Why white men love the black woman
Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?
It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.
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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.
However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.
So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?
Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.
Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.
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tye says:Posted: 12 Sep 08
i like how i can talk to the ones i have better than other people. i dont know. i like really dark skin... don't know why. it seems so smooth... and IS. theyre teeth look a lot whiter too
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RockerChick27 says:Posted: 12 Sep 08
Now, Tatted. I have to respond to about three of your posts, girl. You goin’ crazy up in herre. Stereotypes… first thing I have to say is CHILL! People naturally observe things, and as much as you may not like it, it shifts our opinions. It’s called discrimination (in a good way, literally differentiating between things. It’s natural. Not the bad kind…). If his experience is that Asians have yellower teeth, then that is going to make a difference. I know we all hate science, but you wouldn’t believe how much teeth color and form impact people’s impression (actually… you probably wouldn’t believe how seemingly useless things impact people’s impressions of other people). Even *I* have noticed that ‘thick’ white women don’t tend to be as well…”put together” as ‘thick’ BW. BW and WW generally have naturally different body types. Of course there will be exceptions, but they are the exceptions. Still---EVERYTHING counts. But that’s okay! As for the dancing… I don’t even really see many BLACK people who can dance, talking about WHITE people, lolz. I think, despite ethnicity, erbody be lookin' crazy on the dance floor. All three of my high schools' dance teams... whew. Can you say PHAIL?! Anyway, Calm down. Breath. Shalax, girl. It’s no biggie. Personally… I like when people ADMIT that they have preferences rather than acting like they prefer everybody. My goodness, PC gets on my nerves. It’s like we have to censor everything we say, even what we think. Say what you feel, people! …That’s why I like the internet. Although you don’t know the people you’re talking to, you see the real them. You know… being anonymous helps. It brings out the bigot and racist and hater in them, 'cause nobody knows it's them. I donno… I like knowing who people actually are and what they’re really thinking. The only way that can be accomplished is to allow them to say what they’re thinking. Of course, the time and place rule is always in effect... “STEREOTYPES ARE (WHETHER TRUE OR NOT) ARE HURTFUL AND DIVISIVE (unless in a comedy club....because that is all they really are...JOKES)....UNTIL WE RECOGNIZE THAT AND CEASE THE MADNESS ALOT OF IGNORANCE WILL PERSIST UNNECESSARILY.......THE END.” >.> This makes no sense. If it’s true, then it’s not ignorant. If it’s true, then who cares if it is hurtful? It doesn’t make it untrue. People are different, as you said in your other post. Why hide it? You also said that you’re not everyone’s cup of tea, and I’m sure everyone is not your cup of tea. You have reasons, right? I’m sure some of them may be a little negative, ignorant and stereotypical. You’re the bestest ever, but you’re still human. Even you must fall prey to some of these things. As I said before, it is natural to have preference. It is natural to like some people and to not like some people. We all have reasons, and because some may be negative, it doesn’t necessarily make them bad. He noticed some things, is all. Is it bad to admit it? “It's not cutting people down, it's identifying normal genetic traits.” He hit the nail on the head right here. E_edwards… haha. Looks like you’re taking the science route. I like that. Careful though. No science allowed here. I’m warning you. Anyway, tatted. I like how you stood your ground about the relationship thing. My opinion has changed of you a little, which is good. Don’t get me wrong, I loved ya before, but now I like you even more (if that’s even possible, lolz!) I have one more post of yours to respond to, but I have to go. I’ll try to find it and respond later on today or tomorrow. Then again, knowing me, I’ll break that date @_@ -RoChi
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RockerChick27 says:Posted: 12 Sep 08
Okay, I see I have to say a few things. I’ll divide this into two posts. First things first, LegalEase… A BW/WM would draw attention in plenty of cities, I’m sure. It’s so common to see the opposite, but much rarer to see this combination, though the numbers are increasing, apparently ;) I live in Baltimore, which isn’t bad. We were driving along and going into a different part of the city… not a good idea, I guess. Not the nicest of people. Flaunt it, ay? Perhaps… but that is a town where you’re better off not being noticed, if you know what I mean. Blend in if you know what’s good for ya. Anywhere else, sure. I always try to look good. And don’t worry about the attention—I’m used to it. It’s usually seems more like “Wow. BW/WM couple. Unusual *stare*” These stares seemed like, “UGGG! DIE! ME KILL YOUUU!” >.> -RoChi
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tatted2death says:Posted: 12 Sep 08STEREOTYPES ARE (WHETHER TRUE OR NOT) ARE HURTFUL AND DIVISIVE (unless in a comedy club....because that is all they really are...JOKES)....UNTIL WE RECOGNIZE THAT AND CEASE THE MADNESS ALOT OF IGNORANCE WILL PERSIST UNNECESSARILY.......THE END. (because when I really think about it, don't feel like addressing this tired subject anymore....BUT I WILL copy and paste this thing if necessary....don't tempt me....I am crazy enough to do it....LOL) Now if anyone has some REAL answers to my other questions....I will address those.
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tatted2death says:Posted: 12 Sep 08
Trust me.........I am as "chill" as they come......anyone else in here will tell you I just have I certain passion about what appeared to be your focus in your first post. I didn't disrepect you by calling you out of your name...or cussing you....I might have challenged your "opinions" a bit....but hey....like I said the with the topic at hand that is a given. And when you speak of genetics and say "IMO" in the same line that is just plain confusing....can genetics really be rightfully linked to most stereotypes(which were at the base of most of your "opinions".....geeesh)??...I am not so sure about that one. You would have to show me some concrete evidence for me to believe that...and then again I would have MORE questions. I am ecstatic that you are happily in love with a Tanzanian woman and welcome her in here as well as yourself.(which I truly do.....despite my passion for this particular sub-topic). I was not "slamming" your post only expressing myself and exercising that SAME right you say you have. My intent was not to "steal your joy"...although I must say I didn't see a whole lot of "joy" in that first post. I am sorry if you feel judged you. This IS a public forum and I don't know you from Adam.....but when you make statements like you did just be prepared to have someone (like me....*smilez w/o a sigh*) to not agree and NOT be intimidated into saying nothing about it. Your post didn't disturb me only the place where I see this alot stuff come from in most people. I implore you to read back,if time permits, in this blog and witness some the B.S. we have had to face in here. I will continue to want to know why some things seem to be NECESSARY in certain individuals' minds. I can accept being wrong (especially about someone I don't even know) and can even apologize. But if you, your girlfriend (or anyone else for that matter) comes in to spread that noise about stereotypes being true (blah...blah..blah) I will AGAIN voice my opinion just as loud because it is what I feel needs to be done to help stop the cycle.....PERIOD...nothing personal. But I am not sure if you will be broad-minded enough to take it like that....I could be wrong( and truly hope that I am).... Like you said.....We'll see Peace and Blessings TO ALL T2Deth P.S.....before you just assume that I am "slamming" you should read my ENTIRE post.....I was asking some legit questions (not rhetorical).....If I was only interested in "judging" you, I would not have even posed those questions....I REALLY would like to see someone answer them someday....take a deep breath, reread it and then come at me.....there were quite a few REAL questions in there. Not trying to have a debate here......just want some REAL answers. You told me why (you think) stereotypes exist....NOT why you felt the need to come in here and restate them....I REALLY am curious about that one....but then again you might even realize the true reason.....and THAT would be the scary part about all this.
