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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    I see you, too. I appreciate your insight. Thanks!

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  2.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    Ichibod This is the thing! He has stated over and over again that ALL BLACK WOMAN THAT DATE INTERRACIALLY ARE SELLOUTS! He has Stated that All BLACK WOMAN THAT Any white man has ever dated was Still Sleeping with Black men on the side and that ALL BLACK WOMAN ONLY DATE WHITE MEN FOR MONEY! The thing is I see your post and I agree with you. Really in most of your post! What you are saying is right! But this cat sees you post and He tries to Ride with you like you are with him when in fact the type of statements that you make are maybe similar to what he says but they are not the same! Like I have said before There are some sellout black woman, Just as there are some sellout white woman, and black men, and white men, and Sellouts in every shape color and form! What he does would be equivalent to me Stating that all black men are like him and I hate them! No! I grew up in a black home, and 90% of my friends and family are black! I could never hate black people or any other group of people! But I do hate him! But I will never Label all black men with the label that I label him! And that is what he does in his post! What this idiot doesn't understand is that Yes there is a percentage of people out in the world that are the people he should be addressing, but he doesn't! He puts up his SH#T For everybody in Interracial dating or relationships! And at times he is very Racist about it! You see you say this! "I came here because I knew that any black women on this site would probably be more open minded than my ex-fiance. I got tired of hearing stupid comments about interracial couples or bi-racial people. Saying I want a white woman is just as mean as what white boy said. I can’t be mad though." He says stuff like this! "Unlike my sellout detractors, I live in reality. Sellout black women need to stop looking for a white man “stimulus package” and bring something to the table other than your bitterness towards black men and your vagina." "Maybe these desperate dumb black women on here will believe you." "Things haven’t changed for black women dating white men" "A white guy always says ” I was enlightened one day to date a black woman”. Another white man says ‘ I always wanted a black woman but I was married to a white woman”. Now that I am divorced……….. (fill in the blank on the reasons)." "They have no principles or loyalty. How do white men expect a black woman to be loyal to them and she is not loyal to her own race" "That black woman is “out of there”. You will be “paying her” child support and alimony while she goes back to a “black man” her natural “mate”." You see It is good that you try to Clean up what he is trying to say into what should be said! I thought about doing that before as well but as I read more and more from him I realized that He has Other issues and agendas! For one he is Racist! For two He has issues with interracial dating as a whole! And he just labels something that someone person has said at one point in time to the and lables it to the entire race! IT doesn't make sense and it is highly offensive! To everybody here! Not just me! I do laugh at the fact the he seem to think that you two are the same! He thinks that you are road dogs but in the end I don't think he has really read all of your post! He said this one time! "It would be real simple if white men truly wanted to marry black women than my comments wouldn’t be so deep." Ok So I truly want to marry my Girl and we soon will be? So why do you still keep disrespecting all white people and all black woman that date interracially? In the end you are rational and A very good blog-ger. In the end he is Very racist and has some other issues deep down there somewhere in which he plays into this blog it is very visible. just wanted to say I see you ich that's all!

