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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   John says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 09

    Real white guy here and I answered the topic question concisely. Maybe ya'll missed that post. lol Anyway, the haters and racist folks on all sides of the camp I think come in here and post just to get a rise out of ya'll. There really isn't a point in arguing points from some of these morons posts. They're obviously not real men. I'd consider them internet trolls, really.

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  2.   Member says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 09

    I guess some of the comments are directed towards me. Now they want "filters' on a blog. I am sorry if some of my comments hurt your feelings. It is funny when sellout black women "claim" they have "ups" and "downs" in their relationships with white men. The white men never get bashed. All sorts of negative name calling and questioning how they were raised. I never hear a sellout black woman question how white men were raised when they same something negative towards them. Yet, Black men are every negative connotation in the book. I don't expect people to agree with everything I say. I don't even care if you read my comments or skip over them. This whole idea of a "blog" will always come down this issue. White men "are pure and great". Black men " are the demon seed of black women". Ultimately, if black women have children with any race of man that child will be "considered" black. I don't care if your man if from "Sweden" and never called you a whore or bitch. Your child will be a black man. I am not changing what I say or sugarcoating to appease sellout black women. I never started this war. They was whining and complaining before I jumped into the fray. By the way, if you see a sellout black girl that ever said ANYTHING negative about white men in relationships. Tell her hit me up. I HAVE YET TO SEE IT! Have a nice day.

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  3.   Member says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 09

    Thank you Michael, What you stated was very heart felt and meaningful. I just want to say that I rarely post, but reading all this crap warrants me giving my thoughts. A few men on this site are trying to depict black women in a negative way. We are strong, caring, smart, independent, and free to love how and who we want! For those persons that have so much animosity towards us just don’t bother with black women at all. I love who I am as a person I live my life according to what Christ expects not anyone else. I have been in relationships with several different ethnicities of men. I found that my husband happened to be what I was looking for in a man. Yes, he is white, but that’s our business. When we first started dating we faced a lot of tension from the public and our friends and family. Once everyone saw how in love we were they either had to accept it or live without us in their lives. We’ve had our ups and downs, but my husband cherishes me. As I cherish him. Six and a half years and we are still going problems and all. I have a decent job had one when I met my husband and God forbid if we ever part ways will keep on being gainfully employed. I don’t have a chip on my shoulder, and honestly most of the black women I know don’t. I am curvy NOT FAT BELLIED! I had a son from a previous engagement that ended. However, my husband has never had to provide anything for my son that he didn’t want to (And my son’s dad is present). To be honest most black women are overly protective of their children. So, I don’t know where you guys come off thinking that we want stand in fathers for our children. It sickens me to hear men try and demean women. I don’t care what race they are! Yes, we are very expressive, strong willed, outspoken, and driven. Truth being told that’s what attracts men to us (black women). We are this way because we are the glue in our families, and most times in the relationship. If you can’t understand us…. then simply put we aren’t the race of woman for you. This blog is about strong men of all ethnicities celebrating and uplifting women of color. If you can’t get with the program then just go away! Stop spreading your hate on our blog. Side note: Hey Ash nice to see a post from you. I must say that it’s hard to read some of the crap that gets posted here now days. All I can say to all the vets of this blog is…. AND THIS TOO SHALL PASS!!!! I wish we could get some type of filters on this blog!

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  4.   thecuddaking says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 09

