LOL" If you weren't a idiot you would have read the post and realized that I wasn't talking to you! Here let me repost it for your Dumb F#$King A$$~! I said this: "candygyrl0711 Don’t give up on the blog because of this Twisted Weak F#$K! When he seen a High School Girl post he thought he seen a easy Kill! Till you got in his A$$ that is! If a 16 year old is killing this dude what grade level is he on? What a Dumb F#$K! What ever you do don’t peep his blog! He aint getting no play on his twitter nor his blog! That is why he is in here so much! He knows from experience here, that he can spew diarrhea from his mouth and people wont stand for it, so all in all this is the only blogging that he gets any play in! If you want talk or need advice I suggest that you speak to one of the lovely ladies in this blog! Or even Ichibod! He is very sensible and Intelligent! He could give you some good incite!" Notice how I was talking to candygyrl0711 about wanting to talk to Someone, then ask Ich? Fool there is not a person on this planet that could talk sense into your Dumb F#$KING A$$!~Nor would I ever try to Give you Advice! Your a B#$@H! And a Lying P#$$Y! I don't give Two F#$KS about what the F#$K you do! You can Go play on the F#$KING train Tracks for all I care! You sit there and think that She went back and read all of your post???? Hey DUMB F#$K, She was responding to What I quoted you on Saying in the past! Even a 16 year old has better S#$T to do then to go back and re-read the crap that you spew! I do it to Discredit you because it is easy! You don't think about what you have said in the past before you post More crap! It makes you seem really uneducated and really as if you were doing all of your Posting on the FLY! Always changing up what you have said in the past and then Fronting like your not that guy! Queens seriously, Really if you are really trying to "TAKE OVER THE BLOGGING GAME" Then fool you need to stop posting here because everyday, over and over you are leaving a trail for any future followers that might think about Following you, Rethink what they are about to do! When they come here and see you say one thing and then state another and then on top of that get schooled all the time! Cats are going to Say this F#$KING guy is out of his mind! And boot your a$$ to the F#$KING CURB! And it is funny that you think Ich is ridding with you! Just because he got into it with a person and you tried to jump on board doesn't mean that you are road dogs here! Everybody see that! I noticed that he comes in here and just posts when you see him you try and greet him! With no Responce I might add! Dam everyday you look more and more simple! I'm not sure if anybody believes anything that you say at this point! You are one Stupid Piece of S#$T!

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  38.   Member says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 09

    I read everything Why do you care, that I care, about sellout black women? Since you save all my comments and can put them in this blog. That makes me wonder why you spend time reading what I write at 16 years old. You must clearly care as much as I do. Obviously have time to read all my past comments since you 'really don't care". I do care about this topic. Do I care that black women are sellouts? Yes If your bashing black men to get an autistic white boy then I will respond. Working on my new blog entry. These people are playing games. They got my comments from how long ago. Yet they scream and cry about me caring. Everybody know I care what is your point? I care that black women are not picked last and used by white men. I am gone

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  39.   candygyrl0711 says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 09

    To geneandthem: Thanks for the comment and don't worry. I wasn't even thinking about his blog. It's funny how when he gets corrected or he contradicts himself that he never responds to it. Like he said he never said black women were fat, deperate, goldiggers and then you had all those examples. And even when I asked him why he assumes that ALL black women who date outside their race are automatically sellouts even if they don't bash black men. Then he never answered me about how he contradicts himself saying that black men never ever diss black women when they date interracially which I can guarantee you is wrong in SOME cases. Just because there isn't a blog about it on this site, doesn't mean that stuff isn't said that pisses me off. He even claims that "black men were driven by black women to date outside their race". My opinion is that it's wrong when you date outside your race because you're rejecting your own instead of being truly open to it and I feel that about ALL sides. I'm sensing that he has some insecurities about himself because if he was confident in himself and his relationship then he wouldn't give a crap about what black women are doing or anyone else for that matter. The thing that gets me is that if black women who date white men are supposedly "sellouts" and "desperate, fat, goldiggers" and the "last pick/resort" then WHY does he care about what they do? If these are women that he doesn't want or thinks that nobody else wants then why does he care who they date and marry? He even said and thinks, "Society doesn't value black women" (which I thought was appalling) and the other negative stuff which you posted which gets me because then why would care what women you don't like or "value" do. That would pretty much be the equivalent of me saying, "ALL BLACK MEN WHO DATE WHITE WOMEN ARE SELLOUTS AND ARE TRASH, LAZY, AND UGLY AND NOBODY WANTS THEM". I mean, what would be my reason for caring what they did if I apparently didn't want them or like them? Yeah, Mr. Queens probably has some insecurities although he claims that black women are. Choosing to expand your opportunities for relationships doesn't make someone insecure. But, he's too closed minded to understand that. Anyways thanks for the response