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e_edwards says:Posted: 12 Sep 08I really wouldn't get so uptight about it. It's all good. You seem rather disturbed by my observations. I wouldn't place a CLAIM on my love for black women. I'm head over heels in love with my lovely women. I'm sorry you feel I can't express what comes to my mind. I feel a bit judged by you. Calm down and realize the reason stereotypes exist is because, it's partly true. No point in getting yourself upset. I'm just glad I found a place to exchange feelings about this topic. My Tanzanian g/f and I laugh alot when we have so much fun poking at each others culture. I don't remember having so much fun as I have with this woman. She is so witty and clever I love how she uses my language to outwit me. You might have had whatever fun you had slamming my post. But I'm still smiling from getting off the phone with my girl. Her opinion trumps all else. I told her on the phone I posted here, maybe she'll stop by and post as well. We'll see. (sigh with a smile)
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tatted2death says:Posted: 12 Sep 08
oh boy....here we go again...WHY WHY WHY....must people use stereotypes (genetic or otherwise) to justify ANYTHING????....I mean, whatever past pain you may have experienced (personal or cultural) is no excuse to go on and on with all the propaganda. I know everyone is entitled to their opinion and this is a free country and..yadda yadda yadda but what is the true purpose behind restating all these stereotypes??? Comedians do it...(which usually gets old pretty fast....IN MY OPINION>>>LOL) but when you call yourself being "open to different races" it really looks kinda weak to sit up and rattle off all sorts to racial(fyi:different from "racist") B.S. Who really gives toot what color you think Asians' teeth are???? I have seen some white women who are thick and NATURALLY well put together.....as well as some black women who are NOT. I have seen white women who have more "bad hair" days then I will probably ever experience (wash and wear, baby...LOL). Genetics may have a factor but that is not necessarily (especially in this day and age) a racial issue. Aren't you tired of hearing "white people can't dance"?????.....(especially when there is evidence to the contrary around every corner)...and I LOVE me some "geeks"("nerds" are cool too....I'm not so sure about "dorks" though....LOL....just kiddin); I was one in school and still have those "traits".....lol. THE CYCLE OF SELF-HATE MUST CEASE PEOPLE......Do us all a favor and just love yourself a little more and think about the things that you say/write for all the world to see.(THAT GOES FOR EVERYONE READING THIS RIGHT NOW) I am sorry....but everytime I see these type of posts I can't just stand by and let that sort of ______(fill in the blank with whatever word that you will be LESS sensitive to....lol) go unchallenged....especially when it comes from a white man that CLAIMS to love/like/lust after black women. Peace and Blessings Tatted2death
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e_edwards says:Posted: 12 Sep 08
As a white man I'll give my opinion on that one. IMO I don't feel white women wear thickness as well as black women do. It's simple genetics. A lot of black women don't have as much success without a lot of work when taking care of their hair. It is what it is. As a white man I know I have more natural hair on my bad than a lot of other races on the average. White people tend to have a lot of moles and freckles. Asians tend to have more yellow teeth IMO. It's not cutting people down, it's identifying normal genetic traits. As a white man who WAS married to a white women for 7 years, I know what their ass looks like with too much thickness. It looks like a plastic bag full of ricotta cheese. Prior to my failed marriage I chased mainly black women because of their outgoing personality and their so much fun to just hang out with. Now I am chasing them again. I've had so many great times as g/f's or simply friends with black women. I love them. When I was younger I was a bit shy approaching black women because society has quite a lot of fun making fun of white guys not being able to dance and stereotypes of us being all dorks. I've come to the conclusion black women care more about you as a person rather than whether you can dance or not. Very passionate group of women. Very loving and always willing to laugh without shyness. I'm so glad I have had such great experiences with black women.
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BeautyBeyondWords says:Posted: 12 Sep 08
Thanks Chronik... Jump on in and don't drown. lol... Hey... that sounds a little scary. Jump on in... and DON'T DROWN. lol...lol... I am being silly. It's getting late. Chronik, where are you from? My friend asked me today (white female).. I was telling her about his site and how I enjoyed the people and everyone was so cool. She wanted me to ask white men this... Why do white men make white women lose weight and then find a black women and love her for her? He doesn't care, if she is thick or a little heavy... Why don't they like thick white women? Is that true white men? I told her that I would put the question out and see what kind of response, I get. It's crazy to me. (Hope she doesn't find this site and read it. lol...)
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Learning says:Posted: 11 Sep 08Hey Legal! thanks girl! As a matter of fact, I created a profile on this site! wish me luck!oh I have't uploaded a picture yet cuz I don't have one I like yet, but wait til I get my hair done! LOL!
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tatted2death says:Posted: 11 Sep 08
I believe you have to actually have a profile on the site that is attached to this blog...It's free to get one. Peace and Blessings to you
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Chronik says:Posted: 11 Sep 08
can someone please tell me how i can upload a pic of myself on here so everyone can see what i look like when i post a comment?..thnx in advance for your help. Great blog btw. Very intriguing topic. I would love to contribute to the discussion.
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BeautyBeyondWords says:Posted: 11 Sep 08
Tatted, YOU ARE CRAZY, GIRL! I've been cracking up at you... Things that make you say, HMMMMMMMM Hey doodle, how old are you? lol... You're cute?
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doodlebug44 says:Posted: 10 Sep 08What it comes down for me is compatability regardless of ethnicity. I have dated white, black, latio and asian woman. In the end I just happen to be more attracted to black reason. Scott I am white and have dated white, latino and asian woman. Each woman certainly add fine qualities and like most of us not so good qualities.
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tatted2death says:Posted: 10 Sep 08
psst...Beauty....I know you don't like old men.....but what about OTHER KINDS of men...HINT HINT.....I know YOU don't need any help in that way....but I just thought it was kind of interesting....right after you mentioned you were studying a certain language.....hmmmm. ok...back to my hole in the wall (lucky duck....he HAS a profile) Peace and Blessings T2Deth
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theleo73 says:Posted: 10 Sep 08To James with the original post. I agree with everything you said. If I could give my two cents... and I know there might be a "Why Latino Men love Black Women" forum but I haven't found it yet...or maybe there's not. My first Black girlfriend came to me like a dream. I, being from a small town growing up with only whites and mexicans, found neither side of the ethnic coin there very attractive, either because of racial sepratism on one side, or just plain obnoxiousness on the other. But I had always thought Black Women were especially beautiful, even as a child. When I moved to L.A. in my early twenties, and having given up on women, there came into my life the most beautiful girl I'd ever seen. Up to this point, I had never been with a Black Woman but I did what came natural to me at that time - I stuttered. She laughed and didn't take her eyes off of me. I was a waiter at the time so I offered her some of my food and we talked and talked some more. I don't mean to sound cheesy, but when we talked, hour after hour about everything, I felt like... I knew that I was home. She made me feel like I was a man, she completed me and gave me love like no other woman I'd been with before in my life. I had a lot of flack with some of the brotha's talking shit, talking about - "are you with him?" My response, "yes, m#therf*cker - she's with me!", then fisticuffs. I didn't care. I was in love and the thought of "oh, she's Black - that's so HOT" never crossed my mind. She was hot, yes. She had..still has beautiful, dark, dark skin, a nice ass, beautiful eyes. But what made her really attractive to me was that her soul was correct. You see, the soul has no color, and if it did, well, it would be a warm shade of mohagany brown. So why do White Men & LATINO Men love Black Women? Because it feels good, because it feels right, beacause it feels like home, and because we got a whole lot of m*therf*ckin soul that only a Black Woman could understand.