    i'll give my breakdown of experience and dilema at the same time involving my eyes focused towards black females. i find it very difficult to inquire of a woman sometimes, especially when im exclusive to black women. i get shot down alot because im not the typical guy that likes to abuse an intro such as talking game or whatever or the common use of sexual words to attack a womans hormones to say yes when her mind and eyes are saying no with dispassion. (just a little notation for all women) sizing a guy up as far as seeing how well he can facilitate your deepest desires and passion to coming true or in layman's terms, get you wet and wild over a phone line or txt is totally wrong. And now i will tell you why...Lets say you got a guy making your fantasy reality via internet, and your digging every part of it. well your going to be very disappoint with him in person because he will not know what to do. the guys who perform this way always have to because they dont know what to do in person. they are practicing otherwise wouldnt they be at your house already???? :) the guys who wait till they know you will always know what to bring to life in your fantasy world because they pay attention as they go along. the first guy i mentioned though has to teach himself by trying it out via internet for practice. besides that it ruins the surprise of anyone actually stimulating you in person because it was always safer for you to have it done without physical contact. this also leads to you not having to give a guy a chance if he just so happens to be great at fulfilling a desire in person and just wanted to accomidate your needs via internet. the rule should be like the person first then know him sexually later if its just sex. or love him sexually physically and emotionally and then fulfill those fantasy's. i just always say what is on my mind at that time. but white women are not attractive to me at all. i myself would really just like to have a great black female friend (one whos very close) and see where it goes. if it dont go anywhere i wish that she remain a friend cause maybe later she'll come accross someone that might fit me perfect and be filled with joy to lead me in the direction i need to be since they will know the person better and i could approach the proper way instead of it being a little difficult for me to express myself with a woman of another race the way they might find me more acceptable or attractive. cause attraction is not just the looks. its the variable of actions and thoughts and expression combined. and to me it seems as though most black women are seeking a certain level or expectation of that variable to even allow an engagement of conversation to start (probably most likely because of the lack of sexual enuendos to invite their feeling of desire towards you). and ive very much accounted for a number of personal downfalls due to my refusal to accomidate this desire. which really F-ing sucks when u really like the person. and us men are always being called the dogs cause all we want is sex huh? i beg to differ. you know something else that really bugs me is the lack of words you all use. for example, i strick a conversation usually by saying hi, sasha how you doing? i like your eyes or where do you get your hair done...it looks great. to me that is just gettting personalized with someone just as u would if your at a coffee shop and your trying to talk to a worker without involving their work. you get personal with them for a moment to break the ice of them being in work mode so they can see you as a person not a customer. anyway most responses i get are im fine and thats it. to me that is saying i dont like you or the way you look or whatever their reason for not being nice back. so why not just ignore the message all together if your not going to allow a developement to occur cause im possitive any female knows where the guy is heading from the first few words and to me my words are kept civil, compasionate at times, friendly and complimentary which in no way should be reason to answer back pissy or negatively. Am i right? im really just trying to figure out why, how, and what in all this because i seek a human female with my focus being a black female. the only race that is seperate from all of us is aliens if they really exist, and if they did i wouldnt care cause im not attracted to aliens. one last thing im confused on is why any black men even are a part of this discussion at all because they seem to pose their possitions here like they can force the "whiteboys" out like they have all the power over black women. NOBODY is kicking me to the back of the bus cause i didnt force you to the back either. however technically nobody invited you for this particular discussion especially to talk shit to the "whiteboys" or brainwash the black women into thinking they are wrong and almost like they'll go to hell if they choose a white guy over you. or better yet you think your presence will discourage us or change the mind of either side. well, i guess in my case where im trying to gain the knowledge to succeed; maybe the real reason i need to be present is to see where black men failed so i can strengthen my attributes in those areas to show these women that they are special and cannot lose with me. they can only go right choosing me. oh wait, im not actually done. im really pissed about the comment made before me here calling black women sellouts. WTF is that meaning to them. lets break it down. You sold yourself out by not paying attention to these women. And im gathering if you really cared for them properly and dont think you made the mistakes then it wouldnt be so obvious that you had to join us here. here in the "Why white men love black women" mind you!!! otherwise you would be home with your black woman now not paying any attention to us cause we arent a threat to you. then again behind the curtains your probably home with your white girl because shes stupid and submissive and cant help herself. thats another reason i dont like white women cause its like being in a relationship with a dead woman with no life or excitement. Why so you can try and make all the whites look bad to gain back your control. Dont get me wrong I may seem a bit self concious, in the beginning of my speach here. but my self conciousness is with initializing a friendship/relationship with a black woman initially. only because black women vary soo much in personality from one to the next that its difficult to figure out which kind of personality im dealing with. Once ive established myself im very confident with myself. But please Mr Black man dont take all the black women back. leave us a couple cause if you take them all back then i'll be forced to be alone the rest of my life since i cant stand white women at all. LOL No, i may not sport the largest genitalia, but its neither the smallest either. however, my magic tongue can work circles around like no other which ive been hearing your all not so fond of or great at doing so. i guess i gain back a certain amount of audience there and the great thing about it is i enjoy performing in that manner for a woman. in fact i demand it be the inquisition prior to anything else so i know i have made that woman feel special being first to be pleasured. No hard feelings or anything though. thats why its called discussion and if you want to remain present in our discussion and force your 2 cents in where it doesnt even apply to you being a part of the discussion then you should be able to take the damn heat! anyway, i would really like to take the time for a black woman to see if theres something that might progress and if not at least a friendship can illuminate from the effort. then i wont feel as though it was waisted time. Appreciate your time in reading this. Michael

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  5.   Member says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 09

    Let me jump in this conversation. I read what White boy said. I figure he is just being sarcastic. The funny thing is, it taps into what black women think privately. That is why you see such a reaction. There is some white men that wouldn't let a black woman meet their dog, let alone their family. Just because you react strongly to white boy doesn't mean anything is going to change. I also don't believe your a racist white boy because you don't desire black women. Black women got such a big ego they assume your racist because you "don't" want them obese or otherwise. Unlike my sellout detractors, I live in reality. Sellout black women need to stop looking for a white man "stimulus package" and bring something to the table other than your bitterness towards black men and your vagina. Thank you

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  6.   e-dub says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 09

    “White Boy” leaves a lot to be desired as a person. He defines himself by a derogatory term of a person that AA historically needed to respected in public but despised in private as weak and less manly then a black man. So is it any wonder he sees BW in a derogatory light; he seems himself in a derogatory light. Me, I love black women in general and my wife in specific. We’re a study in contrasts although we have many things in common. Some people only see the difference of black-brown/white skin and stop. What they don’t see is two military brats who both like to read too much. I doubt he sees the beauty in himself. How can be possibly see the beauty in a black woman? (Or anyone else) For me viva a la difference

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  7.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 14 Apr 09

    Alexis, please. I wasn't trying to be mean. I understand how what he said was offensive, however I should have let you have that one rather than try to give him the benefit of the doubt. When you said site by mistake, it opened a huge window of misunderstanding with the rest of what you said. These blog topics can be read by anyone and anyone is entitled to share their opinions. I have 2 cousins who married white men. I might have a story to tell. Anyway, my profile says 'All ethnicities'. I came here because I knew that any black women on this site would probably be more open minded than my ex-fiance. I got tired of hearing stupid comments about interracial couples or bi-racial people. Saying I want a white woman is just as mean as what white boy said. I can't be mad though. Serves me right for getting in your business. Take care, hon!