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  3.   candygyrl0711 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    WOW you just twisted EVERYTHING I just said. "I never called black women loud and argumentative. White men don’t date fat loud black women. Come to think of it, white men don’t date full figured black women very much. Now if you want to dispute that you can do so. Black men can’t stop you from dating outside your race." 1. You said on some of your other posts that the type of women that date or like white men are fat, desperate, and want money. Also, I didn't say black men were stopping me or others from dating outside their race. "You have to ask yourself why white men pick black women last to date. You can even ask the question why many white men do not approach black women for a serious relationship. They will approach white women, Asian women, even Latin women before a black woman. Research it and you can see for yourself/." 2. Why do assume that black women are a last resort or are desperate? What statistic told you that? And why do you look so poorly on your black sistas. Black women are the least likely to get married in general. This can occur for several reasons but also black women are the least likely to date outside their race. Some say this is because black women feel more loyalty to black men whereas black men will more readily date another race. Also, if you would have read this post instead of arguing with everyone you would've read where some of the white guys said they wanted to date black women but were afraid they'd get turned down because of race. So don't say that just because there are less BW/WM relationships that black women are being chosen as a last resort or last pick. There are plenty of non-black women out there so if a white guy marries a black women it's because he wants to, not because of necessity or desperation. "I am not mad at anything because I don’t do several blogs “trying to get “white men to be interested in me. See that is the difference between desperate black women and black women who are not desperate." 3. Where the hell on this blog do you see anything that says "Oh white guy PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE find us black women attractive and date us!". This blog is about white men who like black women. This isn't a blog stating why they should. I haven't seen one person on here who was begging someone to like them. "I have been in a relationship for 4 years. I only respond to sellout black women who bash black men. Now if you have a personal problem with males in your school that is an issue you take up with them." 4. First of all this blog isn't about "bashing black men". The blog wasn't titled, "I DATE WHITE MEN BECAUSE BLACK MEN ARE SO....". You're attacking people on a blog that has nothing to do with the issue you're talking about. Also, I have no issue with the males in my school or interracial dating. One of my best friends is a white girl who dates black guys and I don't have an issue with it. The only time I get mad about it is when I hear a black guy saying "I don't date black girls because they are too..." and start bashing black women. I would be irritated if a black women did the same thing about black guys. I don't like when people bash their other gender in their race because then I feel like people are interracially dating for the wrong reason rather than doing it because they are genuinely open to it and want to find love. I think most people on here date outside their race because they wanted to expand their opportunities to find the right person. "You openly admit your school is racist. So how do black men have anything to do with white men avoiding you or not asking you out. You won’t speak out about racism in your school but you worried about black men allegedly “saying to you” that those white boys don’t like you. You just said they are racist in your school didn’t you?" 5. I didn't say my school was straight up racist. I meant that there are still underlying issues like there is across the country. Like, we all get along but we self-segregate and generally hang out with the same race. That's how society is these days. I also never said that black guys had anything to do with white guys not asking me out. When the hell did I say that? Quote me on it. My freshmen year this German dude was trying to talk to me but I wasn't in to it because he was to old for me and I honestly was nervous about what others would think which I shouldn't have. No black guy was stopping me. And no black guys have ever said that white guys won't like me or other black girls and I never said that they "allegedly" would. I said that it probably wouldn't happen because it is a high school with peer pressure and people constantly talking. It would be very hard for a relationship like that in my area. Black guys date white girls all the time and I hear some black girls say they don't like it. I'm sure it'd be worse if it was BW/WM type probably because it's less common and would be more noticeable. I live in the South. People are still hung up on race. "Maybe you need to rethink your statement. Come to my blog and invite your teenage friends. I want you to think critically about this instead of worrying about “who likes me”." 6.I don't want to come to your pathetic blog. I don't want my mind to warped like yours has and I don't worry about "who likes me". Whether or not a white guy likes me or not in the future is okay with me. I'm not worried about that. I said that an interracial relationship is something I'd be open to in the future because I find some white guys and guys of other races attractive and why the hell would I let race stop me from potentially finding the right guy. "Think for yourself don’t follow the blog crowd. At the end of the day it is up to white men to approach you. Black men can’t stop them from doing anything." 7. I do think for myself. No ones telling me that if I'm single that I'm desperate and that I'd have to a get a white guy. Plus, I NEVER SAID BLACK MEN ARE STOPPING ANYONE FROM DOING ANYTHING. You're arguing stuff that I never said. Also you still didn't answer my question. WHY DO YOU CARE????

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  4.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 09

    Hello kingpin78, 78? Does that mean you're my age? lol Anyway, I just figured I'd try to clarify a couple things. You said earlier: "I am happily married to a24 year old black girl from SC..." I'm happy for you, however a 24 year old is not a girl. Just splitting hairs here. "I hate when you use the term “sellout”, whenever a black woman is with a white man." He doesn't use it whenever a black woman is with a white man. He uses it whenever a black woman is with a white man because she hates black men and likes to flaunt it. "What, a black woman cant date outside her race just for the pure simple reason she found love?" A black woman most definitely can... and should. The problem is when a black woman uses something derogatory toward black men as her reason. Just my two cents. Hope that helps.

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  5.   Larry0311 says:
    Posted: 17 Jun 09

    What is the most powerful visual media to reach society? The television folks! It has the largest broad based audience of any other media on earth. Of course, now we have the internet, digital phones, and the list goes on. What I'm trying to say here people, we are a visual nation and black woman were rearly even seen on T.V. or in the movies or in magazines back in the sixies and seventies. Now that we have a visual profile (T.V.,internet..) they have more exposure and the world is open to them. At least, thats my take on it, what say you?