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BeautyBeyondWords says:Posted: 10 Sep 08
Yeah, I was kicking up a little dust, Tatted...lol.. As Michael Jackson's songs says.. "I got to be started somethin... Got to be startin somethin... I hope that was the words, because I am famous for singing the wrong words. Legal, I am about 30 minutes away from the Windy City. I am from the Midwest and yes... We black women are blessed!!!! Out here! You know... I don't really like anything old. Old dress.. Old car.. Old house... Old man... lol.. I don't know about this old man, stuff. The advice you told your friend was good. I realized that we come from different settings and I was used to black men approaching with confidence and sometimes WAY TOO MUCH CONFIDENCE. But, white men were more settled. Starting off more like a friend, in some of my encounters. I would smile and make eye contact and done got somethin' started. They would approach me VERY quietly. Can't talk for too long with you beautiful people, tonight. I am tired. I am learning spanish and if you catch me right.. I'll talk in my sleep. lol... What does spanish, sign language, real estate and daycare, upcoming Gospel Artist have in common...???? ME! Ya'll Pray my strength. I am exhausted.
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tatted2death says:Posted: 09 Sep 08
ok.....now...I was about to take a little break (and actually give the MEN a CHANCE to cut in here.....dang.....some of you all are actually making it kind of hard...lol....it's only been a few days without the men, you all.....simma down nah....lol)....but some clarification is obviously needed. I understand the passion, love and zeal where some of you are coming from and appreciate it greatly But please just realize this.....NOT ALL WOMEN/MEN ARE THE SAME(I know you all know that....so come along with me here..LOL) When we speak of certain "tactics" to "get" a man or whatnot sometimes it can come off as the Big D(desperation)....And I don't know about you all, but I am FAR from desperate. Please don't mistake my "sad love song", as you put it, for some sort of "giving up" on men or some jazz like that. I am just being realistic....that is part of who I am. I know that I am not everyone's cup of tea.....and to be honest, I think those who pass me by (not willing to just add that lil bit of sugar...LOL) are the one's missing out.....I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM......NOT MYSELF.....NEVA>>>EVA,EVA,EVA>>>>LOL. Certain things are just a part of me...(my sense of humor, my ideals, my moral fiber) and those just are not going to change (nearly every thing else is negotiable....LOL). The way I choose to lead my life is not...(should not be) the focus here. I mean I can stand being "checked"/challenged or whatever....BUT IS THIS REALLY THE TIME AND PLACE FOR ALL THAT??? I am not on here to get "hooked up". And nor am I some meek doormouse that is unhappy in any way. I am NOT on here to have anyone fill any kind of "void" in my life. Because guess what....essentially there is none. I have my rough patches like EVERYONE else but I don't drag myself down in them. I think I have stated it before but I am here simply to observe. And yes there is an attraction developing for me to one man in particular in here(that was VERY unexpected for me...LOL) but that doesn't not derail my initial objective. Nor does it mean I really need anyone's help in that department. Not trying to be rude or anything just getting things "untwisted" a bit. See, I am a private person...I know, I know.....then me being on the internet is like a big mistake....LOL. But this is my medium of choice. I am, in part, a writer and I like coming in here to hone my skills and express my opinions and "push on". I like "men" too.....but I am not about to make them my entire focus in here.....it's just not what I am all about. I mean, I want to hear the opinions and feelings they want to express and that is about it. Yes, it may be my time to "shine"....but I am not quite sure if this is the correct forum. I like to take my blessings as they come and I am (or at least I can be....LOL) a patient woman when it comes to those things that are truly worth waiting for....what is meant to be, WILL be for me. I am not panicking....so please don't do that for me. There is no overwhelming doubt in my life.....only realism.....there needs to be a healthy balance(realism/idealism/fantasy), at least for me. If not that leaves the door open for all sorts of nonsense. And I am just a no-nonsense kinda woman. I am a "go-getter" yet I am not one for all the "grasping".....I can "have" something in my OPEN palm and still feel secure. And I am in a place in my life where my perception of God might not be the exact same as yours. Because in my mind desire (while is nice when being fulfilled) is not good because when not fulfilled(a fact of life; not a negative here) leads to an awful lot of suffering. For me desire must be checked.....and then rechecked. And here's the weird part....I actually understand and welcome the suffering for I know it is part of life's lesson. It helps me truly appreciate the blessings when they DO come into my life (and that is quite often)...I DON'T believe we are promised ANYTHING..even our next breathe..(which is why I practice "embracing the now" and appreciating the "time-being"...trying to not get caught up in the past OR the future)..Again, balance is very important to me..(keeping my ambition in check as well...I know that sounds weird but work with me here....I am cramming ALOT of understanding into this relatively tiny space) This is me....NOT UP FOR DEBATE because it's already been a long, hard road for me to get to where I am spiritually; "starting over" in that sense is just not an option for me(if interested, I can discuss it away from this forum...but I am not in here trying to convert anyone....LOL) I respect and apprectiate everyones faith and all but AGAIN>>>>I REPEAT...EVERYONE IS NOT THE SAME. I do still love this though.....I like the fact that we are willing to stick our necks out for each other....but we must also remember to let each other be their individual and wonderful selves. LOL...In an "A-team" sort of fashion I see me as the stoic soldier (as Chatty put it....LOL), Legal as the inspirational preacher/guru, Chatty as the "LUV DOCTOR" and Beauty as the "bad a$$" that likes to stir the pot.....LMAO!!....but yes there is so much more to each of us. I still want to see us as a sisterhood....(man, the positive vibe was tremendous...it still moves me...lol) but individuals we all are.....dang there goes Yoda again.....time for bed....LOL. Peace and Blessing tatted2death
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LegalEaseII says:Posted: 09 Sep 08
One more thing, I should appologize for the typos but I am in a rush to get back to a meeting. Ugh!:( Also, I wanted to qualify one point, when I said to Tatted that everyone was physically on point. I meant that the other factors have a direct correlation to our healht. I know, I am still recovering from surgery. I know my illness was due in no small part to the amount of stress I was under. Not to be too way out there but, the sistuh's are right, we are whole beings and ALL of our psyche has to be embraced or we won't have the fullness of life that we were promised. Ok, I am really gone this time. Peace, Blessings & Love. LEII
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LegalEaseII says:Posted: 09 Sep 08