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  8.   alexis.raye says:
    Posted: 14 Apr 09

    blog site whatever u get the point im sure ichibod... and u being a black man (unless u dont consider yourself to be black of course) should be offended because who is being referred to in the media in a negetive light??? black men! whiteboy is talking about u! he is saying that he is better than u,,, but i guess u missed that since you think he is such a nice guy... anyways i would like to hear from the REAL WHITE MEN who this blog was intended for anyway... not racist white boy with a cowarly slave drivers mentality who cant really handle a real black woman so lash out against them... nor do i wanna hear from black men that dont date black women... what is the point??? sistas do u hear me?! real men where u at?!

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  9.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 14 Apr 09

    You said site, not blog. Read your comment over again. And I was speaking in regard to both of his comments.

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  10.   copperlovely says:
    Posted: 14 Apr 09

    Thank You alexis.raye.... Why can't people stay on the topic here? I don't post a lot but I read daily. I am a kind classy black woman very much attracted to white men, but i am still looking....for a white gentleman who is for real about who we are!

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  11.   alexis.raye says:
    Posted: 14 Apr 09

    ok ichibod, i hear u but the blog IS titled 'why WHITE MEN love BLACK WOMEN' not asian women, or latina women, BLACK WOMEN. nor is it called why i just want to have sex with a black woman... so like is said what is the point of him being on this blog? and yes he was clearly being disrespectful, sarcastic and facetious...

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  12.   John says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 09

    Why do I like black women? The same reason I like and date all other races of women. If they look attractive, I further inquire to see if there is a beautiful and intelligent person on the inside. I have no control over the pre-programmed natural instinct of physical attraction. But I know that by being selective, my future children will be thankful for it.

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  13.   Member says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 09

    What's up ICH Everybody has made some good points. Clearly, some of the sellout black girls got a vendetta against me. Timbo said his point and I expected some black women to jump out of the window concerning that. It just confirms their insecurity when it comes to white men. At least he is keeping it real. A white man is going to say look " I don't want an obese black girl". End of story. That is what is fundamentally wrong with a majority of black women. They 'think" that every man should want them "regardless" of their weight and bad attitudes. My fiancee asked me would I leave her if she gained weight. She was "baiting me into argument". I said I would "think about it". Then she you would give up on me if I was 300 pounds. Then I said to her "YOU GAVE UP ON YOURSELF". If you give up on yourself, am I supposed to hang around a loser. They watch to much Oprah and talk shows. That's why other races of women get the point. Yes their are obese white, latin ,and asian women. They don't run around saying 'accept me for me". They actually make the 'effort" and if they failed to lose weight. At least they tried and that is all men want. Instead you got the nerve to get mad at us for you being obese. I will tell you what put on some tight clothes and tuck in your fat. So you can make it seem like "other men desire you". Alicia the reason some black women think I am bitter is because I practice tough love. Most of the black women I have dated have all gone on to successful relationships. I always gave them good advice. I am not a hater. The bottom line is if you think it will be 'easier" to be with a white man than you got another thing coming. White men are just more subtle. Black men we let our egos get in the way sometimes. As we get older we becomes ruthlessly efficient with women. I have my own home in PA, my fiancee doesn't have her name on it. The cars are in my name. If it ever came to me standing in front of the judge if we divorced. I will take the loss. I am not taking MAJOR LOSS! All my white male coworkers got taken to the cleaners by all races of women. Black men we get extorted by child support. I did a post on child support on my blog. Ban child support, it breeds promiscuous women! Rewarding them for irresponsibility. That's too deep to discuss here. Later everyone.

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  14.   MackWhiteDaddy28 says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 09

    I'm racist against idiots. I'll take a caravan of black women home to my mom; She's not a racist, why would I care? P.S. I'm single 2day @ 4....

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  15.   douwantit says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 09

    i fill the same way im right along with u alexis.raye for the comment that were made to "WHITEBOY"

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  16.   douwantit says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 09

    this comment is for whiteboy if u dont want to take a black female home to mama or marry a black women then why bother if u are embarrased of a black women

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  17.   ChocolatePrincess says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 09

    Thankfully, whiteboy, you do not represent the whole race. My man is ready to take me home to his mama anyday, and we have only been dating 2 months. Both first time interracial daters and things have never felt so good!

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  18.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 09

    alexis.raye, maybe he wants to marry and bring an asian woman home to mom, or a latina. There are other races than black, ya know. That doesn't make him a bad person. I actually think he was being sarcastic or facetious. By the way, everyone is a racist. Here's an excerpt from comment on the 'Closeted Racist' blog: We as people discriminate amongst many things for various reasons; taste, smell, color, sound, and texture. Color of skin is no different, except the historical significance that it has had over the course of human existence. That is why there is a such thing as racism rather than sourism, stankism, loudism, spectrumism, or roughism. Racism is not negative by itself. Racism is having any feeling or opinion, and/or choosing certain words or actions in regard to race. That doesn’t mean we hate someone of another race, although it may at times. For example, everyone member of this site is a racist seeing as though they joined this site rather than Match.com or eHarmony. Especially members that are attracted to specific races rather than ‘All Ethnicites’ are racist. The fact that you can, for whatever reasons (feel free to discuss) set your profile to reject messages from certain races is racist. What's up Timbo and Laurelton? Nice to see you guys.

