Why white men love the black woman
Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?
It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.
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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.
However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.
So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?
Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.
Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.
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Member says:Posted: 25 May 09
Tatted2death, Thanks for the sweet message, glad to hear it. I would never change, I think that's the most responsible thing we can do as people. We have to be ourselves. Although most of us on here don't like hearing the ignorant ramblings of people we view as racists, I think to make real progress there has to be honest dialogue. From the white perspective, I've had well intentioned friends "act black" when they were around black people. Or are so paranoid about being called a racist they blindly agree with anything a black person says in social settings. We are all people, different and alike. We should embrace and accept our differences and likenesses. I was at a party once with my girlfriend who was black and we were talking to one of our friends and he said, "well i don't see you as black", to her. Before she could lay in to him I was like buddy do you know how disrespectful that is? She's not black because she's educated, and handles herself with class? White is not the gold standard! We are all people in this world, and there are good and bad in all of us. That's why I have a problem wit the "color blind" rap. The sentiment might be in the right place but for one, it's a lie, and second it's disrespectful. All colors are beautiful and whoever represents them should be proud to wear the color god gave them. There's always gonna be assholes, we just have to treat people as individuals and extend the same common courtesy we would appreciate. Hope everyone had a nice weekend! I'll get off my soapbox now, thanks again tatted!
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Austrian says:Posted: 25 May 09IchIban, by the way - I think it is even more impressive, that you are a sensitive, and at the same time STRONG WOMAN. There is a lot for us to chat about, including Germany - we'll stay in touch! LOVE!
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Austrian says:Posted: 25 May 09
Also I would like to add to the 'SOUTHERN ACCENT' - In the early sixties, when I lived in the SOUTH WEST, I noticed a lot of comments by Black Americans, that Southern Whites were mostly prejudice toward them. Automatically, the Southern accent rubbed me the wrong way. As time went by, I met many kind and lovely women and men from the South, who accepted Blacks and my Interracial marriage. And guess what - that Southern draw began to sound pretty good - perhaps even sexy! Since then, I have met White men from the South, who did not have a problem dating me, regardless of my past marriage with a Black man, or being seen IN PUBLIC with my beautiful mixed children. Also I had been prejudice!
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Austrian says:Posted: 25 May 09
Also I would like to add to the 'SOUTHERN ACCENT' - In the sixties, when I lived in the SOUTH WEST, I noticed a lot of comments by Black Americans, that Southern Whites were mostly prejudice toward them. Automatically, the Southern accent rubbed me the wrong way. As time went by, I met many kind and lovely women and men from the South, who accepted Blacks and my Interracial marriage. And guess what - that Southern draw began to sound pretty good - perhaps even sexy! Since then, I have met White men from the South, who did not have a problem dating me, regardless of my past marriage with a Black man, or being seen IN PUBLIC with my beautiful mixed children. Also I had been prejudice!
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godiva61 says:Posted: 25 May 09I spelled romantic incorrectly... I apologize.
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godiva61 says:Posted: 25 May 09
To tatted2death, Good to hear from you, I missed seeing you around. I hope all is well with you.... Question for you and I hope that I'm not out of line here but what if you and Kentucky Joe get a little better acqauinted?(I'm a hopeless raomantic)...... I too love a man with a southern accent. I served with a soldier who was from Tennessee and sometimes I would have to leave the room when he spoke, drove me wild!!! Southern dialect along with chivalry and great manners is a grand slam to me...... to Shana, I'll just say to you "please follow tatted2death's advice. Don't end up like some people, who focus so much on what others think, that they forget to be true to themselves, and eventually end up playing "the what if game". Life's to short, don't waste it on nonsense!!! Hi everybody, hope everyone has had a good weekend and I'm praying that everyone remembered Our Armed Forces in some small way, the ones that's serving, the ones who paid the ultimate price. Freedom is not Free, some paid for it with their lives..... love godiva61
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tatted2death says:Posted: 25 May 09....AND to SHANA..... Don't you dare let that man go over some nonsense....work it out or you will regret it the rest of your life.....TRUST ME. Peace and Blessings tatted2death
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tatted2death says:Posted: 25 May 09
Here's one (kentucky) woman of color who just LOOOOOVES the "deep southern accent"......so don't you go changing, Joe..... .....Peace and Blessings tatted2death
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Member says:Posted: 23 May 09
I just wanted to let yall know this was very refreshing to me. I never rule out any race of women I would potentially date but fell in love with a black girl about nine years ago and have been attracted almost exclusively to black women ever since. It's more than just looks, I think it's mostly about the confidence black women have. They seem to carry themselves with such class and self confidence, not that other races don't, it's just something I notice in black women. Also from my experience black women are more loyal and appreciative of what a man does for them. Whatever it is I love em and want to marry a black woman some day, she's out there somewhere. It is hard sometimes because I have a deep southern accent and have gotten laughed at when approaching black women, lol. But white girls do the same thing I'm sure.
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ichibam says:Posted: 20 May 09
My Dear World Citizen, My spirit was immediately uplifted when I heard from you. I am so glad that you did not let ignorance keep you from the place where you are loved and admired! I am glad also that the nursing home has allowed you to have some free time outside of the recreation room and television watching(smile)....... Here's a big hug to you...... I know that I din't have to apologize, but I felt the need to do so just the same. It's just in my nature to nurture and to make everyone feel good in spite of the circumstances. What I hate most of all is mean spirited people, I have no tolerance for that at all..... Never have and never will!!!!! He will get his back one day, that I am sure of it.... So what part of Texas? I hope all goes well for your daughter and for yourself. I used to live in Germany(ex military). It was nice but very cold.. I also lived in Japan, nice but too hot and the typhoons were a bit scary.. Anyway I'll pray that you have a safe trip, that's a very long flight. How long are you going to be in the Lone Star State? Tell your daughter she is very blessed to have a mother like you.. Talk with you soon... ichiban PS. It seems somehow there has been a mix up(I am a woman). Maybe in my writing, who knows. Thanks for the compliment just the same. Let me know when you have arrived safely.....
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GT4100 says:Posted: 20 May 09
For black women who are interested in dating interracially, there are some blogs where you can get support and advice. I don’t agree with everything that is on these blogs, but they are generally a good resource. One of the blogs is called Interracial Love and Spice by Sara and it is specifically geared towards black women and non-black men’s relationships. On the right hand side, in the middle of the blog page, you will find links to other blogs that support black women who want to date interracially. Also, online dating is a really good way to meet guys of other races (I’ve heard BW say you should stay away from eHarmony, but that they had success with Singlesnet dot com, PlentyOfFish dot com and Match dot com). I’m glad more black women are dating interracially. It makes me very sad that so many lovely black women like my sister are alone and have been waiting for their black prince for decades. I’m a black woman in my 30s who has been happily married to a black man for several years, so I definitely believe there are some good black guys out there. However, black women need to expand their dating pool to include men of other races because there is a shortage of available black men for various reasons (chiefly, 1 million black men in prison and an increasing number of black men dating out of the race).
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SanAntonioBeauty says:Posted: 20 May 09
Shana, I mean what I'm about to say in the most loving way. There are many benefits of youth, but the constant preservation over something you can not change, is not one of them. It's my never to be humble opinion that you and your beloved wait to marry until you can free yourself of others opinions(all of them); feel free enough in your relationship to be completely honest about what will potentially destroy it; when you will not let him suffer, when you know there's not reason why he should suffer; when you will do anything to take his pain away; when you are able to think only of him and not yourself; when you can see the two of you as one against the world; and when you stop giving power to others.