Hey All: I was ot of pocket all day. I have just been reading the posts. This is AWESOME. So much great advise from your sistuh's LOL!!! Yinnah is preachin' up in here. Tatted this is your time TO SHINE!!! Ths women are correct on all fronts, spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally. We were created for love but sometimes in the thick of being, sister, mother, daughter, and friend we forget to take care of ourselves in that way. I have learned to give me permission to let me be loved, love and most of all it is NORMAL to do so. I have ripped the "S" off of my chest and agreed to let someone walk with me in a special way. He is more than I could have asked for or imagined. You KNOW what I am talking about. All the positive energy in here for you, I pray gives you some hope, you too Beauty. If Write66 ain't waking up in the middled of the night with a sudden urge to get back to this site, then we need to start a prayer chain. LOL!! Beauty. Girl, I hear ya, the men are MIA. What coast are you on? Maybe it is an east coast thing. I wonder why they are not as affectionate here? I was speaking with a friend today and she is also considering coming to the blurry side of things. She is not 100% there but she will consider it now. She notices how WM look at her but they are too scared to approach. She iterpreted that as them being wierd for staring at her but I let her know that they may be intimidated. They know what codes and norms to expect from WW but they are out of their element with us. I told her to smile and acknowledge that she noticed them looking at her. Do you know she came back from lunch said she tried it on the way the the deli and a WM man wanted her phone number. She was stunned. LOL!!! See if you just open your eyes to the possiblities. There was a guy in here, Conald I believe his name was, he gave some great advise. If you get a chance, or if you remember, read his post, I found his perspective interesting. I always encourage women to folow their instincts, it is our first level of protection and yes, 54 may be too much. If older men are approaching you, why not, you may surprise yourself. Chatty Cupid: I like it!!! I appreciate your openness. I also like the way you describe things. The whole contrast image was a bit overwhelming, I had to splash some cold water on my face. LOL!!! Yuh in Bruklyn, eh? Alla righ' den, good. I want to see that movie with Sanaa lathan. I just have not gotten around to it yet. I know my people don't think they are alive unless they are commenting on your world. Bump the dumb stuff, girl go on wit yours. I wish we all have the experience you are having. Tell your sister I said Big Ups for her bold decision to be loved. No matter what the form he comes in, he is going to love you. That is all that matters. Like you said, in the middle of those cold nights, warm breath on your neck, arms enveloping you and soft sounds of breathing in your ears. Love it, did you ever consider writing IR romance novels? I would love to write one with someone, it would be a hoot. Learning: Girl maybe it was that the friend who taught the class picked up on his "flirting" with you and wanted to make sure his roving eye remained just that, a roving eye. You never know. I am sure once you move and settle yourself, you will find somene who is just for you, and will treat you right. For now, even in that city I there must be guys who post here who live there or close by, maybe you can do some research on this site to find out. You could test the waters there. Well its back to the salt mines. I hope you all had great days and I am looking forward to hearing all the good news. Keep blurring the color lines. LEII
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BeautyBeyondWords says:Posted: 08 Sep 08
Hey Ashley after you hook Tatted up.... See, what you can do for me Ms. Cupid... lol...lol.... Don't leave me out! :( lol.. Women bonding is good, but I like MEN! Where are all the sexy white men in here for tatted? and for me? Asley get on your hustle girl... All these inter-racial websites, girl you can hook it up right here! lol..lol... Well, I have to go workout. Aight ya'll.
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BeautyBeyondWords says:Posted: 08 Sep 08
Yello everyone.... I want some gumbo....lol... I agree with you Ashley.. Check Tatt.. She do sing the same ole' messed up love song quite often, huh? Yes, hook her up!!!!! Tatt... God gave us all a desire. AND someone to fulfill it, so stop speaking doubt over your life. We are only speaking blessings. If God can bless Ashleyn, he could do the same for us. I am single, but I believe God is able to do exceedingly and abundantly for me. Girl, God will do it for you,too. From the sound of it... You have some good things going for you. Sometime I think black women die lonely, because they limit themselves. You don't seem like a woman with limitations. The sky is the limit, boo! Legal in my neck of the woods they are very affectionate with each other. I have seen more BW/WM this summer than I have ever seen in my area. They were very affectionate with each other. I thought it was beautiful to see the color line coming down with BW/WM. Sometime white men are a little shy about approaching black women, but this summer, I've been approached on several occasions by white men. My only problem with them were they were older. For some odd reason, I have always attracted much older men. I am 31yrs old and men from all races who usually approach me are usually 40+. The last white guy was 58yrs old!!!! He looked good for his age, though. Wouldn't have thunk it, but I felt like he was married and stop dating him. He never admitted to it, but there were clues everywhere to me.
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tatted2death says:Posted: 08 Sep 08
Hey, AshleyNtat.....(nah....bump that; you are stuck with Chatty Cupid now!!!!LOL!!!!)...to think I was just about to go to bed myself....(night owls, we must be..dang I am tired; speaking like Yoda....LOL).....LOL. WOMAN!!!!!...between you and Legal, Write66 is going feel like he is being bounty hunted/tracked....LMAO!!!! I swear the four of us (BeautyBeyond, I didn't forget about you..lol)are going to have to start a club, go skiing/sky-diving, get our own talk/variety show on Comedy Central or something......channel all this energy to something creative/active....LOL. But don't get me wrong; I do appreciate the positive love vibes ya sending....REALLY....like I said before, not enough women look out for each other like that. And yeah I know I need to stop being so much of a "realist"....(peep that.....I am not "owning" being negative....just not in my nature....LOL). It's just that I don't do that type of thing everyday (putting out APB's on a man......LMAO....my silly self) and I really am not in "get-a-man" mode. But I guess being so much of a cheerleader for Legal and CJ kinda got the best of me....LOL. And then I see Write66 expressing himself the way he did (I saw his words before his pic even posted.....and whew..ok...I am saying too much here...LOL!) and the floodgates just flew open. And even if we aren't the ones for each other (the dern realist in me again...LOL) I am cool with just having this change of pace; for however long it lasts. Yet in all honesty, HAIL to the YEAH I'd like to get to know Write66.....if he is of a like mind, of course. ******Yeah that's right.....NO PRESSURE HERE AT ALL, BILL...I PROMISE!!!I'll admit to being a bit over-zealous but hey what's the alternative??? some aloof, stuck-up B.S. Sorry..that's just not me. And hey...it's your own fault for not having a searchable profile on this site...We could have avoided this whole sorted mess....LOL.****** But ummm "Chatty"......you need to seriously consider writing for Harlequin or something.....the way you describe umm certain scenarios is umm.....LMAO.....you get my drift!!! Ok...time to be tatted2bed...nighty night Peace and Blessings the bounty hunter....LMAO...geeeesh(Chatty, DON'T start using that one....mmmmkay?..I'm serious...lol)
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AshleynTat4prez says:Posted: 08 Sep 08
you know I started on here because of Tatted and Geneandthem/Ashley. Ash!!??Where the heck did you go, man? You just dropped off and left the ladies hanging. Some imposter (remember truth?that fool was nuts!) got to be talking some ridiculous racist,sexist crap for you to come to our rescue? okay, I'm tripping-just miss you man. ain't trying ta get cussed out-BUT HELL IF THAT"S WHAT IT TAKES....I ain't skerd!!! for real doh-I seriously need to get in the bed. Much love-chattycupid (kinda like it, don't you?)