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  19.   Whiteboy says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 09

    Of course I like black women. I like to have sex with them. I would never take one home to mom or marry one.

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  20.   Caribeman says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 09

    Mocha Cravens, it takes a big woman to admit that.

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  21.   alexis.raye says:
    Posted: 12 Apr 09

    and.... im assuming since your on this site you like black women, right??? im a little confused... r u a racist or not??? if so why r u on this site at all??? we should all love who and what we are... right, whiteBOY???

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  22.   Whiteboy says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 09

    Why do black women love white men? We are represented in the media the best! I love being white!

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  23.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 09

    Again, The Ash-Man Returns....(LOL) ...I am so happy to see your face back in the place, so to speak. Yes, there has been the usual madness in here (hence, the scarcity of my presence....LOL). I have just learned to accept that there are ALWAYS going to be some unhappy people that take that old saying to the hilt ("misery loves company"....witness Mr.Q and Timbo holding each others "manhood"...lol). They will forever be in search of ways to TRY and make others as sad and insecure as they are themselves (sometimes even on a subconscious level)....AND it truly is SAD (AND quite SCARY) when a man has to basically resort to "whipping it out" (comparing sexual prowess/size) in order to "straighten out" a women he doesn't even know. As for any man that actually claims to find women of color attractive yet finds ways to put them down in the same sentence,....well....I think we ("grown folk") know game when we see/hear it......LOL. .... Actually, I don't mind when others have opposing views.....I just have issue with people that find the need to degrade others to make themselves or their choices seem better. Some use sterotypes, others use statistics,.... while others just plain call names (showing there own "azz"....lol). It all just makes me laugh even harder because I know as the IR LOVE REVOLUTION progresses there will be more opposition rearing it's UGLY head...such is the nature of the universe (dark follows light, "what goes up, must comes down"....ya know, the simple stuff...LOL). I have learned not to sweat the people that are undoubtedly going to be on the losing end of this battle (those that can't/refuse to open their mind). For those that simply CAN'T, I shed a tear for thee.....yet if you just flat out refuse then there is not much I can say to or for you.......except, of course..... ....PEACE AND BLESSINGS tatted2death

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  24.   KaraRenee says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 09

    Ok I have read this blog for a long time ya know reading all of you guys responses.. very impressed anyway. I have always liked white men... idk i guess its just the attraction I am a black and native american girl very adorable. I was dating a white man a little bit older then me and he treated me lovely he was irish american brown hair blue eyes so sexy we were dating for about 2 years anywho, he treated me with a lot of respect at first he always opened the door for me he would just be there for me when i needed him like any man is suppose to do for his lady. But after some time he started changing long stort short i realized he just wanted a sexual thing idk why it took me 2 years to realize that but it did... He was sending mixed signals i guess..but in the end I think white men consider black women as a sex buddy nothing more. Its like they want to experiment with us but when it comes down to a relationship they marry a white woman!!!.. I know i could be wrong but this is just what i have experienced i really loved that man and he just really dogged me in the end. I still adore white men don't ge me wrong but i truly think some just want to know what it feels like to be with us and then once they find out well.... thats it! pretty stupid because black women have so much to offer and were very smart. but anyway im done with my little story.

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  25.   Caribeman says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 09

    Ashley, AMEN!!!

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  26.   geneandthem says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 09

    Thank you AliciaTai for your post! I seriously was about to have a meltdown! Which I have done on many occasions here in this exact topic! I'm sure everyone will be happy to see me responding, but really I just have to Say that after being on this Site for Many many many Years now and Posting in these threads I always thought that I would gradually see people and Views Change! But Not really! There are a ton of really open-minded, good people with good points and views! But there are still a ton of Idiots here to! Makes you wonder why some of these people are even here? Its a interracial dating site! We all should be Feeling pretty close to the same way here! And when your not on the same page as all of us that are here for the right reason! Then you just here kick up Dust and Run Game on Somebody! You peeps on here not really into interracial dating KICK ROCKS! This SHHHH getting old!!! And to Mr. Laurelton Queens and Timbo649 You guys smoking on that stuff together or something? I know and have seen just as many white woman that are "Fat bellied" as you would call it and With multiple kids running around? And there are woman that Do the things that you speak of and guaranteed it is not in interracial marriages as much as same race marriages! That is just a point of drama between who ever is in that situation! Believe me there are FAR less divorce cassese involving Interracial marriages then same race marriages! So that point is just retarded! Wake up! Put that pipe down! Life is Short! Pay attention, read, better yourself, stop living in the dark! Open your mind! I can promise you that you will live a far better life! Ashley,

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  27.   CallumWood:) says:
    Posted: 07 Apr 09