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  6.   Member says:
    Posted: 17 Jun 09

    Dear Kingpin People use terms that I don't like, it does not mean I personally have something against white men. I understand you are bothered by some comments. I never hear outrage when white guys make references to dating 'several black women". I don't mind the criticism. Off this blog, in the real world, whites have the problems with interracial dating. I remember they did a poll that said about 50 percent of Americans do not like interracial dating. I do have a problem with white men that get self righteous about what I say. Then turn around and say " Well I always wanted to date black women" but "etc" fill in the blank "excuses". The "tattoed" one says "big deal" I am happy just being picked. That is the sort of low self esteem that plagues sellout black women. You act like I caused the racism concerning interracial dating. Currently their are people in interracial relationships that wouldn't want a black man to date their biracial daughter that includes white men in interracial relationships. Let's be honest here and cut the bullshit. One of the primary reason white men steer clear from black women is black men. They don't want to speak to their fathers, brothers , and cousins. That is what it is really about. Sorry if I don't see the world from your optimistic point of view. When was the last time you told your white friends don't do racial jokes about black women? I had a guy on my blog "Mike" as most people know. He said his friends made derogatory statements about black women but they were not racist. He said he thought all black girls "jump rope". I laughed like "you know what I never thought about that". Do all black girls jump rope???????????? Perhaps, it is just ignorance towards black culture. I got a right to ask about why you using black women for sex. I am a black man. From the statistics I have read, you pick black women last. Now if you don't want to address that, say that. Don't try to make yourself look like the victim. Good day

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  7.   kingpin78 says:
    Posted: 17 Jun 09

    candygyrl....that was very well said. You seem much smarter and down to earth than your age would indicate. You have a good head on your shoulders.

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  8.   kingpin78 says:
    Posted: 17 Jun 09

    Mr Queens....why do you continue to stereotype white men, by continually saying "they" "they" "they"....like "we" white men are all the same?... I am happily married to a24 year old black girl from SC, and we are not together and married for any other reason than the fact that we love and care for each other. I hate when you use the term "sellout", whenever a black woman is with a white man. That really pisses me off. What, a black woman cant date outside her race just for the pure simple reason she found love? Why must you think we have to live with these racial boundries?

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  9.   Member says:
    Posted: 17 Jun 09

    I usually don't respond to "minors". I never called black women loud and argumentative. White men don't date fat loud black women. Come to think of it, white men don't date full figured black women very much. Now if you want to dispute that you can do so. Black men can't stop you from dating outside your race. You have to ask yourself why white men pick black women last to date. You can even ask the question why many white men do not approach black women for a serious relationship. They will approach white women, Asian women, even Latin women before a black woman. Research it and you can see for yourself/. I am not mad at anything because I don't do several blogs "trying to get "white men to be interested in me. See that is the difference between desperate black women and black women who are not desperate. I have been in a relationship for 4 years. I only respond to sellout black women who bash black men. Now if you have a personal problem with males in your school that is an issue you take up with them. You openly admit your school is racist. So how do black men have anything to do with white men avoiding you or not asking you out. You won't speak out about racism in your school but you worried about black men allegedly "saying to you" that those white boys don't like you. You just said they are racist in your school didn't you? Maybe you need to rethink your statement. Come to my blog and invite your teenage friends. I want you to think critically about this instead of worrying about "who likes me". Think for yourself don't follow the blog crowd. At the end of the day it is up to white men to approach you. Black men can't stop them from doing anything. Good day

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  10.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 09

    Legion You got a hair cut homey. Now you can get you a fine ass black woman. People say I am hater. I am not. LOL I am out

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  11.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 09

    What is "ratchet girls" and "ghetto-ness"????? Son your going to have problems in New York if you call black women ghetto and ratchet.

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  12.   candygyrl0711 says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 09

    I've been reading this blog for a while because I'm interested on the subject. I'm 16 and i probably wouldn't date outside my race in my high school although my school is more diverse and its common for black guys to date white girls.i just think that it would be very difficult in our school and my school's in the south so it is still very prejudiced on both sides. i would rather wait till i moved to a northern state or a more diverse area where it would be common. but i will say that mr.laurelton queens is acting very childish and like the guys in my high school. i don't think dating outside your race makes you a "sellout". i don't like it when anyone chooses to date outside their race because they are rejecting their own. but you're generalizing and assuming that all women who date out are like that it's not true. I can't tell you how many times I have heard black guys around me say they date black girls for various reasons ("they're too loud", "ghetto", "attitude" which are grouping all black females into a stereotype).Plus, wouldn't that make all people who date interracially "sellouts". I mean our current president is a product of an interracial relationship so does that make his parents "sellouts". Also your saying that any woman who dates a white man is "desperate", "fat", or a "gold digger". Look at some celebrities like Iman, Halle Berry, Gabrielle Union, and others who have dated out and these women don't fit your description. That's equivalent to saying the stereotype that white women who date black men are weak, white trash, or fat. Obviously you've seen black women that you've wanted that were with white guys which is why you are mad. Or maybe you were left for one. I mean it just makes me question your reason for caring. If these black women who date outside their race were so "undesirable" then why the hell would you care? If these black women are fat, desperate, gold diggers then why would you prefer that they stick to dating black men that you say nobody wants? I mean if these are women you say you don't want then WHY DO YOU CARE?!?!?!?!?!?!? Why are you spending your time and energy arguing about women dating white men when you claim you wouldn't date them? It just seems to me like you're angry that you saw a fine successful, intelligent black women with a white man and now want to backlash against anyone who has found love because you haven't. You are a sad man.