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AshleynTat4prez says:Posted: 08 Sep 08
oh my. that was long. BTW-I ski too! Ya'll can always tell when I'm up waaaay past my bedtime...chatty cupid should be my name. Still want to see some gentlemen pipe up and weigh in on the question at hand....and a love connection or two wouldn't hurt (wink wink Tatted-looking out for my girl!) Mi goin an tek mi ass ta bed now, ya ear? ullya have a good night-much love
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AshleynTat4prez says:Posted: 08 Sep 08
Oh this is refreshing! Everyone here makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. I know I'm not a single looking for love but I feel welcome and support the notion of unconditional love and affection (for you can have one without the other. and that sucks!) To be honest I am a true romantic and the idea of a white man openly showing respect,trust,love,and affection and admiration for a sister is incredibly sexy to me. He is secure in his manhood and is not affected by what society would think in spite of the taboo. Learning:It makes you raise your brow to know someone would click like this with you-a man who you both probably thought you wouldn't have much in common only to discover you do. His being married makes me think this though:he's one of those white men who liked playing with the idea of something different and new (for him) thinking he's harmlessly flirting (in his own way) which would be harmless if he weren't married. The fact that he IS means he knows he missed his window to step outside the box and be brave like the fellas who seemed to have disappeared from this blog, incidently. (where the hell are you guys!?) He was playing it safe because he IS married and is doing just that-playing. I'm sure he's a nice guy but his wife would slap the shiznit out of him if she knew. For you though, this should open up your world and your mind to how easy it is to get to know someone who catches your eye-just be your beautiful, interesting self. Tatted! Girl! I am sending Write66 a telepathic message for you so ya'll (yes I said ya'll-from Brooklyn but raised in Texas-heehee) can get your gumbo on! And I don't expect to hear negative shyte from you like you guess you will always be single(yes I'm checking you like I know you!) If that is not what you want and you know you are destined to have true, mind blowing, head spinning love with nice strong forearms hovering over you in the wee hours of the night as you admire your brown ankles on his creamy or tanned-whichever you prefer-shoulders on a regular basis till death do you part, then damn it, claim it! I say this in love from my heart my sistah, in pure love ;-D Sorry, I'm just passionate-what can I say? BeautyBeyond thank you for your kind words and prayers. Don't get me wrong-sometimes my husband can be a PITA (pain in the ass) but I know I can be too. We fight but we work it out and look at the bigger picture. You can't fight today the way you fought 5 years ago. We all got growing up to do and it's part of the painful process of growing into one without losing yourself. Evolving and not accepting mediocrity in yourself or your partner can be serious work. But that's what it's about. He fits nicely into my world and I in his. Legal: You know, one of my favorite movies is the one with beautiful Sanaa Lathan all uptight and professional proper getting set up on a blind date by her white girlfriend/coworker. She assumed he was black and was shocked to find he wasn't. How many of you ladies saw that one? Anyway, I loved watching him love her and her give in to it and say to hell with everyone. You're right-me and my husband still get looks and stares and black folk think they are obligated to comment-not a shy group of people. Black women are like Sanaa's friends in that movie-some don't know what to think, some think I have abandoned the ship to the brothaland, and some are secretly fantasizing their damn selves! My sister is getting married next year to a six four, blue eyed, gorgeous white man who worships the ground she walks on. Before him she was one of the "hmmm, I wonder?" girls. My mother is about to have 2 white son-in-laws and our black friends and family are all like what the hell is up with her girls? Let me tell you what one girlfriend said today though-"I'm see I'm gonna have to stop tripping and check out the other side." She, like many black professional and unprofessional,eligible,beautiful,intelligent,independent women, is at a point in life where she is ready to settle down and build a life with someone who is not intimidated by her success and drive. As she watched my sister and her fiance' she saw a man who was not secretly ashamed,respected,completely adored and wanted to be with his woman. This really should get brothers thinking they need to step up their game because all we want is what every woman deserves-as the Lord said-to be treated as Christ treats the church:to be cherished and respected, adored and held up in reverence. When that happens, when a woman of any color is treated this way by any man she will openly and willingly stand by her man and build a world WITH NOT AROUND him. You hear me?! With him. Not around him. Don't get it twisted. See, black women in our 30's and 40's are sick of the games. We just want love...and a husband would be nice. It's nice to have someone to share your good days and crap days with...who will spoon with you at night(ooh and I must admit the dark skin/light skin contrast does something for me too)and breathe warm puffs of sleepy breath into the back of your neck, his knees nestled into the back of yours, his forearms wrapped tightly beneath your breasts, the heat from his body,his skin warming yours like the comfort and security of a babies favorite blanket... OH! Damn! Sorry ya'll I just miss my husband-but you know what I'm saying! My point is this:these eggs tend to gather dust after a while and we can't be tripping on something as insignificant (in the context of love) as color when love doesn't come in colors. My sister would have missed a blessing had she ignored this man who told me he can't stand being away from her and when they're apart all he can see is her. What??!! That's what I'm talking about ladies. I think I love the rebeliousness of it all...it's what great love stories are made of. Holla if ya hear me!!! (RIP Tupac :-D)
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tatted2death says:Posted: 08 Sep 08
ok....I have gotten control of my giggles and I am seriously and respectfully requesting that Write66 show his heart-warming smiling self back up in here. I mean, I thoroughly enjoy all this female-bonding and whatnot. But something is up....I have a strange craving for some GUMBO....lol. I can be a great taste-tester and I am honest to boot so there will be no handing the dog anything under the table....lol. So there it is.......(over the radio) an APB out on a Mr. Bill aka Write66.....there's a lady stuck in a blog wondering about his eligibility and she desires a swift response. If there is anyway to contact him away from the blog that info would also be greatly appreciated.....if anyone else knows his whereabouts please leave word here......Peace and OUT.
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Learning says:Posted: 08 Sep 08
I have been considering leaving once I complete school. I went back to earn another degree. I just wanted place myself in a better position to earn more money before I move. Thanks for the response. I took a real estate class last year and there was this nice looking white guy who I just simply clicked with and I know he felt the same. We talked so much to each other, we seemed to forget the rest of the class who would also be talking amongst themselves. The teacher once asked us if she was going to have to separate us. I thought this was kind of strange because we were never disruptive. We would only talk when everyone else were talking. They were friends and co-workers,go figure. They both were brokers and he was learning from her how to teach the class. I mean he was EXACTLY the type of white guy I would be interested in, but he was married. My session in the class was ending and I was discussing this with the instructor and telling her that I wanted to come back, when he suddenly blurted out that he wanted me to come back because he liked me, in front of everyone. He would wait outside class and make sure I got in my car safely. I still wonder how far it would have gone. Anyway, that's one of my experiences with white guys. Amateur HUH? LOL
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tatted2death says:Posted: 07 Sep 08