    Hey I'm Callum. I am 16 y/o white male and have a "black" girlfriend. I don't like describing a woman as "black"; she is of a different ethnicity and has much darker skin than me. I'm not sure why i am more attracted to "black" women.. I haven't always been like this; happened about a year or so ago.. I am not trying to stereotype or anything; But they just seem more fun- my assumption is based on the characteristics of my darker skinned girl-friends (friends who are girls, lol) and I cannot stress enough that I am not meaning to stereotype. I guess sometimes its just a subconscious thing to stereotype. Physically, I find darker skin far nicer than light- My girlfriends skin is near flawless,, with the occasional pimple here-and-there.. But yess Peaaaaaaccceee to all the beautiful "black" women out there:) (Y)

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  28.   MochaVanilla says:
    Posted: 05 Apr 09

    wow............some of these posts are something; i'm attracted to all races but mostly to men to respect me; i married a black man and i love him..... if ever in the dating arena again i feel it will not be black... much love to all of ya'll

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  29.   AliciaTai says:
    Posted: 05 Apr 09

    Mr. Laurelton, Every blog I go on you sound so bitter towards black women...and it really sounds like your battle is not with "us" as a whole...but maybe just the ones you encounter and have dealings with. Have you ever thought of that? It is not an issue about selling out, or needing the financial support of a white man so to say because I have been in relationships were I have made more money than my man many of times...and had to finance one's child support to his baby's momma!!So I could be just as sterotypical and say that's why I don't date black men...but what's the point in that??? People are going to be with whatever person they choose. And yes I do date white men, but I will date a black man or any other race just the same, as long as he is someone I am attracted to physically and mentally. I wish you luck in finding your special someone that makes you happy...no matter what her race may be :)

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  30.   triniprincess says:
    Posted: 05 Apr 09

    i'm of mixed nationality east Indian and African i tend to be more influenced by my African heritage..but i am attracted to east Indian men in my country..extremely..not necessarily while but also chines Portuguese heritage..but i have a thing for east Indian men i like black men but i just think its who you are attracted to and sometimes you just can't help it

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  31.   Member says:
    Posted: 05 Apr 09

    Timbo You make good points. Some sellout black women are just to0 full of themselves. A single black woman with 3 kids told me it was "my loss" I couldn't be with her in a relationship. Needless to say, I wasn't heartbroken over it. Now they want to run to white men so they can extort child support from them and live the high life with a black man in the end. It is really sad white men never see the big picture until they are in family court financing her lifestyle with another man. Mocha Cravens your hot baby! Later

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  32.   Timbo649 says:
    Posted: 05 Apr 09

    Come on let's be real, when was the last time you heard a man (not a lesbian), a man, say "Wow I love a strong and tenacious woman, that's matters to me". That line about black women being desirable because of their strength and tenacity is a bunch of bulloni spoken by a lesbian it sounds like. Here it is: Men are visual. And black women are visually enticing. The booty, the thighs, the lips, the hips, etc. In fact, black women are sexy DESPITE their "strength" and "tenacity". Too bad so many of them are fat bellied and/or have 4 kids following them around like stair steps. They would be even more desirable.

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  33.   adilma says:
    Posted: 04 Apr 09

    I'm not sure why or what white men prefer but, I appreciate the comments in this article. I am an educated single black female who has always been attracted to white men and it is not because they treat me any different from any other race of men, I just find myself more attracted to them and prefer to hopefully marry what I choose in the future. In defense to my african american brothers, they also appreciate and love the sisters, there are good men out there of any race, not one is better or above the other. I was raised by one of the greatest black man in the world, my dad, I have a brilliant bi-racial son, and a successful married brother with a beautiful family. Love is the only thing that shapes, molds, and create beautiful, strong, loving, caring, and successful men of any race. Adilma

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  34.   Angel26 says:
    Posted: 03 Apr 09

    Hi Everyone, I really enjoyed reading these atrcle. God made all of us, I have never dated a black man before, sounds weird but true. I fell inlove with a white man (my husband). I am black from the Islands and only know about racism from books that I read while in college, so I wouldn't comment on racism because I honestly only heard of that word when I migrated to USA years ago. The only thing I have gotten was intense stares from white women, some would say to me "you are very beautiful" or just look at me in disgust. There was another incident that happen in a restaurant and the waiter acted as if he didn't want to serve me...my husband got into an arguement with him and he got fired on the spot because my husband said he is going to file a complaint it was a horrible experience because back home when people visit my country they are treated with big smiles and love. I guess in some parts of the country some white people have not yet grown pass skin color. However my husband is very passionate, sensitive and loving 10yrs of marriage and we still are still inlove. Bless

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  35.   Lovelytothemall says:
    Posted: 03 Apr 09