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  40.   Member says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    Dear Kingpin You said something about being from South Carolina or your wife. Now your saying you never heard a racist joke in your life. I assume you are a white man. I am black and heard racist jokes by white people. I don't know if your just so emasculated that you put in your head in the sand or just distraught by me telling the truth. I can show posts by "white men" that say how they really feel about black women. Are you going to call them racists? I think racist is a strong word. Maybe prejudice when it comes to the dating thing you could be correct. You are talking about your personal life. You got a white guy that says he loves black vagina but you don't seem outraged by that. I don't know you personally from this board. You make your life seem like you her white savior and that nothing "goes wrong" in your relationship. The fact of the matter is most white men will not take on a black woman with kids previously from black men. You can dispute that but I never get a reply or dispute about it. All I hear is Mr Laurelton is "racist". I don't care if you thought I was the devil. I reply to a topic and tell the truth about it. From my own opinion. Kingpin you are a coward because you won't dodge the subject opposed to debating it. I don't care what goes in your life for all I know you could lying about it. I do a question for you though? Was dating a black woman with kids from a previous relationship with a black man your first choice? That's all I want to ask you Oh yea Gene I stand by everything. Where am I lying at?????????? You mention Ichibod, he tends to be in agreement with me about sellout black women lol. The insight he gave me is when told a sellout black girl off in a response on another topic. You are a sucka. Why you even drag Ichibod into this. You tell me what I can learn from him concerning this topic? LOL I am out

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  41.   kingpin78 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    Mr Queens...this is getting pretty rediculous. I really dont know why i continue to respond to your narrow minded, prejudice, racist comments. I dont know why i am allowing myself to get sucked into this whole debate about your ignorance. you said: "One of the primary reason white men steer clear from black women is black men. They don’t want to speak to their fathers, brothers , and cousins. That is what it is really about" One of my best friends on this earth is my wife's brother. And i am very close to her parents aswell, along with her whole family. I treat them with upmost respect and they treat me likewise. you said: "When was the last time you told your white friends don’t do racial jokes about black women?" I have never in my life heard a racist joke towards a black woman. I have always been around people that treat black women with respect. I guess i dont allow myself to associate with racist people. In your twisted ideology, do you actually think everyone is racist? Hello, this is 2009. Believe it or not, there are actually people that dont give a damn about race. you said: "white men would never date a black woman who has previous kids from a black man" My wife has 2 beautiful children. Ages 3 and 2 from a previous relationship with a black man. I love and respect them as if they were my own. you said: "I got a right to ask about why you using black women for sex. I am a black man" ok, this is the one that really pissed me off. Why on earth would you ask me such a thing. We are two people who deeply love each other, that respect each other's needs, and would do anything for one another. I have never been in a happier relationship. Might i add, the sex is phenomonal though. So, now every white man that is married to a black woman is just using her for sex?...and i am afraid of her family and all my friends are racist and against the idea and i dont stand up for her...Dude, you are really lost, you know that? You are a pathetic human being...i am done