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Austrian says:Posted: 19 May 09
Dearest IchIban, ' This is me reporting from the nursing home!!! ' Thank you for your kindness. You do not have to apologize for someone else, as each individual must be responsible for themselves. I even expected worse, after having looked into other blogs with an incredible amount of similar trashy comments, all from the same source. Meanwhile, I am in Munich, Germany, helping my lovely daughter, who was born with a 'permanent suntan', to relocate to Dallas, Texas. Sounds like a culture shock? I am convinced, that you have changed some prejudice people's minds in the past, by having shown excellent manners. There are certain rules, which apply anywhere you go in this world. By being sensitive to others, you prove to be a REALLY STRONG MAN. You will receive love and respect in return. I hope we'll stay in touch and find out more about each other, as it is always refreshing to meet a clean and growing spirit. Have a good spring week!
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Member says:Posted: 18 May 09
Looking for short term or long term relationship to the opposite sex you must be trust yourself and ask anything about her/him. Make sure you love him/her when it comes to relationship. You may stick to one person and understand her or him vice versa. Show your feelings, give your time so that your relationship will last. When it comes to relationship, age doesn’t matter but if its up to you if you fight your love/feelings to her or him.The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree, but still hold hands. We attract love by the emotions we display; we retain love by the emotions we possess.
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tatted2death says:Posted: 16 May 09
Yes...."cosmic siblings" (brothers and sisters in spirit) UNITE!!!! People are people.....simplicity is BEAUTIFUL...that is the only TRUTH there is. I have watched this madness from afar because initially I tried to treat the "beast" with respect and humanity but that got me absolutely nowhere. In fact, I believe that is what made him deem me as "unintelligent" I addressed his topic/"issues" (he will, of course conveniently forget this..yet, there IS a record in another blog topic....funny) AND tried to get to the root of them and all of a sudden he just started resorting to nothing more than name-calling. .......so I warn you, Smooches (although I believe you are smart enough to know this already)....don't be drawn in by the flattery this character throws your way.....it's only a tactic to make you think he is balanced.... AND FOR THE RECORD......all my comments to him have been out of the sincere hope that sorts out his "issues" and finds some other topic to which he can dedicate his time. I have NO HATE for him but I can NOT wish him well on his obvious mission of spreading poison through various forms of media......that goes against my inclusive nature and I simply can't do it..... ...it's funny though because I actually agree with his supposed core reason for being against black women dating white men. I also think it is deplorable to bash someone else in order to justify your dating habits. But I think that way across the board.....And I think many people are guilty of it in some form everyday (i.e. anyone that goes on about how bad an ex treated them to a current love interest, openly comparing past and present lovers). I know it is, in a way, human nature to do such things but anything that involves putting someone down should be avoided. NOW....with that being said...those that are ALREADY DOWN (i.e. The beast and his minions) should be avoided at all cost lest they bring others down with them. You can make your attempt to rationalize with them (who knows, maybe you will be the one to make them see the "light"......doubtful) but it is probably best to just let them wallow in their own.....well, you know. There no campaign to bash him personally here (at least not on my behalf), I just have this thing with narrow-minded folks and a allergy to BS. Peace and Blessings to ALL tatted2death
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anonymous says:Posted: 16 May 09
To WhiteMackDaddy, I think that little Laurie Queens like you. Watch out for him, he's a member of the ON THE DOWN LOW CLUB.......Have you ever notice just how much time that he spends with trying so hard to get you and Vox's attention?... He like's men that's why he wanted you to have his address...... To cuddaking, You're cracking me up over here.. I'm not the Pimp that I used to be, this is too funny!! What's up with that bull when he writes, "picking up my drink"? He is so desperate for attention!! I guess that blow up doll, oops, I mean his fiancee is not fulfilling the needs. I'm going to go out on a limb here...... there is no human fiancee. If it is I'm sure of one of three things, she is on crack, she just got of rehab, or she's on death row at Ft. Leavenworth......... I've been watching and reading for a while, not making any comments but I agree with you when you say he has contaminated this site. This is not what this site was intended for. Just ignore little laurie queenie, he's an idiot and a big loser!!!!!!! Why give him what he desperately want and need. The only reason that he is on this site is because, he doesn't have a life and this is the ONLY attention that he receive's... He probably checks the computer every five minutes that's how desperate he is..... This site is his VIAGRA...This is the only time that he gets an erection. Also evry sentence, every post he contradicts himself. One post he wrote " I haven't posted for a while", but he had, four times in the same day. Maybe he's schizophrenic and he's off of his lithium, maybe he's a scaled down Forrest Gump, maybe he's retarded, well I shouldn't say that because retarded people at least bring something to the table. On top of everything else he is a big liar!!! He said that world citizen called black men beasts... No she did not! The Ugly Beast post was on May 13, two days ago and if you go up the page you will see that not at one time did anyone mention laurie queenie's name. However we all knew who he was talking about. In his ranting and raving on May 14th, it was he who acknowledge and claimed his title, the beast. He said "I like the name beast, I have been called worse". If the shoe fits, wear it... Who in their right mind would acknowledge such when no name was mentioned. He went on to say that "he hunts his food". Duh, that's what wild ugly beast do, they hunt for their food. Are we really going to take him seriously? Here's my favorite, "none of these people ever address my topics"... another duh....noone wants to talk to him, therefore this is probably why they don't address his topics. What topics? This is the first time that I have ever seen in my life this type of reaction from someone who has been told on numerous occassions "you're not wanted, we don't like you, you're ignorant and stupid, and he keeps coming back, day in and day out. Most people would try and keep some dignity about themselves by getting the message. Not queenie. He is either too stupid, illiterate or DESPERATE. HE HAS NOTHING ELSE IN LIFE!!!! LOSER, LOSER, LOSER!!!!! He also said "very few people on this board he finds intellectually". Since this is the case...then...go....away.... I'm ending this for now, I know queenie is waiting anxiously for another post so he can get his friday night groove on after working all day cooking them fries. Hold on to your hat everyone, here comes laurie queenie, ready to explode.. Sit back and get ready to laugh... He is the poster child for birth control!!!! I hope noone ever dips into that gene pool.........