    Wow. This has been an interesting forum to say the least. I have been able to identify with so many of the ladies....I too grew up in a unique manner. Both of my parents were highly educated. My mother double degreed in Pan-African studies and Economicsand my fatheris an Airforce retiree turned Business Owner. I grew up in an environment whereas I wasw reminded of my heritage daily. -As I am darker skinned by grandmother was half white and was not ashamed of it and I knew that her caucasian half was a part of me also. I grew up listening to Def Leppard (showing my age) watching Dynasty, Falcon Crest, loving Carly Simon, and Billy Joel while my sisters loved Luther Vandross and Parliament. Dont get me wrong I appreciate all forms of music, art you name it ..but I have always been called the Oreo. The white girl trapped in a black woman's body, my so called friends telling me I am the closest thing to a white friend they'd have. I have encountered more overt racism from my Brothas and sistahs than I have encountered "institutional racism" from the threatened white women , who is fearful of my popularity and intellect--now more increasing as I am and have dated high profile white men. As I was long winded, I embrace all people. I can have a conversation with anyone , I am a people person. I am not restricted by race, gender ,socio-economic class. I like dating white men at this point in my life because they ten to be more fun. In my past dating experiences I had to look at what was I attracting vs what I am attracted to. I smile more now...and I look younger in my 30's than I did in my 20's. I am traveling more, which expands your base. I travel for sporting events...I am a Vikings Fan...hahahah the white guy !!! Men can be stupid and immature in any race. I find that women have similar issues with men regardless of race. I am lovely to them all. I am a firm believer in lookism. The first glance or smile, and the words the flow out of your mouth are indicative of who you are . Bottom line people...date who you want to. Enjoy yourself. If it is commitment you seek be prepared to work for it...If it is fun have it as well....Life is too short for non-sense....

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  36.   Genesis says:
    Posted: 02 Apr 09

    Human race can create and accept civilization Blacks havent create any culture or civilization from the beggining of world untill today..Many whites as Australians went in Africa trying to give them what we have create,but Africans show a lack of strength to understand even the 1% of what whites teached them.Untill today we give in Africa so much money,cars,foods,medicines but still things are same. So can we call blacks a human race?Why they live in a continent that almost all animals live there? All reserches have shown that almost 90% of blacks have mch less Iq that white and asian race..So a mix for me is a punishment for our children..I am not racist,racist=hate of someone else.I just say the truth basic on reserches(also have show black have 1 more muscle in hands,legs etc)..Sorry for my ENglish

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  37.   Mrpalooza says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 09

    Quote "We love a black woman’s confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity" I think that can be said about any great woman.

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  38.   paula99 says:
    Posted: 30 Mar 09

    you know what you said a black woman .. jack007..is more loyal.. what are we dogs.. look dude. we always carried ourselves with pride. i know some women black and white lost what women hood is because they never been taught. i do not like the term "hood rat" thats just a slang. all people who grew up or still live in impoverished areas are human. not "hoodrats" you get the jist. but you know this already.. there is a good book i would like to suggest to you called "interaccial intimacies" you can find it at barnes and noble its a good read. i think you will have some clarity about blackwomen,. i have dated muliticulural from australian, indian. and native american men. really. no different. men are men. some will treat you well and others have no clue. its all in the behaviour of the individuals. yes some of us had bad experience with the same race of course. but its because we made bad choices.. in a mate not because .. of color. hell , i just broke up last year with a white guy i did fall in love with. he was a narsicistic dog. but guess what.. did that stop me from dating other white men. no. the point being. i mad a terrible choice. i admit that. you are attracted to who you are attracted too. but i will admit i do stay away from men. who want to "experiment". to see what it is like,. i find them delusional about women in general. you know.. the whore madonna complex issue. like for example one guy told me .. i want a woman to blowme. but if my wife do it. i will divorce her. but he cannot express to his wife. his sexual needs and desires. putting us into roles.. men have to stop that shit.. seriously. but you know what if someone loves you and not a selfish prick.. go for it. i say. but you have to be careful about who you let into your circle. too fast and too soon.

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  39.   Kimberly says:
    Posted: 30 Mar 09

    I am a 30 year old African American woman and I must say that dating white men has always been easier than dating men of my own race. In college, I was alway approached by respectful, down to earth, open minded white men so, naturally I dated white men. But, African American men rarely asked me out even though they would often make gestures indicating that they were attracted to me it never turned into a real conversation or date. I always felt like I could be myself around the white men that I met and dated and I am noticing a great deal of other women are saying the same thing....now, I wonder why that is?

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  40.   MackWhiteDaddy28 says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 09

    Loving a women is not all about providing her every desire, but by showing her love you'll definitely try. I've been dating this girl. She never let me be a man. I hated it. I just wanted to give her something she needed, 2 show her I care...2 show her I'm not a racist bastard, but she ALWAYS got what she wanted by herself...until last month, my poor Lil rich girl, she asked me for some help. I was stoked. I could show her I cared without a bunch of cheap words that just fall 2 the ground; especially because my actions are strong. I could show her I would do anything 4 her. What is wrong with that? So I did, and this is her reply. . . have I told you lately that you are the SHIT! =] . . . well fuckin freaking frakin A . . . YOU ARE That's no joke... I love it.