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  42.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    I'm going to do your favorite thing! You said this: "I never called black women fat desperate and want money. If you read my posts show me that." Some of the F#$KED up S#$T that you have said! "That is what is fundamentally wrong with a majority of black women. They ‘think” that every man should want them “regardless” of their weight and bad attitudes." "That’s why other races of women get the point. Yes their are obese white, latin ,and asian women. They don’t run around saying ‘accept me for me”. They actually make the ‘effort” and if they failed to lose weight. At least they tried and that is all men want." "Instead you got the nerve to get mad at us for you being obese. I will tell you what put on some tight clothes and tuck in your fat. So you can make it seem like “other men desire you”." "Black women got such a big ego they assume your racist because you “don’t” want them obese or otherwise." "Maybe these desperate dumb black women on here will believe you." "You have to understand something about sellout black women. They stand on “nothing”. They have no principles or loyalty. How do white men expect a black woman to be loyal to them and she is not loyal to her own race." "They always say ” I am a strong black woman”. That’s all bullshit. I can tell you for a fact it is. I actually think some of them are “soft”, “insecure”. I don’t know how to say it without being offensive. They just let white men “use them”. They won’t speak up about because they fear burning bridges." "These white guys insist their parents welcomed their “ashy black girlfriends” with open arms." Note to people on the Blog! This Idiot has a Twitter page! On the top line he says this! "Planning on taking over the blog game." HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! That is the Funniest S#$T I have heard all year! In another post he says this! "Waiting for my Mcdonalds Lunch to come. I send her a$$ out for my lunch and she is taking to damn long. Looks like a long day at work." What a Sick F#$K! candygyrl0711 Don't give up on the blog because of this Twisted Weak F#$K! When he seen a High School Girl post he thought he seen a easy Kill! Till you got in his A$$ that is! If a 16 year old is killing this dude what grade level is he on? What a Dumb F#$K! What ever you do don't peep his blog! He aint getting no play on his twitter nor his blog! That is why he is in here so much! He knows from experience here, that he can spew diarrhea from his mouth and people wont stand for it, so all in all this is the only blogging that he gets any play in! If you want talk or need advice I suggest that you speak to one of the lovely ladies in this blog! Or even Ichibod! He is very sensible and Intelligent! He could give you some good incite!

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  43.   Member says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    Dear Candy I don't want to see your youtube. Unless you read my blog http://mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/ I am open minded but if you refuse to see my point of view. Then that is fine with me. Maybe YOU WILL gain a new perspective. It was nice debating you.

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  44.   candygyrl0711 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    I'm going to end this because it's gonna go on and on and on and I've realized that it's kind of pointless for me to argue with you when you're obviously stuck on your ideology and I'm not changing my opinion. The thing that frustrates me and a lot of others is that you say you're fine with interracial dating but yet you say that ALL meaning EVERY SINGLE BLACK WOMEN who dates a white guy or is at least attracted to a white guy is a "sellout" who bashes black men. I can understand you're issue with those women but why do you assume that everyone is that way? Anyways there's this youtube video by this black women who married a white guy on youtube and she is responding to someone who has similar thinking to you. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mrv13JLv0l0&feature=response_watch I don't think she fits your whole she-married-a-white-guy-so-shes-desperate-and-wants-his-money description. See her other videos. Maybe you'll gain a new perspective but I highly doubt it.

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  45.   Member says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    Dear Candy If white guys "thought" you were fit to marry then the statistics would be "higher" concerning white men dating black women. That is just common sense. Again your making excuses for them. There has been a white guy on this board that made an excuse as to why he does not date black women. He said he didn't like R&B and "some other things" he mentioned. Some of the black women jumped on him and called him racist for having the audacity to say things he does not like in the black culture. I actually defended him. So this whole idea that I am biased is false. Black women admit themselves they ran out of options that is why they date white men. That is desperation. Go see the movie Something New she even admits that 'she never thought about white men" but basically is going to try it out. If that is not desperation, I don't know what is. Black women have said "Yea I really wasn't interested in white men in the past". Black women and white men are the last to date outside of their race. That is a fact. Stories on blogs do not count. Again research it. Black women have said " they date white men" for financial reasons. However, you want to sugar coat it is fine with me. They will say " I am looking for a man on my level". Let's stop the word games here. Nothing wrong with women wanting a man with money. Just don't pretend that you would be with a broke white man. You mention white men have plenty of non black women to pick. That is the whole point. Why wait around for them to pick you. They raise the bar way higher than black men. If your going to tell me a white man will date a black women in the lower socio economic scale. I doubt it, he will not date a black women in the projects or a black woman with kids from previous black men. Black men date black women with kids from previous relationships. How many white men do that? Let's stop playing games here. As far as black men dating white women, black men are not doing x amount of blogs saying "black women are this and that" come date me. Black men don't have to convince white women to do anything. If anything, white women get involved "despite" the bashing by sellout black women and pasty cowardly racist white men that say their comments about us. White men tell white women "don't come back to our race if you slept with a black man". Society will not say that about black women because they don't value black women. They see a white man with a black woman they are going to say negative things. Me personally, I have never been involved with a white woman. I believe you try to make it work in your own race. I already address CNN to be Black in America with "Sole dud". I don't particular like that program. It showed black women "down and out" and struggling. OH yea they showed a black woman married to a white man. The white man's parents said " I don't want to mix with black blood". The white men sat there and said " his parents are coming around". I give credit to the black woman she said basically " Na I wouldn't have been with this white man if I knew had no balls to stand up to his parents". The white man stood there like " it was ok". Me, you disrespect me on television we getting a divorce. Man don't let me get started on CNN to be black in America. They showed one successful black woman who did the movie "Something New" from my understanding her ass is still single, even "though", she claims she wants a white man. I guess she won't do a movie about "how she can't find a white man" either. Call the movie "Something New became Something Old". Good day Your 16 I am surprised. You gave me a little fight there. I stick by all my statements.