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Member says:Posted: 16 May 09
Dear Cuddaking I initially respected what you said until you threw out racial statements. Making references to my job. I don't need to lie about working two jobs. If makes you feel better that I am a security guard. That is fine with me. I can't remember a security guard having access to a computer. Then you tried to be funny with "pimp" statements. I was never a pimp. I hate to remind you but their are black men that go to college and have a mind of their own. I guess it bothers you when a black man has a difference of opinion than yours. Mr Laurelton Queens is simply a name I made up three years ago. It is the place that I was raised in Jamaica, Queens NY. It is a unique name. Let me address some of your emotional statements. You mention I do not have an engagement. I would need to lie about that to gain what exactly? Yea she thinks I am on the computer to much. I will admit that. LOL that god statement was incoherent. Sorry to laugh. You made a reference of being mixed and that is your reason for not liking white women. HMM Seems pretty solid to me. Some people have valid reasons for dating outside their race like "the evil black men did me wrong". Preferably used by sellout black women. Oh yea, I said I was picking up a drink ( Ginger ale). You might have thought alcohol. It was just soda. Yea the welfare check that black men wait for in their basement. I wonder if the black women you date have brothers in their basement waiting for their welfare checks. I guess it is easier to lash out at a person like me. Than to truly confront your racist ideas of black people. I don't hide man. Google me. You don't have to be Columbo to know who I am. By the way, more white people are on welfare than black people. You mention we got a black president and slavery is over. Yea Lincoln freed the slaves and slavery was over than too right. Oh wait it wasn't. Obama has made this country more divided. Read the EEOC reports, people are filing discrimination complaints because they are laying minorities off the job, while they keep your pasty ass. So don't give me that bullshit about living in Harmony. You wouldn't say that shit about black men if you were in your black girlfriend's house filled with black males. You and I know you are a pussy. That's a fact. The black titty , white titty. What are you rambling about. Are you going to talk about "food stamps" black people get too. Don't go out in public and say stupid shit. It will get you killed. Just smile and nod your head when you are with a black girl! Good day to you
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thecuddaking says:Posted: 16 May 09
Oh and by the way, the reason i like black women is because black women have always came to me initially. and im talking 14 years ago is when my first encounter happend. and she used me for sex so what is your excuse now? keep in mind 14 years ago, when im sure more of your fellow black men were even more pissed if this interracial encounters were happening. I bet even more upset that they initialized the encounter with me themself. wow, must be shitty sitting there in the new england way of life and not knowing what the fuck is going on in the rest of the world and its hitting you all at once that one day u may be sad and lonely cause you fucked up and couldnt keep an even balance in a relationship. instead you were out buying Nike sneakers and jordans to impress the girls and so you had fast running shoes to book it when you got one pregnant and didnt have a job to support it. and the only reason you could afford the jordans was from your little street hustle. Dont lie about it either. I know new york and new york is not a place where there is 100% pure working class. its more like 75% hustle their way around to take from those who earn. Dont tell me its not true cause it is. I know for a fact!
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thecuddaking says:Posted: 16 May 09
Mr. Queens (is that a noun for a name or an adjective of what happend to your sexuality?)Maybe it should be Mr. Diva "The Blog Master formerly known as Mr. Laurelton" and seer of all things known to man, a Genius to the world, Mr./Mrs. Smarty pants, Ball baby titty mouse because not all black women dig me anymore. You should forget blogs and write a book called "Im not the P.I.M.P i use to be"!!! Or "Playa turned Platonic" First off I dont even think he's smart enough to follow his own statements. he says he's picking up his drink now he says he dont drink. Ive been standing back watching and listening for some time now. And without getting too involved with the fact that he's a plain idiot as everyone has seen by every statement he has made and also the fact that he beats around the bush and goes around every idea, fact and statement just to bash people is enough to tell me that he has no life whatsoever. He probably sits at his computer with the leftover funds, after paying his internet bill in his mothers basement and counts how much he can spend on chips and soda, with his little welfare check, just so he can stay up late and figure out the best comeback without and identity to show his anger for the loss of his black girlfriend to a white man. Nevertheless, it really pisses me off that every statement we shall make he thinks he has some sort of legitimate right to say shit at all when he dont belong on this post whatsoever or this site for that matter for his lack of interest in interracial communication. I call it communication at this point because he has literally taken all of our time away from the cause of getting to know each other here, to find that one we are looking for, and we have not been able to seriously find one another because we are arguing with this pussy-dick. He needs his ass kicked by a member of every race to get him to shut the fu_ _ up! But technically that is what he wants us to do is keep commenting back against him because he lacks attention in his own life. He says he can multitask in a digital age with two jobs. Bullshit, then obviously you dont really have the engagement you say you do because i doubt that you have the time to post as many comments throughout the day that you do unless your a security guard and can sit on your ass all day which im sure your proud to be if you are, and still have the time to show your fiance some attention. You say your a christian, well aside from every member of race taking a shot at whipping your dipshit ass then GOD, im sure will take his turn on you next for judging everyone and calling people different names that you have no clue on. And that is why im here defending the facts while you judge them. How old are you anyway? Last but certainly not least...If this "Thing" we call Mr. Queens, since we know nothing of his identity, is soo sore on the fact of "His" women seeking better then why isnt he upset at the beginning factor of all interracial conduct? Truly the majority of minority is no longer a minority because i hardly know of the existence of many TRUE Africans left here in the United States. As I walk around I see very little evidence of anyone that is truly dark skinned true African. Which leads me to understand that somewhere along the lines there was a mixture of race going on somewhere. Now that means we are all technically communicating with our own race at this point or at least a portion of it. Im not sore that anyone in my family mixed together cause im a mixture of several different entities. I dont have any, what society calls black in me, but i do have indian some italian and austrian. and i believe that indians are fairly dark skinned in the pure form as well as a lot of italians. which is probably the reason why im not attracted to pure white which i believe is perfectly alright in my book. But why is this dude not sore at the creation of the first offset, instead hes sore at the continuation of the same thing. it may not look like it to him cause if he sees someone thats not white he assumes that they belong to him which is pretty arrogant this day and age. DUDE unless you have not seen who the president is Slavery is OVER. And by the way the president isnt purebred either. Hes a mixture just like most of us here. Probably 99% of us leaving you the blackest of them all to be the biggest baby of them all. Go suck on a white titty. It might do you some good since i doubt you were breastfed as a child. Oh, and by the way, white titty equals white milk. Black titty equals white milk not chocolate milk. Go figure. What are the odds! Im done for now dickweed
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Member says:Posted: 16 May 09
Dear Mack My address is Williamsport PA Third street. As for your threats. Now your an internet thug with the name Mack Daddy. This is the internet if I caught up to you in person it would not be something nice. You speak of ideology. You have your "own ideology" that most white guys don't even agree with. I don't see you stick your chest out at OTHER white men that don't even find black women attractive. Black men are not even the number vocal critics against you with black women. Your own white people are against it. Where is the tough talk when that happens. I think you watch to much BET. Got a hip hop screen name and you feel "tough". Dating outside your race is a lack of loyalty. That makes you a sellout. People say I am racist because I disagree with interracial dating. They can be entitled to their opinion. My personal opinion is black men could never be racist. If people want to debate that is fine with me. No black woman ever left me for a white man. I was with a black woman that was with a white man. She ain't bother telling him that I was fucking her. If you want to get real about it. I was 23 years old when that happen. I got the girl number from the mall( Long Island Roosevelt) and she told me she had a white boyfriend "after the fact". I did go along with it, and I regret it. Poor white boy didn't deserve his woman getting fucked. I am 30 years old, I am not going to get into how many girls you been with compared to me. You look like a pussy that couldn't even get you a fat girl. I could give you my girl address she would laugh at you. You pay for black women to be with you. Your are going to say "na not me", mutherfucker please. I really didn't even want to hurt your feelings. You mention segregation. Apparently, you must be white trash or something. I had lived in New York my whole life. Everybody sticks to their own "subgroup". I went to many college parties. The Alphas ( Black faternity) threw a party. Mostly black women and black men show up. So what are you talking about segregation is back in the 60s. I guess Asians are stuck in the 60s too. They stick to their own subgroup too. Anybody that been to college use to see Asians sticking to themselves. Everybody stick to their racial group. A couple of token people "try" to fit in. What is wrong with segregation anyway? Somebody told you it was wrong. Think for yourself and still having society dictate the way you should think. I can work on the job with you. That does not mean I have to socialize with you. I don't even accept your lifestyle because you think " I should". I am not stopping you from a getting a black woman. I am on the computer. I mean what's your excuse now? Take that stupid hat off your head and maybe a black girl might give you some pussy. I am trying to be nice to you. Have a nice day By the way , stop apologizing on behalf of black men. You chicken george negro. The old woman call black men beasts and all this other shit. The old lady is entitled to her opinion. She was involved with a black man and now she angry. To be honest with you, I don't know if she white , Hispanic or what. She might be Hispanic because she got a temper. My uncle would like her. LOL Stop apologizing like you are Barak Obama. Maybe Vox will put on Mack Daddy's Hat and they could be twins!