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  13.   Ian says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 09

    There's something special about an intelligent, cultured, beautiful black woman. She's confident in every which way, and it's a black woman who I want to spend the rest of my life with. Mind you, I'm fresh out of a 48% African - American high school, so I've experienced the "ratchet girls" and ghetto-ness in general. I'm not saying being booji is attractive at all, but I would want to be able to hold an intelligent conversation with a woman who cares about her future. Sadly, I live in the South, and that can be difficult to find. But, I'm moving to New York this summer for my freshman year at Columbia and hopefully, I'll find who I'm looking for there.

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  14.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 09

    Let me respond to all the comments. First off black men who date white women don't openly bash them on blogs. Secondly, black women drove black men to date white women. As a black man you should know this. I don't argue with other black men because they know the deal on this whole interracial dating "game". Some black men may disagree with me because they are "fed up" with black women and date outside their race. I haven't met a black man that dated outside his race "for no reason". I don't mind the criticism by sellout black women. They have to find some way to discredit me. That's fine with me. 70 percent of them are supposedly single. That is not just black men "not dating them" seriously". Black men are not on E Harmony 'excluding" you from the dating pool. It is white men that are doing that. Basically they attack me for "they way" I deliver the truth. Why is black men told but other black men to supposedly "tone down their comments" about black men. Yet, you never hear white men convince "other" white men to date black women. You never see white men reprimand their family and friends for their derogatory comments about black women they date. Ich is aware of what is going on. Some white boys come on here bragging about how many desperate black women they are currently sleeping with. Nobody says nothing about it. I don't come on this board bragging about women I sleep with. Oh yea fuck the apology. That chicken george negro does NOT TALK FOR ME! Sellout black women should apologize to me for dating an autistic white boy.

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  15.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 09

    To: Mr. Andrew Brown, Thank you for your honesty, I for one, really appreciate it when honesty and disdain for bad behavior is noted reagrdless of who is indulging in this type of negative and defile behavior.. Unfortunately it is true that a "few' still participate in the "stereotyping" both women and men. It is not just the women!!! I do hope that you stick around and if you do you will see that even when a black woman make's no mention or bashing of a black man, she will still be met with the usual elementary school type rhetoric by being called names. Not ALL black women have these negative issues about black men/ and black men who date/marry non-black. I have never bashed a black man but have been met with the same degrading type of behavior and name calling, regardless. It serves no real purpose other than making us look really bad! Thanks again for speaking out against the nonsense.....

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  16.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 09

    The 'sellout' factor is in regard to a person who uses negativity toward their race as reasons for dating outside their race. As a black man, I would never say, "I prefer Asians, white, or Latinas because black women blah blah blah", that would make me a sellout because I'm using one stereotype to buy into another. Could I honestly say something like that to my mother, my cousins, my grandmother, or my aunts? There are a lot of black women who like to post that type of bile in these blogs and some men are pissed about it. Mostly, because you don't see men and women of other races doing it on here.

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  17.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 09

    **Against For real Brah, I don't see how you can come on here and talk this honest conversation stuff when you blog what you blog. Its bullshit. You want to come off as humble but instead you want to discourage people from dating outside the race. I find it funny that you don't give black men like me a hard time for dating outside the race. Its kind of simple of you to fell this way. Weird thing is my sister and i both date outside the race and she would be the sellout and im not?

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  18.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 09

    How can anyone have an honest conversation with someone who is agasint interracial dating and have even made up a term for women who date outside the race? The same can be said for black men who want to create these kids and have sex with different women but never want to commit to one girl.

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  19.   Member says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    Listen I just want us to have an honest conversation about interracial dating. Nobody sticks on topic and they all want to attack me for having the audacity to ask if white men are sincere about having serious relationships with black women. Obviously, white men do not have the fortitude to explain why they would be reluctant to marry black woman but she is good enough for your sexual bed "wench". I would like to apologize about the comb your hair comments. I meant brush your hair. Thank you

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    Dreamon Mr.Laurelton Queens is a idiot. End of Story

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  21.   Dreamon says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    To Legion: You may not agree with Mr Laurelton Queen, but that doesn't mean he doesn't have brain cells or any of the other people that have a difference in opinion. We are all unique that what makes this world so beautiful, what a dull place if we were all the same.