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  41.   Jack007 says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 09

    Hello everyone. I came across the blog quite by accident and I am thankful I did. Very interesting site. First of all I am a 49 year old white male. I grew up in the southern part of the U.S. As most of you know there has been a strong segerationist attitude here in the south. More so than in other parts of the country. Thankfully those old attitudes are falling by the wayside. I have been attracted to black ladies in the past for their looks and sense of humor. About 20 years ago I worked with a beautiful black lady who had a super attitude, great looks, wonderful sense of humor and treated everyone with respect. I wanted so much to ask her out to dinner and a movie but because of the social stigma I didnt. Now, before anyone says "you should have anyway. Don't worry what everyone else says". Back then, and maybe now too, there were people who would attack others verbally and physically for dating outside their race. Am I still attracted to black ladies??? Honestly I am more attracted to the PERSON. That is, I like a lady who is intelligent, a good conversationalist, keeps up with what is happening in the world and respects her family, others and herself. If she is black that is a plus. I was married to a white lady for 8 years and that was a nightmare. So far I have not dated a black woman but am very open to the possibility. Maybe I am wrong in my opinions but I think a good black woman is more likely to be loyal to her husband and family if she is treated with love, honor and respect than white women. I really am not sure why I feel that way but I do. Anyone have an opinion on that??? When I was married I enjoyed helping my wife clean and cook and work in the yard, go on day trips to the museum and surprise her with little gifts but at no time did I feel I was appreciated. She certainly never said as much as thank you. Of course that had nothing to do with her being white. But for some reason I have had the impression black lady would be more appreciative. Now, some have posted here about the "hood rat" image. I am not attracted to the getto image/hood rat thing. I like a lady, black or white, who strives to improve herself and I now see more black ladies doing just that. I myself and starting my own business so I know how hard it can be sometimes. Anyway, I hope to meet a special lady someday and if she is black then so much the better. I will admit I do like the almond or black skin color. I find it exotic. But most of all I like those deep, mysterious coal dark eyes.

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  42.   Egeeli says:
    Posted: 25 Mar 09

    THIS IS TO Cafe Aul ait39; you are a very beautiful woman i noticed you on a dating site. i don't know whether you would help a black man and the things i said about black women are only true from all the positions of the black men i know in my family. i understand people are'not perfect but ihave tried to be and statistics say i will probably never find a satisfactory relationship with a black woman from the US. but i never stop hoping even though walking this country wishing black women would share more than their sex and then saying you owe me because she had given the one thing she could never take back. the price was higher for me because i felt it was my responsibility to provide for her then when she had new car, nice furniture nice home she started looking for a better provider. someone with an abundance of money. you probaly won't read this but if you do my second ex is the only one i touched in america. other women in the US are very opportunistic . selling their compationship for an illusion of security. with women outside the US there are goldiggers but the majority seek a good man that she can help provide a life for their childern or she could be a good mother and wife.I Love New York is a classic example of what type of black women that represent the balck public female image of america.SHE IS VERY EVIL AND SELF CENTERED maybe Mrs. Obama will inspire black to treat black men more than just a stepping stone. anyway i'm gald to see you again. but write back and lets talk before i go back to colombia in june.

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  43.   Egeeli says:
    Posted: 25 Mar 09

    THIS IS TO Cafe Aul ait39; you are a very beautiful woman i noticed you on a dating site. i don't know whether you would help a black man and the things i said about black women are only true from all the positions of the black men i know in my family. i understand people are'not perfect but ihave tried to be and statistics say i will probably never find a satisfactory relationship with a black woman from the US. but i never stop hoping even though walking this country wishing black women would share more than their sex and then saying you owe me because she had given the one thing she could never take back. the price was higher for me because i felt it was my responsibility to provide for her then when she had new car, nice furniture nice home she started looking for a better provider. someone with an abundance of money. you probaly won't read this but if you do i want you to know that in thirty yrs i've only been with six women. married thirty divorced three and my second ex is the only one i touched in america. other women in the US are very opportunistic . selling their compationship for an illusion of security. with women outside the US there are goldiggers but the majority seek a good man that she can help provide a life for their childern or she could be a good mother and wife.I Love New York is a classic example of what type of black women that represent the balck public female image of america.SHE IS VERY EVIL AND SELF CENTERED maybe Mrs. Obama will inspire black to treat black men more than just a stepping stone. anyway i'm gald to see you again. but write back and lets talk before i go back to colombia in june.

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  44.   Member says:
    Posted: 24 Mar 09

    White European, you took the words right out of my mouth with that last paragraph. I'm posting this 'cause I understand exactly how Mocha Cravens feels. I am a multi-cultural (french, hispanic & black) caribbean man in my 30's that looks white for the most part. I have dated only black women all my life and as far as I'm concerned, that will never change. Some call it a prejudice but I call it a preference. Yes it is the lips, hips and booty which attracts me! That is just a part nature and that first attraction. After that, its the strength and strong family values which I find most attractive.

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  45.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 09

    This is indeed a good blog, I can't believe it's been going on since August 2007. Going back to the original question "Why white men love black women?" Well, why wouldn't they? I guess the answer is a composite of many issues that I'm sure biology, psychology and sociology have explained at lenght. I can only speak for myself though. I'm 37 white european male, I have dated no more than half a dozen white women, some asians and, literally, hundreds of black african women (mostly one night stands, sorry). I've lived in Africa for 8 years now, been married to an East African (we've got a very handsome 4 y.o. boy) and planning to marry another one from Great Lakes. I'm not embarrased to admit that for me it's the physicality what makes the difference, the skin, its softness and changing tonalities, the body shape, the full facial features, the splashing smiles, the hair... It's true there are slight differences in the way white and black people behave. I could also write pages & pages about how caring, feminine, loving and intelligent black women are but the fact of the matter is that you find the same human qualities in all human groups so I presume that what really makes the difference for me are the physical features. There's one thing though that isn't physical that I find very attractive in black african women, that's their drive for success (understood as succeeding to become financially independent and, at the same time, form a stable family). I find it very inspiring and feel privileged of being part of it in my girlfriend's life. I can relate to Mocha's indiference's towards white guys, I feel the same for white women,although I don't feel offended when they hit on me, just sad that they're wasting their time with a hopeless case like me.