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  46.   Member says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    Ok, first off, I have got to say that my fiance has the best vagina I have ever had. Second off, she has quite the personality I am looking for in life to be paired with. Is it just a coincidence that she's black? I think not.

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  47.   candygyrl0711 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    You're whole argument is ridiculous. First of I said in my post that when I turned that guy that it was MY fault for my own insecurities and I wasn't blaming anyone else. I didn't say "I didn't go out with him because the black guys would have said something to me." Also, you misread my statement when I said that this blog isn't titled, "I date white men because black men are so and so...". I meant to show the difference between a blog like that which would indicate negativity towards black men where this one does not. Also why do you assume that since we're the smallest percentage in the statistic that white guys think we're "unfit" to marry. Black men are least likely to marry Asian women but does that mean that they think are unfit to marry? NO! You haven't even read any of the posts that some of white guys posted saying how they are attracted to black women and would like to or already have started families with them. This blog is titled "why white men love the black woman". No where on this board has anyone said "oh well I only use black women for sex" or "I would never marry a black woman". You're making ridiculous assumptions based on statistics that white men "look down" on black women in regards to marriage. And did you forget the statistics that shows where black women marrying white men is a growing trend? Oh and you did say that women who date white men are desperate gold diggers. "I can go to you a young black girl and she will say the only reason I would date a white boy would be for money. Now you can dispute that on this little blog. I don’t speculate on anything. I ask them that shit. Your a sucka to believe what black women tell you." AND "So let’s not talk about who is scared of who. I didn’t start this war. The sellout black women and their blogs started this war. They are so pathetic they would rather be picked last by white men to be in relationships instead getting a back bone. Where is the criticism for white men picking you last." "the only reason I'd date a white boy is for money" aka gold diggers "they are so pathetic they would rather be picked last by white men to be in relationships instead of getting a back bone" aka desperate and you keep saying "picked last" "picked last". Didn't you notice where I said that there are plenty of non-black women out there for them to "pick" so if they thought we are so "unfit" they could have easily have found someone else. They marry them because they want to, not because they need to or want some sex toy. And you keep saying that women who have reasons for dating white men are "sellouts" and then turn around and say that it's understandable when black men have reasons for dating white women. You even said that black women "drove" black men to date white women. Why don't you argue with them for being "sellouts"? So you're pretty much saying that a black men can say, "I don't date black women because they are too loud, bossy, ghetto, and have drama" (which I've heard often) and not be labeled by you as a "sellout" and IF a black women says, "I date outside my race because there are more opportunities" or whatever reason and then you automatically say she's "bashing black men" and a "sellout". Oh and when CNN did their "Black in America" series they did a section where they talk about black women who date interracially and how most of these women are successful in their careers and make good money. They don't need a white guy or any guy to provide for them or buy them things or be their push over. You should look it up and see it.