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  22.   SanAntonioBeauty says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    It seems a new person comes on here thinking they can have an intellectual conversation with Mr. Queens and end up arguing with him. Why because they think they are talking with a rational person, then they come to realize he is an obstinate problem, yet they continue. I'm done with this blog, for the time being. It belongs to Mr. Queens and whom ever wish to argue with him. No, I'm not trying to limit any exchange here. Go at it, enjoy yourselves. Any arguments with Mr. Queens is too silly for any intelligent person.

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  23.   _Legion_ says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    Dreamon: Sorry my comment was not directed towards you. I should have stated that in my previous post. I apologize. It's nice to have a civil conversation with people with enough brain cells who can actually hold one. I don't know if you have read this or any other blog on this site entirely, I urge you to do so if you wish, and you will see the ignorance of some. I need not speak of any names.

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  24.   mdsean23 says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    And by the way, when I'm dating a woman, I tend to just be myself. I don't try to act "gangsta" because my last girlfriend said she didn't like guys like that. But if someone wants to act differently, that's fine too. I just don't have a need to.

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  25.   Dreamon says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    To Legion: What do you mean by your statement? w/o people trying to shove words down each others throat I am not shoving words down his throat, if we so choose to have a conversation, then that is what we are doing. Two people expressing themselves, I think you should analyze your thinking process and why you use the words you do.... Why do we have to shoving? Why isn't it communicating?? And what do you mean the stupidity of some. We are not stupid for self expression. I feel we are on this earth to express and learn

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  26.   wilkinda says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    Mr Laurelton Queens... Did you seriously call someone on this site a "pasty" little friend? You are living proof that rascism is not a one way street. i have been married to and dated nothing but black women for the past 14 years with (3) beautiful children from it. When i met my wife....whe was a single mom raising a 12 month old by herself. It did not matter to me that she drove a crappy car and lived in a trailer. I feel in love for the person..not her surroundings or what she had. I also treated her daughter (whom I call my own since I have been raising her as mine since she was 12 months old)with the utmost respect as well. Never one time have either of us used a racial remark against each other in anger or casual conversation. It;s insulting to me for you in several of your post to do so. You are trying to keep rascism alive and well. Your a dinosaur in a new age we live in. I feel pity for you. It's also been noted that especially since my wife is gorgeous....the only negative comments we get are from black men who assume that a beautiful black women should be with a black man. Y is that? And I didn't pick her last, I feel in love with her and it had nothing to do with the color of her skin. it was the beauty of the total person. Why is she always told she is not faithful to her race because she is trying to be white because she....as we always hear..speaks like a white girl? What exactly does that mean? No ebonics or slang so she must be trying too hard to be white? It's almost laughable

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  27.   _Legion_ says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    I didn't say you couldn't express your opinions, I was expressing mine by saying it's nice to see some peace and quiet w/o people trying to shove words down each others throat. People can express sure, but I've also noticed all the people driven away by the stupidity of some. And I'll comb my hair for you if it makes you feel any better.

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  28.   Member says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    Who wants a blog to be "quiet". Legion go comb your hair and stop trying to run things on here like your "massa" on the plantation. Black people are free to express their opinion on a public blog!

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  29.   Dreamon says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    Excuse me Legion I am not calling him out, I am expressing my thoughts. This is a blog.... Correct? We have a mind to express ourselves, everyone is entitled to do so and that is what I am doing.

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  30.   _Legion_ says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    Oh goodness, you just had to call him out didn't you? This blog was silent for quite a while and now you just had to stir it up again. PLEASE I just ask that everyone leave his name out from now on if we want to somehow bring order back to this board.

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  31.   Dreamon says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    To Mr Laurelton Queens: Since I can't edit my message, I just realized I wrote there life instead of their life. Also the skin disease would be vitiligo couldn't think of when I was typing the message.