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ichiban says:Posted: 16 May 09
To World Citizen, I hope that by the time this reaches you it will find you in the best of health and spirts. It's a blessing and a great pleasure in getting to know you and to learn from your wisdom. I also would like to take the time to apologize for the blatant, and undeserving disrespect that has been bestowed upon you. This should not be, under any circumstances, and I'm truly sorry that you had to endure such ignorance. I don't know your exact age, and to be honest, I don't need to know your age. When I was brought up one of the teachings in my household, my neighborhood, my community was to always, always "be respectful and honorable to your elders". This sentiment was not restricted to the walls of my home, it was to be applied in the entire community, and with strangers as well. My maternal grandmother lived to be 105 yrs old, my mother is now 85 yrs old and the thought of either of these women being verbally attacked and disrespected, sickens me to the core of my soul!! I just hope and pray that you will not judge all black men unjustly, not all black men are ignorant, and disrespectful. I can honestly say, that it has been in my life experience that no matter the shortcomings, in spite of the negative you may see from the media about black men, traditionally they have always, admired, revered, respected and has the utmost appreciation toward older women. This behavior that you have been subjected to is extremely rare and unheard of..... I am so sorry for this.. I wish that I had an answer as to why, but the truth is, I don't. I will say this, the ALMIGHTY IS NOT PLEASED AT ALL!!! Please know that not all black men were raised in this manner. It's very hard not to judge an entire group when you have such poor representation from a very few, or in this case , just one. This behavior is a constant reminder as to why we as a people are constantly fighting "stereotypes" that still exist, and unfortunately some make it so easy to keep the stereotypes alive and well. Ignorance comes in all colors! On behalf of all the decent men and women on this site, be it black, white , asian, hispanic, and in this country, we do apologize for this behavior toward you and I am asking for your forgiveness. I'm wishing the very best for you and your loved ones and I'm hoping that this will not divide us, but it will bring us closer together! Until the next time.... Love and Happiness
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Jo says:Posted: 15 May 09
MackWhiteDaddy28, Don't pay attention to that illiterate backwards angry black man. He's such a fake! Don't waste your time! LOL Trust me You don't want his girl. Let's not get into her and her past. They deserve each other. He contradicts himself all the time. like the whole thing with Black Women give Black Men a reason to date outside of the race but the same can't apply to the women. He's sad, he talks about how his Dad disrespects his mother, I see where he gets it from. They both clearly have no respect for women and look to dictate them and there lives. I think he is mad because no one really pays attention to him. So he goes and comes onto blogs like this to get the attention he wants. People should all just IGNORE him. He's an idiot. That crappy BA he has doesn't mean anything. All the degrees in the world can't teach an ignorant bastard like him. LOL By the way Mr. Laurelton Queens, you should just change your blog to the Mike Blog! LOL Everyone goes on there and comments about how " he's such a sweetheart". I bet your jealous? A white guy with a BLACK wife has stole the little spotlight you get. His fan base is probably bigger than yours and he has been there for 3 months tops? You've blogging for how long? Shout Out to Mike btw! He really seems like a nice guy! I wish him and his wife the best of luck! She really is a lucky girl!
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MackWhiteDaddy28 says:Posted: 15 May 09You really need to be set straight by someone who does not have there balls removed. Then you can go write about what a lil cry baby bitch you are…piss & moan & try to defend your pathetic ideologies, all why your women jams a dildo up your ass. Personally, I could give 2 shits & a fuck less about your bitch ass, & your ranting means nothing in the grand scheme of things. Perhaps just maybe you should read the title of Blogs before you go posting…jackass. 1. Just because somebody dates outside their race does not make them a “sellout.” 2. Dating outside your race does not imply a lack of loyalty. 3. You say, “I simply speak the truth” yet your posts are full of manipulation & deceit… I wonder why your women would leave your ass 4 a white man? 4. You say, “I can count on one hand how many white men ever came to the black community to date a black woman.” You must be a freak of nature with many fingers my friend. Since your such a genius, maybe you could further elaborate on your precise documentation of just how many white men have gone to “communities outside of there own”…Dued, you sound like your stuck in the 60’s. Segregation now…segregation 4eva. I should beat your ass and take your women….show your ass what a puss you are…what a real man does 4 a women irregardless of superficial appearances based on skin pigmentation. 5. You try to come off as an intellectual, but I can see right through your first grade theatrics. 6. Give me your address, your women needs a real man. Love,
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Cameron says:Posted: 15 May 09
First of all, to everyone on this board, do not address Mr. Queens. He is against the very purpose of this board, which is to welcome people no matter who they love. He is an indignant, racist black man and we are only dignifying him when we respond to his ignorance. He belittles everyone on this board and perverts the truth. The user Vox has dated several black women, that's a fact. Mr. Queen has distorted the truth to make it sound like Vox is a womanizer who is incapable of holding a relationship, despite the fact that his 4 relationships were over a long period of time. Mr. Queens is a racist, pompous, bitter, asshole, who is most likely incapable of dating a black woman (they wouldn't put up with any of his bullshit), so instead he demeans them as well as the white me who date them. Mr. Queens, I don't expect you to take my posting seriously, you self-loathing narcissist. I don't expect you to believe that I am a white male who is seriously in love with my black girlfriend and who loves her for who she is, not for her color. But, I will tell you one thing. Your racism is not welcome on this board and I hope everyone that reads this posting has the common sense not to respond to your ignorance.
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Jo says:Posted: 15 May 09
Liar, You said on your blog like two days ago that you were LOOKING for a second job. You managed to find a second job in 2 days? Your right everyone has the right to comment on here but you HATE Interracial Dating yet you come on here to pick fights and tell people their sellouts? Your sad, you must really not have a life! It would be like a KKK Member going on a Website Made for African Americans talking about how "those niggers" are nothing and are worthless. Would that make sense? If I'm correct a LONG time ago some white racist came on there saying "niggers belong with niggers" the commet wasn't on there for long you removed within like hours my point is you deleted there comment because they were dissing yet agreeing with you. The man was wrong for coming on there but he agreed with you and your views, he just had his reason. Why delete his comment than? He like you are praticing freedom of speech? Your so double sided that it's sad! You come on here downing people for dating who they want but you claim you have a wife and all of this yet you find time to down other people? If your happy and in a relationship ,what does my relationship and prevence have to do with you?