Oye, Rochi......Que Pasa, Chica!!!....glad to see you back in here....missed ya. I am good as can be and hope all is well with you. OH MAN....LEGAL.....I hear ya on the cattiness issue. I think women in general are pitted against one another in so many insidious ways....we definitely need to stop looking at each other as the competition/enemy. It's funny because you bring to mind I think the one and only white woman that ventured to post in here. She was a piece of work. I mean, she tried her best to be respectful and even gave some compliments but you could see through her like a pane of glass. She definitely had some issues surrounding the fact that her white man loved him (probably still does) some "brown sugar". Even the compliment she gave was paper-thin...the whole "confidence" thing. Yes, confidence is an admirable trait but wait...there is a flip-side to this. I have been privy to quite a few convos between white women when they think no "other" is listening. And basically, alot of these women view the "confidence" thing is something of a mask for all of "our" "short"-comings. It is seen as some sort of bravada (female-version....lol) to cover-up for the fact that we really are jealous of most white women and what they possess....this is what I have heard countless times. So whenever I get the "confidence" compliment I give this sort of look...8*/....like "ok...and what else....hmmm???". The stares I get regardless.....(I act like "hey I am a movie-star....dayummit...take a picture it'll last longer"..lol)...no matter who is next to me. As long as no one touches me or the gentleman I am with I am cool. I bascially just stare right back (I guess this also requires "confidence"....LOL)....not in a mean way; just a peaceful little cat-who-swallowed-the-canary look and they usually cease and desist shortly thereafter...Yeah, that or I get silly with it and just give them the cross-eyed look....LOL. Carry on dancing, people Peace and Blessings tatted2death
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LegalEaseII says:Posted: 07 Sep 08
Greetings All: I hope everyone is having a great week end. We have survived the hurly burly and drying out quite nicely. LOL!! Hey Tatted: Girl you started something up in here, up in here (channeling my inner Ashlyn)!!! Yes, it is a breath of fresh air and I am breathing deeply. What a great observation, I read back through the post and it is true the men are being more vulnerable in their responses. I like that because then we can shed some of the "guardedness" (I know, I like to make up my own words, LOL) and get down to some heartfelt discussion regarding BW/WM relations. For me, this is why I came to the sight. I want to hear from the men more about what their experiences have been when they dated BW, not just from the outside world, but from close family and friends. This makes a difference to me because these relationships can have such a dynamic impact on relationships. Maybe you can share how you dealth with those situations. If it did not work out well, what are some of the things you learned. I appreciate Ashlyn letting us take a look into her relationship with her hubby. I would like to hear more about these types of dynamics. RoChi: Good to hear from you. I trust you had a good time during your hiatus. I cut and paste your last post so that I do not leave anything out. LegalEase, you said you live in NY, right? It's cool that you're seeing a boom in BF/WM couples. Yes, NYC. You would think this would be the place where anything goes right, well let me tell you t'aint so!! There are lines here that people do not want crossed. A BM/WW combo does not draw any attention but BW/WM combos are turning heads. I do not want to give you the impression that the "knuckle head brigade" is not out in full force but at least here we are seeing more numbers, which is letting other sisters know that WM are out here and they are ready to court (LOL, tatted) you, openly sans "jungle fever" issues. I have a friend who is getting married next month to a WM and who gives her static? WW. It may be cattiness because we are "women of a certain age" and when the numbers of available WM of a certain age are dwindling, people get frantic. As for me, I understand because I know for a fact Afro sistuha's did it to WW when they dated BM. So, I believe it is partially an issue of availabillity of eligible men. When we have the chance, my bf and I are probably going to move (taking my advice to Learning) because this isn't exactly the best place to live as an interracial couple. Where are you? We went to another part of town to eat and it was horrible. It felt like everybody was staring at us and giving us mean looks.... They were! Girl, that is why when you step out with your vanilla-honey, you make sure you look F-A-B-U! There is NOTHING better than looking straight fine, it is like putting salt in the wound. LOL!!! YOu don't have to do it everytime, you unfortuately are going to have to get used to the attention. You are going to get those looks, I am sure Ashlyn can help with this issue, so make sure you are being observed on YOUR terms, this way, you are in control of the situation. Well my lovelies, I have to bounce. Take good care and let's continue to blurr the color lines out there. LOL!!
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RockerChick27 says:Posted: 07 Sep 08
Learning, I think you should consider relocating as well. If it's hard for you now where you live, it's only gonna get worse when you actually get involved with someone. Getting stares is weird enough when you're in a place that accepts interracialness. But it must make it that much worse in your situation. I assume that you're not living in a everything's perfect happy ending movie. That being said, the outside world CAN ruin a relationship. It's best to be on the safe-side ;) But you can still try it out there, I mean you never know. LegalEase, you said you live in NY, right? It's cool that you're seeing a boom in BF/WM couples. When we have the chance, my bf and I are probably going to move (taking my advice to Learning) because this isn't exactly the best place to live as an interracial couple. We went to another part of town to eat and it was horrible. It felt like everybody was staring at us and giving us mean looks.... I tell ya, I still hate using "interracial". I'll say again that it makes me feel like I'm dating another species. Like... we're SUPPOSED to be ridiculously different and can't make it 'cause we're too different. Hey tatted! How've you been since we last chatted? -RoChi
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tatted2death says:Posted: 07 Sep 08
I keep rereading the last few posts (by my new faves AshlyNTat and BeautyBeyond......what can I say; positivity is contagious AND addictive.....lol) What they express in their posts brings to mind one of my fave songs by Lamya called "empires"... "Bring me men....men to match my mountains....bring me men....men to match my plains"..... It's lyrics seem speak to the things we, as women of color, have been in need of for far too long.....partners who will love in support us through good and bad times. It is so refreshing and inspiring to witness women who have found their "Emperor". As for me, until mine has discovered himself, I will continue to be the "Empress" that IS me. You know, another thing I have observed. With the appearance of more positive and uplifting women here occuring here more often the quality of the male responses has gone up. I noticed that earlier on here the "locos" seemed to come out as there were (in my opinion) more women spouting "game"plans and other rhetoric. Here's to the playas and haters staying the hail away...lol Peace and Blessings tatted2death
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LegalEaseII says:Posted: 06 Sep 08
Hey All: Back for round two. Tatted: LOL!!! I feel ya', but gurl this is contageous. LOL!! Deep Cleansing Breath. Ok, I am centered again. I am grinning from ear to ear for ya and I am a chicken fryer, girl go get you some. LOL!!! Beauty: How are you? Yes, change is envitable and should be welcomed but unfortuantely, we fight it even if it will bring something better for you. I know for me, my family did not care who you brought home just as long as they were treated you well. One of my sisters married a WM and had my handsome, adorable nephew. It was a change for us but he treated her like gold. I know I said this earlier in the blog but I have always been approaced by WM but pushed them away to get to the brothers who pushed me away just as quickly. I have grown and am now open to someone who wants to be with me for me. It is an awesome feeling. As for the BW/WM syndrome, LOL!! It is an empidemic. My mother even noticed it and she never comments on that sort of thing. I am so happy to see it. It is refreshing to see sistuha's being happy and in love. I have to say, one thing about me is, I notice everything. I noticed that they are not as affectionate as other interracial couples. Have you noticed that in your neck of the woods? I mean I know they are together by their body language but they do not hold hands or walk arm-in-arm, nothing like that. Could it be because we are still timid about the union? I would just like some feed back from others on the blog. I see so many low hanging fruit on the proverbial tree go to waste becasue it is hard for them to find mates. I have Afro-girlfriends from all social stratas and 85% of them are single. Now I see they are shedding what ever they need to shed (me included) and are finding love and committment. Kudos to you and yours for being strong enough to endure. I am sure you both went through your share of drama. You sound like you have a strong relationship. Well again, sorry for the long post but well you know me, I am LegalEaseII. Peace and keep blurring the color lines people. LOL!! LEII
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BeautyBeyondWords says:Posted: 06 Sep 08
Thanks tatted.... Seem like you have what is going on in here.. up in here... up in here... Keep it up, girlfriend. Ya know legal.. I've been seeing an increase in my neck of the woods. It's been exciting to me. Nothing is more constant than change. I think people should be open to new things and changes... Even if you change your house around every six months. Change something. lol..lol... I am black woman and I love to ski. None of my black boyfriends ever considered going skiing with me. How do you know you don't like it? You never tried it... The only limits we have are the ones we put on ourselves.........