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  32.   Dreamon says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    To Mr Laurelton Queens -As everything was so it will be, we all came from Mother Africa and that is where we are going, so if people choose to date out there race and reconnect there roots so be it! I love my color and my people I will marry whoever I fall in love with no matter the color. -I am marrying a european french guy and love the person he is, that doesn mean I don't have love for my black africian men. You fall in love with who you fall in love with regardless of race or culture. You said For you to date someone outside your race you would automatically dislike people in your own race. You said that is not the case. Alright, you tell why that is not the case. Instead of hurling attacks at me. - To your above comment, many people have already told you why, love does not have a color…. I dated whoever I was attracted mentally, physically and spiritually. Why are you attracted to your fiance? I am sure that you are not only attracted to your fiancés color. If that is the case what will you do if your fiancé get melanoma or some skin condition? Are you going to leave her because she looks white LOL Your said: You let black women walk over you so you equate that to love. That is not love, that is you being her doormat. Plus black men is still sleeping with your black wife or girlfriend. Despite the bullshit she is saying on here. -To your above comment are you generalizing? Seems to me that you are…. Correct me if I am wrong. People that are not in interracial relationships deal with the same thing. If someone is a cheater that is who they are regardless of what kind of relationship they are in. When it's all said and done we all live and die, so how a person choose to live there life or who they choose to be with really doesn't matter. That is why it's there life not yours. Live and Let Live.

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  33.   mdsean23 says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 09

    I honestly don't get what all the hype's about with this subject. I'm a white male and I've dated 2 black females so far. I've met both online because I'm naturally shy face to face but I treated them both with respect. I can't tell you why I prefer black women over white women. There is a physical attraction but that's not the main reason. I think the main reason is around here, I see more black males with white females when it's an interracial relationship. I'm determined to find a black female to spend the rest of my life with though. It is looked down upon in my family though because my father's parents were both from the Shenandoah Valley and were sort of old fashioned, but both of my relationships were very nice and each girl motivated me to confront and overcome one of my fears. I don't know if all African American females have that quality but 2 out of 2 isn't bad.

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  34.   Member says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 09

    Dear NCfinest I don't know if you are speaking white "ebonics". You were doing well until you said this. "OH YEAH Mr Laurelton Queens, On those lame ass statistics,You continue to believe in media hype because whil you watching That. I’m with your mother AND UR GIRL, becoming your new stepdad and babies father…! GO GET SOME PRIDE,U IGNORANT BASTARD. To all yall fine sista, Keep It Real with a Fella" I think you watch to much television. You are actually feeding into the hyper masculine black male image. So you are actually trying to be " a black man" judging from the stereotypes society deems us to be. It always makes me laugh when a white boy goes on about "how many women" he can get. Especially, when they say they can "numerous black women". The only way for that happen is for you to "pay them". I am just keeping it real with you. Since I actually grew up in a black neighborhood and not "trying to be something I am not". I personally never seen black men with "numerous black women". I have sen them with more than 1 woman. This whole thing about black men being with "4 or 5 women" at a time. That is just all "hype". Listen, pull your pants up white boy. Stop sounding stupid. Just because some black people "use" slang does not mean "you go and do it too". Your white brothers are ashamed of you. Everybody want to be with a black woman when "things" are good for her. How about be with a black woman "when she is struggling". How about be with her when she only afford to live in a bad neighborhood. I did all those things pussy. Also, managed to finish my college education. I can't stand when white people trying to "speak slang" trying to "be down". You idiot.

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  35.   Becky says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 09

    Hi everyone , yet again!!!! Just wanted to say, Ashley, tatted2death and many others. You guys are an inspiration to all, your smart, confident in what you say and such motivators. So this is my thank you to all of you. Keep it up.

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  36.   NCFinestbacelhor says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 09

    This Has Got To Be A Joke, You men have the front to come on here slating your black women. Are you crazy son. Yo I aint got to prove shit to know body but you dumb as hell be talking trash bout black women desperate and shit. I take that personal, What a blackwomen aint’ capable of loving me without some stink motive or that I take her as last pick. You weak son,that maybe U but Don’t talk 4 me…! I love me a good wholesome black Queen.Obviously I aint racist but blackmen are so dumb not to appreciate what they have. Your telling me that what because a Black women’s passionate and QUOTE “one of the problems i have with black women is they wont shut up after the poing is made. thats one of the reasons i date latinas and whites!” You need to get some balls SON and be a real man. I was with my girl for just under 3 years…YES I’m a WHITE MAN (I aint Bold and Nasty)and She was my black Queen,I’ll defend her to the DEATH…I could handle mines SON…THROUGH THE GOOD AND BAD,BELIVE THAT. You just MAD cause no sista in her right mind wants your ass. Do you see any white man on this site dissin a white women NO, Do you see any asian or Latino Men dissin there own. FIRST OF ALL THERE AINT EVEN ANY NEGATIVE TOPICS ABOUT THEM ANYWAY. So Why U black DUDES Always got 2 be THE SELLOUTS.Out of all the women,Blackwomen get it the hardest and instead of being a real man AND STEPPING UP TO THE PLATE,you talk shit about women most of y’all dont’ deserve…Don’t worry bout that doe,More Queens 4 me 2 Love.She a fine black sista,I’m picking her 1st and Yall the same ones to hate on a man cause you couldn’t get her.YO to all my white brothers outthere,SPEAK UP and STAND UP TO THESE PRICKS. OH YEAH Mr Laurelton Queens, On those lame ass statistics,You continue to believe in media hype because whil you watching That. I’m with your mother AND UR GIRL, becoming your new stepdad and babies father…! GO GET SOME PRIDE,U IGNORANT BASTARD. To all yall fine sista, Keep It Real with a Fella