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Member says:Posted: 15 May 09
Hold on let me address you World Citizen I don't know what your underlying issue is with black men. I work two jobs actually. I know it hard for you to believe that you can multitask in the digital age. I don't drink or smoke. It is hard to believe but I am a Christian too. Now I am not black because I write well. I assure you the sellout black girls know my identity. I am actually "very black" in all sense of the word lol. I am free to practice democracy on this board. The right to free speech was to protect speech that sometimes the "majority" did not like. Personally, I think your an old woman just grasping at straws to know what I am about. I respect elderly women. It just seems older people want to atone more than young people do. So they say things like " we are the human race". Listen we are all the human race when you don't assume black men like me don't have a job. That I verbally abuse women and other slandering comments that you are doing. Vox can't keep a serious relationship with a black woman. I don't hear any of your condemnations. So put your "brandy" down and practice fairness. You are just as worse as the racists. I can't tell if you are a white woman or not. You could be Hispanic. Clearly, you have had problems with black men in the past. In particular, educated black men. You need help not me. If my comments bother you so much you can go to the recreation room in the nursing home and watch television. Good day Ma'am
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Austrian says:Posted: 15 May 09
Mr. Intellectual, careful with drinks, they may blur the intellect. Putting down VOX is your new obsession. Putting down the BLACK MALE, by constantly proving what racists have been claiming all along: - BLACK men drinking, not working (who can hold a job when spending most of the hours writing here) and sexually as well as psychologically abusing WOMEN OF ALL SHADES, is UNFORGIVABLE!!! Perhaps you - the racist - are not even a BLACK MALE - who would sh.. into their own nest? Where is your identification - was the image too shocking to be posted, the IMAGE OF A BEAST? You do not belong onto the interracial dating blogs, as stated by many commentators, here democracy is misused. YOU NEED HELP - in every respect. Once you realize your problem, you stand a chance to get accepted by the human race!
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Shana says:Posted: 15 May 09
Hi everyone...im black(Jamaican) and my fiance is white(blonde hair blue eyes(British) and we have been together for a little more than 2 years now.......I met him when i was in college and at first i didn't really like him because I had always dated black men. We had class together and didn't really talk unless we were doing assignments or something. To tell the truth at the time I didn't really like white people and had mixed feelings towards them because of manyyy personal experiences in where i have been called a Ni**er and been discriminated by just because i was black. During these times i felt so hurt and i would cry because i knew there was nothing i could really do about it. So when i met my fiance, I looked at him the same(a racist) I am an attractive woman and i have never had a problem getting a man. As a matter of fact i always got the man I wanted and at this time i had no interest in him. I noticed that he was always trying to start a conversation and I would always just end it short. But he never gave up or left me alone. One day I was sitting down and he came and sat beside me. What have i done to you?, was all he asked. The only thing that came in my mind was all the other negative things that OTHER white people had done to me. I couldn't help but to feel bad for holding him accountable when he hadn't done anything but be nice and respectful.All i said was "You havent done anything". It took me awhile to trust him but slowly we began to talk and i liked him more and more.He introduced me to his family and they liked me too.We began dating and i realized he was a wonderful man. He's loving caring, kind smart outgoing intelligent and he is a good listener. He proposed to me on Valentines day after 2 years. We were at a restaurant and everyone kept coming up to me and giving me roses and finally he gave me the last rose and asked me to be his wife.It was amazing. Now not everything that glitters is gold.My relationship is not as good as it seems. I was on out with my fiance and we were holding hands when this black man came out of nowhere and started to yell at me calling me a traitor and a sell out and that eventually im gonna pay for what i did. He began yelling and cursing at my fiance too and it was so embarrassing. I don't remember ever disliking black men. But this is not unusual. I get disgusting stares all the time from mostly white women and alot of black men. Women who don't think i deserve a good white man. This black man even had the audacity to stare at me in disgust and roll his eyes when he had a white woman on his arm. Men that try to talk to me always call me a sellout and always ask me why.This has caused alot of problems in my relationship because i constantly feel as though i am doing something wrong. I ask myself all the time why am i scared of being seen with him when he loves to show me off. He introduces me to everybody he knows and takes me out all the time. I have not introduced him to some of my male friends because they think i turned my back on black men. He tries to hold my hand in public and i always find some way to get out of it. I hold back alot from my fiance and we argue all the time. When he speaks to me i could see the hurt in his eyes because he feel as though the problem is him. But the problem is me. I have been so caught up in what people think of my relationship that it has really gotten to me. I cried when he offered to see a counselor because he's says he's probably not doing something right and he wants to make things better.I feel as though i am emotionally cheating this man of the best.I really do love him I love him with all my heart i think about him all the time. He is a very handsome man lol amazing body with symbolic tatts and his eyes are so enticing but every time i look at him all I see is an obstacle that is so hard to get over. I am scared to tell him how i feel but the constant stares and sellout comments is about to make me just walk away. -Signed Nae P.S I love you Shawn
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Member says:Posted: 14 May 09
Let me address the above comments. (picking up my drink). The way I write seems to come off like I am angry. I have always had positive relationships with black women. I just dislike sellout black women that bash black men to date inter racially. They go out of their way to bash black men. They don't like it when they get a taste of their own medicine. They say I hate people. Yet, they want my fiancee to leave me. That shows you how lonely and bitter some black women are. They must exercise control over everything. Often you will see sellout black women with a white man with his "shoulders slumped" looking beaten down by her demanding ways. Some of these white guys are amusing. Their black wife will give them hell and they just sit there and "take it". Basically "when sellout black women get mad they take their toys and go home". Yet, I am the childish one. This guy Vox the "womanizer". My friend Charles from London said " yo that is a high turnover rate" you have for dating black women. He didn't respond to him. I say something and he "responds to it". He was just waiting to rail on me about my blog. I am fine with that. He still has not addressed if he dumped this black woman or "strung them along". I don't shy away from confrontation. I am kind of surprised so many black women defend him. Considering the guy has commitments problems with black women. I can admire that about black women. The media thinks black women are mean. They always say " I am a strong black woman". That's all bullshit. I can tell you for a fact it is. I actually think some of them are "soft", "insecure". I don't know how to say it without being offensive. They just let white men "use them". They won't speak up about because they fear burning bridges. I can't respect that. Someone mentioned their parents. This bothers me and please forgive me for the curse words. I have never met a parent without "racial issues". My own mother said don't bring a white woman home. These white guys insist their parents welcomed their "ashy black girlfriends" with open arms. You need to stop it. If you told people the truth, I would have more respect for you. Instead they just speak for their "family" and more than likely, never discussed race with them. Since your parents are all for black women in their household. Why they never had a black person at their white church? Why they never had a black person over for dinner? There is a segment of white men that have never had a black person in their household. Let me address Gene. See you got me confused. Let me clarify what I am about. When I tell my wife I don't eat leftovers. She don't make me leftovers you understand. That maybe acceptable to you because your black wife or girlfriend make you sit down when you pee. I don't go for that. I am a 'man's man", I hunt my food and bring it home. Unfortunately, men are penalized for being masculine. It is really sad you should read an article on society emasculating young boys. My nephew I tell him " you go all out" when you play sports. If they say you play "to rough". Tell them I only understand how to play this way. I use to play high school football until I got injured. My competitive nature comes out in academics and my blog. I don't know how to tone nothing done when it comes to a topic. I don't hide what I am about. Black women don't even want a "soft man". If that was the case, more of them would date outside of their race. Read the statistics for yourself. (My special siblings, geneandthem, godiva61, Vox, hiddengem, tatted2death, world citizen(group hug) Who calls people their siblings? None of these people ever address my topics. I wouldn't expect much from them intellectually. Very few people on the board that I find intellectually stimulating. I like the name "Beast" LOL. I have been called worse to be honest with you. Smooches your alright with me. I like a curious woman. I run into many black women like you. I can have a respectful dialogue with you. For the record, I never had a relationship with a white woman. I actually get more white women admirers than black women. Black women either hate me or like me. Some think I am a beast lol. Some think I am too "dark skin'. I can't put my finger on why some white women like aggressive black men. No I have never been with a white woman in a sexual manner. Somebody said I have a couple followers on my blog. My blog is close to two years old. I think I am doing well considering it is not a "mainstream" blog. My followers don't reflect my overall readership. Good day to everyone. By the way Vox look at this comment about you.. "VOX keep looking for that perfect one (that Tyra Banks as someone said)!" This guy is a loser. When people have to tell you Vox stop using black women for sex. YOU ARE A WOMANIZER! Have a nice day.