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tatted2death says:Posted: 06 Sep 08
lol...ok now Legal.....cool dem jets....LOL. I don't want to scare the man. And what did I say about those hatching chickens....lol Bill, I am glad my post brought a smile to your face (nice face....nice smile). And hey, as for the cooking, no biggie.....I am not that great myself....I suppose we could possibly burn some pots together...lol.....hope that wasn't too forward of me.....lol. (dang....I'm gigglin' like a school-girl...opps did I just type that...LOL) Peace and Blessings tatted2death (or aka T2D...trying to be like Legal....LOL)
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LegalEaseII says:Posted: 06 Sep 08
Hey Tatted: Gyal, where ya' been? It is good to have your spirit back in the place. I like the positive flow we have been getting and now am ready to get back to the topic at hand! The site was either down or was not responding to post for a while which is another reason I was on hiatus. I posted a topic for you and I could not get it to post. I HAVE heard from CJ and he told me he sent a post directly to you but he was not sure if it posted to your inbox on this site he said he sent you an email but I guess you did not get it either. I will ask him to check his in-box because he (as was I) was waiting to hear from you. Girl, it is on and poppin' LOL!! WE HAVE TO TALK!!! I guess you spoke too soon because I see Write66 is back in the saddle. LOL!! Tell a Sistuh what is good, LOL!!! It does not seem like either assumption is true because he's observing you, cooking AND thinking of you. Girl, get a bottle or wine and get moving. LOL!!! Welcome Back Write66: I agreee with you, you love who you love and that really is the end of it. All relationships succed or fail based on the strength of the people involved. I have noticed in my city an explosion of BW/WM couples. I mean everywhere I go, I see them. It is funny becasue they have ranged in ages from just out of college looking to well into their 60's, how funny is this. It's and epidemic I tell you. LOL. They even span the social stata. These couples are getting stares and comments because they are rare indeed but gaining in numbers. YEAH1!!! I was in one situation recently where I was on the train and on one side of the car were interracial couples, BW/WM, WW/BM, LW/Malaysian (or Phillipino) looking male and a WW/AM combo. On the other side of the train it looked like Norway. Too funny, everyone who go on the train looked positively perplexed upon entering and ran to the Norway side of the car. It was hysterical. Welcome Learning: I have friends who live in the south and they are a BW/W-AM couple. They are originally from the north and have had some "interesting" experiences. If you are interested in dating out of your race, I think this site is a good place to start. You can anonomously investigate who in your neck of the woods is interested in dating outside of the color lines. So many people on this blog have given some great posts about their situation and I am sure would give you great advise if you had a specific question. Like for instance, how do you know if somone outside of your color line is interested in you? Where do you go to meet people in your area with the same intersts. Things like that may help you in your quest to find "Mr. Right". Are you willng to relocate if your area is does not accomodate your belief system? I wish you the best in your quest to blurr the color lines. LOL!! Well all, I have to boggie. Sorry for the long post but I am so happy to have the site back up and be in touch again. Remeber, blurr the color lines. LOL!!! Blessings to All. LEII
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write66 says:Posted: 06 Sep 08Hi all, Wow...sorry I've been away for a while! Tatted, wanted to tell you your response did bring a big smile to my face. Haven't been trying too hard on the cookin' lately as I'm balancing school, teaching and just life in general. I've been following the thread through email during the past couple weeks, and I too am heartened by the more positive vibe (groovy, huh?). I've seen enough subtle, and not-so-subtle reactions to interracial relationships during the past two decades that I have been blessed to experience my own relationships. Yes, blessed. They weren't perfect, as we aren't perfect. But it taught me one immoveable fact...no matter what other people think, say or act, we will always love who we love. Even if we can't cook...it's better when we try though. For the record Tatted -- threw together some rice, diced tomatoes with peppers, spices, and sausage. Call it gumbo I guess. It rocked. I'll keep trying. Take care and be blessed! Bill
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tatted2death says:Posted: 06 Sep 08
Welcome back, LegaleaseII .....as for write66.....he's missing in action.....lol. Maybe I was a lil too forward.....oh well.....or maybe not his type.....wouldn't surprise me either way....that why I am (and probably will remain) HAPPILY SINGLE....lol. I am just here to observe for the most part and maybe someone will "observe" me.....but I am not holding my breathe on that one. I just like to see what others think and feel on this issue. I think everyone's viewpoint provides an opportunity to learn something. BTW....heard from CJ....I sent him a message that I wanted him to forward to you. Peace and Blessings tatted2death
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Learning says:Posted: 06 Sep 08
Hello everyone I found this discussion because I have been interested in whitemen for a long time. I am a southerner and unfortunately been accustomed to a racially divided city. No, there are not anymore segregated water fountains, but there is a visible division in my city.One side of town is actually described as the "white side" and the "black side". I think it is sad. My city and state are historically rooted in racial issues. Having been exposed to this all my life, I really want to venture out and act on my natural desires to get involved. I am not one who actively seeks to date only white men, to each his own, but I will not exlude any race. After all, it is about connection. Can anyone give me advice?
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LegalEaseII says:Posted: 05 Sep 08
Greeting Everyone: I trust all had great vacations and restful hiatus' over the recent past. Summer is fading but lets see if we can keep the heat up on the blog. Hey Tatted: So good to see your posts again. I agree that the air is DEFINITELY more calm in here since our last round of coversations. I hope you have been uplifted and in good spirits. BTW, did you ever hear anything further from Write66? LOL!! I can see from reading the new posts, people are back to the topic at hand and offering some refreshing and welcome comments. Ashlyn: You are too real for the people. LOL!! Your relationship with your husband seems like something to work towards. I am happy that you both fit so well in each other's world. I think it can be so harmful to any relationship to have family, close friends, not to mention perfect strangers interfere in your relationship. The dirty looks, the rude comments under their breath, just disturbing. It is nice to see that you, your husband and your precious daughter have a protective place to go to. Beauty Beyond Words: YES, YES, YES, the contrast is so sensual. I love seeing the difference in skin tones. It is so amazing to watch. As for the "slave thing", well you just work that out with your man, LOL!!! Well everyone, have an AWESOME week end and remember keep blurring the color line. LOL!! Much love to all. LEII
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tatted2death says:Posted: 05 Sep 08
personally I am soooooo glad to see the tone of this blog change......thanks AshleyTat4Prez and BeautyBeyondWords.....in my book, a little positivity goes a LONG way Peace and Blessings tatted2death
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BeautyBeyondWords says:Posted: 04 Sep 08
Ahhhh... Asley that was beautiful. That is how love should be. Continue to love him and appreciate him. One thing about a man, they love to feel like they are the man. They love security in their women. When I am dating, I love to cater and be catered to. If I get home from work first... I'll have his bath water running and his dinner (hot) and on the table. He'll be always greeted with a smile and a kiss. I never work against him, but always for him. To me.. Life is too short to be unhappy with anyone. I like to live, eat and be merry. Be that girl... Let him know that you are in it, till death. No one is perfect, but even when things are indifferent- Never go to bed angry with each other. Bedtime talk have always been the best talk to me. I'll keep you and your family in prayer... A family that prays together will stay together. :)
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bobby says:Posted: 04 Sep 08
Yes i believe,love is meant for the brave and courageous.If you limit your self to dating a particular race or loving a particular race,trust me your relation is definitely limited.Indian,caribean,African,Caucasian,albinos we are all human,the giver of love,Jesus christ didnt make any limitations or bounderies for love,so i say to evry brave heart,love a human being.If you find happiness with someone,stick to that person,as for me as long as there are no cultural repercautions and i feel that passion for a lady i am in for her.But becuse of our upbringing,we might have different interpretations of love or romance.The ideal relation interpretes love in same conotation;what ever the interpretation, as long as the two parties are in accordance where is the big deal..