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  37.   Member says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    Way over dramatic I must say about "colored". I cannot understand why after explaining why I said it like that that someone still cannot grasp their mind around the meaning of it and why it was said.

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  38.   Austrian says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    Sorry, anonymus comment was not posted by me, although I do agree on the 'Black/Colored issue!

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  39.   anonymus says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    Jimmy McDuff, someone didn't get the message, as always! 'COLORED' is more appropriate, even if 'BLACK' is 'in' these days. Speaking of Jesus: Laurelton Queens: JESUS LOVES YOU! EVERYONE ELSE THINKS YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE!

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  40.   Member says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    That's for all the ignorant people still in favor of saying colored. Notice it was in parenthesis.

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  41.   Member says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    You said this "I really enjoy the wonders my black (colored) fiance offers me both emotionally and physically and that I love you all passionately to a nonstrange extent." WHAT???????????? Do you still call black people "colored". Jesus

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  42.   Member says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    I am going to be honest with everyone here, I really enjoy the wonders my black (colored) fiance offers me both emotionally and physically and that I love you all passionately to a nonstrange extent. Why is everyone here so hostile towards one another? I mean really, it's warfare with most of you. If you all refuse to love each other then I will love all of you so you everyone doesn't have to. That's really wierd but I can do it.

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  43.   Member says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    Dear Gene Like I thought pussy. Thanks for the information that backed up "my points". Dumbass. Have a good day LOL

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  44.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    No really I don't need to do S#$T. don't try to calm people Down after you talked all the S#$T that you have over and over! People trying to calm other people down is a Sign of Defeat! When I stated that I bought the study you tried to throw up that little article and act as if I was crazy! Now you act as if you read the actual study when before you had no clue as to what I even was talking about! "Dear Gene What are you rambling about “purchasing the study”. Maybe you did not read it correctly." That shit just back fired on you and you looked stupid there is nothing else to talk about! Your a racist idiot and you have been exposed like I said your post are not relevant any longer, they have no merit. Stop trying to Repost stuff I said in a attempt to clean your little image up! Its over for you here! Your a joke now! So why don't you just "(tighten up your tie) and pick your drink back up!" and beat your F#$KING feet! Find another website Queens your done here! And Im done with you!

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  45.   GT says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    @Legion "Same boat here freeya. Never dated a black woman, but I have become interested only the past few years. I guess that’s why I’m here, seeking advice from other white men and their experiences. I have no real particular reason why, I mean I never sat down and asked myself…”hmmmmmmmm….I wonder why I like black women for”. I just knew that’s what I wanted to go for and it was good enough for me. I guess at has become more of a curiosity and almost a preference thing." You may find the following blog post helpful: http://interracialloveandspicebysara.blogspot.com/2008/12/for-men-how-to-find-good-black-woman.html

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  46.   jamaicangirl says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    Does anyone the racial and gender demographics of this thread? I know that it seems like an impossible question but I just wonder how many people are BW, WM, AM, BM etc.

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  47.   Member says:
    Posted: 10 Jun 09

    Dear Gene (in a bottle) You found the study. I read it already. Again, what is your point? White men are dating black women more than any other race of women? "The point is that your Dumb A$$ tried to use the Yahoo post as a point for you to prove something and it just F$%KING back fired on you! If you are still clueless as to what I am talking about You Dumb S#$T!" No, actually the point is "if this is true or not". You really need to calm down. Your talking about "how you found something". I am talking about the premise of the article. Now prove me to where I am wrong about white men picking black women last. Since you found the "data" that backs up what I have been saying. Here is the sample of the abstract YOU gave me. "white men are more likely to exclude blacks as possible dates, while white women are more likely to exclude Asians. We argue that exclusion relates to racialized images of masculinity and femininity, and shapes dating and marriage outcomes, and thus minority groups’ possibilities for full social incorporation." Genius lol aw man lol this is hilarious.