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ichiban says:Posted: 14 May 09
To all my brothers and sisters hugs to all... (My special siblings, geneandthem, godiva61, Vox, hiddengem, tatted2death, world citizen(group hug) I appreciate your responses to my post "The Beast". We all should applaud ourselves on taking the first step to rid ourselves of the "Beast".... Unfortunately, the reality is that we will never totally be rid of them, but for the good of all people, please just don't feed the damn monster.... Beast are like stray dogs who have no home and noone to love them, they keep sniffing around, scrounging up whatever that they can. When you constantly feed them, they hang around and they won't go away until you stop feeding them....... Don't feed the beast, Don't feed the beast!!! World citizen, we love you, you are so wise and beautiful... I agree the ugliest beast always bark the loudest!! There's a post on this site(Black Women have no Option, it was posted on May 11, 2009, please read it when you get a chance. It's very interestiing and it reminded me of the very reasons why we shouldn't feed the beast!!!!!!! This is a interracial dating site, so for those who has not mastered the art of Reading Comprehension, this means, that people who use this site are interested in dating outside the box, so they are interested in people of another race. Key word(s), interracial, another race. If you are not interested in dating interracially, then please, why are you here? When a person claims to be so happy, satisfied and fulfilled in their own personal life, why is that not enough? You are about to be married, you are so happy, then why would you care who others are dating? Why are you on a dating site at all? So is it safe to assume that there is no significant other, or the significant other happens to be a blow up doll?(This was world citzen thoughts as well) Scenario.. I love sports but I hate golf... Would I subscribe to golfing magazines, would I watch golf on t.v.? Since I'm not into golf, why would I do such things? I wouldn't, because I am not interested in golf, but here's the thing, it's okay if others like golf. I do not indulge in any golfing activities because I'm not interested at all. Again, why would you be on an interracial dating site if you are not interested in dating interracialy? You can't fix stupid... Have you ever noticed when a little kid is trying so hard to get your attention, sometimes that kid will indulge in their worst behavior until you pay him/her attention. Negative attention is better than no attention at all from a child's point of view, unfortunately some adults, or should I say, some who are of legal age, are just like little kids, they will do any and everything to get your attention and just like little kids, some attention is better than none at all. I guess the blow up doll can only go so far... I refuse to indulge in a dialogue with anyone who has neither the mental capabilities or the human qualities to articulate their feelings in a productive, decent, and respectful manner. That's not how I live. I will not lower my standards!!! In closing, I was just looking at this page and I'm focusing on all the posts here. By, the way, we missed you Ashley. Listen to this. May 13, 2009 someone commented a total of five times, in one day. Keep in mind, it was FIVE times. However on their fifth post this is what was said " I haven't posted in a WHILE", end of quote, fourth line of the fifth quote. Okay, when you go further up the page, this person either lied, or is delusional, because they have four other post on the exact same day. Are you kidding me? You make comments five different times in one day but at the same time, on the exact same day you state that you haven't posted in a while. I always thought "in a while" meant a few days, or weeks even and not a matter of minutes or hours.. This is another interesting fact, a person doesn't respect other's right to voice their opinions, when they hear something that they disagree with, they resort to name calling. Is that not the behavior of a 5yr old? What's with the provoking someone through the computer? Is that not juvenile? Actually I saw this behavior the other day when I picked up my nephew from school, my nephew is 8yrs old...... Don't feed the Beast!!! I choose Love over Hate.... The Wise Build up, the Weak Tears Down........ Ths Strong stands upon the Rock, The Weak dwells Beneath the Rock. The Mighty Embraces the World, The Lowly Disgraces the World... When we don't stand up for something, we will lay down for anything! Let's stand up and stand together, enough with the ignorance. There is Power in Unity!!!! Love to all
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Member says:Posted: 14 May 09
WOW Queens! I guess you told us huh? (LMAO) First, who ever hurt you; I apologize for her, or whom ever that white guy was that got that promotion over you; I also apologize for him! Dude you are spreading so much hate that it’s sickening. You need to understand that not all of us grew up in urban ghettos. Even for those who did it doesn’t define who we become. Why are you so angry that some black women date or marry outside their race? You act like it’s your business?? You made some references to some men commenting on a black woman’s appearance I’m ok with that. You know why….. because people are entitled to chose what they like! I have a 10 year old son whose dad has Haitian roots. Before his father and I got together he was seeing a white woman. I wasn’t mad at that fact; I was dating a guy that was half white and half black. Yet, we and connected and stayed together for 6 and ½ years; what I’m saying is: chemistry between two people just happens. This happens no matter the race, cultural differences, or the opinions of the public. I am married to a WHITE MAN!!! If this happens to offend anyone, then you know what….. SO. I think secretly you may be attracted to white women and this is your way of trying to suppress that longing. (LOL) When I was growing up my parents exposed me to different cultures of people through their friends and yeah some of them were interracially dating or married. I have much respect for my parents for allowing me to see this; it let me know that we are all just people. It’s not about hating who you are or where you come from. I think that’s a very ill informed statement from you. Why? Well, because you have NO IDEA where we come from or who we are. One thing that you can know for sure is that your way of thinking is what fuels racial tensions. I’m not saying that you don’t have a right to your thoughts, but you should really keep them to yourself. You are only making yourself look bad shame on you! (LOL) Oh yeah I have name for your blog site: Irrational Militant Blackman Cause. :-D SHOUT OUTS: Ashley you’re the man! Good to see another post from you! VOX keep looking for that perfect one (that Tyra Banks as someone said)! TO ALL MY BEAUTIFUL SISTAS: MUCH LOVE AND SMOOCHES TO ALL
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Austrian says:Posted: 14 May 09
STARVING THE UGLY BEAST(S) is what we world citizens should do. WE ARE UNITED, despite our many back grounds and different upbringing, seeing various skin shades, just as well as color of eyes and hair, as one of the beauties, nature has to offer. Many fascinating humans were created thru interracial connections. Our best example is president BARACK HUSSEIN OBAMA. As you are well aware, there are more of us, who believe in this natural progress. The ones (beasts, some engaged to rubber dolls) who bark the loudest, are the minority. I embrace all of you positive thinking and responding women and men, as I know, also you had your share of hard ship in the past. Nevertheless, you love and respect yourself and make others comfortable and happy. THANK YOU!!!