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AshleynTat4prez says:Posted: 04 Sep 08
You know, one thing I'm hearing from the the sincere men here like Ashley,write66, smileky are the things I've observed in my husband. He lovesthe sisterhood between me and my sisters-he is their brother. He is my brother's best friend. But most of all...he absolutely,uconditionally loves my mother. He feels as close to her as my own brother feels to her. And I believe the secure feeling he has with her he has with me. I am realizing this as I read these posts. For the first time in our 15 year marriage. I am real with him-I don't bite my tongue. He knows I love hime deeply amd completely. He relys on me to have his back and always be there for him. He knows I am committed to him and he is truly comforted by my words and my arms around him. He trusts me and loves me completely. Money is never an issue or arguement. He takes care of me and our daughter without any hen pecking from me or arguement. Since he got home from Iraq he has been different but he knows I am here and won't go anywhere. He seems happiest when we talk about us and our little diva. She is really amazing,beautiful,wonderful. She is equal parts me, him, and her own precious self. When I see my husband I see a beautiful man and the love of my life. Not what color he is. It is complexed and perfect simple love at the same time.
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AshleynTat4prez says:Posted: 01 Sep 08
I have been up too long reading this entire damn thing! It's 4am and my 3 yr old will be waking up as soon as my head hits the pillow but DAMN this has been entertaining! First I want to say I am a black woman married to a white man for 15 yrs (if he were here I wouldn't be tapping keys now-military man overseas. He was the man I happened to fall in love with. He didn't date any one race before me and I didn't date white men before him. We just happened. Ashley, he is alot like you...free thinking, speaking, acting and leans toward truth and has no tolerance for blatant ignorance and stupidity. Like you he is hilareous in giving a piece of his mind and in his expression in general. As I've seen others comment on you, he's very passionate about what he feels. I know this ain't the geneanddem(yes I said "dem" damnit!) show but damn I love to hear what you have to say. Nothing is better than honesty and comedy. And I love that you love me...the black woman that is...just...because you do. Tat is a soldier who speaks my mind. Yes you do. You say what I have said over the last 15 years. I don't ever justify my love to anyone. Why should I? I know why my husband loves me. He has since he was 14yrs old (I didn't have a clue since I was 4yrs.older and grown-okay-thought I was). We don't have to justify love or break it down. It just is. And you can miss a hell of a blessing if you listen to other people, perpatrate a fraud, spit game, or live inside the box. Peace and blessings to all and good morning as I take my ass to bed.
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Member says:Posted: 31 Aug 08
I go gaga over a black woman thats personable, and likes to talk and be held, and i totally go crzy over that pretty black skin that they have, and i like thier manners alot better than whites, not condemming white womnan as i like them too but the black woman has something that white woman dont have or dont care about, and the fact that alot of them are really interested in what you say rather than just BSing you like alot of white woman ive seen, Ive never made love to a black woman, but i fantasized about it alot, and i know they are alot more sensual than alot of caucasian ones ive seen out there, I stared at halle barry and the girl in independance day and i couldnt take my eyes off them, i wanted to just touch and hold and kiss and love the one in independance day, ohhh was she soooo hot ummmm hunyyyy, I see a geniuneness in black woman that i dont see in caucasian woman either, and that makes me wanna grab them and just smell and touch and make love to them all over, i feel like thier like sweet tasting candy or sweet tasting chocolate, the more i get of them the more i want,
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BeautyBeyondWords says:Posted: 31 Aug 08
By the way... I've got Jungle Fever... I've got Jungle Fever...lol... Why do I have Jungle Fever? There are a lot of attractive white men out here, but I am mostly attracted to the commitment that more white men have for their families, than I think black men have. I like intriguing conversations. I like the security that white men give. White men caters to their black queens. I will admit, though. I don't want to come off, as a freak; although, what I am about to say is freaky... But, I love the contrast in the color of our skin tones. It turns me on thinking that I am a runaway slave.. being captured and punished by my white slave owner. Is that crazy or what? I know. I may need a little help. lol...lol... There were a lot of good comments posted and people have so much to say about race. But to be honest, it's not important. Love is colorless. I have seen the same type of people in every race. Same trait, different holder. We all bleed. We all have different things to overcome in life, I don't care what color you are. What one race can get, the other one can too. The differences are usually based on our first school... Home. How we were raised... where we were raised... what happened when we were raised... what we were taught, when being raised... I usually make the joke about black men and white men. And it is.. Black men will kill you by harassing you all the time. Questioning your every move. Physically abuse you (oftentimes), disrespect you in every sense of the meaning and in other words - kill you slowly. A white man will love you and bring you flowers everyday. Yet... He'll get fired from his job and come home and kill the whole family. I hope its not offensive to anyone, but the meaning is we all have our issues in each race... Lets work through it and move forward. If I like you and you like me.... Who cares about anything else? Right?
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BeautyBeyondWords says:Posted: 31 Aug 08
I find this discussion very interesting. I am beauty African American Woman and I love men of all nationalities and cultures. Lately, I found myself so attracted to white men, it's unreal! I've been back and forth in inter-racial dating, but I have never found so much love, protection, stability,respect and other qualities, like I have from white men. I meet white men all the time, who seem to have the same problems that I do... Who is going to make the first move? I am so old school. I feel like men should initiate the first date and I can take it from there. Most white men are scared of rejection from black women. White men seem to respond more to the qualities that I possess more than any other racial group. They seem to appreciate me more. In my earlier years, I have allowed color to separate, what could have been the best men in my life. I have learned that I want the "Better Man" and it may not always be the black men. I am 31 and I still believe in family! What happened to families sitting down together for dinner? or faithful marriages? What happened to men being the Head of their homes and having enough vision to leave an inheritance for their children's children? God created me to be the helpmate and I am there to help in any way I can. lol... White men don't be afraid of what the "jones" say. Find who you love and who loves you. There are some really good black women out here, who will love you better than you could ever imagine. As a black women, I think we should begin to consider the better man and not just the black man. We should begin to love ourselves and stop allowing society and black men to cage us in a box. Black men are the first to frown at me, when I was dating primarily white men... but yet they are the least faithful to their own culture of women and most disrespectful. I have chosen to love, who love me.
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shonnda says:Posted: 26 Aug 08
I just want to say that I have read everyones blog and no matter what he or she says we all have one thing in comman we are open-minded people who are some what in a interracial situation cause we chose to date a different races. I enjoyed everyone point of view have a good day.
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Alright now... Tatted. Did I kick up some more dust? Man, I am starting to stay in trouble. Don't locate me on radar, girl. You are going to make me start practicing them Bruce Lee tapes. lol..lol.. You do bring good things to the table. I like your passion and you keep it. On some issues, I don't feel as strong, as you do. But, it is well respected! Everyone's opinion good, bad, or crazy is important. I enjoy others views, whether I agree with them or not. A person's mind usually operates in their own comfort zone from past experiences.... the way they were raised... the way their parents thought... etc.. I enjoy other people's views outside of my zone. Sterotypes are not true. Based on what???? Racism is taught and learned. Because I am black, does that mean I can dance? Because you are white,does that mean you can't? Says who? I stole the cookie from the cookie jar,is it because I am black? And does that mean, all black people steal? NO! I mean... come on! That is nonsense. Is it true that white people stink like wet dog? NO! Which is the stereotype that I have always heard about white people... Is that true? It wasn't true with the white men, I've dated. I have yet to find truth in either one. I mean stereotypes are made up lies and it may apply to an individual, but shouldn't be an overview of an entire group of people.