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  48.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 10 Jun 09

    You said this? I Said that? Do you know how F#$KING stupid you look now! First off! From what Arnold Chao said in his Yahoo article, and what Cynthia Feliciano and Belinda Robnett Said in her article, are two completely different things! Arnold Chao Did not perform the study! What she said and what he said are two different things! The point is that your Dumb A$$ tried to use the Yahoo post as a point for you to prove something and it just F$%KING back fired on you! If you are still clueless as to what I am talking about You Dumb S#$T! You are only looking at her Article on the Study! Now here is where you really made your self less creditable! You act like you research all of your data so F#$KING well like you are the GOD on Race and Interracial dating, tell me this You F$%K stick How the hell you couldn’t even find the Dam Study itself??? To quote you "I’m waiting?????" You think that her article is the actual study? And you claim to be F$#KING smart and the godly all knowing on this Subject! You even look more stupid then before! And As I am sure everybody will really be laughing about this one here is the actual study you F$%KING Fake A$$ Sherlock Holmes Pop Tart!!!!!!!! http://ucelinks.cdlib.org:8888/sfx_local?sid=google&auinit=C&aulast=Feliciano&atitle=Gendered+racial+exclusion+among+white+internet+daters&id=doi:10.1016/j.ssresearch.2008.09.004 What a idiot you must feel like now! I’m all done with you! Ball you up and throw you away! Your credibility as a "RESEARCHER” has all gone to S#$T! So from now on when you try to talk about "I have been studying on this topic for years now!" Just hold your tongue at least in this thread because now, there is no argument coming from you that any of us will take seriously! I suggest that from now on before you try to Gun up against somebody that you feel you are greater than! Look over the Page, or data endlessly until you know for a fact that there isn’t going to be something to come back and bite you in the F$%KING A$$ you Dumb S$%T! And the whole "I am waiting." like I was going to respond before you even posted! Really stupid. "mentally challenged” HAHAHAHAHA! WHO? YOU? I think so! You see what I'm talking about you say things without thinking how stupid they are going to make you look in the end! I have said it once, I have said it twice, I have said it a bunch of times I feel sorry for you! Oh and you are a idiot! P.S. If you need some help adding that Study to the Shopping cart and lessons on how to purchase something on-line hit me up I will guide you! I’m done with this amateur!

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  49.   Member says:
    Posted: 10 Jun 09

    Dear Gene What are you rambling about "purchasing the study". Maybe you did not read it correctly. http://www.uci.edu/features/2009/04/feature_datingandrace_090421.php Here is the link You said this "You F$#%ING Idiot! If the study states that “MEN” As in the MALE, Not White or black, But just MEN!!! Key Word men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Were less likely to pick Black woman due to what ever it may be, then your whole point is null and Void!" You mean this "Cynthia Feliciano and Belinda Robnett collected data from Yahoo personals between September 2004 and May 2005, randomly selecting profiles of people ages 18-50 in the Los Angeles, New York, Chicago and Atlanta metropolitan regions. While white men were more open to dating outside their race than white women, both had specific racial preferences. White men preferred Asian and Latino dating partners to African Americans; white women were more likely to exclude Asian men." Uh why wouldn't a case study of interracial dating not include race my pasty little friend. You also said this "The fact that you even try and state “This is the most objective study to date in my opinion” is a absolute joke! We are talking about thousands of people here! Like under 50? What does that mean? How does that make a impact!" Uh It means white men rather be "with other women" than black women. I can use sign language if you do not understand. You also said this "I Didn’t say that this study was a decade ago! Scroll up Queens and look for my statistics Post! It is up about mid way! You find some small little thing to write on and your like “See there I’m right Because this friend that I know knows this lady that met a man and that man has a friend that did a small insignificant study so I’m right!!” Just like a little child! “I bet you cant do it, not uhhh I bet you I can, oh yeah watch me” I am looking and I didn't see any statistics from you. You said this too. "Trying to use stats from over a decade ago are not going to help you! Find a new avenue of proving your point!" You never said decade. Bottom line, this study is objective. If there is any flaws in the methodology tell me and I will say your right. I am waiting. I am tired of beating on the 'mentally challenged".

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  50.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 10 Jun 09

    To: Ashley, You are awesome, honest, and you totally Rock!!! Your wife is a very fortunate woman!! love godiva61 Yes, I am a sellout because I like Ashley and to quote Ms. Benatar "Hit me with your best shot, fire away"!!!!!!

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