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Member says:Posted: 14 May 09
I will stick to the topic. It should be why white men have a fetish for black women. Considering a majority of white men openly admit they have never gone to a black neighborhood to actively search for a black woman to date. From my understanding reading this blog. A white guy always says " I was enlightened one day to date a black woman". Another white man says ' I always wanted a black woman but I was married to a white woman". Now that I am divorced........... (fill in the blank on the reasons). I am not bothered by the "simple" black women like hidden gem. You have to understand something about sellout black women. They stand on "nothing". They have no principles or loyalty. How do white men expect a black woman to be loyal to them and she is not loyal to her own race. I wrote on my blog about a black woman on ABC news saying she lost respect for her "White Husband" because he lost his job. I mean how many times does a white man have to get smacked in the face to understand when shit go bad. That black woman is "out of there". You will be "paying her" child support and alimony while she goes back to a "black man" her natural "mate". (rubbing my chin). That's the misconception about me. That I hate anybody. I simply speak the truth. People get emotional when they respond instead of rational. I can count on one hand how many white men ever came to the black community to date a black woman. Most of them are shunned even the "wigger types". Black women in their ignorance "shuffle their feet" for white men. They talk about " oh I never been with a black man". They say things like " I was raised in the black community but I am not like those other black girls". My personal favorite " I grew up in a white neighborhood so I never met black men". Right but the whole white community you grew up in had "open arms" for your black family. The answer is "oh there were some problems". Yea like RACISM you dumb panda bear! All this self-hate. Then they find a way to attack me because if it really was about 'substance", they would lose the argument. Privately they still ask the same questions about white men. Oh why won't white men approach me. " I know they like me" they won't say it. A man like you but won't say it. You got to be the dumbest whore in America if you make these excuse for white men. They don't want the truth. I am bringing the truth until it hurts. Until I see an increase of white men dating black women. Right now, it has declined. White men will say black women are overweight. The few white men that dared criticized a black woman got thrown off the board. One of them said they don't like R&B and rap. Some nappy headed black woman said she like "country music". You got to be kidding me, you that desperate like Hidden gem. Just go along with anything. Look for my new post "The White man Recession". It is currently up. Vox is a coward, I mentioned him on my blog. These frauds need to be exposed before they manipulate another "simple" black girl. Good day.
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geneandthem says:Posted: 14 May 09
Ichiban that was a great post! This dude throws out his web site like he has some followers? I went to his lil Whack A$$ blog after he threw it out at me the first time! 11 Whole followers? 11? ELEVEN? HAHAHAHAHAHAH!!! Out of then millions and millions of people around the world, you got 11 followers? Stop and think what that means? Stop and think about why that is? Is it because the SHHHH that you believe is total BS and everybody else sees it? You need to rethink your subject matter and try and figure out a new niche! Because you ain't doing no Damage YA DIGGG! Queens, bro you should never, ever, evevevevever throw out or advertise your blog! It sucks! It is not even realistic! It actually takes away your credibility! I know some of your post here are at least debatable! but that SHHH you got on your site is Crap! I thinks because you know it is your you feel more at home, so you just go all out! And really it just shows your true colors! You got serious problems man. Seriously I feel sorry for you! This cat sits up in his blog talking about race and totally shows how is in fact a hater and a racist rather then what he tries to act like in a lot of his post here. Arguing with some girl that has a blog about interracial dating, and how he don't eat leftovers, because his wife knows better then to give him leftovers! She knows to Only Have me Fresh hot meals when i get home! You Sick F@#$! Do yourself a fav and just delete your self from this web site! Go live in your blog! I cant wait till the day that your Wife Kicks yo A$$ to the Fing Curb and you become one of the statistics. Hey Vox Don't worry about this dude, you school him one good time and he just wont even respond to you anymore! Because when he feels like he has been Schooled or proved lesser, he just bounces to another thread and looks the poke at other people that he feels stronger and smarter then! Sad to because you can really see the potential that he has! Sorry to see all that energy wasted on some BS that is never going to change! My girl told me the first time i showed her this dudes Post, "Sad that all that energy is wasted on such a dead end topic! Imagine if he was putting that energy toward other more drastic causes in the black Community, Sad Sad Sad" like I said I feel sorry for you! Ashley,
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e-dub says:Posted: 14 May 09
Does the phrase staying on topic mean anything? The corollary question to blog question is “Why wouldn’t a white man love a black woman?” When rephrased in such manner I can find no reason not to date and marry a black a woman except for elimination only based on race. I’ve been happily married to a Black Woman (she hasn’t buried my sorry rear end in the back yard yet) for sixteen years and can’t imagine being married to anyone else. We have the superficial difference of race but what we have in common is much greater then a superficial difference of skin color. So again, I would say why not? And if two people work together, only an idiot would let that go based on race. Not that there aren’t plenty of those kind of people around but stupidity is its own punishment.
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Member says:Posted: 14 May 09
I read some of the above comments. Some were interesting and the others were people lashing out. White Mack Daddy (nice name by the way). No I don't have a vendetta against anybody that is white. I would be hurt if I ever lost a girlfriend to you. That is just directed at you only though. HMMM Again, you really never answered my questions Vox. Since you became defensive when I asked you about "dropping" black women in relationships. It must be a sore spot for you. As for Hidden Gem, I can't make a black woman feel unwanted. She can only deal with that within. I never hear black women complain when white men pick you last to date. It is always easy to jump on the bandwagon. I haven't posted in awhile. Things haven't changed for black women dating white men in terms of statistics. This whole idea of me "going away" really is not going to resolve the underlying issue. The guy Vox keeps stressing his multiple relationships in 11 years. None of them successful with black women. I assume he dates "other" races of women until he "finds" the Tyra Banks "types". I have been documenting this for years. It is really easy to bash someone like me. It would be real simple if white men truly wanted to marry black women than my comments wouldn't be so deep. Most of critics think I hate black women. If that is the case, I wouldn't be engaged to one. I ask my critics if they are married to a white man most of them say "no". As for being dismissed. How many white men have dismissed you? In general, if black women were doing so well dating white men. Why they need a blog to broadcast it? Why do they need to convince people white men want them? I stand by my statements on Vox. He is a womanizer, and has a vendetta against black men who dare to call him a coward. This is not a race issue. It is a "using" black women issue. Tell your ex lawyer girlfriend how she felt getting used by you? "We are all friends" LOL. You make me laugh Vox. You don't sleep with your "friends". Hidden Gem is "simple", she will believe anything to be with a white man. God bless her.
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godiva61 says:Posted: 14 May 09
Hey Ichiban, Applause, Applause, BIG Applause!!!! I wonder who you are referring to?(laughing really hard). I just hope others on this site get it. It shouldn't be too hard to know just who the beast really is..... You hit the nail on the head but you forgot one thing. I think this beast has an identity crisis as well. Ever noticed how he acts like a liitle girl but professes to be a man, and a educated one at that. Where did he attend college? The Uniiversity of Idiocy" and he gradusted with honors. I can't stop laughing!! Seriously, great post!!! I give you my word " I will not feed the beast"!!
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WhiteMackDaddy28 says:Posted: 13 May 09
Sounds like mr Queen has a vendetta against whitey. Did you loose your women to a white man?
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ichiban says:Posted: 13 May 09
To Vox and hiddengem, to all If you were to encounter a wild ugly beast while walking in a beautiful park on a beautiful clear sunny day, what would you NOT do? Keep in mind that you know right away that this thing is not a part of the norm and by the way that it snarls, you know that this is the father of all beasts!! This is the beast that gave you nightmares when you were a young child! This is the beast that everyone hates and it's the UGLIEST thing that you have ever seen in your life! Would you approach it? Would you feed it? Would you motion for the beast to come to you? Some beast need to stay in their own environment, because if you let it out of it's natural environment, it will surely make the beautiful environment that you are used to become as ugly and as undesireable as itself. Some people are beast!! They are ugly, undesrieable and border on the lines of not being human. I'm sure that they know this without any doubt whatsoever and I'm sure that they have heard it, felt it, over and over again. So now that the years has passed and the mirror has told them no different, they come to this site in order to remind everyone here, that they are not human, just the unloved, unwanted ugly beast. I love you both, but please don't feed the beast. When you don't feed it will eventually go back to it's natural environment!! Pass it on "Don't feed the ugly beast"!!!!