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  48.   Member says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    Dear Candy I never called black women fat desperate and want money. If you read my posts show me that. You made some compelling arguments. You also said this "2. Why do assume that black women are a last resort or are desperate? What statistic told you that? And why do you look so poorly on your black sistas. Black women are the least likely to get married in general. This can occur for several reasons but also black women are the least likely to date outside their race. Some say this is because black women feel more loyalty to black men whereas black men will more readily date another race. Also, if you would have read this post instead of arguing with everyone you would’ve read where some of the white guys said they wanted to date black women but were afraid they’d get turned down because of race. So don’t say that just because there are less BW/WM relationships that black women are being chosen as a last resort or last pick. There are plenty of non-black women out there so if a white guy marries a black women it’s because he wants to, not because of necessity or desperation." Research the statistics, there is yahoo article that a graduate student did about online dating. It showed white men picking black women last to date. If you read all of my statements then you would have seen that. You seem to make excuses for white men! The question is why white men think black women are not good enough for marriage? I resent you think I look down on black women since I am engaged to one. Apparently, you don't seem to care that white men look "down on you" when it comes to a serious marriage. I merely point that out. Stop making excuses for them. What else you said "4. First of all this blog isn’t about “bashing black men”. The blog wasn’t titled, “I DATE WHITE MEN BECAUSE BLACK MEN ARE SO….”. You’re attacking people on a blog that has nothing to do with the issue you’re talking about. Also, I have no issue with the males in my school or interracial dating. One of my best friends is a white girl who dates black guys and I don’t have an issue with it. The only time I get mad about it is when I hear a black guy saying “I don’t date black girls because they are too…” and start bashing black women. I would be irritated if a black women did the same thing about black guys. I don’t like when people bash their other gender in their race because then I feel like people are interracially dating for the wrong reason rather than doing it because they are genuinely open to it and want to find love. I think most people on here date outside their race because they wanted to expand their opportunities to find the right person." You said "The blog wasn’t titled, “I DATE WHITE MEN BECAUSE BLACK MEN ARE SO…." That statement can only go two ways. I figure it is going to be negative. So this statement does not lead to bashing black men? If it does not , explain to me how it does not? So you get mad when a black man gives reasons as to why he does not date black women. White men clearly do not date black women. They don't give any reasons so that is ok? I don't get your argument. Black men on a whole date and marry black women to the tune of over three million. I am not going to sit here and let black women bash black men because they need attention from white men. "5. I didn’t say my school was straight up racist. I meant that there are still underlying issues like there is across the country. Like, we all get along but we self-segregate and generally hang out with the same race. That’s how society is these days. I also never said that black guys had anything to do with white guys not asking me out. When the hell did I say that? Quote me on it. My freshmen year this German dude was trying to talk to me but I wasn’t in to it because he was to old for me and I honestly was nervous about what others would think which I shouldn’t have. No black guy was stopping me. And no black guys have ever said that white guys won’t like me or other black girls and I never said that they “allegedly” would. I said that it probably wouldn’t happen because it is a high school with peer pressure and people constantly talking. It would be very hard for a relationship like that in my area. Black guys date white girls all the time and I hear some black girls say they don’t like it. I’m sure it’d be worse if it was BW/WM type probably because it’s less common and would be more noticeable. I live in the South. People are still hung up on race." Segregation is racism. However "you meant it", If a group does not want to associate with you, that is racist. You openly admit you turned down a white guy who liked you. That was your decision. I figure you will blame black men "indirectly" (other people) for that too. Why don't you take personal responsibility for your bad decisions in life. I went to college and everybody was "self" segregated. This was in New York. You keeping mentioning it is a Southern thing. I have lived in the South. I see more interracial couples in the South than up North. It is a poor excuse. Maybe you can't accept the fact over white men are not interested in black women for marriage and children. If that wasn't the case you wouldn't be picked last. "7. I do think for myself. No ones telling me that if I’m single that I’m desperate and that I’d have to a get a white guy. Plus, I NEVER SAID BLACK MEN ARE STOPPING ANYONE FROM DOING ANYTHING. You’re arguing stuff that I never said. Also you still didn’t answer my question. WHY DO YOU CARE????" I sense your getting frustrated. You don't have to say black men are stopping you. You made a reference about your freshman year with some white guy liking you and "you" turned him down because "of what people might think". Who are "those people"? You need to stop dancing around and just say how you feel. I don't do that, I get to the point. Why do I care, the same reason you care to write me back! This is a public board, where does it say I have to agree with everyone. Good day 16 year old lol