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  46.   otherbrother says:
    Posted: 17 Mar 09

    @ MR. O WOW! An amazing post, it could not have been stated, written, or told any better than your post. You truley answered the question of the this discussion group. You are the man.

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  47.   abena says:
    Posted: 14 Mar 09

    hay guys, i can see most of you r educated and i hope not 2 offend with my shorthand but,i am just 18 years old and i live in cali. i spent half my time here and half n the south. i travel a lot and i like white men. i have never really dated an American black man because it seems to me that i am attracted to a group of values not a look. i find so many things attractive about all different colors of men from different areas of the world but American black men seem to be lacking a bit 4 me. until i graduated high a couple years back i could only find white men that were more my type of attitude so now naturally i am more attracted to them. my grandmother thinks i am a bit of a sellout for being with white men but she herself only married my grandfather because he was very light. i think there is a lot of confusion going on within black families. my mother broke away from that and we r very diverse children i cant help but like something different and stray from the typical. i want whats out there for me and if i can find that in the white population then so be it.

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  48.   Bumpslick says:
    Posted: 14 Mar 09

    Carib - Nice 2 hear from you again. Thank you for the kind words. Just to answer some of your questions you asked- If im worried about the public thinking I was a sellout? Not at all , Im a grown woman ,I care what i think and feel not what others think and feel about me as long as im not hurting anyone then it really does'nt matter what the public thinks. I will admitt that I DO feel exstremly uncomfortable with stares and public attention although I recently stated I could care less what people think ...the fact Im not 100% comfortable with white men makes it a problem for me. I think the way you live your life in general you need to be comfortable with yourself and the way you chose to live your life. I have not met a white man that i felt was a chauvanist ( although im sure there are many in all races lol ) But NO I have never in my 28 years met a white male chauvanist as yet. I've never really given much thought process in how i viewed myself with a white man...like if I felt not worthy or not good enough for a white dude. I definitley think that any man from any race that had a chance to be with me on a serious level would be a lucky man lol..not tryin to be concieted or anything....but I think that im a good woman that treats everyone pretty fair and im very kind hearted etc. I do agree with you that Im putting myself in a box that blocks me from exploring , which is probably why I posted my comment on this site in the first place.

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  49.   Bumpslick says:
    Posted: 14 Mar 09

    Its been a minute- Hope every is doin well up on this site this evening. First - Response to Other brother : Im soooooo not a racist ....Please DO NOT call me that. Yes- I agree that i got a problem that i cant understand...but to say im racist is takin it a bit too far. I love people of all races, as far as dating , being intimate etc. thats a bit of a diff story....I would'nt call that being a racist. People have preferences like most dudes prefer lighter skinned or darker skinned women, or slim , thick or fat women, or short, long , straight or curly hair etc its called your preferences . I guess basically Im uncomfortable dating white men !

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  50.   Mr.O says:
    Posted: 11 Mar 09

    I'm a 50 y.o. white male who definitely prefers the company of Black Women. I can speak from experience since I have devoted my life to seeking out the perfect "Soul Mate" for me. I have dated all races of women including Arabs, Asians, Hispanics, Caucasians, African Americans, Jamaicans and Africans. It is noteworthy to point out some differences which leads me to my preference for Black women. I feel Black women are more passionate and devoted, less superficial than others. This is by no means to say that "all" Black women are perfect and "all" non-Black women should be avoided. It comes down to individual needs, based on individual experiences. The Asians and White women I've known were very superficial needing monetary security much more than Black women. I'd say they were "Gold-Diggers" and the Black women I've known were much more Down-To-Earth, more grounded and less confrontational. For me, I have always needed a woman to spend my life with, one who was not only beautiful but highly trustworthy. It has been my experience that the White Women, Arab Women and Asian Women I've dated, (and married), have either been untrustworthy, overly jealeous and/or extremely possessive as to smother me with such negativity that I had to move on to seek out my true "Soul Mate". For the past 10 years I had been dating Black Women exclusively. ALL have been so sweet, loving and passionate. They were all great "nurturers" and would have made wonderful mothers, and some were in fact. I admit I am highly attracted to the Black womans physique, more that that of non-Blacks. I do take care of myself and work out in the gym regularly and seek out more pure foods and supplements to ensure a more fulfilling life. The Black women I have been with have been beautiful, inside and out. I think Black women are sexier, with fuller lips, brighter eyes, more shapely bodies and that skin contrast is a big plus for me. The most incredible sexual experiences have come with Black women. Again, I think they are more "soulful and passionate" and make much better life partners than other races. I am currently married to a beautiful Black woman from Texas and we have a beautiful 3 y.o. son who is my little pride and joy! I love my wife and little boy. I must mention that I also have two older children form a White/Arab woman whom I divorced due to her being unfaithful to me. I definitely would encourage more White men to seek out love with Black women, as long as you also possess that passion in your heart to love and comfort your woman as well.

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