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Member says:Posted: 13 May 09
If your Black Lawyer friend says I am deluded. Tell her how can you be friends with a womanizer? If he was such a good guy then you two would be together. It is just common sense questions. This guy has some nerve attacking me after he openly admits he can't keep serious relationships. (Throwing hands up). They couldn't pull this shit with white women. (Kind of laughing about it). I will even give you the benefit of the doubt saying a black woman dumped you. I really deep down don't think that is the case. Hey London give me a good excuse like " Well we were going in different directions in life". Look for the White man Recession Tonight on my blog. God bless the black women that dislike me but agree with me. Vox stop stringing black women along man. You wrong for what you doing. You still a coward. Address the black women here on WHY YOUR SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS ENDED? Stop trying to use me for sympathy pussy.
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Member says:Posted: 13 May 09
Dear Vox Oh now I am not "bright". This from a person that can't seem to keep a "steady' relationship with a black woman. Then you accuse me of misreading your statements. You look at the "timetable" of your relationships. I look at the fact that you didn't manage to keep a serious relationship together with a black woman. Since you get defensive when I said " I guess those black women ended the relationship". You make some irrelevant comment about being "friends" with ALL of them. I assuming you think "your friends with them". They could hate your guts and you wouldn't even know. My assumption is they dumped you in the relationship. I can't recall being friends with ex's over years. I am just being honest with you. I guess I am not "soft". I am just a different guy than you. I am sure the sellout black girl peanut gallery will defend you. Again, the black women you dated, was it their fault the relationship ended? You should be the last person calling anybody misogynistic. You come off so self righteous that it would lead me to believe you are more of a womanizer than I thought. Your comments about seeing "right through me". That's funny I think we have similar personalities. At least, I can admit my faults and weaknesses. You seem oblivious to it with statements like "clamming up" with white women and all your other "sucking up to black women" you do. I don't hate you or anybody. I don't like the way you come off. You come off kind of fake. If you said look " I was with several black women" this is what I do. I would respect that. Many black women on here dislike me personally. One thing with me, I tell you the truth. I am not going to sit here and tell you a story about how I had serious relationship and then turn around and say I am single. Just say look I was a womanizer and now I am ready to settle down. I wouldn't have a problem with you. Instead, you come out and start swinging. You London guys are hot heads. Let's not talk about racism. I am racist because I think your a fraud. I am racist because I point out you "use" black women. Life would be so much easier for you if black men wasn't around wouldn't it be? My blog is for uplifting black women. I am sure you can appreciate that. Good day sir.
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Vox says:Posted: 13 May 09
I showed this my ex (black lawyer) girlfriend and she thinks you are quite sad and deluded.
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Vox says:Posted: 13 May 09
I showed this my ex (black lawyer) girlfriend and thinks you are quite sad and deluded.
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Vox says:Posted: 13 May 09
You're not very bright as you can't seem to read or differentiate the difference between past and present tense. I didn't say "i was in mutiple relationships" or "have sex with mutiple black women", I said "the last 4 relationships" (over 11 years). Talk about twisting words to suit your own warped sense of inadequacy! Read it again! And no, I don't blame "THOSE" women (notice I didn't put black in front like you did?), and I'm still friends with each and every one of them. Why do you deliberately assume, misread, insult, insinuate everyone is as twisted as yourself? Go and put the chip back in your shoulder before loosening your little red bow tie. I see right through you too. A misogynistic and quite racist person who feels he has to prove 'he's the man'. You are not a gentleman as a gentleman wouldn't talk about any lady the way you have been in the discussions. I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
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Vox says:Posted: 13 May 09
You're not very bright as you can't seem to read or differentiate the difference between past and present tense. I didn't say "i was in mutiple relationships" oe "have sex with mutiple black women", I said "the last 4 relationships" (over 11 years). Talk about twisting words to suit your own warped sense of inadequacy! Read it again! And no, I don't blame "THOSE" women (notice I didn't put black in front like you did?), and I'm still friends with each and every one of them. Why do you deliberately assume, misread, insult, insinuate everyone is as twisted as yourself? Go and put the chip back in your shoulder before loosening your little red bow tie. I see right through you too. A misogynistic and quite racist person who feels he has to prove 'he's the man'. You are not a gentleman as a gentleman wouldn't talk about any lady the way you have been in the discussions. I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
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Vox says:Posted: 13 May 09
You're not very bright as you can't seem to read or differentiate the difference between past and present tense. I didn't say "i was in mutiple relationships" oe "have sex with mutiple black women", I said "the last 4 relationships" (over 11 years). Talk about twisting words to suit your own warped sense of inadequacy! Read it again! And no, I don't blame "THOSE" women (notice I didn't put black in front like you did?), and I'm still friends with each and every one of them. Why do you deliberately assume, misread, insult, insinuate everyone is as twisted as yourself? Go and put the chip back in your shoulder before loosening your little red bow tie.
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bardoville says:Posted: 13 May 09
Wow! A lot of posts on this subject! :-) I'm a British born black woman; I've been attracted to white men all my life. I cannot say why. If there's a bunch of men in the room - black, white and asian - my eyes will just naturally pick up on the white guys. It's like I don't even register the other races. White men arouse me. Especially white men who are very Alpha. I just can't resist them... Shoot me.
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Member says:Posted: 13 May 09
(Smiling at Vox) Leaning back the white boy is really upset. You said you were in "multiple relationships" with black women. For the record I am with one black woman "engaged". The ones that like to bark the loudest "got the most to hide". You came on a public blog explaining how you have sex with multiple black women. Now your talking about I don't have to "explain anything to you". You fake poor man's version of "Robin Thicke". I don't respect someone that fabricates his womanizing ways with black women. That's right keep it moving coward. Black women are not "fuck toys". 4 relationships that did not work out. I GATHER you blame THOSE BLACK WOMEN for your relationships ending. You self righteous prick! They have to be desperate to put up with your womanizing ways. I see right through you. You better off not addressing me. Go manipulate a low self esteem black woman on this board. (Loosening up my tie). Your lucky I am a gentleman. Good day
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hiddengem says:Posted: 13 May 09
@LQueens...yawn!!!..LMAO!! Vox is so correct when he says that you are an ignorant,insecure moron! Who actually takes the time to scope out AND comment on sites that have nothing to do with them? Douche bags with a LOT of time on there hands like you. I believe that you feel that your insults towards black women will in some way make us feel as insecure and unwanted as you do. You seem to feel that you have the inside scoop and or some kind of authority to dictate to the black women who she should or should not date. Actually I see right through you and know that you insult black women, as apposed to white men who date black women, who are open to dating white men because you know that white men will just ignore your rants and dismiss you because of the clown that you are while black women are more apt to check you and then dismiss you. You don't need to be threaten by the white man I am sure there is some pathetic and sad submissive little girl with her head hanging low just waiting for you to sweep her off her feet by a boy like you! You are now dismissed.
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kentucky joe, I love what you said. It is certainly not a compliment when someone to says "I don't see you as a black person" or "You act different than other blacks". Some people know exactly what they are saying.