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  49.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    To: Ichibod, Here I am, playing back up quarterback, so to speak, in regards to Ashley's post to you. Ashley is correct about your friend saying "that all black women who date non-black are sellout's". He is ALWAY'S saying this!!!! This is just one of MANY of the insult's and untruth's that he spews CONSISTENTLY!! How many times has he said that "a black man has a "reason" for not wanting us and going elsewhere", but in his eyesight that's not a "sellout".. Yet in the same breath a black woman who does is a "sellout", and GOD forbid if she states her "reason", then she is a sellout who is bashing black men. What's wrong with this picture? One of the other's is the attack on black women who bash black men, so not true. I have never bashed, stereotyped black men, not on here and not in my personal life. However because he is adamant about putting black women down and verbally degrading them, he will twist the word's that has been written, to justify his action's. He did this to me a couple of times. On May 2, 2009, I responded to a post(Interracial dating, getting personal). Ms. Missye42 posed a question pertaining to "black women who have issues with black men dating white women". As a woman, who happens to be black, I decided to respond to her. Of course, he felt the need to intercept the ball and run downfield, which is his right to do so, even though the question was from a WOMAN to another WOMAN, but why did I have to be referred to as a WHORE in his response? I did not bash black men not once, but I was still met with the usual verbal venom just the same. This notion that his attack is only when black women bash black men, is a big LIE! My answer to her question went something like this, it has been in my experience and talking with black women from all over the US and outside the US that MOST do not care, they are just offended when the bashing and degrading of black women is needed and done to justify your choice.. This was not bashing black men. This can only be referred to the INDIVIDUAL black man whose character, or lack thereof, who indulges in this type of behavior. Believe it or not there are black men as well as black women who is guilty of this behavior, and just as I said the other day, BAD BEHAVIOR IS BAD BEHAVIOR!!! I personally think it's in very poor taste, immature and just plain ignorance to seek a mate based solely on the color of one's skin. Since when does color define CHARACTER? A person's skin color, bank account, education, zip code, and their IQ does not mean that they are of QUALITY. I'd rather have one pair of quality shoe's, than have a closet full of cheap shoes.. Everyone here has a right to voice their opinion's, and to speak freely, free speech rocks, however, free speech can bring a wide range of opinion's, and responses, and reaction's from a wide range of people with their own unique expereince's including the joy's and pains of life. When we don't hear what we want or when we disagree with another, that is no reason or justification for another to be DISRESPECTFUL, RUDE, HATEFUL OR MEAN!!! This mislabeling and the dergatory name calling is unacceptable and it shouldn't be.. MANY of us are sick and tired of it but we have learned to overlook it just the same and one of the reason's why most of us have made a conscious decision to overlook this behavior and not even respond to him is becasue it's more sad than it is hurtful, not to mention that the 98% of the people here are in agreement and that alone speaks volumes!!! Also Ashley is the only MAN that is CONSISTENT about denouncing this bad behavior. If you wouldn't want your daughter, sister, mother talked to in this way, it is in my opinion that you should want it for any woman!!! That's not to say other MEN has not come to our defense, but Ashley is CONSISTENT, and since I'm old school, that's a quality in any man that I admire and grew up with. None of us are perfect, and we ALL fall short from time to time, but we as individual's who are a part of this group, the decent human beings group, should be sick and tired and fed up with the nonsense and the bad behavior period!!!!! If it comes from your family, it's wrong, from your friend's it's wrong, wrong is wrong!!! What I find interesting is if these thing's were said and expressed by a particular group there would be outrage(Don Imus), yet when it comes from your own, it's either tolerated, or we look the other way.. How many could go to your job speaking like this and expect to keep your job? More importantly in this here situation, why the OBSESSION with the black women who exercise their "option" to date whomever? Why care and put way TOO much energy on this subject?

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  50.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    candygyrl0711 Dang Girl! No disrespect to you meant with my next Comment! Queens, hahahahahaha Schooled by a 16 year old! That funny!

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